to hate where i live

(48 Posts)
likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 16:14:37

just had to pull the kids in from the park as went past to shop and theres 6 or 7 kids screamung across the park swearing every second word threatening to kick the head in of another child. calling each other every name. politely suggest they dont swear at my kids, get told your not my fucking mum ill swear when i wantangry everyone round here knows everybodys buisness and gossips about it constantly. we dont fit in, at all and its so lonely and depressing. we have been falsely reported for all sorts and its getting so wearing, want to pack my bags, give my keys in and head to somewhere new but cant afford too. sad

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 16:43:51

Yanbu do you live in my hometown lol? Seriously I understand living in an awful area and feeling on edge all the time.

What sort of propert are you in is it mortgaged or rented or ha?

If people are making false allegations about you have you thought about keeping a diary of all dates and what was said to give to the police or la to see if there's a case for harrassment.

Is it just you and dc or do you have a dp

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 12-Apr-13 16:47:36

How much do you need to move and is there any way you can start a savings account? Even if it's just £5 a month, you may find some comfort in knowing that you're saving to get the hell out of there!

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 16:49:07

do you live in cheshire grin have dp and dc, its ha housing but cant swap as everyone trying to get out. cant afford private rent atm, i love our house just wish i could drop it in a nearby field. its like shameless nice to you one minute reporting you and gossiping about you the the next. diary a good idea have been doing recently due to reported for bullshit reasons. sad makes me sad that i tag around after dcs but i dont trust the estate. not that it helps me being there i get it worse than the kids usually. thanks for letting me vent. my dp vouldnt give a rats that people dont like us but i am more sensitive grin

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 16:50:02

we are totally skint at the minute but its a good idea for when things ease up

holeinmytights Fri 12-Apr-13 17:00:18

I sympathize. We live in a similar situation. Didn't realise before we moved that other inhabitants of out street were so awful, seemed like a nice quiet place. Horrific, rude, violent swearing brats. Worst in summer. Play in the park opposite till late shouting and swearing and throwing things and waking our baby. So embarrassing having people round with litter everywhere. Not much.advice, just to say I feel your pain.

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 17:06:38

ah if we were rich we could start our own estate. im a nice neighbour, i lend stuff, bake. have bbqs and like my garden. ill even have small children for the day and feed them long as they dont call me a twat like these do grin

minicreamegg Fri 12-Apr-13 17:10:01

Holeintights you have just described my street! I hate these light nights.

OhLori Fri 12-Apr-13 17:21:33

have you got a plan, snowflake?

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 17:22:50

i dont feel so alone now at leastgrin

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 17:25:24

not really, stuck here for quite a while so aside from trying to make the best of the house and garden just keep ourselves to ourselves

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 17:30:52

Not in Cheshire it begins with g and ends in y but they sound very similar.

Are you managing to sleep ok op?

I think with diary if you go to the la showing who is causing trouble chances are they have already had complaints about them.

In my hometown the council knocked most of one of the roughest estates down and rehoused all the decent people and left the trouble makers to it I hope the same happens for you

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 17:31:34

oh im joining this club. me too. where the hell are these people from? where are their 'parents' if theyre out so late?
the worlds getting worse by the day. and so are people.

no discipline, no decent upbringing so they bring up their own the same, no guidance, no curfews, no respect,i could go on and on.

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 17:33:14

WANNA where are you? wish councils would do that here too. all the troublemakers together in one place and all the decent ones somewhere else.

and no, not being judgy pants, its a fact.

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 17:38:22

i have already been told we think we are better than them, i find it v hard not to say your 6yo just called me a c* and do the face. i am willing to give anyone A chance but i have literally no friends herevsad

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 17:44:13

I was in humberside but dahn sarf now I got to say its the only decent idea the council ever had it should be nationwide scheme.

Op are there any neighbourhood or sure start centres in any local estates where you could meet some new people and if you starting putting routes down in different estate you might be more likely to get moved there

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 17:44:23

same here. ive been called a c****y snob. I actually am in a way!

HA's, for all their good intentions just tend to lump social cases a'la jeremy kyle types (gets ready for a flaming now) against genuine can't help being like this cases -in our case, having a person who, when DC diagnosed with disabilities, bug****d off cos they didnt want responsiblity and shame of a 'retated freak ' (their words). so leaves me to be fulltime carer who cant go anfd earn a wage and get a mortgage...this wasnt my life plan.

but its how things have turned out, and whats wrong with wanting to better ourselves and have somewhere decent and peaceful to live and breathe?

for those who couldnt give a rip about their kids and surroundings, they spoil it for those who want to make the wortld a better place.

cant we on this thread all campaign for us living in the same street?! serious btw.

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 17:45:15

And op you ate better then them and they know it the scrotes

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 17:45:42

retarted freak, meant to type.

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 17:46:21

You poor thing! I would hate this. I wish I could give some practical advice but all I can offer is brew and sympathy.

OhLori Fri 12-Apr-13 17:47:23

See my new caravan thread, OP!

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 17:50:53

I think we should do a euro millions syndicate and if we win build an estate lol!

marj that's so sad I wouldn't do smacking but some people really need discipline. Actually I would prefer it if the parents got the birch do they teach their kids some manners and respect

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 17:50:58

i like brusgrin all my kids are school age so i dont really go to any centres but its s good idea to try to put down some new friendships. i would love to live on mn street!

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 17:58:52

You could also put a message up in mn meet up and see if there are any lovely mnetters close to you

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 17:59:37

mn street...that sounds good. like sesame street! or quality street!

why are we stuck in these ruts though? have any of you been down the housing swap/social services etc route? i have to all the time, we get disability discrimination a LOT (have posted about that before) yet we never get the help.

not just that, its 'normal' people too. for flips sake this isnt victorian slum and mansions era any more, so why do we seem to be DEvolving?

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 18:05:08

That's awful marj they should have a points system like people with disabilities and dv victims are first to be housed and good tenants should always get priority over bad ones

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 18:06:23

I have tbh im in an ex council house now but I will never forget being in a shit area and not being able to dp anything so I understand where everyone's coming from

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 18:08:08

dp is pissing me off no end he couldn't care less that we have no friends or the kids end up having to stay in. from his point of view he wouldn't want to be friends with most of them. hes probably right but am so lonely sad

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 18:11:09

OP i can see your dps point but hes prob working and your with the wee ones (dont know why i always say that im not even scottish!) so he maybe doesnt realise you're there more than he is?

its awful it really is, i feel for you all, soooooo been there/done that/still there.

Naebother Fri 12-Apr-13 18:16:20

I feel for you op.
i think that unless your council dump all bad tenants in one street you probably won't be the only one feeling like this. There will be others so see if you can find them. It's shit having nasty neighbours.
Make a plan for the future. Moan away on here.

sunshine401 Fri 12-Apr-13 18:20:30

I must say that you are very unfortunate however there are some lovely council estates out there, you always do get the odd family that is the exception, so please keep on the home swapping site you never know.
Saying that though private estates can be either way to, so it is just luck of the draw really.
In the mean time why not join a local group or something to meet others, I bet there are some decent people round you that you haven't been able to met yet smile

Feel for you op i have lived in a few places like that i live in cheshire most ppl back away when i say i live now ( rough area with a repauation ) but i live it just wish next door neigbour wouldnt bladt his twaty music on you can hear the speakers straining

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 18:37:30

I grew up on a council estate, it was very different to this though. I am struggling lately lost my mum before Christmas and everything seems to be turning to shit , sorry for the glumness

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 18:39:51

Oh god op you really are having a rough time of it.

Apart from the isolation and grief are you feeling ok in yourself if that's possible

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 18:41:10

I mostly do okay, just think I notice how little I like this place now cause I was always at mums

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 18:48:27

Your doing amazing I'm not half as strong as you.

I wonder if you and starsandunicorns are near each other

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 18:50:47

tis possiblesmile the kids keep me busy and I know she wouldnt have me wallowing, she never did enjoy the wallowing I just miss her so much.

Wannabestepfordwife Fri 12-Apr-13 18:55:05

If your ever feeling down feel free to pm me.

When I was 6 months pregnant dp and I moved 200 miles from our family and friends for his work so I really do understand feeling isolated

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 19:08:15

thanks that's really kind

Grinkly Fri 12-Apr-13 19:21:12

Have a DC in police. They hate these waste-of-space but have to pissfart around following all the pc rules.
Try contacting them. You might get someone like my DC (but also might get someone who doesn't want to know).

marjproops Fri 12-Apr-13 19:28:36

Op sorry for your loss. couldnt you have moved into your mums place?

and as much judgy pants and critical as I am i actually feel so sad and sorry for these people, they dont know any better and are probably from poorly educated , poor ignorant upbringings and really dont 'get it'.

thats why i try and be nice but firm too and they just dont understand. makes me want to cry sometimes, its like trying to teach a toddler to walk. they just dont know any better. (most of them)

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 19:49:51

i am nice, i generally get on with the neighbours but then i know they go behind my back reporting us, gossiping between each other from the problems we have had its obvious that its neighbours. it makes me sad i would do anything for anyone i really would. my mum lived in Council housing with her husband, he still lives there. I havent been back since we planned the funeral. i do see him but its too hard to go there.

holeinmytights Fri 12-Apr-13 20:04:35

Poor you snowflakes. You sound lovely and i hope you get out of there soon x

holeinmytights Fri 12-Apr-13 20:07:39

We have had to buy ear plugs to sleep as vile harridan next dope screeches at her Kids from seven am Till midnight. Generally telling Them to fuck off. Oldest about 8. We cant complain as she will know it was us.

emark Fri 12-Apr-13 20:14:35

which side of cheshire are you , east or west if you dont mind me asking??
I live in cheshire, thankfully have the opposite problem, middle class but dont fit in well as live in the 'golden triangle'.
I have a preschooler and 3 primary age children. also looking to widen social circle with normal friendly people. PM me if you like.

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 20:16:35

ah you should be like me neighbours they make up their complaints and still dont give a jeff that we clearly know it was them :/ my mum would of kicked ass for me!

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 12-Apr-13 20:17:17

west cheshire, happy to befriend normal folk smile who wont call me a c* in anything other than a friendly manner :p pm me if you like smile

emark Fri 12-Apr-13 21:14:30

i am in the east of east cheshire close to Manchester airport

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