to say no to neighbour

(57 Posts)
likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 09:37:33

neighbour has new lodger in. she came round the other day on doorstep asking to use our WiFi code to access the internet and give us some money every month. we politely or so I thought said no that we dont want too. she asked fir the passcode and basically told us to stop being silly. again we said no and that we don't have the passcode. then she said oh it'll be here on the router ill come and check. again we said no thanks would rather not. I'm.not being a cow am I?

NotAnotherPackedLunch Wed 08-May-13 09:42:33

YANBU
Have you thought of renaming your homehub to send her a message?
BogOffAndGetYourOwnBroadband might be a good starting name.

undercoversahm Wed 08-May-13 09:44:18

YANBU There are all sorts of reasons not to want to share a wi-fi connection.....(especially with someone who is demanding it). Keep being polite but firm.

If you share your WiFi with her, it'll be your IP address that all their web surfing is registered against. So if they download dodgy shit or surf nasty porn it'll be your door the police will come knocking on.

Tell her to fuck off.

MolotovCocktail Wed 08-May-13 09:46:09

YANBU and have every right to decline. Hold firm.

Poledra Wed 08-May-13 09:48:11

Wot Freddie said. Not on your nelly would someone else be using our wifi, for that very reason. You'll be the one getting the 'cease and desist' letter from the film companies when they're downloading pirate copies of films. Or worse.

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 09:48:18

glad I'm not bu, I agree with all sorts of dodgy download being under my name. felt like I was being highly unreasonable though when she kept on.

LIZS Wed 08-May-13 09:49:07

If she can afford to pay you for it then she can afford a prepaid mobile internet dongle.

DeepRedBetty Wed 08-May-13 09:49:25

No, you're not a cow. Your neighbour's lodger is breathtakingly arrogant.

fuzzywuzzy Wed 08-May-13 09:49:58

Wow people are entitled arent they?

No do not give her your WiFi password, you as the subscriber will be held liable for going over your download limit, all activity related to your broadband. So nope I wouldn't do it.

Broadbands pretty cheap nowadays, why is she insistent on using yours?

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Wed 08-May-13 09:50:41

No. You are not being unreasonable.

If she'd told me to stop being silly she'd have had a face full of front door!

youmaycallmeSSP Wed 08-May-13 09:51:17

YANBU, what a cheek!

MrsBertMacklin Wed 08-May-13 09:51:23

YANBU - cheeky cow. Your service provider will probably have a clause in your contract about protecting wireless access, if that helps fob her off.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Wed 08-May-13 09:51:49

and change your wireless name to fuckoffandbuyyourownwifi

WilsonFrickett Wed 08-May-13 09:53:21

You are so NOT BU. The cheek of some people... although I do wonder if the neighbour has said something along the lines of 'no, we don't have wifi but I'm sure you can use next doors?'. (But that may be clutching at straws as I can't imagine ever going next door and demanding use of their phone, electricity, wi-fi, water - you know, the stuff they pay for.)

roofio87 Wed 08-May-13 09:53:42

like what fuzzywuzzy mentioned tell her you only have a small download limit, explain that you don't know her and its a security risk to you to share your wifi. also just tell her to not be so cheeky!! I wouldn't let anyone do this. she can get mobile broadband!!

weisswusrt Wed 08-May-13 09:54:00

Tell her you have a small download limit and that you get huge fines for crossing it.

Never fails to amaze me the cheek of some people?!

If she comes back, just say...Oh I thought I said no? NO!

SofaKing Wed 08-May-13 09:56:20

Don't do it! My niece lived across the road and we let her use our wifi. She used it to download so many things we couldn't browse the internet without it slowing to a crawl, and then had a go at us because she could only access it from her kitchen.

I get along with her much better now she's moved!

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 09:56:20

is possible the neighbour suggesting us but I doubt it we speak occasionally but are not friends. I actually think a dongle would be cheaper than paying towards WiFi. seems dodgy, felt like a right nob i hate when people don't get the message makes things so awkward.

StuntGirl Wed 08-May-13 09:57:13

Of course you're not being unreasonable, she's a cheeky mare.

SarahAndFuck Wed 08-May-13 09:58:21

Don't make any excuses as to why not, no is a good enough answer on it's own.

Let your neighbour know what her lodger has asked of you and tell her that you don't want to be bothered by her again.

If she wants wifi she needs to take it up with your neighbour/her landlady.

It's not your problem, you don't have to provide the world with wifi, which she wouldn't actually pay you anything for once she got the code, and who knows who else she might share it with.

And yes, change your wifi name to something rude or something she won't recognise as yours.

StuntGirl Wed 08-May-13 09:58:52

You don't even need to give her any of these silly reasons either. Yes they're all true, but all you have to say is "No".

YoniMitchell Wed 08-May-13 09:59:36

If someone is that cheeky that they don't have any problem asking (especially in such a way!) then they shouldn't have a problem with being told no.

YANBU, I'd tell her to do one for all the reasons listed here.

AnonYonimousBird Wed 08-May-13 10:00:44

YANBU!!! Cheeky cow.

How do you rename your homehub - I love that idea!!!!

Theselittlelightsofmine Wed 08-May-13 10:02:18

Next time tell her you only pay for a set amount and if you go over that amount you will be getting a huge bill and you don't want to risk it.

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 10:04:33

thanks for confirming I'm not horrible. no is a complete sentence is a good way to go thengrin

MarinaIvy Wed 08-May-13 10:04:47

I like all the broadband re-name suggestions, but dearly hope they're not necessary - that this instance fobbed cheeky neighbour off.

Then again, I kinda hope it didn't - want to hear more!

I was particularly aghast at "don't be silly..." - I'll have to clutch my green amber; not wearing my pearls today.

Yanbu, how damn right cheeky shock
Not only are you the one paying for the right to use it but allowing her access would not be good, as it would be your IP address she would be searching from and if she were to do anything libel or illegal, it would all come back to you.
Stick to your guns, what a cheeky so & so! Give her the phone number for all the internet providers!

Poledra Wed 08-May-13 10:09:05

Don't give her any reasons - she'll just see that as an invitation to try and get round them. Just say 'No, we don't want to' and leave it at that.

SkinnybitchWannabe Wed 08-May-13 10:09:36

We called our wifi virusdonottouch

MrsSpagBol Wed 08-May-13 10:16:17

Please do not give any excuses like "our download limit is.." or "our service provider has a clause in contract"....blah blah. You do not have to make ANY excuses, the simple answer is no.

Who the hell does she think she is? And so what if he has offered to pay money? If she has money she should sort out her own connection - it's not hard.

Do you have a sign on your door that says "subletting wi-fi access"?! I thought not.

I just don't understand where some people get off. Tell her no, and tell her not to ask again. Ever. Cheeky cow.

TwinkleTits Wed 08-May-13 10:16:33

My bitch of a neighbour did the same. Se lived in the flat below and asked me for my password for my wifi. Didnt offer me money though.

I said I didnt remember it. She called and asked again and I insisted I didnt remember it. She just said "Oh well. We'll just hack into it." Ad hung up.

shock cheeky bitch.

Startail Wed 08-May-13 10:19:41

That is beyond cheeky. No way.

Halfling Wed 08-May-13 10:31:01

Second fuzzywizzy. Tell her that you have a very small download limit and you are always reaching your limit. Suggest that she buys a dongle for herself.

Please do not allow her to access your wifi. Not only can it compromise the speed of your connection, you also run the risk of appearing culpable if she (or the lodger) use the wifi for the wrong stuff (think child porn, Al Qaeda bomb tutorials, illegal pirated downloads etc.)

LIZS Wed 08-May-13 10:32:38

No don't engage . There are other legitimate options and she should seek them out.

Get yourself down to the nearest WIFI shop (like Carphone Warehouse) and pick up one of their free catalogues and post it through her letterbox with the prices for wifi dongles clearly highlighted - maybe stick a post-it note on the page where they are shown and say "Thought you might be interested in this seeing as how you were looking to get broadband" and leave it at that.

Cheeky isn't the word for what she is! smile

VonHerrBurton Wed 08-May-13 11:31:31

Wow. Never again will I moan about my neighbours. Cheeky, entitled cow of the year award goes to likessnowflakes's neighbour. Especially the 'dont be silly ' bit. Aghast face.

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 12:06:28

grin you guys are much braver than me. WiFi name is a load of numbers so can only assume guessed it was ours as was the highest signal

Tenacity Wed 08-May-13 12:16:47

You don't want to share your internet, so just say no. You don't need to explain anything.
No should suffice.

roses2 Wed 08-May-13 13:24:43

If she uses your wifi to download illegal content, you'll be the one in trouble, not her.

ophelia275 Wed 08-May-13 13:35:07

Don't do it!

We had something similar. A neighbour in our block of flats knocked on our door when he moved in, asked to be able to use our internet and pay us each month. We said no as we didn't know him from Adam and internet is available very cheaply or at the local library. We just thought it was a really strange request. Anyway, lucky we said no as he disappeared about 3 months later having been evicted for not paying his rent.

MrsMangelFanciedPaulRobinson Wed 08-May-13 13:53:49

What a cheeky cow!

Well done for saying no to her! People like her generally go through life getting away with being fucking cheeky because no one dares to say no to their unreasonable demands.

MrsMangelFanciedPaulRobinson Wed 08-May-13 13:54:07

And yes, rename your home hub!! grin

anonpost Wed 08-May-13 13:58:08

Some people are so brazen! Yanbu.

lisac99 Wed 08-May-13 14:51:04

I would make sure you've got a suitable password on it and not the default one - I'd also check every so often what devices are connecting to your box.

I would never in a million years allow anyone access to my Wi-Fi, anything illegal and it would be your neck on the line 'Oh right, your neighbour did it, huh? yeah right.....'

'I'm sorry, but if your computer was connected to my Wi-Fi and was compromised by a trojan or malware, it would make my internet connection much slower and I use most of the bandwidth myself. What's that? you don't use much? in which case it's probably best to do 'Pay and Go with a USB dongle, all the main phone companies do them!' grin

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 14:54:52

ah it isnt a password its a random jumble of letters/numbers. glad i wasnt UR and hopefully that will be the end of it

Smellslikecatspee Wed 08-May-13 15:11:01

I've read the whole thread and am still spluttering at the fecking cheek of her.shock

You need to stick this on the cheeky thread in Classics. . . .

I really cant believe the cheek of some people.
Your are in no way unreasonable nor do you need to give some randomer any reason or excuse.

ENormaSnob Wed 08-May-13 15:16:44

She is a cheeky cunt.

Yanbu

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 16:22:56

am so glad, we seem to live in this kind of area where people do things like this and dont see it as a big deal. walk into each others houses, gardens,ask millions of personal queations and comment on things that dont concern them. not on friendly terms so hopefully wont come to speaking to neighbour

expatinscotland Wed 08-May-13 16:53:27

Fuck giving this cheeky cow an excuse. 'NO, you can't use it. Buy your own.'

MarinaIvy Wed 08-May-13 17:16:57

Ooh, now I'm wondering about twinkletits - did you get hacked, as promised?

RenterNomad Wed 08-May-13 17:19:54

Even if, as a lodger, she doesn't want to tie herself into a 12-24 month contract, there are still options. We pay £2.50 extra/monthly to plusnet to not have a contract, as we may be in this rental for as little as 6 months, and we didn't want to have to sign another 12-25m contract to move the internet access/home phone.

Dongles are another option, possibly a really good one for someone living as a lodger, whose lifestyle is going to be unsettled/more mobile (esp. if she's as annoying as a lodger, as she is as a neighbour! A lodger is unlikely to have the same protections/notice periods as a tenant).

You don't have to tell her any of this: engaging with a cheeky so and so is hasslesome!

digerd Wed 08-May-13 17:26:53

Just have to hack into it then shock. Tell her you will report her for attempted fraud and threat of hackingangry

expatinscotland Wed 08-May-13 17:29:09

He can get mobile Wi-Fi very cheaply. But it's not your problem. Just 'No.'

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 17:29:59

id of lost my cool at the hacking into it comment from another poster. I am generally pretty non confrontational but thats taking the piss! i had a dongle in my rental house too it wasnt too bad as i wasnt planning on staying there long ( ended up being there 10 months so v short time) for a dongle it was pretty reliable.

likesnowflakesinanocean Wed 08-May-13 17:31:08

definatly, glad im not alone in my general shock at being asked

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