AIBU to not want to move to Dudley?

(147 Posts)
williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 16:32:15

I was recently offered a very well-paid job in the Black Country but ended up turning it down because I just couldn't imagine myself living there. I drove around the area and found it, well, depressing and I couldn't imagine myself living there. No offense to anyone around there - sometimes people 'jive' with a place and sometimes they don't. And I'm not a huge fan of commuting - for lots of reasons - so didn't want to have to live 45/60 minutes away from work.

My DH always brings it up and thinks I made a mistake, particularly as the salary was so much more than I'm on now. I feel horrible about the whole thing so would appreciate if people told me I was (a) crazy to give up the job or (b) made the right decision.

CajaDeLaMemoria Sat 06-Apr-13 16:35:00

Nobody can tell you that.

If you went to the effort to explore the area and hated it, you more than likely made the right choice for you. Money doesn't buy happiness at the end of the day, being somewhere you hate would make you utterly miserable.

There's no point rueing the decision now, and your DH is being very mean to keep bringing it up. Forget it - there will be other great opportunities, and you need to wait for the right one for you. It doesn't sound like Dudley was it.

lavendersgreen Sat 06-Apr-13 16:36:26

YABU.. where do you live at the moment?

getmeoutofthismadhouse Sat 06-Apr-13 16:38:31

Dudley isnt the best place it is pretty miserable and I live there . Unless u look further out into nicer areas of course. But I guess anywhere you go there is areas that aint as nice as others!

HormonalHousewife Sat 06-Apr-13 16:39:36

Eh ?

You are currently 45- 60 mins away from the best paid job you have ever had ? That's not a big deal in my book.

Would you have to have done nursery pick ups by yourself or would your dh have helped ?

Personally I think your dh was right and you were (a)

sleepdodger Sat 06-Apr-13 16:40:38

Dudley is hideous yanbu
But
Loads of gorgeous places within 30 mins so you're not unreasonable but perhaps a little hasty to not consider alternative places locally without a hefty commute
Only you could decide!

Floggingmolly Sat 06-Apr-13 16:44:09

45 to 60 minutes is a fairly average commute, is it not? confused
You're living in a fantasy world if you imagine your dream job is going to appear on your door step.

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 16:44:17

DH travels a lot for work so I'm responsible for all pickup and drop off at school. It's just too crazy being far away from schools especially if there's an emergency. I've spent so much of my life commuting I really prefer to live locally for work and like the idea of having a community where I live and work.

I'm in the SE which has its pros and cons...

Sparklingbrook Sat 06-Apr-13 16:45:01

I commuted to the Black Country from Worcestershire. I am not a fan of Dudley and can see your point, but there are other places that are ok not too far away.

But it's all in the past now, you turned it down and your DH should stop bringing it up.

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 16:45:44

flogging a huge %ge of people wouldn't even leave their hometown to find another job and have travelled around the country for work, so not averse to move to find 'dream job.' I was just trying to work out if I made a mistake with this one...

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 16:46:09

...I have travelled around...

AdmiralCurtain Sat 06-Apr-13 16:49:13

sad I live in Wall Heath Village bordering Staffordshire and Shropshire but classed under Dudley borough. We have excellent primaries and 2 of the best secondary schools in the area. Minutes from the countryside but close enough to Wolverhampton. Telford, Birmingham and Merry Hill for shopping. I don't think you drove around enough.

BonnieBlueButler Sat 06-Apr-13 16:57:23

I agree with Admiral. Dudley is fine, there are some nice areas & there are some great places all very close by. Lovely countryside & great shopping in Birmingham both within easy reach.

AdmiralCurtain Sat 06-Apr-13 16:58:27

And there are many more nice areas that are nothing like Dudley nearby too

AdmiralCurtain Sat 06-Apr-13 17:01:03

Sorry Bonnie x posted

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 17:13:20

Okay - thanks for everyone's messages. Fear I'm just creating a bunfight here... I probably should have travelled around a bit more.

A hindsight is 20/20 isn't it?

Longdistance Sat 06-Apr-13 17:23:03

On a positive note.... As one door closes, another shall open.... And all that.

Southeastdweller Sat 06-Apr-13 17:34:54

Apart from the money, would the job have been stimulating? If so then yes, you were mad not to have taken it. I'm from the region and though I agree the town isn't nice, I would have put up with the commute, at least for a while. There would also have been the option of moving to a better village or city or town close to Dudley, like Kidderminster or Stourbridge.

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 17:38:07

Yes, job would have really been interesting but I didn't think organization was in good financial shape and funny enough they cut 1/3 of their staff recently. I may have been first in/first out.

It paid 50k, i'm on 44k, so a fairly good job but once you're taxed at that level it takes a big jump to make a difference.

thx for everyone's feedback.

slalomsuki Sat 06-Apr-13 17:41:12

I think it was a short sighted mistake to be honest. 10 mins from Dudley you. An be in Staffordshire or Shropshire or rural west midlands and you get real bang for your buck house wise. Commuting is fairly easy in to Dudley and it's well paced for Ltd of big towns and cities with all the amenities of London but cheaper.

I speak from experience here as someone who has moved around a bit and though the same about Dudley when it was suggested to me but am now a big fan of the area.

IMO, the decision that you made (and it is made, cannot be unmade) is not the problem here. The problem is that your DH keeps bringing it up and making you feel that you made the wrong decision. Why is he doing that? What input did he make to the decision, e.g. did he research the area, schools local to Dudley, etc. etc.? Was he keen for you to take the job prior to you turning it down, and what reasons did he give for his keenness?

If you had taken the job, you'd presumably have had to move house, DC move schools. What hand was he going to take in that?

georgie22 Sat 06-Apr-13 17:53:05

I second slalomsuki - I'm a Black Country girl and despite some dodgy areas we're very happy living here. We obviously have the benefit of local knowledge but the people round here are generally great. We can be in the country in 5 minutes and take advantage of the proximity to Birmingham for shopping, concerts etc. and also rural areas. Lots of people in Dudley do a 45 minute commute into Birmingham every day so can't see why that is a particular issue. Can't see that we'll ever move especially as we're in the catchment of outstanding primary and secondary schools.

sarahtigh Sat 06-Apr-13 19:21:15

i was born about 4 miles from Dudley and would not live there although some nice streets but there are some nicer places like himley (rural village)that are only 15 minutes away maybe 30 in rush hour, wombourne is also nice

dudley is on edge of black country so literally within 2-3 miles / 10 minutes you are in proper countryside farmland etc and going west it is rural for miles and miles

sleepdodger Sat 06-Apr-13 19:28:29

All I would say if you have option to take job still is 50k in mids seems like significantly more than London ie housing etc

MarmaladeTwatkins Sat 06-Apr-13 20:31:11

YABU and YANBU <helpful>

Dudley IS grim. Went to their "art gallery" last week and it was like something from Father Ted grin

However, you'd have only needed to drive 20 minutes the other way and found some really nice places.

lucylawless11 Sat 06-Apr-13 20:55:22

Im a brummie but live just outside dudley now and i love it, friendly people and good links from m5 motorway, also cheaper house and ar insurance than i was paying in brum. I live right next to the canal and have geese waiting for me outside in a morning as they know they are going th get some bread, love it.

BestIsWest Sat 06-Apr-13 21:00:32

I lived in Dudley for about a year as a student. I loved it, on the edge of fantastic countryside as others have said.

TKKW Sat 06-Apr-13 21:00:45

YABU.

used to work in dudley town centre with an hour and a half commute from a town in staffordshire. could never persuade my H there were nice places although we house hunted in the area - he's just a snob!!

there are some lovely places around dudley, the countryside is near and very good house prices - thats coming from someone who has lived in the heart of the black country for a few years. i always got miffed that i could buy a carbon copy of my house in staffordshire for about 75 k cheaper in dudley!

i suppose its in the past now and you should keep job hunting.

lesson learnt- take a look at the wider area next time.

do feel sorry for you with your H raising it regularly.

williaminajetfighter Sat 06-Apr-13 21:55:25

Thx everyone for your input. I feel a plod but at the time it didn't FEEL right. Next time ill do a bit more investigating before I make a decision.

MarmaladeTwatkins Sat 06-Apr-13 22:29:43

If it ay roihgt it ay roight bab!

But there's a sit-down Greggs in Dudley so it is your loss.

kellank Sat 06-Apr-13 22:31:07

As Admiral said, Wall Heath is a nice area as well as other areas within twenty minutes or so of Dudley ( I live just outside of Dudley).

Dudley Town area is very depressing and dont think the schools are particularly good either.

pigletpower Sat 06-Apr-13 23:00:05

Not anymore Marmalade.

ivykaty44 Sat 06-Apr-13 23:03:14

Didn't Womborn come out as one of the top ten places to live in the country?

That can't be that great a commute from Dudley?

ivykaty44 Sat 06-Apr-13 23:05:10

just checked and it is 6 miles away

MarmaladeTwatkins Sat 06-Apr-13 23:28:23

Bloody is! I was in there the other week

Haylebop12 Sat 06-Apr-13 23:50:40

I live in Dudley albeit a nice part with an "outstanding" school. The town centre is pretty dire. I have lived here all my life.

There are lovely places within ten minutes. Wombourne, Swindon are lovely countryside locations. Kingswinford, wall Heath are also nice.

Haylebop12 Sat 06-Apr-13 23:51:57

If by sit down Greg's you mean the bench just outside then yes. The one in the town centre is not big enough for tables and chairs hmm

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 10:46:36

Well ACTUALLY Haylebop, there are TWO in town.

The sit-down one is by Peacocks. Go and have a look. I know. I had to go in and buy DS a gingerbreadman from there about a month ago! There is a whole seating area at the back.

You can come back and apologise when you realise you are wrong. smile

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:59:54

Haha no apologies from me as it isn't a Gregg's, its a different bakery. Not sure what its called mind. I know where you mean though, at the end of the arcade bit opposite a jewelers. By river island :-)

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:02:13

NO! That is WOLLASTON BAKERY!

I swear to you, there is a sit-down Greggs, opposite the other one pretty much, on Dudley High St!

It shows you on the shop finder here, two Greggs practically opposite each other

<cannot believe that I am arguing about Greggs on the interweb>

FoofFighter Mon 08-Apr-13 11:07:41

The one that used to be Three Cooks?

FoofFighter Mon 08-Apr-13 11:09:11

Or up the top end by the Sally Army maybe?

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:09:38

Could have been. It's about two doors up from Peacocks.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:10:29

No, deffo not by the Sally Army. It's the other end by the big British heart Foundation!

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:19:23

envy All sounds very glamorous. DH has today off, we could take a trip. grin

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:23:27

I tell you what, you haven't seen classy until you've been in a sit-down Greggs in Dudley. Forget Made in Chelsea...

I wander around Dudley quite a lot. They have good charity shops which are good for procuring stock for vintage fairs which can be sold on at a profit There are some sights to behold.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:26:12

I can't believe 26 years of living here and I don't know about a sit down Gregg's. I feel a fraud!!

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:26:16

DH not keen. sad It's only a bit further than the Mezza. sad

MordecaiAndRigby Mon 08-Apr-13 11:29:38

Poor Dudley. A town that fell victim to MerryHill. sad

MordecaiAndRigby Mon 08-Apr-13 11:30:11

grin @ "mezza"

BestIsWest Mon 08-Apr-13 11:31:16

Is the Yates wine lodge still there? We used to go in and drink the Australian Sherry then fall in the sawdust on the floor.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:32:05

To be fair, I think it is new, Haylebop. Like, in the last 6 months new. Let's meet there for a sausage roll!

I'll go with you, Sparkling. There is an indoor shopping "centre" with an Iceland AND a Home Bargains having a face-off. What class.

I'm making Dudley sound awful. I do actually really like it! You have to take it for what it is, which is a working-class market town. In which case, it is fine. If you're expecting posho coffee shoppes and Coutts bank then you won't like it. But it has nice people and the High Street is actually pleasant enough! The market traders are lovely. Mother twatters and I were cooing over some plates the other week and the man selling them goes "YAM TWO AM A BIT POSH FER DUDLEY MARKET AY YA?!" blush First time I've ever been called too posh sad

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:32:12

Yates Wine Lodge and a sit down Greggs? <phones estate agent>

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:34:07

You am a bit posh though Marmalade. Bet you don't even eat black pays.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:35:17

marmalade if I want dd to come to town and behave I bribe her with a sausage roll and a cookie blush personally I quite like it but I have lived here all life. It's home and always will be. Plus we're still holding onto a new look and a river island wink not sure how much longer for though!

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:36:12

Do they have bells on their purses in Dudley?

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:37:04

sparkling I'm verrr posh. When people ask where I'm
From I say "the nicest part of Dudley" hehe

AmberSocks Mon 08-Apr-13 11:37:13

yabu to not wat to move to the black country,i am from there,i would not go back if you paid me.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:37:23

"marmalade if I want dd to come to town and behave I bribe her with a sausage roll and a cookie"

<hands Mum of the Year award to Haybop> wink

<looks around, wild-eyed>

What's wrong with bells on purses?!

SideshoBob Mon 08-Apr-13 11:38:00

Nothing like a bit of class elitism to start the day... How nice of some of you to mix with the proles on occasion though.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:38:42

Nothing Marmalade I have heard them in Asda in the Mezza but never anywhere else so wondered if it was a Dudlay thing. grin

Have we mourned the Monorail yet? We usually do. sad

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:39:00

Who are you talking to, Bob?! Please make it clear who you're giving the stink eye to...

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:39:12

marmalade washed down with a fruit shoot of course!

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:39:24

<arf> at 'class elitism'. grin

countrykitten Mon 08-Apr-13 11:39:35

Dudley is a dump you were right about that. But there are some lovely places within commutable distance (and 45mins is a short commute).

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:39:47

Please let it be me Marmalade. grin

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:40:17

I miss the monorail sad

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:41:41

The Monorail. Ahhhhh. The planners of the Americanised-monolith that is Merry Hill decided that the Black Country needed dragging into the future and that future was....THE MONORAIL.

Well, the Black Country decided that it was fine as it was and the people voted with their purses and refused to pay £4 to sit on a very slow-moving vehicle to get from one carpark to another. Wise people in the Black Country.Wise people.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:42:06

Me too Hayle It was so beautiful Sob.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:42:39

It is probably me. I'm the one who said that I swan around Dudley frequently,laughing at the scrubbers and tossing pennies into their begging bowls.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:42:58

Was it really £4? I was only a child so can't remember.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:43:20

I am getting teary-eyed at that picture, Sparkling sad

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:44:40

After the system was put up for sale in 1996,[10] the trains and track were transferred in 2001 to the Oasis Shopping Centre, in Broadbeach, Queensland, Australia

The monorail was Wanted Down Under. sad

BackforGood Mon 08-Apr-13 11:45:03

Have to agree with the very first reply, from Caja.
Not sure a) why you are asking when it's too late, or b) why your dh keeps bringing it up when it's too late.
If you'd asked before you had to make the decision, then peple could have told you all the places you could live, with an easy commute, where your salary would also have gone a LOT further than it will in SE England, but I don't see the point in asking afterwards. confused

madhairday Mon 08-Apr-13 11:45:29

yabu. ILs live in sight distance of Merry Hell. Tis brilliant, I tell you.

Really, though, yabu, but you know that now. It's not the prettiest but there are plenty of places thereabouts that are lovely places to live. And a certain down to earth grittiness to lovely friendly Dudley folk. Yow should reconsider.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:45:50

Ah 1996 I was 9.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:48:01

All that is left on the roof of M&S. sad

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:48:52

I was considerably older Hayle. grin I worked at the Waterfront from 1995-2005. It was brilliant.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:51:36

What a dad desperate photo. I almost feel sorry for it.

I would love to live in wombourne
. tis lovely

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 11:54:58

Did it last as far as 1996?! shock

Aaaaaah, I remember my first trip up to Merry Hell from Wolvertrampton, on the bus, aged 12. I had been given £20 to buy some new school shoes from Miss Selfridge (when there was a big Miss S there, in the unit where Fruit of the Loom is now! Not the pokey little one up the corner by Topshop)

However, I was lured in by the bright lights of the monorail and used up some of my shoe money to travel over the carparks of MH and back again. So I had to buy cheaper shoes then explain it to my mother sad

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 11:56:14

sad Marmalade.

ajandjjmum Mon 08-Apr-13 12:02:07

We live in Lower Penn and the commute when I worked in Dudley was around 20 mins. We're surrounded by fields and countryside. There are grotty bits, and although I have fond memories as a 10 year old of meeting my friend in Dudley to do our Christmas shopping (and having lunch in Beatties), I visited the centre about half a dozen times whilst working at Castlegate - Merryhill has killed it.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 12:07:48

I was in a team of 12 people at The Waterfront, I was the only one who lived some distance away. It was a hoot, the sense of humour is brilliant, and I learnt lots of new words. grin

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:08:34

Ah Lower Penn is lovely, as is Himley and Penn Common, all within 15 mins of Dudley.
"Lunch in Beatties" you are so posh! They did a lovely Welsh Rarebit.

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 12:09:18

They have turned our Beatties in Worcester into House of Fraser. No Toy Dept. sad

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:09:57

I worked at the Mezza when it first opened. The social life with the first lot of managers in Debenhams was a riot, oh, those were the days...

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:11:22

Last time I revisited Worcester for shopping I was very disappointed at the amount of independants that had gone |sad

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 12:11:40

My dad and stepmum live in Lower Penn! It's gorgeous! They live just by The Greyhound.

BestIsWest Mon 08-Apr-13 12:12:26

Ooh I used to live in Penn when I was at Wolves Poly. There used to be a fab little pub out on Penn Common called the Barley Mow <Mastermind specialist subject: drinking establishments in the Black Country in the early 80s>

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 12:12:46

I know Buzzard, it is getting a bit sad in Worcester. sad Did you see the golden library?

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 12:13:41

I work in penn and lived in wombourne for a year. Came back to my roots and not live about 1.5 miles away from
The town centre (in a nice bit grin)

BestIsWest Mon 08-Apr-13 12:14:30

My God I have just googled it. It has been done up. It was literally 2 tiny rooms and a outside loo the <reminisces>.

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:14:35

Oh I passed that yesterday Marmalade taking DH to golf. Brought back some memories sitting in the garden there.

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:15:44

I used to drink in the Barley Mow regulary when I lived about 100 yards from it.

HenrySugar Mon 08-Apr-13 12:15:57

You're all making me very nostalgic - I grew up near Dudley but have moved far, far away. I enjoy "Mezza" (do people really say that?) on my yearly visits home but suspect I am being a little rose-tinted?

georgie22 Mon 08-Apr-13 12:16:07

BestisWest - the Barley Mow is still going strong. Haven't been for a while but they used to do a lovely steak and mushroom pie with proper chips! Yum!

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:16:36

I didn't walk up that far Sparkling, was a bit deflated after a walk around the debenhams end.

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:17:44

Oh the Hells Angels won't be able to shag in the loos anymore!

Bridgetbidet Mon 08-Apr-13 12:22:28

Solihull is supposed to be really nice...

ClaireDeTamble Mon 08-Apr-13 12:23:38

<Waves to fellow Pennites>

The thing about this area (Dudley / Wolves / Sandwell) is while some areas are currently a bit dire, the improvements that are in the pipeline are going to make a mahoosive difference to the area - the I54, the JLR deal, the enterprise zone, the fact that Wolves kept their School Improvement Money.

Cheap houses now, will hopefully see quite an increase over the next few years.

<Wishful thinking>

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 12:23:45

The Barley Mow used to make their own sloe gin. It was beautiful! And the homemade food was just lovely.

The Springhill (used to be a biker's pub) has also turned into a gastropub. Fucking BOSTIN it is. They do this dessert called the Peanut Butter Chocolate Stack. I would sell my child if I could eat a PBCS every day sad

Viviennemary Mon 08-Apr-13 12:25:29

If you drove round and found it grim then it would be a mistake to move there. But what some people love others don't. So it's a personal thing. But maybe you should look round the outlying areas before you decide.

FoofFighter Mon 08-Apr-13 12:28:28

My stupid daughter has moved from Dudley now so I have no excuse to go back again for a Greggs for lunch in Beatties (which is Iceland now anyway) [stamps foot] [nostalgic]

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:38:26

OOOeeee! Waves back.

Someone told me the Penn Cottage has gone all Gastropub now too!

That area has some excellent restaurants it has to be said Bridge 59 was my fave.

I have moved to a naice area now and the restaurants are not a patch on the ones over Wolvo way.

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:41:24

And of course Bobbington is only a 20 min drive from Dudlay and you are really out in the sticks there and has some great pubs and restaurants. Love the Royal Oak at Halfpenny green by the vineyard. Fantastic Bonfire Night there would rival Himley.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 12:41:40

Penn Cottage is now a (very nice) Miller and Carter!

Penn Cottage was where I went on my first grown-up date in 1995!

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 12:42:53

Oooh we had our wedding reception at the Blakelands in Bobbington. I love Bobbington. I will remember the Royal Oak next bonfire night...

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 12:56:28

I was very nearly the lady of the manor at Blakelands wink

Oh my goodness

WE NEED A DUDLEY / MEZZA MEET UP
Get on the case twatters

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 13:06:29

Oh no you DI'ENT!

Did you go out with the doofus that owns the place?! grin

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 13:07:58

Lady Bobbington has a nice ring Buzzard. How about a NC? grin

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 13:08:32

Let's meet at..... THE SIT DOWN GREGGS.

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:11:07

Has to be the sit down Gregg's! I'm in grin

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 13:15:46

I will have to nc now won't I? Outed. I was supposed to marry the doofus' brother...a long time ago. I got cold feet. I married a pauper instead. Like upstairs/downstairs it is grin

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 13:17:55

'Good morning Lady Bobbington would you stroll with me a while?'

'Why yes Mr D'Arcy' I will just fetch my bonnet as I feel a chill in the air'

grin

It has to be the sit down greggs
No where else could compare

So exciting to see there are so many locals

<<< waves at neighbours>>>>

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Apr-13 13:20:31

Think I disappointed Mr Darcy when I puked on the croquet lawn after too many Malibus...classy me!

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:24:33

How does it look? <twirls>

Does my bum look big in this?

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 13:27:42

Ooh LadyB <curtseys> you look fabulous. smile

Haylebop12 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:28:09

Now I'm
Concerned that we meet up and I find out one of you is one of this annoying mums from the school gate grin

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:31:30

I am at the infamous 'cougar' school gate. Total tosh...well mainly grin

georgie22 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:32:01

I had my wedding reception at Blakelands too! I've not been exposed to the delights of the sit-down Greggs! Good place for a local lasses meet-up!!

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:33:41

My wedding was supposed to be the first one held there, if I had gone through with it. hmm

Sparklingbrook Mon 08-Apr-13 13:36:47

Blakelands looks lovely.

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:39:06

The restaurant is quite good. Lot of people love it there.

Numbthumbs Mon 08-Apr-13 13:42:31

You dont have to live in Dudley to work there!!!

You should have driven round more, I work in Dudley and within 20 minutes you can be in trescott, seisdon, claverly, wombourne and many other places that are just gorgeous.

There are bad areas in every city, not just those in the black country and its unfair that you think that. Its up to you where you want to work but its not nice to slate where other people work/live happily.

Numbthumbs Mon 08-Apr-13 13:45:15

buzzard, i live 2 mins walk from barley mow......small world!

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:55:23

I was in Butts Road Numb

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 13:56:11

Lady Bobbington aka Buzzardbird

Numbthumbs Mon 08-Apr-13 13:57:14

I live off church hill so very close!!

LadyBobbington Mon 08-Apr-13 14:05:20

I miss Penn sad

Numbthumbs Mon 08-Apr-13 14:07:10

I love it here. We are going to play on Manor park now grin

PollyMorph Mon 08-Apr-13 14:16:40

I think a Barley Mow meet is definatly needed! I have never met another MNetter!

dietstartstmoz Mon 08-Apr-13 14:20:35

We also live 20 mins from dudley town centre. We live on the edge of the countrside, there are some lovely residential areas within the borough of dudley, and fab little villages out in the sticks which are gorgeous. There are some excellent schools in dudley, good commuter links, good shopping (merry hill), sorry OP I think you have missed out by not moving to Dudley.

maddening Mon 08-Apr-13 14:25:08

The difference is only £3k after tax and add the petrol of commiting there is probably less than £1k difference. So much of a muchness and you didn't like the area.

MarmaladeTwatkins Mon 08-Apr-13 14:59:46

I used to live in Hollybush Lane!

BackforGood Mon 08-Apr-13 15:50:07

Maddening - but the cost of living is a lot cheaper in Dudley than in the SE of England, so the same amount of money would go a lot further.

Owllady Mon 08-Apr-13 15:55:26

Penn is very nice though
I used to live in Staffordshire and I still wouldn't particularly want to live in Dudley/Brierly Hill etc, having lived all over the country though west midlanders rreally would give you their last fiver variety and I miss that

maddening Mon 08-Apr-13 15:58:57

true true back for good

Owllady Mon 08-Apr-13 16:00:11

I remember I worked with a bloke from Durham who was really excited about going to the Harry Ramsden's at Merry Hill for a meal....
he came in the next day and said it was awful as they hadn't cooked the chips in lard confused

Southeastdweller Mon 08-Apr-13 18:06:35

This is making me so nostalgic I may go up to Dudley fr old times sake next time I'm in the area.

Does anyone remember those summer roadshow in the early 90's at Himley Hall? A friend and I went to see Take That at one event there in 1991 - even then we knew they were going to go far.

MarmaladeTwatkins Tue 09-Apr-13 08:35:34

OMG YES Southeast! I used to love the summer fair things. That was where girls of my age would go to parade like Harmony (Mahogany) tinged peacocks in front of be-gelled boys in Naff Co jackets.

Halycon days.

Enzaboo Wed 04-Sep-13 05:56:47

Georgie22 you mention the good areas in looking to move to the area where is a good place to move and places to avoid?? Xx

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Wed 04-Sep-13 09:17:12

You could of lived in bridgnorth. Which was on the front cover of most beautifil country towns.

<nods wisley>

QueenofallIsee Wed 04-Sep-13 12:47:01

Dudley is grim but i grew up in a beautiful market town 30 mins away with original tudor buildings, independant shops and great schools. Should have planned it a bit better OP

QueenofallIsee Wed 04-Sep-13 12:47:58

Thats where I am from bugger..gorgeous

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