to ask what are the most loathed topic starters for mumsnetters?

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KarmaBitch Wed 10-Apr-13 11:04:23

I'm a new poster although I've lurked for a good while. So what are the loathed topics that keep resurfacing time and time again? Or ones that get on everyone's tits?

[braces self for this would probably be one of those threads] grin

Two have resurfaced....ear peircing babies, and parent and child parking...yawn

KellyElly Wed 10-Apr-13 11:07:04

These ones. Only joking grin

Mrsrobertduvall Wed 10-Apr-13 11:07:29

Bf versus boring.
Children misbehaving in cinemas....always ends badly

mumblechum1 Wed 10-Apr-13 11:08:59

1. how did you choose your nickname
2. bf/ff (snore)
3. wahm/sahm (doublesnore)
4. t&c parking

Loislane78 Wed 10-Apr-13 11:09:04


Eating grapes in the supermarket before they've been weighed and paid for
Misuse of disabled parking bays
FF vs BF
State vs private schools
Grandparents not involved / too involved

Who is your favourite MNer.

ShatnersBassoon Wed 10-Apr-13 11:12:07

The ones in AIBU where the op knows they're not BU, they just want a pat on the back. For example, "AIBU to feed my family nutritious food when everyone around me is eating lard?"

So needy and tiresome.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 10-Apr-13 11:14:52

The BF/FF threads for me.
They have their own topic but time and time again it turns up on Chat and AIBU.
I hide or ignore, but it's irritating.
What's the point on having a specific topic if you're just going to ignore it?

magimedi Wed 10-Apr-13 11:16:29

Right now - Margaret Thatcher.

Oh yes and - "AIBU to go to the GP with this..."
"AIBU to buy this pram"
"AIBU to send my child to this school"

YABU to pick a topic in the vain hope of catching the attention of people who have deliberately chosen to hide the health/prams/education topics!

thebody Wed 10-Apr-13 11:18:21

The ones who ask aibu and then get mightily pissed off when told that they are.

KellyElly Wed 10-Apr-13 11:18:35

Right now - Margaret Thatcher Yes!

MixedBerries Wed 10-Apr-13 11:19:20

I know this woman who's defrauding the benefit system
Babygros Vs mini costumes

medi YY - also any thread that makes it obvious the poster hasn't even glanced at the boards but is convinced she will be the first person to think of posting about today's hot news story, so you end up with 20 threads in a variety of topics all containing variations on the same conversation.

DorcasDelIcatessen Wed 10-Apr-13 11:23:07

Pink vs Blue (toys, clothes etc - not the music acts smart asses grin )
Shall I get/sack/pay more/pay less/punish/smile at my cleaner?
Parking threads
Buggies in the wheelchair space on the bus
Was I wrong to tell this person to stop punching their child? ( they know they weren't wrong they just want the kudos and virtual back patting)
OMG! Guess who slagged off MN Now? (I really couldn't give a left one)
I saw a fatty buying lard in asda! Was I wrong to man the harpoons?!

PoppadomPreach Wed 10-Apr-13 11:23:39

The ones that start "to not understand why...."

And are usually followed by

......people hate doing crafts with their kids
.......people don't cook every meal from scratch
......people who don't sit down and eat every meals
.......mothers would want to return to work when their babies are tiny

To me they are judgemental and actual stealth boasts - look at me, I'm such a fab mum. They have no interest in understanding why others would not do the same as them, they just judge them.

I've picked the points above at random btw, they are not personal bug bears of mine (except crafts, I fucking hate doing crafts)

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Wed 10-Apr-13 11:24:55

I hate the 'aibu to just potter around in the holidays. Everyone else is going to legoland/advanced tightrope walking/the great wall of China but my dcs seem content to play in the garden and do craft. Am I doing something wrong?'

Followed by 'I saw someone talk to someone at the school gate. They are all so cliquey' followed by 200 posts declaring that anyone who has a child at the same school as yours must be dull as fuck and you can't have anything in common and if you wouldn't rather pull your arm off or gouge your eyes out than engage in any form of social nicety then you are wrong

elliejjtiny Wed 10-Apr-13 11:25:42

buggies/wheelchairs on buses
anything negative about people with disabilities/special needs esp motability cars
other people's badly behaved children
the coalition

I hate the 'should I call the police/ss after seeing a naked and starving toddler being forced to sleep in the shed and being beaten with a rotten stick daily, or is it none of my business' followed by 14 pages of posters begging op to report it for the op update to be 'decided not to report but have discussed it with another friend and think maybe I could be wrong or missing something'

Yes to bf/ff and the MT ones, especially the 'AIBU to be pissed off with MT' threads, why start another one if you are pissed off with them, parent and child parking, AIBU to ask you to sign this petition (especially the page 3 ones that crop up every month), should I report my friend who doesn't feed her kids to SS, of course you shoukd, and the 'I saw a woman with a crying baby in a supermarket and she didn't pick him up and cuddle him and I can't stop thinking about it' ones, I also agree about the AIBU, followed by a unanimous yes, then the op either disagrees or drip feeds some vital bits of information. I always go onto the ones that I know will annoy me for some silly reason though grin

Mrsrobertduvall Wed 10-Apr-13 11:35:29

Changing room safety....aibu to leave my 8 yr old son to get changed in a gent's changing room and invite paedos to have a field day, or take him to the ladies one and incur the wrath of body conscious women.

edwardsmum11 Wed 10-Apr-13 11:36:51

Mrs t atm
Or parents expecting everyone else to look after their children while they ignore them.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Wed 10-Apr-13 11:40:43

Who is your fave MNetter. Partly coz i'm never on anyones list because its such a shameless sucking up opportunity.

P&C parking spaces- don't even click on those.

BF v FF- ditto

DorcasDelIcatessen Wed 10-Apr-13 11:42:14

People talking about "Playdates". Ugh. I find that term very infantile and creepy.

HappyJoyful Wed 10-Apr-13 11:46:33

I enjoy MN for product tips, places to visit and cooking advice, I like specific issues surrounding behaviour questions and have had some great thoughts and advice on various topics.

However, do find myself tearing hair out over topics that start 'when is correct age to'.... potty train/start weaning/move child to bed. I even recall seeing one about changing 'baby on board' car sticker to 'child on board'

I find myself overwhelmingly wondering who these women are that can't make a judgement on their child's development without comparing or feeling that 'it's because so and so are doing it' or 'I've read a book and it must be at this age'

skratta Wed 10-Apr-13 11:51:15

There's so many to list...

Other people's badly behaved children
People who ask ITABU because the answer is clearly YANBU and they just want to be told and complimented.

Parking, particularly P&C Spaces.

Noise. "My neighbour won't stop lightly sneezing" to which they all harp "Keep a diary and call the police!" FFS

Giving children tea/coffee

Anything about MILS or SILS which will undoubtedly warrant the wisdom of "your baby, your rules". Makes me want to eat my own face.

BF v FF. Totally unrealistic in real life hardly anyone actually cares.

Some smug shite like "I cook from scratch every night, why don't you?!" or "To think everyone has time to grate cheese" or "My child is a spirited gentle creative soul, but this scraggy little ruffian keeps going near him, I'm worried he might catch poor and naughty".

ThatVikRinA22 Wed 10-Apr-13 12:02:21

grin at 'catch poor and naughty'....

all the above
anything in aibu to do with special needs, never ends well...(.i hide them. i dont like the sight of blood. )

I also hate threads that just have the title 'FFS' or 'Oh my God' with no actual information in the title so I have no idea if I could be of any use or not without clicking on the bloody thread, oh the minutes I have wasted doing that grin

Asinine Wed 10-Apr-13 12:10:20

My pet hates

Reading levels
Ones about everything I wear being declared crap

Have a love/hate thing going on with

Private vs comp/grammar
Class related threads

dothraki Wed 10-Apr-13 12:21:43

grin catch poor and naughty
MT - accidently looked at one yesterday (about the charts) angry

dothraki Wed 10-Apr-13 12:24:10

Oh yeah - and What should I buy DH (or anyone) for his birthday
If you don't know - how do you expect me to confused

wigglesrock Wed 10-Apr-13 12:35:41

Anything to do with how you find your family from babies to teenagers.

Parking spaces

Any thread where the word chav is bandied about esp baby names

Oh and threads that whine about celebrities disliking Mumsnet. It's a website, people are allowed to dislike it, I do sometimes!

wigglesrock Wed 10-Apr-13 12:36:51

Not find your family feed your family smile

Oh and I almost forgot spelling and grammar threads smile

WestieMamma Wed 10-Apr-13 12:38:50

Judgmental ones like where the OP saw a toddler eating a cookie the size of her head and wanted to know if she was being unreasonable to be horrified and should she say something to the parents.

WestieMamma Wed 10-Apr-13 12:42:22

The ones that really push my buttons though are the relationship ones where someone asks for advice on the partner who is cold, unloving and a bit a bastard and the consensus is that he probably has an undiagnosed ASD. angry

hairtearing Wed 10-Apr-13 12:42:22

mothers who choose to stay at home
noisy kids in restaurants,
Maggie thatcher lol
just any situation where any child at any time may be noisy,distressed in the presence of an adult * god forbid,

WilsonFrickett Wed 10-Apr-13 12:45:53


I'm bf-ing my one day old baby, AIBU to not drive 600 miles to a wedding in the middle of nowhere where the cheapest thing on the gift list costs £1 million and it's £87.45 for a G&T?

As above, but for hen do's.

They've asked for money, is it grabby? (yes)

I'm not inviting children, AIBBridezilla?

etc etc.

::Disclaimer: the wedding poem asking for money thread was excellent though::

Butkin Wed 10-Apr-13 12:52:19

Can't believe we've got this far down the thread without that old chestnut - what Class are you?

Any subjects which already polarise opinion (private schools, BF, foxhunting, Thatcher etc) are also rather boring to re-debate.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Wed 10-Apr-13 13:03:44

Those ones where people are absolutely baffled that anyone could want to go to either a hen party or a baby shower under any circs. Lots of words like 'vulgar' 'grabby' 'tacky' 'cheap' 'American' are thrown about. In a similar vein, the ones where you like someone enough to go to their wedding but not enough to buy them a present as they are 'grabby' and 'entitled'. If you don't like them, don't go, if you do, buy them a fecking present, one they will like and get pleasure from.

mackerella Wed 10-Apr-13 13:12:39

Oh God, the "am I pregnant?" ones drive me up the wall. How the fuck would I know? confused Just go and POAFS and stop being so attention-seeking! <tolerant>

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 10-Apr-13 13:16:55

Or the 'Guess who/what I saw today' which runs for about 200 posts before the OP comes back for the reveal.
I used to read them in my early days, now I just ignore, just tell us on the first post please.

DorcasDelIcatessen Wed 10-Apr-13 13:23:05

Lady I hate those threads. I don't know why anyone would care?

Badvoc Wed 10-Apr-13 13:27:44

Sahm v wohm
Bf v ff
All Aibu

KarmaBitch Wed 10-Apr-13 13:33:14

I have to admit there are a lot of MT threads going. Her funeral isn't until next week and it's apparently being part televised. So I'm sure there's going to be plenty more.

oldwomaninashoe Wed 10-Apr-13 13:37:36

The MIL bashing threads!

zukiecat Wed 10-Apr-13 13:37:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

thornrose Wed 10-Apr-13 13:39:57

Has anyone mentioned eating snacks in the supermarket before paying? That's been done many times, never ends well.

Gerrof Wed 10-Apr-13 13:41:01

I agree with you zukie - sometimes you see an old chestnut and roll your eyes but it could be someone brand new - there is no need to go on a thread and say 'here we go again'

I HATE it when someone says 'search the archives'. Even worse 'get's hard hat' 'gets popcorn'. That is so rude. And was it ever funny?

If some poor newbie did that and bumped a thread on the topic she wanted to post on from 2011 she would be accused of bumping a zombie thread. You can't win.

Gerrof Wed 10-Apr-13 13:41:25

That said, I have a great big long list of topics which I find tiresome.

elliejjtiny Wed 10-Apr-13 13:44:08

Threads where it gets all interesting and then the OP doesn't come back

SS took my children for no reason at all. 3 pages later the OP admits that she had been in a fight, police were called etc etc but that had nothing to do with it hmm

I saw a child being given a fruitshoot/greggs sausage roll/crisps

I took my 10 year old to mcdonalds for the first time and he/she said he/she didn't like it and would rather eat something organic.

My inlaws gave my DC's some chocolate, AIBU to kill them?

I've just had a baby, my mum was at the birth and will be moving into our spare room. AIBU not to let PIL visit for 5 years?

Anything to do with weddings

Losingexcessweight Wed 10-Apr-13 13:58:02

What i ve found is:

Step mothers regarding their step children
Dh/dp cheating
Ex partners being a pain

The list is endless

exoticfruits Wed 10-Apr-13 13:58:33

Anything with swearing in the title.
Anything that starts 'tell me....' as if we are the court jester.
Anything that gives a label to things that have been done for donkey's years and are reinvented as in BLW and 'wearing' your baby.
Anything that starts 'who is your favourite poster?' or 'which poster can't you stand?-anywhere else it would be called bullying.
The umpteen ones at the moment about FB -get off it-unfriend them-hide them!!!
Anything to do with strangers touching babies (they are always 'dirty' strangers)
Anything that calls any woman over 60 an 'old' bat or 'old' biddy or assumes they can't cope with a toddler for a few hours.
Anything over controlling where the message to the DC is 'the world is a dangerous place without mummy glued to you'
Those that over analyse a simple, off the cuff remark.
I could go and on but have to go out!

arabesque Wed 10-Apr-13 13:59:43

'Bridezillas' who have the cheek to not want/be unable to afford to invite everyone's children to their wedding.

Ridiculous complaints about MILs wanting to hold the new baby or buy their grandchildren a nice birthday present.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 10-Apr-13 14:03:39

I've actually nothing against the BF/FF ones as long as they're on THEIR OWN TOPIC which MN has kindly provided for them.
They're is no need for them to encroach onto Chat or AIBU.

YouTheCat Wed 10-Apr-13 14:04:52

I can't think of anything!

There are some titles where I'll be certain how things will go on the thread because of the subject matter - but I click anyway and am sometimes surprised. grin

Binkybix Wed 10-Apr-13 14:07:01

No subject as such because you don't have to click on them, unless the title is poorly worded. So poorly worded titles are my pet peeve!

arabesque Wed 10-Apr-13 14:08:54

The SUV ones usually go a bit mental after a while so unless you're in the whole of your health I would avoid them.

I also hate the precious 'a little boy wouldn't give DS a go on the train at nursery today and his mum said nothing' ones. Yeah, yeah, whatever.

zukiecat Wed 10-Apr-13 14:08:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

crashdoll Wed 10-Apr-13 14:11:27

The "am I pregnant?" ones drive me loopy. Next time, I see one, I might pop in and say "that's exactly how my auntie Judy felt before she found out she was pregnant with sextuplets, one of which came out looking rather like the nextdoor neighbour's puppy".

sosooootired Wed 10-Apr-13 14:12:10

I don't like the first sentence where people introduce themselves as a namechanger - don't know why always irks me

crashdoll Wed 10-Apr-13 14:12:27

Oh and also "come and hold my hand" threads for things like waiting to hear if your window cleaner is coming or not.

crashdoll Wed 10-Apr-13 14:13:37

"like where the OP saw a toddler eating a cookie the size of her head"

Now, I want a giant cookie again! angry That was a great thread.

arabesque Wed 10-Apr-13 14:16:42

Threads that talk about 'mummy friends',
or give earnest, scientific terms to things parents have been doing for generations: et 'BLW', 'Controlled Crying'.

Binkybix Wed 10-Apr-13 14:16:56

I want a giant smarties cookie!

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 10-Apr-13 14:17:14

Yes 'namechanger here, pom bears, cubes of poo whatever...'
I immediately think troll.

arabesque Wed 10-Apr-13 14:19:47

I also rarely open threads asking posters how often they change the sheets, hoover the sitting room, clean the toilet etc etc etc

hurricanewyn Wed 10-Apr-13 14:24:49

The same ones that come up at certain times of the year

Why are people doing Hallowe'en - rant about Americanisms being imported, greedy grabby kids etc

How lazy do you have to be to buy pancake mix/ready made pancakes instead of making them

Valentines day is a load of shite/hallmark holiday

etc etc

hurricanewyn Wed 10-Apr-13 14:26:49

What does everyone else do with their pubic hair - I don't know about anyone else but I don't care about what other women have in their knickers

RobotLover68 Wed 10-Apr-13 14:28:27

Anyone that adds "discuss" at the end of the thread

Oh do fuck off dear

I also hate any thread that makes a statement and then says 'Discuss' angry it reminds me of being at school. And I get irritated by threads written 'by a child' - AIBU to throw sandwiches at my mummy - and the like.

everlong Wed 10-Apr-13 14:30:22

There's non that really bother me enough for me to remember what they are!

The ' should I POAS ' annoy me a bit though. I have trouble believing that the posters doesn't really already know she's pg.

Just go and do a frigging test.

Haha cross post Robot

Ezza1 Wed 10-Apr-13 14:32:17

All of the above!!! Not really sure why I bother logging on half the time confused

LadyBigtoes Wed 10-Apr-13 14:34:39

The ones where the OP says in all genuineness "My DH earns 300K but we're still only just scraping by." Can't believe anyone dares to post that, but they do. NEVER goes well.

znaika Wed 10-Apr-13 14:37:36

I hate the AIBU such as AIBU to think that murder is a bad thing, or AIBU to hate child abuse or other such. WHAT IS THE POINT?

I love those "my child will bypass the haribo, chocolate and cake at parties and politely demand tender stem broccoli and alfalfa sprouts" posts.

I'm sure there are some children like that, but they are very well represented on MN indeed. grin

(of course my dc would choose peppers and houmous over a bag of buttons any day --I wish--)

westcoastnortherner Wed 10-Apr-13 21:46:03

Anything with a link to the Daily Mail apparently

lappy Wed 10-Apr-13 22:10:31

I'm always surprised at the amount of Mooncup/ sanitary protection threads that are on 'chat'.

Why is there a need to discuss this so much confused

AND, AND when it's shortened to sanpro, I find that even worse for some reason.

Mother2many Thu 11-Apr-13 16:59:22

Any topic dealing with children and tv/computer/gaming/ipods/ipads/etc. and how it seems people have the need to inform us,

"my child ONLY watches Xamount of time, on the screen"
"my child ONLY is allowed to play his hand held games... "
"my child isn't Allowed a game system"

As if anyone really says,

I let my child watch TV, 24/7...
I let my child game out anytime he/she feels like...

Perfect parents... gag

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