AIBU to not understand the concept of tea in bed?

(134 Posts)
ChangeyMcName Mon 20-May-13 00:33:58

I've read many comments on this site about DHs bringing DWs tea in bed on a daily basis. Are people's lives actually like that? Every day?
Feel a bit hmm . We have to take turns.
AIB selfish to wish I experienced the joy of waking up to a cup of tea like so many of you seem to?
Or is this actually a myth and everyone has to make their own tea really?

(may be overthinking a tad)

RiotsNotDiets Mon 20-May-13 00:36:16

Oooh I'd love someone to bring me a cuppa in bed on a morning.
I'd revoke my man ban if I knew I'd get that.

MumfordandDaughter Mon 20-May-13 00:41:53

Just me and dd here, so no tea in bed for us. However, she attempted to do the breakfast in bed thing last Mother's day. I ended up with a toothbrush, a piece of bread covered in salt/talc, and a cup of water i'm sure she dished from the toilet. Oh, all delivered to me on a bath mat.

Put me off tea in bed for life, tbh. Especially since i had to 'eat it all up' for her.

colleysmill Mon 20-May-13 00:42:41

Mon - Fri dh brings me a cuppa - drunk in bed or whilst getting ready for work
Weekends I take him one and ds (his important job bless him) is in charge.of biscuit carrying.

Works for us smile

I remember when dp and i liked each other enough to do things like that sad it was lovely. Not now though, we seem to try and spend as much time away from each other as possible.

janji Mon 20-May-13 00:59:48

I am o e if those annoying people who gets tea in bed every morning (been with dh for 19 yrs and believe me it's not all hearts and lowers stuff but he always does this)!

pollywollydoodle Mon 20-May-13 01:00:49

Dh brings me tea except for sat/sun mornings when he's been to the pub and has a lie in
i'm worth itwink

SwedishEdith Mon 20-May-13 01:04:14

I get one at weekends. He just gets up earlier and is making tea anyway. I never get up first...

grin @ Mumford's "breakfast" - how sweet

Kewcumber Mon 20-May-13 01:04:54

mumford - ds is now 7.5 and he brings me tea and toast in bed a couple of times a week, so it does get better!

rt01268 Mon 20-May-13 01:11:30

Yus, I do get brought tea in bed every morning, which is amazing smile The only problem is, whenever we have an argument he goes into one about it :/ So each time I tell him that I will get a kettle in my bedroom (We live in a four storey house and its far too much effort to walk downstairs lol).

purpleballoon Mon 20-May-13 01:12:38

I wouldn't be happy if DH did this, hate the idea of food/drink in the bedrooms. I don't have tea in the mornings either, it takes me ages to drink a mug as I can't drink it too hot.

He makes a hot breakfast at weekends but drags me out of bed at the ungodly hour of 10.30 to eat it at the table, like a civilised person.

Nagoo Mon 20-May-13 01:15:22

Yes mon-fri as he gets up before me. Unless he's in a rush when it will be on the kitchen work top smile

Apileofballyhoo Mon 20-May-13 01:15:51

At weekend sometimes.

Still18atheart Mon 20-May-13 01:15:59

Bit off topic but relevant

Do those tea maid machines still exist. Remember my dgps having one. It was an alarm clock which when at the right time started to boil the little kettle and like a special holder to place the cups. I think it thought it was the height of 70s gadgetry

MumfordandDaughter Mon 20-May-13 01:26:54

Thanks, Kewcumber. Only another 2 years left then of toothbrushes and toilet water.

Alas, Still18, they do... and i've just put one on my Christmas list

SomethingOnce Mon 20-May-13 01:34:51

Yes, but the milk is still an issue with tea makers (unless you take it black).

A trip to the fridge ruins it.

ClocksInALine Mon 20-May-13 01:40:15

I just made toast and tea becasue of this thread

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 01:41:06

Weekends for me, though he does get out of bed almost an hour earlier then he needs to through the week to make me a coffee to have in the car.

My DH is excellent.

ClocksInALine Mon 20-May-13 01:41:26

what about that carton milk? That is ok in tea sometimes.

DoJo Mon 20-May-13 01:44:44

I used to make my husband breakfast in bed (coffee, juice, toast) every week day for years until he went part time and didn't need to get up early any more.

RiotsNotDiets Mon 20-May-13 01:45:39

ohh mumford that is adorable!

re milk, what about those little pot/sachet thingys you get in hotel rooms? surely you can buy them in bulk somewhere?

mrsdinklage Mon 20-May-13 01:46:25

My dh does bring me tea in bed every morning, but he is a lark and I'm an owl - and he does no housework .............
so its his way of compensating for all the other stuff he doesn't do confusedsmilehmm

SomethingOnce Mon 20-May-13 01:47:47

UHT milk... pfft!

I dream of a tea maker with integral small fridge.

RiotsNotDiets Mon 20-May-13 01:52:43

The fridge would hum though. I'd never get any sleep

pollywollydoodle Mon 20-May-13 01:54:56

small thermos ?

SomethingOnce Mon 20-May-13 01:59:30

That would work!

Oh dear, I thought I'd got over my tea maker desire but it's gonna be on my Christmas list!

StuntGirl Mon 20-May-13 02:01:21

I make my partner a cup of tea at weekends if I'm up before him. I don't drink tea so I don't get one, although I do sometimes get hot chocolates when its cold and snowy out!

Whoever gets up first at weekends makes breakfast in bed for the other too.

vvviola Mon 20-May-13 02:15:03

I rarely get tea in bed, although at weekends I often get hollered at woken up with the news that tea (and sometimes cooked breakfast) is ready.

My Dad made tea for Mum every morning before he went to work until we were old enough to take over. Once we left home, Dad took over again and even invested in a thermos teapot to ensure it was hot enough for her when he was going to work early. Now that he's retired & Mum still works 2 days a week he still gets up before her (at some ungodly hour) to make tea and see her off to work, before he goes back to bed. I think it's incredibly sweet blush

HadALittleFaithBaby Mon 20-May-13 02:57:09

We have a teasmaid and it comes with a thermos for the milk. Nothing quite as good as stirring to hear a machine making your cuppa for you! smile

Am going to go make some tea and bring back to bed right now. Will be able to stuff 2 shredded wheat in whilst waiting for kettle to boil and hopefully then will sleep.

Tea in bed is just lush!!!

As for who makes the tea. I do in the week normally as I have pregnancy insomnia and am up before DH who has to get up each day at 4.45! He makes it most weekends though as I lounge in bed to make up for the having half my sleep quota in the week.

EggsMichelle Mon 20-May-13 03:13:08

My DPs have a tea machine and just put the milk in a little metal jug before going to bed, no thermos or mini fridge, and so far they have not been sick.

I rarly get coffee in bed sad DH can be a bit dim when it comes to romantic gestures.

MomsNetCurtains Mon 20-May-13 03:29:31

My DP brings me tea in bed maybe three times a week at most. He's an early riser; I'm not. Though I am hopefully starting new job soon that means I will need to be up at 6am...good God. Not sure how I'll cope!

FaintlyMacabre Mon 20-May-13 03:33:10

There is no nicer sound than that of the footsteps of someone bringing me a cup of tea when I am half awake.

Doesn't happen very often these days, what with early rising small children who are not old enough to make tea, and late pregnancy meaning I am awake before anyone else anyway.

DH often brings me tea in bed but it lacks the particular quality of tea brought before I'm awake enough to think of it.

Apologies if that made no sense, I'm extremely pregnant and can't sleep!

MammaTJ Mon 20-May-13 03:50:54

The last time I got tea in bed was when I stayed at my friends house. Her lovely DS brought us both breakfast in bed. It was muesli, fruit tea and jam and toast. Wonderful and a total surprise.

We had both over indulged on the wine the night before, so it may have been a tad early for us, but we appreciated it very much. Especially as her DS is only 8.

DP does not bring me tea in bed, but makes me a cup of tea every morning.

If I got through the kitchen and fail to pick it up, he jumps up and goes and gets it for me. This is after he has made breakfast for the DC, sorted them out to get dressed for school and made their lunch boxes.

<no, not spolit, no, not me> grin

BodaciousTatas Mon 20-May-13 03:58:06

I do most mornings, apart from ones like this where I am wide awake so have had one already.

PurplePidjin Mon 20-May-13 03:59:26

Dp brings me coffee and porridge every day.

I feed (bf) ds, he feeds me. He seems to like it?! A couple of times it's worked out so he has a choice of baby cuddles or kitchen duty and he still chooses kitchen duty hmm

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Mon 20-May-13 04:06:53

God, who has the time to be lounging around in bed drinking tea on a weekday?

DH does make us both a proper cup of coffee in the mornings, because I am useless and can't work the posh coffee machine properly. But it's drunk while packing children's bags, putting on shoes, packing lunches, mediating squabbles and brushing hair.

Weekends, we take turns having a lie-in, but frankly whoever is up with the kids is cooking them breakfast, sorting out whose dolly is whose and trying to hang out laundry/unload dishwasher/wipe tables. Taking a cup of tea up to the snoozing partner is a bit too much to ask, I think.

I'm really surprised at how common tea in bed seems to be!

oinkment Mon 20-May-13 04:13:43

I am reading this thread while sitting in bed drinking a lovely cup of tea brought to me by my husband.

pollywollydoodle Mon 20-May-13 05:29:07

tortoise i only have 1 dd who is 9 and sorts herself out now..which helps

pollywollydoodle Mon 20-May-13 05:34:14

i'm surprised by the number of dc's who do tea in bed. i wouldn't trust my dd to get it upstairs without scalding herself / adding another stain to the carpet

SanityClause Mon 20-May-13 05:40:32

Same oinkment.

Lastofthepodpeople Mon 20-May-13 05:43:00

Yup, we're coffee drinkers though. But DH and I each get a turn on the weekend to sleep in and have coffee brought to us.
DS is only three but he'll be trained when he's old enough grin

livinginwonderland Mon 20-May-13 06:20:03

I get one every Saturday (when DP gets up first) and I make him one on Sunday because I have to be up first. Durig the week, I sometimes get one if he has enough time before work/while feeding the kittens, but if not, I just get my own after I've gone back to bed

HDEE Mon 20-May-13 06:25:49

I'm sat here right now in bed eating my toast and will be drinking my tea.

Every morning without fail I get breakfast and tea in bed.

katkit1 Mon 20-May-13 06:31:55

I make my own tea and toast but make sure I have it in bed - baby hangs over cot and shares toast but its still a nice relaxing way to start the morning.

drinking tea in bed now. My DH is an excellent tea maker.

Pollydon Mon 20-May-13 07:05:12

We take turns so I get tea in bed every other day & I make it for dh the other days. Dh sometimes suffers from insomnia & gets times mixed up, so occasionally wakes me up in the early hours with a cuppa confused

Fedupnagging Mon 20-May-13 07:19:35

Don't drink tea, but yes, love having a coffee in bed - sometimes I make it and sometimes dh. Depends who wakes up first.

also like to take a glass of wine to bed of an evening blush

Never have it here, I get up first and DH gets up 20 mins later at the last possible minute. It isn't something I'd want TBH, quite happy to make my own once I'm up. As for eating in bed, I have to be very ill before that happens, hate the thought. We have a no food upstairs rule anyway.

Elenio Mon 20-May-13 07:31:55

Dp does everyday. Even on mornings (like today) where he does not have to up for work until 9.30am. I am lucky!

But he does do a whole host of other things that drive me crazy!

cory Mon 20-May-13 07:34:53

My mum was one of those people who feel sick early in the mornings so my dad who is one of Nature's larks used to bring her coffee in bed when he couldn't bear his loneliness any more when it was time for her to get up. The caffeine

Dh has to get up at a ridiculous hour to catch his commuter train, so makes his own tea every morning; he has been known to bring me a cup before he shoots out of the door. We use loose tea so it makes sense getting the maximum out of the pot.

HintofBream Mon 20-May-13 07:36:35

Tea in bed every morning when he gets up, then half an hour later, coffee and marmite toast too. He's a treasure really.

KnickKnacks Mon 20-May-13 07:36:50

For 28 years every day (regardless of whether it was working day, on holiday abroad etc) my dad would get up and make my mum a cup of tea.

And then she left him sad, and she moans almost as regularly as my dad was with the tea, that she never gets a cup of tea in bed. angry

5madthings Mon 20-May-13 07:37:17

My dp is just making me a cup of tea to have in.bed. I am not a morning person and he quite often brings me tea in bed, 70-80% of the week? Depends on.his shifts.

just sitting here sipping my tea smile

iloveweetos Mon 20-May-13 07:37:46

Think DP has made me tea twice in 2 and half years lol
Would love a tea in bed right now!!

trice Mon 20-May-13 07:38:58

I am having tea in bed right now. Dh doesn't drink hot drinks so he has to make do with a cuddle.

FoundAChopinLizt Mon 20-May-13 07:41:15

He brings me tea in bed every morning, then I bring him coffee for our send cup.

starsandunicorns Mon 20-May-13 07:44:49

My dad always brings my mum tea and toast up her before he leaves for work and every sunday he does a full tray of breakfast tea toast ceral grapefruit and fruit juice.

I always make a brew for my dp when i get up and bring it to him

BitBewildered Mon 20-May-13 07:49:38

I've just drunk the tea DH brought me before he went to work. I take him one on a Friday, but the other six days a week he does the tea delivery. It's one of his most endearing habits!

hackmum Mon 20-May-13 07:58:43

OP, I thought you meant "get" as in "understand", and I thought At last, someone like me! I hate drinking tea in bed, and having breakfast in bed is even worse. Can anyone explain the attraction?

hackmum Mon 20-May-13 07:59:19

Ah, I just realised you did say "understand", not "get". Oh well. You know what I mean, I think.

Aniseeda Mon 20-May-13 08:16:57

DH used to bring me tea in bed as he is a natural lark and up at 6 every day regardless of whether he needs to be or not but understood that the lively, crack of dawn, 'wake up mummy' mornings that toddlers bring used to kill me (I am an owl) so he'd see to them until he had to leave for work and bring me a brew to try to ease my pain as much as possible!

Somewhere along the line between toddlers and teens, the tea stopped coming and there are some mornings, like today, that I really miss it! I make my own and take it back to bed with me, but it's not quite the same!

Ragwort Mon 20-May-13 08:26:35

DH would happily bring me coffee (I don't drink tea grin) in the morning but we are both larks so happy to get up around 6.15am - that when the paper arrives so we often sit at the kitchen table drinking our cofffe/tea and sharing the paper - a bit of quiet time before DS gets up smile.

I'm the same as you Hackmum - don't "get" it at all, especially the breakfast part. I had an operation a few months ago and had to eat in bed for the first week or so afterwards, hated it.

I do quite often take a cuppa up in the evening though and have it while I read or watch TV in the bedroom (DH and I like different programmes so I often have an hour or so upstairs watching telly mid evening).

littlewhitebag Mon 20-May-13 09:01:07

My DH brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning as he gets up before me for work. It is the best part of the day snuggled up sipping tea and contemplating the rest of the day. I am not a fan of eating in bed though.

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 09:25:07

I don't like to eat in bed - don't like crumbs.

But I love a cup of tea brought to me in bed.

Lovely tea, a kiss, a book/newspaper, snuggly bed - all good things that go together.

If I'm having a lie in dp drops me up a cuppa and some biscuits.

Only at the weekends though, during the holidays when he's up for work and I'm still in bed he just heads out.

I need to start training the kids to bring me up tea grin

valiumredhead Mon 20-May-13 09:29:31

Whoever is first up makes the tea in this house and now ds is 12 that includes him too. I always have tea in bed at the weekends, it's lovely smile

ChangeyMcName Mon 20-May-13 09:41:17

Lots of lucky people here with devoted, tea-bringing partners. Literally could not be more jealous. Mine rarely does anything like that for me unless there is something in it for himself.

In fact I did recently receive a tea in bed. Was blown away. Then he returned to the bedroom whilst I was enjoying my tea in bed to remind me that we had lots of housework to do and when would I be getting up? Kinda soured the tea.

Dontwanttobeyourmonkeywrench Mon 20-May-13 09:45:39

My DH doesn't do it unless under extreme duress but DS (15 3/4) will do it grudgingly most mornings as well as bring DD (6) her breakfast in bed because he leaves an hour earlier than she does. We may have to curb DD's expectations as she gets older grin

iloveweetos Mon 20-May-13 09:47:38

lol changey...sounds exactly like my other half
who said romance is dead? hmm

hamdangle Mon 20-May-13 09:56:02

DH brings me tea, toast and a glass of juice in bed every morning even when he's in work and I'm not, which is quite a lot because I'm teacher! I can't function without caffeine and carbs first thing and also I'm a little bit spoilt.

ChangeyMcName Mon 20-May-13 10:01:47

Can I just ask - to the ladies who get tea/juice/breakfast in bed - do you do similar nice things for your DH? Are you expected to 'pay back' the good turn?
I'm sorry I just can't get my head around the idea that your DHs do this lovely thing so frequently, unprompted. Which makes me a bit sad really. DH would not see this as Fair at all. And it is ever so important that things are always Fair.. hmm

EeyoreIsh Mon 20-May-13 10:04:46

My amazing DH makes my breakfast everyday. At weekends, it's tea and toast in bed. During the week, he makes my tea in a flask and breakfast sandwiches whilst I shower.

I am totally spoiledgrin he's done this almost everyday since we got married. Very occasionally I get up first and make him breakfast.

It's just the way our relationship is. He is great at getting up in the morning, I'm not. I do other lovely things for him, so it balances out.

Thistledew Mon 20-May-13 10:05:55

DH brings me tea in bed every morning. I really struggle to get going in the mornings- it takes me ages to wake up properly, I am sluggish, and without my cup of tea I feel horribly nauseous. DH is annoyingly chirpy and bright in the mornings.

When I had to be up early and out of the door even earlier when I was studying, so for a whole year he brought me breakfast in bed as well.

I do bring him tea at the weekends if I happen to be up first, but mostly he comes down stairs whilst I am making it anyway.

This is one of many reasons why DP became DH three weeks ago. smile

oohaveabanana Mon 20-May-13 10:06:12

Yup, anther one who gets tea every morning. I work from home, so dh is always up first. He gets kids dressed & downstairs eating breakie, then brings me my tea up. Tea drunk, I emerge & take over.

Perfect tag team.

If I wake up earlier at the weekends, I bring him his up, but otherwise I'm not expected to do anything particular to 'earn' it!

EeyoreIsh Mon 20-May-13 10:06:37

xpost changey!

I couldn't live with the guilt if I didn't do nice things for him! mostly it's things like letting him drink beer without nagging grin . I also do most of the cooking and cleaning, so it does even itself out.

Fakebook Mon 20-May-13 10:14:02

So when people get tea in bed, do they get up and brush their teeth first and then get back into bed? I hate the thought of people drinking and eating in bed without brushing or washing their face. Yuck.

The last time I got breakfast in bed was when DS was born. That was for two weeks of dh's paternity leave, and I got up and brushed my teeth and showered beforehand. DH normally makes breakfast and tea for us but I never eat it in bed.

DaveDeeDozyBeakyMickAndTitch Mon 20-May-13 10:17:39

MrD doesn't drink hot drinks, so I couldn't reciprocate if I wanted to! That said, we do have a teasmaid ... and a carton of powdered milk!

Alwayscheerful Mon 20-May-13 10:19:38

Tea and biscuits in bed every day, we wake to the natural sunlight and birds singing, I love to sleep with the curtains open (DH prefers to close them). I make the tea in the week and he makes it at the weekend. If DH knows I am tired he makes The tea. The simple pleasures in life are the best.

hamdangle Mon 20-May-13 10:28:36

I don't really do nice things for DH in return blush. He just likes to spoil me and do things for me and that's how our relationship works. I wouldn't want him to do it if I had to ask him or I had to 'pay it back' somehow though. It's special because its unprompted. i am aware that he is a keeper though!

NoelHeadbands Mon 20-May-13 10:30:02

On the days when DH is up and out first, he always brings me a tea or coffee in bed.

On the days when I'm up first, it's 4.45am so I don't think he'd appreciate me returning the favour.

I do bring him a coffee and a bacon sandwich on a weekend though, and the kids get one as well. We generally take it in turns

Ragwort Mon 20-May-13 10:31:03

Changey - that sounds sad sad. As I mentioned earlier my DH would always offer to make me a moring cuppa, if I wanted one, and if I was up first I would do exactly the same for him. We don't keep a 'tally' of good turns, it just seems natural - ie: I am happy to iron his shirts, he never has to 'ask' me, and he doesn't 'expect' them to be ironed but it is genuinely something I am happy to do. Equally I have never, ever mown a lawn in 25 years of marriage.

TeWiSavesTheDay Mon 20-May-13 10:31:44

I get breakfast in bed everyday atm! I am pregnant though...

In normal life, we would take (unprompted) turns at things like lie-ins and breakfast in bed.

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 10:33:37

I do all the cooking and laundry here and pick up quite a bit more childcare than he does. I also make packed lunches for everyone everyday including him. So there is maybe 1 or 2 meals a week that he eats that I haven't prepared.

I always make sure his electric blanket is turned on in the winter and that he has fresh jarmies under his pillow every night.

We look after each other. But if I am being honest DH probably does 'more' than I do, he is a very kind and loving soul.

He also figured out pretty early on that a good way to have lots of sex is to do lots of nice things for me. wink

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 10:47:09

Why would you need to wash your face before drinking a cup of tea? confused
And wouldn't cleaning your teeth first make the tea taste funny?

Its the cup of tea in bed that enables me to then get up and spring into action

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 10:48:05

That was to Fakebook btw

iloveweetos Mon 20-May-13 10:48:32

Fakebook i agree!!! i cant eat or drink anything until my teeth are brushed...feels disgusting if i havent!

themoistworld...but your teeth are dirty?

digerd Mon 20-May-13 10:49:52

I've never had a cuppa in bed, except when I stayed at SIL's and she brought me one and woke me upconfused.

Don't like drinking and eating in bed.

Mum and Dad had a "Teasmade" machine after they retired hmm
I like to sit up at a table to eat and drink with a proper back support chair.

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 10:51:49

Why would it matter that you haven't brushed your teeth?

How would your teeth get dirty if you have brushed them before bed? They are just covered in the stuff that is in your mouth.

Now I am not saying I want to snog anyone who hasn't brushed their teeth but I don't get how brushing them before having a cup of tea would actually make any real difference.

Don't people brush their teeth after breakfast?

iloveweetos Mon 20-May-13 10:53:21

Don't people brush their teeth after breakfast?

Now that is a new thread altogether!

Fakebook Mon 20-May-13 10:54:16

TheMoistWorld, so morning breath and a dry mouth make tea taste nicer?

Excuse me while I retch.

Glad you agree iloveweetos!

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 10:56:57

Well, technically yes, I suppose - though I'd have cleaned them the night before.
But I don't get why this matters? Its just me, alone in bed with a nice cup of tea, fully intending to brush my teeth very shortly afterwards. Surely the enjoyment of being bought tea in bed is derived from the fact that you didn't have to get up in the first place?
Not being deliberately obtuse, I am genuinely confused!

Calabria Mon 20-May-13 10:57:46

I always get up before my husband so no chance of tea in bed for me. I would happily make one for him but he doesn't want it. Anyway, it would be stone cold before he was awake enough to drink it.

My father makes tea in the morning for Mum and himself and any visitors who want one. It's a lovely treat even if it's me that fetches it as he cannot do that bit himself (disabled).

My daughter sometimes brings me breakfast in bed but she doesn't want to deal with the kettle (she's 8) so I get chocolate milk with my fruit and cereal bars and mushrooms on toast. grin

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 10:58:39

Standards Moist! Standards, your disgusting tea drinking ways are making people actually retch.

LOL, I wonder if we could actually have a bunfight over this?

People care about this shit. grin

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 11:01:32

Ah, ok - I can understand if your mouth tastes horrible in the morning.

But mine doesn't (usually)! And I sip water in bed, so not dry.

hamdangle Mon 20-May-13 11:02:54

But you won't have a dry mouth if you are drinking a cup of tea! I might have bit of morning breath but I don't think the toast really minds.

What do you do in bed that makes your mouth so dirty when you wake up? grin

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 11:04:17

Gosh, sorry for making people feel poorly

<dunks self in sheep dip>

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 20-May-13 11:05:11

grin morloth

VenusUprising Mon 20-May-13 11:07:09

My 8 yo makes me coffee and brings it with a bikkie on the saucer at weekends.
She's well trained, (by DH) we have a coffee maker, and I drink it just hotter than warm, black.

I'm useless without coffee though, so I get all suspicious when I'm woken with a giant mug of coffee- it means plans are afoot!

Morloth Mon 20-May-13 11:09:15

I want a cup of tea now. It is 8pm here though and if I have caffeine at this time I won't have to worry about morning breath because I won't be getting any sleep.

ouryve Mon 20-May-13 11:14:05

DH1 is an early bird. I'm not, and on top of that, I take medications which leave me groggy in the morning. Even without those, transitioning from lying down to upright and functioning, in the morning, is a mammoth task, likely to result in me flaking out on the floor, if attempted too quickly. So, DH kindly brings me a nice cup of chamomile tea, which helps to increase my blood volume (and reduce the risk of fainting) and washes down my first batch of pills that stop everything hurting so much of the day.

After that, I'm ready to put me socks on, hobble down the stairs and take over so he can be off to work.

BitBewildered Mon 20-May-13 11:20:54

I drink my tea without having to get up and brush my teeth first, but DH has to brush his before he can drink tea. I am quite glad I don't. I agree with Moist - staying in bed is the point!

KylaKevin Mon 20-May-13 11:21:33

No tea on my bed because, for tea i have to sit on the dinning table and my mom makes it for everyone.

Badgerwife Mon 20-May-13 11:22:41

There's no rule in our house but we tend to take turns at the weekend.

Saturday I'm usually rubbish in the morning (I don't know what it is about Saturdays but at 35 weeks pregnant with No2 and a demanding nearly 2 yr old, I am a zombie) so DH plays with DD1 and I get a cuppa in bed at some point. By Sunday I seem to have recovered enough from the week and feel well enough to get up early so he's the one to get a bit of a lie-in and he usually wants and gets a herbal infusion to help him feel human again.

Bramshott Mon 20-May-13 11:24:04

DH occasionally brings me tea in bed as a treat. My mother and grandmother have had tea delivered by their DH's in bed every day of their lives so maybe it's a "traditional" man thing! That said, I'd rather have DH's ace cooking and co-parenting than a cup of tea in bed every morning so we'll stick with our non-traditional set-up!

DiscoDonkey Mon 20-May-13 11:25:25

Dh brings me coffee every day as he's up much earlier. (If he has a really early start he makes it in a flask and leaves it by the side of the bed)

LovedayMerryweather Mon 20-May-13 11:28:36

Yes. He brings a small breakfast up too. To be fair, it was one of the things I was looking for in a man! I sometimes do it instead if he's really tired or at the weekend. This is because I wake up slowly and he wakes up quickly. While he's making the tea, he unloads the dishwasher.

It sounds like a lot written out like that - I tend to do a lot of the wifework though - organising/remembering/planning birthdays etc.

I never realised this was so widespread. I don't think anyone in our families does it. I get up earlier than DH every day of the week and it has never once occurred to me that he deserves a cup of tea as well as a lie-in! [bad wife emoticon].

Hobblethwaite Mon 20-May-13 11:32:42

I get a coffee every morning, not in bed mind but still in a lounging position.

If DH is on night shift he puts the coffee sweetener and milk in a cup and leaves it in the fridge. He's a good egg.

WaitingForMe Mon 20-May-13 12:28:18

I got tea every day before DS. On the days I go back to bed after his 5am feed I get tea brought up.

DH does loads for me and I do loads for him. IMO love is something you practise, something you do daily, that the little things are what make the biggest difference.

SomeBear Mon 20-May-13 12:51:30

DS is 10 and goes through phases of bringing me coffee in bed on school days. I'm not a morning person, and DH leaves for work at 5am. If he's up before me at the weekend, he'll bring one up for me or send one of the DCs up with it. He doesn't like drinking in bed though, and I've never had breakfast in bed (crumbs! on sheets! no thank you).

Urgh at brushing before your morning cup of tea!

I'm gobsmacked at the thought that not everyone shuffles bleary eyed downstairs to slurp tea/coffee and munch cereal/toast and then go upstairs to make self presentable. Utterly gobsmacked.

OP, Yes my DH makes me tea in bed, has done since I was 16 years old! grin If i'm up before him then I'll bring him tea up.

makes me tea in bed?? That's a clever trick considering our kettle is downstairs in the kitchen... hmm

I meant, of course brings me tea in bed.. blush

jacks365 Mon 20-May-13 13:11:07

My dad takes my mum tea in bed every day. It started when she was pregnant with my big brother 48 years ago to help with morning sickness but he's just carried it on. He says its the least he can do for her.

MrsCampbellBlack Mon 20-May-13 13:23:22

I take my DH a cup of tea every weekday morning as I am nearly always up first.

At the weekends he will bring me a coffee quite often.

Eskino Mon 20-May-13 13:28:55

DP makes me a cup of tea every morning, AND its while he's up getting breakfast for, nappy changing and generally wrangling our 2yo.

While me and the baby do cuddles in bed <smugface>

SomethingOnce Mon 20-May-13 13:37:17

I have just learned from a Google search about the spiritual effect of having tea in bed (before brushing one?s teeth) [mind boggles]

Apparently, it can increase susceptibility to being attacked by ghosts (demons, devils, negative energies, etc.).

That must be where I've been going wrong all these years grin

I don't drink hot drinks. I've had breakfast brought to me in bed on Christmas morning and Mother's Day by DH, but that's it. It would feel a bit strange to me if it were a regular occurrence!

I'll occasionally take DH coffee when he has a lie in, but only because it means he's likely to shift out of bed more quickly.

FIL takes MIL all of her drinks throughout the day to wherever she is - and he does hot drinks in bed for whoever is staying in the house. It's very sweet and another way he shows how much he dotes on his entire family - but I still find it quite strange as it's not been part of my growing up experience, if that makes sense.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 20-May-13 16:18:00

I used to have a timer plug and set the coffee percolater to brew just before we got up, lovely waking to the smell of fresh brewed coffee on a morning, alongside the timed bread maker the house was so inviting mmmmm coffee and fresh bread... why have I not done this in ages?

Whoever is up first makes the coffee here. So that would be DH 99.9 percent of the time as am lazy cah.

sydlexic Mon 20-May-13 17:05:21

DH always brings me coffee in bed and kisses me goodbye. I always greet him with dinner and desert, so a fair swap.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 20-May-13 17:10:38

DH used to bring me tea in bed before he left for work, but he leaves very early now - 6am - and so he leaves me to sleep. On the occasions when he works from home then I get my cuppa smile

And I get one every Saturday and Sunday, almost without fail. It is just one of his things.

My Mum is highly jealous, because she is the provider of tea in my parents relationship. She loves it when we go and stay, because generally DH will be up first - and he brings her a cup too! smile

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 20-May-13 17:12:05

Mimsy - I had forgotten, my Dad does bedtime drinks for everyone in the house who is staying, so things are more balanced in my parents relationship than I thought grin

Triumphoveradversity Tue 21-May-13 08:54:34

DH brings me two cups of tea in bed every morning. It started after I was very ill after I had a pg loss . He is not the most emotional person but it was his way of showing love.

badguider Tue 21-May-13 08:58:04

I get tea in bed at weekends, mainly because DH has been up for so long by the time I wake up (esp. now as I'm pregnant and not sleeping well at night) that he's bored and I think the tea is is way of subtly trying to get me to wake up.

icklemssunshine1 Tue 21-May-13 09:22:04

Extremely jealous. With a 22 month DD who thinks 5am is the start of the day it takes the pleasure out of drinking a coffee in bed whilst she's jumping up & down on our bed (aka trampoline) & watching Peppa Pig. Too many chin scalds have stopped coffee in bed! She will be trained!

MrsHoarder Tue 21-May-13 09:30:28

Dh brings me a tea if he's up before me and I do the same for him. He's up first most often though. Its a lovely way to wake up although this morning it was cold by the time I woke up

Dh would bring me tea in bed in the morning if I wanted, cos he is lovely. But I'd rather have 10 minutes extra sleep ...

He did buy me one of these though - Ring-for-Tea bell grin

KittyVonCatsworth Tue 21-May-13 09:47:40

I bring tea to OH every morning but every morning it goes undrunk as he's a proper wookie in the mornings. He will do anything for that extra 5 minutes.

During the day, he'll come to my desk with cappuccinos and chocolate (although he knows I don't eat chocolate, so I suspect it's for him).

gail734 Tue 21-May-13 11:09:38

My DH sometimes makes himself a cup of tea. In his head he is helping me out because I don't have to make it for him. Then he might helpfully leave the cup in the sink for me.

VenusUprising Fri 24-May-13 13:12:08

Ha ha Gail! Funny!

My DH makes so many cups of tea every day, I'm surprised he isn't made from it - I don't really drink tea, except a peppermint at night, and he makes this for me.
However he uses the same mug all day for his tea, strong stuff, with extra flavour from the mug <boak>

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