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to wonder what is the point of posting on Baby Names if...

(47 Posts)
ParmaViolette Tue 16-Apr-13 21:47:11

...the only acceptable response is 'beautiful name hun, ignore the haters and enjoy your bubba!' or the more diplomatic 'YOUR CHILD- NAME IT WHAT YOU LIKE!'

Discuss.

idontbeeleaveit Tue 16-Apr-13 21:48:38

Well yeah but I think it's sharing the excitement a lot of the time grin That said I dislike it when parents name children names that WILL invite ridicule so YANBU.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Tue 16-Apr-13 21:50:17

Yes boss. grin

I do both. Start by saying what I think of the name and end by acknowledging that it's their child and it doesn't matter one little bit what I or anyone else thinks.

Which is true.

AssamAndDarjeeling Tue 16-Apr-13 21:53:25

Some people just can't deal with hearing that they have hideous taste.

Which is why I don't treat baby-naming as an expression of my own personality.

LondonInHighHeeledBoots Tue 16-Apr-13 22:02:35

I think the same reason people ask advice - to tell them what they are going do!

Also, you want to share the amazing name you have chosen, but can't tell your mother or your friends because one of them will respond with 'But James is a horrible name, I had a dog called James once and it bit me, and there was a fat kid at school called James, you should call him Beelzebub instead' or purse their lips and say 'Well, I will call him Stephen.'

Although it does annoy me when the question is 'Juliet or Rachel - what do you think' and people respond 'Neither, they are both horrible, what about Margret or Layla?'. That is not the question you were asked.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Tue 16-Apr-13 22:05:19

When on mumsnet do people ever confine themselves to answering the question asked? grin

ParadiseChick Tue 16-Apr-13 22:13:35

I love those ones where the op suggests normal decent names and the replies go along the lines off no, what about BodenElias or Ophelia Trumpet nn liapet?

thermalsinapril Tue 16-Apr-13 22:28:38

I think deviating from the question is fine, especially if posters have indeed given their honest opinion of the suggested names. I love it when threads go off at interesting tangents grin Why not throw some extra suggestions into the mix? If the OP doesn't like them they can always reject them, but sometimes people do say "ooh yes I never thought of that one!"

Trillz Tue 16-Apr-13 22:37:56

YABU to wonder - it's the same "point" that there is in posting in AIBU when there is absolutely no chance that you will accept you are BU

manticlimactic Tue 16-Apr-13 22:41:47

I've just had a wander over to Baby Names and read some of the thread titles. Good god! Do people really call their child those names??

shesariver Tue 16-Apr-13 22:44:38

I dont really know any kids in real life with some of the god awful , pretentious, or simply plain ridiculous names you see on the baby names threads here, I think some parents forget they are naming a child for life, not a dog.

I heard someone load parenting Illya today. I wondered... Illya Kuryakin?

raisah Wed 17-Apr-13 06:03:56

I was at a park in a certain part of n London not too long ago where all the kids were named Persepone, Dante, Otto and Clarissa etc. All the parents had identikit uniforms of dark turtle neck tops & giant spec frames & skinny jeans apart from me! I thought they might have been the people who post on the baby name threads.

exoticfruits Wed 17-Apr-13 07:13:28

I just want to do my bit to save a DC having a lifetime with a dire name- however the parent may well ignore and do it anyway- at least then have been told.

Bibs123 Wed 17-Apr-13 07:27:01

Oh good I am not the only one a bit bewildered by the names being banded about on the names threads and wondering where these people hide in real life. It seems Rupert is a popular name on these posts. Nuff said! I did hear a woman calling after a naughty Horace in a shop once!

thermalsinapril Wed 17-Apr-13 09:23:24

Agree raisah. There are the baby names which a lot of people in North London go for. And then there's the rest of the country, where completely different names seem to be preferred!

Bumbez Wed 17-Apr-13 09:36:30

Going off at a tangent, does anyone recall the troll thread about a completely rediculous name, I think it ended up in classics 'twas very funny.

As there will be no more dc's for me I largely ignore the baby name threads unless they are my dds names and pop up in most active.

I think it's fine to express a negative opinion (e.g. "I really don't like Ophelia Trumpet, and there's possibility for teasing there"), but not a "OMG THAT IS HIDEOUS, SO HIDEOUS THAT GENERATIONS OF YOUR FAMILY AS YET UNBORN WILL CURSE YOUR NAME DAILY; ANY PARENT WHO EVEN CONSIDERS THAT NAME IS A GIANT SUPPURATING BOIL UPON THE FACE OF HUMANITY" level negative response -- yes, the OP has asked for opinions, but reading your post will potentially be other parents who have already given their child the name you are about to rip to shreds and who (a) didn't ask for opinions and (b) aren't in a position to change the name now anyway, so write your post with that in mind and be polite.

Someone was really very rude about DD1's name (which isn't particularly freakish) on a thread (not mine) here once and it did rankle.

There's a name on there currently, well the thread asks for a name for a sibling of a child called X. A while ago the DS were telling me about some rapper, I think it was 'Example' who had expressed his shock at hearing such a name as X, and had a massive response from his fans all joining in the mocking of the name X.

At the time of being told this I said "bet she's a mumsnetter" and it appears I was only bloody right! I've text the DS to tell them.

I live in north east London and the only people I know who use the ridiculous names I see on those threads live in South or West London.

LaMaga Wed 17-Apr-13 11:42:22

Some name are awful, yes. That's why I stay away from that particular topic. It's all very nice for some parents to feel 'creative' but I think they should change their own names instead if they want to be creative instead of naming their children with weird names yes dad, I am looking at you If you still want to be creative, make it a middle name please.

EldritchCleavage Wed 17-Apr-13 16:40:24

Yep, West London is top daft name hot spot for the whole of the UK.

Met siblings called 'Lucky' and 'Storm' in West London once. 'Pain' and 'Arse' would have been more appropriate.

cantspel Wed 17-Apr-13 16:45:55

Is this thread a piss take

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/baby_names/1734469-Brother-or-Sister-for-Persephone

Or are those posters serious?

cantspel Wed 17-Apr-13 16:46:04
valiumredhead Wed 17-Apr-13 16:49:09

Ive only ever ventured over to Baby Names once, it made AIBU look tame! shock

wigglesrock Germany Wed 17-Apr-13 16:53:24

I think it's really arsey to link to a thread in a different topic just to take the piss.

cantspel that is a Baby Names poster's wet dream.

My favourite thing to do is appear on threads, rubbish all the suggestions and offer up something like Kevin or Ellie-May (often with a unique spelling), haven't done it in a while but the reactions do entertain me.

MiaowTheCat Wed 17-Apr-13 18:35:06

I've been told DD2's name was hideous on there - sod 'em, it's not overly pretentious, uniquely spelt or a name that is fab on a baby or cute toddler but won't carry with them through teenage years and into adulthood well.

I do find baby name threads hilarious though as a general rule - on here you've got people worrying that Persephone might be TOO common or not ethereal enough... on other sites you've got people trying to work out how to change the spelling of James to make it "unique."

I met a Frayah today (Freya)

KitchenandJumble Wed 17-Apr-13 18:56:05

I genuinely love reading the baby names threads, because I love names and am always interested in seeing what is popular. However, sometimes people will propose a really outlandish name and others will respond, "The only thing that matters is that you and your DH like the name." Actually, what matters even more is that you might be setting your child up for a lifetime of hassle and annoyance.

Oh don't worry Miaow all my DC's names have been labelled chavvy or not proper names, despite most of them appearing in the top 100 since Victorian times!

Was also told that I can't possibly name a child Harry, it must be called Henry and nicknamed Harry.

EntWife Wed 17-Apr-13 19:03:05

the baby name topic terrifies me. i am currently pregnant with dc3 and need to start thinking about names but the names thrown around on that topic just bewilder me.

i once heard a mum shouting after a naughty little Ptolemy last summer. i immediately texted dh to tell him. i always thought it was a mumsnet myth.

exoticfruits Wed 17-Apr-13 19:06:45

Just go for what you like, you can't please everyone. I wouldn't discuss with anyone- just announce after the birth.

I would say don't use mn, if you want to speak to people do it with real people who know you.

Best option is don't tell anyone.

Baby names boards are good for scouring for ideas, but I've learnt my lesson in regards to actually starting a thread.

extracrunchy Wed 17-Apr-13 19:16:33

I met both a Jago and an Artemis this week confused

fudgeit Wed 17-Apr-13 19:18:09

wonder if there has ever been an AIBU where an mner posted a baby name only for another mner to use it first hmm

honeytea Wed 17-Apr-13 19:28:43

I think it is odd when someone makes a thread along the lines of "we need a girl's name that means star" then someone googles "girl's name that means star and comes up with a list of 15 names that mean star.

I don't understand why the first poster doesn't just google girl's name that means star and cut out the middle man.

ouryve Wed 17-Apr-13 19:37:08

I have a hard time not responding when baby name topics come up in active conversations. Middle name for Kelvin? Ooooh, er, Mackenzie? (Hypothetical example, but after a glass or two of wine oh yes I would.

bedmonster Wed 17-Apr-13 19:52:51

I have been drawn into babynames threads from a disgusted yet fascinated angle. Some of the suggestions as so pretentious they actually hurt my eyes to read them. The rest of them are completely unpronounceable. I think most of them are piss takes. I live in leafy posh Surrey and have never once heard of most of those names.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 17-Apr-13 19:57:13

The posters that amuse me are the ones that dislike names for personal reasons, such as 'I knew someone with that name and she was a bitch'.
What difference would that make to a complete stranger looking for a name for their baby?

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Wed 17-Apr-13 20:19:49

Totally agree, Lady, it always makes me eye roll.

"John is awful, just awful! I used to sit next to a John at school and he pulled my hair constantly. Dreadful name."

I'm pregnant again and have moseyed over to baby names for a bit of inspiration. It seems to have become a little crazier/intense since I was last there and the names are a bit wackier.

Today's favourite: Ciorstaidh.

thermalsinapril Thu 18-Apr-13 22:31:20

Most people on the names threads want honest opinions, before they make their final choices. It's a useful way to find out what people really think about particular names. Let's face it, most people's friends and family are only ever going to say "how lovely". I think it's great that people are so honest blunt because otherwise how will anyone know the reality of what people actually think of Persephone/Ptolemy/Waynetta?

Now and again, there will be a disingenuous thread asking for opinions on a name, and obviously people will respond honestly. Then about 40 posts later, the OP admits it's a name they've already used! hmm

Some posters pop up every single time someone mentions their DC's name on a thread. This means that on every thread where that name is mentioned, as soon as poster X appears, no-one feels able to give their honest opinion.

PurpleStorm Fri 19-Apr-13 00:29:27

I agree that it seems a bit daft to start a post on baby names if you're not really interested in people's opinions.

I think it's better than asking people I know in real life about baby names because they'll either say "Oooh, how lovely", or try and persuade us away from them for nonsense reasons. Such as claiming that Isobel can't possibly go on our short list because it's so hideously old fashioned that any Isobel would resent us forever for giving her such an unusual name hmm Yeah, right, PILs. Because you're such experts on currently popular baby names

And it's probably better to find out that most people hate a name before you give it to a baby. (Although I'm still not convinced that Gordon's really all that bad a name, despite relinquishing it after an almost unanimous negative opinion from DH & mumsnet. DC2 will not be a Gordon.)

I think the troll thread was brilliant. Op ranted about family and friends making cruel comments about her PFBs name. 4 pages of support and outrage and then the Op says the name is 'slithery'

IIRC!

sweetestcup Fri 19-Apr-13 08:17:58

4 pages of support and outrage and then the Op says the name is 'slithery'

Hahaha grin

thegreylady Fri 19-Apr-13 08:23:33

Honestly Ptolemy is real. He is in my dgs nursery class and is four years old. He is absolutely adorable. He is known as Tolly and is very popular. It is a rural state school.

BalloonSlayer Fri 19-Apr-13 08:30:23

I love the ones where someone says "We have decided on Scrotus for a boy and Labia for a girl" what do you think.

6 pages of "how lovely" follow before you finally pluck up the courage to point out that they sound a bit reminiscent of other words. . .

Immediately someone else posts to say "Well I have a seven year old Scrotus, and everyone says what a cool name it is and NO, no one has ever nicknamed him Scrotum."

And you want to say, yeah, wait till Secondary, love. But give up and say a prayer for the poor little feller instead.

youmaycallmeSSP Fri 19-Apr-13 09:49:14

It is vaguely amusing on a very boring day to scroll through the girls name suggestion threads and see how long it takes for someone to suggest Araminta or Romilly, then for everyone else to join in raving about them. I am 99.9% certain that those names exist only on MN and are part of some in-joke that I'm not yet in on.

RosieMole Fri 19-Apr-13 09:59:00

Don't understand why people have to be so vicious about other people's choices though. Even when it is just discussing prospective names, there will surely be people reading who have actually chosen a particular name for their child and it must be very hurtful to see it slagged off on these threads. There's been a few threads recently when people asked for suggestions for a sibling and it ended up with the existing sibling's name being mocked or ridiculed. Totally unnecessary and nasty to do this imo.

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