To Think DH is Being Ridiculous...

(67 Posts)
Rockinhippy Sat 18-May-13 12:43:14

I will avoid being rude & writing as I really think as i will show him this thread later grin

Rejigging our living room & setting up a new TV & as a result have just had "words" with DH & he just won't let it liehmm, so I am throwing it open to the MN jury smile

We have a large old style 32" Panasonic Flat screen TV in another room, that will be replaced by the slim TV we are now replacing in the living room - so the old Panasonic can go.

In fairness when it was new 11 years ago, it was top of the range & is still a decent TV - BUT - I don't think anyone wants the old style deep backed style, even if they are a good brand I'm so technical not

I have recently seen the same TV in a junk shop window priced at £40 - it took weeks & weeks to sell - if it did sell & wasn't just moved.

SOOoo I suggest offering to give the TV to a friend of mine who doesn't have TV, though her DCs are obsessed with it when they come to visit/stay - she's not anti TV, but since hers died hasn't replaced it & haas said she isn't sure if she wants to, but probably will at some point as she realises the DCs miss it & as she has health problems TV can be useful at times she's struggling to cope.

DH thinks as it was an expensive TV when new, I should offer to sell it to her, not give it & has just has a rant at me as a result of my disagreeinghmm

SOooo AIBU to think we will be hard pushed to GIVE it away, let alone try & SELL it, as people just don't want these big old TVs anymore



TallyGrenshall Sat 18-May-13 12:46:46


I think it would be lovely to give it to your friend. A charity shop near me has bigger ones than yours and for less money and they still don't sell.

How much does he think he will sell it for?

selsigfach Sat 18-May-13 12:48:52

Yanbu. Give it to to your friend or freecycle if she doesn't want it.

LadyVoldemort Sat 18-May-13 12:49:00

Yanbu. If you don't really need the money then it'd be a lovely gift to give to someone who'd appreciate it.
Your DH is being greedy.

PoppyWearer Sat 18-May-13 12:50:13


We had one of those TVs and gave it away. It really wasn't worth trying to sell it.

Passmethecrisps Sat 18-May-13 12:50:32


Give it away. Noone will buy it but your friend and her children will be very grateful.

Where does he plan to sell it? Get him to have a wee look on eBay to see if they are selling.

LoveBeingUpAt4InTheMorning Sat 18-May-13 12:50:54


inchoccyheaven Sat 18-May-13 12:50:56

YANBU unless you are desperate for money, but like you said it could take ages to sell and your friend may not want to buy it anyway if she's not that bothered about having one whereas if its free might as well have it.

SJisontheway Sat 18-May-13 12:51:50


Picturepuncture Sat 18-May-13 12:52:08

Yanbu give it to her.

TWinklyLittleStar Sat 18-May-13 12:52:59


A friend gave away one of those tellys to me 7 years ago because even then the resale value was almost non existent. I was very grateful but it also saved her trying to get rid of it

Oldraver Sat 18-May-13 12:55:15

Tell him to stop being a miser and give it to her, Is it even Digital ?

LegArmpits Sat 18-May-13 12:56:48

You can't get rid for love nor money. Yanbu, give it to her!

EllaFitzgerald Sat 18-May-13 12:57:38

I think he's being massively optimistic if he thinks anyone will pay money for one of those TVs, regardless of the make. If someone's got money to buy a second hand telly, they're probably going to buy a newer one, as your friend would be likely to do.

I think it's a lovely gesture to give it to your friend. I wonder whether she hasn't replaced it because she can't afford to.

LuckyLuckyMe Sat 18-May-13 12:58:01

YANBU. We have an 11 year old Panasonic monster of a TV and we would LOVE if someone took it away. It's so heavy it takes 2 big men to carry it.
We thought of giving it to a charity shop but I think they would never make any money from it and it would just be in the way.

shockers Sat 18-May-13 12:58:20

I'd throw in a TV licence too wink

GoingUpInTheWorld Sat 18-May-13 13:00:25

Your husband needs to get in the real world.

Its not worth selling. The tight arsed sod!


YANBU. Some SS office's also take them, as they give them to care leavers, whose budgets don't stretch to TV's.

RandomMess Sat 18-May-13 13:01:04

Ha ha ha ha

You can't give them away on freecycle most of the time!

TheCutOfYourJib Sat 18-May-13 13:01:52

My friend tried to sell one, in the end she struggled to give it away free.
Your dh is being a tight arse.

tumbletumble Sat 18-May-13 13:02:38


We recently got rid of a similar TV on freecycle.

flanbase Sat 18-May-13 13:04:16

that's nice to give it to her. If your dh complains about you giving it away then put him in charge of selling it

ShadowStorm Sat 18-May-13 13:08:14

YANBU. An 11 yr old TV won't be worth very much at all and will be a PITA to try and sell.

Corygal Sat 18-May-13 13:09:42

My parents had to pay someone 35 quid to take a TV like that away.

Fluffycloudland77 Sat 18-May-13 13:11:12

Just give it to her, no ones going to buy an old cathode ray TV unless its gold plated with rubies for switches.

bran Sat 18-May-13 13:12:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PareyMortas Sat 18-May-13 13:13:25

Yanbu we had a similar tv, tried to sell it for £30 and ended up taking it to the dump.

YANBU, an 11 yo TV is not going to sell.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AgentZigzag Sat 18-May-13 13:17:50

YANBU, even if they offered anything for it I wouldn't take it.

They might get your DH a bottle of something as a thank you?

danceponydance Sat 18-May-13 13:19:29

YANBU and he's being a fool. DH & I both coincidentally had the same large, top of the range tv when we got together. Mine was replaced earlier than his and we just about managed to get someone to take it away after listing it on freecycle. His went to the tip when we moved in together as there was no other way of getting rid of it. I listed it on MN for free with no interest.

Sativa Sat 18-May-13 13:22:36

YANBU !! Why are people (or is it just men?) so bloody mean? Things lose value & you've had your use out of it so why on earth wouldn't you give it to a friend in need? Has your DH got something against this friend or is he always this tight ?

I had a similar situation with a Moses basket that I wanted to give to my friend. My DP didn't think I should give it away for nothing even though I'd been given it for free in the first place !

releasethehounds Sat 18-May-13 13:25:04

We gave our old telly away to The Good Shepherd charity, who were thrilled with it. It was one of those silver, deep-backed ones, but still in good condition. Wouldn't have thought of selling it.

TidyDancer Sat 18-May-13 13:27:27

I think your DH is being mean! Yanbu, give it to your friend!

StuntGirl Sat 18-May-13 13:29:32

YANBU, your husband is being tight and unrealistic. You'll struggle to sell it, hell, you'll struggle to give it away if you don't have someone in mind who wants to take it!

ENormaSnob Sat 18-May-13 13:31:12

He is tighter than cramp.

And unrealistic.

joanofarchitrave Sat 18-May-13 13:33:17

If he's not happy to give it to her, fine; I wouldn't give something that was jointly owned with my partner away unless he was happy about it. But I also wouldn't ask for money from a partner's friend unless he was happy about it. It's very unappealing of your dh but nobody is perfect. I would say bluntly to him that you would really like it out of the house in a few weeks and can he be willing to take the responsibility of selling it, with giving it to your friend as a backup. But make it clear you are not willing to ask your friend for money.

I think it would be just about acceptable to ask her to pick it up, if she has access to a car, rather than taking it round to her.

Kewcumber Sat 18-May-13 13:33:22

She won't take it if you charge - she can probably get one from freecycle. I gave mine away on freecycle.

Then your DH is going to have to shlepp it down to the nearest dump himself.

Chandon Sat 18-May-13 13:35:37

Easy solution: DH gets two weeks to sell the damn thing, if it does not sell it is your to do with as you please. Everybody happy. Everything fair.

God I am so pragmatic!

BackforGood Sat 18-May-13 13:38:29

Agree with everyone else - just give it to her. People don't pay out money for 11 yr old electrical goods, esp the very old, heavy TVs.
Good suggestions above about humouring him and saying he could have 2 weeks to try and sell it somewhere, and if it doesn't sell, then you can give it away.

Wishiwasanheiress Sat 18-May-13 13:39:15

Dh is unfortunately deluded. Nobody will pay much for those now.

Sorry. You win here.

fairimum Sat 18-May-13 13:46:24

We tried to sell ours for £10 with no luck, took 3 weeks advertised as free before it went!

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Sat 18-May-13 13:51:46

YANBU he's being mean.

We struggled to give our deep backed tv away 2 years ago.

CecilyP Sat 18-May-13 13:54:31

YANBU, people are not buying these old TVs, (I have one lurking in my hall) so it is nice that you can give it to a friend who will appreciate it.

I can kind of understand where your DH is coming from as it is hard to understand that something so expensive (and seemingly luxurious) is now valueless.

ivykaty44 Sat 18-May-13 13:57:22

No one can give tv away atm - so your dh is living in cloud cuckoo land if he thinks he can sell the thing grin

He is lucy to see it go to a good home tbh

Most end up at the tip round here

glastocat Sat 18-May-13 13:59:12

Yanbu, CRT TVs have no resale value any more.

Cerisier Sat 18-May-13 14:03:15

The tv is now obsolete. Your DH will not be able to get any money for it even if he tries.

By all means let him try, make a deal that if he hasn't sold it in three weeks you can give it to your friend.

He has shown himself to be ungenerous and mean though, which is not appealing. If it were my DH I would be very disappointed.

CloudsAndTrees Sat 18-May-13 14:07:39

Let him try to sell it, then you will have your answer.

If its jointly owned, his opinion matters as much as yours, so he should have the chance to get some money for it if he wants. But he should be the one trying to do the selling, not you, and he should leave your friend out of it.

If he doesn't sell it, then it can be offered to your friend. I'd he says he can't be bothered to try and sell it himself, then he has no right to make you ask a friend for money for it.

Stinkyminkymoo Sat 18-May-13 14:15:27

Your DH is bu. I had the same type but a Sony and cost me a fortune when i bought it, I gave it away to my best friends DH to put in their rental home.

You can't really sell them, the technology is so old now!

RiceBurner Sat 18-May-13 14:24:30


SoupDragon Sat 18-May-13 14:26:23

I couldn't even give away my huge old TV. It ended up at the tip.

Iggi101 Sat 18-May-13 14:29:33

Let him put it on Gumtree. Then he can man the phones as the calls flood in. Or not.
Would be very rude to ask friend for money for something that you could not easily sell.

KurriKurri Sat 18-May-13 14:30:29

A man with no friends, sitting in a room surrounded by obsolete electrical goods is not a good look for anyone, - I hope you are reading this MrRockin.

The glow you get from generosity is beyond price <<<<<woo music>>>>


LtEveDallas Sat 18-May-13 14:35:46

We couldn't even get ours nicked!

Put it at the side of the house alongside the broken dishwasher and fridge one morning before taking DD to school, intending to take them all to the recyclers when we got back. Did the school run and in the 30-45 mins that took, both the fridge and dishwasher were nicked, but the TV was left!

AmberLeaf Sat 18-May-13 14:41:15

It would need either a freeview box or cable/satellite to work anyway.

It could be used to watch dvds though.

He is being mean and he won't sell it, that is why freecycle is full of these TVs.

myroomisatip Sat 18-May-13 14:45:05


I think it is a lovely thought to offer it to your friend.

ScrambledSmegs Sat 18-May-13 14:54:49


We had one of those. Couldn't get rid of it for love nor money. We even left it outside on a nice day and not even the junkies down the road wanted it - to be fair they'd have had a job lifting it with their wasted arm muscles. Took it to the dump in the end.

Someone you know can give it a useful home. Perfect!

We have an old Panasonic like you describe and put it in the boys room for their consoles as it really wasn't good for much else.

Give it to your friend, it won't sell so at least if you give it away it'll get some use.

fuzzpig Sat 18-May-13 15:00:24

YANBU, HIBUAATW (AATW = and a tight wad grin)

You sound like a lovely friend. When now-DH and I first moved out, we had no telly and my friend asked his mum to give us their old tv as they were updating theirs. We only bought a new one last year just in time for digital - so we had their old telly for about 5 years! It was lovely not to have to find the money for one.

Maryz Sat 18-May-13 15:01:33

I have an old 32 inch sony with a deep back and I've been trying to give it away; no-one will take it, even the charity shop.

greenformica Sat 18-May-13 15:03:51

11 years old is very old for a tv. best give away.

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 18-May-13 15:08:17

I personally think there is something deeply unpleasant about someone who is not poor selling low value items to friends or family it just leaves a really nasty taste in my mouth.


elfycat Sat 18-May-13 15:21:46

YANBU. Sounds like the one we sold for £10, 4 years ago and it'll be worth less now as flat screens are coming round second hand cheap or on freecycle.

Tell him to be grateful it's going somewhere useful at all. His 'green' credentials are all the reward he can expect.

Rockinhippy Sat 18-May-13 16:25:50

Thank you for all the replies, so its unanimous then grin

you've got me laughing my head off with some of themgringringrin

& wondering if some of you know him - Kurri I'm now wondering if you have been in our atticgrin

I bought the TV, so the final say was always going to be mine, but I needed him to see how unrealistic he is been, as he can get too attached to junk Mr Treebus in the soddin making

Thanks again I will be offering it to my friend & if she doesn't want it, will Greencycle it smile

amazingmumof6 Sat 18-May-13 17:11:15

you can not offer it to friend then ask them to pay that is just so embarrassing and rude!

give it away or call a charity like British Heart Fundation they might be able to pick it up and then sell in their designated shops so you won't feel it's wasted.
or take it to the skip.

DH is unreasonable.

kotinka Sat 18-May-13 17:31:03

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

raisah Sat 18-May-13 18:23:59

Give it to your friend as a lovely, kind gesture and tell your husband after you have done it :-)

He is being VU, delusional & greedy. You would have to pay someone to take it away!

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