antenatal baby scans on facebook

(68 Posts)
FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 18:07:17

I'm not sure I want to see pictures of someone's innards on facebook. A bit too much information?

thebody Sat 04-May-13 18:08:55

Wouldn't bother me to he honest but not sure I would have done it myself.

NickNacks Sat 04-May-13 18:10:10

I don't mind actually. It's lovely to be a part of family pregnancies who are abroad.

VeremyJyle Sat 04-May-13 18:10:12

Thinking of an ante natal scan as "someone's innards" is akin to describing a baby as a poo - they are both expelled from the body no?

You just mean a scan pic? Or something else?

HollyBerryBush Sat 04-May-13 18:13:02

I agree with you. People just have no dignity these days

PickledLiver Sat 04-May-13 18:14:04

My baby is akin to a poo. She is mainly made of poo sad

HollyBerryBush Sat 04-May-13 18:15:54

NO, innards would be your organs. Poo would be stuff.

>shoulda been a doctor, me<

clattypatty Sat 04-May-13 18:16:45

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HollyBerryBush Sat 04-May-13 18:17:45

baby tickers - another one ... I'm amazed they don't start from day one with 'jizzed up my box'

maddening Sat 04-May-13 18:19:45

It's hardly a graphic representation so yabu

FoxyRoxy Sat 04-May-13 18:21:47

Yabu the only "innards" to be seen is a uterus which is basically fuzz around the actual baby. If you don't approve of people posting scan pictures then say so, don't use an excuse.

squoosh Sat 04-May-13 18:23:05

YANBU.

No one is interested!

FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 18:23:14

If it's not a graphic representation, what is it? Also, once a picture is on fb, it's out. You are not simply sharing a photo amongst friends. Ha ha! Perhaps a slew of tooth x-rays and gut movies are the new order!

crashdoll Sat 04-May-13 18:29:00

Are you really comparing an x-ray of a tooth to a unborn human? hmm It doesn't really bother me, what does bother me is seeing photos on FB of newborn babies still covered in goo. <shudders>

FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 18:31:07

I expect that'll be next. Can't wait... At least by then, all things being equal, the child will be breathing air. But what is basically a medical procedure?

PickledLiver Sat 04-May-13 18:31:12

I'm due a colonoscopy but I've been putting it off. Maybe this is my reason to have it done. My lucky friends grin

FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 18:35:33

grin Your lucky friends indeed! Compare and contrast! I would worry that these images spread around the place and arrived back. Rather like chinese whispers.

FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 20:12:07

So.. what is the most unsuitable and distasteful thing that has arrived on your facebook page? I mind because I do not want to know the intimate details of someone I know only by name.

kungfupannda Sat 04-May-13 20:14:41

I'd rather see a picture of someone's inards than read the constant innermost thoughts and feelings of a couple of people I know who are incapable of censoring the "not appropriate for every man and his dog to read" out of their posts!

stopmovingthefurniture Sat 04-May-13 20:14:48

How needlessly provocative. A baby is not your innards. Your innards are your innards.

YABU

For gods sake someone is just trying to share their news with friends. Don't have so many people on fb that you don't know well enough to be happy for them!

I don't like people's baby or child photos as profile pics tho - keep your own identity!

DebsMorgan Sat 04-May-13 20:16:51

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SucksToBeMe Sat 04-May-13 20:17:35

Having a baby is such a huge part of your life, I don't know why it's a problem sharing it on FB.

TheSecondComing Sat 04-May-13 20:19:32

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Raspberrysorbet Sat 04-May-13 20:19:54

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HeffalumpTheFlump Sat 04-May-13 20:21:04

YABU I have loved seeing my friends scan photos on fb and posted my own. I only have actual friends and family on my fb so no one I wouldn't want to see it anyway. My profile is set on the strictest privacy settings so no one else can access my photos. If they bother you don't look at them.

Blowninonabreeze Sat 04-May-13 20:22:47

Medic friend of mine posted a picture of his obstructed small bowel (taken during surgery) on Facebook...

A few days later it was his son's birthday, so you're happily flicking through pictures of his son's birthday cake and suddenly come across an operating table.

That truly is innards!

thezebrawearspurple Sat 04-May-13 20:31:00

I love the 4D ones, yabu.

Jewcy Sat 04-May-13 20:36:37

I am soon to fly to the Czech Republic for donor egg IVF. I am a childless hag of (almost) 42. If I am blessed with a baby I think I'll sprint down the M6 screaming the news..hmm

maddening Sat 04-May-13 20:42:20

a v graphic representation of someone's insides would be a photo of a person perhaps during surgery with their innards splayed out - a scan is not extremely graphic in detail.

Percephone Sat 04-May-13 20:44:28

My DH put my scan picture on Facebook (and tagged me in it) without checking it was ok with me first angry

squoosh Sat 04-May-13 20:44:35

Good luck Jewcy!

maddening Sat 04-May-13 20:45:20

ps why have fb friends who you only know by name? Perhaps change settings so your primary friends feed to your newsfeed?

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Sat 04-May-13 20:46:20

I'd just be happy for the person involved. Delete her if you can't find any interest in her happy news.

I put my 20 week scan pic up and my friends and family loved seeing it. I only have friends and family on facebook -- ie people who are happy to share my happy news.

AdmiralData Sat 04-May-13 21:12:56

I don't mind people posting their photos of their unborn/newborn babies on Facebook what does bother me is people slagging me off for not wanting my Boo plastered all over the net. Apparently that makes me a bad mum :D YANBU.

SorryMyLollipop Sat 04-May-13 21:19:12

After 11 yrs of infertility/TTC I will be posting my 12 week scan pics all over the place. I have a select group of true friends on FB who I am sure will all be shocked and delighted for me smile

squoosh Sat 04-May-13 21:22:47

Aw I'm delighted for you Lollipop. Congrats!

CloudsAndTrees Sat 04-May-13 21:25:22

I like seeing people happy about their pregnancy and their babies on Facebook, it's nice when people are happy about things and want to share.

LittlePeaPod Sat 04-May-13 21:49:18

YANBU, I think its a bit strange but that's because I wouldn't do it myself.. I generally remove future posts from said people from appearing on my notification page.. Problem solved...

Kyrptonite Sat 04-May-13 21:56:12

I've refrained from posting mine. I did however take a picture of a letter DSD had written to her friend saying I have a baby brother in Kyrpt's tummy.
That way only people who bothered to properly look at the picture would know.

Kyrptonite Sat 04-May-13 22:45:00

I have just realised this might have been a bit twee blush

Fluffypinkcoat Sat 04-May-13 23:23:55

I like seeing people's scan pictures. I feel happy for them that they are so excited that they want to share it with everyone.

Arisbottle Sat 04-May-13 23:27:57

They are just trying to share their joy at being pregnant. Why would you judge a friend for being excited about being pregnant ?

We are TTC after a miscarriage , when I fall pregnant and remain pregnant I may post my scan photos , thankfully my friends are not judgemental nobs and they will share my joy, rather than sneering at me.

ananikifo Sat 04-May-13 23:36:08

People post so much unnecessary information on Facebook, but sonograms are nice. YABU.

GreyWhites Sat 04-May-13 23:56:52

I personally didn't want to, but I don't mind if other people do. I love seeing other people's tiny scan pics, I think they're cute. If you're feeling angry about it or disgusted by it, maybe this says more about you than about them?

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 05-May-13 00:06:55

Yabu.

Its not a graphic or gory image of a operation or something nasty and whilst I wouldn't do it myself its not a abnormal or offensive thing to do.

eBay sell grips,you need one.

DevonCiderPunk Sun 05-May-13 00:11:30

YABU. Scan pictures are one of the happier things to be found on Facebook. I love to see a friend's scan pictures; if it offends you, simply de-friend anyone who wants to share their baby scan with you.

...and I've never even noticed the "innards" on a scan picture! I suppose a frame of uterus is there, but the baby is the focus of the picture.

RaspberryRuffle Sun 05-May-13 00:19:23

I'm with the OP, I just don't like seeing scan pics or just emerged babies...I'm happy for them but don't see the need for such intimate parts of your life (hopefully not body) on FB.
I see the suggestion of defriending people who do this, tbh I wouldn't defriend someone I know is pregnant in case it upset them. That's not saying they give a hoot about whether I'm their friend, I just think the people who dopost scan pics etc tend to be the more avid FB users who would notice such a thing and I think it's a bit mean. But I still don't like the pics.
Also one of my friends just shut her FB account as she's been TTC for ages and was fed up of all those pics, our group of friends from school seem to be all having babies right now, I think it is quite painful to be reminded all the time taht lots of the other girls have what she really longs for.

DevonCiderPunk Sun 05-May-13 00:29:03

Ah RaspberryRuffle I hadn't thought of the TTC angle. You're right there. Although I have had a fair few FB friends, who were TTC for many years, post scan pictures when they were expecting at long last...

thisonehasalittlecar Sun 05-May-13 00:31:13

I didn't do it but I did show my scans to my family and close friends in person; I don't think it's that different doing it online unless you are 'friends' with 800,000 strangers, in which case it would be a bit like having it enlarged and pasted on a billboard in your hometown. Which would be odd.

'In person' only works if you all live in the same town.

I love seeing these pictures. They make me feel I'm more in touch with relatives and friends living on the other side of the world and they give me a chance to share that I'm excited.

If you don't like it, don't look. But since people share these pictures in a sense of excitement, it does seem rather unnecessary and unpleasant to have a go at them for it, I think?

Ericaequites Sun 05-May-13 05:19:26

I don't feel I should see baby pictures until the baby is entirely outside the mother's body. Note: I am childless by choice.
On the other hand, I feel all thirteen year olds should see the Lamaze movie. Seeing how a baby is born might make them think about the consequences of sex.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Sun 05-May-13 05:32:21

delete the friends then.

Bastards. Being happy and excited - utter bastards.

I would hope, of the people on my FB, anybody sneering at my scan pic and subsequent newborn pics (one of which was of DS minutes old) that they would delete me, I share pics with my loved ones and enjoy seeing their varied pictures and updates.

Sneery fuckers please, please, hit the un-friend (or whatever it's called) button! grin

edwardsmum11 Sun 05-May-13 06:22:29

I have to admit I put mine up but I waited 8 yrs for my son and knew some people would know the significance.

Kafri Sun 05-May-13 06:26:56

what the bloody hell does it matter? I see many a picture on fb that im not overly interested in - nights out/those 'inspirational' pics etc. I have a clever little thing on my computer called a mouse! it allows me to scroll past the things I'm not too bothered about and click for a closer look at the things that interest me. have a look OP - you might have one too! grin

nicelyneurotic Sun 05-May-13 07:49:51

Ahh, I love seeing new baby scans, it's sweet and a nice way to tell people the news. You don't see anything gross, just a tiny baby on a black background. YABU!

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Sun 05-May-13 08:03:24

YABU

I like seeing the scan pics and my family and friends' baby/child photos, especially when I don't see them often.

I posted my scan pics as I wanted to share my excitement with my loved ones. Sometimes I think that a couple of my friends (who don't like children full stop) must think that I post too many (a couple a week roughly), but they can always scroll past, hide my posts, or defriend me if they are that bothered.

Other friends and family comment that it is lovely to see them as they change so quickly and they feel they can share it. And yes, this includes scan pics.

meganorks Sun 05-May-13 08:13:48

Yabu. A scan is something you would usually show people. So why not put on Facebook. Sure a lot people don't care but at least it has bit more interest that yet another picture of what someone is having for dinner!

YABU. And I hope I don't know you irl as i would hate to think of any of my friends/family sneering at my scan/newborn pictures on Facebook. Fwiw, I live literally on the other side of the world from my entire family, and all my friends, and many have commented on how much they enjoyed seeing scan/newborn pics, as I now have two ds's that none of them have met. Hopefully if any of them feel as you do, then they'll do the sensible think and unfriend me.

Ps, if you can make out any actual organs on a scan picture then you've got better eyesight than me.

everythinghippie29 Sun 05-May-13 08:30:47

I live quite far from my friends and family so will likely post my first scan picture so they can feel more involved in the pregnancy. If people don't like it they can always de-friend. I can see your point about it being overshary, but I see lots on FB and practically its easier way to share my happy news with the people I love! Will not be having it as my profile pic however, and will have privacy settings for just close friends and family. smile

HairyWorm Sun 05-May-13 08:59:00

I was the one of those people TTC having MCs and watching friends post scan pictures on fb. It smarted but I certainly didn't begrudge them or think they shouldn't post.

I posted my 12 and 20 week scans and if that offends any friends on facebook for being TMI (so that they feel the need to go and write on a forum about it) then I really think they should get a life in the real world and take a close look at how important fb is to their existence. or just foff and unfriend me

I can't see why someone would be so joyless as to have an issue with scan pics.

MummytoKatie Sun 05-May-13 09:00:22

I must have two many doctor friends. Who post genuine 'innards" pictures. Baby scans are nice.

MummytoKatie Sun 05-May-13 09:00:42

Too!

Justaperfectday Sun 05-May-13 09:08:02

Fb is for sharing with friends, why wouldn't someone want to share their scan pic - yabu and a miserable fucker wink

CabbageLeaves Sun 05-May-13 09:08:07

Baby scans are not scans of a baby...not innards. I love seeing people's joy.

There is such a whole snobbery around FB nowadays. Live and let live. Or defriend.

Whilst I have one FB acquaintance who drives me nuts with her both indiscreet and indiscriminate posting (row with family member followed by a description of the cup of tea she is drinking...) I can quickly flick on. I could defriend but frankly it's not what I wish to do. I smile because its an irritating, but known quirk for a friend.

I have few FB friends (<100) and enjoy the variety in their posts. Maybe if all my friends did post like her I'd get annoyed. Perhaps time to look at your friendship group or your own life as a whole to see why this gets to you.

ananikifo Sun 05-May-13 13:52:32

For everyone saying defriend: It is possible to hide someone's posts on your newsfeed, without defriending them. Your friend is not informed that you hid them.

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