to think my friends shouldn't be propositioning me for sex??

(166 Posts)
JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 21:59:26

went out with my friend at the weekend and stayed over as i have before one of my oldest and best friends so not weird to share a bed but he tried it on! i forgave him as we had alot to drink and some drugs iand i don't want to loose my friend.
today another friend asks me if i want to be his fwb!
im i jjust giving off slut vibes or what??

CrapBag Thu 04-Apr-13 22:03:18

Oooo my very first biscuit

What's a fwb?

aldiwhore Thu 04-Apr-13 22:05:06

I suppose they see no harm in asking.

TWBU to not take no for an answer.

If you're single, you're probably not giving off slut vibes, but fellow single person who may like sex vibes.

Forgive ONCE, draw a very clear line in the sand and demand they don't cross it again... if they do, they're not a friend.

Always a bad idea to share a bed with anyone after drink and drugs though.

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:05:13

You beat me to it crapbag grin
biscuit

thebody Thu 04-Apr-13 22:07:13

You rock and roller you. Suggest grow up??

EchoBitch Thu 04-Apr-13 22:08:43

Fwb = fuckwit buddy.

DorisIsWaiting Thu 04-Apr-13 22:10:33

fwb= friends with benifits

Fwb- well i have learned something this evening

and biscuit

FannyFifer Thu 04-Apr-13 22:11:20

1/10

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:11:49

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JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:13

i would like sex but not with my friends.one is more like a brother it gives me the creeps. line has been drawn thanks. i am very grown up that's how come i can drink loads and take drugs

EchoBitch Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:27

Who're you calling a fuckwit you fucker?

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:29

Ask your mates on FB chat, maybe?

Tee2072 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:30

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Dawndonna Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:34

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Theshriekingharpy Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:48

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EchoBitch Thu 04-Apr-13 22:13:56

Ooops,with you now grin

CheCazzo Thu 04-Apr-13 22:14:11

Do you mean you don't want to LOSE your friend? I'm not sure how you'd LOOSE him unless he was somehow tied up in knots but even then................

I choose my friends based on the likelihood of them propositioning me for sex.

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CheCazzo Thu 04-Apr-13 22:18:25

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what is sex??? it seems a distant memory...

sjupes Thu 04-Apr-13 22:18:31

i'd fuck them anyway biscuit

Corygal Thu 04-Apr-13 22:18:56

"i am very grown up that's how come i can drink loads and take drugs"

Brilliant, love. Don't count on selling that very first novel...

Tee2072 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:19:40

Well, che, perhaps she tied him up in knots and then he asked for sex?

QOD Thu 04-Apr-13 22:20:28
Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:20:48

i am very grown up that's how come i can drink loads and take drugs

This thread is going to be great grin

CrapBag Thu 04-Apr-13 22:20:57

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Dawndonna Thu 04-Apr-13 22:23:12

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Oh hang on....

Do you think it's Sharon?!

youarewinning Thu 04-Apr-13 22:23:25

Ah a T Rex thread - that's the type of thread we need in the holidays!

sjupes Thu 04-Apr-13 22:26:28

tiiiiim!

<just for the hell of it>

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:28:53

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Dawndonna Thu 04-Apr-13 22:30:05

I wish it were Sharon.

<looks for wasp>

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 04-Apr-13 22:30:09

Ahem

Troll-hunting is against the Guidelines, as most of you know

We have no reason to think this OP isn't who and what she says she is

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:32:23

Wow Rowan grin you deleted my donald before i even got back on the page!!!

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 04-Apr-13 22:33:20

Lucyellensmum95

Wow Rowan grin you deleted my donald before i even got back on the page!!!

<blows smoke off gun>

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:33:24

deleted your donald ?

That is as inscrutable as the OP grin

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 22:33:30

Who is Donald?

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:34:13

Rowan, I have a feeling you are enjoying this a leetle too much grin

CheCazzo Thu 04-Apr-13 22:34:52

I don't know who Donald is but he copped an unfortunate one from my post too.

sad for poor Donald.

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:35:12

Does Rowan know who Donald is ?

youarewinning Thu 04-Apr-13 22:35:29

We have no reason to think this OP isn't who and what she says she is

Is it wrong I laughed at this? Read how the OP describes his/herself!

I don't agree with troll hunting (I've been a victim of this after 2 years of being here and simply namechanging!) but was that a friendly way of aying this thread will remain?

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 22:35:40

I think the OP is deleting his Donald as we speak

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:36:52

Deleting his donald could be a euphemism for polishing the gearstick, couldn't it ?

youarewinning Thu 04-Apr-13 22:36:59

Eh Donald? How have I manged to miss something on a thread barely 20 posts long? hmm

RatPants Thu 04-Apr-13 22:37:04

They aren't real friends.

i thought sharon was seeing donald.....

CheCazzo Thu 04-Apr-13 22:38:01

I think I'll go to bed and spank Donald. That'll learn 'im.

grin

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:38:44

Donald Sutherland

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:40:01

is it rhyming slang, perchance ?

CrapBag Thu 04-Apr-13 22:40:12

What!! My first deletion!! grin

I wasn't offensive, only pointed out OP speaks like my cousin.

Still have doubts though. But as OP is "very grown up that's how come i can drink loads and take drugs" I'll give them the benefit of the doubt. wink grin

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:40:19

i don't know what a troll is. maybe they aren't real friends but i though they were. maybe its them that's sluts and nothing to do with me??i am a friendly person

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:40:24

The more I look at the word Donald, the weirder I think it is.

Perhaps another wine will help

CheCazzo Thu 04-Apr-13 22:40:56

Donald Ducked AF?

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 22:41:22

Indeed

youarewinning Thu 04-Apr-13 22:42:21

Donald Duck grin

Tee2072 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:42:40

Damn, deleted. ::hangs head in shame::

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:43:00

Friendly is good - drink is ok, drugs - just say no!

CrapBag Thu 04-Apr-13 22:43:20

"maybe its them that's sluts "

Brilliant, keep going please OP, this is pretty entertaining.

Do women really use the word "slut" in conversations? I thought it was considered a bit of a no no? grin

RatPants Thu 04-Apr-13 22:43:45

You are not a slut, they should not be trying it on with friends when drunk in the first place.

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 22:44:35

Did they ask you if you fancied a Donald Duck,OP?

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:45:18

Do grown ups use the word slut in a conversation?

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:47:01

the drugs it was my first time..didn't do much for me really so in future i will just say no

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:47:56

Although I'm a grown up and I just used it in a sentence..

abbyfromoz Thu 04-Apr-13 22:48:04

When i was 4 months preg and married went away with a bunch of friends (guys and girls) pre booked. We got talking about the difference between men/women and sex drives etc. the guys said- if it was on offer they would try. I said but what if it was like me? Pregnant? Married? They all (3) said yes im afraid so. It's sex and they would always try it on and never say no. This truly shocked me. Guys can be revolting creatures...(ducks for cover).

EchoBitch Thu 04-Apr-13 22:48:30

You don't know what a troll is?

Even i know what a troll is and i am old.

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:48:31

round here we say slut quite a lot. i don't like it being a feminist and all but what else to call it?

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 22:49:13

I think Rowan is telling porkies.

Of course the op isn't who she says she is. She says she is JillyArmeen, and she isn't, that's a pseudonym.

kinkyfuckery Thu 04-Apr-13 22:49:13

Are we going for most deleted posts in one thread?

sallysourire Thu 04-Apr-13 22:49:27





biscuit

I don't have a notion what you are all talking about but would like to know

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 22:49:31

Has there ever been a thread with more posts deleted than not?

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:50:01

Donald knows what a troll is!

HoHoHoNoYouDont Thu 04-Apr-13 22:50:40

I've only skimmed this thread but have to say OMG WTF are people on drugs???? This is the weirdest thread ever. Trolls are out I take it?!

This is so not regular MN stuff.

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 22:51:50

x-posted with kinky grin

There are lots of alternatives to slut:

slut
Synonyms and related words:
Jezebel, Partlet, bad woman, baggage, bandog, biddy, bitch, bossy, bowwow, broad, brood mare, bungler, canine, chippy, clitoromaniac, cocotte, cow, disregarder, dodger, doe, dog, dowdy, drab, easy lay, easy woman, ewe, ewe lamb, fancy dog, filly, floozy, frail sister, frump, goldbrick, goof-off, grisette, guide dog, guinea hen, gyp, harridan, heifer, hen, hind, hog, hussy, hysteromaniac, idler, ignorer, jade, jenny, jezebel, kennel, lap dog, lioness, litterbug, loose woman, malapert, malingerer, mare, nanny, nanny goat, neglecter, negligent, nymphet, nympho, nymphomaniac, pack of dogs, peahen, pickup, pig, pooch, procrastinator, pup, puppy, quean, roe, saucebox, schlep, schlump, she-bear, she-goat, she-lion, sheep dog, shirker, show dog, slacker, slattern, sled dog, slob, sloppy Joe, sloven, snip, sow, strumpet, swine, tart, tigress, toy dog, traipse, tramp, trifler, trollop, trull, uteromaniac, vixen, waiter on Providence, wanton, watchdog, wench, whelp, whore, working dog

But you wouldn't actually use any of them, would you?

Tee2072 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:51:51

I have no words for this thread...

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 22:52:06

If only Donald hadn't been deleted sad

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:52:27

abby i take your point but there was nothing on offer to take.hence my asking does it mean im giving off vibes
and yes i am jilly armeen to the 1st guy_ i always went for his friends and not for him`
i don't know what a troll sorry

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:53:20

No no Hoho, its only the OP who is on drugs, well not exactly, it was her first time, but thanks to me she is now going to say no!

I personally think you can have FWB that were FBs before they were Fs. Not the other way around

Ah, classic Donald - getting off his trolley on all sorts of drugs and the propositioning his slutty grown up friends for sex.

<fondness emoticon>

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 22:54:49

I dont think it means you are giving off vibes, its just that you have some questionable friends

Bluelightsandsirens Thu 04-Apr-13 22:57:24

Why are all the deleted posts still white?

Are they just typed or actually deleted by real life MNHQ?

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 22:58:56

Oh.

How LOVELY.

I haven't dipped into a thread that has made me smile so much for AGES.

(I am sad that this post won't be deleted though)

WorraLiberty Thu 04-Apr-13 22:59:41

So you went to sleep in your Uncle Ned...having taken some furry rugs and your china plate wanted a Donald Duck?

Ooh is that you me Mary Pawpins?

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 22:59:55

thanks Maryz. most of those are animal names the ones that convey the sme meaning are no more acceptable than slut from a feminist point of view.

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 23:01:09

Cos you like TOTALLY have a feminist point of view. TOTALLY.

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 23:02:05

Maryz.

Clitoromaniac grin <childish>

ToomuchWaternotWine Thu 04-Apr-13 23:02:36

Ooh maryz i shall endeavour to call someone a "saucebox" tomorrow, in a flippant John Inman stylee, it's my new favourite word.

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:03:16

yes ginhag. obvs that is part of the reason i didn't Donald duck my best mate

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 23:03:50

Maryz you are a GOLDBRICK (I have no idea what I am saying)

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 23:04:42

Why does that make you a feminist? As opposed to, umm, someone that just didn't fancy their best mate?

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 23:04:49

waiter on Providence confused

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 23:04:52

I should have read that list, sorry blush. I have no idea why guide dog would be there.

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 23:05:19

I quite liked "waiter on providence" "strumpet" and "stattern"

OP, maybe "flibbertygibbet" is more acceptable smile It is a word that tends to be used by disapproving maiden aunts!

I think Maryz has cut and paste from somewhere!

Seriously though - if your "friends" are getting you drunk and high on drugs and then propositioning you for sex - i think the only vibes you are giving off are those of someone gullible and vulnerable and that you should cross them off your list of friends and steer well clear of them. Without informed consent it is rape.

ginhag Thu 04-Apr-13 23:05:24

Feminists are allowed to fuck people y'know.

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 23:05:45

I have reported Rowan's post, 'cos it is so obviously sockpuppeting.

sjupes Thu 04-Apr-13 23:05:48

<shameless place marking just in case>

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 23:05:53

uteromaniac ? Brilliant !

I wonder if Donald and Sharon are an item

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:06:42

it isn't that which makes me a feminist. it is objecting to being treated like a slattern procastinator that makes me a feminist. among other things

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:07:31

You sheep dog, you.

<ponders>

Nope. Not doing it for me.

Well, I suppose it blows the whole 'feminism is too white middle aged middle class and it's over' thing out of the water, then.

But in all my lifelong days I have never heard a feminist wondering on a chat forum whether they were giving off slut vibes.

And I'm no spring chicken.

If you are a feminist, I will eat my hat.

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 23:07:51

Sorry LEM, I should really have indicated the source, shouldn't I?

<slaps own wrist>

REFERENCE:

babylon thesaurus

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 23:09:27

Donald has nothing to do with Sharon!

And you are right, feminists never procrastinate grin I think i love you Jilly smile

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:09:49

Am literally rolling that they came from Babylon though. <weeps tears of joy> how apt.

BOF Thu 04-Apr-13 23:10:28

Or Donald Trump=hump?

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 23:10:41

You ewe you.

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 23:11:43

Bloody litterbugs!

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:11:50

im a negligent feminist

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 23:13:28

Can you expand on that Jilly??

usualsuspect Thu 04-Apr-13 23:13:29

Well you sound like a peahen to.me.

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 23:15:15

Is procrastination a combination of procreation and castration?

English is a strange language.

littlemissbunny Thu 04-Apr-13 23:15:29

Message deleted for breaking talk guidelines.

Thought I would save time by not posting what i was going to and saving MNHQ a job deleting my post grin

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:16:18

kneed i just used one of the words from maryz list before feminist. i am a feminist i resent the assumption that im not. i still don't know what a troll is but its not on the list so it can't be too bad.from a feminist point of view

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:16:59

I'm Spartacus.

Have you been on the pop? Or this the start of a new invasion from some bored forum where they send out emissaries against feminism and target mn, again?

<waves to Rowan>

'Am I just giving off slut vibes or what?'

Negligent doesn't even begin to cover it, I'm afraid. Neither does feminist, really.

Actually, I prefer 'neither does feminist. Really.' The punctuation is somehow more meaningful.

<wanders back off to swig gin in the back room and reminisce about Sharon>

Kneedeepindaisies Thu 04-Apr-13 23:22:00

troll
Synonyms and related words:
Argus, Briareus, Cerberus, Charybdis, Cyclops, Echidna, Gorgon, Harpy, Hydra, Loch Ness monster, Medusa, Minotaur, Pegasus, Python, Scylla, Sphinx, Talos, Typhon, advance, angle, anthem, bait the hook, ballad, bob, bowl, bunt, butt, canon, carol, catch, centaur, chant, chimera, chirp, chirrup, choir, chorus, clam, cockatrice, croon, dap, descant, dib, dibble, do-re-mi, drag, draggle, dragon, drake, draw, drive, fish, fly-fish, forward, fugato, fugue, furl, gig, go fishing, griffin, grig, guddle, hale, haul, heave, hippocampus, hum, hymn, impel, intonate, intone, jack, jacklight, jig, lilt, lug, mermaid, merman, minstrel, move, net, nixie, ogre, ogress, pedal, pipe, pole, propel, psalm, pull, push, quaver, roc, roll, roll up, rondeau, rondino, rondo, rondoletto, roulade, round, roundelay, row, salamander, satyr, sea horse, sea serpent, seine, serenade, shake, shove, shrimp, shunt, sing, sing in chorus, siren, snake, sol-fa, solmizate, spin, still-fish, sweep, sweep along, take in tow, thrust, torch, tow, trail, train, trawl, treadle, tremolo, trill, trundle, tug, tweedle, tweedledee, twit, twitter, unicorn, vampire, vocalize, warble, werewolf, whale, whistle, windigo, xiphopagus, yodel, zombie

thesaurus.babylon.com/

Thanks to Maryz for the website!

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:24:08

One of the things I really hate about fwr is the assertion that there is a 'real' feminism, and that women who identify as feminists should be measured against some sort of holier than thou criteria. But y'know, I think I might be having an epiphany.

Feck.

<goes back for more gin>

<sees hat safely uneaten>

Who is this? G'wan mnhq, give us a clue?

All this feminism reminds me of little Britain. I'm a laydee. Methinks she doth protest too much. Jillllllllllllllllly, you're the bloke, right? (Well, ok, boy). You tried to jump your mate and she gave you a feminist lecture about women not being your sex toys and there for your pleasure, and you are still trying to work out what planet she was on? And you think she was putting out, but she says she's a fem?

Ah.

That would explain why you have such a small grasp. Of the feminism. Yes.

AnyFucker Thu 04-Apr-13 23:26:07

A small grasp you say ?

Hmm..

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:29:54

wink
Vair.

EchoBitch Thu 04-Apr-13 23:32:25

uteromaniac?

Sunnywithshowers Thu 04-Apr-13 23:32:27

I have no idea what is going on with this thread.

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:34:09

what makes you think i can't be a feminist??i used the word slut so i can't identify as a feminist? what is your definition always?

Lilipaddle Thu 04-Apr-13 23:37:24

What on earth?
Is MNHQ just taking their time to think up a really witty deletion note?

Jilly, out of curiosity, what brought you to this forum?

Maryz Thu 04-Apr-13 23:38:36

Well, since we are using Babylon, here it is:

feminist
Noun
1. a supporter of feminism
(synonym) women's rightist, women's liberationist, libber
(hypernym) reformer, reformist, crusader, meliorist
(hyponym) suffragette
(member-holonym) feminist movement, feminism, women's liberation movement, women's lib
Adjective
1. of or relating to or advocating equal rights for women; "feminist critique"
(pertainym) feminist movement, feminism, women's liberation movement, women's lib

The important bit is "of or relating to or advocating equal rights for women". And I'm not entirely sure that there is a male equivalent of slut, is there? It seems a rather neat way to put a woman in her place hmm.

Lucyellensmum95 Thu 04-Apr-13 23:41:01

Sunny - its quite simple really, The OP is worried that she is giving off the wrong vibes to her friends who seem to think its ok to get her stoned and then try it on for sex. It was pointed out the the OP that her attitude was somewhat childish, but she said that she had to be a grown up because she drinks and takes drugs.

I used my Donald in response to this (believing the OP to be lighthearted) but MNHQ deleted it, along with other posts that didn't adhere to the talk guidelines.

The op has subsequently been defending her stance as a feminist and realising that using the word "slut" was not in her best interests

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:45:38

i want equal rights. i want the right to sleep in my friends bed without him assuming i want sex with him. i want to be treated equally to our other friends not differently because i have a vagina.i shouldn't have said slut. just wondered if i am doing somethin wrong that this has happened twice in a week

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 04-Apr-13 23:47:21

Arrse?

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:48:19

lili i came here because im shocked this has happened. and now for the lolz it is lighthearted Lucy. thanks

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:48:36

Tee hee.

Loads of fems use slut. Have you never heard of slutwalk? Odd, pretty much all the fems I know have.

Totes not my point.

So. As a fem, jillllllllllly, what brings you here asking the least feministy questions I've ever heard this side of the local strip joint?

alwayslateforwork Thu 04-Apr-13 23:49:29

I wondered, ladybeagleeyes, but it doesn't seem quite right... Still pondering. Might go and have a walk round and see.

Its the drugs mi dear. Hes really a figment of your drug fuelled mind. So no slut vibes just lonely and high vibes I'm afraid.

JilllyArmeen Thu 04-Apr-13 23:51:28

'totes not my point'
what is your point? how is it the least fem question?

GaryBarlowsPants Fri 05-Apr-13 00:03:32

This is my favourite thread ever.

Also, can I just say - I wish my nickname was crapbag

alwayslateforwork Fri 05-Apr-13 00:05:10

The drugs are adding your brain, duck.

No fem ever ponders 'am i just giving off slut vibes or what' when a bloke tries it on.

A fem says 'I can get pissed and fall asleep, and if you try to take advantage of me, I know fecking well it's not me. It's you, oh penised-one'.

Just because I am drunk does not give you the right to try to jump me. Just because I have (ooo, for the first time) taken drugs does not give you the right to paw me. Just because I decided to gussy up and wear a shirt that my tits fall out of doesn't give you the right to assume a shag. Just because I allow you to crash in my room doesn't give you any entitlement at all.'

A fem knows damn well that she's not giving off slut vibes, and will have plenty of the sex in a consensual way if she fancies it, but she doesn't require anyone with a penis trying to assume she owes it to them.

A fem would never in a million years jump onto a chat forum, announce she is a feminist, and then wonder if she is exuding a 'shag me' vibe. (And I have yet to meet one that announces she's a grown up and can drink and can drugs, but, y'know.)

Well, not any I've met, anyways.

<eyes hat>

You'd be a pretty crap feminist if you were trying to assume the blame for the male ego, wouldn't you?

Or were, you being, y'know, ironic....?

Tone is so difficult on tinternet.

sjupes Fri 05-Apr-13 00:09:29

alwayslate

I think i love you grin

that post is everything i wish i was smart enough to put into words, never mind coherent sentences.

Well said.

Sunnywithshowers Fri 05-Apr-13 00:12:25

OP, you're right, you should expect to be able to sleep next to a male friend and not get molested.

JilllyArmeen Fri 05-Apr-13 00:14:29

i take your point always..very well made its just that its twice in a week two different men i thought were friends that are making assumptions about me can you see why im not pleased about it?

JilllyArmeen Fri 05-Apr-13 00:17:22

thank you sunny. so im not being unreasonable and its not me

Maryz Fri 05-Apr-13 00:19:21

Yes, always has explained it, absolutely.

If you sleep in the same bed as a man, but have made it clear you don't want sex, he shouldn't try it on.

Lucyellensmum95 Fri 05-Apr-13 00:31:48

Ah yes, YANBU! smile and not a slut,flibertygibbet,nanny goat, procrastinator or any variation therof! wink

alwayslateforwork Fri 05-Apr-13 00:34:10

'It's just that it's twice in a week' blah blah.

See, that makes you an even crapper feminist.

It should be casting your fem principles in iron that entitled penised types are everywhere, not making you go 'oooooooo, I'm such a feminist. I wonder if i'm giving off slut vibes?'

What sort of fem doesn't get rabidly high horsey than she's being treated like wank fodder by multiple blokes?

'Not pleased about it'

Bwahahahahahahaha!

No, you are not BU to think your friends shouldn't be propositioning you for sex.

You def are BU if you are asking this question, pondering if you are giving off slut vibes, and claiming you are a feminist all in the same post.

balia Fri 05-Apr-13 00:36:38

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Oh, here we go...

MsTakenidentity Fri 05-Apr-13 00:38:41

Schools go back on Monday smile.. but thanks OP for not doing a Philpott post

Ullena Fri 05-Apr-13 00:41:06

Serious question: is it normal to randomly hop into other folks beds then? I thought you were meant to crash on sofas/floors!

<never socialises>
<lonely and deprived>

sad

grin

Lucyellensmum95 Fri 05-Apr-13 00:41:26

10,9,8,7......................................

alwayslateforwork Fri 05-Apr-13 00:41:40

Just jump him, balia. (Or her). And then wait for him to start an Aibu about his friends who happen to be girls keep trying to molest him.

I'm all for a parental permission approach though. They might offer to escort, if you're lucky.

ComposHat Fri 05-Apr-13 00:47:10

I choose my friends based on the likelihood of them propositioning me for sex.

Me too, although being in prison it is pretty much a given.

pollypandemonium Fri 05-Apr-13 00:58:08

Jilly how old are you?

Softlysoftly Fri 05-Apr-13 00:58:53

See I get so disappointed In these threads, we always start off at a lack of spacing, capitals and punctuation. Have the fabulous addition of "that's why I can drink loads and do drugs".

Then we meander into "slattern procrastinater" and "negligent feminist"

Commit to a persona people, commit!

<theatrical swishy flounce>

JilllyArmeen Fri 05-Apr-13 01:03:20

thanks always i will admit im a crap feminist. not as crap as balia tho so that's something
its normal for me to sleep in beds with friends I've shared with this guy before and nothing happened. sofas and floors are just too uncomfortable when there's a good bed

JilllyArmeen Fri 05-Apr-13 01:10:08

am 25 immature for my age.that's why I've only just started snorting coke i used to smoke weed but I've realised that's kids stuff and i need to grow up

anonymosity Fri 05-Apr-13 01:11:45

You sound about 13

Ullena Fri 05-Apr-13 01:19:10

Uncomfortable sofas and floors build character.

<helpful but disapproving of the alleged shenanagins>

Ullena Fri 05-Apr-13 01:20:52

Shenanagins...dear me, now I'm remembering that episode of South Park with the travelling fair: shenanagins! I love that word...

Drugs are bad, m'kay?

missingmumxox Fri 05-Apr-13 01:26:34

there is no such thing as slut vibes? I have shared many a bed with male friends and yes sometimes they have tried it on (I did once, result!) for 30 seconds, because sometimes they and you need to test the ground, that said in the pub and the knee test normally did it for me (PM me with £10 postal order for the secret of the knee test ;) )
unless you are unlucky and it did happen to friends of mine where the male in question did not take a no, to mean no, and me once, but the fuck wit when I said I would scream for help, (big guy and big girl in opposite rooms) laughed and said like they will think you are serious! I wasn't worried by him I got the feeling he thought I was playing hard to get, I shouted "ANDY" he came in and male was ejected from the building.
his mate's night was ruined as my friend was more than happy with his company and was rightly embarrassed by the goings on and left with him, she went out with his mate for a long time, he was never seen again.
I know it could be deemed as dangerous to share a bed but in the main apart from that one issue, never a problem, most men are decent, your friends are the sluts (sadly I can't find a male equivalent of that!)

I have helped a very good friend through a rape and it was horrific what happened to her, her rapist got a sentence wait for it ... burglary, he took her camera, took photos throughout but he had given her rohypnol this was 15 years ago, and in the summing up she and the jury had to listen to the 5 previous times he had been in court for rape and let off, this was the first time he was sentenced and as I say it was for the theft of her camera. she didn't even know him, he was a barman in a pub who spiked her orange juice, she is a scientist and was not drinking that night as her experiment was needing checking in the early hours.
happily she is now married, unhappily her family didn't know about the rape (her now DH does), hence me being involved, she had been waiting on an arranged marriage, but the rape scuppered that, she was cut up about it (for the record no one in her family apart from her sister knows, but she couldn't engage as she was so fucked up by it (not surprisingly) and had a great excuse for her sister to get married first as she was dong a PHD)
for the record my friend is Christian, and from 3rd generation from India, I don't want any Muslim bashing on this thread.

pollypandemonium Fri 05-Apr-13 01:41:26

Why are you immature for your age?

If you follow the age/drug ratio I should be on intravenous heroin.

alwayslateforwork Fri 05-Apr-13 02:25:21

Oh gawd.

<theatrical yawn>

Yar, love. V grown up.
<chucks entire packet of biscuits onto thread and wanders off>

Troll-erama.

Didn't get anywhere with the feminism, or the sluts, so going to try the drugs route.

<bored already>

If you were more interesting and believable I might give you a lecture, but you're so obviously obviously out for shit and giggles, I can't be arsed.

Come back when you really have grown up. I talk to children every day in rl, I don't need to do it on here as well.

coughingbean Fri 05-Apr-13 07:53:57

Coke is more grownup than weed? hmm
seriously?
biscuit

Kneedeepindaisies Fri 05-Apr-13 07:58:54

Ha! 25 years old!

Good one.

DeskPlanner Fri 05-Apr-13 09:16:07

Slut vibes . Really ?

DeskPlanner Fri 05-Apr-13 09:21:53

Just read the entire thread.

Who the fuck is Donald ?

Lucyellensmum95 Fri 05-Apr-13 09:59:23

THIS is Donald, i did try to tell you earlier! Its ok Rowan, he isn't saying anything this time wink

sjupes Fri 05-Apr-13 10:19:16

Ffs this is still here? Humph.

I love donald and his big white eyebrows.

dawntigga Fri 05-Apr-13 10:23:42

Goddess, I love school holidays, these threads make me larf.

PossiblyTheThreadWithTheMostDeletesEverTiggaxx

CrapBag Fri 05-Apr-13 15:35:41

"Also, can I just say - I wish my nickname was crapbag"

grin

Cheers gary, I am rather proud of my cool name. I may change it by deed poll. wink

OP's posting has changed somewhat. Where has the teen speak, sluts and drugs gone? Apparently now a feminist! shock And still unaware of what a troll is, keep it up. grin

At least its still amusing.

CrapBag Fri 05-Apr-13 15:36:53

"am 25 immature for my age.that's why I've only just started snorting coke i used to smoke weed but I've realised that's kids stuff and i need to grow up"

Oh I missed this one! grin Brilliant. Thanks for cheering me up, its been a shitty day.

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