In leaving DD at home poorly whilst we go out for a meal?

(52 Posts)

It's my birthday. DH and I are meant to be going to the local hostelry for dinner whilst DD is at Guides in the next door hall. We can walk her to Guides at 7pm, have dinner then walk home with her at 9pm.

She has not gone to school because of a sore throat and bad head.

DH thinks we shouldn't leave her at home this evening and we should cancel our meal.

I think she will survive.

She is 13.

Eskino Thu 16-May-13 11:22:19

I would cancel seeing that she's poorly.

Can you get a nice takeaway you can all share instead?

Eskino Thu 16-May-13 11:23:15

Happy birthday!

I don't want a takeaway

<sulks>

Thank you

megandraper Thu 16-May-13 11:24:49

Have the meal next week. You'll enjoy it more.

MammaTJ Thu 16-May-13 11:24:59

13, she will survive.

Happy Birthday.

TheSecondComing Thu 16-May-13 11:25:02

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SpockSmashesScissors Thu 16-May-13 11:25:18

Get a take-away

Seems a bit mean to go when she's stuck at home feeling poorly.

LifeofPo Thu 16-May-13 11:25:37

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livinginwonderland Thu 16-May-13 11:25:59

I thought you were talking about a six year old! She's 13, she'll cope. She'll probably love lounging on the sofa and hogging the TV!

LEMisdisappointed Thu 16-May-13 11:27:58

See what she wants to do

She will want to stay at home with my ipad.

She is already lounging on the sofa under a quilt with the tv on.

squeakytoy Thu 16-May-13 11:36:25

Just go. She will be fine at home on her own.. its a sore throat, not a life threatening illness.

Theselittlelightsofmine Thu 16-May-13 11:38:24

She can always call if she needs you

thebody Thu 16-May-13 11:39:17

If she doesn't mind and hasn't got a temp then go.

If she does mind and she's got a temp then stay and go next week.

Purely depends on how she feels I think.

Happy birthday.

Thank you - it is only a 10 minute walk away. I will see how she is later.

I have been dieting for months and fancied indulging in some high quality but not over fattening food. A takeaway just doesn't fit the bill.

Areyoumadorisitme Thu 16-May-13 11:49:36

Just go. She is 13, not 10. You will be within easy reach and she will be happy on the sofa.

Happy birthday! smile

PeppermintPasty Thu 16-May-13 11:53:42

You are allowed to go because you are the holder of one of my favourite usernames on MN.

<gavel>

Happy birthday.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Thu 16-May-13 11:53:57

She's 13 and its just a sore throat.

Have a good night out and happy birthday.

meditrina Thu 16-May-13 11:55:06

Happy Birthday!

Yes, she'll survive. I'd decide a bit later in the day. If she has a good sleep then perks up a bit, then I think it's fine. I didn't like leaving DS for 2hours when he was ill (it just seemed so mean) but he was perfectly happy to nest on the sofa with DVDs.

Have asked her. She is fine with it. It is DH who thinks it is mean.

Maybe I should go on my own .....

Thank you Peppermint

HazleNutt Thu 16-May-13 11:59:45

13 and sore throat, not a sick toddler. And you weren't planning to take her along in the first place, so not liek she's missing out. Of course you should go.

Thumbwitch Thu 16-May-13 12:01:55

Go, she'll be fine. smile
Happy Birthday, btw. thanks

thebody Thu 16-May-13 12:02:15

Your dh sounds like mine!! Any excuse to save money!! Ha ha

daisydoodoo Thu 16-May-13 12:02:20

She wasn't going for the meal anyway, so I'd leave her at home with ipad/film/icelolly and go. You'll only be the same amount of time and 13 is old enough to be home alone. I assume she has use of a phone she could call if she needs you or is worried?

Use of a phone <hollow laugh>

She is surgically attached to her blackberry, but covets my iPhone

badtasteyoni Thu 16-May-13 12:07:45

Happy Birthday! But I think it's a bit mean to leave her at home on her own if she's unwell. Can't you get someone to come and sit with her for a couple of hours so you can still go without feeling guilty?

HazleNutt Thu 16-May-13 12:09:52

I certainly would have been shock if my parents got me a babysitter at age 13 because I had a sore throat.

I am ashamed to say we have never had a babysitter apart from my parents. My dad is housebound so she usually goes there if we need to go out. But I don't want him catching whatever lurgy she has.

The irony is that she is meant to be having her mmr jab at 5pm.

<opens can of worms>

Hope she hasn't got mumps shock

badtasteyoni Thu 16-May-13 12:12:54

Ok that's not possible then - I was thinking of one of her grandparents, etc coming round to keep her company rather than a real 'babysitter' IYSWIM....

RocknRollNerd Thu 16-May-13 12:13:31

Go! and Happy Birthday!

Me and DH buggered off to Bath for 2 nights when DS (aged 2 or 3 I think) had tonsillitis. It had been booked and paid for months in advance and MIL was coming to stay and look after DS. I had a brief crisis of guilt when we got up the morning we were due to go and he was 39 and a bit degrees and clearly suffering with his usual sudden onset tonsillitis. We went to docs, got anti-b's and MIL persuaded us that she'd raised 3 kids (incl DH who was also a martyr to his tonsils!) and it would all be fine. It was indeed fine (we knew DS picks up very quickly once he has anti-b's and he adores MIL) so I would say leaving a 13 year old for 2 hours should almost certainly be more than fine.

differentnameforthis Thu 16-May-13 12:38:40

I was left on my own at 13 with chicken pox, while parents went to work. Coped pretty well all told.

Pretty sure your dd will be fine & might enjoy her own company!

LaQueen Thu 16-May-13 12:55:54

Paracetamol, get her comfy infront of the TV...off you toddle...enjoy your dinner smile

I was left on my own at 10 whilst parents went to work shock

Right, decision made, just need to talk DH round now.

THERhubarb Thu 16-May-13 13:00:21

If she doesn't get any worse then rent a DVD for her to watch. Make sure she takes a couple of painkillers and has a drink by her side. Take your phones with you.

She will probably be fine and if she's not then she can call you to come home.

If you don't go and she's ok then you'll only resent her and your dh for making you stay behind.

It's not like you are going to be a million miles away, you are just down the road. You can be back within minutes. Obviously if she worsens then you must stay but if she's no different, no good can come from you cancelling your meal. She is hardly likely to benefit much from you skulking around her.

Happy Birthday!

THERhubarb Thu 16-May-13 13:01:06

Tell your dh to get a grip.

Almostfifty Thu 16-May-13 13:01:52

She's 13, not 3!

Happy Birthday!

LEMisdisappointed Thu 16-May-13 16:51:52

So long as she is happy to be left, she will be fine - go and enjoy yourself - i would suggest getting a friend to keep her company (emphasis on the "company" not look after, shes 13!) but you don't want to pass on whatever lurgies she has - she will probably sit and facebook everyone watch tv anyway. She will be gutted if you stay home grin

Areyoumadorisitme Fri 17-May-13 07:26:20

Did you go and did you have a nice evening?

Alwayscheerful Fri 17-May-13 07:33:05

13 not 3!

No we didn't. DH and I had one of our arguments at lunchtime and I decided I would rather imbibe belladonna than sit making pleasant conversation with him for two hours. So I cancelled the table and drank a bottle of prosecco and ate a bag of peanuts whilst watching the dambusters anniversary.

Thumbwitch Fri 17-May-13 11:09:55

Aww shame but I can relate. Hope DD is better today.

She is a bit better. Managed to phone me from her room to demand a bacon butty!

ssd Fri 17-May-13 11:18:15

yy to "one of our arguments"

been there done that

Kewcumber Fri 17-May-13 11:20:23

if she's well enough to go to guides, she's well enough to be left for a few hours. She's not a baby.

Did she go to guides (out of interest)?

THERhubarb Fri 17-May-13 11:22:05

I bloody hope he apologised to you Exit! I bet you pull out all the stops on his birthday and it annoys me no end when they can't be arsed to make an effort for you.

Make sure he takes you out this weekend and gently remind him of all the things you've for him on birthdays and Father's Day.

Glad your dd is feeling better.

TheSecondComing Fri 17-May-13 11:24:03

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SusanneLinder Fri 17-May-13 12:34:46

Your DH better make up for being a prat on your birthday.

FWIW- I would have left the 13 year old. My 14 year old is also off with a sore throat, and I buggered off to Morrisons and left her.grin

Just go! She's 13 and has a sore throat. Wouldn't think twice of going if it was me. Happy Birthday!

blush Sorry - posted too late.

Sorry you didn't get your birthday night out sad

Gentle is not in my psyche I'm afraid.

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