about car parking(52 Posts)
I probably am and if the mn jury says I am I promise to listen and move it.
We live in a row of terraces there are 3 houses
Our house-middle house-end house
It's a main road and parking is limited, the end house has a driveway with space for 2 cars and they have 1 car. Me, dp and the couple next door
they have a car each share the 2 spaces at the front of the house, whoever gets home first parks there, this is fine as the other 2 park elsewhere. Anyway the man who lives at the end can be difficult and if he decides we have done something wrong, can be anything from dsc making a noise in the garden to next door hovering on Sunday mornings, he will park his car in one of the spaces sometimes in the middle of the spaces so none of us can park there. This has gone on for 2 years.
It's all very petty and for the most part I ignore him, but he's really annoyed me this time and I'm afraid I'm being as childish as him
I have a 4x4 and because I know if I park outside the house the neighbour on the end has trouble reversing off of his drive
he won't reverse onto it I rarely park there and have an arrangement with the pub across the road to park in their car park, but last week I had a bootfull of shopping so parked outside his house in one of the spaces to unload the space outside my/middle house was taken I put the shopping away and then had to go and lay down because I had a migraine. About an hour later the man at the end knocked on the door and demanded that I moved my car from outside his house, dp explained that I'd gone to lay down and he couldn't move it because he has a back injury and can't drive, this caused a major rant from neighbour but he left, my migraine turned into some kind of virusy thing which meant I was laid up in bed for 4 days so the car stayed where it was with neighbour knocking on the door everyday demanding I move it and dp explaining I was ill, on Thursday I was better and was back at work but I used dp's car instead of mine because I needed to take it to get new tyres, I fully intended to move my car when I got home but didn't get in until after 9 and decided to wait until I went out the next morning. On Saturday my grandad was rushed to hospital and my mum picked me up so we could go together to see him in the early hours, she dropped me home at 2pm, neighbour was outside his house but turned his back on me so I went indoors, 5mins later he knocks and asks dp if he could make me move my car, dp said he would ask me and neighbour says "don't ask tell her what are you a man or a mouse" and went back into his own house, now I admit it was petty of me but after that I refused to move it, it is 100% legally parked, not blocking anyone in and is taxed.
I've just had a phone call from the man next door who has been asked by other neighbour to ask me to move my car, he says he isn't bothered that it's parked there but found it funny that he had asked him so was passing it on.
So despite the fact that he could have at any point knocked on the door in the past 3 days or spoken to me when I saw him outside he has chosen to go through dp and now the man next door who he doesn't even get on with.
Dp says I should just move it for the sake of neighborly relations and I say I'm not moving it till he asks ME the person who actually owns the car,I know full well it's because I'm a women as hehas
Argh wasn't ready to post....
He has form for being sexist.
So mn jury tell me straight should I move it when I get home or leave it till wed when I will be using it again?
I already now I'm being petty and childish but his attitude has really wound me up
Legally you're allowed to park there so move it when you want.
But yes, the whole thing sounds extremely petty and childish
And let's face it, even with migraine you could have moved it if you wanted to.
I am afraid I would be as petty as you.
People get away with being like your neighbour because others respond to unreasonable arseishness with forelock tugging, in the name of being 'reasonable' or 'rising above it'. Well not me and I recommend not you either because all it gets you is footprints on your forehead from where they wiped their feet all over you!
I would tell the neighbour that if this other guy wants to come and ask you to move your car, you will move it, providing he is polite about it, considering it's a public road and he has no legal grounds for even asking.
Bugger neighbourly relations. He's not fussed about them, is he? Or he wouldn't be a twat.
Difficult to say. I'm still trying to make sense of your OP esp the bits with the strike-through.
If it's parked legally then YANBU, but, if you are not moving it "till he asks you" then YABU.
He's already been at your door, how many times?
He probably doesn't believe that you have ill etc and TBH I probably wouldn't either, I would think you are just being awkward.
Saying that though, if your car isn't causing him any problems then he is BU.
If its taxed and insured you can park it where you like providing there are no restrictions on the road.
Personally because of his 'harassment' I'd leave it there for as long as I could.
Worraliberty, not sure if you have ever suffered with severe migraine but moving a car isn't something I'd be capable of when I get one. Visual disturbances and vomiting are not unusual at all and would make driving quite dangerous.
He wants your DP to "tell" you to move your legally parked car?! lmao
Petty, schmetty! I'd leave it there.
I couldn't of moved it with a migraine they come on suddenly and everything goes blurry that's the one thing I was not being petty about I could not of safely moved the car and for the next 4 days I couldn't even get out of bed dp had to call the emergency Dr out and I nearly ended up in hospital. It's everything since I got better that is when I became as childish and petty as him which I admit for the past 2 years I've ignored both sets of neighbours and dp with this stupid parking thing and now I'm as bad as them
yeah but she managed to unload the car and put the shopping away before having to go an lie down.
It makes me wonder if she would have quickly moved the car if she happened to like the her neighbour.
Oh well if you're enjoying being petty and childish, I'm not sure what else to say.
You sound as bad as each other.
Sorry but I think YABU. Yes hes a petty sexist pig. But why stoop to his level?
You could have taken a few mins and moved the car, even with a migraine, even at 9pm after a days work, even though your relative was in hospital. Those are pretty lame excuses tbh.
You had the moral high ground all this time and now you are just as bad as him.
Worraliberty, I've found in the past that doing things like unloading a car can trigger them.
We recently bought DS's a bed and dragging it in the house from the van triggered a severe migraine, I had to lie down for hours after as it really knocked me. I think dehydration can be a factor - you are busy, not necessarily as hydrated as you should be and then you exert yourself. Never pleasant things.
It's the attitude he has of asking the men to make the little lady move her car that's the problem Im quite happy parking in the pub like I have done since we moved in!
He's the reason the last people who lived in our house moved
The migraine came on after I unloaded the car I was fine until the last shopping bag then I vomited and had blurry vision, they really do come on that quickly
Why should she move the car? It's parked legally and she chose to park there, his wishes don't trump hers
I wouldn't have moved it either op
Worra, you have obviously never had a migraine!!! They can come on within seconds and can last ages, and the OP has stated how she then became very ill with a virus.
It does all sound a little petty but tbh if I was you, I'd be doing exactly the same!!! Although it scarily reminds me of a neighbour we once had when I was younger, his "petty" ways got so out of hand he pissed in my mums car. Yep, you read it right.
But she has knowingly caused this neighbour difficulty in getting out of his drive. What if he had an accident because of where she parked?
Maybe legally she is ok, but that doesnt mean its morally ok.
I just cannot understand the mentality of people who want to be petty. Rise above it.
wannabedomesticgoddess your right I could have moved it at 9pm but decided that since it wasn't blocking his drive and I was using it first thing in the morning to go to the stables I would leave it, I wasn't trying to be difficult I was just tired. I then ended up in a&e with my grandad at 4am and when I'd got back at 2 had actually walked in and said to dp "I'm going to the toilet then I'll move the car" when I came out of the toilet I overheard his comment about telling me and that's when I started being petty.
Point made though I knew it was petty so I will move the car when I get home
Sod petty and sod the neighbour. If it's legal and above board, leave it there as long as YOU like.
I've no doubt you'll have an excuse but why couldn't your husband move it? On the other hand if you weren't blocking his drive (slightly confused) then you are entitled to park there but I'd dump the PA crap and tell him where to get off.
I am struggling to understand the parking issue <thick>.
Can I just add that my car being there doesn't make it anymore difficult for him than if it was anyone else's because of the layout of the road, he can see the traffic lights so knows when the road is clear, when he first started being funny about parking he had a row with next door and blamed it on my car being there so he had parked there to teach us a lesson, I then stopped parking there to avoid any problems but he just found more reasons to be difficult.
Until last week I haven't parked there in at least 18mths
No don't move the car.
Well tbh I think in the time it's taken you to type all this, you might as well have moved your car and got on with your life. If he's an arse, you making a point may not really help matters.
I said in my op that dp has a back injury, he hasn't even been able to get in a car since Jan never mind drive one, the only reason he's able to answer the door is because it comes straight into the lounge so he only has to shuffle from sofa to door.
If your parked legally then I would leave your car there for as long as you need. Your neighbour is the only one being unreasonable, how dare he ask you to move it in the first place!
Sorry but pandering to people like this only gives them the impression that they are being reasonable in their ridiculous demands. If you're legally parked and not impeding his access to his drive in any way then I see no reason why you should move your car ever if it doesn't suit you to do so.
This is the layout of houses and parking
End house |
Middle |2 parking spaces
my house |
I'm not blocking him in the problem he has is that he refuses to reverse onto his drive and then struggles to reverse out onto a main road, my car doesn't make that anymore difficult than any of the other cars being there, he's wife who does reverse onto the drive doesn't have any problems
The lines moved, basically the spaces start half way in front of his house to the end of my house so enough space for 2 cars parked 1 in front of the other, well away from his drive
I would pop round and ask his wife if she would mind "parking/getting off the drive" her "little mans" car as he is obviously not as able a driver as you two women.
You could recommend him parking lessons with a local driving school if he struggles to park, you know, just being neighbourly and all.
It is petty, but so what? He's being an arse for the sake of being an arse and two can play at that game!
I would leave it there till you are ready to move it, and if he actually decides to speak to you about it, you can innocently ask him why it bothers him so much what with it being public property?
Also, not fair to say a migraine is not too bad to move a car. I get visual auras with mine, it would be dangerous for me to move a car, even a few feet. And yes, they do go from 0-60 in regards to how quickly and how bad they can be.
My migraines are bad enough not to move a car, I lose sight of the left hand side and can't judge depth so even if its just moving it you could still hit a cyclist / person and kill them.
Back to the original question, move it when your ready, cheeky bugger!
I think you've had a bit of a hard time here OP!
I'd leave the car for now - he sounds like a sexist idiot, who can't drive to boot! Everyone knows that you should reverse into your drive and then drive off into the main road with full visibility if that's what the road layout demands.
It sounds to me like he's crossed the line between being a bit dotty and harassment. I'd be having a word with the local PCSOs. You were ill, your car was parked perfectly legally and he has a driveway to use so isn't impacted by this at all. Knocking at your door and then trying to involve other neighbours is just crazy.
Forgot to add - my migraines have been bad enough not to drive too so completely understand where you're coming from there.
Don't move the car at all until you were going to anyway.
This man clearly needs an issue to spend his time worrying about, and it would be unfair to deny his tiny mind it's only source of stimulation.
YANBU go for full petty and don't move it until you need to. I love peeing stupid people off just for the laugh.
I had a great petty parking dispute with our previous next door neighbours. We have one car drives out the front and then allocated spaces round the corner so 2 spaces altogether. We have 2 cars and they had a car and the DH's workvan. There is a single car layby right by their house and a 3 car layby across the road (allocated spaces are under trees so cars get covered in sap and bird poo). If the single space was free I would park in it as it was on our side of the road. But she hated it. She'd purposely park in the space and even if her DH didn't bring home his workvan leaving their drive free overnight she would have the space just for the sake of it. As i don't use my car much i'd get it in the space as much as possible just to piss her off. Didn't actually bother me where I parked. Now she's moved it's actually an unwritten rule that it's my space lol.
Oh and BTW there is no way i could drive a car with a migraine. I get very light sensitive and have to hide under a duvet.
OP tomorrow you will be on here complaining someone let your tyres down overnight. You will need another lie down then.
I think I'd knock on his door and say you'll move your car when he apologises for calling your DH a mouse!
after 2 years of him punishing you and other neighbor for petty infringes in his opinion with the parking over 2 spaces I would say fuck him - and I would happily tell him to his face. However, that way a quiet life does not lie
The car has been moved.
I knocked on his door and said I understood he wanted to talk to me, he said no he didnt need to talk to me as he had talked to dp and neighbour, I asked what the problem was and he said my car was in front of his house, I agreed it was and asked why it was causing a problem since it wasn't blocking his drive or causing a hazard to other cars and he just kept saying it's in front of my house, I did apologise for the fact that it hasn't moved for a week but explained I had been ill and then moved it forward to the space in front of my house which is no where near his drive and because the road curves slightly he can see around it easily but he wasn't happy with this and started yelling he then told dp that he needed to make me move it again and when I pointed out calmly that dp can't make me do anything he told dp that he should teach me my place and keep me under control.
I asked him why exactly my car being parked outside my house was a problem and his reply was to scream in my face that it doesn't matter why it is because he says it is and I should move it, at this point I came into the house and left him to it.
I've just heard him shouting at the lady next door for parking her fiesta outside his house
He sounds vile!!! What type of property are you and him in? Owned, rent, council?
I think you should contact the police at some point for some advice, hopefully they will agree to contact him and explain he has no right to decide who parks where and that his threatening behaviour is not acceptable.
We both rent, middle house owns.
We actually have the same letting agents but different landlords, the letting agents are great and have spoken to him before which calmed him down for awhile but he always starts again.
Hahaha! Sorry! Your lovely lady neighbour then asked her fiesta in the same spot. That did make me chortle
Saying that, he's an arse. Any point in having a word with the letting agency again over attitude and the way he spoke? He could claim that the situation dagged for a week, six of one etc but I really do feel sorry for his wife because he probably sits at home and rants about parking.
Well if neither of you are allowed to park there then who the hell is?? ffs! Twat!
Middle house has called the police beforeand reported him for intimidating lovely lady next door (llnd)
llnd had parked in the space outside his house and he stood in front of her front door and refused to let her into her house until she moved the car.
Yeah complain to the letting agent!
The neighbour the other way is the mil of the letting agent so even if he claimed it had been parked there for longer I could easily prove it hadn't
I would park it there every fucking day from now on.
In fact I'm sure I learnt on here that legally, you can block someone out of their own driveway but not in it iyswim.
Actually, I think parking it on his fucking face would be the best option.
Either way I would make his life hell from now on.
Absolutely talk to the letting agent!
And I think you should contact the police about his threatening behaviour, even if you didn't feel particularly threatened, someone else could have easily felt threatened.
I would leave it there until he asked me in person to move it. Regardless of being petty I wouldn't stand for that sort of sexist bollocks from anyone!
Don't you need a skip anytime soon? You could arrange for the council to block off that space for a few weeks, for you to park your skip in!!!
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