AIBU for being a gay guy who has read this forum for ages, loves it, doesn't have a child, and yet still joined

(110 Posts)
HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:16:35

I don't want to impose on Parents space, but a lot of my friends have said...."someone has just said on mumsnet something you said the other day" and "you need tto join mumsnet", "you'll love people who are mumsnet"

I wanted to join. I really like it andd I'm level headed.

Am I encrouching on you?

kim147 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:18:57

They let anyone on here (well within reason) grin

Just follow the rules.

There's lots of rules. You'll find them out.

Of course not everybody is welcome here we are not as bad as some people think!! grinthanks

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Sat 27-Apr-13 22:19:57

No! Come on in.

LemonPeculiarJones Sat 27-Apr-13 22:20:59

YANBU smile

Pile in!

gordyslovesheep Sat 27-Apr-13 22:21:50

YANBU - join us <does scary hypno eyes>

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:21:50

haha thank you. I promise I won't be outragious or anything. I'm much more about life's little dilemmas.

I think I'd rather a Welcome rather than a reminder about the Rules smile

idiot55 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:22:55


There are many non parents, men and people of all sexual orientations, makes us all the better imo!

You can be be outrageous if you want we don't mind smile

almostanotherday Sat 27-Apr-13 22:23:32

Hiya thanks

Have a wine and pull up a chair

Welcome to Mumsnet. We love newbies grin smile wink thanks wine brew

OldLadyKnowsNothing Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:01

Hello, and welcome. wine or brew?

You do know we're a nest of vipers, yeah?

Twattybollocks Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:06

Welcome :0)
Fwiw I rarely come on mn to discuss my kids, I come on here to talk to other adults, swear, and be entertained by all the stories I read on chat/aibu.

SanityClause Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:12

Lots of people on here don't have children, however, they have all been children. Weird, huh?

Yabu for mentioning you are gay and male!! Everyone is welcome here and none of that matters!!! smile

Welcome grin

kim147 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:41

There's rules on AIBU.
Only post on AIBU if you are prepared to admit you are BU.
<Like I ever do>

Welcome aboard.

SirChenjin Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:48

Not at all - come on in and join the madness grin

Punkatheart Sat 27-Apr-13 22:25:29

Hello there you! Lovely to have someone come in at a different angle. Have fun. It's a very supportive group when you need it, rabble if you want a fight and it has also made me cry. With laughter too.

SconeRhymesWithGone Sat 27-Apr-13 22:25:35

They even let Americans in here. grin

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sat 27-Apr-13 22:25:53

nah, come on in.

mumsnet is the most incorrectly named site on the internet grin

I'm not actually convinced any parenting related talk even happens on here.

elQuintoConyo Sat 27-Apr-13 22:26:03

Hello! Welcome! <c'mon in emoticon>

At some point you'll have to insert the word 'yoni' into your name for a short time suggests hoveringyoni actually I'm talking shit

Have some wine

Shakey1500 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:26:11

Welcome. Would you care for a wine?

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:27:48

I think I find it intimidating, I've started a couple of posts already without disclaiming I don't have kids (I'm 25, give me a chance haha) but this ssite is, I wanted to k now me being here wouldn't be against policy as it is primarily a parent site

ClaraOswald Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:05

As long as you aren't a complete and total twunt, there's no need to be diffident about posting. If you are a complete twunt, you wouldn't give a monkeys anyway and would post whatever you liked however you liked.

So, welcome.

MissBlennerhassett Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:12

Hello Kestrel, lovely to meet you grin

SanityClause Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:47

As you're American, Scone, shouldn't your name be something like BiscuitRhymesWithBrisket? Or have I been misinformed?

HolyFocaccia Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:53

YANBU. Welcome wine

I dont share wine with just anybody you know wink
i have usually drunk it all

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:55

sigh I know, I know, the spelling mistakes

I quite like that people who aren't parenty types want to join...
Makes me feel slightly less like a boring mum-type.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 27-Apr-13 22:30:32


Kim, YABU. Just because... grin

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:30:50

Just so you all know, I LOVE this website. I think theres a lot to be said for a site which is fundamentally helpful to other people and constructive, I couldn't NOT be a part of it.

I love none parents! Lets me pretend I'm still a carefree 22 year whose only responsibilities are having money for a taxi home! When in reality I'm a mother of a threenager and I have no social life.

notsoyoniface Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:55

I have no children. I love this site, and have had wonderful support at times.

Welcome to the vipers nest grin

nenevomito Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:48

loads of folk on here without kids. I have them and hardly darken the doors of the parenting topic anyway grin

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:36:47

Haha thanks Clara, I'm not a twunk, I just wasn't sure about the policy about non parents because that is how this website advertises. I wanted to be apart of it because it is sometimes hilarious and sometimes SO helpful and nice, it should have it's own advert.

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep Sat 27-Apr-13 22:37:59

Nah, post away. I'm under no illusion that having squeezed a small person out of my vagina makes my opinion more interesting than anyone else's.

Good name choice BTW, I'm a big fan of raptors.
Maybe slightly sinister I suppose. HoveringVulture would be worse though...

Baby Same here! I'd rather talk about non parenting things grin Talking random shit threads are the best

WorraLiberty Sat 27-Apr-13 22:39:40

Welcome Hovering grin

There are lots of non parents here and anyway, how could MNHQ police it if it was against their policy?

I'd be tempted to dump my kids on MN Towers' doorstep grin

Worra And where have you been?!

SconeRhymesWithGone Sat 27-Apr-13 22:40:25


That will be my next name. smile

I am American but lived in Scotland for a while. Ever since scones became popular in the US several years ago, I have been on a one woman mission to get people in the US to pronounce the word correctly. Sadly, I am failing.

Oh, and welcome to mumsnet, OP. flowers

BollyGood Sat 27-Apr-13 22:43:42

Mumsnet is a bit like a pub but with virtual wine.

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 22:44:01

Nice one Clara, you're right, thanks smile

MrsDeVere Sat 27-Apr-13 22:46:15

I have tons of kids.
I don't really hang about on the parenting boards though. I wouldn't have the brass neck to tell other people how to parent!

I like MN because I have an opinion about everything and no one readily available to listen to me.

So I come share my scintillating wit and searing political insight grin

everyone's fair game.

and the only real rules are
no personal attacks and
aibu is a bunfight, wear armour.


BollyGood Sat 27-Apr-13 22:49:46

kestrel I think mumsnet attracts all different kinds of people. My 21 year old daughter is also gay and doesn't have any children yet, she loves the wit on here and the politics threads.

HoneyDragon Sat 27-Apr-13 22:53:24

It's ok. You are not the only gay childless guy. A friend of mine likes to lurk around the gardening boards grin

Eventually Mnet drags everyone into the vortex.

Welcome wine ..... You know you can never leave now, right?

BollyGood Sat 27-Apr-13 22:56:36

<<locks door and opens wine>>

Are you a really sexy, toned, dark haired gorgeous gay person though?

All the best men are gay. Fuckers.

MardyBra Sat 27-Apr-13 23:00:30

I recommended MN to a male gay friend recently.

In fact, are you my friend...?

SoleSource Sat 27-Apr-13 23:01:50

Yabu, have a biscuit

not really

ColinFirthsGirth Sat 27-Apr-13 23:07:35

Everyone is welcome on here!

UserError Sat 27-Apr-13 23:13:30

I don't give toss what your orientation and gender is, as long as you agree with me that a Twix is a BISCUIT and not a chocolate bar.

If you disagree, we're going to have to have words. <rolls up sleeves>

Welcome to Mumsnet - I am lovely, and the rest of them are all a bunch of vipers -- not really--. xxxx

Darn it - strikeout fail. I shall blush, hang my head in shame, and slink off.

BollyGood Sat 27-Apr-13 23:29:37

What's your favourite thread been so far kestrel ?

WorraLiberty Sat 27-Apr-13 23:45:13

<< Waves to SP >>

Been busy in that disgusting thing called RL shock

I got caught up in RL for a week. No one even noticed sad grin

EmpressOfThe7OceansLovesMN Sat 27-Apr-13 23:51:06

Welcome to Mumsnet, Kestrel grin

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 23:52:22

Bollygood thank you, I like people calling me Kestrel smile but I also like how you opened up about you daughter. SO glad I joined here. Party at my house?

quoteunquote Sat 27-Apr-13 23:57:01


hope you have fun here.

Rowlers Sat 27-Apr-13 23:58:28

Have fun here, kestrel. Have you been warned how addictive this place can be?

HoveringKestrel Sat 27-Apr-13 23:58:57

I am 25, quite good looking, atheltic and honest. I can give you my facebook smile

MeanAndMeaslyMiddleAges Sat 27-Apr-13 23:59:51

Welcome Kestrel!

What we really need to k ow though is: which is better - Peppa Pig or Ben and Holly?

BollyGood Sun 28-Apr-13 00:00:59

Woohoo! I love a good party!

dontyouwantmebaby Sun 28-Apr-13 00:03:21

this has got to be one of my most favourite threads on mumsnet, love the responses!

am (sadly for me) not a mum but my lovely friend who is recommended this site to me for advice, have never looked back grin LOVE the collective wisdom and help given on here, its truly second to none.

welcome kestrel wine

HoveringKestrel Sun 28-Apr-13 00:03:51

Peppa Pig or Ben and Holly? I don't understand.

HoveringKestrel Sun 28-Apr-13 00:07:06

Woohoo! I love a good party!

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dontyouwantmebabySun 28-Apr-13 00:03:21

this has got to be one of my most favourite threads on mumsnet, love the responses!

am (sadly for me) not a mum but my lovely friend who is recommended this site to me for advice, have never looked back LOVE the collective wisdom and help given on here, its truly second to none.

welcome kestrel

Thats got to be one of the best thing someone has said to me

MeanAndMeaslyMiddleAges Sun 28-Apr-13 00:13:47

They're both kids cartoons very popular at the moment for the grown ups small children.

The fact you haven't heard of them probably is a good thing for the sake of your sanity tbh smile

Hovering you have never heard of them?! Oh how i envy you

BollyGood Sun 28-Apr-13 00:18:10

Personally I prefer 'show me, show me' ...

Hello, I don't have kids either but I love MN. Nothing beats a Friday night bumsex thread on MN.

ChasedByBees Sun 28-Apr-13 00:22:53

I'm an Abadas fan myself. Welcome Kestrel!

BollyGood Sun 28-Apr-13 00:28:49

DH and I can't stop singing the bloody show me show me ....theme song- with very creative word changing grin

Tortington Sun 28-Apr-13 00:33:28

was praying for owen jones but you said you were 25. no offense but...gutted

GreenPeppercorn Sun 28-Apr-13 00:44:08

Did anybody mention the initiation ceremony? <creepy face>

The more, the merrier IMO

My cousin and his husband are both members here, as is my teen dd. Nary a child birthed between them, but lovely solid people all. (And no, we don't know each others posting names thankfully )

Glad you're here smile

Sunnywithshowers Sun 28-Apr-13 02:15:47

YANBU Kestrel smile have some wine

Having kids is not compulsory, honest.

LittleFeileFooFoo Sun 28-Apr-13 02:22:53

Scone you should be "itsSconeLikeAbscondNotCone"

LittleFeileFooFoo Sun 28-Apr-13 02:23:32

Oh and welcome Kestrel!

Oh God , yes - the initiation ceremony! I still have flashbacks! winkgrin

foslady Sun 28-Apr-13 14:33:22

Hi there Hov - welcome aboard, pull up a chair and grab either brew or wine

LadyMountbatten Sun 28-Apr-13 14:33:57

the idea of anyone "encrouching"....

tbh OP really? are you SURE you have nothing else to do?

ouryve Sun 28-Apr-13 14:36:23

Kestrel - you realise that by joining you are now doomed to be hated by the Daily Mail forever?

Oh, wait....

catgirl1976 Sun 28-Apr-13 14:37:32


Welcome thanks smile

grimbletart Sun 28-Apr-13 14:47:12

Welcome flowers

FWIW I am far too old to be on here (should be on Gransnet really) but I find it interesting to see what the youngsters of 40 or 50 are thinking.....grin

Jewcy Sun 28-Apr-13 15:00:28

I think you are being unreasonable to have not posted a photo of yourself in gold lamé hotpants.

SilverOldie Sun 28-Apr-13 17:34:29

Hi and welcome Kestrel.

I'm ancient, single and have no children (no ivf in my young days). I lurked a lot before plucking up the courage to post.

Jewcy lets see your photo wearing gold lamé hotpants smile

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sun 28-Apr-13 17:36:05


I like your name smile

CoteDAzur Sun 28-Apr-13 17:38:07

"Of course not everybody is welcome here"

And this is why everyone needs to learn about using commas grin

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sun 28-Apr-13 17:39:12

God, this thread is a testament to how susceptible to a bit of buttering-up we are

Hugglepuff Sun 28-Apr-13 17:41:50

Hi ! If I knew how to send those little pictures I'd send you a glass of wine and a bunch of flowers as a welcome in ! HIP HIP HOORAY AND WELCOME - there you go, can do capitals and comas !

marjproops Sun 28-Apr-13 17:41:51

yeah, dont know why they call it MUMSnet, Im okay with you, OP, although TBH it does get a tad uncomfortable personally if Im on a thread and its getting a bit more than toilet humour (not that Im crude in any way) but sometimes theres intimate female body parts type threads or slightly 'who would you....'and suddenly someone reveales themselves as a man! after about 200 posts! blush

headlesslambrini Sun 28-Apr-13 17:45:01

welcome. I like it when men join, sometimes I need advice from them as well usually when DH is an arse grin

LayMizzRarb Sun 28-Apr-13 17:47:41

Welcome! I don't give a toss what turns you on in bed, which is basically the difference between gay and straight.

I don't have children either, but I don't think that makes me any different from Mums and Dads when it comes to having an opinion or a laugh.

Welcome to Mumsnet x

ItsYoniYappy Sun 28-Apr-13 17:54:40


I wish I had found here pre marriage and DC tbh

I could be living a whole different life right now!

Welcome. You're not a Teacher are you?

Nothing against Teachers but my Ds 2 favourite Teachers just happen to be gay and I meeting with one this week he is bloody handsome I must stop that. It's not funny, true but not funny

NicholasTeakozy Sun 28-Apr-13 18:12:57

Welcome OP. Do you have an opinion on Fruitshoots and Greggs sausage rolls?

<important stuff>

Pan Sun 28-Apr-13 18:30:49

No, Kestrel, you are not welcome. Run, and do it now. Take a large hammer, smash anything you own that accesses MN into teeny pieces, join a religious order and live the rest of your life as an acetic monk, wondering the cold, unregarded north-facing slopes of the Andes, talking only to items of vegetation.

ItsYoniYappy Sun 28-Apr-13 18:40:27

Pan Is MN addict, he has been here for years, he cannot help himself, he has an addiction. [sigh] I had it too but I left for years and years and years and came back and most some poster are still here.

ouryve Sun 28-Apr-13 18:44:39

Does an "acetic monk" drink vinegar, or something? grin

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sun 28-Apr-13 18:47:14

Nah, he's aesthetic monk - wears nice frocks

Pan Sun 28-Apr-13 18:50:01

See how bad it can get, Kestrel? Go now. I am being a friend.grin

Pan Sun 28-Apr-13 19:01:11

<and don't forget to wander those slopes, rather than contemplating them....>

Moonstorm Sun 28-Apr-13 20:17:23

But scone doesn't rhyme with gone confused

chrome100 Sun 28-Apr-13 20:36:27

I have been on this site since 2007. I have no kids, nor any intention of having them and just don't read all the boring bits about sleep and babygroes, MN is so much more than that. I find it's one of the only places on the internet you can enjoy an intelligent debate without silly textspeak and the range of issues on here is huge.

ItsYoniYappy Sun 28-Apr-13 20:38:02

Moonstorm it does if you say it properly


Moonstorm Sun 28-Apr-13 21:00:39


TiggyD Sun 28-Apr-13 21:04:37

I don't have children either. I just like to laugh and point at the Angry Birds on here. Try the baby names bit. Wacky, Zany and freaky......are 3 of the suggestions for a girl.

Happydotcom Sun 28-Apr-13 21:11:56

Welcome smile

demisemiquaver Sun 28-Apr-13 21:14:52

OP ... : YANBU !

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