To be annoyed at the noise of children playing outside.

(78 Posts)
shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 13:14:42

My children are now older and have just stopped playing in our garden and are venturing further afield. I have been looking forward to a peaceful summer drinking wine relaxing in the garden.

Today there are young kids, belonging to the new neighbours, making an absolute racket in their garden, which I can hear through the closed windows. My teeth are clenching.

I am so being unreasonable, aren't I?

RedHelenB Sat 06-Apr-13 13:17:14

You are. I love the sound of kids playing even if they're not my own! Stop being an old codger

AThingInYourLife Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:01

Yup grin

Can you enjoy the sound of children that are Not Your Problem?

SantanaLopez Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:31

You are, you big old meanie!

Be glad they aren't yours!

KobayashiMaru Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:46

Of course you are. Did you think of your childfree neighbours when your children were younger?

McNewPants2013 Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:48

Yabu, I love the sound of children playing.

littlebitofthislittlebitofthat Sat 06-Apr-13 13:19:06

did you hoick your bosom while you winced?

AngelWreakinHavoc Sat 06-Apr-13 13:19:44

Yabu, it's a good thing the weather is nice enough for kids to get out the house.

shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 13:20:23

Children that are Not My Problem.

Mmm thats a good way of looking at it smile

smokinaces Sat 06-Apr-13 13:21:26

Yabu. It's been a long fucking winter. I would love for mine to be outside. sadly indoors dressing up and cars is winning. Until the snow bloody stops every two days.

Sparklingbrook Sat 06-Apr-13 13:21:39

All I can hear is the whirr of lawnmowers round here. grin

Your DC have had their turn at being noisy in the garden it's time for the next lot. They haven't got one of those awful trampolines have they?

Ministrone Sat 06-Apr-13 13:22:03

I get it, April Fool is lasting the whole month isn't it? Or maybe some sort of underground movement? Anyway I love to hear the sound of children playing and having fun.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Sat 06-Apr-13 13:23:02

YABU. your children do not play silently I assume? Be fair now! <stern look>

If you live near other families, expect a certain level of noise.

We have a mix of generations in our street, majority of whom are pleasant, there are one or two who have lived here all their lives, brought kids up here and who now moan and whinge at the kids playing in the street. They are just playing, not being naughty.

it gets right on my tits nerves wink

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 06-Apr-13 13:24:19

I also love the sound of children playing even though I'm way beyond the young children years.
I live in a very quiet street with no kids, a few years ago there were loads, I miss the summer days when they were all running around laughing and squealing.

CointreauVersial Sat 06-Apr-13 13:27:16

Put some music on. Loud. Have a dance around your living room and cheer up!

shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 13:27:55


Yes there is one of those trampolines. It's just not on. conveniently forgets the fact we had one too

and the fact that mine are running around the neighbourhood, tormenting others, as we speak!

IfUSeekAmy Sat 06-Apr-13 13:33:10

Are you talking about me? We've not long moved, have young children, they are in the garden on the trampoline!

TheEndTisHere Sat 06-Apr-13 13:35:44

I'll swap if you can stand dogs barking my neighbours dog has been going on for about 3 hours now!

I'm loving the sound of my kids though as I can mn for a while finally finish scrubbing my house.

shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 13:36:48


Mmm could be? Are there three of them? Two girls and a boy?

Fancy a glass of wine sometime?

Sirzy Sat 06-Apr-13 13:38:42

I love the sound of children playing out as long as they aren't screaming

I am about to kick DS into the garden!

IfUSeekAmy Sat 06-Apr-13 13:41:44

Oh it's not me! Mine are all girls. Thanks for the offer of the wine though. I hope mine aren't upsetting the neighbours though, you don't always realise how loud they are when you are used to the noise.

HerrenaHarridan Sat 06-Apr-13 13:43:24

Yabu and you know it!

However I do totally understand, once my dd is in bed (1930) I cannot bear other people's kids smile

forevergreek Sat 06-Apr-13 13:47:42

I do find it a bit annoying sometimes actually even with young children.

I understand children make noise but sometimes it's just constant screeching not general playing. If we are in parents garden I do try and have periods of quieter times as I know It can be annoying to others without children. So they might spend an hour running about/ balls etc, then the next hour digging/ gardening/ chalking on pavement a bit quieter

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Sat 06-Apr-13 13:52:27

I can remember being told off for making too much noise in the garden.
I love the noise of little people playing, where I used to live it was constant (and lovely) now there's not a peep and it makes me sad.

mrsjay Sat 06-Apr-13 13:54:34

Oh you have got to 'that' age I am there too sometimes I can't stand little children screaming and shrieking blush they are annoying little so n so's you are going to have to suck it up and let them play through gritted teeth im afraid YABU

ouryve Sat 06-Apr-13 13:56:55

You are being unreasonable, though I will admit that I'm glad that one particular girl has moved away because she was a right gobshite when she was out playing, to the point I kept the windows shut so I couldn't hear her shrieking like a harpy and bossing all her friends around (and swearing profusely - she was younger than DS1 is now).

mrsjay Sat 06-Apr-13 13:57:17

MY dds and the kids around here have grown up but recently I have seen new kids out playing in the street and they are screechers angry I find myself feeling like the old lady who used to knock on the window at me when i was young telling us to shurrup blush

pigletmania Sat 06-Apr-13 14:00:20

Yabvvu you meanie

SparklyAntlersInMyDecorating Sat 06-Apr-13 14:05:25

I completely agree with you! I am aware I also am being ATBVU but then!!! The children are in the garden virtually all day screaming and screeching and crying as they wind each other up. I want to have a bit of peace and quiet. Didn't even know they could make that amount of noise for that long.

OddBoots Sat 06-Apr-13 14:11:59

Regular playing type noise is fine except when it's screaming or repetitive ball/wall interaction then that's when it gets unacceptable.

Iamsparklyknickers Sat 06-Apr-13 15:40:17

It depends - normal shouty, laughing playing yabu.

Constant ear splitting shrieks and screams like Freddy Kreuger is chasing them yanbu. In the middle of houses/gardens I don't think it's particularly sociable to let your child/ren make that kind of racket tbh. It's on a par with letting your dog bark for an hour outside at all hours <glares at neighbours>

It's just not a nice noise - granted it's just kids playing but it goes right through you. I live really close to a primary and prefer the term time as the playground noises are generally the nicest as opposed to the screechy ones some parents think are fine.

FeckOffCup Sat 06-Apr-13 15:50:11

I'd take screeching young children over the older children of my next door neighbours. Early teens son shouting at his older sister "open the fucking door you fat cunt" while I was out playing with my 2 year old earlier, lovely hmm.

Andro Sat 06-Apr-13 16:24:58

YABa bitU - just be glad that what you're hearing isn't the crash of their football going through your greenhouse window angry

littleducks Sat 06-Apr-13 17:01:02

I don't like the noise if children playing either. Mine are still smallish so I try and keep them at a reasonable level (and no trampoline). It is grating to hear noisy kids after they are in bed.

But at the end if the day I don't live in the middle if nowhere so it's a case if put up with it. When I become a millionaire I'll buy a house on an island or something!

emsyj Sat 06-Apr-13 17:04:21

As a lazy teenager I used to get woken up every weekend by the kids next door playing loudly in the garden. It used to make me want to scream. My DMum always used to smile wistfully, however, and say, 'Aaaah, isn't it lovely to hear children playing. What fun they're having'.

Bah. I'm with you, OP! grin

marjproops Sat 06-Apr-13 17:11:23

Its the trampolines that get me! and yes, Im kind of with you OP.

1-DC has never been noisy when playing so Im used to quiet play. dont mind quiet kids, (bit of noise) not screamy banshee ones!

2-weekends and after school in dry weather are always going to be gardenfull.

I try and sit outside in the mornings and early afternoons when kids are at school.

the thing that gets me MOST is not the kiddywinks, its the drum n bass crap that people are so generous to share with the whole fri*****g streetthat usually starts just after lunch and STARTS dying down well after midnight.

I hate the hot and sunny weather. bring back winter.

(doesnt help DC and I have misophonia amongst other ailments so the slightest noise is like a bomb dropping)

GreenEggsAndNichts Sat 06-Apr-13 17:18:24

ooh are yours the ones that are now skulking around the corner shop, creating a gauntlet for the adults to get through? smile

YABU, ofc. But I empathise, if you're trying to have a quiet afternoon and all. Have some more wine.

Floralnomad Sat 06-Apr-13 17:22:44

I don't mind children making noise ,what drives me mad is the sound of a football hitting a fence every 20 secs for hours each day , especially when there is a perfectly good green space less than 100 ft up the road and the children are all 10+ . And breathe !

shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 17:32:13

ooh are yours the ones that are now skulking around the corner shop, creating a gauntlet for the adults to get through?

Of course not. probably Mine are not like that. grin

PickleSarnie Sat 06-Apr-13 17:32:44

YABU butmI'm also unreasonable because it annoys the crap out of me too. I long to win the lottery and buy a house in the country where my only neighbours are chickens.

shewhowines Sat 06-Apr-13 17:34:52

I've got a friend who moans about the next door chickens though. Be careful what you wish for.

garlicballs Sat 06-Apr-13 17:46:35

Oh, god, I'll take other people's problems children over livestock any day! Poultry start yelling a quarter of an hour before daybreak angry and sheep shout all night. You don't realise how sheep sound like grumpy men, until you try sleeping near hundreds of the woolly fuckers.

marjproops Sat 06-Apr-13 17:55:19

oh give me the animals any day.

love the sound of sheep and chickens. at least they dont swear/sound like theyre being murdered/play drum n bass!!!!

garlicballs Sat 06-Apr-13 17:59:41

True about the drum'n'bass grin

tass1960 Sat 06-Apr-13 18:06:17

Or are they up my street with their skateboards causing havoc ...

ChippingInIsEggceptional Sat 06-Apr-13 18:06:52

Ah you old grizzle guts grin

I have loved having the door open all day & hearing all the kids out playing - it feels like summer is here at last. Deluded I know, because it's still fecking freeeeeeezing, but there's sunshine and hope of a bit of warmth grin

The little girl next door, who I barely see all winter, has even sat on the step with me and had a drink and a biscuit today - lovely smile Then she spent most of the rest of the day scootering up and down and pushing her 'babies' up and down... what's not to love?

grants1000 Sat 06-Apr-13 18:33:49

With general child garden playing noise YABU but I draw the line at ear piercing screaming! 3 yo girl next door screams like a high pitched banshes most of last Summer, he parents are well aware of it but I think got immune, it was brain splitting. One summer afternoon I yelled into our back garden (to my 2 older DS's) "is that you screaming, it's terrible" She stopped, then started again and some other neighbour man shouted "you have to make that child stop screaming you are ruining everyone's Summer" After that they took her inside when she started.

I and the entire neighbourhood are praying that she has grown out of it for Summer 2013.

grants1000 Sat 06-Apr-13 18:36:52

ChippingInIsEggceptional - we have some children at the end of our garden we call 'summer friends' so much so we and their parents agreed to cut a hole in the fence so they can swoop back and forth between gardens. They go to a different school and are different ages and they all get on really well, the 9 yo girl I think has a little crush on my nearly 11 yo DS.

We saw them in our garden today for the first time this year, with it being so lovely and sunny. It makes me smile because they grow som much over the Winter and I am sure it's the same with our two.

Shelly32 Sat 06-Apr-13 19:24:59

My DH thinks I'm Satan for not liking the sound of birds early in the morning..

CabbageLeaves Sat 06-Apr-13 19:29:24

OP I hear ya

I went around Sainsburys yesterday grrrrrring at the mums pushing a trolley with 3 children hanging off it blocking the aisles, making noise whilst mum talks too loudly in mum speak

Shoot me now grin

I'm have chickens btw

In my defence ...I did also think poor bloody women. I do remember those days

ThePinkOcelot Sat 06-Apr-13 20:20:35

Definitely YABU!

ChippingInIsEggceptional Sat 06-Apr-13 20:23:16

Grants - that sounds lovely - we had something similar with friends when we were kids and it was great!

Shelly - he has a point grin They start about 4am here, loudly!, in the summer and I love it.

cherrycarpet Sat 06-Apr-13 20:24:42

YABU. They've got to be able to let off steam. At least they're not inside cooped up in front of the TV....

QOD Sat 06-Apr-13 20:27:31

We had a really nice family opposite us up til recently, truly nice. But 6 kids, and the 4th one just did NOT stfu.
Shouting his brothers names over and over and over and over .... Drove me nuts

cathpip Sat 06-Apr-13 20:32:49

I am forever apologising to my older neighbours about my small children playing squabbling/screeching in the garden, they love listening to all the noise apparently.

Had a paranoid freakout that you meant me and my DCs until I realised that I only have 2.

(We've not long moved & DCs were in the garden playing this afternoon. They were on a trampoline but it's a very small one with a handle on it, designed for the under 3s. DiddyCakes can get fairly loud when he's screeching with all the frustration of a 2yo who wants to do what his 4yo DSis can do. You can see why I panicked. grin )

ThinkAboutItOnBoxingDay Sat 06-Apr-13 20:42:01

Better children having fun than 3 competing R&B tracks, which is what I get!

Shelly32 Sat 06-Apr-13 21:10:09

Chippinginiseggceptional I know, I know! I may be a misery but 4am is just wrong. Those birds have no respect! grin

I was round at a friend's house today for lunch and play out in their garden. Four children between us and much shrieking, great fun, sure the neighbours hated us! grin

Although I would much prefer shrieking children (especially those I'm not responsible for) than grown-up neighbours having stand up shouty rows full of effing and jeffing.

Wishiwasanheiress Sat 06-Apr-13 22:02:49

Chickens are dreadful. Cockerels worse. My grandad bought geese and peacocks. One was bad but both were horrendous. He did own a farm. Used them as guard birds, more trustworthy than dogs and a worse bite...

marjproops Sat 06-Apr-13 22:07:00

seriously, those who live next to animals, please swap houses with me. any day. any day.

AmIthatSpringy Sat 06-Apr-13 22:15:14

I must BU too.

Unfortunately, I have the children, screaming, F'ing and C'ing (really, such delightful little one hmm )

Not to mention jumping into people's gardens, stealing things, snapping branches off the trees, breaking fences.

Oh yes, how I love the lighter nights

And some of them are as young as 3

olivertheoctopus Sat 06-Apr-13 22:20:57

YABU but mine were shrieking like banshees with excitement at what must have been their first day in the garden so my neighbours prob think the same.

OddBoots Sun 07-Apr-13 09:02:13

I'm sure it's not the done thing now but when I was a girl my mum never let us play in the street on a Sunday morning as she thought people deserved a morning of peace. Was it just my mum who had that 'rule' or was it a usual thing back in the 70s?

StickEmUpPunk Sun 07-Apr-13 09:09:27

I don't have kids, not going to blah blah, and i actually like to hear kids playing outside.

I feel like, if they are near our houses they are safer than on their own further afield. In the summer, it does tend to stop around 9pm, at 10 i have been known to get the teeth clench but hey ho, live and let live.

Fwiw, we weren't allowed in the garden after 7, for fear of upsetting neighbours.

marjproops Sun 07-Apr-13 18:51:05

Oddboots yy we were allowed out between 10am and 6pm latest. and if we were out any earlier/later we had to play REALLY quietly to not disturb neighbours. and if neighbour came out and said we were too noisy wed say sorry so would mum.

not like today, dare say something and you get kids as young as 3/4 using language,that theyve got off their parents. and then proceed to do more noise than before....

marjproops Sun 14-Apr-13 19:12:57

please rain, please rain, please rain,please rain.......!!!!!

please let there be a power cut across the road.........!!!!!!

marjproops Tue 23-Apr-13 20:15:09

please rain please rain please rain please rain x 100!!

somewhereaclockisticking Tue 23-Apr-13 21:24:58

are they playing or just screaming and screaming and screaming - not squeals of delight at being chased around etc but just basically long long screams - just standing there in the street screaming at nothing?? That's what the girls around here seem to do and it drives me nuts because I can put up with squeals of delight at actual games being played but it's the for no reason screaming as if being murdered that drives me up the wall and when my girls do it I go out and tell them to pipe down but the majority of parents don't care what noise their kids make so long as they're not in the house bothering THEM.

jamdonut Tue 23-Apr-13 21:52:23

My children were taught to play quietly and have respect for neighbours. My new neighbours do not have the same respect...their kids are very loud and shriek and roar, and shout to their mother from the bottom of the garden while she is in the house. And they play football like they are at Wembley,so I've lost count of balls coming over the fence and ruining our plants sad.
Plus,I have this noise all day ,working as I do in a school, and I just don't need it at home as well. I'd like to sit in the garden and relax, but I can't because the adults (and they always seem to have a house-full) are just as loud and obnoxious as the children. Also, I can't bear the smell of weed,which wafts into our garden and our home.hmm

Dubjackeen Wed 24-Apr-13 00:36:20

Generally doesn't bother me. I am SHH..not a Mum, yet I contribute to MN. blush ... Recently there was a funeral from my street, and I admit, I did think that just for that occasion, people might have asked their children to ...maybe, keep the shrieking down. Instead of that, what actually happened was that they played on the road-not even on the green-shrieking and screaming. Hey, it might be just me, but I thought, it would have been no harm if parents had explained, and perhaps suggested that their children should have moved a little bit away, just for one day...

ladyjadie Wed 24-Apr-13 13:20:36

The kids round here either have shrieking competitions (who can shriek the loudest, at the same pitch, in bursts) for what seems like hours maybe one hour or are playing 'going clubbing' which as far as I can tell consists of them shouting "we're going clubbing, I'm taking Honey but who is babysitting?" and then "I'm PREGNAAANT!!" (actual excerpts)

When I'm trying to sunbathe it is annoying as crap. But I'm not a mum so it is easier to get pissed off I guess (and wine wine wine wine to you mums who live it all the time)

marjproops Sun 28-Apr-13 18:51:36

oh dear. just as bad.

new people moved in next door (semi). walls as thin as tissue. Shrieking screaming brat kid-age around 5/6 ALL THE LIVE LONG DAY! JUST stopped nowplaying shrieking-at least comforted that its not abuse screaming, but.......

oh whats worse?

DC has screaming fits cos of her autism, at least i warn the neighbours- and im all the time taking her out for a drive or taking her to the furthest point in the house away from party walls when she does, cos IM considerate!!!

psychomum5 Sun 28-Apr-13 19:01:23

Drown them out with loud music, which will piss off the neighbours who will then come here and complain in AIBU about the awful neighbour who plays loud music ALL DAY LONG, and what about my poor childrens ears being subjected to the hideous noise....

And the drink wine.

Works for me now mine are older and playing far away from me winkgrin

marjproops Sun 28-Apr-13 19:14:23

wish i could but DC is supersensitive to loud noise anyway as it is, as am i.

and usually doesnt work anyway as theyll think they can play THEIRS louder to drown US out!

im dreading the diy noises about to start as theyve just moved into an old fashioned house.

hope to God theyve got the courtesy to come round and warn me. prob not.

fedupdk Tue 28-May-13 18:17:46

personally, I do not have a problem with kids playing, but why must they always scream as if they have just been mortally wounded? now the neighbors have put in a trampoline and it lies so close to the ground that it is like a drum beating each time they jump and they jump from morning to night! talking to them does nothing, but make matters worse. Thinking really hard about buying a "mosquito anti loitering device" to put in my yard. When they scream I will turn it on. Have a beautiful garden and can almost never enjoy it. Moved to the country for some peace and quite and have nothing but NOISE NOISE AND MORE NOISE! Why do people have no concern for others? Hate to punish the kids, but the parents don't care, so maybe a bit of payback will make them reconsider how they let their children play. Is parenting totally dead?

BsshBossh Tue 28-May-13 19:58:08

LOL YABU, but you know that OP grin

cory Tue 28-May-13 20:38:40

Infants school just round the corner. I love all the Not My Problem sounds that have been issuing from over the fence for the last 20 years. grin

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