to have let postman use our loo?

(43 Posts)
bonzoed Thu 11-Apr-13 23:21:16

Postie knocked on our door at 13.40 to ask to use the door. He was quite embarrassed about it. I was at home with my 2 children and let him in. He has knocked several times before asking for a drink and I have given him a bottle of water.

DH says he wouldn't have let him in because we don't know him - other than him being our postie.

So AIBU or a bit naive? My take on it would be that if I was bursting I'd appreciate someone being kind to me.

Plumsofgold Thu 11-Apr-13 23:22:57

I wouldn't mind him using the toilet but knocking for a drink is a bit cheeky.

emsyj Thu 11-Apr-13 23:24:35

I would let our postie in - but then I suppose we do feel that we know him as he's been delivering here since we've lived here (4 years) and DH has quite lengthy and involved chats with him during the summer when he tends to hang around outside with his laptop (works from home a lot and likes to be outside).

What would the risk be, if he is your regular postie and you know he really is the postie and not some random axe-wielding murderer?? confused

Pancakeflipper Thu 11-Apr-13 23:24:39

I was all for saying "ooh yes, they need to wee."

But then I noticed the bit about him knocking and asking for drinks ( more than once...) . Now I feel uneasy.

LastMangoInParis Thu 11-Apr-13 23:24:43

Um, no. Not U to let postie in for a slah/dump.
Erm, you do know him, don't you, he's the postman. confused
(Does he always ring twice? grin)

squeakytoy Thu 11-Apr-13 23:25:02

All those doors he probably knocks on asking for a drink must have made him desperate for the loo! grin

Sparklingbrook Thu 11-Apr-13 23:25:46

My postman is quite welcome to use the facilities if he so wishes.

cozietoesie Thu 11-Apr-13 23:26:10

My regular postie, sure. Not one of the relief posties who I don't know.

TigerSwallowtail Thu 11-Apr-13 23:26:34

Yanbu to let him in for the toilet, but it's a bit strange that he's knocked on your door (more than once too) for a drink.

That's wierd - the asking for a drink thing. Does he have health problems that mean he can't do his round without waiting till the end to have a drink at the depot? confused

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 23:29:53

Has he only ever asked when your hubby isnt there?

cozietoesie Thu 11-Apr-13 23:29:59

In high summer with the load those guys have to carry these days? Wouldn't surprise me if they got thirsty. They'd get tap water though and not bottled stuff - which I don't have anyway.

seriouscakeeater Thu 11-Apr-13 23:31:36

Nope, I wouldn't let him in again or drinks...sorry. a tad too over familiar .

bonzoed Thu 11-Apr-13 23:33:33

Whilst I know that 'No' is a complete sentence, how could I possibly decline his request without coming across as a bitch?

bonzoed Thu 11-Apr-13 23:36:51

especially if he often knocks on the door with a parcel?

cozietoesie Thu 11-Apr-13 23:37:05

Just smile and say 'Sorry - it's not convenient'. (And don't specify what the inconvenience is.)

mum2jakie Thu 11-Apr-13 23:39:32

I've let the window cleaner use the loo. How could you say no??

bonzoed Thu 11-Apr-13 23:40:02

I suppose it is that easy isn't it?

HoHoHoNoYouDont Thu 11-Apr-13 23:42:38

Had it been a one off then yes, the poor chap could have been feeling poorly.

I think it's odd that he keeps asking for drinks. Why doesn't he carry one with him.

BOF Thu 11-Apr-13 23:43:32

He could easily buy a bottle of water, so if he has asked for a drink more than once, I'd have him down as a dodgy postman. No way would I let a creepy postman in for any reason.

tigerdriverII Thu 11-Apr-13 23:45:30

This is when an outside loo, like when I was a kid (I kid you not), is a godsend.

Fwiw I would let him in, but I wouldn't be very happy about the drinks <<shallow>>

Any numpty can take a bottle of squash with him to work.

BOF Thu 11-Apr-13 23:46:28

And if any postie needed a wee that badly, I assure you they would find a discreet bush or alley. Their employer's insurance wouldn't legally protect them from allegations of theft or assault, and they could be sacked for entering your property.

deleted203 Thu 11-Apr-13 23:49:41

I'd have no problem, but I live in a village and know my postie by his Christian name. He is fab (although he's never asked to use the loo..) - signs things if I'm not in, and puts it in the porch. Once when my MIL sent us something with a 1p stamp on it (I had no idea you could even buy those!!!) he just shoved it through the box and left a note saying he'd paid the extra postage for us. Lovely, lovely man.

deleted203 Thu 11-Apr-13 23:50:58

Ooh...golly! X posted with BOF - they can be sacked for entering your property?? I've had my postie in for a cup of tea and a cake before!

cozietoesie Thu 11-Apr-13 23:51:23

Well I guess we're mostly judging the matter by our own postmen and house circumstances. I have a loo by the front door and I know my postie well. (He's never asked to use it.) I can see that other people might feel tense about such a request.

BOF Thu 11-Apr-13 23:53:02

I'm only guessing, but I've worked for them before (in a sorting office), and judging by all the other stupid litigious rules they have, I'd be astonished if they didn't stipulate this.

tigerdriverII Thu 11-Apr-13 23:53:13

sowornout. I think we share a postie. Ours leaves things with "postie signed". And that is what he says, not his name - just postie.

YonisAreForever Thu 11-Apr-13 23:58:43

As long as you let him use the loo and not your yoni, you'll be fine.

fruitandbarley Fri 12-Apr-13 00:08:40

Having done the job myself for 8 months I can say that the bottle of water that I used to carry with me used to last me about an hour on a summer day and after that I did used to rely on kind people refilling it from the tap for me. And had to also ask to use the toilet on a couple of occasions. My walk was miles away from any public toilets and I had hours of my walk left to go and no choice. It was always embarrasing but I used to try and ask people that I knew were nice. I used to walk 7 miles a day and carry 8 x 16kilo bags, and until I did it I had no idea what a hard job it is. Or what thirsty work, and I suspect the asking for a drink is nothing more than because he knows you've been ok when asked before.

Superene Fri 12-Apr-13 00:12:26

Maybe he had a "special delivery" to make?
A friend of mine had a dressing gown incident/accident which meant her daughter accidentally caused her to flash her postman. He has been rather friendly since, much o her huge embarrassment. Are you sure nothing similar happened at your house?!?

Apileofballyhoo Fri 12-Apr-13 00:16:59

I thought it was very odd until I read fruitandbarley's post. Leave a bottle of water on the step in hot weather and don't answer the door? Maybe leave a potty too! wink

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 00:21:29

Good post Fruitandbarley - my uneasy stance has gone. I think Apileofballyhoo has great advice - I would also add wet wipes next to the potty.

deleted203 Fri 12-Apr-13 00:31:33

grin....But ...ThePostmanYoniRingsTwice surely!

BOF Fri 12-Apr-13 00:44:49


MammaTJ Fri 12-Apr-13 00:45:48

I would let my postie in to use the facilities. He is lovely. He never wakes me when I have done a night shift, always signs for things that need it and puts parcels where I have asked him to.

myBOYSareBONKERS Fri 12-Apr-13 07:40:16

I have. My postie is a nice chap. Have given him hot and cold drinks.

I also offer my Tesco delivery guys a drink in the summer too.

. . . . . .and the window cleaner . . . .

ummmm. . . . . . maybe I should open as a Tea room . . .

Jestrin Fri 12-Apr-13 07:54:15

I would let my postie use the loo. Maybe he thought he could ask you because you were kind enough to give him a drink before when he asked. But I do think leaving a bottle of water out in the future might be the way forward!

ShowMeTheYoni Fri 12-Apr-13 08:23:00

I'd let my postie. He is really nice and really, it's a wee.

MummaBubba123 Sat 13-Apr-13 09:46:09

I'd not mind if a regular post man asked to use the loo - bit wouldn't want to let this happen on a regular basis as would seem odd. In the summer, I fill up our postman's water bottle / take a glass of water out to him. But I've offered - and it's been scorchingly hot (for England).

Toasttoppers Sat 13-Apr-13 10:20:27

I probably would, then again I have already promised the delivery men who are delivering a huge metal shed a cuppa when they deliver on Tuesday. I have a bad habit of being over friendly, I find this scares people so try that and you'll be bothered less.

Thingiebob Sat 13-Apr-13 11:30:38

Why is he always knocking and asking for a drink??

To be fair, if my postie asked if he could use my loo, I would let him.

lydiamama Sat 13-Apr-13 11:34:46

You are an angel, and have a friendly face that is why he keeps knocking YOUR door. Too much suspicion in this world of us, he was desperated for the loo, that is all. Your DH is being protective of his family.

MrsLHofstadter Sat 13-Apr-13 11:51:47

I'd let one of our relief posties in or offer him a bacon buttie, beer, bed for the night drink but only because I grew up with him. The Ringtons tea woman would also be quite welcome to use the toilet or have a drink.

I wouldn't give the window cleaner water if he was on fire, he gives me the creeps!

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