To not want to hear how busy people are, all the time?

(93 Posts)
Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:12:57

I really am sick to the back teeth of people saying how busy they are. Lots of people are busy. Most just get on with it.

There is a mum I bump into at the school on a regular basis. Every conversation I have with her (usually initiated by her in the first place) goes along the same theme, of how terribly busy she is, and how her life is so hectic, and she has this on, and that on, and oh she's just so very very very busy. She volunteers this information. I have long since stopped asking her how she is as her reply is always "busy". We used to meet up but I got fed up with her asking me to meet her and then saying "I'm so busy for the next 6 weeks" and pencilling me in for a half an hour coffee in 6 weeks' time.

I also have an acquaintance on my Facebook friends list, who tells the Facebook world on a daily basis how busy she is, and lists the things that she has done each day. Then everybody marvels about how she fits it all in, and how she must surely be superwoman. Said woman does have several children, but IMO does a lot of unnecessary things and puts pressure on herself to make everything perfect. She will do something during an evening, such as ironing everything in her ironing basket, or wrapping up teachers' end of term presents, and then put a photo on Facebook of it, and again bleat on about how very busy she has been and what a busy evening, and how it's not easy to do things like ironing or present wrapping when you have several children.

It just feels competitive, and silly. As I said, lots of people are busy, but most just get on with it.

Unami Sat 18-May-13 16:16:25

I totally agree. This is one of my major bugbears - people making a big, big deal about how busy they are to try and make themselves look more important than other people.

We all have 24 hours in a day. We all have a number of things we have to fit in to that finite slice of time. We are all 'busy' in different ways. When people bang on about how busy they are, what they really want to say is '(more) important (than you)'.

Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:18:08

Unami, that is my thoughts exactly. It's an importance thing.

The woman I know from school will always say she is too busy to do anything, and brings it into any conversation.

Even if it's about something such as a TV show, she will scoff and say "I'm far too busy to watch TV".

Mintyy Sat 18-May-13 16:19:07

Sorry, I don't have time to read such a long op wink

HollyBerryBush Sat 18-May-13 16:21:33

Perhaps she can't afford to go out and upload photos of herself pissed every night in an interesting way? perhaps she likes being indoors with her family and ironing and that's interesting to her?

If you don't like her busy yet dull life, delete her.

nananaps Sat 18-May-13 16:21:58

This reminded me of my mil who was too busy to come to see her only gc because she had to go to the post office and walk her dog. She felt genuinely too busy to do any thing else that day grin

I think that its a very busy world, i am on mat leave at the moment and dont know how i fitted everything around work and the house/kids etc. But i love it, i prefer to be busy tbh.

I dont tell every one having said that, although you should know that i am a bit too busy to be here right now..or should be too busy grin

But i agree, it is irritating to be told of how very important folk are as they are 100 times busier than you.

My pal makes me not want to arrange anything with her as i feel that she wont be able to fit me in, she does seem to cram every moment with something. That makes me sad as i love my friends company.

Gauri Sat 18-May-13 16:21:59

Op, you and I are obviously not that busy. Me for reading my our loooooong op and you for typing it.... Here wine.

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 16:27:58

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Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:31:35

No she always asks me to do things, SecondComing. I have long since stopped bothering to ask her, as I think it's pointless organising a half hour coffee in 6 weeks' time (which she'd have to go early from anyway as she's so very busy)

She'll say about meeting up, then do that sound sucking air in through her teeth and start to say again about how busy she is...

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 16:40:22

Its called making conversation and speaking about random shallow shite though, surely?

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 16:41:37

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Samu2 Sat 18-May-13 16:46:41

I am hardly ever busy. I have five children and think I should be busy all the time but very rarely am.

People who go on about being busy all the time make me wonder what I am doing so wrong grin

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 16:47:34

I literally have to arrange meeting people for 4 weeks time and even then am doubling them up..tis pain..these are people I really want to see, so don't assume she is avoiding you.

Yes I am one of these boring types who goes on about how busy I am. winkgrin

SkiBunnnnny Sat 18-May-13 17:11:35

Maybe the posting on Facebook is a motivation tool. Some people write to-do lists so they get the satisfaction of crossing things off when they are done. It's like an extension of that.

Triumphoveradversity Sat 18-May-13 17:14:02

The only people I have ever met that have harped on about being busy are actually not busy, maybe some people need to justify their existence.

tethersend Sat 18-May-13 17:16:09

Marking place to post later when less busy.

Ilikethebreeze Sat 18-May-13 17:26:03

Same here, Triumph.
The irony now is that she is genuinely very busy indeed.
And doesnt literally doesnt have the time to tell me!

Jinsei Sat 18-May-13 17:38:48

Truly busy people don't have time for FB. wink

EglantinePrice Sat 18-May-13 17:47:31

I know a few of these

"I'm so important busy, look at all my achievements how busy I've been this week" [yawn]

ChippingInIsMissingHerLatte Sat 18-May-13 17:49:53

Tethers grin

StealthOfficialCrispTester Sat 18-May-13 17:52:12

yanbu
I do sometimes find myself telling people this and hopefully always manage to shut myself up
Compared to some people I am busy, compared to others I have loads of time
If I wasn't on MN so much, those extra hours in the day I keep moaning about might magically appear grin

noddyholder Sat 18-May-13 17:54:07

I always look busy but do the bare minimum.

ssd Sat 18-May-13 17:55:28

busy people are a pain in the arse

its like they are so popular, they just haven't the time for anything

ugh

Gigondas Sat 18-May-13 17:56:03

Yanbu this boils my piss too.

rabbitlady Sat 18-May-13 17:57:02

maybe, when they are saying they are so busy, they are saying they don't have time for you.

BalloonSlayer Sat 18-May-13 18:00:11

Yanbu, I have 3 DCs and work 3 days a week and I don't feel too busy - but try to meet up with some friends who have eg 2 DCs and work 2 days a week and it's "oooh I'm so BUSY!!" I think: why?

And don't get me started on the people who claim they are so busy because "I have a house to run" as if it is some mighty institution or aircraft carrier or similar, or that they are Mrs Whatserface from Downton Abbey supervising a platoon of staff, instead of a mum of teenagers with a semi in suburbia which only needs hoovering once a week.

CashmereHoodlum Sat 18-May-13 18:03:15

I get very hacked off with the busy people. I am sick of hearing how virtuous they are, and also sick of the assumption that because I don't bang on about how busy I am that I have an infinite amount of spare time. I'm tempted to say, to one of them, at least, "oh yes, I forgot you're a busy mum. Thank you for reminding me".

The busy people seem to make an unnecessary amount of work for themselves. Ironing flannels and colour co-ordinating their compost. Cleaning the inside of their kitchen cupboards with a cotton bud.

People who are genuinely busy are too busy to tell you how busy they are. People who tell you how busy they are are often either trying to make you feel inferior and slatternly, or they are trying to justify things to themselves.

It is often anti-feminist busy-ness too. I don't appreciate being looked down on because I am too lazy to clean shoe-polish out of DH's brogues with a toothpick. As though if I can't perform this most basic of tasks for my poor helpless man I have too much time on my hands and am a Bad Wife. Not my shoes, not my problem. In fact, not an actual problem at all.

CarpeVinum Sat 18-May-13 18:06:13

colour co-ordinating their compost

grin

AlvinHallsGroupie Sat 18-May-13 18:07:01

Balloon grin
There are a few of those on here though who list the billionty things they do whilst constantly on MN wink

Decoy Sat 18-May-13 18:13:38

I hate competitive busy-ness. It doesn't impress me if someone keeps going on about how busy they are. Especially if they say "busy, busy, busy!" in a breezy voice!

Wellthen Sat 18-May-13 18:15:44

What I find irritating is people who are so important busy that they have to double everything up. I have a friend who, almost every time we go out either is late, has to leave early or disapears and then comes back because she has to see some other group of friends. It always a friend or boyfriend or family, never a work meeting or drs appointment which is what makes me think why doesnt she just say ' I cant meet you then as I'm seeing some other friends' either to us or to them. Why does she try to do two things at the same time? Eventually I think I'll get bored with this and tell her she is rude and makes people feel unimportant.

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 18:21:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EglantinePrice Sat 18-May-13 18:23:55

I however am genuinely busy. but only because I'm inefficient and spend too long on mn then leave everything essential to the last minute, then tell myself I'll never do that again

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 18:27:05

Well..I said earlier I have to double things up.

Its due to working and having lots of Dd stuff on and yes quite a few folk to catch up with.

I hope they don't think I am rude or self important. .I don't tell them I am going to see others after.

Am not constantly on MN either..despite that wee dig earlier.

Wow..seems there is a lot of resentment of people being or claiming to be busy.

Genuinely didn't think this was such a contentious area.

Maybe because most of my friends also have lots of appointments for their DCs and therapies to do and courses to attend about their DCs too.

everlong Sat 18-May-13 18:27:15

LOL.
I do the list to dh when he asks what I've done in the day.
Hoovering
Washing
Walked the dog
Hoovering
Ironing
Shopping
Hoovering
grin

He knows in reality I've hoovered once and been on MN most of the day wink

noisytoys Sat 18-May-13 18:30:37

I'm always tired. Maybe because I'm always busy wink grin

Wellthen Sat 18-May-13 18:30:42

I supose thats more what I mean Fanjo - she makes a big deal out of 'cant stay long, have to...'. When arranging a time to meet she will literally tell us her whole day before finishing with 'so itll have to be between 4 and 5'.

I do find it incredibly annoying that one of the very important things she has to do is 'have a nap' but I realise that what she sees as important is different to me. I dont mind going straight from work but she clearly does. What annoys me is that she has to tell us all of this as the only impact it has is to make me feel unimportant.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 18:32:28

I see what you mean..she sounds quite self obsessed rather than busy...

LaQueen Sat 18-May-13 18:37:39

A lot of people associate being very busy, with being more popular/worthwhile/important and necessary.

It's a bit sad, and probably connected to underlying, low self esteem [shrugs]

Up until a few months ago, I worked 2 part time jobs, kept a fairly large house always clean and tidy, ferried DDs around to various activities, met friends every week, and was helping DH with some major organisational changes within his company.

I didn't feel I was especially busy, it's just my life. It is what it is. I certainly don't ever recall actually telling people how busy I was.

MolotovCocktail Sat 18-May-13 18:38:30

Haha, yeah, this reminds me of a family member of my supposedly close-knot family who was "too busy" to visit me and newborn dd2 last year. Turns out the real reason was that 1) she'd chose to do the garden instead in the nice weather and 2) snaffle some beers with her friends.

There's been a very odd atmosphere ever since, because I refuse to take tho shit as a valid reason not to see us anymore.

nokidshere Sat 18-May-13 18:38:55

I am always busy but that's more due to the fact that i am very inefficient rather than having too much to do!!!

Having sat on the sofa most of today having coffee and a natter with a friend, I now have to be super busy in order to fit in all the stuff I was supposed to be doing instead haha

I'd much rather be super busy for an hour and a slob for the rest of the time than busy all the time grin

AThingInYourLife Sat 18-May-13 18:39:18

I love this thread grin

It has made me notice something that had passed me by.

And made me realise that when I boast about my lovely weekend with no plans at all (the best kind!) that nobody is actually impressed.

I'm just outing myself as an unbusy, unimportant nobody.

MolotovCocktail Sat 18-May-13 18:40:15

I'm tipsy, but to tipsy (or busy) enough to see there are type-o's grin

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 18:44:00

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FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 18:49:12

Are you not going to invite her round for a cuppa?

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 18:49:29

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AThingInYourLife Sat 18-May-13 18:49:45

Is tipsy a kind of busy?

That's the kind of "unavailable" I could get on board with.

"Sorry, I'm planning to be half cut for the next while. I'll have to pencil you in when afternoon drinking in the sun goes out of season."

grin

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 18:51:55

That is my life right there grin

AlvinHallsGroupie Sat 18-May-13 18:59:07

Fanjo not having a dig at you lovely blush

AlvinHallsGroupie Sat 18-May-13 19:01:49

Thinking about it in RL its the people who do the fake busy to put you down.ie Arriving late,leaving halfway through a social event ,the message is clearly you are not as important as me,the cat,the my DHs pants that need washing now Its a put down .

MolotovCocktail Sat 18-May-13 19:04:45

grin a Thing

I find that being 'tipsy' helps me to gives less of a good-goddamn wink

TwoFourSixOhOne Sat 18-May-13 19:08:39

We're really busy, DH and I , I mean, we work ft and our evenings are full with DC stuff and music lessons every day, three DC, weekends fill up with stuff despite our best efforts.

But we are so laid back that everyone thinks we have loads of time, and consequentially we get asked to do stuff for family and friends because, as they keep telling us, they are so terribly busy that they can't manage it themselves...

I might start telling people I'm busy busy busy.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 19:10:53

Alvin. ..phew..I am a bit paranoid blush

Alligatorpie Sat 18-May-13 19:15:31

I tell people I am busy as an excuse not to make plans. I am busy (as is everyone around me) and if someone I don't really want to meet up with tries to pin me down, I will say i am busy " for the next 2 weeks "or whatever and hope they don't keep asking. If someone told me they were busy for six weeks, I would take it as a sign they didn't want to meet up.
I don't think I am busier than anyone else, I just think life is too short to hang out with people I don't want to be with.

AThingInYourLife Sat 18-May-13 19:15:59

Am I the only one to think it is wonderful to include a nap as one of the things you have to do on a busy, busy, oh-so busy day?

grin

A lie in is basically just a nap taken directly after a night's sleep.

I think I'm going to be busy tomorrow.

And of course drunk busy tonight.

My life is exhausting grin

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 18-May-13 19:17:53

Yanbu. I have a friend like this. She has a nice job two extremely well behaved kids, plus useful husband. She is always "flat out", and yet, even though she is so busy, she is always taking on extra stuff - pta bake sales etc. And then she wipes her brow and complains about how busy she is. Probably it annoys me because I am never over stretched or double booked, and so appear lazy and un dynamic next to her. I do look ten years younger though. (bitch emoticon)

IbeginHere Sat 18-May-13 19:19:43

Oh god I have one of those on fb.

I think her last three status have been along the longs of

'busy busy busy',

'Just finished my 15hr day, time for a cuppa'

'A busy and productive day'

She is a TA with 2 dc who likes to cross stitch in the evenings.

How much busier is she than anyone else, really?

AlvinHallsGroupie Sat 18-May-13 19:21:43

A thing

execllent idea busy drinking wine and watching showjumping

CuntAlors Sat 18-May-13 19:22:17

I'm the busiest person in the world. Right around the time that dh comes home from work. I've mastered the art of looking dishevelled while moving a pile at 5pm. Busy busy busy.

valiumredhead Sat 18-May-13 19:24:55

She is a TA with 2 dc who likes to cross stitch in the evenings.

Judgey or what?! shock grin

If you don't say you are busy you get called lazy.

Can't win really <shrugs>

AThingInYourLife Sat 18-May-13 19:34:25

"She has a nice job two extremely well behaved kids, plus useful husband.

Does having badly behaved kids give you extra busy points?

Man, this is the thread that keeps on giving!

I am going to be flat out tomorrow. grin

I always thought people with well-behaved kids put the hours in at home making them that way.

Fucking slackers!

IbeginHere Sat 18-May-13 19:40:10

If you don't say you are busy you get called lazy

Really?

We all have to declare we are busy othewise we are deemed lazy?

I did not know this rule.

TheSmallClanger Sat 18-May-13 19:52:28

I would rather be lazy. Laziness is related to decadence, which is fun. Being busy isn't really fun.

I am very suspicious of people who proclaim themselves to be busy. If I have something to do which means I can't do something else, I will say "I have to take the dog to the vet" or "I have to pick DD up from gymnastics" or "I need to go to the supermarket now because we have nothing to eat and everyone including me is hungry". I don't just blether on about how busy I am. They do it because they don't want to do stuff and want to sound virtuous.

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 18-May-13 20:08:29

of course having badly behaved kids makes you busier! You have to say everything ten times! I should know.

JohnSnowsTie Sat 18-May-13 20:09:25

The irony is, when someone bleats on to you about how busy they are, you don't take them seriously, do you? You sort of glaze over and nod as their credibility diminishes.

Busy people don't tell you about it. They don't need to. It's like people with genuine problems don't go on about them all the time. It's people with trivial issues and no sense of perspective who harp on.

A woman I used to work made a point of mentioning that the last email she'd sent me had been blasted off at 3a.m. She had to point it out in case I hadn't noticed. Which of course I hadn't - I tend to read the content of emails, not the time at which they're sent!

getyourgroove Sat 18-May-13 20:28:40

nokids From what you said, you aren't always busy though. You slob about (quite rightly) for most of the day and then are rushing around busy for an hour getting the stuff you need to be done, done. I suppose i depends how people define busy.

Southeastdweller Sat 18-May-13 21:32:24

Yep I hate it too. People I know who say it are never, ever busy. It's mainly about justification I suppose, and sometimes about wanting to keep others at arms length.

I wanted to cheer Nigella Lawson a few years ago when she said that "people bang on about how busy they are as if they're reading War and Peace in their spare time".

greenformica Sat 18-May-13 21:54:04

Maybe she feels overwhelmed and not 'just' busy? Maybe you are just catching a glimmer of her chasing her tail and struggling to keep her head above water?

ihategeorgeosborne Sat 18-May-13 22:37:07

I sometimes say I'm busy if I don't want to do something to be honest. If there is a mums night out somewhere and I really don't fancy it, I have said "I'm busy then". Also if I can't really afford to do something and don't want to I say I'm busy. I just always hope they don't ask me what I'm doing instead!

cat Sat 18-May-13 22:41:53

I would contribute to your thread OP....

But sorry I'm far tooooo busy.

I've got church tomorrow at 9, followed by Gymboree at 11. Then I'm updating my baking blog whilst DH takes the DCs swimming.

Monday is Book Club and a lengthy stroll round Sainsbos.

HTHs

FuckThisShit Sat 18-May-13 23:06:32

I'm generally too busy not giving a flying fuck about how busy (or not) other people are. In fact I have just had a huge cull on FB so I don't have to get updates on people's busy shit and bollocks.

mashpot Sat 18-May-13 23:10:27

I call them busy bores. Get efficient for Gods sake. Totally agree that the really busy people aren't always bleating on about it.

PlumSykes Sun 19-May-13 08:38:59

I don't know how the busys do it. If I manage to make the beds and go to the supermarket between 9am and 3pm I am impressed with myself.

FoundAChopinLizt Sun 19-May-13 08:45:55

Many people distract themselves constantly with busyness; they are terrified of having free time as they might have to get to know themselves and realise they don't know what the point of it all is and we're all going to die sooner or later So they keep busy, in case they fall off the wheel and down the rabbit hole.

Mixing metaphors.

SprinkleLiberally Sun 19-May-13 08:51:53

I dunno. I don't go on about it, but I am really busy. I work every day and evening. Run kids to activities. See family and friends and do one hobby. Lots of people do this level of activity with little "free" time. If they say something occasionally it's ok. If they go on constantly it's a pain.

BeCool Sun 19-May-13 09:03:34

I read somewhere this week that BUSY is the new FINE.

"Hi how are you?"
"Busy!"

BeCool Sun 19-May-13 09:09:25

We used to joke that FINE stood for Fucked, Insecure, Needy and Emotional.

So what about BUSY?

Boring, Unfulfilled, Stressed and Y?

chickydoo Sun 19-May-13 09:21:49

I go out to work 7 days a week. I have 4 children & a parent who is dying & another with dementia.
I have Sunday morning off work to do everything relating to house & kids. ( should me mowing the lawn as I type) I really am busy & it's not much fun.

MortifiedAdams Sun 19-May-13 09:34:47

This drives me mad too. There is a long running joke about our boss at work who always says she "doesn't have time for this!" whenever a potential disaster arises or someone needs assistance.

Its come to a point where its her catchphrase and she is ridiculed for it. What she fails.to realise is that if she actually worked the 40 hours she was contrcated instead of.swanning in at 9.30 and leaving at 2.45 she might well have more time to do things (it is.not possible to do this job from.home).

ssd Sun 19-May-13 09:39:09

I know someone who told me last september that her weekends are now busy up till christmas (as she has so many friends to see)

shes the sort who would go to the opening of an envelope so she could say shes got something on

when her and her dh actually have a night in with the kids it has to be turned into a movie night, or some other big deal, like sitting in with the kids is an event

find it all a bit showy and desperate

MulberryJane Sun 19-May-13 09:48:23

I'm busy when I haven't planned and prioritised, I'm on maternity leave and have never been so 'busy' although I'd never admit that for fear of (deserved) ridicule, lol. When I'm disorganised I find it impossible to fit every one/thing in. However, I know this is my fault. But some people cram so much into their days that they are constantly busy because they are hiding from something they don't want to confront. For instance, if you're busy then you don't have time to think about things which might be sad or scary. Maybe she's worried about being dissatisfied with her life and therefore hides behind the facade of 'being busy'? Just a thought...

ipswichwitch Sun 19-May-13 10:07:17

I get very hmm at people who spend ages on fb claiming to be sooooooo busy, listing everything they've done/have to do that day complete with endless photos and status updates. Surely if you are genuinely that bloody busy you don't have time to arse about on fb.

I know some that love to moan on about being so busy, and they don't have time to even read the paper when half the stuff they do is completely unnecessary. The truly genuinely busy people don't have time to whine about it. They just get on with it.

ssd Sun 19-May-13 10:13:27

this does ring true to me, something I'd always suspected

BalloonSlayer Sun 19-May-13 10:17:10

the facebook thing is the eternal conundrum like diaries ipswichwitch - the only time I ever have time to keep a diary is when I have nothing interesting to put in it. During the times in my life that were worth writing about for posterity, I wouldn't have been able to find the spare minutes in the day to put it on paper.

Jenijena Sun 19-May-13 10:21:43

No. A childless couple I know want to both work three days as they're just too busy... doing f all apart from moaning a out how the world needs to give them a break

magimedi Sun 19-May-13 10:27:46

My late MIL always gave the same reply when people told her how busy they were:

"Never mind, busy hands are happy hands."

Really annoying. grin

HerrenaHarridan Sun 19-May-13 11:11:30

I really am that busy too blush

Usually 4-6 weeks ahead in my diary before I can guarantee enough time to properly hang out with friends.

I don't generally go on about it much. But to be honest you'd have to be a sick puppy to envy me ferrying my daughter to endless hospital appts ( 2hr round trip, will take between 1-4 hours)

Spending my whole fucking Saturday taking dd to visit her dad (4hr round trip plus contact time)

I also have 2 groups I take her to regularly (she is an only child)

Then various friends (close by to visit/ return favours) and family (far away Skype appts, develop photos and send presents etc.

Oh yeah and dd, the dog and the house / garden.

And I'm learning to drive!

Sorry if I've offended you!

HerrenaHarridan Sun 19-May-13 11:13:39

But I must confess a tendency to laziness whoever the opportunity arises, plus I mn when baby is sleeping on bus blush

HerrenaHarridan Sun 19-May-13 11:15:35

When I was with my ex I used to thin I should start smoking again just for an excuse to leave him in the house with the baby held a hundred times a day while I stand outside and take deep breaths.

I tried just standing out there with a cup if tea but u just used to stare and all the things still needing done and feel tiredsad

IbeginHere Sun 19-May-13 11:31:43

when her and her dh actually have a night in with the kids it has to be turned into a movie night, or some other big deal, like sitting in with the kids is an event

My fb friend is the same. Even the down time is planned to the nth degree. She writes at 9am on fb, 'pj day today'. I can imagine her getting up in the morning and saying 'right girls, today is a pj day so we will not be getting dressed'. In this house a pj day happens because we suddenly look round and realise we have been too lazy to get dressed, not something that is ever planned.

I do wonder if there is ever any spontaneity in their lives.

LaQueen Sun 19-May-13 12:10:34

"Oh, lequeen i have just been on 'threads i'm on' and you're the last poster one i am on saying 'Have had a busy day taking kids to tutor, cricket, party'

Make your mind up dude? Is that busy or trying to popular/important and worthwhile???

PS hope you feel better soon."

Good point grin But, actually, I used busy in a deeply annoyed, self pitying way - because, I felt so ill, and was feeling very sorry for myself, having to be a taxi all day sad

I think the point of this thread, is expressing annoyance at those who like to use busy to denote how popular/important/necessary they are, yes?

chocoluvva Sun 19-May-13 17:12:57

When people complain about being busy - through their own choice - I have no sympathy. Give something up or put up with it.

I'm bitter though as I have a chronic health condition which limits the amount I can do.

Decoy Sun 19-May-13 17:55:22

When "busy" people list their activities they sound the same as many other people who don't keep going on about being busy.

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