My neighbour is outside mowing/trimming land that belongs to us. Should I be annoyed or grateful?

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There's a small strip of grass/bushes opposite our house. It's the top of a private road so technically that bit is ours. The grass has got a bit overgrown (was mown 2 weeks ago) and one of the bushes was, admittedly, a bit too bushy.

It was on the list to do this weekend. DH is working away this week.

The neighbour has been out with a chainsaw, a strimmer, a mower. I want him to go away! I barely know him (he lives 5 doors down.) Is he doing this to be nice? Is he being an arse? Should I go out with a pitchfork?

FannyFifer Thu 16-May-13 12:47:15

Send him to my house.

Think it prob just annoyed him looking at it so thought what the hell.

Tell him thanks.grin

NotYoMomma Thu 16-May-13 12:47:21

Maybe he is just fed up or your messy land or is thinking of selling his own and sorting out the eyesore next door ;P

Maybe he thinks its his land?

Maybe he is being friendly?

MAYBE... You should pop out and chat to him?

flowery Thu 16-May-13 12:48:54

Why do you want him to go away? Is it too noisy or something? confused

I don't know, it's making me feel bad that he's doing it! We would have done it (eventually!).

toiletbrush Thu 16-May-13 12:51:03

Yabu. Go out there and thank him and apologise for neglecting your bush!

MaxPepsi Thu 16-May-13 12:51:43

Does he know the land is yours?

My DH loves gardening and I can't stand messy bits of grass so to please both himself and keep me quiet he'd do it!

Go out and say thanks very much, it was on our list of jobs to do this weekend. You've saved DH a job then offer him a beer/tea.
See what he says. It could be the start of fantastic neighbourly relations.

Booyhoo Thu 16-May-13 12:53:32

he's doing his neighbiours a favour. go and thank him.

KittensandKids Thu 16-May-13 12:53:48

My neighbour strimmed my lawn after I my dad cut it - last week I was pleased!

KittensandKids Thu 16-May-13 12:55:10

BE careful though my ex neighbour came and did my grass whilst I was asleep last year (plugged in lawn mover in next door) he also painted my naice red/brown garden furniture black and ran out half way...........angry

squoosh Thu 16-May-13 12:59:16

He PAINTED your garden furniture??

Plomino Thu 16-May-13 13:00:40

My neighbour did the strip of land between our flower beds and the road the other day . We all have to have one as a convenant that came with the house . He was doing his and just carried on , because he knows we're unlikely to get it done . One of my other neighbours came out with his tractor and flail mower and did all our field hedges for us , because he noticed they needed doing ( they really did ! ) even though they were our responsibility .

We thanked him with a bottle of wine or two , because it would have taken DH ages with the chainsaw , and been a pain in the backside to get rid of .

KittensandKids Thu 16-May-13 13:02:15

He painted my garden furniture

Tried to re-home it on freecycle and they wouldn't even take it away free.

I kept one bench and the rest was chopped and given to DC collecting wood for bonfire display......


OK OK I have gone outside! He was very lovely. I am deeply embarrassed about not maintaining my bush blush

Corygal Thu 16-May-13 13:03:48

What a sweet man. Everyone's got to look at it regardless of who it belongs to - bring him a beer.

Mine is so overgrown. I'm waiting for neighbour to get fed up of the sight of it and do it. They will crack soon

HesterShaw Thu 16-May-13 13:06:19

GRATEFUL OF COURSE. Are you mad, woman?

HesterShaw Thu 16-May-13 13:06:40

Arf at "not maintaining my bush." grin

Floggingmolly Thu 16-May-13 13:10:15

Are you sure the land belongs to you? He probably imagines it's owned by all the residents in common.

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:13:05

I would be grateful. I'd want a neighbour to come over and do my front garden grin

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:13:51

And if he does it again, how about go out, chat to him and maybe offer him a tea and biscuit? Then you'll get to know him, isn't it?

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:16:21

Oh now read that you've gone and thanked him. Well done! I wish I have neighbours that nice!

I'm just really embarrassed. I'll be seeing all the other neighbours and they all know he's done it. They're all older with immaculate houses - we're the only ones with little children, a doer-upper and messy bushes.

blush blush blush

I did give him a beer.

reelingintheyears Thu 16-May-13 14:55:19

I'd actually want him to leave it alone and let wildlife and wild flowers have a chance,even nettles are good for attracting butterflies.

shoofly Thu 16-May-13 14:58:16

I used to feel embarrassed by our messy garden, but with a small child who didn't sleep, it was way down my list of priorities. I was always shamed by a quite intimidating neighbour whose garden was immaculate. I mentioned it once to the neighbour in a "Oh your lovely garden puts me to shame" kind of way. She promptly told me to not be daft, I had a husband and small child and more important things to do with my time! She said she was retired and loved gardening and basically it kept her busy! So never worry too much what other people think.

MOTU Thu 16-May-13 15:02:00

Ha ha ha!!! This exact thing is happening to me! And it's our front garden so I am desperately trying to not make eye contact while he is right outside my window. I would move but I'm pregnant and having my one hour of resting time while my toddler sleeps! At least today he's clothed, last time he was shirtless-almost lost my lunch!

I get why you're embarassed - but the chances are all your neighbours with the immaculate houses can remember the day when they had little kids and were too tired and busy to trim the garden, too.

I remember dh dithering once about whether to mow the neighbours lawn - it was one of those at the front that joins on with no obvious line between houses, and once you've got the mower out it only took a few minutes extra to do the lot. He was all worried about whether the neighbour would be embarrassed if he mowed it. (He did mow it, she said thanks, it was fine!)

conantg Thu 16-May-13 20:21:06

Your husband may have views on your neighbour attending to your bush while he is away working.

greenfolder Thu 16-May-13 20:43:36

When my older dc were babies our lovely neighbour david used to do our lawns front and back- he was retired and said that by the time he had warmed the mower up he might just as well do ours. In reality he was lovely and just wanted to help out (and make a fuss of the babies). When I retire I hope I can find a nice young couple to help out!

IceNoSlice Thu 16-May-13 20:50:21

Fnar fnar at bush trimming puns.

I think my husband will just be happy my bush is being trimmed at all to be honest blush

superram Thu 16-May-13 20:52:41

I secretly want to trim the hedges of the house 5 doors down. My own could do with doing but theirs would be a great challenge (fill half the pavement). I would ask first, but probably will never do it. Maybe hoovering my own home would help..,,

cocolepew Thu 16-May-13 20:57:30

My ndn decided to cut the grass opposite my house,(the council usually do it) then he got out his chainsaw and decided to cut down trees. I asked him to stop and he chased me down the road with the chainsaw.
I didn't give him a beer.

ilikehomecookedfood Thu 16-May-13 21:00:03

I did this for my neighbour - it seemed a bit churlish not to as I was out there with the lawnmower anyway! I did text first to ask, though.

Some people are just funny about longish grass; my dad is, he has endless conversations with his neighbours about the length of it hmm

Startail Thu 16-May-13 21:01:50

You are reminding me to get DH to do our hedge before next door decides it's an eyesore. She's lovely, but she's not as tall as DH and her garden slopes slightly. She cuts it lower than looks right our side. In any case she's getting on and it's a great beast of a hedge. DH and his petrol clippers ought to do it.

N-S hedge so no great shading issues, it's actually us who loose evening sun, but gain privacy.

DameFanny Thu 16-May-13 21:10:08

coco - what happened next?

I want to know too!

cocolepew Thu 16-May-13 21:38:41

A man few doors away rugby tackled him to the ground, it wasn't the first time we have had to call the police on him. He was a nightmare.

Oh my God! I'll keep my neighbour I think!

DameFanny Thu 16-May-13 22:11:47


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