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Pink hair, orange hair, maroon hair: please STOP!

(178 Posts)
StephaniePowers Tue 23-Apr-13 10:48:43

AIBU

hair dyed in candy colours looks bloody stupid on grown women.

<gavel>

I loved my bubblegum pink hair. It looked brilliant. YABU.

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 10:51:25

I'm with you OP, although I imagine you are in for a flamin'

Burgundy hair is my pet hate. It flatters about 3 people in the entire world. None of them live in this country.

YeahBuddy Tue 23-Apr-13 10:51:56

Oh I had bright pink hair up until the day after I had my DTs, I couldn't keep up with looking after newborn twins and maintaining the pink. It is making a comeback now that they're slightly older so there grin

StephaniePowers Tue 23-Apr-13 10:54:45

Nononononnooo
It's on a par with having fifteen facial piercings.
I just think: cannot grow up, says things like "Ha HAAAAA I'm MAD, me!", has loads of teddies on her bed.....

SORRY but it needs saying.

KatyTheCleaningLady Tue 23-Apr-13 10:56:57

It used to be cute/cool. Now, it's common. In every sense of the word.

I don't care. I have no issue with people having rainbow hair, piercings, tattoos or dreadlocks. Or other body modifications.

I do have an issue with people being sexist, racist, ageist, discriminatory against those with physical or mental disabilities, being bigoted, or extremely judgy.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Tue 23-Apr-13 10:57:43

YANBU. I had pink hair when I was 19. It looked cool. It would not look cool after 30.

ohforfoxsake Tue 23-Apr-13 10:58:33

Since moving North I've noticed a lot more women with red, pink, blue hair. Unheard of where we lived in London, where it was all blond highlights and Boden macs.

I prefer the former TBH.

PostBellumBugsy Tue 23-Apr-13 10:58:46

Aw, I love funky coloured hair. When I was in my teens I tried lots of different colours & really loved doing it. Now, I'm old and dull and boring and conventional and have normal coloured hair, because I don't want to be seen as ridiculous - but that makes me just a tiny bit sad.

We're so lucky to have the freedoms that we do, so I applaud all women who are brave & fun enough to have fun coloured hair.

ohforfoxsake Tue 23-Apr-13 11:00:38

See I just don't think it's on a par with facial piercings AT ALL. It's just...different coloured hair (although I have had a aversion to burgundy - or 'deep mahogany' for 30 years since my school days).

Meh...I change my hair colour more often than most people have hot dinners...I'm 30 soon...

Funnily enough I don't do it to please you so <<blows raspberry>>

StephaniePowers Tue 23-Apr-13 11:06:01

Everyone telling me to wind my neck in is completely right, of course you are. I know IBU.

I just personally think it looks quite sad on women over about 25. It's sort of saying "I don't like my life and I can't change it: but I can have ZANY hair! Look I am FREE! (but not really)".

UnChartered Tue 23-Apr-13 11:08:12

i've got pink, orange, maroon and GREY hair grin

facial piercings are long healed over though

tattooes are increasing in numbers - contemplating another soon

<blows huge kiss at OP>

grin

Gerrof Tue 23-Apr-13 11:10:31

I love all the bright hair colours that people have now - purples, lilacs, pinks and that bright Ariel from Little Mermaid red.

I would never dye it a bright colour myself, far too boring and conservative looking. But I like it in others.

Gerrof Tue 23-Apr-13 11:11:15

The only thing I have noticed is that the bright colours never look shiny, always very dull and matte on the hair. Do the dyes do something funny to your hair?

MrsClown1 Tue 23-Apr-13 11:14:03

Im 53 and have purple spikey hair! Youve got me thinking I look a twat now.

Postbellum - go for it! We can both look twats together.

OMG - I also have tattoos and piercings (non facial).

There's no hope - I am definitely growing old disgracefully.

HeathRobinson Tue 23-Apr-13 11:15:57

YABU. I don't, but why not? It looks fun. grin

Aah, well on not over 25. Can I still have my pink hair then?

StickyProblem Tue 23-Apr-13 11:17:50

I have a respectable corporate job and purple streaks in with the brown and "silver" smile
Some people like it. DD's friends (aged 8) love it. Americans are visibly freaked out by it and pretend not to notice.

Sidge Tue 23-Apr-13 11:17:59

I don't mind slightly mad coloured hair but it tends to look best on younger women.

Round here I think there must have been a job lot of brick-red hair dye going cheap at the car boot sale; every other woman has this really harsh (but faded) brick red colour, it's really not very nice. I think they'd look better bright pink, or purple, or even turquoise!

ScumbagCollegeDropout Tue 23-Apr-13 11:22:22

I am a few years past 25 and currently have bright purpley blue hair. Just recently it was pink.

I also have piercings.

I don't have any teddies on my bed though.

And I actually really like my life at the moment.

So nyah! grin

pinkyredrose Tue 23-Apr-13 11:28:34

What's your hair colour OP? Do you just follow the crowd?

SirBoobAlot Tue 23-Apr-13 11:28:42

My hair has been various shades of red for several years. Have done bright reds before - it was great fun. I might try purple at some point.

YABU. Spoil sport.

happyyonisleepyyoni Tue 23-Apr-13 11:30:19

Burgundy hair with a "mum" haircut...classy

PostBellumBugsy Tue 23-Apr-13 11:36:21

what is a "mum" haircut? I never know these things - bloody hell, I may unwittingly have one!

dopeysheep Tue 23-Apr-13 11:36:38

I think it's a shame to be limited in what colour your hair is or whether you can have piercings or wear short skirts or whatever because of your age.
Of course evetything looks better on under 25's because they are young and perky but getting older shouldn't be the death knell of colour and fun. How discriminatory.

WildlingPrincess Tue 23-Apr-13 11:40:46

Yabu. I love my purple hair. It was pink the other week. Shaved last year.

StickyProblem Tue 23-Apr-13 11:40:55

Well said SirBoobAlot - "Spoil sport." That's exactly it.

Sure, bright colours look better on young people. My (young) face looked better on a young person! What should I do now I'm greying and in my mid-40s? Throw a blanket over myself and sit in the corner?!

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 11:43:25

Yabu. The only reason I haven't still got pink hair is it was costing me a fortune in upkeep, my hair is naturally nearly black so I had to bleach it fully and then regularly reapply the pink. It looked awesome (if I do say so myself) but I am incredibly lazy.

ScarletLady02 has THE most amazing hair I have ever seen, it's lush. I want mine like that, even just for my wedding day...Scarlet can you tell me more about it?

cinnamonsugar Tue 23-Apr-13 11:44:19

YANBU for not liking bright hair colours. That's a personal preference.

YABU to think: I just personally think it looks quite sad on women over about 25. It's sort of saying "I don't like my life and I can't change it: but I can have ZANY hair! Look I am FREE! (but not really)".

It's totally illogical unless you also think that about people wearing bright/striking clothes, coloured eyeshadow, bright/unusual nailpolish etc. They are all adornment. It's not 'sort of saying' anything. The only thing you can reasonably infer is 'That person probably really likes what pink/blue/purple hair looks like'.

TiredFeet Tue 23-Apr-13 11:45:42

I love bright coloured hair, love it. I have totally conventionally mousy brown hair myself, partly because dh is a big ginger and I'm worried about clashing, and partly because you can't really get away with it in my job (solicitor) but I think it can look amazing, and adds colour to the world.

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 11:47:59

They are all adornment. It's not 'sort of saying' anything.

But the reverse is true. All adornment is saying something.

And what wacky coloured hair is mostly saying is 'please pay me some attention'. Which I find a bit wearing.

Longdistance Tue 23-Apr-13 11:48:29

I hate the disco badger look.

Dark on top, blonde underneath confused

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 11:50:19

I wear what I want, have my hair how I want and don't give a monkey's chuff what other people think. I'm currently red and last colour was purple. I'm 43. Oh, and my life is fine and dandy, and I don't consider myself 'zany' at all. I colour it because I like it.

cinnamonsugar Tue 23-Apr-13 11:52:19

All adornment is saying something.
Sometimes, sometimes not and you can't tell just by looking at someone what it is. Assuming someone with bright hair is doing it for attention, and they really may not be or maybe not from attention from you, why is that any more wearing than someone wearing something else so that people think they're wealthy and therefore a more worthwhile person, for example?

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 11:52:50

I wear what I want, have my hair how I want and don't give a monkey's chuff what other people think

And it's just that kind of slightly aggressive individualism that is so very wearing for those of us with a gentler approach to social interaction.

By all means colour your hair. But think about why you feel the need to.

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 11:53:42

All adornment is ALWAYS saying something. Even when you think it isn't. Really.

I don't wear my hair like I do for any reason other than it makes me smile when I look in the mirror...not for attention...not to be "zany"...so bang goes that theory grin

BlastandDalmations - what do you want to know? It's bleached and dyed blue and then I've braided in felted wool dreads which I made myself. It's not actually like that any more as I'm going white again for the summer so I'm trying to get rid of the blue.

FWIW, I had white dreads for my wedding day, I'll see if I can find a picture.

MrsWolowitz Tue 23-Apr-13 11:56:04

I don't care. I have no issue with people having rainbow hair, piercings, tattoos or dreadlocks. Or other body modifications.

I do have an issue with people being sexist, racist, ageist, discriminatory against those with physical or mental disabilities, being bigoted, or extremely judgy.

^ This.

Totally agree.

ScumbagCollegeDropout Tue 23-Apr-13 11:56:48

I 'feel the need to' because I like it.

Does there have to be other reasons? hmm

BTW, my hair has been dyed for the past five years. I'm over 40. I have no intention of stopping colouring my hair, and am planning a tattoo.

squoosh Tue 23-Apr-13 11:58:31

I'm committed to the blonde cause but have no problem with people dying their hair any colour they want, pink tips seems to be popular at the moment.

The Sharon Osbourne inspired purple, choppy cut isn't my favourite however. But it doesn't bother me.

I remember having a gentleman caller who had leopard print hair.

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 11:58:35

That was it really, how you did it! Was it really difficult? Having never done it before would I be able to manage without help? Do you want to come and do mine for me? OK maybe not the last one..

The more I think about it the more I think I want to do it.

Where are you? I'd be happy to if you're local smile
I'm self taught, doing it yourself is completely doable. You can buy the dreads separately and just get someone to braid them in - I didn't make my wedding dreads.

I've added some pics to my profile - one from my wedding day, and one of my wedding hair but styled differently.

bleedingheart Tue 23-Apr-13 12:01:45

I'd love to go lilac but I don't think my hair could take the initial bleaching.
YABU

Love your hair, Scarlet. I had a couple of fake dreads in over the summer, but didn't have the time to maintain them by the time we got to winter, so took them out. That's not to say they won't go back in though...

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 23-Apr-13 12:07:12

I don't have any 'zany' colours, but I do get highlights.
So what does that say about me?
Some people are being so sour and rude here, I like different colours of hair.
Oh, and didn't Helen Mirren go pink at a recent awards ceremony?
Can't people just colour their hair because they like it?

Fairylea Tue 23-Apr-13 12:08:46

<dyes hair burgundy in rebellion>

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 12:09:43

On the SE coast. Whereabouts do you get dreads from? I'm so clueless. Off to have a nose at pics..

StephaniePowers Tue 23-Apr-13 12:10:52

lol you are all nicer than me.
I'm afraid I roll my eyes inwardly.

As an aside, I wonder why JustForMen doesn't come in purple?

LadyBeagleEyes - Helen Mirren looked fucking amazing with pink hair!

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 12:10:57

Omg. Bloody beautiful.

Fairylea Tue 23-Apr-13 12:13:16

I think they should offer hair gel with funky coloured bleach already in it. Think of the fun a lover seeking revenge could have swapping that with someones usual gel in the bathroom.

Fudgemallowdelight Tue 23-Apr-13 12:14:25

I love chestnut hair which is very popular round here.

I don't understand how dyed hair shows that the person thinks "I don't like my life and I can't change it." How on earth could it show that?

I could point you in the direction of some sites if you like. It depends what sort of thing you want. I can do the sort of thing in the pictures on my profile, but there are some sellers who are like goddesses I can only DREAM of being as good as. If it's for your wedding you could get something really special. Ach, I'm in Essex so a little far. The installing isn't really that hard though, just fiddly and time consuming. I might be able to put a call across the hair grape-vine and find someone in your area - it's quite a close knit internet society grin

TheSecondComing Tue 23-Apr-13 12:16:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StephaniePowers Tue 23-Apr-13 12:16:12

I love how this has turned from a sour little complaint into 'I can set you up with a full head of multicoloured dreads' grin

<<evil laugh>>

I do love hi-jacking threads about hair...sorry about that grin

I don't really care if people think it looks shit...it makes me happy and that's all that matters to me. I've been doing it a while though...I have pics of me at 13 with bright pink hair...I was a legend in my (very strict grammar) school.

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 12:22:24

Serves you right Stephanie, thread derailment at its best! wink

Thank you Scarlet if I pm you with a more precise location would you be able to try to find someone there?

ScumbagCollegeDropout Tue 23-Apr-13 12:22:29

TSC - I am neither those types wink

Neither am I Scumbag grin

PM me when you're ready Blast - I have mountains of info/links/contacts

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 12:27:02

Slightly aggressive individualism?? Really? The reason I do it is because I like it, not because I have a point to make. Should I go all mousey brown and Bodenesque to make my appearance less wearing on you?

LittleYellowBall Tue 23-Apr-13 12:28:16

Stops looking rebellious at about age 21, then looks a bit daft.

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 12:28:20

Oh, and I don't consider myself 'mad', nor do I wear velour joggers envy.

TheCraicDealer Tue 23-Apr-13 12:29:49

I was thinking about it the other day and wished that I was back at uni so I could dye my hair bleach blonde (again) and get it dipped dyed with lilac at the bottom. I'm only 24, and whilst it would look cool as fuck it would not project an amazing image to the middle aged, conservative men I have to deal with at work. My age is already a barrier without me adding funky hair to the mix.

Agree with YoothaJoist for the most part. Generally I think it's alright if done well and maintained, but unfortunately that is not the case for the majority of people you see on the street with pink or purple hair.

LittleYellowBall Tue 23-Apr-13 12:31:14

Is that you in your pics Scarletlady? Well you do actually look quite nice with it. smile

LittleYellowBall Tue 23-Apr-13 12:32:33

Why have you called yourself 'Mad' then Madlizzy?

TheSecondComing Tue 23-Apr-13 12:33:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

FrenchRuby Tue 23-Apr-13 12:33:28

I currently have green hair :D not at all fussed about what others think of it, it's my hair. If you don't like these hair colours the don't dye your hair those colours smile

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 12:34:16

I was a legend in my (very strict grammar) school.

Come off it. Grammar schools are bursting at the seams with 'rebellious' teenage girls. I know. I went to one and I taught at one.

Bet you still got good A levels, didn't you? wink

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 12:35:24

Why have you called yourself
LittleYellowBall, LYB? unless there have been some extreme advances in evolution or technology I'm not seeing your logic...by the way, I'm not an explosion and some dogs. Just in case you were confused. Dogs would look very silly with pink hair though.

if it wasnt for the fact my job insisted on me having a 'natural' hair colour, mine would likely also be bright pink, as it is, i have to stick to reds/maroon/damson type colours

Im 32 next month... i'm also a hippy/goth/rocker.

I dont care if you like it or not.

Fanjounchained Tue 23-Apr-13 12:36:35

TheSecondComing - I sense you're holding something back here and not telling us how you really feel grin

I switch between platinum blonde and copper red (blonde just now). Red, green, purple, etc is a bit too much for me but if the person likes it then that's their choice. What a boring bloody world we would live in if everyone looked the same.

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 12:37:54

I dont care if you like it or not.

I don't give a monkey's chuff what you think

A bit childish, isn't it? All this hair dyeing and then sticking out your bottom lip?

LittleYellowBall Tue 23-Apr-13 12:38:25

I see this username as being friendly sounding. I name change quite often and normally choose something I think will reflect well on me in some way (may have to NC again after admitting that!).

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 12:39:04

What a boring bloody world we would live in if everyone looked the same.

Tell you what, all women DO look the same. They've all got dyed hair.

Why's that, do you think?

There's something bigger going on here. It's not to do with self expression.

It's to do with self disgust.

YoothatJoist - there were a couple of rebels in my school...not many though to be honest. Didn't get good A-levels either actually, I dropped out grin

LittleYellowBall - yes that's me.

OK, I need to stop adding pics now before people think I'm attention seeking...I've just added a massively pregnant with pink hair pic. Excuse the roots - the pics were taken on my due date.

livinginwonderland Tue 23-Apr-13 12:40:30

my hair is currently red, but i suppose that's "okay" because i'm 24. i also have nine piercings and i'm planning to get my nose pierced tomorrow.

ouryve Tue 23-Apr-13 12:40:32

I love loud hair. Half the women round here have their hair dyed black - and that's not a good look with sallow colouring, if you're a bit anaemic as well. It takes a certain kind of personality to carry it off, though. And I'm convinced that our villages power fluctuation problems would be solved if hair straighteners were banned.

I'm one of the 3 people who does suit burgundy hair - it has to be the right shade, though, and I prefer to call it plum. I'm fair skinned, dark blue eyed and my naturally very dark hair is about 1/3 grey and the plum looks like it actually belongs there and goes well with the deep pinks and purples I like to wear. I have a lot of red hair in my family, which probably helps. A lot of women who go for the colour are far too orange to carry it off, though.

Self disgust?? Really??

OK then...

sherbetpips Tue 23-Apr-13 12:41:12

hate hate hate that bog standard burgundy colour. it should be banned from shops, nothing remotely natural about it. Also very very blonde where the persons hair is breaking off at the bottom and doesn't ever get any longer because it is thoroughly knackered.

someone has asked if OP follows the crowd - I guess I follow what suits me and my skin colouring. have met very few people who 'suit' multi coloured over dyed knackered hair.

YoothaJoist Tue 23-Apr-13 12:41:44

ScarlettLady02 what were you rebelling against? Being told not to dye your hair? Bit pointless isn't it? You should have saved your rebellion for your old age. That's when you'll need it. And lining the pockets of the companies who make pink hair dye won't smash the system, trust me.

squoosh Tue 23-Apr-13 12:42:08

Hair that is dyed jet black generally looks crap, especially when coupled with mucho fake tan.

FrenchRuby Tue 23-Apr-13 12:45:37

I have had people say that natural hair colours don't look right on me haha! But I guess that's because I've had (various) bright coloured hair for around 8 or 9 years now so people are used to it.

Did I say I was rebelling against anything? I don't think I did. I dyed my hair pink at 13 because I was going to a festival with my parents and wanted it pink. My Mum did it for me, so no rebellion there. The reason it was still pink when I went back to school was because it hadn't washed out yet. The reason I said about being a legend at my school was because it did become quite the story and I was joking about it.

My hair is not a statement of rebellion...I stated earlier I dye it etc because it makes me smile when I look in the mirror and that's about it really. A lot of the world is dreary and grey and my hair brightens me up.

TheVDM Tue 23-Apr-13 12:47:00

Ok, I'm a dad so I might not count as the question was about mums, I'm a couple of years over the 25 mark and have long bright red hair. I did on the other hand loose the facial piercings years ago, although I am tempted to get my nose done again.

I can get away with it as I work in photo processing, on the other hand my partner who is 25 will be going vivid again soon as she has the oppertunity to do so while on maternity leave.

Our daughter loves the bright red hair, and let's face it, she is the most important person for us to please.

FrenchRuby Tue 23-Apr-13 12:47:02

Oh I'm 25 btw so I don't know if that makes me too old or it or not...?

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 23-Apr-13 12:47:11

Yootha, why do you keep having a go at Scarlett?
This is simply a discussion about hair, trying to put a poster down like that because she likes to look different is sounding a bit mean spirited.

ouryve Tue 23-Apr-13 12:48:22

I don't dye my hair to please anyone, btw. I celebrated the grey for years, but the balance is just wrong, at the moment and it looks neither dark with sparkly bits, nor white - it is just grey and brown. The colour I am at the moment (Schwartzkopf "Red Passion") makes me smile, when I see it.

cantspel Tue 23-Apr-13 12:50:50

I dont really care what people do with their hair but i do wonder why someone would want to smother their head in strong chemicals every month or so.
All that bleach and dye gives you shit hair. It goes brittle and breaks off which is never a good look no matter what colour it is.

It's ok LadyBeagleEyes, she's entitled to her opinion. She doesn't know me, or my reasons. She doesn't know why I take joy in the simplest of things at the moment because I don't like to go into personal shit on-line. If I couldn't handle people calling me out I wouldn't post.

But thanks for sticking up for me smile

For what it's worth, my Dad is a musician/writer/hippy who had long hair for years and my Mum is a die-hard feminist/hippy with piercings...

If I was going to rebel I'd be wearing Boden right now wink

Fanjounchained Tue 23-Apr-13 12:51:36

Yoothajoist

How do women all look the same ? God knows how many different colours have been listed in this thread...then you have countless different hair styles, long, short, straight, curly....Then women come in different shapes and sizes, tall, short, fat, thin....

You seem to be getting very angry about something that is a personal choice....

Fanjounchained Tue 23-Apr-13 12:53:40

ScarletLady02 - If I was going to rebel I'd be wearing Boden right now grin

WorrySighWorrySigh Tue 23-Apr-13 12:54:54

what is the point in colouring hair hair colour?

For this reason I have never coloured my hair at all. I have the kind of job where bright colours wouldnt be allowed so cant see the point in colouring my hair boot polish brown.

Rockinhippy Tue 23-Apr-13 12:56:09

My hair has been pretty much every colour of the rainbow over time - I got stuck on golden blonde a bit before DD came along & would love to go back to something more interesting - my 55 year old friend has just dip died hers in various shades of pink to follow her cut & it looks really fabulous on her, really classy

YABVU

FrenchRuby Tue 23-Apr-13 12:56:25

cantspel the dye I use is conditioning veggie dye so it's actually good for your hair smile

squoosh Tue 23-Apr-13 12:58:23

Bleach and dye doesn't always give you shit hair and I can confirm that my hair has never broken off.

cantspel Tue 23-Apr-13 12:58:25

FrenchRuby but to get the bright reds, purples etc you need to bleach your natural colour out first.
Bleach is for cleaning toilets not to put on hair.

HoneyDragon Tue 23-Apr-13 12:59:42

Oh no. People don't like pink hair? But I have pink hair.

grin <-------my really really devastated and gutted face.

WorrySighWorrySigh Tue 23-Apr-13 13:00:37

but isnt the whole point of hair is that it is temporary?

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 13:01:02

Sticking out my bottom lip. grin You're actually making me giggle as you're getting so worked up about how you perceive my personality. Madlizzy was a lady on GMTV years ago that used to do exercise. I plucked the name out of the air as a user name as I couldn't think of anything else.

Also, your boring hair and Boden clothing offends me.

I can confirm that bleach HAS ruined parts of my hair, but hey...it's only hair, grows all the time grin

Your name is making me laugh madlizzy

My name is Liz and I used to get called that

I'm proper mad, me grin

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 13:05:58

Elizabeth just happens to be my middle name. I'm just so CRAZY, you know? grin

MadBusLady Tue 23-Apr-13 13:11:03

Ooh I love seeing green and turquoise hair, I think it looks stunning and makes me happy.

I'm not sure it really counts as "alternative" any more though. Think it's rapidly coming to be similar to getting your nails done. Some people do it, some people don't, it's just another variety of adornment.

MadBusLady Tue 23-Apr-13 13:11:33

Also, your boring hair and Boden clothing offends me.

sad

Sorry.

BlastAndDalmatians Tue 23-Apr-13 13:13:53

Omg I remember Mad Lizzy! She was amazing, totally bonkers. I have a feeling Mr Motivator was her replacement...

Startail Tue 23-Apr-13 13:14:16

I want my hair bright red, the DDs would disown me.

TheSecondComing Tue 23-Apr-13 13:19:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PostBellumBugsy Tue 23-Apr-13 13:20:03

I think that being able to dye your hair different colours is a sign of freedom. I bet the North Koreans don't get to show self expression that way.

fieldfare Tue 23-Apr-13 13:25:04

What's the big deal? It's a form of self expression - how we dress, how we present ourselves generally, we all have the right to be as we wish as long as it's not indecent. I really don't see a problem.

Fwiw my hair is purple, proper Ribenaberry purple. The grey bits it covers have gone magenta! I love it and care not a jot what others might think.

Tortington Tue 23-Apr-13 13:27:06

Grown up is over rated, how dull the Middleton LK Bennett wearing masses look without the dyed, pierced, tattooed to break it up.

HoHoHoNoYouDont Tue 23-Apr-13 13:29:02

I don't care what colour someone's hair is just as long as it's clean. Dirty hair makes me honk grin

WTFisABooyhoo Tue 23-Apr-13 13:29:04

wtf is wrong with stupid hair? confused

must we all be clones of each other? must we all be sensible and dull and grown up looking? why?

5madthings Tue 23-Apr-13 13:29:36

God people are really judge about hair! The only time notice hair is if a see a style/cut/col our that makes me think that's nice.

Fwiw Scarlett I think you look lovely.

Years ago I dyed my hair a variety of co,ours, when I met dp it was blue, he has vivid memories of me walking into a lecture with my blue hair, by the time we got together it wasn't blue anymore and other than the idd highlight I haven't colored it as have always been preg/feeding and my hair goes a bit mad then due to hormones.

I would quite like to dye into a but have eczema on my scalp so can't. I do have facial piercings tho, some from when I was a teen, one from when I was recovering from post natal psychosis and then depression after ds4, I wanted to do something for. ME, to make me feel better, a new piercing did that.

ouryve Tue 23-Apr-13 13:29:50

Hair bleach is hydrogen peroxide, cantspel - not chlorine based.

And I have short, very short hair, so it doesn't get chance to dry out. Having a coating of dye on it actually makes it glossier and easier to manage because it's naturally coarse, wavy and rather pube-like.

MadBusLady Tue 23-Apr-13 13:37:06

I have an idea, suppose we all just look exactly like we want to? No need whatsoever for the judging OR the counter-judging.

Tortington Tue 23-Apr-13 13:40:12

oooh madbuslady - that's drastic wink

ODFOD.

YABU. I think it looks cheery smile

I'm hair twins with ScarlettLady smile Toxic pink dreads on my profile...currently white and acid pastels.

Do you use Colinette point 5 or felt your own dreads?

(do I really need to tell OP that she's being unreasonable?)

LadyBeagleEyes Tue 23-Apr-13 14:31:08

You're 43 MrsJoe ? shock

lollilou Tue 23-Apr-13 14:31:40

Gerrof the reason very brightly coloured hair usually isn't shiney is that the hair needs to be bleached first which opens up the hair cuticles. They lay flatter in shiny hair, that's what conditioner does too.
I love love love brightly coloured hair on any age. Mine has been every colour I could think of though I've just gone from bright red to black/red maybe I should go bright again.
Oh and OP YABVU.

freddiefrog Tue 23-Apr-13 14:34:50

My hair was proper pillar box red until recently. I had it that colour for years, but I recently went back to highlighted brown

I loved it, but got bored of the maintenance

Rockinhippy Tue 23-Apr-13 14:35:23

I want my hair bright red, the DDs would disown me

Thats my problem too startail sad - madam has already told me "you'd be showing me up mum, midlife crisis & everything" -

mine is 10 & is more than happy to spend hours drawing up her future tattoos or discussing her future piercings though - but us mums have to be boring - think she might be in for a shock soon though grin

aldiwhore Tue 23-Apr-13 14:38:33

I've never dyed my hair, I'm not dull. My best mate dyes her hair all the time, she's no more interesting than me.

The point is, I don't dye my hair, because I don't want to. She dyes her hair because she wants to.

And that, is all that matters.

I don't really see what all the fuss is about personally.

If someone likes Boden, so what?

I loathe the fact that certain looks have become a kind of uniform, so perhaps there is validity in the argument that some people do some things to fit in with people who they think are like them?

But then, whatever you do or wear someone else will have done the same.

Meh. Do what you like. I don't believe AGE should ever stop you doing something you want to do with your own body.

Fillyjonk75 Tue 23-Apr-13 14:39:59

^I don't care. I have no issue with people having rainbow hair, piercings, tattoos or dreadlocks. Or other body modifications.

I do have an issue with people being sexist, racist, ageist, discriminatory against those with physical or mental disabilities, being bigoted, or extremely judgy.^

THIS.

YABU. I've had purple in the past, it was awesome. I used to have varying shades of orange and red until a year or so ago when I stopped dying it. I didn't think I'd get a nanny job with bright red hair no matter how cool it would have looked grin

VerySmallSqueak Tue 23-Apr-13 14:44:16

MrsJoe you look fantastic!

cassgate Tue 23-Apr-13 14:55:59

Well I am currently bright red and I am 42. I have been various shades of red, brown, black ,purple, orange since I was 18. When I got married 5 years ago I had black hair with a pinky red fringe. I also had a purple wedding dress. I have short hair always have had so I like doing different things with the colour. Only one disaster when I was young when I had highlights. Looked like a tiger never again. I am always getting compliments about my choice of hair colour and short funky styles. Each to their own.

imour Tue 23-Apr-13 14:59:36

yanbu looks ridiculous on older women with their grey roots growing out .

CelticPixie Tue 23-Apr-13 15:13:18

YABU people can dye their hair whatever colour they want. Mine is a shitty brown colour right now, but I am thinking of dying it burgundy or red.

ZZZenagain Tue 23-Apr-13 15:18:39

don't mind pink if the skin tone goes with it but hate maroon/orange. Too clown like for my taste.

I had purple hair at university 15 a few years ago. this thread is making me nostalgic and wanting to do it again just to annoy judgy people

I also want to get my belly button repierced, I lost the piercing giving birth to dd

ArtemisKelda Tue 23-Apr-13 15:46:41

YABU. I love having multi coloured hair, it's fun, I enjoy it and it doesn't harm anyone.

EmmaBemma Tue 23-Apr-13 15:48:38

"All adornment is saying something."

True, but sometimes it's just saying "I really like blue hair". My own hair colour is a relatively muted red but I really can't understand why people get their knickers in a twist about this. Why should we all look the same?

ZZZenagain Tue 23-Apr-13 15:50:52

I think young skin can carry this off best. Same with bleach blonde, it is harsh on older skin and shows all the flaws but it can be ok with young skin and I think bright, unnatural hair colours work the same way.

EmmaBemma Tue 23-Apr-13 15:53:07

I dunno, I always loved Zandra Rhodes' pink hair. I will do something like that when I go proper grey I think.

MooMooSkit Tue 23-Apr-13 15:58:12

Hate to burst all the judgey pants bubbles but I'm 25 with bright red hair. My reason for dying it? Well, i get bored of hair colours quickly but it has been red for over a year now and the reason why is I think it makes my green eyes pop out. Sorry it's quite a boring reason for having red hair huh!

And yes you are being totally unreasonable. I find blonde hair very dull myself but I don't think people should "stop dying their hair blonde" do what you like or whatever makes you happy. Judging people by what colour they dye their hair/tattoos/piercings is just as bad as judging someone for anything else and it's just sad.

BlueSkySunnyDay Tue 23-Apr-13 16:15:27

Good grief if it werent for the fact that I know Mumsnet hasnt been going that long I would think I had stumbled into a 70s archived thread. Are you wearing a twinset & pearls?

Really 2013, this bothers you?

Hair is either good, or its not

It either suits someone, or it doesnt.

There is no excuse for badly conditioned hair whether blond or blue - other than that its just personal taste isnt it?

If I see someone with unusual hair and it suits them - I just think "oh that looks nice"

A while back I saw a girl with purple hair and black fingernails and thought how much it suited her colouring.

BlueSkySunnyDay Tue 23-Apr-13 16:16:34

Oh and im a boring blonde, red is far too high maintenance for me (and it makes me look like I have jaundice)

cassgate Tue 23-Apr-13 16:16:51

imour - Not sure if I would be classed as an older women at 42, but if you have your hair dyed professionally or even doing it yourself every 6 weeks like I do no one sees the grey roots. I would be totally white if I did not dye my hair. My natural hair colour before grey set in was dark brown but I havent been that colour since I was 18.

diddl Germany Tue 23-Apr-13 16:19:25

I have dark brown hair & put red on so that the greys go pink!

BlueSkySunnyDay Tue 23-Apr-13 16:21:04

I was trying to use the colour me beautiful book to decide what colours I am....slight problem I think I am a soft/cool but its so long since I have seen the natural colour of my hair I cant remember exactly what it was like.

catsrus Tue 23-Apr-13 16:42:57

scarlet I think your hair is beautiful - and I'm almost 60 with naturally grey hair, no way would I ever dye it back to its original brown - it would just look too weird with my old face smile. Many of my older friends now appear to be "natural" blondes rather than go grey - I wouldn't want to load my head with chemicals all the time ... BUT .. I do lust after a flash of purple at the front grin. I saw a woman my age with exactly that, grey with a flash of bright pink and she just looked fantastic - really made me smile for the rest of the day.

So you experts (judgy pants readers beware) what is the best, most natural, dye that would cope with making grey hair purple?

PS my personal judgy pants moments are around make-up, personally don't wear the stuff and rarely think it enhances a face but I'm well aware other people disagree - if people feel better for using it then they are free to do so <shrug>

EmmaBemma Tue 23-Apr-13 16:52:14

catsrus, I think you will look awesome with your purple streak! I initially thought "crazy color" might be for you, as its gentle and semi permanent, however I've just googled it and found out it doesn't cover greys. Hope someone more knowledgeable will be along to advise.

catsrus Tue 23-Apr-13 17:01:03

Thanks emma - yes I haven't found anything that would work on purple I have been tempted to try food colouring

StuntGirl Tue 23-Apr-13 17:01:36

YABVU. And judgey. And a little rude. But you already knew that grin

catsrus
I use Directions, and I've got a lot of white hair (think badger stripes over my temples smile)

The only issues I've noticed is that some colours wash out more rapidly, while others (usually the more intense pinks, reds and purples) tend to stain the white hair permanantly.

<I refuse to say that I've got gray hair...gray hair is for little old ladies>

aldiwhore Tue 23-Apr-13 18:07:44

MrsJoe... I personally think badger stripes are the HEIGHT of cool ... smile

I've got pink hair, it's been pink (and purple, and red, and green, and blue) since I was 17. I'm 31 now, and have no plans to change it any time soon. My natural hair colour is dark brown, and makes me look ill and washed out.

I'd no idea that my hair colour choice bothered people so much. Now I know, well... I'll just carry on having pink hair. It's my hair, I like it, and I don't particularly care if nobody else does.

I have a black and electric blue bettie bangs fringe and I love it. Until recently it was black and red but a change is as good as a rest.

I'd like to add that I really don't care if people wear boden... It was just a retort following a few comments aimed my way. Can't stand that look myself but I will not make judgements about a person's character based on if they wear it. I also don't think people with normal coloured hair are boring. I'm the only crazy haired one in my group of friends.

SignoraStronza Tue 23-Apr-13 19:43:59

YABU

I love my life, thanks.
I also love my bright pink hair. So do the people that matter to me. Thankfully you don't. Neither does your opinion.
I'm 34 but look much youngergrin. I'm far from 'common'.wink
Oh, and my dh has extremely long hair, tattoos and a biker beard. He rocks the suited and booted look in his senior level corporate job.

edwardsmum11 Tue 23-Apr-13 19:46:45

Tbh, it is none of your business what other people do with their hair.

cantspel
FrenchRuby but to get the bright reds, purples etc you need to bleach your natural colour out first.

Unless, like me, your hair is white. grin

I have never had my hair look anything other than good, it has never broken off, and I've been colouring it for 30 years.

I started going grey very, very early (genetic) and I didn't want to be grey. Simple as that!

Remotecontrolduck Tue 23-Apr-13 20:42:20

I think pink hair looks nice. I think blonde hair looks nice also...

Sometimes people do things because they just really like it. Maybe people who dye their hair neon green are looking for attention, but so what, it's not the worst thing in the world. I'd rather someone sought attention through having unusual hair than preaching hate or similar.

Madlizzy Tue 23-Apr-13 22:27:05

Btw, my boring hair and boden comment was tongue in cheek, I really don't care what anyone else wears smile. I'm still amused though grin

StuntGirl Tue 23-Apr-13 22:33:47

It's such a silly thing to say though. How many blondes out there have dyed their hair for the attention? Oh but that's 'normal'. I find most blonde colours so far from 'natural' its as silly as saying pink or blue hair is unnatural. Well, yes. It all is!

EmmaBemma Wed 24-Apr-13 06:01:52

Perhaps the OP would like to draw us up a list of acceptable hair colours, cuts, clothing, jewellery and other adornment, just so we all know how we should look.

BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems Wed 24-Apr-13 06:43:01

Bright hair looks amazing. Why the hell should any person not dye their hair because other people don't like it.
Scarlets wedding photo is truly beautiful, she and her husband look so happy. A brown shoulder length bob wouldn't just is not for her!

Aw thanks IcedGems. It was the most budget wedding of all time, but it was a lovely day.

Talking of Iced Gems though, I was thinking about those the other day...can you still get them? I bite the tops off too blush

perplexedpirate Wed 24-Apr-13 08:14:38

I can't believe the significance some people attach to the colour of the dead cells growing out of other people's heads. hmm
My hair is brown right now, but after reading this thread I am inspired to hit the dye again, hard. grin

musicposy Wed 24-Apr-13 08:43:32

Is the consensus that Directions is the one to pick for bright colours? I''ve been fancying pink hair for ages so got DD1 to ask a friend at college and thats what she recommended. DD2 wants blue dip dyed ends -do I bleach it first and then dye blue?

ScarlettLady, I just love your hair. The wedding one is amazing.

I don't care how old I am , I just like it. I don't have any issues I'm afraid. I just don't see why getting old means getting boring.

LemonPeculiarJones Wed 24-Apr-13 10:23:44

Bright crazy hair is more noticeable. Therefore it's an easy target for pissed-off people to hang their annoyances on.

I hate all the judgements going on about women on this thread - a woman has pink hair so of course she must be attention-seeking/hate her life/be desperately hanging on to the vestiges of youth.

Knee jerk crap. It could easily be said that those who don't dye their hair crazy colours are repressed, desperate to toe the line, obsessed with convention. Not true either.

And the class issue creeping in - the 'scum' on Jeremy Kyle have pink hair <shudder> - polished London mummies have swooshy natural hair and isn't it lovely! hmm

I have dyed hair, except its dyed as close to my natural colour as possible, to cover the grey situation grin But I love seeing brightly-coloured hair around because it's pretty and makes a change. British people tend to be an army of grey/black/navy-wearers so any foray into colour is welcome as far as I'm concerned!

And Scarlet - you look ace.

skippedtheripeoldmango Wed 24-Apr-13 10:29:41

So long as the pink/purple/whatever colour haired person is happy, what's it to you. YABU and extremely judgemental.

quesadilla Wed 24-Apr-13 10:33:40

I love pillar box red hair. Have always wanted it but would look shit on me because of my skin tone. If I were 10 years younger and had either ivory or dark skin (as opposed to mottled English) I would do it like a shot. Ditto candy pink. Can look fab if its maintained. Burgundy looks terrible on almost everyone though IMHO and also just so eighties... Can't get rid of the association with those awful Duranie flicks.

WildlingPrincess Wed 24-Apr-13 11:21:13

ScarlettLady and MrsJoeGargary I have hair envy looking at your pictures envy grin

LaGuardia Wed 24-Apr-13 11:28:54

Never mind candy colours. It's the ones who look like a badger! You know, dyed blonde at the roots and black at the ends. WTF is that all about confused

Madlizzy Wed 24-Apr-13 11:37:59

Scarlett, your hair is gorgeous. Mrs Joe, I have same age but you look younger than me envy grin

MrsJoeGargary - you are stunning! Love the hair and make-up smile

EmmaBemma Wed 24-Apr-13 15:35:20

"And the class issue creeping in - the 'scum' on Jeremy Kyle have pink hair <shudder> "

Yes, I noticed that too. Thing is though, I get older I find I increasingly can't be arsed to engage with the sort of person who gets their rocks off sneering at people on car-crash telly. What's the point? If that's their idea of entertainment they've got bigger problems than other people's hair.

GreenEggsAndNichts Wed 24-Apr-13 16:37:44

shrug. Surely candy-coloured hair is "zany, trying too hard, Look At Me!" at any age. Why single out older women?

FWIW, it doesn't bother me, and I don't have candy-coloured hair. But isn't the point of doing a silly colour the same, at any age? It rarely flatters anyone, it's just to do something different.

Fanjounchained Wed 24-Apr-13 18:43:52

MrsJoe...just had a look at your pic and the first thing I noticed is what gorgeous green eyes you have !

MrsJoe love that hair! It's a similar colour to a friend of mine (who has a mohican), but similar in style to that worn by a bellydancing friend.

Not a fan of the trend to dye hair one colour underneath and another on top but can see why people do it, and one of my friends has recently done this with brown/turquoise. She wears it down at work (brown) and up for out and about (turquoise). I'm getting serious colour envy!

MooMooSkit Thu 25-Apr-13 08:47:34

And sorry to clarify, I meant the very white blonde, the sort you need to have to bleach to get it to! BUT at the same time, i don't go along the road thinking how ridiculous they look. They obviously chose it because they felt it suited them/it's how they wanted it so fair play to them!

StuntGirl Thu 25-Apr-13 19:11:43

My hair is technically pillar box red, but I like to call it Little Mermaid red smile

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