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to get pissed off when parents let their kids pick flowers?

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fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 19:11:10

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A mum I know posted a photo of her DC (aged 6) clutching a big bunch of daffodils, captioned "look what DC picked for me at the park! Isn't that sweet?" Sure it's great that he wanted to give his mum flowers, but pulling them out of a public flower bed?

Similar situation with another child when leaving the school grounds just before Easter--she asked her mum if she could pick a daffodil and was told yes. Cue my kids in a sulk the whole way home because I wouldn't let them pluck flowers too.

AIBU to think that flowers in public places are for everyone to enjoy and not for a few selfish people to nab for themselves? Perhaps your child is only picking a few, but if every child who walks by grabs a couple of flowers then they'll be finished by the end of the day. If you want fresh flowers , go and buy them. If your kids want to pull them up, then grow your own bastard flowers so your kids can pull their bloody heads off. Or maybe just tell your PFB "no, you can't pick those flowers because they don't belong to you."


It's been a long day. Need brew

Chottie Fri 12-Apr-13 19:13:55

I agree, the flowers are there for everyone to enjoy smile

YANBU. I saw similar the other day when I was in the park with ds2 who wanted to copy then sulked when I wouldn't let him.

I agree that it's selfish and they are for everyone to enjoy.

Sparklingbrook Fri 12-Apr-13 19:14:52

I hope you commented accordingly. sad

landofsoapandyoni Fri 12-Apr-13 19:16:40

YANBU. They are for everyone to enjoy.

What did you comment on the photo?

Tiredmumno1 Fri 12-Apr-13 19:16:49

That's really sad

I love seeing all the flowers, especially the poppies when they are out, it's beautiful smile

TimeIsACurrency Fri 12-Apr-13 19:18:25

YANBU. Why can't they just let their DCs pick some daisies out of the grass?

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 19:18:40

YANBU - I'm surprised that there are still people out there who are unaware that it's not allowed to pick flowers from public areas

HairyGrotter Fri 12-Apr-13 19:19:07

YANBU

DD loves flowers, she's allowed to smell them but she knows they are for everyone to enjoy so picking them is not OK.

I don't like seeing it at all

CarnivorousPanda Fri 12-Apr-13 19:20:00

Completely agree with you

I still remember years ago, going to a bluebell wood in Kent. Met two women,? g'mother, mother with a small girl aged about 6 who was clutching a huge bunch of bluebells, She had picked so many, she was dropping them on the ground as she walked. They were already wilting. looking back I wish I had said something.

Ignorant, selfish behaviour.

snozzlemaid Fri 12-Apr-13 19:20:14

I saw my next door neighbour picking daffodils in the park on Mother's Day. I couldn't believe the nerve of her. I mean how much is a bunch of daffs?

A whole 95p round my way snozzlemaid. grin

Chottie Fri 12-Apr-13 19:24:45

50p a bunch down sarf!

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 19:29:13

I was too gutless to comment blush so I came over here to swear about it instead grin. Maybe when I've got rid of this headache and foul mood, I'll be able to muster up something constructive to say.

I get it that she was proud that her kid wanted to pick flowers for mummy, but like TimeIS said, wouldn't a daisy chain be sufficient?

Sparklingbrook Fri 12-Apr-13 19:30:52

You could go for 'Hope the park has some left'.

2 yr old DS picked me a few daffs the other day- difference was, they were ours from the garden.

no way would i allow him to pick ones from elsewhere- it's rude & selfish, imo.

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 19:33:23

Maybe "Aww, I love daffodils in the spring. At least, I did before your kid fucking picked them all!"

To harsh?

DeskPlanner Fri 12-Apr-13 19:33:48

YANBU. This really makes me stabby. Flowers especially daffs dont last very long when picked, they should be left in the park for everyone to enjoy for weeks and weeks.

Sparklingbrook Fri 12-Apr-13 19:35:22

Depends fuzzy. How much to you value you thieving friend? grin

picnicbasketcase Fri 12-Apr-13 19:36:24

I don't let mine pick anything in parks except daisies and dandelions. I'm quite cross that anyone would approve of children picking flowers in public places that have probably been paid for by everyone's council tax, they are for everyone to see not for a few people to take home for themselves. I would have to say something snarky I'm afraid.

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 19:44:08

I think she's completely oblivious to the idea that anyone might object. But if I made a negative comment about her PFB on her facebook, she might be inclined to kick my ass. And if she were so inclined, I reckon she could beat me up one-handed without breaking a sweat.

I like daffodils, but do I like them enough to be bludgeoned for them? If they were hydrangeas, maybe...

AllDirections Fri 12-Apr-13 19:47:46

I have two friends who let their kids do that, one is a dad who has no respect for anything and the other is a mum who 'can't' stop her DD doing it. DD3 is never happy when I remind her not to even think about it. It wouldn't matter if I said anything to them because the dad doesn't care and the mum can't do anything about it apparently (and it's only a few flowers so it's not a problem is it hmm )

PuffPants Fri 12-Apr-13 19:48:01

It's theft. It boils my blood like little else.

MrsKoala Fri 12-Apr-13 19:48:34

it's a pet hate. We see it round here on Mothers Day - loads of kids in the park with beaming mums and dads as their dc pick them lovely free flowers. They smile at me in a really proud way too - no comprehension of how selfish they are being.

I have even seen a mum let her ds pick flowers from a window box.

I do think some people genuinely have no idea they are planted specially and think they spring up from nowhere and are there for the picking. DH doesn't pick any, but still thinks all flowers are wild, he can't comprehend why anyone would spend time and money purposely planting them confused

Squitten Fri 12-Apr-13 19:48:47

YANBU!

Our local park isn't even properly funded by the council so all the planting is done by a local volunteer group. I'd go mad if my kids were pulling them all up again!

InkySkink Fri 12-Apr-13 19:51:05

Perhaps just send her a privateessage with a link to this:
m.guardian.co.uk/law/2011/mar/16/rules-picking-wild-flowers
Saying you wouldn't want her DC to get in trouble with his future thieving efforts?

MrsKoala Fri 12-Apr-13 19:51:29

hhmmm i see your point Fuzzy, this is why i'm never friends with anyone i couldn't take in smack down. it's sage advice, passed down from my gran which has served me well many times... grin

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 19:52:52

Yanbu. I'll never know why I didn't go up to the two mums in my local park and tell them to stop smiling benignly as their toddlers picked daffodils for them out of the flower beds.

Jojay Fri 12-Apr-13 19:54:18

YANBU. I've just had to have a long chat with Ds2 (4) about why it's ok to pick daisies and dandelions but not ok top pick flowers from people's gardens....

AllSWornOut Fri 12-Apr-13 20:00:44

YANBU

My local park has daffodil bulbs planted along all the paths but there are almost no flowers left as they've all been picked sad Selfish buggers.

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 20:01:09

Mrs Koala, that is the kind of thing I could have done with learning in school!

thermalsinapril Fri 12-Apr-13 20:02:54

YANBU. They're meant to be for everyone to enjoy.

cocolepew Fri 12-Apr-13 20:07:30

This drives me mad. Outside DDs primary school there are hundres of daffodils planted on a grassy bank. If kids aren't picking them they are running through them, stamping on them.
I got into a shocking row last year witj a group of mums.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:24:50

From someones garden YANBU
From nature... YABU!

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:27:54

Of and if they've obviously been specifically planted then I see your point
Although I never saw a problem picking flowers from peoples garden until YEARS and years after

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 20:30:05

Daffodils do not grow "in nature" MsBella.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:31:31

The title says flowers...

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell Fri 12-Apr-13 20:32:01

But a park is a public garden, for everybody to enjoy. Nature didn't put them there, the counci gardeners did. <sigh, why am I biting?>

Yanbu op, some parents are thick, selfish and self absorbed.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:34:51

As I said in nature yabu, not 'parks are nature'

InNeedOfBrandy Fri 12-Apr-13 20:35:26

I always used to pick my mum daffs, she used to have vases and vases stuffed full on the kitchen windowsills. Doesn't really bother me and I let dc pick them from random places IE not from a park's "garden" as such but a load of random planted ones are not going to miss a few that dc have picked.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:36:38

Oh my god 'thick selfish and self absorbed' is a bit much just because someones kid picked a few flowers from a park
Maybe she doesn't see a problem with it
Although I definitely see how its bu to do that, maybe the kid did it when the mum wasn't looking? don't know how old the kid is to suggest that though

Sailormercury Fri 12-Apr-13 20:36:54

YANBU.

Lorialet Fri 12-Apr-13 20:37:14

What if everyone's dc picked them? Wouldn't be an awful lot left would there?

TheChaoGoesMu Fri 12-Apr-13 20:37:36

YANBU. I would have said something to her. Either that or told my child very loudly that we dont do that because the flowers are there for EVERYONE to enjoy.

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 20:38:20

True, it does say flowers in the title, as opposed to daffodils specifically. I suppose I mean any flower that has been planted by a person other than the individual who wants to pick it.

So daisies, buttercups, and dandelions wouldn't bother me.

Parks, planters, pub gardens and other people's gardens should be left alone IMO.

fuzzypicklehead Fri 12-Apr-13 20:39:52

The DC I'm speaking of are 5 and 6 years old.

MrsKoala Fri 12-Apr-13 20:41:47

But it's just stealing isn't it - Maybe a lot of people don't see a problem with stealing and taking things for their own enjoyment rather than that of many people, still doesn't make it right. It's not really an each to their own, do you like tea or coffee type question. It's more 'do you think it's okay to take something that doesn't belong to you just because you want it and there is no one guarding it?'

Sailormercury Fri 12-Apr-13 20:42:07

But what if everyone took "just a few flowers" MsBella? then there would be nothing left for anyone to enjoy when they were out walking.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 12-Apr-13 20:43:12

Neither wild or planted flowers should be picked unless they are growing on your own property.

Picking flowers someone else has planted is theft.

Picking wildflowers harms their ability to reproduce.

Picking all flowers is a selfish act.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell Fri 12-Apr-13 20:43:29

Yep, thick, selfish and self absorbed. The type of parents who let their little darlings 'express themselves' i.e be a total brat.
A topical example would be the type of parents who let their children run around restaurants. I'll add ineffective and a bit wet to my description too. smile

MrsKoala Fri 12-Apr-13 20:43:48

also the areas between the roads and roundabouts etc. I love it when they all come out and there are hundreds glowing. It really cheers up a grey journey.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 20:44:51

Its a bit of a harsh judgement to make on a woman you don't know just because her dc picked some flowers

And as for the last part of your post hmm

RevoltingPeasant Fri 12-Apr-13 20:46:13

Minty daffs do grow 'in nature'. They are v v common as a garden flower now, but garden flowers are a cultivated version of wild daffs. It's possible to still see large areas of wild daffodils in some places such as the South West.

And when people pick those I think they are ignorant fuckwits. Because actually, 'natural' flowers are being absolutely fucking decimated by human activities, such as releasing pesticides into the environment and doing other things which kill pollinating insects. Also by picking them.

DH works for a wildlife charity and one of their reserves has a rare area of real wild daffs. In the 80s and 90s it was nearly ruined through local people picking them. Now that it's a reserve and protected the daffodils have come back and they make a stunning display.

This topic actually makes so angry I think I might have to hide this thread - grin ! When I think of the plants and butterflies and other wildlife which are already in such steep decline and which my grandchildren may never see in books, then yes, people destroying wildlife deserve to be called 'thick', 'ignorant' and 'selfish'.

RevoltingPeasant Fri 12-Apr-13 20:49:11

Bella I don't want at all to be nasty to you, but I really wish you could see pics of an area like the reserve I'm talking about, where older photos show a sad, scrubby area with a few small daffs littered about, as all the local people used to pick 'just a few' - and then the really heartlifting, beautiful scene we saw this year, with a green bank by a stream studded thickly with yellow daffodils. That is what not picking them does. I don't think it's fair to take that experience from others.

RevoltingPeasant Fri 12-Apr-13 20:50:25

Gaaah may never see except in books

Will shut up now!!

Sailormercury Fri 12-Apr-13 20:52:00

Exactly RevoltingPeasant flowers

exoticfruits Fri 12-Apr-13 20:52:46

She deserves a harsh judgement MsBella, it is a very selfish act with no thought for others.

TheChaoGoesMu Fri 12-Apr-13 20:53:43

Hear hear revolting.

Pinkush Fri 12-Apr-13 20:57:58

YANBU. I still remember walking back home from primary school with mum when I was little and some girls from the "big school" walked past us clutching fistfuls of my mum's prized tulips!! She almost rammed them down their throats!! I re-enacted my mum's wrath when I saw kids AND their parents picking roses at our local park that volunteers had spent hours restoring. I was furious!!! Go and buy your own bloody flowers- ignorant cheapskates!

RevoltingPeasant Fri 12-Apr-13 20:58:37

Sailor, I hope you didn't pick those from a park somewhere shock

... wink

nailak Fri 12-Apr-13 20:59:10

in my local park the daffs and crocus are not planted, they grow wild. ""it is not normally an offence to pick the 'Four Fs' – fruit, foliage, fungi or flowers – if the plants are growing wild and it is for your personal use and not for sale"

So where's the issue?

Sailormercury Fri 12-Apr-13 21:05:47

They're from the mumsnet florist grin

RevoltingPeasant Fri 12-Apr-13 21:10:01

Oooh swank-ay.

Nailak, see above for the issue. Depending on what it is, you may be adversely affecting local wildlife.

nametakenagain Fri 12-Apr-13 21:15:35

I can't think of a valid reason to pick floweres that don't belong to you. But berries along the roadside would go to waste if not picked.

currentbuns Fri 12-Apr-13 21:24:17

I have some sympathy with Germaine Greer's views on daffodils. They are a borderline menace. If the occasional child is to get some pleasure from picking one in a public park, it really wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 21:27:26

Regardless of what GG may opine, it is against the law to pick flowers from a public park.

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 21:28:07

Oooh.

Ms Bella.

Being controversial.

How very hmm

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 21:30:16

I don't think I was controversial mintyaero.. I agreed about the parks.. just said from nature is different
Or are you talking about me thinking calling someone thick,selfish etc is harsh for someone who's dc picked flowers? [Confused]

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 21:30:57

I mean confused

Beamur Fri 12-Apr-13 21:32:15

I made my DD cry this week by not being pleased she had picked me a crocus flower in the park and telling her she should leave them so everyone could enjoy them.

nailak Fri 12-Apr-13 21:35:44

revolting believe it or not children picking daffodils doesnt seem to diminish the daffodil population, as kids pick some, more open, I have never seen kids picking bunches, as most people are more sensible then that! they pick one or two. The park also has another area which is a wildlife area for birds and stuff, which is not next to the kids playground.

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 21:41:29

Nailak - not sure where you live but in some areas round here it's certainly not just one or two! Also - picking one doesn't make another one open, really it doesn't!

FannyBazaar Fri 12-Apr-13 21:46:42

I told someone off for picking the daffodils in our local park and they tried to point out they were wild because they weren't growing in flower beds. confused Huh? People think that wild flowers in a park are not actually planted there deliberately? It's a park FFS, they have gardeners, they are 'naturalised' amongst the grass not 'wild'.

Last year I was waiting for DS and saw someone with a large bunch of open daffs unlike the closed buds in shops I followed her with an evil stare watched as she came towards where I was. She did actually notice my stares and called out to tell me they were the ones picked by kids and discarded in the park. Not sure if that is true 'cause the kids tend to bash them and stomp on them...

Ah well, after the daffs we have people yanking blossom from the trees in the park to look forward too.

Smooshy Fri 12-Apr-13 21:51:31

YANBU. I am always telling my kids they can't pick the flowers in spring, only daisies or dandelions. I tell them they look much better growing in the ground than dying in the house.

YoniTrix Fri 12-Apr-13 22:05:34

YANBU. I saw a father with his kids at our train station and he had let them pick every single daffodil out of the pots on the station platform. I was angry and shock

Having said that DS came running up to me at a country park and presented me with some daffodils. I explained that the flowers were for everyone to enjoy and we shouldn't pick them. We definitely got some dirty looks blush.

tallulah Fri 12-Apr-13 22:11:13

YANBU. My mum used to grow roses in our front garden. I was always shock at the number of people who thought it was OK to pick one or two blooms.

AmIthatSpringy Fri 12-Apr-13 22:19:41

Nope, not unreasonable,

and not too harsh in the description

Selfish and setting a bad example.

As for the poster who says it's only a couple of flowers hmm

Rightio then

MidniteScribbler Fri 12-Apr-13 22:40:30

Do you ever notice you can just tell who has written a post, by the absolute 'I don't give a fuck about anyone other than myself' air of twatiness about it?

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 22:43:08

Oh yes - sometimes you just will them to write something other than the usual twattery, if only to prove that they are not as ignorant in RL as they come across on here. They never do, sadly.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 22:45:45

Hmm I wouldn't call a mother selfish for their dc picking some flowers, you know some people may not know the difference between wild flowers and flowers which have been planted
Maybe a few signs up could help I reckon

peeriebear Fri 12-Apr-13 22:54:21

If you pick the flower you rob the plant of its ability to reproduce. As well as being a greedy twat who spoils things for others.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 22:58:56

Actually that's not true and also I think that's definitely too harsh and judgemental. Someones whole self can't be based upon if their kids pick flowers or not.
Or are you calling children greedy twats..? They're just trying to do something nice you know what I mean

MidniteScribbler Fri 12-Apr-13 22:59:36

Oh yes let's make more signs for the socially ignorant and selfish. We can add them to the "Contents may be hot" signs on cups of coffee for the chronically stupid.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 23:02:47

Come on if they don't know then they're not selfish you can't judge a person on if their dcs pick flowers, very judgmental comments
Its not their fault if they don't see a difference between flowers in nature and flowers in a park
There are daffodils that grow in wild areas too

DeepRedBetty Fri 12-Apr-13 23:03:52

We planted a bag of wild narcissus bulbs to mark the place where we scattered some family ashes, very deep in woodland. I was gutted when I went to visit the next spring and found some fucker had picked them all.

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 23:06:36

Ah I can see how that can be sad but I suppose whoever picked it had no way of knowing the reason they were there deepredbetty

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Fri 12-Apr-13 23:13:20

It's the fact that these parents don't consider the fact that most kids would enjoy picking a load of flowers - it's just that the vast majority of parents realise that it's a little bit twatty and selfish and therefore encourage our kids not to. angry My 3 year old was broken hearted when I (gently ) reprimanded him for acquiring me a snapped off rose head from our park but it needed doing.
The Marie Curie charity plant 'field of hope' daffs here, grown specifically to be sold for funds, clearly signposted too but doesn't stop some dickhead parents allowing their kids to pick them. Grr

MidniteScribbler Fri 12-Apr-13 23:17:53

So Bella, now that you do know, will you be stopping your children from picking them?

MsBella Fri 12-Apr-13 23:19:44

Are you being serious? I literally don't understand! Please tell me when I said I did! Midnite just read up or something I think you're confused

SucksToBeMe Fri 12-Apr-13 23:39:03

YANBU.

Can I add another pet hate? Children running a pigeons, makes me sad. hmm

fuzzypicklehead Sat 13-Apr-13 08:55:58

Somebody else saved me the trouble of commenting by linking to this article. Now they can take the beat-down for me!

peeriebear Sat 13-Apr-13 09:00:34

Obviously I don't mean little kids picking flowers are greedy twats.
Parents who do nothing to stop them, and even encourage them, ARE.

peeriebear Sat 13-Apr-13 09:01:47

Sucks, my 11yo DD raised a whole flock of pigeons in the air yesterday in a very quiet part of town. It scared the SHIT out of me. The pigeons didn't care a bit though smile She didn't run at them, just walked up to them.

fuzzypicklehead Sat 13-Apr-13 09:02:28

Yes, pigeon chasing does annoy me too. I know it's "just a bird" and pigeons are considered "vermin", but is there really any need for that behaviour? convinced the beady eyed buggers are plotting our eventual downfall and don't want to incur their wrath

fuzzypicklehead Sat 13-Apr-13 09:08:25

Well, accidentally startling a flock by just walking by isn't something you can avoid. But when you see them all hit the air at once, it is really unnerving. Also, don't homing pigeons have great memory for locations? If you piss them off, they might make a mental note of your address for revenge.

Screw the zombies. The pigeon apocalypse is what we really need to be concerned about. One day some poor pigeon will have been chased too many times and just snap, unleashing a feathery fury the likes of which the world has never known.

peeriebear Sat 13-Apr-13 09:12:17

Oh she intended to do it smile We went further on and saw a whole gang of them bathing in a shallow part of the river, with this big slick of oily dust emanating from them. Dorty creatures.

tazzle Sat 13-Apr-13 09:30:49

I think that ALL flowers should be left where they are for everyone to enjoy unless picking from own garden.

YANBU !

jamdonut Sat 13-Apr-13 09:32:23

We have some tubs ,planted by children, in the school playground.

The minute they start to bloom, someone ALWAYS lets their child (usually a pre-schooler) go and pick them!!

I actually asked a child not to do it, once, and she went crying back to her mum!! The looks I got!!

Also, not far from my house their is a bank, alongside a busy road, that blooms with hundreds of daffodils every year. It would be lovely, but they are soon picked. Last year, I saw a women with 4 children picking them in armfulls. At first she put them in the tray under her pushchair, but when there was too many, they started to leave a trail of them down the footpath, or throw them about!! angry As they reached a well-known pet store, she proceeded to let the children untie the balloons that were part of a display outside the store!! hmm shock

And ,no, I didn't say anything, but I was so angry!

MiaowTheCat Sat 13-Apr-13 09:36:49

I see yet again the great abdicator and excuser of all parental responsibility's taken over the thread so it'll end up being a "this is why this is inconsiderate" ...."NO IT ISN'T THEY'RE CHILDREN - THEY NEED TO BE FREEEEEE AND HAPPY"... festival of going nowhere for 1000 posts again.

It's inconsiderate to pick 'em - our local park hasn't been de-daffodilled yet this year (they're not a flower I'm fond of - but I like seeing decapitated ones even less) because of the weather. We used to get kids jumping up onto our garden when I was growing up (the gardens were raised from the paths by a low retaining wall if you get what I mean) and clearing my mum's spring bulbs of all flowers while idiotic parents looked indulgently on. Prats.

lecce Sat 13-Apr-13 09:45:05

Very selfish behaviour. It really doesn't take a lot of thought to work that if everyone took one or two, there soon wouldn't be any left.

I really hate the pigeon scaring that goes on mentioned above too. Almost every time I go to the city in fine weather some child will run at a pigeon causing the ghastly thing to flap at me. I have no idea why so many people fail to teach their children respect for living things and the environment they live in.

DS2 has a desire to run at pigoens and I don't let him. Then he is surrounded by others doing just that angry.

McPie Sat 13-Apr-13 09:46:19

My kids have never picked public flowers but what they have done is picked up the ones some little shits have tried to destroy as they knew they would die quicker otherwise, my 3 know to never pick a growing flower.
I hate the way some people think that as they are flowers a swift boot is ok, the path down to tesco here is normally littered with them and its sad as they look so nice where they are planted.
I had a rose bush that had just been planted last year and had only two buds one of which flowered and was so beautiful, I was looking forward to seeing the other one but some numpty spoiled it by pulling it off and littering the path with the petals. With so many people converting their gardens to drives I love my little garden and am quite protective of it.

Blatherskite Sat 13-Apr-13 09:55:46

I discourage DS from picking Daisies too. They look a lot prettier growing in the grass than wilting in my hand and it saves me ending up with a pocket full of the bloody things too smile

MsBella, if you don't know whether the flowers are wild or not, don't pick them, simple!

To give another example of why picking flowers is wrong, I know that the native English Bluebell is in decline, and if people keep picking them we'll soon have none left.

But most people can't distiguish between the English Bluebell and the Spanish Bluebell and pick indiscriminately. (The English Bluebell is much prettier IMO.)

There are also some rare wild flowers it is illegal to pick, and again, most people can't tell what they are picking.

So, if in doubt, don't bother picking and that ay we can all enjoy them. If you want cut flowers, buy them!

Kaekae Sat 13-Apr-13 10:04:43

I agree with you, I would never allow my children to pick flowers from public places/people's front gardens etc. When they were really little they would try to but I would tell them it wasn't allowed. When the daffodils spring up in my local park, I see not only children but adults picking huge bunches of them!!!! shock

fuzzypicklehead Sat 13-Apr-13 10:08:20

I'm glad I'm not just being a po-faced cow. But it sounds like there are plenty of people out there, happily parenting flower-picky fuckers.

AmberSocks Sat 13-Apr-13 10:58:43

yabu,all of you,get a fucking grip.

What a helpful addition to the thread that was AmberSocks. Thanks. confused

FizzlingFireboxes Sat 13-Apr-13 11:09:17

YANBU flowers should be left for everyone, if I remember rightly, from flower picking in fields as a teen (where they are commercially grown) the sap from daffodils contains fibres rather like fibreglass and causes a nasty rash and itching on the skin, a good reason to tell people not to pick them maybe?

FizzlingFireboxes Sat 13-Apr-13 11:16:21

Also, if you put daffs in a vase with other flowers they are toxic to them, the bulbs are also highly poisonous so I expect the flowers are too, best to leave them alone really. smile

SirChenjin Sat 13-Apr-13 11:23:04

And the prize for the most pointless post on this thread goes to Amber.

Salmotrutta Sat 13-Apr-13 11:29:08

That BBC article you linked to fuzzypickle is hilarious.

Sad faced child and everything grin - "Two little girls with very small hands". The mother clearly believed her fond indulgence of her children should be mirrored by everyone else hmm.

scaredbutexcited Sat 13-Apr-13 11:31:58

YANBU. My DH once caught someone picking daffs from OUR DRIVEWAY!!

They said "oh, do you mind, they're so pretty, I just want a few"!!!

Well yes we did mind, no it was not ok and if they really thought we wouldn't mind, wouldn't you knock on the door first and ask?!

Would never pick public flowers either as they are there for everyone to enjoy.

AmberSocks Sat 13-Apr-13 13:11:17

how is it pointless,she asked if she was being u,i told her i think she is.

Thingiebob Sat 13-Apr-13 13:27:36

It would annoy me as well.

SavoyCabbage Sat 13-Apr-13 13:36:59

There's a line in paddington at the palace about not picking flowers as they are for everyone. Get it and leave it on her doorstep.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 13-Apr-13 13:49:59

YANBU OP it drives me mad too. Selfish, self-entitled wanky behaviour. YY to pigeon scaring too, hate it!

It is awfully selfish. Those random ones you see in park? They will have been planted by someone, quite probably a volunteer who is trying to make the place look lovely for everyone. Picking a daffodil wont make another flower appear. If you can't see more flower buds then its done flowering for the year.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 13-Apr-13 14:12:20

I had an almighty ding dong with a woman and her husband last year after seeing her smiling indulgently as her little darlings picked the roses from the beds in the local park. I couldn't keep my mouth shut blush

BuntyPenfold Sat 13-Apr-13 15:31:13

My SIL picked a bunch of flowers from the rented (not by him!) holiday cottage garden. I was shock but he thinks I am barking, not him.

LadyKatherine Sat 13-Apr-13 16:03:07

My DC are well aware they are not allowed to pick flowers from anywhere except ours or relatives gardens (exceptions granted also when a kindly neighbour gives permission for flowers to be picked from her garden). We have to walk past a park on our way to and from school every day and DS frequently likes to stop and look at the daffodils. He got quite upset at seeing some that had been trampled by (presumably) a dog and was concerned about them dying. Noticing that a couple had detached from their roots and were laying on the ground, I allowed him to reach through the fence and grab one to bring home and put in some water.

pigsDOfly Sat 13-Apr-13 18:19:50

I live near an historic building that is also a museum that obviously gets lots of visitors. There are signs everywhere saying that particular parts of the gardens are conservation areas and to keep of the grass and not pick the, often rare flowers.

Last summer while walking the dog I was passed a woman and two children, aged about 9 and 11. One of the girls, declaring how pretty the flowers were leaned forward over the waist high fence and picked one. I was pretty amazed tbh as we were standing right by a sign. When I told them not to pick the flowers, the woman's excuse was 'Oh we didn't know, we're not from here, we're from Australia'.

The pigeon thing also annoys me.

Dominodonkey Sat 13-Apr-13 18:25:19

"the woman's excuse was 'Oh we didn't know, we're not from here, we're from Australia'. "

You must have been tempted to mention something about thieving convicts surely?!

pigsDOfly Sat 13-Apr-13 18:40:43

Oh damn, you're right Dominodonkey, wish I'd thought of that.

I'll just have to hang around there this year and hope I see them again..

coughingbean Sat 13-Apr-13 19:26:50

Agreeing with the poster who mentioned it was actually illegal to pick wildflowers.
It is in the Countryside and Wildlife act.

AmberSocks Sat 13-Apr-13 20:15:18

i spain and italy,where me and dh are originally from,you just dont get this,kids are allowed to pick flowers,you even walk past peoples houses and they stop ad give them to them,gardeners in public places stop and give my children flowers all the time(in spain) not just my kids either its a normal thing.

I am guessing english people are just miserable,or england is just a very dreary grim place.or both.and its not child friendly here either.

sue52 Sat 13-Apr-13 20:37:50

I think you have a longer flowering season in Spain than we do in Northern Europe. Here it is quite brief and the flowers we have, we like to see growing not picked by a child whose parents are lax and indulgent.

StellaNova Sat 13-Apr-13 20:51:35

I must not pick the public flowers
They are not mine but they are ours

As the future utopia child told Anthea or whatever her name was in The Story of the Amulet.

AmIthatSpringy Sat 13-Apr-13 21:30:52

Yes, that'll be it. We must be miserable, or not child friendly to not condone selfish gits picking flowers that are meant for everyone.

I'm not English, BTW and I don't live in England, but guess I must live in a "dreary" place too

hmm

AmIthatSpringy Sat 13-Apr-13 21:33:01

Sorry, that was in response to the unhelfpful post from Amber Socks

nametakenagain Sat 13-Apr-13 21:58:56

Oh honestly, AmberSocks, teaching children that some things are to be shared and not for them to take for themselves is not miserable, grim or un child friendly. It is caring, sharing, respectful, bonding, and encourages a sense of community.

pigsDOfly Sat 13-Apr-13 22:07:41

Yes AmberSocks we're all miserable child haters here in damp miserable Britain.

However, most of us do like to teach our children that taking things that don't belong to them is actually stealing and we can't just take what we like. Sometimes we have to respect the fact that some things are there for the whole community to enjoy. Not just for the selfish few.

AmberSocks Sat 13-Apr-13 22:27:45

if they belong to everyone then everyone an pick them.not that everyone will pick them.i dont mind if people want to pick flowers,i dont see how that is selfish,its not just my kids,its everyone.

They don't belong to everyone.

Do you also take the park bench home if you fancy it? Or would you accept that's possibly, erm, stealing?

It really pisses me off. Why would you be so selfish as to spoil things for everyone else?

AmberSocks Sat 13-Apr-13 22:45:04

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How's it different?

Stealing is stealing. Obviously a socking great bench would make it more obvious you were stealing, but you must know daffs aren't actually free. Someone actually has to buy all those bulbs and plant them.

exoticfruits Sat 13-Apr-13 22:50:54

I would have thought it was just a question of teaching children, from an early age, to share and think of others. Picking the flowers is selfish and deprives everyone else. Lots of people go out planting bulbs -they are doing it for everyone otherwise they would just stick to their own garden.
In my area school children have got involved in planting wild flower meadows-they understand it is for everyone to enjoy and for the butterflies etc-I think that they would be very upset that an adult can't simply explain to a toddler that they shouldn't pick the flowers. It is easy enough.

pigsDOfly Sat 13-Apr-13 22:53:11

We may indeed be child hating, grim etc. etc. AmberSock, but hell are you rude.

LRDtheFeministDragon made a perfectly reasonable point in a perfectly polite way and you call her a prick? Wow.

I'd hate to live in your child friendly, happy, etc. etc. country if everyone there is as rude as you.

nametakenagain Sat 13-Apr-13 22:56:39

You are being rude Ambersocks. Advocating petty theft, and rude

exoticfruits Sat 13-Apr-13 23:01:38

When I go to foreign countries I leave the flowers alone for all to enjoy. I went to Madeira where wonderful flowers grow everywhere-lilies growing wild etc. I didn't see anyone picking them. There were a lot for sale in the flower market where locals were buying them.
Same in the Alps and the alpine meadows-they are left alone. I have never seen lazy, selfish parents letting children spoil it for others.

fortyplus Sat 13-Apr-13 23:04:22

AmberSocks you are being rude and ignorant

Sailormercury Sat 13-Apr-13 23:10:37

LRD is not a prick. That was totaly uncalled for.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell Sat 13-Apr-13 23:17:18

AmberSockspuppet that was not nice. hmm

tazzle Sat 13-Apr-13 23:17:22

If everyone picked just one flower of each kind they saw in each place they visited and each week say when previous flowers dead Amber....just how long do you think wild flowers would survive. In this country so many species are on the edge of extinction.

Thank goodness not everyone is as selfish as you and the others ..who won't leave nature to be enjoyed by all. How long will it take till there are just no wild flowers at all.

tazzle Sat 13-Apr-13 23:21:32

And that's no exaggeration or scaremongering... when I was a lass it was not uunusual to see wild poppies in fields....now I would stop the car and take photos if I saw such a thing its rare. I know of ONE such field in my county

AmIthatSpringy Sat 13-Apr-13 23:43:32

FFS AmberSocks

Not just greedy and self-centred, but incredibly rude too.

I'll stick with my miserable, child hating life thanks, if people with attitudes like you are the alternative.

TheOriginalSteamingNit Sat 13-Apr-13 23:52:48

They're not there for everyone to enjoy once some badly brought up child of useless parents has pulled them up, now, are they?

fuzzypicklehead Sun 14-Apr-13 04:07:56

DH took the DD's up to the same park to play today, and the flower picky fucker child was there. With a couple of trampled daffodils. DD2 asked if she could pick one and DH told her no.

Cue both bossy boots girls turning on the kid and giving hell. grin "You're not allowed to pick flowers! Now they will die!"

It all ended happily, apparently, with much running around, screaming and chasing, and nobody got beaten up.

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