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to really hate brithdays?

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I turn into a spoilt brat and sulk all day every bloody year. I start geting miserable days before, need to break the cycle its pathetic.

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:46:42

why do you sulk ?

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:46:52

or what do you sulk about

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:47:11

is it your birthday today are you sulking wink

Cause I end up feeling like nobody but dh and dc's love me and for some reason I always expect some degree of specialness but in actual fact dcs are at school and dh is at work and I am sat at home on my own.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Tue 14-May-13 09:51:20

Go out and but yourself a cake and a cup of tea and a magazine and just sit and enjoy it.
I'd love that for my birthday.
Nobody else should care about your birthday, it's not like you're the queen!!

he he but I am the queen. dmum was telling me (well the kids) at the weekend how they are going for a day out and lunch today and I just thought that would be nice.

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:54:08

we could have a virtual birthday party it is my birthday today as well, I know it is just a day but sometimes you want something nice to happen,

smile Happy Birthday Mrs Jay, dh has bought me a lovely present. some flaningos for the garden I ought to find them a home. can we have cake and wine?

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:57:35

Happy birthday to you too smile I havnt got presents I have to wait till they come home sad I think that translates to dd1 forgot to get it and will get it on her way home from uni grin we cant have wine this early can we

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 09:58:30

and tbh the dc and your husband is really the only people that matter

I reckon we can smile

you are very right, I know that the sulk is just me being a brat. I do it every year and now its like its inevitable. <slaps self round face>

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:03:11

I feel a bit deflated tbh dont be too hard on yourself ,

valiumredhead Tue 14-May-13 10:05:07

Happy Birthday dita and you too mrsjay smile thanks

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:05:55

thank you smile

valiumredhead Tue 14-May-13 10:09:28

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mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:11:53

WOOOOOOOOSH now where me party hat

isitsnowingyet Tue 14-May-13 10:12:32

Happy Birthday to the pair of you - wine after 1pm (?)

ALittleBitOfMagic Tue 14-May-13 10:14:53

I started a thread exactly like this yesterday . I hate my birthday too . For the exact same reason . My parents got dh two designer t shirts for his birthday last week . I got shampoo and a hair dye hmm

Marrow Tue 14-May-13 10:15:00

I don't normally sulk on birthdays but did this year. It was my 40th in January. Dh had talked about us going away for a weekend but that didn't materialise. We didn't even go out for a meal or a drink. He cooked dinner and gave me a card but no present or birthday cake. It was the most uncelebrated birthday I've ever had hmm I'm still grumpy about it nearly five months later!

valiumredhead Tue 14-May-13 10:22:20

marrow that's worse than forgetting altogether imo! sad

I would be mightily pissed off.

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:24:02

SO would I Id be livid a landmark birthday is important Marrow
and erm hair dye and shampoo shock

ephemeralfairy Tue 14-May-13 10:26:58

I LOVE birthdays, my own and others. I am a total drama queen on my birthday and expect everyone to get involved.

Then again, I am a total Scrooge when it comes to Christmas and would love to just ignore the whole bloody charade, so it all balances out wink

Go out and treat yourself to something or do something you wouldn't normally do, then next year guilt-trip/bully everyone into doing what you want.

valiumredhead Tue 14-May-13 10:28:20

YY I would scrap Christmas all together but birthdays are big in this house! Dh doesn't 'get it' but I have explained he doesn't have to get it he just has to 'do it' grin

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:29:34

thats w hat I say my dh doesn't do birthdays well tough titties lovey i do bring on the presents grin

LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 14-May-13 10:31:50

I hate my birthday and Christmas. [Eeyore]

ephemeralfairy Tue 14-May-13 10:32:31

Quite right valium, my boyfriend got short shrift when he said 'I don't have to get you a card do I?'
He was all 'meh' about his birthday last week but I made a big deal about it and he ended up having a brilliant time.

MadBusLady Tue 14-May-13 10:38:16

Happy birthday dita and mrsjay! There's another birthday thread over here with three people on it. That must be enough for a party, I reckon?

My birthday today too... bit of a non event, but i got spoiled over the weekend instead!

Happy Birthday to you both smile

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 10:45:06

thank you madbuslady

Happy Birthday Kansas City x

postman made me smile a .lot smile

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 15:23:50

Happy Birthday kansas did you get something nice dita I got the school newsletter in my post hmm

zaphod Tue 14-May-13 15:29:20

It is also my birthday, and I too have the same problem as you OP. I expect too much I think. Anyway, Happy Birthday to us all and may we be around to complain about many more in the future.smile

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 15:33:13

Happy Birthday zap smile

zaphod Tue 14-May-13 15:40:34

Thanks. Even the weather is depressing now...hailstones. Is it just me or didn't the weather used to be nice in May?

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 15:41:49

the weather is grim isn't it sad

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 15:42:49

yes the weather used to be lovely in may I can remember the DDs going to school with no jackets just blouses and blazers

mrsjay thats depressing, i got a photo of me as a bridesmaid about 5yo from my aunty in a card, plus a little pressie from my best mate who I ahvent spoken to in months as been so busy and a card and some chocs from the inlaws, then my friend took me out for a scone and coffee on her lunch hour, then my mum came round with a big bunch of flowers. I dont mind the weather got a woodburner not long ago so any excuse to light it.
Zap happy birthday smile

motherinferior Tue 14-May-13 17:38:16

Take matters into your own hands. Make a fuss months weeks in advance. Throw a party. Insist on everyone celebrating YOU YOU YOU glorious YOU.

I do this. It's much more fun grin

ButternutSquish Tue 14-May-13 17:42:09

It's my birthday on saturday and I've made DH organise a party (just because it falls on a saturday rather than a boring week day) But we've just had a pipe leak in the lounge! The carpet is sodden, we have a hole in the ceiling and damage to the walls. I don't know whether to just laugh or cry about it? sad

squish thats awful, I bet your friends wont mind the hole in the ceiling and at least you dont have to worry about the carpet getting ruined

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 21:55:37

oh no butter that is awful was your party at home ?

looks like you have had a good birthday dita

Dh surprised me with a weekend away NO KIDS we go on friday grin

FadBook Tue 14-May-13 22:07:36

Happy birthday mrsjay and dita winewinewinewine

Fellow Taurus people if you believe in that shit i have a 'big' birthday next Monday and feel a bit bleh about it all.

DP will be working and said sunday night 'what do you want?'...hmm I want you to think for yourself and spoil me! angry he's been on the computer tonight and told me not to check the bank account this week or open any parcels winkgrin

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 22:09:26

oo fad book bet it is going to be lovely grin let us know what it is

FadBook Wed 15-May-13 18:16:52

Will do! I really want to check the account!!!

mrsjay Thu 16-May-13 08:28:04

oh no don't it will only spoil it OR you may think stingy bugger is that all he spent wink

FadBook Mon 20-May-13 19:40:47

I got a spa day for 2 mrsjay, a LOT of money spent, thoroughly spoilt!

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