To ask you on average when do "babies" STTN

(142 Posts)
SunMoonStarship Sat 04-May-13 21:47:05

DC1 slept through from 5 months. DC2 (11 months) wakes multiple times. I recently read somewhere that only 50% of 9 month old babies sleep through the night (STTN).

I'm exhausted and desperate for sleep. Luckily DH and I have family to help out and take the kids so we get a break.

But I was wondering what the average age was for babies STTN. I've heard it's 6 months but the stats above disagree with this.

I know all babies are different (look at my two DCs!) but basically, if I knew it was likely DC2 would STTN by 12 months or 18 months or something, then I would be able to see through this sleep deprived fog.

So AIBU to ask you when you're DCs STTN?

Thanks

JohnSnowsTie Sat 04-May-13 21:49:17

DD1, from 7 weeks.

DD2, still doesn't and she's 18 months.

WouldBeHarrietVane Sat 04-May-13 21:51:25

Look on the Isis baby sleep project site - they have independent sleep stats

Sirzy Sat 04-May-13 21:51:38

DS is 3.5, most nights he wakes up at least twice, every so often a miracle happens and he sleeps through

HollyBerryBush Sat 04-May-13 21:51:41

Six weeks, all three. Umm, DS3 was 5 weeks.

catgirl1976 Sat 04-May-13 21:52:05

10 months after using controlled crying

FadBook Sat 04-May-13 21:53:44

DD was 19 months when we finally had a 10.30pm - 7am 'sleep through' (going down at 7pm but waking for a settle around 10.30).

She still wakes once or twice a week in the night now (lost dummy, cuddle, dream etc)

I think every child is different

ShirazSavedMySanity Sat 04-May-13 21:53:55

DD from 17 weeks.
DS - I'm still waiting. He's 2yrs 7 months now....,....

mardyelsie Sat 04-May-13 21:54:02

4 months, 6 weeks, 2 1/2 years!

IsThatTrue Sat 04-May-13 21:54:05

Dd 5 days
Ds1 18 months
Ds2 not yet and he's 5mo

AtYourCervix Sat 04-May-13 21:54:38

6

AtYourCervix Sat 04-May-13 21:54:49

Years.

tunnocksteacake Sat 04-May-13 21:54:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

chattychattyboomba Sat 04-May-13 21:55:53

I think the consensus is that it varies hugely. DD was 'sleeping through' from around 8 months if you count waking up at 5am!!

Emsmaman Sat 04-May-13 21:56:03

Did two years old doesnt sleep through. However between staying at friends houses and frank discussions with mums I also have learn that I am the only person I know in real life that doesnt leave their child to cry. Several I know use ear plugs. So I no longer pay attention to those who say they sleep through other night - I think it means theory no longer respond during the night!

Emsmaman Sat 04-May-13 21:56:38

Sorry for the auto corrects...

BikeRunSki Sat 04-May-13 21:56:55

DS (4) - did 11pm to 6am at 9 weeks and has subsequently always been a champion sleeper.
DD (19 months) - Well, we went to a cranial osteopath today to see if she could help us with the multiple night time wakings.

IsThatTrue Sat 04-May-13 21:58:03

Ear plugs at night? shock what if the dcs needed something? I can't imagine doing that!

SunMoonStarship Sat 04-May-13 21:58:30

Thank you all so much. I'm thinking 18 months. Not sure why. But at least it gives me something to work towards!

Xxx

Mondayschild78 Sat 04-May-13 21:59:28

15 months here. Was hard but feel I may have been one of the lucky ones judging by the answers on this thread.

Emsmaman Sat 04-May-13 22:00:25

I think the theory is if they are crying loudly it will pierce through, if its a grumble it won't wake the parents...we still have the baby monitor and dd is in thge next room.

Niklepic Sat 04-May-13 22:01:04

DD1 and DS were about 5 months. DD2 is 16 weeks and has just started to sleep through. She goes to bed around 8-ish and we wake her for a feed at 11pm. She generally sleeps then until around 6am.

fancyabakeoff Sat 04-May-13 22:01:07

All three of mine - 27, 23 and 11- all slept through at 6-8 weeks. Last feed at 10 p.m. and would generally not wake again until 6-7 a.m.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sat 04-May-13 22:03:59

my youngest slept through from day one. In fact, when we brought him home from the hospital, my husband was so worried about how much he was sleeping that he woke him up grin

This is because our eldest - a mere 15 months older had not at that point slept for more than 2 hours during any single night in his entire little life.

<gibbers>

HootShoot Sat 04-May-13 22:04:11

Our dd has just started sleeping through in the last couple of weeks, she's 18 months.

Mamafratelli Sat 04-May-13 22:05:23

Dd 7 til 7 from 12 weeks

Ds 7 til 7 from 6 weeks

Not helpful sorry, I sympathise because I love sleep.

neunundneunzigluftballons Sat 04-May-13 22:05:24

7 weeks. 2 weeks and 17 months and still no where near sleeping through. came as a bit of a shock when they would not do a return on the faulty one I never read the small print

PoppyWearer Sat 04-May-13 22:06:14

DC1 did it all-by-herself at 12mo until 18mo. We then had another year of night-wakings until we sleep-trained at 2.5yo. Now aged almost 5yo, she wakes about 4/7 nights.

DC2 is 20mo and his best night ever was recently, sleeping 9pm to 5am.

We tried CC with DC1 but it never sat well with me and DH hates them crying. We haven't done CC with DC2, just lots of PUPD.

DC2 could climb out of his cot, so sleeps in a bed already, which of course doesn't help!

My friends who have had most success with babies sleeping are definitely the strict ones and/or the ones who don't want their lives to change with the advent of babies (sorry of that sounds judgemental, it is a bit). My DH doesn't get home very early from work, so I don't really feel like I lose my evenings by spending them trying to get the DCs to sleep. And I probably cope better than most with less sleep. <wibble>

mediawhore Sat 04-May-13 22:07:03

10 weeks
13 weeks, except for a ten min downed bottle at 3am til 9 months, but she crashed out straight away.
8 weeks.

Not having anymore cos well get a crap one ;)

Reading with interest, but would also like to know those who slept through under the age of one, whether they were bf, ff or mixed fed. Do bf babies sleep through ever?

BlackMaryJanes Sat 04-May-13 22:09:22
elQuintoConyo Sat 04-May-13 22:09:37

About 11 months with DS, but he will sttn 3-4 times a week, other nights he wakes once for milk then nods straight back off again. He's now 17mo and we co-sleep. Often it'll depend how much we've worn him out- two trips to the park vs one trip+garden, soft play vs grandad's house, bath vs no bath (it freaks him out and knackers him).

He had a looooong day yesterday, slept 10.30pm-7am, 7am-8.30am and then a monstrous 4 HOURS this afternoon: 12-4. He's just gone to bed (10.30). He's done an average one four-hour sleep per week for the last month, I'm guessing he's going through a growth spurt.

Dd1, 14 months, dd2, 10 or 11 months. Both because of Ferber.

Wilts Sat 04-May-13 22:09:51

Ds1- three months
Ds2- two years
Ds3- almost ten months and still feeding at least twice in the night plus other wakings . This is nearly killing me at the moment as I have a stressful job and feel permanently exhausted.

Cravingdairy Sat 04-May-13 22:10:06

Still waiting at 20 months. If she's not poorly or teething (5% of time) she sometimes sleeps 9-6.

themaltesecat Sat 04-May-13 22:10:10

Mine still wakes up in the night about half the time and she's 27 months old.

Forgot to say, ds1 slept through at about 2 years old once he stopped bfing. He is a good sleeper now, only wakes up for a drink of water occasionally, and sleeps much better at night of he hasn't had a daytime nap (he's now 2y10months). He also went through a period at four months old of sleeping through, til another growth spurt kicked in.

Ds2 is 20 days old.

elQuintoConyo Sat 04-May-13 22:11:32

Ff here.

Maryz Sat 04-May-13 22:11:52

ds1 - 8 til 8 at 9 weeks.

dd - sleep not before 11 and waking by 5, with at least one night wake (three or four until she was over 2) until she started school at 4.

ds2 - 8 til 8 with a 4am breastfeed by 4 months.

There may be an "average" but there is no "normal" to this. It's luck [bitter]

We got so desperate with dd that we split up and one of us would sleep in her room every second night so we were both guaranteed a couple of nights sleep a week.

Pinebarrens Sat 04-May-13 22:12:27

DD 12 weeks
DS is 7 months and still wakes once or twice.

We haven't done anything different....sigh...

GinGirl Sat 04-May-13 22:12:48

DD1 9months
DD2 consistently from 4 months
DD3 9 weeks

PoppyWearer Sat 04-May-13 22:14:11

Both mine bf and both awful sleepers! Both definitely slept better after stopping bf and even better after night weaning altogether and stopping bedtime bottles too.

In spite of that I still advocate bf!

neunundneunzigluftballons Sat 04-May-13 22:14:38

Cheese I dared to suggest that my first 2 slept because they were ff and it didn't go down too well here. Number 3 was and is breast fed. I have it on good aibu authority that they are all different and it does not matter if they are ff or bf wink

neunundneunzigluftballons Sat 04-May-13 22:16:43

I also big time advocate breast feeding I did not mind night feeding number 3 at all

ChilliJo Sat 04-May-13 22:18:17

DC1, FF (mixed fed until 9 weeks), started sleeping through most nights from 8 weeks and consistently from 11 weeks. He's now 5.5 and I could count on my fingers the amount of night wakings he's had since then.

DC2, BF, slept through from 18 weeks, exactly 3 days after we worked out she had a milk protein allergy and I stopped having any dairy in my diet. So she'd probably have been earlier.

It's just the way babies are made in my family. Out of my siblings and their DC, mine have been the slowest to sleep through.

It's just the luck of the draw and fuck me, I got bloody lucky.

Emsmaman Sat 04-May-13 22:18:44

Dd was breastfed but it mass been one year since we stopped and sleep didn't magically improve

TheSecondComing Sat 04-May-13 22:21:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AlbertoFrog Sat 04-May-13 22:22:28

DS (breastfed) is 2 and a half and has only recently started sleeping from 9 to 7 though not every night.

And I've never had a night off. Never. Sob.

Purplecatti Sat 04-May-13 22:25:24

Still waiting at 6 months for more than a 3 hour stretch. ... exhaustion doesn't even begin to cover it

Springforward Sat 04-May-13 22:27:29

DS 26 weeks, as long as you count 5am as sleeping through. 4 years later he's still an early riser but at least we get to 6am most days now. (Still woke at night after that if he was ill though, or less often with a bad dream as he grew up a bit though.)

cocoplops Sat 04-May-13 22:27:34

DS1 - 18 months (and that was only cos we sleep trained)
DS2 - 9 weeks....never knew such dream babies existed. Did it on his own, with no parental intervention

NappyHappy Sat 04-May-13 22:28:15

ds1 was 6w but it stopped a few months after that. He is nearly 5yr old and still wakes.

ds2 was 12m and sleeps through most nights. He is 19m now wakes still but I don't have to go into him I can hear him talking to himself or playing with his cars.

ds3 is 8m and wakes 3 times a night.

All FFS btw.

mikkii Sat 04-May-13 22:28:46

DS didn't sleep through until controlled crying at 11 months before I returned to work. He was bf till 8 months, started weaning at 4 months.

DD1 12-6am at 6 weeks, 7pm to 7am at 3 months. This was a shock, I didn't realise babies could sleep that long. Even now at nearly 9 DS is not a good sleeper and makes a fuss at bedtime.

I'm really glad they came that way round, I hadn't been lulled into a false sense of security.

DD2 slept through from about 6 months.

LifeOfPee Sat 04-May-13 22:28:59

DD was 16 months and slept through once I night weaned her. She was BFed.

DS is 24 days and slept 7 hours last night. He's a had a couple of 5 and 6 hour stretches so far too. Will it continue? We'll see. He's EBF.

DS has always been a pretty shocking sleeper. He is 3.5 and STTN about 2 nights out of 7.
First slept through at 20months, but was pretty sporadic. Has had the odd phase of doing a whole week or so sleeping through, but normal service is always resumed grin

MegBusset Sat 04-May-13 22:43:33

DS1: 9mo, after doing CC (in absolute desperation as he never slept more than an hour at night, didn't nap more than 20 mins in the day and I was teetering on the brink of PND with exhaustion)
DS2: 4mo (entirely spontaneously, much to my shock and delight)

Both were BF until long after they slept through the night. Both champion sleepers now although DS1 still more likely to wake randomly in the night.

16 months for dd1, but my neighbour's 3 year old doesn't sleep through.

Oh, and remember when you're looking at stats around sttn that medically speaking that means sleeping at least one stint of 5 hours. Not what most of us mean by sleeping through.

Magicmayhem Sat 04-May-13 23:21:50

DD was 6 weeks, and thought it was a flook...
DS was also 6 weeks.... both FF and used the same routine...

Cloverer Sat 04-May-13 23:21:52

DS started sleeping through consistently at around 2.5 years.

I know a few people whose babies STTN at 6-8 months but it wasn't what I would count as consistent - more like they mostly sleep through unless they are ill, teething, have a bad dream, need their dummy put back in etc etc. I think people often say their baby STTN when they actually mean they just don't wake for feeds anymore.

DS stopped waking for feeds at 9 months.

foreverondiet Sun 05-May-13 00:09:55

IMO all healthy babies who are weaned onto 3 meals a day (6-7 months) are capable of sleeping all night (well 10.30pm-7am anyway) but some will need some help getting towards this. I wouldn't personally do controlled crying before 6 months (and weaned onto 3 months a day including protein) as they genuinely might be hungry in night. If they drink milk in night they will eat less in day and then be hungry at night, so need to cut down on night time feeds.

Some babies will do it all on their own, others will need guidance - some parents are prepared to give guidance some are not.

DC1 (DD) - slept through at 10 weeks, but woke up again at 5 months, after a week she was weaned and slept through the night.

DC2 (DS1) - didn't sleep through night before 6 months - so was given "guidance" at 6 months after weaning - basically hipp night time milk at 10.30pm and then water (or maybe started in week 1 with watered down formula??) when he woke in the night - plus some controlled crying - slept through the night at 6.5 months.

DC3 (DS2) - v similar to DD initially, but started waking again at 5 months and needed same guidance as DS1 at 6 months once weaned.

KoreRenati Sun 05-May-13 00:11:24

I think it's happened twice, ever, with DS and he's 13 months now

Cloverer Sun 05-May-13 00:16:07

I found that getting DS to go through the night without a feed was easy grin That didn't mean he didn't need us in the night though.

I wasn't prepared to just ignore him if he called out for me in the night, so I guess we had to wait til he was ready.

YoniBottsBumgina Sun 05-May-13 00:18:01

My feeling is it's around 2 years if you really leave them to it. Obviously some babies will naturally sleep through earlier and some later. I think by 18/20 months we were in the blissful territory of not waking up in the evening, once at around 11 and through until morning.

DoTheStrand Sun 05-May-13 00:34:13

DS1 I taught to self settle between 3 and 4 months I think, then he had a bad sleep regression (it took two hours of rocking to get him to sleep) at about 9-11 months. I used The No Cry Sleep Solution book to retrain him.

DS2 slept through from 9 weeks until 9 or 10 months then he started waking more and more (and stupidly I started giving him milk whenever he woke up). Just done sleep training with him (again, v mild techniques) and he is sleeping through again.

Remember though it is all about what is manageable for you and your family - DS2 will often wake about 5.45am which works fine for us as he has some milk then I get up about 6.15, though I've seen plenty of threads in the past where the OP thinks waking that early is a problem.

I also have two DSSs, now grown up. With one of them, to get him to sleep when he was a toddler DH had to drive him up and down the dual carriageway each night when he got home from work. By his teenage years we couldn't get him out if bed (though the house did smell of Lynx).

Schooldidi Sun 05-May-13 00:37:27

Dd1 was 18 months when she reliably sttn.

Dd2 started sttn at 6 weeks. Then stopped again at 16 weeks and still wakes up most nights now at 3. I expect she'll eventually stay in her own bed all night. It would take more work to try and train her than it does to just bring her into bed with us.

DevonCiderPunk Sun 05-May-13 00:47:14

About 2.5 years for each of mine.

DoTheStrand Sun 05-May-13 00:52:10

I forgot to add, with lots of children good / poor sleep does seem to be a phase. I know plenty of children who slept badly as babies and now sleep well as toddlers / older children, and vice versa.

edwardsmum11 Sun 05-May-13 06:32:42

About ten months

Buzzardbird Sun 05-May-13 06:40:04

4 years. I'm knackered

teacher123 Sun 05-May-13 06:47:37

Ds is a year old. He first sttn at about 7mo but didn't do it consistently until I stopped bf at 10mo. he now occasionally wakes when the bloody birds are singing and I hear him chatting away in his cot but I only go in if he's crying.

Exhaustipated Sun 05-May-13 06:54:07

Both my children miraculously slept through from 6 weeks or so (BF), but then stopped at around 4/5 months. shock

DS finally started again consistently at 15 months
DD is 8 months and still waking at least twice (yawn)

lilystem Sun 05-May-13 06:56:32

My ds is 12.5 wks and had been going from 10-5 on a bad night and 9-6 on a good night. Ebf and if he does wake he cried for maybe 2 mins before finding his thumb and going back to sleep.

It's brilliant but I'm terrified it won't last and scared of having number 2 cos the odds if getting another one like this are not good!!

PoppyFleur Sun 05-May-13 07:14:20

DS slept through at 12 weeks, was bf until 7 weeks then ff. We did visit cranial oesteopath at 8 weeks and 10 weeks, I really do feel this made a huge difference as before that DS was not happy (traumatic birth at 37 weeks gestation, in SCBU for a week with pneumonia).

ToysRLuv Sun 05-May-13 07:22:32

3 years. smile Sorry!

Tailtwister Sun 05-May-13 07:25:32

Reliably from 7pm-6am? Probably around 3yrs.

HairyPotter Sun 05-May-13 07:28:59

DD1 8 weeks
DD2 6 weeks

I really didn't know now lucky I was! My nephew is 10 and I can count on one hand the number of unbroken nights sleep his mum has managed.

NoWayPedro Sun 05-May-13 07:47:04

DD 8.5mo and still exclusively BF. Recently night-weaned and some sleep training - has gone 7pm until 5 or 6am this week with no wake-ups for resettling.

Great sleeper before 4 mo regression. Then we had tough few months with teething/cold etc. so this week has been a big relief.

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sun 05-May-13 07:53:09

dd1: 6.5 mo, after a couple of nights of sleep training. she is 6 now and sleeps like she's dead. if she wakes in the night she's invariably very poorly.
dd2: still waking most nights at 2.6y despite a bit of sleep training and cutting night feeds. i think we had a period from about 18-22 mo when she slept through, but she got bored with that.

OrWellyAnn Sun 05-May-13 07:54:38

Dd was 3.5. DS is 3 and still wakes at least once to climb in with me and snuggle.

OrWellyAnn Sun 05-May-13 07:55:17

That's years, not months...

tulippa Sun 05-May-13 07:58:43

DD slept through from day one - this caused feeding problems though so I had to set my alarm for the middle of the night to wake her up to feed.

DS slept through from about 3 (years) and still wakes up very early.

mediawhore Sun 05-May-13 08:00:01

3 good sleepers. All ff.

thebeastandbeauty Sun 05-May-13 08:03:43

DC1 occasional nights from about 8 weeks, consistently from 6 months (after using pick up put down for naps).

DC2 from about 12 weeks to 6 months. Thereafter woke 3/4/5/6 times a night and would get up at 5AM. Started sleeping through again at 2 yrs.

chickabilla Sun 05-May-13 08:04:14

DS1 was 10 months, DS2 still doesn't (nearly 3) and DD is nowhere near yet (10 weeks). Surprising how little sleep you can get used to!

ParadiseChick Sun 05-May-13 08:17:36

8 weeks for both, that was from 7pm to 6.30/7am. No ear plugs or ignoring or whiskey or rice, both breastfed.

They both only woke up once a night before that, I really struggle to know how people cope.

Bearcrumble Sun 05-May-13 08:19:29

DS is 3.2 he has slept 7-7ish for a year. From 18m it was only normally one night waking. He was bfed until 21 months so I do think weaning from the breast and sleeping through are connected.

DD is 13 months. She slept in two long chunks until 4 months. I thought I'd been gifted a sleeper but it all went to shit after the four month sleep regression. I don't want to do sleep training so am going to continue to cosleep and ride it out.

vvviola Sun 05-May-13 08:30:41

DD1 - just over a year, although she then went through a long phase of believing 5am was a respectable time to get up. And from about 6 months or so it was only 1 wake up per night, maximum 2.

DD2 is a whole different story, did midnight to 7am for a while around 12 weeks or so. Then we moved house/continent & the jet lag messed things up, and the food allergies kicked in and she was waking every 45 minutes!
At 20 months she now goes from 8 to 5am about every second night and then back to sleep til 7. Even though she's up at least twice the other night, I'm like a new woman grin

mycatoscar Sun 05-May-13 08:55:03

Dd was 2.5 years before she sttn consistently.

She's an only child. I need my sleep.

DS was 16 months.

CockyFox Sun 05-May-13 09:03:17

DS was 3 and 3 months for 4 hours without waking (I was 6 months pregnant with DD by then) and just unfer 4 before he slept from 8PM to about 5:30AM.
DD was doing 4 hour stints by 3 months and properly through the night 7:15PM -7:30AM by 6 months.

CockyFox Sun 05-May-13 09:04:05

Both were Breastfed for between 6 and 9 months btw.

digerd Sun 05-May-13 09:11:42

From 6 weeks. But at 10 months went through a phase of waking at midnight and had to take her downstairs to play pulling herself up to stand holding on to furniture.
That lasted only a few weeks. Then around 6 months later woke up in the middle of the night, so put a bottle of watered down juice next to her and would hear her sucking away on it and went back to sleep.
I didn't have to get up.

GirlOutNumbered Sun 05-May-13 09:13:14

13 months and new one slept through from 6 weeks, although hs up again at the moment with teeth.

I sleep in earplugs so don't wake at his every murmur.

cupcake78 Sun 05-May-13 09:16:53

Ds 3, still wakes up repeatedly at least two nights a week.

My nieces on the other hand were sleeping through from 5mths and 6weekshmm

fledtoscotland Sun 05-May-13 09:19:06

Ds1 - about 18 months
Ds2 - 4yrs old confused

ChunkyChicken Sun 05-May-13 09:35:37

My 2 DC (DD 3yo & DS 25wo) both slept from about 8pm until 7am ish at 19wo. I did a dream feed for DD for quite a while but recently stopped with DS after he went all night 2 nights running, as I was too tired to feed him before bed. However, the last couple of nights he's woken at 5.20 for a feed & then slept again until gone 7. Both bf.

DS did do a few all-night sleeps at 10wks but that was just a blip sadly. He is still not consistent but it could be worse.

Although some babies sleep through earlier, I've always felt lucky that my dc have usually been in bed for 11 or 12hrs, waking for 1 or 2 feeds only in that time, from about 9wo. By that I mean, they will sleep, feed, go straight back to sleep. They've not been ones to wake & think 3am is play time. They also nap well. In fact DD still does at least 1.5hrs every day (unless we're out etc), & she just turned 3y. It's swings & roundabouts though I guess, because they have a relatively late bedtime...

ChunkyChicken Sun 05-May-13 09:37:22

I don't mean to imply I was feeding DD at 3yo although if that's your bag, that's up to you more that at an equivalent age to DS now, DD was getting a dream feed...blush

Jojay Sun 05-May-13 09:37:59

DS1 - 4 mths
DS2 - 9 mths
DTD - 11mths
DTS - 21 mths, but still not 1005 reliable at nearly 2.

It varies so much,

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Sun 05-May-13 09:53:08

DC1, 2y5mo.

DC2, 4y5mo.

DC3, 7 weeks old.

DC4, currently 2y3mo, and not yet sleeping through...

Samu2 Sun 05-May-13 10:12:56

My first four STTN from 6 weeks old

My fifth? well, she is four and she still wakes up at least once.

Samu2 Sun 05-May-13 10:14:34

I thought I was awesome because mine went through so early. I thought I must have had some kind of sleeping super powers. My fifth was really an eye opener, I am sure she was such a bad sleeper just to teach me a lesson grin

SunMoonStarship Mon 06-May-13 08:56:42

Hi. Only just getting round to reading these.

neunundneunzigluftballons- your comment about "it came as a shock that they won't return the faulty one" made me laugh- thank you! It's exactly how I feel.

I had DC2 in the main part of tiny trolley as it was one of those ones without a seat (don't worry senza shoes!). A little old lady asked how much he cost and I replied that she could have him for free as he still didn't sleep at night!

SunMoonStarship Mon 06-May-13 08:59:16

No fledtoscotland you can't say DC2 4 years old- this is what worries me noooooooooooooooo

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 06-May-13 09:26:12

But it depends how manageable it is really. Hell of a difference between a babywho wakes every hour demanding huge amounts of input to go back down and one who wakes once at about the time you go to bed anyway and then sleeps through until some point where they pad softly down the hall and crawl in for a morning snuggle/extra couple of hours' sleep. (the only "training" I did with DS was to train him to come to us rather than cry and wait!) Or if you co sleep and they just stir a bit to make sure you're still there and barely wake you.

Jengnr Mon 06-May-13 09:40:21

Sleeps from 7-8pm until 5-6 ish from about 9 weeks.

Cloverer Mon 06-May-13 13:39:32

Yes, to be honest from about 9 months it didn't really matter to be that DS still woke once or twice a night - he didn't need a feed he just needed his dummy back and reassuring pat/sometimes a cuddle. After 12 months he didn't even need the dummy, just a quick cuddle and he was back to sleep.

Jan49 Mon 06-May-13 15:11:56

At 5 months, fully bf, but sleep was from 11pm to 8/9am. Then we went on holiday and he slept in the same room as us and started waking once a night and I can't remember when that stopped.

Groovee Mon 06-May-13 15:47:55

Dd went 9.30pm-5am from 9 weeks which to me was through the night. Then at 16 weeks went through the night 6.30pm-6.30.

Ds didn't sleep through until he was 3 and a half. He went from being up numerous times to 13 hours a night, which was a huge shock for me. I thought he was dead!

Squitten Mon 06-May-13 15:50:38

DS1 was nearly 3 when he stopped waking up and getting into our bed. DS2 was nearly 2 when he started to reliably sleep through but can still sometimes wake up in the night.

We're just assuming our immient arrival won't be a sleeper either!

BabyMakesTheYoniGoStretchy Mon 06-May-13 17:51:06

All of mine slept through by 5 weeks,just by themselves,nothing I did or didn't do.

Purplebananas Mon 06-May-13 18:25:10

DD - 20 weeks. DS - 22 weeks. I'm counting STTN as sleeping 12 hours though.

I'm told that some people count STTN as sleeping in a 5 hour stretch, if that's right then they were both doing it in about a week or two.

stopmovingthefurniture Mon 06-May-13 18:26:42

I'm losing the will to live. My twenty month old slept through from seven weeks until it all fell apart at ten months. Now she sleeps with DH in the spare room, sometimes rousing every half an hour to check he is there. We're going to Mill Pond it...

Still waiting here for 11mo DS to consistently sleep for longer than three hours at a stretch. Haven't met 'STTN' by anyone's definition yet. He might have done a five hour stretch twice in his life, but I'm too bloody tired to remember specifics.

loofet Mon 06-May-13 18:40:38

I think it's a matter of opinion as to what you consider sttn to be. For some it means from whenever their bedtime is (so say 11 p.m) to 5 or 6 a.m whilst for others its 7 p.m-7 a.m.

For us- DC1 slept 6 pm-7 a.m from 6 months, DC2 did the same from 2 months and DC3 is almost 9 months and sleeps 6 p.m- midnight, has a change and feed and sleeps til 6 a.m. So all babies are v.different. BF v FF can have some bearing on it, separation anxiety, their own temperament and also weaning. I think they say 6 months is average because they start to wean then so should in theory be fuller for longer.

Midlifecrisisarefun Mon 06-May-13 18:48:43

DS2 was about six month the memory is a bit vague, DD was nine weeks. DS1 is twenty five YEARS and still sleeps poorly!! He was five years old before he slept more than two hours! That's why the memory of DS2 is vague!! grin

SmellsLikeTeenStrop Mon 06-May-13 18:56:24

All mine have been different, longest was 2 years, quickest was 8 weeks. To me, STTN is from around midnight where they get their last feed, to any time from 7 AM.

pointythings Mon 06-May-13 19:23:10

DD1 - 10 weeks.

DD1 - 11 months.

And you do realise that in a young baby, 5 hours or longer is classed as STTN?

TwinkleTits Mon 06-May-13 19:50:16

DS1 - 6 years old. Years - <sob>

Ds2 - 2 years old and nowhere near.

Purplebananas Mon 06-May-13 19:56:11

I was told that recently about the 5 hour thing, I had never heard it before. I would have considered 5 hours as '5 hours between feeds' when they were little, not sttn because we weren't getting a full nights sleep because they woke up mid way through the night.

Every baby is different and everyone has their own gauge of what sttn is so maybe the original question would have been better worded as 'When did your baby sleep through XX hours?'

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Mon 06-May-13 20:10:34

DD was 5 weeks, DS more like 18 months and it took a lot of controlled crying. Was worth it though as he is much happier now hes getting more sleep! As are the rest of us! grin

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Mon 06-May-13 20:12:59

Meant to add that DD went through a phase at around 2 for a whole fecking year of waking in the night due to night terrors. Most nights she went back to sleep straight away in my bed with me but other times she wanted a drink and a chat (at 3am- ALWAYS 3am!) hmm

bishboschone Mon 06-May-13 20:19:29

Both mine exactly the same . 10-7 at 7 weeks 7-7 at 12 weeks . Both very very different babies. What does your dc do when they wake up? Do you feed or just re settle? I trained mine from day one and took no chances with dc2 even though he was prem and had reflux he did exactly the same as dd.

CoteDAzur Mon 06-May-13 20:22:12

DD at 4 months and DS at 5 months, both after CC (following the advice of their paed).

RooneyMara Mon 06-May-13 20:26:54

No idea whatsoever, but I co slept and fed on demand for all of them for ages so it wasn't much of an issue.

Ds3 is 4 months, he sometimes goes for about 6 hours overnight but after that it's all over the place.

But he's next to me so it's not too bad really.
Just as well because no one is around very much to help!

TheYamiOfYawn Mon 06-May-13 20:28:17

DD 2 and a half. DS three and a quarter.

RooneyMara Mon 06-May-13 20:28:26

By 6 hours I mean maybe 9pm to 3am. This is only sometimes.

How on earth is that classed as sleeping through the night??

CoteDAzur Mon 06-May-13 20:30:38

That is of course not "sleeping through the night".

Not yet - DS is three years and 2 months old and has seamlessly transitioned from waking up for a feed (until he was 2) or a drink to waking up because he's wet his nappy/pull-up. He was 2 before he stopped waking every 2-3 hours, then a month or so before his 3rd birthday he started to only wake up once a night (about 4am). He also only needs about 9 hours' sleep in every 24; if he has an afternoon nap then he will still be awake at 11pm and happily up at 6:30!
(Full-time teacher here; I'm accustomed to getting in from work at 6pm and doing a couple of hours' marking from 11pm-1am or so.)

Raspberrysorbet Mon 06-May-13 20:46:38

Fuck me. I've been complaining that BabyRaspberry is a shit sleeper, when in actual fact, he regularly STTN.

7-12. Quite often. He usually wakes up at least 3 times after that, which is why I mistakenly thought he was a shit sleeper.

He is 1 and a bit.

MamaBear17 Mon 06-May-13 20:52:38

My dd has only just started sleeping through at 20 months. She now does 7-5, quick drink of milk and then back down until 6, 6.30. Sometimes she will then get in with us and sleep until 7.30!

IfNotNowThenWhen Mon 06-May-13 21:00:32

This is a good thread for those people who have one or two who sleep thru really early, and feel ever so smug that it was their good sense and amazing routine that did it.
I firmly believe that, yes, there are things you can try (cc for example after 8 or 9 months) which will help, but some babies are built to sleep well, and some just are not.
I have a friend who, with her first, went on and on about why her dd slept thru at 6 weeks (routine, dark room, bath etc) and then had her second... Bwahahahah <evil>

HamAlive Mon 06-May-13 21:17:46

DS was a pretty good sleeper from birth, I got 2 four hour stretches, a bit of cluster feeding from 5-7 and then another 2 hours. He slept 6.30-6.30 at 10 weeks (bf). Then 4m hit and it all went to pot! Switched to formula around 6m but it made no difference (that wasn't why we switched).

We've had good and bad patches (9m was pretty horrendous) but he just started sleeping through reliably at 26 months.

ghosteditor Mon 06-May-13 21:21:26

Haven't read the thread, but:

DD 15 months - still not consistently sleeping through the night, but usually going through until 4-5am, which is a major improvement. Still doesn't nap much, never has. She was still waking about 4-6 times a night at 11 months and 2-3 times at 13 months. sad

Nicnocknoo Mon 06-May-13 21:28:20

Ds1 7 week. Ds2 4.5 years!! By the time ds2 STTN I was so sleep deprived and emotionally messed up that I posted on Facebook that I would run away if only I had the energy. Ds2 is now 5, sleeps fine and those 4.5 years seem a world away!

5madthings Mon 06-May-13 21:37:31

Ds1 slept through at three years...but we had had ds2 by then...

Ds2 slept through by 20mthsish?

Ds3 was similar to ds2.

Ds4 was the amazing sleeping baby and slept through from 4mths wish, tho he had a dream feed for a bit longer I think.

Dd mum from about a year has been pretty good, before that she generally just needed her dummy or to be reswaddled when she woke.

gallifrey Mon 06-May-13 21:41:10

dd1 slept through from 2 weeks old, she didn't actually go to sleep until about 11 pm but she slept until morning. Even now it's a job to get her to go to bed before 9!

Dd2 was totally different she would go to sleep early but wake up a lot and didn't sleep through until she was 6 months. Now she is a fabulous sleeper and we don't hear a peep out of her all night, this morning she didn't wake up until gone 9 grin

EglantinePrice Mon 06-May-13 21:42:48

dd slept through (9 hours) from birth.

Then at 6 months she stopped and woke many times a night until she was around 18 months.

HTH!

both

6 weeks

Theyoniwayisnorthwards Mon 06-May-13 21:51:50

DS1 is 2.5 and wakes at least once a night. DS2 is 5 months and has just started sleeping from 11 to 6 without waking...

sleepdodger Mon 06-May-13 22:04:51

As a baby er never
As a toddler sometimes from 15mo
I'm still waiting for gauranteed runs...
Sorry

LemonsLimes Mon 06-May-13 22:07:37

One of mine slept through at 9 weeks and one slept through at 2 years 2 months.

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