To think when you arrive at the supermarket checkout, you have finished shopping

(53 Posts)
frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 12:18:39

I was queuing up at the supermarket checkout this morning, when the lady in front of me (with a small trolley sized shop) disappeared (cashier was still processing person in front of her). She arrived back 5 minutes later with a new full basket of shopping, which she proceeded to dump on top of her existing shopping. This increased the amount of items in her shop significantly.

To give her some credit, she did smile and apologise to me, and also she didn't shove my shopping backwards to fit her additional items onto the conveyor belt.

Now I will occasionally pop back to fetch one or two items that I had forgotten, whilst waiting at the checkout. But never a full basket load. I wasn't in a rush, but I did have frozen food in my shop, and I was anxious about it melting whilst I was waiting.

AIBU to think that when you arrive at the checkout you should have completed the majority of your shopping? Going to get one or two forgotten items is not unreasonable. But I think bringing back an additional full basket of shopping is.

LadyVoldemort Fri 12-Apr-13 12:21:45

Aye it was a bit cheeky of her but there's no harm done from it. Not that big of a deal tbh

bonzo77 Fri 12-Apr-13 12:22:55

I think it depends if going back for a second round holds anyone up. If it does then YANBU.

thermalsinapril Fri 12-Apr-13 12:25:24

YANBU. It's lazy and it's not like she just made a mistake and popped back for one thing. She was clearly trying to jump the queue and beat the system. If everyone just put one thing on the conveyor belt to reserve a place and then went off to shop, there would be chaos!

EverSoYoni Fri 12-Apr-13 12:27:23

It is a bit odd, kind of like she was using her trolley to save her a place in the queue!

You might have picked a checkout with a smaller queue if she had been there in the first place with so much stuff.

MidniteScribbler Fri 12-Apr-13 12:28:29

Drives me mental! Finish shopping then line up.

The only time it is acceptable to go back is if you realise something is broken or damaged and you run back to replace it while the rest of your order is being scanned (because it's usually quicker to go back yourself than wait for staff to faff around and find it).

tethersend Fri 12-Apr-13 12:29:31

YABU. Shop online grin

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 12:31:17

The additional items did make the wait a bit longer, had her shopping originally been there I would have probably chosen a different queue.

In the checkout next to me a lady who arrived a couple of minutes after me was gone before the cashier had even started processing my shopping.

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 12:32:35

tethersend, we usually do, this was a quick mini-shop as we were short on a few basics and couldn't wait until next delivery

LadyVoldemort Fri 12-Apr-13 12:39:19

Do you ever think about how different your life would be if someone hadn't made you wait an extra few mins at a check out? You know like the sliding doors thing. You might have been doomed for a fate worse than death, but her waiting an extra few minutes knocked it all out of sync and saved your life. You do realise you should go and apologise to her now? [wik]

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 12:52:42

LadyVoldemort but equally by the same logic:

Maybe, had I had an extra 5 minutes I would have bought a lottery ticket and won the jackpot. This woman is completely responsible for me not winning the lottery. I want my money!

SwishSwoshSwoosh Fri 12-Apr-13 12:57:10

You were anxious about frozen items melting? In the additional few minutes?

YABU. Shop at midnight when the shop is empty?

SwishSwoshSwoosh Fri 12-Apr-13 12:58:37

Do you think she suddenly decided to make, ooh, a lemon tart, and went to get all the things? That is the sort of thing I could easily do actually.

AssamAndDarjeeling Fri 12-Apr-13 13:05:02

I HATE this!! Drives me insane!

It's usually done by the kind of self-obsessed women that think their disorganisation and flappiness make them all kooky and cute instead of just a massive pain in the arse.

Show some consideration to the people queuing! It puts the checkout person in an awkward situation, too.

If I for some (highly unlikely) reason realised that I had forgotten to get half my shopping while queuing, I would remove myself from the queue and rejoin it when ready. As should any reasonable person.

kinkyfuckery Fri 12-Apr-13 13:07:10

Was she so long that the checkout staff had to sit waiting for her to come back, or was her shopping still being scanned?

SwishSwoshSwoosh Fri 12-Apr-13 13:09:34

But what difference does it make, if you are not the person being served your stuff is just sitting there surely? I wouldn't if I was next but if I was gonna wait for a while, I might.

Some people are very uptight, live a little, try the illicit thrill of making a last minute dash for a bottle of lemonade sometime.

blameitonthecaffeine Fri 12-Apr-13 13:10:01

she must have been quick to go and get a whole new basket of stuff.

I might have been mildly annoyed but I doubt she planned to do it, it's quite odd.

SwishSwoshSwoosh Fri 12-Apr-13 13:11:03

But then I am the sort of crazy reckless person who lets someone with three items ahead of me, rather than adhering rigidly to queuing protocols.

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 13:11:58

I've often gone back for stuff I've forgotten and come back with more that I saw on route so to speak.
Did she get back by the time the checkout was ready for her Op, or did you have to wait?

MansView Fri 12-Apr-13 13:16:08

some years ago I went shoppibg after work - I hadn't passed my driving test (and lived in a rural place) so I was in a bit of a rush to catch the last bus home...I just had enough time and placed my items on the conveyer belt when everything just ground to a halt...and the till lady was chatting to a customer... sad

sadly I ran out of time and had to leave everything on the conyerbelt and dash for the bus...I never glanced back to see see the chaos tho...haha..!

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 13:22:22

I agree with LadyVoldermort, unless I'm rushing off to an appointment when time is tight, I'm very laid back in queues.
An extra five or ten minutes is not going to make a huge difference in my life, though I must admit I've changed since I got older and learned not to sweat the small things.
It's a bit like drivers on the road speeding and overtaking to save themselves a few precious minutes.
What's the point?

TumbleWeeds Fri 12-Apr-13 13:24:11

You were worried about the frozen stuff because you had to wait what? a couple of minutes more.
And you would have chosen another checkout that would have allowed you not to wait ... another couple of minutes.

Were so much in a hurry that 5 minutes difference at most made a huge difference in your day?

As long as she didn't make everyone behind her wait (and from what you said, this was NOT the case), I can't see the issue.

ParadiseChick Fri 12-Apr-13 13:27:10

Ahem, I think you'll find my flappy, disorganised ways are cute!

Bearbehind Fri 12-Apr-13 13:35:08

PMSL at 'but I did have frozen food in my shop, and I was anxious about it melting whilst I was waiting'

What if the woman hadn't gone to get more shopping but her card had been declined or one of her items didn't have a barcode or if the cashiers changed shifts or something- would you have been distressed for your fish fingers then?

Don't sweat the small stuff- an extra basket of shopping is hardly going to make a difference to your frozen peas!

You didn't have to wait for her to come back- that would piss me off- so I really can't see the problem.

LineRunner Fri 12-Apr-13 13:41:11

Depends what she bought. If it was tampons, sanitary towels, paracetamol, chocolate and ice cream, then I'd let her off.

Voodika Fri 12-Apr-13 13:43:23

I am guilty of running off to get one item sometimes but not a basket load and it makes no difference to the time- sorry. It's normally something I see in the trolley of the person behind me.
What does annoy me though are the tokens, it takes so long for the poor cashier to scan them all and see which will work. Why do they send so many? I'm definitely still going to use them though.

tethersend Fri 12-Apr-13 13:51:15

I bet this was in M&S grin

Crinkle77 Fri 12-Apr-13 13:54:53

YANBU it is cheeky. She should have got herself a trolley and done it all in one go

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 12-Apr-13 13:58:05


OTOH, if it was scallops, duck breasts, peas, creme fraiche and a blow torch I'd do my nut

LineRunner Fri 12-Apr-13 14:02:20

Yes, Jamie, there really are limits. Also anyone who goes back because they've forgotton venison or pine nuts gets short shrift fom me.

At the opposite end of the spectrum, I got ticked off by someone in the shop the other day because as DH went to unpack the trolley, I went to pick up a bunch of daffs because I like to choose flowers at the end so they don't get all bashed up by DH.

Came back, DH still unloading trolley (what with it not being a trek akin to traversing sub-saharan africa on foot to get to the flower stand and back), and someone tapped me on the shoulder and told me they hoped I'd finished now as other people were waiting.

LineRunner Fri 12-Apr-13 14:33:03

Where did you shove the daffs, LRD?

LineRunner Fri 12-Apr-13 14:33:31

I just hate shopping.

I rose above gracefully, line, they're on my table and very nice they look too.

(When I say 'gracefully', I did the 'someone is talking while I am talking' stare of outrage, but mainly because I was away with the fairies and didn't expect it. DH apologized, because he is a wuss.)

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 14:46:09

To clarify, the lady was back at the checkout just in time, we didn't have to wait for her. However, at the checkout next to me another person disappeared leaving their shopping behind, and the cashier actually had to call out for them. So it seems this is a common occurrence.

The items were fruit and veg, which is interesting as they are located right at the front of the supermarket, and just next to the checkout, so perhaps it was pre-meditated. I mean really, how can you forget all your fruit and veg when you pass it as you walk in?

kinkyfuckery Fri 12-Apr-13 14:50:36

I'd be more pissed off at the slow checkout assistant tbh, if it takes her more than five minutes to scan a belt of shopping!

cumfy Fri 12-Apr-13 15:49:56

Seems like this was a deliberate strategy.

Saves her 3-4 minutes.

Do half your shopping.
Dump behind someone elses large shop.
Do the other half.

Sunnymeg Fri 12-Apr-13 16:43:48

The other thing we have come across is someone queued up at the till on the phone to DP who is still finding items in the shop. We had this the other week and the cashier was ready to scan her shopping, but her husband was still getting items. So we had to wait behind her. Personally I think any of these scenarios show a lack of consideration for other people. It is the same as saying that their time is more important than yours. If I realize that I have forgotten something I pay, take my stuff back to the car and go back in for what I've forgotten. Either that or park my trolley in one of the bays if they have them and nip back. It is only good manners to not inconvenience others.

Oblomov Fri 12-Apr-13 16:57:29

Popping back for one, forgotten item, is not the same as this women. She took the mick and Op has every reason to be cross.

ChaChaDigregorio Fri 12-Apr-13 16:59:37

Sometimes humanity makes me want to weep.

Laquitar Fri 12-Apr-13 17:32:35

how can you forget all your fruit and veg when you pass it as you walk in?

Maybe she was anxious about the fruit and veg going off by the time she did the rest of the shopping?grin

thermalsinapril Fri 12-Apr-13 18:02:06

I think if someone's more than 2 minutes you're quite within your rights to put their stuff to the back of the conveyor belt (or back in a basket!) and go ahead.

wigglesrock Fri 12-Apr-13 19:00:02

Just til I get it right the customer infront of you was back before her shopping had gone through? She actually caused no delay to you at all You are just offended by the idea of it? Jesus wept

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:50

That's my take on it, wiggles.

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 19:18:54

No, you are missing the point wiggles, she did cause a delay.

I went in a queue behind 2 people with medium sized shops (small trolleys). This was a similar size to all the other checkout queues.

I ended up behind one medium sized shop and one large shop (now approx big enough to fill a large trolley). I reckon the extra amount of shopping was approx half of the original amount she placed on the conveyor belt on the checkout. It did increase the time by approx 5 minutes. The cashier was also rather slow.

wigglesrock Fri 12-Apr-13 19:24:11

Oh I see what you mean now but I still think you are over thinking it. When judging speed of supermarket queues you always back the slowest - it's the law smile

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 19:24:48

She was unreasonable - you just don't do this. One item maybe, but a basket worth while the rest of the customers have to wait around while you faff about? That's just being ignorant.

ShadowStorm Fri 12-Apr-13 19:27:52


It's inconsiderate to shoppers behind you to abandon the shopping on the conveyor belt while you go and fill a basket with fruit and veg. It's really not the same as dashing back to get one or two forgotten items.

Okay, the OP wasn't held up too much, as the lady in front returned before the cashier was ready to scan her shopping, but the lady couldn't have known whether this would be the case when she skipped off to fill a basket. Her getting back in time doesn't make her less inconsiderate.

Although I think the OP is being a little OTT to fret about her frozen goods melting.

frogspoon Fri 12-Apr-13 19:33:22

Ok I confess that the frozen food was actually...

Ice cream

And it did get quite soft by the time I got it home (the barrier out of the car park was broken, causing an additional 5 minute delay)

So whilst it is perfectly safe to eat when refrozen, when it melts it loses the tiny air bubbles that are whipped into it and the texture goes all crystally and grainy instead of smooth and creamy sad

SirChenjin Fri 12-Apr-13 19:37:15

If it was ice-cream then you were definitely NBU, and if you'd hit her about the head with her basket of veg then no-one would have thought badly of you. How very dare she?? shock grin

Iseeall Fri 12-Apr-13 19:41:53

Not quite the same but I was at at the supermarket checkout today behind a lady who would not stop talking to the cashier, just pack pay up and go, but no, on she went.
No she was not very elderly, I can understand lonely older folks enjoying a bit of chatter,I always like to nod and chat if there is a queue, but she was a similar age to me (mid 40s) and looked like she was doing a normal family shop.

You have my sympathies, theres nowt as strange as folk!

SwishSwoshSwoosh Fri 12-Apr-13 19:49:32

Well maybe in future you should put the rest of your shopping on the belt and then skip off to get your ice cream at the last minute. She taught you a new trick today!

Voodika Sat 13-Apr-13 11:31:41

I wonder if its possible to put the belt into reverse so that her shopping could have been dumped back in the trolley?

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