Or can I be pissed off- baby name

(53 Posts)
Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 11:58:27

Have name changes for this as know I'm going to get told off but I can't help but be annoyed!
Basically I work in a very small office me and another girl at work who I'm quite friendly with were expecting quite close to each other ish. We spoke about names both not giving away any ideas to much.
Anyway My lovely dd is 2 months old and we picked out a name not in top 50 which is a female version of a male name think along the lines of Philippa. Colleague had a little boy this week called the male version of the name eg Philip but in the top 50.
I can't help but feel a bit weird I know that I don't own the name but two babies in such a small team with very similar names I feel a bit weird
Iabu aren't I?!

Levantine Mon 29-Apr-13 11:59:39

Yes! You probably won't even be working together in a few years

LittleBairn Mon 29-Apr-13 12:00:20

Yes your being ridiculous.

grin Yes you are being very silly.

bollockstoit Mon 29-Apr-13 12:02:19


SkinnybitchWannabe Mon 29-Apr-13 12:02:23

Yep yabu. My adopted nephew and my son have the same forename

wigglesrock Mon 29-Apr-13 12:02:28

Yes YABU, smile I colleague of mine called his baby the same name as mine (they're 6 months apart), didn't even cross my mind to think twice about it, mind you it's a popular name.

I think this can be a drawback when you chose a less popular name, there is more of a sense of ownership.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 29-Apr-13 12:03:08

yes, you know you are!

SavoyCabbage Mon 29-Apr-13 12:03:24

Yes, yes you are. grin The babies aren't in the team for a start. And it's not even the same name.

She was probably aghast when you pickled your dds name. She probably come on here and was told to go for it anyway.

Sugarice Mon 29-Apr-13 12:03:36

Yes you are being unreasonable! grin.

How many other people are in your office? do you suspect there may be some eye rolling and quiet tutting going on as the pair of you are pfbing over your respective offspring when you're both back working?

It sounds like the pair of you were quite competitive regarding names.

NotTreadingGrapes Mon 29-Apr-13 12:06:05

Have I understood that one is a girl and one a boy?

Then how the feckity have they got the same names?

YABU and a leedle bit mad.

(Is it George?)

MidniteScribbler Mon 29-Apr-13 12:06:45

Good grief. Find a grip store.... quickly!

Icelollycraving Mon 29-Apr-13 12:07:00

Yabu. I kind of understand but don't ever mention this outside of mn or you will get some very hmmphy faces. Your friends will tell you yanbu but they will think you have lost the plot!

newbiefrugalgal Mon 29-Apr-13 12:07:27

Yep YABU - in the future will you ever have contact with this woman.
I wouldn't even be upset if it was a family member who did this.
Different -sorry!

Trill Mon 29-Apr-13 12:07:42

Yes. You are.

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:08:44

Thanks all knew I was but needed telling! Very small team of 10 sugarice don't think we were competitive about names we only discussed it when other people in office brought it up and only couple of times really

DontmindifIdo Mon 29-Apr-13 12:09:05

It might seem like she's close to you now because you work together and spend so much time in each other's company, but look at it this way, are you both likely to go back to work full time after having your DCs? There's a good chance at least one of you will go back parttime or not at all. Will your DCs spend any time together? I have had a job share for 2 years but I have seen her DD twice in that time, both at the Christmas children's party my company holds.

If she was someone you lived close too so your DC might be in the same nursery or school class, then odd to pick it when the two DCs are so close in age, but this is not a child that will be around your child at all. If she's picked what is a common name (being in the top 50 for boys) then there's a chance that another little boy your DD will get to know when she's a little older at whichever childcare you go for, or toddler groups you take her too, or school.

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:09:32

Not George but as popular as that

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:11:08

Thanks don'tmind she lives across town so we may see each other I'd we arrange a meet up but don't think we'd be going to same baby groups or anything

wigglesrock Mon 29-Apr-13 12:11:31

Alexandria and Alexander per chance smile

Bowlersarm Mon 29-Apr-13 12:12:10

Yes. YABU. You are only work colleagues and will no doubt go your separate ways at some stage. If everyone avoided using a name that someone they knew had used (and this isn't even the same name), well most babies wouldn't be named.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Mon 29-Apr-13 12:12:53

It's good you' recognise you are BU and came back to admit it. Kudos!

As an aside , this is why I did not discuss baby names with colleagues as (a) I couldn't give a shit about their opinions and (b) I didn't want someone saying either to my face or behind my back that they had bagged that name and any derivative thereof

OneToThree Mon 29-Apr-13 12:12:58

Yabu. Henry/Henrietta?

CandidaDoyle Mon 29-Apr-13 12:15:00

William & Wilma?

DontmindifIdo Mon 29-Apr-13 12:15:26

Your DD is only 2 months old, you haven't got into the whole baby groups and toddler groups and classes thing yet probably! You'll find that increasingly work colleagues become less important when you have DCs.

You also might end up with very different nicknames for your DCs, so it's not as obvious to others that the long versions are the male and female equivilant of the same name.

Sam / Samuel and Samantha?

CandidaDoyle Mon 29-Apr-13 12:16:57


MissSusan Mon 29-Apr-13 12:17:09

Martin and Martine ?

5318008 Mon 29-Apr-13 12:19:20

Oliver Olivia

Yabu but you've got new baby hormones, bless ya

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:20:26

Gold star to Annie
<really hopes colleague isn't a munsnetter>

letseatgrandma Mon 29-Apr-13 12:20:45

Ie boy-Harry, girl-Harriet?

Yes, YABU ;)

chrome100 Mon 29-Apr-13 12:20:59

Peter and Petra? Louise and Louis? Steven and Stephanie? Luke and Lucia? David and Davina?

Unlurked Mon 29-Apr-13 12:21:15

Harry and Harriet?

Yabu, but you knew that! Congratulations on your dd smile

TigerSwallowTail Mon 29-Apr-13 12:21:54

Yabu, it really won't be an issue once the babies are here. DS is a year older than his cousin and they spend a lot of time with each other. They both have very similar names, with only one letter different. Apart from them both turning their heads when one of their names is called there hasn't been any issues.

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:23:04

Really paranoid now that I've admitted what the names are she will read this bugger!

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Mon 29-Apr-13 12:23:50

Jackie (Jacqueline) and Jack?

Good for you for realising YABU smile

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Mon 29-Apr-13 12:25:29

X post

They are quite different sounding names. She may not have even realised, or it could have a family significance?

Sugarice Mon 29-Apr-13 12:25:46

You both have fab taste wink, my ds1-[18 today!] is a Joe.

FreedomOfTheTess Mon 29-Apr-13 12:28:22

YABU - but you know that don't you?!

Six months after my DS2 (Alexander) was born, one of my work colleagues named her daughter Alexa, and I didn't even bat an eyelid.

She had every right to use the name she loved, just as I had done.

foreverondiet Mon 29-Apr-13 12:30:11

My sil did same so 2 cousins with similar names. You won't be working with her in a few years whereas my DS will always have similar name to his cousin..

SarahAndFuck Mon 29-Apr-13 12:31:48

YABU but at least you know it. grin

DS is Joseph, so I'm annoyed at you and your colleague now. grin

I can understand how you feel actually. DS is named after my Granddad, and my cousins wife was expecting their baby two months after DS was due. Neither of us had discussed names but it turned out we had both decided on Joseph for a boy, after Granddad. Although I was always his favourite grandchild, and I was named after him (I'm not a Josephine though) so really the name Joseph was more mine to claim than anybody else's. grin

When we told my cousin and his DP DS's name they were both shock and then said "That's our boys name...we'll use it anyway because we're going to use the nickname JJ!"

I was secretly very relieved that they had a girl and so couldn't have Joseph and didn't go for Josephine instead.

We don't shorten DS's name but the chances are either you or your colleague will shorten or use a nickname for one of your children, and you won't be both talking about them at work all the time when you go back, so it won't matter as much then as it does now.

Floggingmolly Mon 29-Apr-13 12:36:00

In the same team ??????. The babies don't work there. confused confused confused
The baby might be the centre of your world at the moment; but she's totally distinct from your work environment. You need to remember this.

wigglesrock Mon 29-Apr-13 12:42:01

Lovely lovely names smile I dont think they're that similar either. Joseph was one of our boys names (I have 3dds), but it's a family name so I had dibs on it first wink

TigerSwallowTail Mon 29-Apr-13 12:45:26

We haven't found any huge issues with it forever smile

Madeupnamex Mon 29-Apr-13 12:50:05

Thanks all I hold my hands up and will admit in being daft and possibly a tad hormonal
<feels relieved that nothing was said in real life>

ENSMUM Mon 29-Apr-13 14:42:58

I doubt it even crossed her mind. I named my DC the same name as several if my colleagues (not their children) without noticing until afterwards.

Crinkle77 Mon 29-Apr-13 14:54:06

YABU. I don't know why some people get so funny about friends/rel's choosing the same or similar. Just give your baby the name you want and who cares what anyone else does

CockyFox Mon 29-Apr-13 14:56:11

Am I the only one so so glad these babies aren't called Nigel and Nigella?

letseatgrandma Mon 29-Apr-13 20:58:09

In my DD's class, there is Joseph, Joe, Joey, Josie and Josephine! I think they are just pretty popular at the moment; I doubt anyone else has batted an eyelid. X

wtf1981 Mon 29-Apr-13 21:29:36

Oliver and Olivia?

In our school those two babies would be Michael and Michaela. they end up with the name Michael T and Michaela J or whatever their surname happens to be.
Dd had three girls named Kyra (now down to two after one moved house) and two boys named Brandon in her class.

carabos Mon 29-Apr-13 22:21:56

Ah bless you. I love these PFB threads - the fact that the babies are a boy and girl is an absolute gem. Almost as unreasonable as friend and former colleague of mine who worked as a mat leave cover contractor at our place.

She had to leave at the end of the contract and was very unhappy about that as she'd hoped for temp to perm. In fact a perm job then came up when the mat lady didn't return but friend didn't get the job. Subsequently the person who did get the perm job and who is resented and despised by my mate has recently given birth to a DD.

This new DD has been given the same name as friend's DD shock wink. Friend is in high dudgeon about this even though her own DD is 17 grin. She thinks that its been done to rub her nose in it hmm. You couldn't make it upgrin.

HoveringKestrel Mon 29-Apr-13 23:38:04

I am in two minds about this really

You're not being unreasonable for wanting your child to have a uniquie name because that child is YOUR child and unique because it is unique to you

But after all this time, the name either suits the child...or it doesn't. Don't make an Olympic Games out of it.

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