To wonder if women don't get PMT/S anymore?

(44 Posts)
LEMisdisappointed Thu 02-May-13 10:06:42

I was laying awake in bed last night (as one does) with my nipples on fire, following a difficult few days emotionally. I have a mirena coil so i don't actually have periods and when i did have them they were irregular, but i did get horrendous PMT. But i was wonderin if my symptoms were PMT related.

Then it occured to me that i never notice any posts or threads about PMT on here - I'm having an abberation aren't i? but im here ALOT too much and i never notice anything in Active convos or any of the threads i read theres a lot of those too

Is it something that we don't talk about anymore? or is it i suspect this is more likely because im not visited by AF that i just don't pick up on it.

Its a bit of a feminist issue too, isn't it? goady

ArthurCucumber Thu 02-May-13 10:11:44

I'm sure I've seen a few mentions of it on here - certainly mentions of being "hormonal" crop up quite a lot.

What I don't like is when it's used to describe a woman (often by the woman herself) who is rightfully angry about something.

tungthai Thu 02-May-13 10:13:14

I get it. After my second child my horrendous debilitating periods became pain free and manageable but were replaced with awful PMT which is a new thing for me. I feel bleurgh for 3 out of 4 weeks now.

TheSmallPrint Thu 02-May-13 10:14:21

I don't get PMT but I do get cross at people being idiots and that's when I notice people like to accuse you of having it. It's like a woman is never allowed to be cross or upset unless it's hormonally related. hmm

I am sure there are plenty of people who do suffer from it though. Just as there are many. many men whos lives are affected by their hormones.

TheSmallPrint Thu 02-May-13 10:14:41

Can I ask why your nipples were on fire though? grin

LEMisdisappointed Thu 02-May-13 10:18:04

You may ask, but alas i don't know - i think its, um, hormonal grin My poor dog got launched from my lap last night for daring to put his paw on one - he's quite lucky he wasn't slam dunked tbh!

YES - to the annoyance "have you got PMT" my DP would be guilty of this, he doesn't say it anymore because he risks the following answers

1. No, you are simply being a cunt
2. Yes I have, now hold still while i saw your cock off with this breadknife

Its best not to ask

Fakebook Thu 02-May-13 10:18:56

I do. I get angry and lash out and become emotional over stupid things about a week before my period. When I'm pregnant I become laid back and happy for the whole 9 months.

I don't think PMT is a feminist issue, more a female medical condition, unless it is used in an insulting, put down manner, which female health conditions often are. Most of my friends have found that their PMT has gotten better after pregnancy and as they get older, so perhaps that is why we don't see it bought up. Better contraception methods and information about how to manage hormone fluctuations,probably help. I agree that posters do say "hormones", which is a valid self observation, no different from recognising being tired, or stressed.

mrsjay Thu 02-May-13 10:21:01

What I don't like is when it's used to describe a woman (often by the woman herself) who is rightfully angry about something.

I was angry with another woman on facebook she was being an idiot aparently she called me a middle aged menopausal hag I had deleted her, no love you were being an arsehole.

there is loads of PMT threads on here I have started a few myself in the past, I am always a bit envy when i hear women say oh i get a little cranky the day before grin

Callycat Thu 02-May-13 12:57:54

Can't say my female friends ever mention it. I'm lucky in that I have never experienced it, and as it is never discussed in my circles I do wonder if it is a bit more rare than people (i.e. blokes who like to call PMT at every woman who argues with them {grin}) think.

ScumbagCollegeDropout Thu 02-May-13 13:02:07

I've noticed it a lot more since becoming a lone parent.

I am definitely more irritable towards DD1 the week before my period, unfortunately.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 02-May-13 13:04:44

I wish I didn't get it.

I think some people on here (including me) post when they have it in an errr robust manner

mrsjay Thu 02-May-13 13:20:23

I actually dont speak to RL women about it I know you are real women but I like posting about it on here about it because even though it won't cure it sharing the looniness and pain of it does help for that few moments you are on a thread it shows that you are not alone

ShowMeTheYoni Thu 02-May-13 13:24:51

I get really crabby a few days before. Then I turn into a 1950s housewife, clean and bake! Neither of which is like me. I am Jekyll and Hyde! I used to get awful pains and cramps, but this stopped immediately when I switched to a mooncup. I do get pmt as above but just carry on. The kids avoid me until I am at the baking stage grin

Weegiemum Thu 02-May-13 13:28:58

I don't get it any more (hooray for premature menopause!)

However, my 13 yo dd came in last week and said "mum I couldn't help it I had to have chocolate!" Then bit my head off 5 mins later when I asked about homework and music practice. Glad we're not getting it together!

meglet Thu 02-May-13 13:45:55

My hormones are becoming a real problem now I'm tipping into the peri-menopause (am 39). It's so bad I'm starting to think I should be confined to the house on my own 2 days a month.

WTFisABooyhooISBooyhoo Thu 02-May-13 13:49:32

i get really bad moods on the few days after my periods. it's horrible.

Molehillmountain Thu 02-May-13 13:50:16

I can confirm that women still get it, as I went to the gp to get help with my raging irritability which occurs at precise times in my cycle. Luckily, I don't just have pmt, I get it when ovulation too and have about a week a month where I feel normal. Doc has put me on the pill. I, and all my family, really hope it works.

DionFortune Thu 02-May-13 13:53:33

I feel like the world is ending every month, then am always surprised by the realisation that it may in fact, quite possibly be just my hormones.

Every time.

YoniOneWayOfLife Thu 02-May-13 13:55:46

My hormones are becoming a real problem now I'm tipping into the peri-menopause (am 39). It's so bad I'm starting to think I should be confined to the house on my own 2 days a month. Yep, that's me. I would gladly go and live in a hut on a deserted island, and I'm just booking the ticket when my period starts and I realise why.

EmpressMaud Thu 02-May-13 13:58:22

I get cramps and breast pain, other niggles and pain. Mood doesn't really seem to fluctuate, not that I've noticed.

HoneyDragon Thu 02-May-13 14:03:11

I get it. I know I get it. Which means every week before my period I second guess everything as I don't trust my reactions.

My ds is nearly 10 and picks up on my general demeanour bless him, I have explained all about hormones and always apologise if I'm snappy, but my god, the rage I feel inside about minor things is vile sad

TheYamiOfYawn Thu 02-May-13 14:04:09

I get really bad PMT. It pretty much dominates my life, as for around a third of my adult life (apart from when pregnant and before my periods came back) I am properly depressed and have no energy. I can do various things to ease the symptoms, but they are always there, just quieter now.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 02-May-13 14:25:33

My mood doesn't fluctuate with it as it used to when I was younger, but I get awful anxiety, back pain, random limb pain and facial tingling.

I am currently on Day 2 of my period and starting to feel much much better.

YoniRanger Thu 02-May-13 18:09:52

I have 2 days of dark black depression and seriously consider suicide. Every month.

I know it's PMT which is how I drag myself through it. I tend not to discuss it though.

StuntGirl Thu 02-May-13 18:16:19

Oh god yoni sad Could you see a doctor about it? That sounds vile.

I get it every month. Horrid sad

A lot of women have the coil or the pill which does away with PMT symptoms generally. I was posting on here in desperation a year or so ago, until I went on Yasmin just for PMT. I think it's as real as ever but we tend to control it hormonally.

Oh and mine got so much worse after having DS.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

redexpat Thu 02-May-13 19:31:05

Mine disappeared when I started using the contraceptive patch. Bloody marvellous invention that.

God I'm glad it's not just me am 41 andamready to swing for dh just like clockwork once a month. Have bought women's vitamins in hope. Any other ideas?

Spikeytree Thu 02-May-13 21:01:34

I get completely irrationally angry about a week before my period. I had a massive row with my sister about some cheese one month and didn't speak to her for days. I also find myself just sitting crying some days, for no apparent reason, until I realise what time of the month it is. Once I realise why I feel like I do I can control it a bit more, but when I'm in a rage or crying I often lack the insight to stop myself.

digerd Thu 02-May-13 21:11:37

Going on the contraceptive pill got rid of mine.

parabelle Thu 02-May-13 21:11:43

I get it, am going to talk to the doctor about it next month. It's getting worse, mood swings, migraines, water retention, stomach pains, then diarrhoea. It's a monthly joy.

notquitenormal Thu 02-May-13 21:17:20

I get PMT.

My periods are very irregular, anything from 2-12 weeks apart. But about 5 days before each one I star to get rages and DH & DS especially can't do a thing right without me biting their heads of.

I know I'm being a bitch and try to keep out of their way.

DH just keeps his trap shut and takes it as a cue to stock up on tampons next time he does the shopping.

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 02-May-13 21:17:23

I don't have periods any more and before I was years on the depot injection.
But I know with PMT I was the most difficult unreasonable over emotional person you could ever meet. When my period started I knew without looking as I suddenly felt utterly calm.
So no, I don't think it's a feminist issue, to me it was very real and I was an utter cow.

LaGuardia Thu 02-May-13 21:18:56

There is lots more medical help available for PMT these days. Absolutely no need to suffer, especially from depression. Please go to see your GP and explain your symptoms.

EmpressMaud Thu 02-May-13 22:11:14

Has anybody had any success with evening primrose oil or something similar? I took a high dosage for a couple of months and didn't notice any difference.

Kleptronic Thu 02-May-13 22:13:30

I've got it right now. I could fight a rabid jackal.

Kleptronic Thu 02-May-13 22:19:44

I meant hyena. FFS. And I slammed my finger in a door and made it bleed today. Never do that without the rampaging pre-menses. Next time round, me, a man, for definite, or the universe is in a whole heap of woe. Not that I am subscribing to a belief system, just making it plain, in case.

Schooldidi Thu 02-May-13 22:21:27

I never had any PMT at all until my last pregnancy. I never had regular periods because I have pcos and had the contraceptive injection which stopped all periods (not that I noticed because I only used to have one or two a year anyway).

Since my last pregnancy ended (miscarriage) a year ago I have had a period every 30 days regular as clockwork and am in an atrocious mood for 2 weeks of every 4, it starts as i ovulate (I assume) and continues til the first day of my period.

I want to go back to no periods but I also want to convince dp to ttc so hormonal contraception is probably not a great idea.

MogTheForgetfulCat Thu 02-May-13 22:37:10

Blimey, I get it, quite badly. I am a shouty, snappy, glass-half-empty vindictive, miserable, fat caaaaahhhh for at least a couple of days beforehand. I regularly contemplate walking out on my lovely DH and even lovelier DSs sad.

I get into manic cleaning and tidying jags, and have hideous headaches. I was appalled when my last cycle went from 26 days (having taken several months since stopping bf'ing DS3 to get back to that length, which is about normal for me) to just 21 days.

I really can't cope with feeling so awful every 3 weeks rather than every nearly-4-weeks, and being so vile to live with. Am going to buy agnus castus or similar, and talk to GP about suitable contraception. Sigh.

seriouscakeeater Thu 02-May-13 23:26:11

Yep I did ,could become murderous instantaneously. Go from 1-10 on the explosion scale in seconds. When I was younger and less in control I could smash every single plate in the house. Could burst in to tears over pathetic stuff, hideous.

I took my back side of to the doctor and got it sorted. She was very liberal and we went down the herbal route first and it made an improvement!

OhHullitsOnlyMeYoni Thu 02-May-13 23:29:03

I think people say 'hormones' now, rather than PMT - at least that's what I have noticed. I think men went a bit OTT on putting everything down to PMT and it has become a bit taboo...
I get it, and notice I find it harder to get up in the mornings and shorter patience than usual.

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