To not want a poo in my kitchen bin?

(57 Posts)
iProcrastinate Thu 11-Apr-13 22:21:51

*DISCLAIMER: I am not the poo troll*

A friend came round today with her DD (3) to play with my DD (4) - my DD uses the loo now but her DD uses the potty. I was cooking in the kitchen and chatting when her DD comes in and asks for the potty - her mum gets the potty out and I tell her that the loo is just off the corridor from the kitchen (it's close) - her mum says that its ok, pops her daughter on the potty in the kitchen.

i think, ok, no biggie - we kept the potty in the lounge and I'd whisk DD into there (and eventually into the downstairs loo) as I just didn't feel that comfortable with her poo-ing in the kitchen when there is a very-close-by alternative option. It's no biggie, it's not like she sat her on the work-top etc.

I'm distracted by cooking, turn around, turn back and she has scooped up her daughters (thankfully solid) poo with a tissue and is popping it in my tall kitchen bin - I politely say that could she put it in the loo and she says "it doesn't matter it's just a little one" - for the sake of friendly communication I let it go, but did take my bin straight out when she left!

When DD was in nappies, I'd put wet ones (in bags) in the kitchen bin, but poo ones I just put straight out in the wheelie bin (I have quite a big bin and only usually empty it every few days so it would start to whiff) Potties would just get tipped into the loo.

AIBU to not want a free-range un-restrained poo in my kitchen bin? Or am I just a prude?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 11-Apr-13 22:23:03

EEW! YANBU and I wouldn't have been so polite as you but would have insisted NO>>>Use the LOO!

fatsamsgrandslam Thu 11-Apr-13 22:23:05


ShadowStorm Thu 11-Apr-13 22:25:05


Surely if a child has pooed in a potty, any normal person would empty the potty into in a toilet? (assuming there's one nearby, as there was in this case)

GadaboutTheGreat Thu 11-Apr-13 22:26:01

Blimey no YANBU!

yanbu sounds disgusting! (I was once horrified when a friend put a dirty nappy in the kitchen bin - but at least it was all bagged up!)

MsVestibule Thu 11-Apr-13 22:27:03

That. Is. Disgusting. No, you are not a prude. These are the rules:
1. Nobody (of any age) should ever poo in a kitchen.
2. Poos from a potty go in a loo.
3. Dirty nappies should be put in a nappy bag and put in the outside bin. Or thrown close to it so DH could pick them up and put them in when he came home from work.

clicketyclick66 Thu 11-Apr-13 22:27:26



But I don't allow nappies in my kitchen bin either <heave> We have great recycling here so the kitchen bin only really has plastic wrap in it (eg crisp bags, cling film, etc) so can go ten days or more between empties - it is effectively a wastepaper basket, not a stinky kitchen bin wanting changing every day.

Why the actual fuck didn't she empty the potty into the loo like normal people? Where did she rinse it? in the kitchen sink?!


Arf at free-range poo.

But there is absolutely no chance at all that YABU.

Ew. Just ew.

Even the poo troll would have trouble rubbing himself if that was lurking in his bin!

Floggingmolly Thu 11-Apr-13 22:30:36

What a skank! shock

Barf! confused

bumperella Thu 11-Apr-13 22:34:59

Ewww. I use (shock! Horror!) washable nappes (well DD does) so we do have a Bin Of Poo (in the loo though).

You were cooking. She did a poo in the kitchen. Poo was picked up (using loo roll) and put into kitchen bin. Skankmungous.


redwellybluewelly Thu 11-Apr-13 22:36:56

That's bloody disgusting.



DiscoDonkey Thu 11-Apr-13 22:38:31

That's gross and I have fairly low standards.

PurpleCrazyHorse Thu 11-Apr-13 23:09:45

I'm not so bothered about a potty in the kitchen, but our house is tiny and there's no space in the downstairs loo, or lounge. However at friends houses, I would always put our potty in the bathroom unless they specifically indicated elsewhere was fine.

Regarding poo in the bin, that is pretty disgusting. I would never put a disposable in our kitchen bin, it always went in the outside bin slung near the front door for taking out when we next go out

At friends houses we always take them outside straight away.

singstothebluewolf Thu 11-Apr-13 23:49:34

yanbu, that's repulsive! She'd never be welcome back in my home againshock

pigletmania Thu 11-Apr-13 23:57:51

Yanbu she sounds mingling. I would have insisted she put it in the loo. She ounces like t type of person to get te potty out in the middle of the restaurant where people are eating

5madthings Thu 11-Apr-13 23:58:53

Yanbu that is rank, letting her have a crap in the kitchen was rank, ffs!

ZacharyQuack Fri 12-Apr-13 00:00:02

Why on earth would anyone fish a poo out of a potty with their hand, when there is a perfectly good loo nearby to tip it into? confused

EnidRollins Fri 12-Apr-13 00:02:24

Ewwww! Minger. YANBU grin

Mspontipine Fri 12-Apr-13 00:04:18

Did she not wipe her dd after? That can't be right either.

zzzzz Fri 12-Apr-13 00:08:43

Yuck. Potty in the kitchen is gross. Flicking human poo into the bin revolting.

How are you going to stop her doing it again? You've set a precedent now.

TheChaoGoesMu Fri 12-Apr-13 00:10:38

Ewww. Dirty cow. Its one thing putting a nappy in a sealed bag in the bin, but a free range poo? Gross.

RunDougalRunQuiteFast Fri 12-Apr-13 00:25:27

YANBU- poos need to go to Pooland - down the toilet!

maras2 Fri 12-Apr-13 01:03:48

What a strange and alo very yucky thing to do.Please have a word with her,if necessary show her this thread.

MardyBra Fri 12-Apr-13 01:08:13

No I don't think you should poo in your bin.

(thread title is ambiguous [GRIN] )

Dominodonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 01:22:00

YANBU - she sounds feral. I think the whole episode shows she is disgustingly rude.

scarletforya Fri 12-Apr-13 03:07:45


What a dirtbag!

PurplePidjin Fri 12-Apr-13 03:44:27

Erm, i might be wrong as I've not reached that stage with my one baby but surely a big part of potty training is the child learning what a bathroom is for, seeing the waste matter flushed down the toilet and washing their hands afterwards? So, she's teaching her dc to take a dump wherever she pleases <boak>

MusicalEndorphins Fri 12-Apr-13 03:48:09

Ugh, gross friend you have there OP. YANBU.

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Fri 12-Apr-13 04:23:08

There's nowt so queer, right...?

On whose planet is poo in the kitchen OK?? Give her the benefit of the doubt - she must've been raised by wolves.

Bartlebee Fri 12-Apr-13 04:29:15


That is all.

CheerfulYank Fri 12-Apr-13 04:35:58


That is nasty.

NapaCab Fri 12-Apr-13 05:03:36

YANBU, that's disgusting. I think the key part of your post for me was while I was cooking in the kitchen. Bleurgh. She actually let her child poo in front of you and your DD while you were preparing food? Unless it was a real emergency, that's just vile. It's not like your only loo was upstairs! There was a downstairs loo, right there for her to use.

At 3 years old, I would have thought that her DD should be learning that toilet matters are private and to use her potty in the bathroom only, unless it's an emergency and she can't make it there in time.

NoSnowJustSand Fri 12-Apr-13 05:08:41

YANBU that is simply foul.

rumbelina Fri 12-Apr-13 06:26:30

Ugh I would have emptied the bin there and then. Poo does not stay in the house. I hope you had a bin bag in <heave>

everlong Fri 12-Apr-13 07:07:14


Why would you??

BreastmilkCrucifiesAFabLatte Fri 12-Apr-13 07:21:57

Arrrrgh that put me off my cereal. Shouldn't have clicked. No YANBU. Yucky

carabos Fri 12-Apr-13 07:28:10

Did she then go to the downstairs loo to wash her hands? If she did she's even more of a dirty cow rude. If she bothered to go to the loo to wash her hands, then she could have bothered to empty the potty in there. Or did she wash her hands in the kitchen sink? double lazy

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 07:29:20

Yanbu. What a weird and yucky thing to do.

Babylonmoo Fri 12-Apr-13 07:34:42

No yanbu. I cannot stand parents changing nappies in my living room. Parents have to accept a fair amount of poo in their lives- I see that. However I wish they would remember their pre child days and understand that it is actually pretty disgusting. Am pregnant now but don't want this tunnel -poo -is -great vision to kick in.

changeforthebetter Fri 12-Apr-13 08:03:12

agree with Disco Donkey, that is vile. why on earth would you not flush poo?shock

emmyloo2 Fri 12-Apr-13 08:07:10

YANBU at all. That is gross! I wouldn't even put a pooey nappy which is double bagged in the kitchen bin. It goes straight into the nappy bin or straight outside. Wet nappies I will bag and put into the kitchen bin but never a poo! I also think the potty in the kitchen is also rank.

EugenesAxe Fri 12-Apr-13 08:09:11

I am manky by many standards on this thread in that dirty nappies go in the kitchen bin (which is black bin waste - nappies are virtually the only thing that go in ours). I don't even bag them up; just shut the lid.

However I would never put a poo from a potty in the kitchen bin. They go straight in the toilet. YANBU.

I take dirty nappies away at friend's houses though; only my own house is subject to my depravity on that score!

iProcrastinate Fri 12-Apr-13 11:05:10

Sorry I totally fell asleep last night! She did go to the downstairs loo to wash her hands, and she wiped her daughter with the tissue she picked the poo up with (she had a pack of tissues that she keeps in the potty when not in use).

I'm hoping that by the next time they come round her DD will have progressed onto the toilet!

That's baffling.

iloveweetos Fri 12-Apr-13 13:23:34

Thats gross especially as you were cooking aswell.
At friends houses i would always have bags and ask where they wanted me to throw nappies, but poo from a potty goes in the toilet!!!

yonithewaytogohome Fri 12-Apr-13 13:29:59

Rank, rank, rank!!! I would never have sat either of my dds on a potty in someone else's kitchen.

When they were in nappies I would always ask 1) where should I change the nappy and 2) where should I dispose of the nappy afterwards. That's normal, surely??

zzzzz Fri 12-Apr-13 13:32:28

And the tissues are kept in the potty that's just wiped hygienic! I'd be retracing every step she took with disinfectant. She sounds barking.

issypiggle Fri 12-Apr-13 13:38:00

omg, this is so wrong. the potty only ever came down stairs when we first started potty training and never went in the kitchen. now dd uses the toilet and the potty is in her room for nights as we have a gate on her door to stop her escaping while sleep walking.

ewww this is horrible. i don't take the potty to friends houses i make dd use the toilet.

ffscatmove Fri 12-Apr-13 13:38:35

Like Eugene I don't mind bagged dirty nappies in kitchen bin but we don't have an 'outside' bin as such & not a lot else goes in it (is also next to cat litter tray). Bathroom floor also tiny so change area in living room (sorry Babylon!)
However these things are not by choice & I wouldn't expect the same at friends houses - I change DS in bathroom or wherever directed to.

YASNBU, she is a well skanky. At least she washed her hands but why not just take her DD there to poo? Free range poo, <boak>

Ledkr Fri 12-Apr-13 13:42:13

I just visited a friend with no kids and asked permission to change baby in the dining room where we sat and then took the dirty nappy home with me. Some people are such dicks

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 12-Apr-13 13:47:52

I can handle potty in the kitchen. If the child looks like she's going to have an accident anytime soon. It's better in the potty than in the pants. But the poo really should be emptied in the loo. It's not any harder than the kitchen bin is it?

While I agree with everyone on this thread I do have to disagree with:

" 1. Nobody (of any age) should ever poo in a kitchen."
Nappy using babies and small toddlers don't discriminate grin

I am fairly relaxed. Change your baby in any room of the house pretty much. Put your wrapped nappy sacks in the kitchen bin. But deliberately using a potty in the kitchen and then choosing to bin the poo rather than flush it is odd.

bamboozled Fri 12-Apr-13 14:04:01

And here was me thinking this was a thread about your builder....grin
That is TOTALLY disgusting.... Eeeeuuueww

issypiggle Fri 12-Apr-13 14:07:25

love the fact that it's come up on facebook

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