aibu to not change sheets for a while...

(110 Posts)
Cactuar Sun 12-May-13 00:06:58

Having a discussion with dh and friend about how often it is normal to change bedsheets. My mum cannot go for a week without changing bedsheets and we think this us excessive. We feel, as disgusting as is it is, that it is far more normal to leave it for weeks and only do it when it gets absolutely necessary. We think more people are like this than are willing to admit. Are we being unreasonable?

Whatalotofpiffle Sun 12-May-13 01:01:43

I do this for ours, but more often for dd

thistlelicker Sun 12-May-13 01:02:46

A week..... At a push we go fortnightly

wtf1981 Sun 12-May-13 01:13:39

Once every 3 weeks. Both shower every day. Wash clothes after one wash. Air bed every day. Fine?! It's a superking!

Nobabieshere Sun 12-May-13 01:14:02

Every couple of weeks

GoldiChops Sun 12-May-13 01:17:20

Every 3 weeks to a month but... I live alone, shower everyday, wear pjs and socks to bed. How dirty can it get? I do change the pillow cases more often, as I sleep on my front and I'm sure I night-dribble!

Bunbaker Sun 12-May-13 01:18:40

I change our bedding every 7 - 10 days. I don't think once a week is excessive. I think leaving it for weeks is manky. We both bath or shower every day and air the bed for most of the day.

howdoo Sun 12-May-13 01:27:41

Seriously? You're in bed for 8+ hours a night and you sweat in it. I change ours every week and would feel itchy if I didn't.

AgentZigzag Sun 12-May-13 01:31:01

Like thistle I do ours once a week, fortnight at the most.

What measure are you going on that makes it 'absolutely necessary' to change them Cactuar? <dreading to think>

The feeling of getting into a smooth, cool, clean bed is worth the effort of making it up.

I mean, how hard is it to bung it in the washer? It's not as though you've got to drag it down to the stream to bash it against a rock or owt grin

ravenAK Sun 12-May-13 01:38:15

Every half term, & once in between.

So 3-4 weeks. We should probably up this to 3 per half term, which would be 2-3 weeks!

I have a shower in the morning, thereby washing off any bed frowstiness.

Mind you, I do love the first night in clean sheets.

It's not the washing, it's the drying & re-making. We have a superking bed with a duvet each & 3 pillows each. It's a faff.

edlyu Sun 12-May-13 01:41:21

Amateurs grin
I know someone who washes,dries and irons her sheets


She even makes visitors get up early so that she can get her washing on in time.

She is in her eighties and doesnt see why she should change now.

I on the other hand change mine when they begin to look 'used' and crumpled. That's about 2-3 weeks I reckon.

Flossyfloof Sun 12-May-13 08:33:46

I almost always do mine every week, occasionally leave them a fortnight. Would never leave them longer. I always iron as well, hate unironed anything.

youmeatsix Sun 12-May-13 08:44:27

we have a superking, size isnt an issue wink. we both shower daily and its still washed once a week minimum, more in the better weather nothing beats getting into a fresh bed, 3-4 weeks?shock really? i wonder if people post that to get a reaction hmm

Badvoc Sun 12-May-13 08:47:05

Fortnightly unless its needed before that.
But I air the bedrooms and beds every day - which I think is more important.
After all, you don't go to bed really dirty, do you? you? ;)

forevergreek Sun 12-May-13 08:49:20

Weekly! You do spend like 1/3 of your life in bed or something like that.

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 08:52:49


Anything else is just wrong

TwasBrillig Sun 12-May-13 08:55:51

Ours isn't every week but I've realised recently that we're unusual wearing pjs. If I was sweating naked into bed I'd want to change more often.

comelywenchlywoo Sun 12-May-13 08:58:48

Before I was married I used to wash the bedding more infrequently. Now the aim is to do it every week, but it's often more like every 10 days, occasionally two weeks old habits die hard

MIL got me ironing my bedding (by example, not nastily), and now I love getting into a clean ironed bed - takes me ages to iron the buggers tho. In my new kitchen I'm hoping to make a heat-resistant-fitted-sheet-type island topper so I can iron the bedding on there. I'm waaaay more excited about than is entirely appropriate!

sparkle12mar08 Sun 12-May-13 09:08:10

To go for months is disgusting. Truly slovenly. Every day, now that would be excessive. I suspect that weekly to fortnightly is probably average nationwide. We do ours fortnightly.

LaGuardia Sun 12-May-13 09:09:29

Weekly here. I just wish I had the time to do it more often. It is lovely putting the children into a freshly made bed. And I always get grumpy if DH beats me in the race to climb into our fresh bed smile

BellaVita Sun 12-May-13 09:14:59

I cannot imagine lying in a bed with sheets more than a week old. And yes I shower every day and wear pj's.

All three of our beds are done each week.

Going months or weeks is just yuk.

ifancyashandy Sun 12-May-13 09:21:09

Weekly. A Super king sized with 8 pillows. Hate doing it but love the result. I live in a 2 bed first floor flat and managed to get everything dry. Mind, I do have a lot of bed linen - I love crisp white sheets and covers.

HRMumness Sun 12-May-13 09:22:25

I wash DDs stuff weekly and ours fortnightly.

TobyLerone Sun 12-May-13 09:24:05

Every week. Any more than every fortnight is definitely slovenly.

I also wonder whether people do the 'competitive mankiness' thing on MN to get a reaction. Nobody I know IRL goes round boasting about how dirty they let their sheets get, or how the whole family shares a toothbrush.

StealthOfficialCrispTester Sun 12-May-13 09:25:16

Weekly for kids'
Aim for weekly with our sometimes more like ten to 14 days
If yiu dont iron it how is changing a king size bed any harder than changing a smaller one

EuroShaggleton Sun 12-May-13 09:25:57

Every week. Most people sweat a lot in bed. After a week. it needs a freshen up.

CecilyP Sun 12-May-13 09:33:35

How do you define absolutely necessary? and how would you know when you had reached this point?

In the old days before fitted sheets and duvets, it was normal, once a week to put the top sheet to the bottom and put on a clean top sheet. On that basis I now go for once a fortnight. I think that is reasonable if you wear a a nightie or pyjamas and air your bed in the mornings.

Bunbaker Sun 12-May-13 09:36:23

My mum used to do that CecilyP, but in these days of automatic washing machines I just change the lot once a week. Sometimes it is after 6 days or sometimes after 8 or 9. It depends on the weather as I like to get my bedding out on the line to dry.

INeedSomeSun Sun 12-May-13 09:41:26

God I am awful then, I do them once a month! I can't believe people do them weekly - my washing basket is always full as it is.
However, when we were dtd more then I did change them quicker. Since dtd is more of a monthly occurrance since DD, I don't feel the need!

edgeofsociety Sun 12-May-13 09:44:22

Weekly. I just like a clean bed.

KatyDid02 Sun 12-May-13 09:48:14

twice a week in the summer, once a week in the winter.

DawnOfTheDee Sun 12-May-13 09:50:39

What? Do people actually change their sheets...?!

I wait till mine get to the point where they can walk to the laundry basket themselves....wink

KeepYerTitsIn Sun 12-May-13 09:56:54

Every 4 or 5 days for me. Feel uncomfortable if left any longer, and really love clean sheets. Since I found MN I've come to realise that a lot more people are manky than I would have thought - there are always threads on here with people being all competitive about how little they wash themselves, their sheets and their DCs.

MrsHoarder Sun 12-May-13 09:59:50

Where's Getorf???

I usually wash mine once a week, sometimes fortnightly if I'm busy/its raining a lot so they can't line dry. It only takes a few minutes, and I always remake the be straight away so that there is no risk of coming to bedtime and being faced with an unmade bed.

PhallicGiraffe Sun 12-May-13 10:04:05

Every few months.

EnlightenedOwl Sun 12-May-13 10:07:57

A midweek change in the summer if its very hot and beds need freshening

massagegirl Sun 12-May-13 10:16:24

I am clearly slovenly as some of you describe. But I'm happy and clean and have a wonderful OH so I won't be feeling too bad about my sheets!

mumnotmachine Sun 12-May-13 11:09:58

Weekly during the winter, 2-3 times a week in the summer if weather really hot

Lizzabadger Sun 12-May-13 11:23:22

Every 1-2 weeks. You spend a third of your life in bed.

thebody Sun 12-May-13 11:27:07

Every week for all of us do that's 4 beds.

Just love the feel of fresh washed sheets.

Don't think it's manly to do it less often but weeks is a bit yeuk.

When the crustiness is no longer cumfy.

expatinscotland Sun 12-May-13 11:32:48

Yuk! Once a week definitely.

MissPricklePants Sun 12-May-13 11:36:17

Weekly for mine, minimum of twice a week for dd as she still wee's the bed and pull ups seem to leak a couple of times a week. I love clean bedding!!

theoriginalandbestrookie Sun 12-May-13 11:37:59

Strangely had this chat with a friend last night, we both change once a fortnight. Once a week would be nicer I agree, but realistically once a fortnight is what happens.

IsThatTrue Sun 12-May-13 11:39:41

Is getorf around? grin

Every 2 weeks here

crashdoll Sun 12-May-13 11:45:41

"But I'm happy and clean and have a wonderful OH so I won't be feeling too bad about my sheets!"

What the heck does having a nice partner have to do with having dirty sheet??

Fortnightly for the bedding, weekly for the towels.
Don't iron either.

expatinscotland Sun 12-May-13 11:49:23

And what is 'a while'?

WorraLiberty Sun 12-May-13 11:51:03

Every weekend

DH changes ours and the kids change their own

Result for me grin

Faxthatpam Sun 12-May-13 11:55:20

Oh crap... am going to get of bloody mn and go wash the sheets.

crashdoll Sun 12-May-13 11:55:21

I always shower before bed and sometimes in the morning too and I always wear PJs and socks. I still change my bed weekly. These threads always baffle me because I love clean sheets and also, because I don't get competitive dirtyness on MN.

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 12:01:27

Weekly during the winter, 2-3 times a week in the summer if weather really hot

This I don't get. Shouldn't it be the other way around?

Every week, and change the pillow cases mid-week too.

Some of you lot are rank! I bet you use the same tea-towel all week as well...... Yuk.

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 12:14:01

How often do people wash their duvets and pillowcases?

Ours are done once a year with a big trip to the launderette, but the feathers take a flipping age to dry. SHould I do this more regularly (please don't say any more than twice a year).

CecilyP Sun 12-May-13 12:14:09

No, changing tea towels is effortless, so done more often - not that we do much drying up.

massagegirl Sun 12-May-13 12:14:17

Not being competitive about dirtiness! Just that we both work full time and have pretty busy social life so changing sheets is not at the top of my priorities, as much as I love the feeling of clean sheets, we don't have a tumble dryer or clothes line so would have super king sheets draped round the place all the time.

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 12:14:31

Sorry - I meant pillows, not pillowcases obv

noviceoftheday Sun 12-May-13 12:14:57

Ewww. Adults changed weekly, dcs twice weekly. More frequently in hot weather. If anyone is sick with flu, fever etc then changed daily. Going for Weeks at a time without changing the bedsheets is just minging!

CecilyP Sun 12-May-13 12:17:28

Wuldric, I hope you won't be too shocked, (though you may be reassured) but I have just replaced my 30 year old feather duvet and it had never been washed. I didn't even realise you could wash them. I mean, you don't wash your matress, so why should would you wash a duvet?

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 12:22:51

With mattresses, there is a mattress protector ensuring nothing gets through to the mattress. You can wash the mattress protector. But duvets themselves - well there is only a couple of thin layers of cotton between my sweaty teens and the feathers. Hence washing the duvets and the pillows once a year. I am reassured though smile

CecilyP Sun 12-May-13 12:25:21

I have now swapped to a polyester-filled duvet, so might hit the launderette in a couple of years.

QuinionsRainbow Sun 12-May-13 12:27:41

Sheets, pillowcases and duvet cover washed weekly, and duvet turned back for airing most of the day. Mattress cover and pillow covers washed every three or four weeks. DH and myself showered every evening before bed and most mornings as well.

specialsubject Sun 12-May-13 12:56:48

a bit skanky but it is your house and doesn't affect anyone else. As long as visitors get clean beds!

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 12-May-13 13:00:13

I do a duvet rotation. So I have a clean set ready to go on then I was old set ready to go back on.

I do mine more often than DD's as she is at her dads 50% and in my bed the rest grin

I have to do it at least every 2 weeks because i always get make up on my pillow and its bad for my skin.

Bunbaker Sun 12-May-13 13:20:44

"I have to do it at least every 2 weeks because i always get make up on my pillow and its bad for my skin"

You don't clean your make-up off before going to bed shock. Now that is skanky. Your skin might improve if you clean your make-up off every night.

IEatCakeInBed Sun 12-May-13 13:37:33

Our bed weekly, maybe more in summer. And we shower at night before bed. DD1 (4) at least once a week, DD2 (2) 2-3 times a week, as she is quite a dribbler.

Doesn't the average person sweat about a pint a night, or something like that??

And all those dead skin cells too!! Yuck.

Nagoo Sun 12-May-13 14:05:45

I reckon if I lived alone once a month would be alright, TBH, as my side of the bed seems alright.

DH is a sweaty stinker so every week.

loofet Sun 12-May-13 14:16:05

I think once a week isn't too bad, wouldn't call it excessive. Excessive would be twice a week or every other day for adults anyway.

We do ours once a fortnight. The DC are stinky bum toddlers still in nappies so there's get changed quite frequently, probably

loofet Sun 12-May-13 14:16:17

*twice a week.

ShatnersBassoon Sun 12-May-13 14:22:13

Weekly. We are often sweaty and usually naked in bed, it would be unwise to leave the sheets unwashed any longer.

Nagoo Sun 12-May-13 14:50:22

often sweaty and usually naked Show off.

miffybun73 Sun 12-May-13 14:56:19

A week to 10 days, usually every Sunday.

I'm sure that our sheets would feel greasy and smell after 3 weeks.

We both shower twice a day, but everyone sweats at night don't they ?

miffybun73 Sun 12-May-13 14:58:36

grin at ShatnersBassoon We're the same smile

TrippleBerryFairy Sun 12-May-13 15:05:40

Every 3 weeks or so. Doing it weekly is a waste of my time plus i dont like drying them in a spare room. Trip to launterette to dry them- waste of my time too. DP doesnt do any house chores so fuck it, im not wasting my time on that.

Fairylea Sun 12-May-13 15:07:30

Once a week. I couldn't stand to leave it longer than that!

ShatnersBassoon Sun 12-May-13 15:08:27

The nudity is a symptom of the sweating, not the cause of it grin

Since having my bed to myself, I change my bedding at least weekly, mattress protector included. I wash my duvet every two months, I pass a laundrette that does service washes, so I take my bedding and towels, there. I have decorated my bedroom exactly how I want it and clean it more often than I used to when my kids/cats/DP would invade it. It is nice having a constantly clean and tidy room that is mine.

IEatCakeInBed Sun 12-May-13 16:09:57

That sounds lovely Birdsgottafly

I stick my pillows in the wash every couple of months - they often come out a bit missahapen for a bit but smell lovely and fresh. Mmm.

This maybe a stupid question? - but if I take my duvet to the dry cleaners will they dry clean it, or wash it in a washing machine?

flowery Sun 12-May-13 17:10:20


But to be fair, the cleaner puts the old ones on to wash then puts a fresh set on the bed, and the clean bed linen gets sent out for ironing, so I don't actually do anything. blush

Greenkit Sun 12-May-13 18:26:26

Well I was making a point to DH that i am the only one thinks about changing the sheets. It was done when we got back from hoilday and I have just changed them, 6 weeks later. I did hint to DH but nope I had to do it AGAIN.

I am sure he would never do it if it was down to him. Yes we both work the same hours and both help out at home, except the sheets which is apparently my job hmm

Gossipmonster Sun 12-May-13 18:31:22

What about if you have sex though? confused (sorry prob far TMI!).

EasyToEatTiger Sun 12-May-13 18:35:34

You get sex dribble all over the beds confused. I change our sheets every week or they are horrible and they won't get clean. Everything gets a good shake and I would turn the mattress over about once a month if it could be done. I like clean sheets. Dh, children, dogs... they don't stay clean for very long.

Gossipmonster Sun 12-May-13 18:39:20

Well - you try not to but sometimes we get a bit "carried away" - its unavoidable surely? confused

DuchessFanny Sun 12-May-13 18:42:06

Ewwwwww ! Once a week at least - all that sweating, sex, DH's farty bum . Plus there is nothing like sliding into clean sheets mmmmmmm

Gossipmonster Sun 12-May-13 18:43:32

And yes I change mine once a week - love clean sheets smile

Greenkit Sun 12-May-13 18:44:21

Sex...humm whats that then

DuchessFanny Sun 12-May-13 18:44:42

I also turn the mattress once a week ! Wear fresh pj's every night ..

Lambzig Sun 12-May-13 18:48:31

Twice a week here. Would feel yuk with anything else. If I am ever very rich (not likely), my luxury would be very posh linen sheets changed daily.

Wuldric Sun 12-May-13 18:51:43

IEatCakeInBed - if you take your duvets to the dry cleaner, I am sure they will dry clean it. If, on the other hand, you take it to the launderette, I think they will shove it in a big industrial washing machine and then dry it and they will come out clean and lovely.

zukiecat Sun 12-May-13 19:23:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

forevergreek Sun 12-May-13 19:34:00

Zukie - we generally use same bedding also, but just take off in am and back on in pm when clean. Gets washed every week

Bunbaker Sun 12-May-13 19:47:34

"so I take them off and wash them once every couple of months"

This is a wind up, right?

OnwardBound Sun 12-May-13 19:56:29

Probably fortnightly to monthly here.

They don't smell or look particularly dirty so it doesn't bother me. Luckily DH is equally slovenly unbothered.

Guests always get clean sheets. Un-ironed ones though.

Seriously, who has the time to iron bed clothes? confused

My ironing basket is overflowing as it is!

sparkle12mar08 Sun 12-May-13 19:56:50

If you take a duvet to a chain dry cleaners they will send it off to their central depot to be washed in a giant washing machine - I know because I've worked there! You can't dry clean a duvet with solvents because it would then be a health and fire hazard - dry cleaning solvent is nasty, nasty stuff and you would not want to be breathing in it's fumes for 6-8hrs a night from your duvet! So in a word you're better off finding your local laundrette and having a service wash. It'll be cheaper, too.

zukiecat Sun 12-May-13 19:58:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

alistron1 Sun 12-May-13 19:59:57

We have 4 kids and both work full time. If we had to factor washing 5 sets of bedding into our weekly routine we'd die.

I think in this day and age when we all generally wash every day + wear clean clothes every day weekly bed changing is not essential.

Manky and proud.

gregcal Sun 12-May-13 20:03:52

Weekly! When it is hot everyday!

trinity0097 Sun 12-May-13 20:19:27

Because of this thread I washed our bedding today! Think I last did them in Feb! I kept meaning to but didn't have the time to wash and dry on the same day.

forevergreek Sun 12-May-13 20:25:59

Seriously? What's with the we have x amount of children and work so can't wash bedding?

We have children, we both work 12+ hr days, and the washing machine does all the hard work. It's only taking it off, and another on, no one does backbreaking hand scrubbing in the yard these days.

I honestly don't understand when people say they have piles and piles of washing to due as they are too tired/ work/ have a broken baby toe.. It's not you doing it its the machine!

QuinionsRainbow Sun 12-May-13 20:43:50

I don't think our washing machine is particularly big but, when DCs are about, all of our bedding fits easily into two loads (with room for socks, knickers etc.) which we can get washed and dried within a morning. When DCs are away, which they are most of the time these days, we can get away with one load. If anything is tedious, it is the stripping and remaking beds, a task that DH has taken upon himself in recent years.

aderynlas Sun 12-May-13 20:47:36

oh now I want clean sheets but its too late to do now, mmm cotton sheets smile

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sun 12-May-13 21:17:14

Weekly here, give or take a day or two. Nothing better than crisp, clean sheets. Could not leave it longer than a fortnight, I wouldn't be able to sleep!

CremeEggThief Sun 12-May-13 22:06:33

Every fortnight to three weeks. Weekly if really hot.

livinginwonderland Mon 13-May-13 08:08:05

Every 2 weeks on the dot. DP is very particular about it, haha.

NewAtThisMalarky Mon 13-May-13 08:22:10

Twice a year whether they need it or not.

once a month ish, but only if i've cleared the rest of the washing because if i cant get them on the line, they take a couple of days to dry indoors.

we turn our duvet down to air the bed though, and im not averse to changing the bed sheet and leaving the duvet cover/pillows to change another time.

Jengnr Mon 13-May-13 08:56:16

I do mine when I remember!

valiumredhead Mon 13-May-13 09:22:53

At least once a week in this house, twice in the summer.

anonpost Mon 13-May-13 10:07:34

Once a week. Duvet and pillow get replaced yearly.

Binkybix Mon 13-May-13 10:46:49

I aim for once a fortnight - sometimes it's a bit more.

I worry about all the energy/water/detergent used for more than once a week!

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