To wonder why this Mother was eye rolling over my comments to my DC.

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Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 14:17:26

I was at a supermarket this morning and was trying to choose some yogurts for my DC. DS picks up some that are laden with sugar. So I said, 'no not those they have too much sugar in them, what about these instead?'. Cue lots of eye rolling from a new Mother nearby. She picked up something more sugary for herself so I don't think she was in agreement with me. I'd seen her from the start pushing her newborn baby in a supermarket car seat style trolley, the baby was wailing and wailing and couldn't have been older than 2 weeks. When i first saw the newborn crying and crying i felt sorry for the baby but then remembered how difficult those first weeks were and so stopped judging. However, after the yoghurt judgment I did feel that she was hardly in a position to judge my 'preciousness', considering her very young baby was wailing the whole way around the shop and she wouldn't pick it up. I heard her say things to the 2 week old intermittently like, 'you're not having a good day today are you?'

I knew she was a new Mum because there was a nappy promotion on in the store and I heard her tell the shop assistant that the baby girl was her first.

AIBU in thinking you keep the eye rolling to yourself given the circumstances?

mrsscoob Fri 12-Apr-13 14:19:30

She was probably having a bad day and probably picked up on your judginess hence the rolling eyes. It does sound like you were looking at her rather a lot!

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 14:34:35

She probably hasn't slept for more than 2 hrs in the last few weeks ( if lucky).

She might be looking at her baby and thinking " which way up in this trolley seat contraption should you go?"

First baby is bewildering to many mums.

Don't judge her.

She might end up feeding her child yoghurts that are more sugary than you but she will do other parenting stuff just fine and dandy.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 14:37:50

Ah well she judged, you judged. Even Stevens I say

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 14:39:24


ChocsAwayInMyGob Fri 12-Apr-13 14:41:06

A knackered first time mother with a newborn gave you an eye roll.

Could have been worse. Move on.

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Apr-13 14:42:24

so were your yogurts laden with artificial sweeteners instead of sugar then or more natural yogurt type?

IYoniWantToBeWithYou Fri 12-Apr-13 14:42:38

She probably wasn't even looking or listening to you at all and eye rolling at having to do a shop with a crying baby and, by the sounds of it, having someone watch her every move.

I really never pay a blind bit of notice to anyone in the supermarket unless they are in my way or I'm in theirs, let alone listen to what they say to their baby, shop assistants, watch what nappies and yoghurts they are buying etc. Were you bored? confused

It could have been an 'oh, look at me with the noisy baby' eye roll at herself. I used to do those a lot when people stared at crying DD.

YoniLovesChachi Fri 12-Apr-13 14:48:02

This really made me laugh. You certainly put a lot of effort into not judging this woman, just happening to notice her rolling her eyes a lot and accidentally overhearing her talking about her nappies.

She probably noticed you paying her an unusual amount of attention and was annoyed when you couldn't just choose a yogurt and get out of the way.

Lj8893 Fri 12-Apr-13 14:48:26

It could have been an eye roll to herself that she didn't think about the sugar in yogurts. As a new mum she's probably discovering all sorts of things that she hadnt thought about before and probably chastising herself!

YoniGirlInTheWorld Fri 12-Apr-13 14:51:55

She was probably eye rolling over your yoghurt sermon and was thankful she wasn't there for your butter vs olive spread one.

SilveryMoon Fri 12-Apr-13 14:52:21

Someone gave me an odd look the other day in the supermarket when I told ds1 that I wasn't going to buy the 'no added sugar' squash he had chosen. i was going to buy this one <picking up the full sugar>, he asks why so I attempt to explain the sugar vs aspartame business.

Who cares what someone in the supermarket thinks of your choices? If she read this thread, she'd probably say that she really doesn't give a fuck what yogurts you feed your dc's.

I also remember being in the supermarket with ds1 when he was a few weeks old. He was in the car seat on one of those trolleys with the holder bit. He was wailing all around the shop. I got down the frozen foods section and heard one woman mumble to another "she really shouldn't bring that baby out when it's in such a state"
I literally hadn't slept for weeks. Did she really think I wanted to be in the supermarket with a screaming baby? I (blush) yelled back "I've got to eat, so at some point have to come here" I probably dropped the f-bomb as well.

Don't worry about it, sure she hasn't given you a second thought.

EverSoYoni Fri 12-Apr-13 14:53:38

OP, were you doing "loud parenting"? It makes me feel like eye rolling, not the content of the parenting, just the way its delivered.

You seem to have taken a massive interest in her!!

She could probably feel the judginess oozing from your pores.


YoniGirlInTheWorld Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:02

Yeah loud parenting is the worst. I saw a woman with a baby of around 10 months (who was happily chewing his own fist) trying to get him to point out which apples he wanted. When he looked vaguely in the direction of the pink ladies she scolded him for having expensive tastes and chucked some bog standard funsize 99p efforts in the trolley.

usualsuspect Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:30

Maybe she was a bit fed up Of your bizarre stalkerish behaviour

MorrisZapp Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:41

I loud parent all the time. I'm a parent, it's loud. Couldn't give a hoot what other people think.

Loud parenting on MN is just shorthand for being middle class. So shoot me for engaging with my child.

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:28

You got the Rachel's didn't you?

seeker Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:29

My favourite loud parenting overhearing was "Well, Toby, that's the shopping done.. Shall we buy some rice cakes for the treat jar?"

Waitrose, obvs.

5318008 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:03:58

oh that is BRILLIANT Seeker


Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 15:04:11

snorts at Bearcrumble. grin

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:04:25

Put down the papaya Felix.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 15:06:52

Rice cakes are rank, when that woman is in a care home I hope Toby brings her nothing but Shitty rice cakes every visit.

PickledInAPearTree Fri 12-Apr-13 15:09:55

Some babies cry all the time what you supposed to do starve?

This is another reminder of why I Internet shop.

You run the fricking gauntlet at tescos these days what with eye rolling and people threatening to knock you out.

edwardsmum11 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:12:30

Tbh I think I did really odd things too when I was a new mother.... probably rolled my eyes at people andvsang and said odd things,... you are being too sensitive.

YoniLovesChachi Fri 12-Apr-13 15:15:28

Loud parenting is embarrassing for everyone. Whether it's a child being praised too loudly in order to catch an audience's attention, or a loud proclamation of holier-than-thouness in the yogurt aisle or a child getting a massive shouting at for misbehaving. Just keep the volume down.

Love the rice cakes for the treat jar grin

VeryObviousBeforeNameChange Fri 12-Apr-13 15:18:24

I honestly think that some people have FAR to much time on their hands. I think OP, that you need a hobby. Or a life.

Beatrixpotty Fri 12-Apr-13 15:19:34

She was probably eye rolling because her baby was crying thinking you'd understand because you're a mum too

HairyGrotter Fri 12-Apr-13 15:20:59

Literally, who gives a fuck? People eye roll, so what?!

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 15:23:51

I'm a 4 hour drive away from home as I'm visiting my Mum and I'm wondering whether I am coming across as a 'loud parent' as I've noticed a slight difference in parenting style around here.

I only noticed her a lot as the supermarket was pretty empty. I definitely was not staring at her. When I was looking at the yoghurts she appeared not the other way around.

soverylucky Fri 12-Apr-13 15:23:53

Surely I am not alone in not giving a toss about what others do and do not put in their trolley? Seriously - she eye rolled you? Someone could walk past me in a diving suit in tesco and I wouldn't notice because I am just doing my own thing and minding my own business.

I can't believe that this bothered you so much that you took the time to write about in on AIBU. Just forget about it.

singstothebluewolf Fri 12-Apr-13 15:23:53

Maybe she thought because you were looking at her so much that your comments were directed toward her for having sugary food in her trolley. Or perhaps her eye roll had nothing to do with you. It could have been from exhaustion, she may have forgotten something and now had to walk back to another aisle or frustration at the baby's constant screams.


YouTheCat Fri 12-Apr-13 15:25:24

My eyes roll so much I look like a one armed bandit, grin

OP leave the poor new mum alone and let your boy have some yoghurts.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 15:30:56

Usual,I wasn't stalking her, I was trying to get away from her. It felt like the other way around.

I'm massively sleep deprived, DD has just turned 2 and has been up most of the week ill and DS has erratic sleep- walks and talks, night sweats etc. has done for almost 6 years. I UNDERSTAND sleep deprivation.

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:41:45

So she was chasing you?

Please expand on 'slight difference in parenting style' too.

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:44:54

Because I am, perhaps uncharitably, reading it as code for 'right bunch of povvos'.

5318008 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:45:57

look OP you are a wonderful mum and the other one is just dreadful, that poor POOR baby, and as for the parents in the locality you are currently staying in - well they are just AWFUL

Is what OP wants to hear

<sniggers unkindly>

Pandemoniaa Fri 12-Apr-13 15:51:58

I'm always amazed at this sort of "eye-rolling encounter. I'm disinterested enough in the shopping I'm buying. The idea of being bothered about what anyone else may or may not be judging me about leaves me baffled.

Although if you were doing the sort of loud "No, Lysander we only eat organic, locally sourced brussel tops" sort of parenting, that you get occasionally in the local Waitrose, it might stir me out of my disinterested torpor long enough to raise a snigger.

edwardsmum11 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:53:28

I really wonder wh you are so obsessed by this poor new mum tbh.

woozlebear Fri 12-Apr-13 15:56:41

Crikey, I don't think I've ever paid any attention to what anyone else is buying unless they fill the entire till conveyor belt with something blindingly odd.

Crinkle77 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:58:20

Maybe she was eye rolling cos you were in her way? Perhaps she couldn't get to the yoghurts she really wanted.

notso Fri 12-Apr-13 15:59:31

Why do care? You obviously didn't rate her parenting skills so why give a toss that she didn't rate yours.

squeakytoy Fri 12-Apr-13 16:00:51

I rolled my eyes just reading the OP...

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:02:40

She wasn't chasing me, of course not, I was responding to the comments about me stalking her. She was just heading the same way as me around the supermarket. She came in to the shop after me. I was stopped by the shop assistant with the nappy promotion half way around the shop as was she. I must admit I didn't want to be near the newborn crying and wailing but that doesn't mean initially I didn't feel for the Mum- I really did.

I thought it was a bit rude to eye roll pointedly at my remarks, I wouldn't do this where I live as I don't think people would take too kindly to it.

People seem to be more hot on manners around here, nothing to do with wealth. They seem more concerned with self restraint - even in a play park setting. I'm not saying either is better or worse but I expect to be able to talk to my DC in a non loud voice without judgement.

KatyDid02 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:07:11

If she's a first time Mum then she is going to do it all perfectly and never buy sugar laden yoghurts so was probably horrified.

I remember being a new Mum and judging somebody who didn't take her baby to the GP at the first hint of a temperature, she explained that she gave calpol and then waited to see how her baby got on. A few months later a first time mum asked me what to do if the baby had a bit of a temperature, I said give calpol and wait and see, she was mortified that I wasn't rushing my baby to the GP grin

YABU but neither was she really, the first weeks are so hard and she was probably exhausted.

FredFredGeorge Fri 12-Apr-13 16:08:26

I think you'd better encourage your Mum to move to your part of the country, or have her visit you, it's clear your parenting style just doesn't fit in there. Best avoid.

KatyDid02 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:08:28

Sorry I meant YANBU but slightly odd...

Where are you and where are you from? If its 4 hours apart I'm sure you can give a vague description of both without outing yourself.

Also why do I never have such rice cake humour in Waitrose? I think its because mine is in a TOWIE stronghold.

singstothebluewolf Fri 12-Apr-13 16:15:25

If she was eyerolling at you then she was being very rude, it's none of her business what you put into your shopping or how you interact with your child.

I have to admit I'm sure people may have thought I was glaring/eyerolling/making faces/going 'oh ffs..' at them when out with dd at that age, I was very hormonal, constantly frustrated with little things and quite expressive but it was never intended to be directed toward anyone, just myself. That's why I'm wondering if perhaps you took her up the wrong way.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:16:30

I don't understand this poor new mum line. She pointedly eye rolled straight after my comments, she was rude in doing that. I don't go around eye rolling people as it is not very polite.

I made my remarks about the yoghurts because DS thinks they are really healthy because they are yoghurts. I don't want him to be under that misapprehension and so we got chocolate mooses instead, of which he knows you should limit your intake of and he much prefers.

Oh FFS no one cares.

5318008 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:20:48

sweetheart you really need to let this go or you are going to make yourself ill

usualsuspect Fri 12-Apr-13 16:21:49

I think you need to chill a little TBH.

Here wine It's Friday.

TheToysAreALIVEITellThee Fri 12-Apr-13 16:22:11

You put yogurts back as they are too sugary and got chocolate mousse instead? confused

Tortington Fri 12-Apr-13 16:23:31

i really dont understand why you give the slightest shit?

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 16:24:45

grin I love eye rolling in supermarket threads.

usualsuspect Fri 12-Apr-13 16:26:07

I love eye rolling at eye rolling in the supermarket threads.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:26:57

Yes that's right, chocolate moose instead.

Thanks for the wine, got to go and pick some up first from the same supermarket.

Loislane78 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:27:33

This reminds me of another thread where you thought SS should have been called because a new mum (in a supermarket) had a crying child that she didn't pick up or pick up 'correctly' and wasn't deemed to be wearing appropriate attire.


She might not have been eye rolling at you though, I eye roll at most products in shops, tbh I eye roll so much sometimes I dont even realise that I`m doing it.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Fri 12-Apr-13 16:28:05

I think I would've eye rolled at the sugar comment tbh. If my DC pick stuff like that up I would probably just say, no you can't have them, or at a push pick something else up and say 'these are better.'

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:28:40

I don't give a massive shit, just slightly irritated, bit bored.

minouminou Fri 12-Apr-13 16:29:06

Ha ha! Loud parenting in supermarkets......
I've been guilty of some belting examples, entirely by accident. Sometimes it just happens...... Let it go, OP.

olivertheoctopus Fri 12-Apr-13 16:30:08

Well unless she was intending to give the sugary yoghurts to her 2 week old baby then I think you need to let it go. She was quite possibly eye rolling at the fact that she's got no food in the house and can't stop her new baby from crying to worry about other mums and their yoghurts.

lottie63 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:30:55

I don't know if the link below works... But you were buying gooseberry and cinnamon yoghurt weren't you...

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Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:31:59

Lois, well that was a totally different scenario. A thread about a really, really old thread. I got deleted for less last week.

VeryObviousBeforeNameChange Fri 12-Apr-13 16:33:04

maybe she was actually rolling her eyes at you because she knew you were a total PITA, as you are proving very nicely on this thread.

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 16:33:13

Chocolate mousse.
Unless you bought a large American animal.
Covered in chocolate.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:34:08

A total PITA- bit aggressive aren't you?

hopkinette Fri 12-Apr-13 16:34:23

Where do they sell chocolate mooses?

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:35:25

Oops- yes not a large animal.

AtrociousYoni Fri 12-Apr-13 16:40:12

This sounds like a judging truce. You judged, she judged. You have a lot in common. Call it even and back away from each other warily.

Yonicomelately Fri 12-Apr-13 16:42:02

You need to watch those chocolate mooses. The antlers can easily be a choking hazard for a young child.

Charliefox Fri 12-Apr-13 16:46:39

I now want chocolate mooses.

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 16:47:23

No wonder she rolled her eyes as you tried to cram 4 mooses into 1 trolley - you need at least 2 trollies.

thebody Fri 12-Apr-13 16:52:34

No don't loud parent it's so annoying.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 16:57:39

I didn't loud parent. I was using a conversational tone.

VeryObviousBeforeNameChange Fri 12-Apr-13 17:04:21

aggressive? um yes of course. Now you have made 2 people, at least, roll their eyes at you today.

TheToysAreALIVEITellThee Fri 12-Apr-13 17:09:54

My eyes would positively roll out of their sockets and splat on the floor if I heard someone say a yogurt was too sugary as they reached for a chocolate mousse. It's a bit like asking for a diet coke with a big mac meal.

DuttyWine Fri 12-Apr-13 17:11:05

Yabu for buying yoghurts with less sugar.

Maybe she was eye rolling at your dc in a conspirator "mums eh, spoiling all the sugary yoghurt fun..." Way.

Pandemoniaa Fri 12-Apr-13 17:11:58

I was using a conversational tone.

But what level had you set the volume to?

DuttyWine Fri 12-Apr-13 17:13:26

Or buying mousse with more sugar even!

/I'd phone social services if I were you what with the baby screaming and her eye rolling she's obviously not fit to be a parent.

I bet she's gonna eat those sugary yoghurts too.

The bitch.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 17:15:54

Your remarks remind me of the angry poster sketch on The Mitchell and Webb Look.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 17:21:33

She didn't see me get the mousses- eye rolled and walked off and I wouldn't care if she did. My point about the yoghurts was that there was no point in having pretend healthy things.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 17:23:24

I'm not a 'loud' parent as my DS goes to a school where there are a lot of them.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 17:28:17

With all those eyes rolling about, it's a wonder someone didn't slip over.

OP, i am not sure whether YABU or not. I think what happened is open to mosinterpretation, but you could be completely right.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 17:30:07

I'm not sure why people are being sooo negative towards you, though.

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Apr-13 17:30:42

just a misunderstanding happens and let it go. I had a conversation with another mum yesterday and she wasn't even talking to me, happens - breathe and let it go (even if i did feel a right pillock).

IYoniWantToBeWithYou Fri 12-Apr-13 17:30:50

You told your dc the yoghurts aren't healthy so its not like they thought they were confused I really don't get your logic there at all.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 17:33:54

I hate it when people, normally other women look me up and down. I always look them up and down in response.

Someone come back at me and tell me they don't mean it nastily grin

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 17:37:23

I'm negative because it never fails to surprise me how upset people get seeing utterly bizarre things that happen in supermarkets which must just pass me by.
Before I came on MN I was happily oblivious to such a phenomenon, and now I see it everywhere.
It's scary out there grin.

Egusta Fri 12-Apr-13 17:38:15

I realised today that I loud parent. blush.

as you were.

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 17:44:57

I am so pleased you managed another stealth boast, this time about his school.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 17:46:08

DS had some teaching on healthy eating at school and is keen to tell me about what is healthy/what is less so, so he does think all yoghurts are 'healthy' I was pointing out that this wasn't strictly true.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 17:48:37

Wtfrigg a 'stealth boast' and 'another' one? What I meant was that I can recognise it and how irritating it can be. I've just said how we got the chocolate mousses, where is the boast?

crashdoll Fri 12-Apr-13 18:30:25

Are you sure you weren't loud parenting?

Do people really check the sugar content of a yogurt???

TippiShagpile Fri 12-Apr-13 18:44:02

She was probably thinking "I can't wait until I have to worry about the sugar content in yoghurts. I haven't slept since Sunday. My boobs are about to explode, my nipples are cracked, I feel like I'm haemorrhaging and I probably smell like the local butchers."

KitchenandJumble Fri 12-Apr-13 18:46:47

I agree with other posters that some mutual judging was going on. You judged her, she judged you. Now you're even.

So she rolled her eyes. Hardly the crime of the century.

Or perhaps she wasn't even rolling her eyes at your comment. She might have been thinking of something else entirely, through her fog of exhaustion.

In any case, give her a break, why don't you? She's a brand new mother, probably massively sleep deprived and hormonal. Think of the sisterhood of motherhood. Or something like that.

Hissy Fri 12-Apr-13 18:47:55

OP, your child is called Tarquin, or Ocado isn't it?

And you loud parented didn't you?


KitchenandJumble Fri 12-Apr-13 18:48:01

Oh, and to all those who practice performance parenting. Please don't stop. You have provided me with so much free entertainment over the years. Long may it continue.

Ledkr Fri 12-Apr-13 18:48:05

So because her two week old baby was crying around a supermarket she isn't in a position to judge you for not buying sugar laden yogurts hmm
That doesn't even make sense sorry.
You sound a tax preoccupied with everyone else's business to be honest next time get on with your boring shopping.

soverylucky Fri 12-Apr-13 18:49:04

I can't believe this - I truly can't. OP - I am sure that the new mum meant no offence and even if she did, is it really worth getting upset about.

Yellowtip Fri 12-Apr-13 18:50:33

What on earth is the issue with judging? I love judging. I judge all the time.

DrGarnettsEasterMixture Fri 12-Apr-13 18:50:41

I'm trying to eye roll, and I can't do it. I'm sure I've been able to in the past, perhaps I've lost the gift hmm

OP, you do sound like you were smug/loud parenting-perhaps making your own, (sugar free) natural yogurt at home would be a good way of avoiding this situation in future smile

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 18:59:46

inside I'm judging

ZenNudist Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:25

I'm too focused on my own business in a supermarket to concern myself with what other people do. You clearly have too much time on your hands. Also sounds like you were stalking the poor woman.

I'll bet this wasn't a Waitrose?

JulieCarp Fri 12-Apr-13 19:15:41

OP in 3 years time she will be hauling her toddler away from Peppa Pig yogurtsgrin and insisting that rice cakes are a nice snack - dont fret we have all judged when we had PFB and thought I will never do thatblush and then we end up with teenagers who eat quavers for breakfast.

Not worth worrying about.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:16:57

How does it sound like I was stalking her, I was trying to avoid her and her crying newborn? She was following me around, not with any intent just that we happened to be looking at similar things. I would have happily left her alone, if only she'd done the same and left me to my business.

I am sleep deprived and so well understand that slightly hazy feeling but it doesn't make me roll my eyes and nosey into peoples' conversations with their DC.

I have lots to do all of the time and a 'hobbie' but probably not as much of a 'life' as some on here I would imagine.

You were both being judgey. Non-issue really! I'm not sure why you're so bothered about it. Thoguh the picking up chocolate mousse instead of a sugary yoghurt has me chuckling grin

seeker: You snurk at the rice cakes in the treat jar, but my 2yo charge loves rice cakes. I really don't know why but they are her favourite food item! I take them to work to snack on (used to have bread, now no gluten so I have rice cakes) and she will root through my bag to find them and hide them under the sofa for later if I don't stop her! "Pixie has rice cakes today, yeah? R can have rice cakes after lunch?" is the first thing she says to me in the morning hmm

lljkk Fri 12-Apr-13 19:20:41

I am ace at eye-rolling, terrific for winding teenagers up.

I can't help but thing that other mum in OP hadn't slept properly in previous 2 weeks and was probably on the verge of hysterical nervous breakdown over anything, including people who just cope better than she felt just then.

Chottie Fri 12-Apr-13 19:23:36

I'm just surprised you posted about this actually smile .........

Toasttoppers Fri 12-Apr-13 19:23:42

Which supermarket ?

IYoniWantToBeWithYou Fri 12-Apr-13 19:24:10

It doesn't make you roll your eyes or nosy in on peoples conversations? But you admitted you were listening to her conversations and judging her first.... hmm

lydiamama Fri 12-Apr-13 19:25:26

Just do not bother to pay attention to these things, you should forget everyones eyerolling faster than you can say one, two, three, or you will waste your life

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:30:58

It's not smug it's thinking out load that she heard. Not so much a loud proclaimation about the excessive sugar in the yoghurts, more a, 'There's quite a lot of sugar in those.' Is that really offensive, boastful- I don't get it? I'm questioning myself as in should I be getting this crap for them and then getting more crap for them in the cake aisle. Am I not very good at being a parent if I don't set them up with good idea of healthy foods and not so healthy foods.

JulieCarp Fri 12-Apr-13 19:35:55

You are over thinking this - let it go. I mean that in a nice way OP.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:36:31

I judged her when she came into the store after me as the baby was really wailing and I felt it needed to be picked up, then I had a word with myself and got away from the situation but i wasnt near her or looking at her or eye rollling. Next thing I know she was eye rolling at the yoghurts.

All the other things I overheard because we were next to each other when the shop assistant stopped us about the nappy promotion.

JulieCarp Fri 12-Apr-13 19:40:24

Am I the only one who just gets on with their shopping confused

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 19:42:34

No, not just you Julie.
I've clearly been using supermarkets wrong for years.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:44:46

No you're right Julie- I am over thinking this.

Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:47:37


LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Fri 12-Apr-13 19:48:22

I used to be a bit like you OP.
It passes when you go back to working outside the home (NOT a dig - have done FT, PT and SAHM).
Just think of it as a phase.

Someone from DS3s old primary school bumped into me in an exercise class the other day and did one of those '20 questions- all about the kids' things.

Afterwards, I realised it was aaages since I'd had a conversation where I was secondary to my kids.

All phases are good - though I wouldn't like to go back iyswim.

JulieCarp Fri 12-Apr-13 19:53:00

Nine times out of ten the reactions of other people are nowt to do with you and you can end up wearing yourself down worrying about it .
Its friday, relax and put your feet up brew wine

If U think she was eye rolling specifically at the sugar at the sugar comment and nothing else then maybe you are thinking that there was something wrong eg loud parenting, iyswim. If im in a situation where im a little unsure of my parenting then I notice imagine lots of eye rolling. When im doing some blatant bad/not from the ops area parenting I totally don't give a crap for the obvious glares aimed at me!

Aside from the this I just read the words 'chocolate mousse' on this thread at exactly the same time a woman on my tv said 'chocolate mousse'. How spooky is that? And now of course I want a choccy mousse-its a brainwash!

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