To ask if you would give your nearly 7 month old chocolate?

(114 Posts)

Actual chocolate, not like a jar of chocolate baby pudding. I'm talking chocolate buttons for Easter etc.

I'm just feeling pressured into it right now, and I don't want to but am I being a PFB mother?

countrykitten Mon 01-Apr-13 09:48:58

No - I wouldn't and I didn't.

You will, however, get plenty of replies telling you you are mean and controlling over food (yada yada) but stick to your guns if that's what you want to do.

MamaMumra Mon 01-Apr-13 09:49:51

No, not that young.

ginslinger Mon 01-Apr-13 09:50:30

I never did - there is no need for it. Won't feel deprived if they don't get it and would probably prefer a shiny thing or a fluffly thing

lottiegarbanzo Mon 01-Apr-13 09:50:40

No, why would you?

Dd is one. No chocolate yet. Some tiny bits of cake, she wasn't too keen.

Samu2 Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:05

I gave mine a few buttons at that age.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it either way. If you don't want your child to have chocolate then tell everyone else to go whistle.

Phew. Two replies good enough for me. They offered her a bloody mini roll yesterday.
I got told I need to 'chill the fuck out'

malteserzz Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:27

Just a little taste yes

GadaboutTheGreat Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:31

No. No baby needs to eat chocolate.

Stick to your guns, people just want to have a laugh I guess, but really it's a bit silly.

MissAnnersley Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:56

No I didn't. I don't think DS had a taste of chocolate until he was about 2ish. Not even chocolate pudding.

no. Ds is 6 months and despite lots of 'jokey' comments yesterday about giving him some easter egg I just laughed it off and didn't give him any. They have their whole lives to eat chocolate!

She's got 4 Easter eggs!! She's one week off being 7 months, and four Easter eggs.
This isn't a April fool btw

Caitycat Mon 01-Apr-13 09:53:11

I don't but like you feel like it's a losing battle sometimes. Had an argument with DH last week when I was him giving her a chocolate finger to suck. He keeps on about how an occasional treat won't hurt her but doesn't seem to get that she doesn't need treats that she doesn't even know exist and is just as happy with some carrot slices!

countrykitten Mon 01-Apr-13 09:53:19

'Chill the fuck out'? That's just bloody rude...a mini roll at 7 months? FFS.

I weaned mine on pureed chocolate at 6 weeks and then blw with a twix and a kit kat.

Cherriesarelovely Mon 01-Apr-13 09:54:20

Not if you don't want to, it's so annoying when other people pressurise you about stuff like this.

Arf @ hobnobs.
Yes country- I'd only nipped to the loo shock

Theicingontop Mon 01-Apr-13 09:54:38

I didn't. He had some cake on his first birthday, wasn't impressed. He now has a love for both sweet and savoury things, he's nearly three. You won't 'ruin' their palate by saying no to a mini roll.

BlueStarsAtNight Mon 01-Apr-13 09:55:13

I haven't, and DS is 8 months. I don't intend to give it until at least a year, which is what the weaning guidance from the hv recommended. He doesn't need it, and I don't want to give him a taste for things that aren't doing him any good! He has sucked a ginger nut, but that's about the only 'junk' food he's tried.

CecilyP Mon 01-Apr-13 09:55:23

People feel the need to give something, and while DS would have got a few chocolate buttons at that age, 4 Easter eggs does sound a bit much. Do they have a long sell by date? If not, you will just have to eat them yourself pass them on to another child.

Not at that age no. They r still getting their tummies used to solids at point. A mass of sugar and processed creamy crap is a stomach ache waiting to happen.

VodkaRevelation Mon 01-Apr-13 09:56:38

You don't need to chill out. Just be prepared for it to continue though. My in laws think I am terribly mean for not letting my 18 month old have LOADS Of chocolate. He has some, sometimes but never a whole packet of buttons for example. That makes me tight.

Not Letting him have more ice cream after he has had a small bowl also makes me a ''meany". I ignore. The thing is, if I ever said I thought they fed their children too much crap it'd cause a right rift. I wouldn't as it's none of my business!

Misty9 Mon 01-Apr-13 09:56:54

Ds was the same age as your dc last Easter - and my mum got him an Easter egg which I presumed was for me to eat. But she asked if he'd had any and proudly told me she'd bought an additive etc free one precisely for that reason!

I fibbed and said he'd had a tiny bit, but no I wouldn't and didn't see the need for it that young. Very rude response you got in RL - who was that from?

Meglet Mon 01-Apr-13 09:58:44

No. XP's family bought DS easter eggs at that age, he didn't even get a taste of them.

If they swore at you in front of your DD I'd be very disinclined to spend much time witht them from now on tbh

It's actually been family doing it. She has biscuits and things, just I am a chocolate addict!

Tethering Mon 01-Apr-13 10:01:21

I didn't give ds chocolate till he was over 2 and only then because I knew his gran and aunts were sneaking him chocolate.

I didn't want him growing up thinking it was a treat to be sneakily eaten so we approached it just like another food and he seems to have quite a balanced approach to chocolate and sweets (unlike me! blush )

GirlOutNumbered Mon 01-Apr-13 10:02:19

My 6 month old has two Easter eggs and some dairy free buttons (he has lactose intolerance)

I gave him one chocolate button yesterday and ate all the rest myself! I have no problem with grandparents buying Easter eggs and him having a little taste. He didn't seem particularly taken with it.

My 3 year old doesnt even like chocolate, he will only eat a little bit of white chocolate! So his Dad has eaten his EAster eggs

ilovepicnmix Mon 01-Apr-13 10:03:06

No. Mine is nearly 9 months and got the cuddly sheep from his Easter egg but not the chocolate.

threesypeesy Mon 01-Apr-13 10:12:28

I did when she was that age she was weaned early due to medical reasons and would only have a couple at a time as part of a healthy diet (all home made food) i go for all in moderation approach

It is one of those things however that it's completely up to the individual parents choice of whether or not they want to add it at that age no right or wrong imo

DS didn't have any chocolate from me until he was 1.
MIL was trying to force feed from about 6 months though angry

Cuddlydragon Mon 01-Apr-13 10:18:18

Nope YANBU. My 9 month old didn't. No biscuits or anything either. They just don't need it and whilst they still don't miss it or feel left out, I won't be giving ice cream, chocolate, cake etc. There is loads of time ahead for all those kind of treats. grin

EeyoresGloomyPlace Mon 01-Apr-13 10:20:06

Dd2 is just over 6 months, ILs bought her a small milky bar egg, I was inwardly a bit confused at the implication I'd let my newly weaned baby have that much unnecessary chocolate, but I just thanked them and let her try a button (which she rejected in favour of her sandwich anyway) and put the rest in my bag so I can scoff it later

Dd1 who is 2.6 otoh has been filled so full of chocolate I could put a ribbon round her and sell her as a Lindt bunny. I don't much like it and I put a stop to it when it became clear she was going to be sick if they allowed her anymore sad They only get to see her a few times a year so that's probably why I'm letting them spoil her. Stick to your guns if its important to you, but remember that a taste of everything won't hurt and might make relations easier.

4 eggs though is totally daft!

katiecubs Mon 01-Apr-13 10:21:27

I gave DS some chocolate to try on his first Easter when he was 8 mo. no harm done but each to their own! I certainly wouldn't have given him any if it wasn't Easter.

SanityClause Mon 01-Apr-13 10:23:53

DD2's first solid food was a chocolate biscuit. She grabbed it out of my hand and stuffed it in between her gums. (She was 6 mo.)

Now, that's what I call BLW!

*Disclaimer - we did replace it for something more suitable wink

SanityClause Mon 01-Apr-13 10:27:49

TBH, if you give her a chocolate button, or a piece that size, she might pull that "lemon" face and spit it out. Then you won't be the nasty mother withholding chocolate - it will be her that doesn't like it. Could be worth a try!

DefiniteMaybe Mon 01-Apr-13 10:36:02

I didn't with ds. He never tasted chocolate until he was 18months and it was strictly rationed for about another year. Now at 4 he is greedy with it. He will scoff and scoff until hes sick. With dd I probably did let her have some. I've never made a big deal of it. If she wants some she can have some. Now at 18 months she can quite happily leave half a pack of her favourite chocolate if she's had enough.
It could well be a difference in personality but I think it is because dd doesn't see it as a rare treat or anything special. I can understand exactly what you're feeling about chocolate but for us it backfired and a more relaxed approach worked best.

IsabelleRinging Mon 01-Apr-13 10:36:08

If you want your baby to experience a wide range of tastes why is it forbidden until older? When I weaned my dd she ate her meals with us and within reason she tried everything we had (except very salty or spicy foods). If we had pasta, so did she, when we had veg, so did she, if we had cake then she had a little bit too, so if we had chocolate she was allowed a little bit as well. A baby has similar tastes to you, if you love eating chocolate and get pleasure from it, so will baby. What is the advantage of delaying the pleasure? I disagree with those that say babies won't like chocolate, I remember giving my dd chocolate for the first time, the pleasure it gave her was VERY evident. She didn't show as much enjoyment when I gave her broccoli for the first time. Babies are like anybody, food is for pleasure as well as nutrition, what is the point of delaying the pleasure? what does it achieve?

Giraffeshoes Mon 01-Apr-13 10:39:42

No, absolutely not. I really don't understand why people think it's appropriate to feed babies rubbish. I would be seriously unimpressed if anyone even attempted to give my 10 month old junk food of any description.

Thurlow Mon 01-Apr-13 10:51:45

No. I'm not precious about food, and I don't want to make any foods 'naughty' but 7mo is very young. We made it to 11mo and DD had a tiny taste at Christmas. She didn't get any Easter eggs, GPs etc know we're not keen on chocolate. However, she does have very tiny little bites if we are eating chocolate or cake around her, more because she wants some of anything we are eating, not just sweet things.

One day they will be figure out that chocolate and sweets are lovely, but as long as they are young enough to still think blueberries are an amazing treat, I don't see the need to introduce chocolate and cake.

PickledInAPearTree Mon 01-Apr-13 10:51:58

No, and I'm really not anal.

I don't see the point really they don't know what it is. I gave ds chocolate first at his second Christmas when he was over 18 mo and he understood it was chocolate & a bit of a treat.

PickledInAPearTree Mon 01-Apr-13 10:53:09

Ds got eggs at that age but I think my family knew he was too young and made it clear I could scarf it grin

Coconutty Mon 01-Apr-13 10:55:59

Mine did have some chocolate buttons and I had not problem with it at all.

Was slightly surprised though when I went to a neighbours house and her 5 month old was propped up with some cushions in the middle of the floor 'eating' a full size mars bar.

Mine had a couple of chocolate buttons at that age, and a year on she still only occasionally has a few. She likes chocolate but would always rather have fruit so we go with that.

I'm also in the everything in moderation camp, but if other people choose not to give chocolate, or anything else, that's up to them.

A mini roll isn't a couple of buttons though, it's far more processed and MUCH bigger, and at that age I wouldn't have given mine cake at all, let alone a mini roll.

All that aside if someone had spoken to me like that I would have 'chilled the fuck' straight out the door with my child firmly under my arm. Of everything that happened, mini roll and all, it is the blatant rudeness and disrespect in that comment that stands out for me.

GummyAdams Mon 01-Apr-13 11:14:56

Somebody at baby group fed my then 7 mo DS chocolate a while ago. He doesn't react well to dairy at all (think painful gas and the runs) and this was milk chocolate, albeit a tiny little bit. The woman just said 'don't tell mummy' and popped it in. I didn't say anything as I knew a tiny bit wouldn't have an effect, but who the hell does that? He could've been allergic or anything!
My ILs, despite knowing about the no-dairy rule, bought him a Milkybar egg and asked hopefully if he'd be 'allowed' to have any. The mind boggles.
Do what you want to do OP wink I reckon some people think you can't possibly have a decent childhood if you're not doped up on sugar half the time. It's hard enough to get some basic nutritious foods into them without filling up on empty calories.

I wouldn't either and I am not at all fussy. DS1 was even weaned at a time when babies started solids at 4 mths so he had been eating quite a while by 7mths. DS2 had barely begun eating at 7 mths so no way would he have got some. Neither had any before their first birthday cakes and weren't fussed then ( it was more for the benefit of the grown ups!) .

To my mind it is just too processed and lacking in nutrients for babies who aren't eating that much.

Thankfully mine weren't given any eggs at that ages or I would have had to eat them wink

woopsidaisy Mon 01-Apr-13 11:23:11

The views here seem to be mostly black or white. You don't have to stop them eating chocolate until they are 10, or stuff them up with bar after bar of chocolate! There is a happy medium imo.
I do as IsabelleRinging. DS3 7mo eats as we eat. He has the same dinner chopped up a bit, and if we have ice cream he has some ice cream. He had a tiny bit of a Milka bunny yesterday.
Do all of you who recoil in horror at a tiny bit of chocolate give your DC fruit? Isn't that full of sugar too?

Iwantmybed Mon 01-Apr-13 11:28:17

Nope. DD is the same age OP. I have her eggs to eat on her behalf. Shame grin

HarrySnotter Mon 01-Apr-13 11:30:54

No not at that age. My DCs eat really well and just about everything in moderation but I don't understand the need for giving young babies something so sweet. It certainly won't mean she won't have wide ranging tastes if you delay it til she is a little older.

It's not the sugar but the lack of other nutrients that is the issue.

And for me the quantity of chocolate a barely weaned baby was given - 4 whole eggs. If it were a little packet of chocolate buttons or a really small egg then maybe but when a baby has only been eating a week or 2 giving a them a whole egg just seems weird. Give them a cuddly chick or something, not chocolate.

I'm not saying never I just do not want one year old in the local shop shouting and tantruming because she wants a chocolate bar.
I don't want her full of processed shite.
A bit here and there fine, no way to a mini roll before dinner.blush

HarrySnotter Mon 01-Apr-13 11:33:47

I haven't seen anyone recoil in horror on here perhaps I've missed some posts. If people choose to give their babies sugary snacks that's up to them but it doesn't mean that those who prefer not to are somehow depriving their child. Different strokes and all that.

Summerblaze Mon 01-Apr-13 11:36:45

DS2 is 11 months and he has had a couple of buttons. Can't see the problem tbh. As long as he has healthy meals, cereal, yoghurts, fruit, veg, meat etc then how is it going to harm him.

Obviously stuffing them full of masses of easter eggs is not the thing to do either. Everything in moderation. And if it is that full of crap, why do you let older children/yourselves eat it at all.

I have been given quite a few easter eggs for all my dc as we have a big family. TBH most of them either get finished off by me or dh as the dc just eat the same amount of chocolate they usually do so if we don't they are hanging around for months.

pigletmania Mon 01-Apr-13 11:38:41

No not that age. Ds is 14 months and got 5 shock. I gave him a dew tiny pieces of one and ate the rest, will be doing that for the foreseeable future. Why the hell Would a 6 month baby need an Easter egg hmm. Some people are lacking in common sense. A little baby toupy would be much better, or an item f clothing, you can get tops for a fe pounds much more useful.

pigletmania Mon 01-Apr-13 11:39:16

Meant toy doh

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 11:45:01

Yes because it will do them absolutely no long term harm whatsoever. It is one chocolate button not a sewing needle.

Squitten Mon 01-Apr-13 11:56:42

If it's a matter of giving a 7mth old a chocolate button at Easter, I wouldn't blink an eye about it. It would be the same as giving them a little Xmas cake or something. No big deal IMO. I would not, however, be giving them a whole packet or a chocolate bar as a regular thing.

I sympathise though OP. My family are lousy at nutrition and think nothing of filling small kids with crap. We were at my cousin's confirmation when DS2 was less than 6mths old. My Mum was wittering on about giving him a taste of the cake and I said no. Next thing I knew, she had got a blob on her finger and put it in his mouth. I didn't want to cause a scene at my cousin's party with everyone there but I took DS back swiftly and hissed at her "NO MORE." Absolutely livid.

It wasn't a chocolate button though it was 4 easter eggs and a chocolate mini roll cake. Bit of a difference.

Horsemad Mon 01-Apr-13 11:57:43

My MIL bought an egg for DS1 when he was 9 mths old.
I'd already stated no chocolate and when she said she was buying it I said I'd eat it in front of her.
She wasn't impressed when I carried out my promise! [bugrin|
I just said 'tough, my child, MY rules'.

catgirl1976 Mon 01-Apr-13 12:01:40

No. Not at that age

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 12:02:52

No the opening post says chocolate buttons.

LaFataTurchina Mon 01-Apr-13 12:04:33


If you need an excuse tell them that in Italy (and I'm guessing a few other European countries) it's on the 'not for under 1s' list as it's too difficult to digest.

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 12:06:25

Chocolate is not the only source of fat and sugar a child will be exposed to. They actually need sugar and fat to grow and one chocolate button, or even ten, will not hurt them when given as a rare treat.

Horsemad Mon 01-Apr-13 12:10:22

Binks the debate isn't about whether it has nutritional value or not, it's that the OP feels pressured by other people who don't respect her decision as the child's mother.

DeskPlanner Mon 01-Apr-13 12:12:14

No, not a chance.

edwardsmum11 Mon 01-Apr-13 12:15:48

I did but only tiny amounts, one or two buttons if that. Had two easter eggs last year at 7mths and lasted until christmas.

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Mon 01-Apr-13 12:17:22

I mentioned light-heartedly to my family that 7 month DS wouldn't be having chocolate this year and they were great - bought him some Easter books and toys. My cousin posted a packet of chocolate buttons for him. I thanked her, but didn't tell her that DH ate them!

If she'd given them in person, I'd have let him have a couple (secretly being a little annoyed). However, a chocolate mini roll and 4 eggs sounds OTT! There are so many lovely little Easter things you can get a baby that I don't see why relatives need to buy chocolate for under ones!

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 12:18:28

I think evaluating the potential risk is an important factor.

FeijoaVodkaAndCheezels Mon 01-Apr-13 12:25:20

Neither of mine had chocolate that young. Even now they have it very rarely.
They don't suffer and properly appreciate it when they do have it.

stopgap Mon 01-Apr-13 12:41:52

DS is 19 months and had his first ever dessert, a coconut macaroon, this weekend. I don't see the point in feeding them tons of sweet things when they're tiny.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 01-Apr-13 13:50:48

I wouldn't for my own child.

But then again I would give sweets or chocolate to the parents of a child who said it was ok to give to their child. And wouldn't for one whose parents didnt think it ok no matter what my relationship to the child.

But tbh at Easter I rarely get chocolate for any child if I want to get them a treat I would normal get a book or colouring stuff with a Easter theme but would make it age appropriate because so many people besiege kids with chocolate.

I have never been able to get my head round the obsession some people have with food and other people's kids.

I have a friend who I tend to avoid now because she can't stop herself giving babies tastes of everything she has no matter what it is anything from chillies to gin even if allergies are involved.

My youngests granddad couldn't stop himself from shoving cake in his mouth when he was about 5/6 weeks old but he could manage to wait untill my back was turned to do it. It infuriated me.

Pandemoniaa Mon 01-Apr-13 15:54:36

No. Simple as that. Although I wasn't able to be quite as vigilant with ds2 and I'd been with ds1 but I still think 7 months is a little young to get chocolate.

lovetomoan Mon 01-Apr-13 16:33:18

No, I would not. And if someone did it without my knowledge I would be VERY upset.

Smudging Mon 01-Apr-13 16:51:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

slightlysoupstained Mon 01-Apr-13 17:05:44

DS is a bit over 7 months old now, and did not get any chocolate for Easter (I wouldn't have minded if relatives had given him some, I would just have eaten them myself grin ). I won't be giving him a taste until he's a fair bit older - chocolate is a bloody laxative FFS! So no, OP, YANBU. You're the one who will be scraping that miniroll-poonami off her legs, back, armpits etc later on.

Plenty of time later for chocolates. Truly horrified at the tales here of selfish adults trying to stuff sweet things into really tiny babies - I would be absolutely livid if anyone attempted to feed my baby anything behind my back, that's utterly unacceptable.

Also - "don't tell mummy" is a really shit thing to say to a child - I don't want my child thinking that it's okay for an adult to ask them to keep secrets from me, I can't expect a small child to be able to tell when it's harmless and when it's not.

Flisspaps Mon 01-Apr-13 17:08:25

I did.

But my kids are my kids, and yours are yours. Telling you to chill the fuck out is just plain rude.

DuelingFanjo Mon 01-Apr-13 17:09:22

No I wouldn't have but i would have smiled sweetly, accepted the eggs and scoffed them all myself later.

I didn't give my pfb any, but my 9 months old just helps himself to the older kids chocs if he can reach them or they drop bits on the floor.

DuelingFanjo Mon 01-Apr-13 17:10:47

By the way, my ds is two and has had chocolate since he was around one and he's never tantrums in a shop because he wants chocolate. He is a daddy eater though, despite me doing baby led weaning.

Horsemad Mon 01-Apr-13 17:11:22

Another thing my inlaws do and I've never understood this, is to give chocolate and multipacks of crisps etc as presents shock

Very bizarre - they'll buy a present for birthday and also add chocolates/crisps etc in with the present!

WillYouDoTheBunnyHop Mon 01-Apr-13 17:29:24

I've just thought of this thread at DGMiL's house. When we got there she told me she wasn't sure whether to get DS an egg or not so would he be okay just with a bag of milkybar buttons? He's 15 weeks and obviously not weaned confused

Will do blush
A few buttons I don't mind but really...

WillYouDoTheBunnyHop Mon 01-Apr-13 17:37:13

I know, DP just looked like hmm and said he only has milk grin

Flobbadobs Mon 01-Apr-13 17:46:52

I would give mine a taste yes but this really is a 'your child your rules' thing. It is not ok to go over a parent's head on something like this. DD is 1 and has been given 3 easter eggs, all of them however were given with a wink and just happen to be ones that me and DH like grin.

scarlettsmummy2 Mon 01-Apr-13 17:50:30

First baby no, second baby yes without a second thought!

DuelingFanjo Mon 01-Apr-13 19:10:13

God. I hate that.

grin Thank you for all participating

ElphabaTheGreenAndBlacks Mon 01-Apr-13 20:44:33

I reluctantly gave my 10mo a weeny 50g Lindt gold bunny (only the best for my PFB). He ate the ears off quite enthusiastically - so a total of about a teaspoon of chocolate - then tried to feed the rest to the dogs. It got intercepted before it got to them, don't worry! He won't be having any more chocolate for a while because I also just don't see the point while they're still just as happy with something nutritious.

A friend, who I posted an AIBU about because she fed her then 6 month old cake after puréed fruit, a rusk and a Petit Filiou, gives her now 8 month old chocolate buttons and Wotsits. I got a bit scorched for being judgey-pants (and fair enough too) but really? Really??

fucking researcher/journo

Theicingontop Mon 01-Apr-13 20:56:17

Oh dear, really?

RubyGates Mon 01-Apr-13 20:57:48

I think DS2 was about that age for his first Easter, I encouraged his relatives to buy him eggs, gave him a couple of chocolate buttons to enter into the spirit of the thing. And then ate the rest myself. grin

I'm not a journo or anything! I'm a genuine MNetter!
Research my history if you like, I was just being polite for people for taking the effort to reply confused

maddy68 Mon 01-Apr-13 20:59:41

A bit of chocolate Won't do a 7 month old any harm. Just going do it too often x

"than you for participating"

Sorry if I worded it wrong. blush
I've a long running thread here on OTBT. I'm did a NC at Christmas. If you'd like to think I'm a journo feel free, I'm a 23 year old first time single mum seeking some guidence that was all, I shouldn't have to justify that, just because I tried to be polite to people 'participating' on a thread when I'm sure they had better things to do with their time than help me. sad

Mumsyblouse Mon 01-Apr-13 21:05:32

I don't think you should give anything you don't want to, but all this holding out til aged 11 months or whatever is pointless in the long run. I remember my cousins' mum doing exactly the same, no sugar at all at the grandparent's house, no easter treats even til age about three, it was all a big fuss and very earnest (no jam, etc) My cousins are now in their late twenties and eat like everyone else does! My mum was very restrictive around food, again only a few tiny sweets once a week, and unfortunately I am a sweet scoffer now- thirty years later.

Nothing wrong with trying to keep children away from chocolate as long as you realise you can't turn the tide in the end. They will grow up, they will make their own choices, and forbidden fruit is often the sweetest.

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 21:10:38

I don't think you're a journalist, op. It's hardly article worthy news anyway is it! 'Mums divided on Easter chocolate issue'.

Theicingontop Mon 01-Apr-13 21:10:46

Did think it was a bit of an odd thing to go undercover for grin

Thank you! I thought my NN could be a bit of a clue to me being clueless wink

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 01-Apr-13 21:20:23

You'll muddle through. Best thing to remember with a baby is don't sweat the small stuff.

Now no asking us what we think of the situation in Syria or bedroom tax! grin

BadRoly Mon 01-Apr-13 21:26:44

Dc1 - no absolutely not. No chocolate until well after 1st birthday
Can't honestly remember with dc2 & 3
Dc4 - was past caring, probably dc1, 2 & 3 had been feeding him chocolate from hours old (joking obviously but you get my point wink). Almost certainly he'd had a chocolate button or 2 by 7mths as he was given whatever we were eating to eat.

BippyB Mon 01-Apr-13 21:29:39

Stand your ground! My lad is 21 months now and for the second Easter running I still refuse to give him chocolate. My view is that he's not even old enough to really know what it is or ask for it, so why would I give it to him? Sugar will do him no good AT ALL. It's my decision and as far as I'm concerned everyone else can respect my wishes.

What really gets my goat is that that mothers get flak for everything they do wrong, yet when you take a decision which is purely for your own child's good, people seem determined to see it as something else. If I had a pound for every minute I'd had to spend politely listening to relatives and friends telling me it "won't do any harm" to give my child chocolate, cake, sweets, etc. I'd be a rich woman. Maybe it won't do any harm (oh, apart from rotting his teeth, which are blooming difficult to clean properly in a 21 month old) but on the other hand, items like chocolate, mini rolls, etc won't do your child ANY GOOD either. So why would you give them stuff like that before they are old enough to even ask?

Only today I had a relative round with a richly iced coffee cake (FFS!) saying "oh well he can have a little bit, can't he?" My answer was, NO. I'm sure some people think I'm an extremist but don't give in, when your own instincts (and NHS advice) is not to give your child unnecessary sugar at that age.

Sparklyboots Mon 01-Apr-13 21:56:31

We haven't given DS (2.3) any 'straight' chocolate yet, though he has had a taste of hot chocolate and a bit of chocolate cake at parties. We were tres strict about all processed food right through til 18/mo 2yr because it takes that long for a gut to mature and we saw no harm in taking it slow. He's very adventurous and will try anything we're having - the strictness was easy because DP and I are boring health conscious so don't eat processed sugar, super-refined carbs etc. Now he's a bit bigger and food is becoming a more important part of his social experience we are quite relaxed so happy for him to have cake and so on, but haven't changed what we buy for home, so it's all quite whole-food lentil weavery type stuff at home.

That said, chocolate is still off the menu because it contains caffeine and another stimulant (I think it's called theo-bromeine or similar) in large enough quantities that if you gave a race horse a mars bar, it'd show up on a doping test. My line about this to anyone offering him chocolate is that he doesn't need any extra stimulation, though I should confess that it is pleasing to turn down a food which is really nutritionally crap in general terms (they are NEVER offering the much touted 'two or three squares of quality chocolate' which are supposed to be good for us, IME).

Obvs this doesn't go down brilliantly with everyone and I particularly get written off as uptight (which irritates slightly as DP has exactly the same view) but I couldn't give a fuck, TBH. The only people who are bothered by it are people who have a problem themselves - they are either so caught up in the 'treat' idea about food that they think DS is somehow 'deprived' (which always makes me think they really should widen their ideas about both 'treats' and 'deprivation') or they are trying to 'buy' DS's affection/ approval (which I find slightly sad and misguided).

We used to experience more tension from others around this than we do now - no one even bothered to ask about whether he was 'allowed' an Easter Egg this year, and no one bought him an egg. We were at friends for Easter lunch and an egg was sitting on the table for people to help themselves to. DS didn't even recognise it as food, so there was no awkward moment. Stick to your guns, OP, and don't let anyone see you get wound up about it- treat your boundaries like they are facts of life and not up for negotiation and people soon look for something else to criticise your parenting for just give up and move on.

GummyAdams Mon 01-Apr-13 22:00:52

Although I was cross at the woman feeding DS chocolate, I've just remembered telling another Mum that DS had had a lick of a dark chocolate bar that I was eating. He had just been weaned at 6 months, was trying to sample everything, so I thought what the heck and let him gum it very briefly.
Fuck me, what a catsbumface. You'd have thought I'd said I was mixing nutella and haribo into his morning porridge.

So OP, you can't winwink

NumericalMum Mon 01-Apr-13 22:01:48

I was so pleased my DC was dairy intolerant and would have thrown it all up and I would have gone crazy when these things came up. Mil and my DM would have happily force fed her all sorts of shite behind my back. Now she is 5 and gorged herself yesterday but mostly has a sensible attitude to all food. She tries new foods and is superbly active and healthy. Moderation is key to everything.

ToysRLuv Mon 01-Apr-13 22:24:55

Like some others on this thread, I gave DS whatever we ate from 6 months old (BLW). Bits of choc and cake as well as broccoli and peach.

It is in our biology to enjoy sweet foods (for babies even more so), and I can only imagine that the (evil?) people who are gifting choc eggs to 6 month olds want to give the babies they love the wonderful feeling and experience of chocolate melting in their mouths (even if it's just a tiny bit at a time). If you do not want to give your baby chocolate - don't. Say no thanks or eat it yourself. It's like with any unwanted gift, I guess.

YANBU - your baby, your choice. Although I let DD (6 months) have a chocolate button yesterday as I was eating chocolate - she wasn't impressed - prefers broccoli! tiny weirdo

ToysRLuv Mon 01-Apr-13 22:33:13

Have to add that I was largely denied sweets in my childhood (later my mum said that she was concerned about my dental health, etc.) and I can see how it contributed towards my eating disorders in later life. I know some others with the same history and problems, so I would be very wary of overly restricting sweets etc. It is a normal human craving, and nothing to be ashamed of. If denied, it can with some people become an obsession..

I would say everything's fine in moderation and occasional days of OTT chocolate are fine, as well (and fondly remembered by DH, who's a healthy eater, from his childhood).

aldiwhore Mon 01-Apr-13 22:34:44

YANBU at all.

But I did give mine a button or two at that age and it did not harm them in the slightest. IWNBU either.

I am not liking the language they use towards you. Utterly disrespectful. Any way you can move far away from their toxicity? They sound far more damaging than chocolate buttons.

ToysRLuv Mon 01-Apr-13 22:36:15

Btw, in my later post I'm obviously not referring to 6 months olds specifically, but making a wider point.

samlamb Mon 01-Apr-13 22:57:12

IsabelleRinging I'm TOTALY with you.

olivertheoctopus Mon 01-Apr-13 23:02:33

I wouldn't give them 4 whole Easter eggs but I don't buy into this whole 'no choc/sweets til they are x age' shit. My 4yo DS actively dislikes chocolate. Weirdo. I eat his eggs...

BippyB Mon 01-Apr-13 23:10:57

Exactly toysrluv. When our lad is old enough to ask for things like that we will let him try them and do so without comment either negative or positive. He has had the odd bit of cake or crisp whenever he has been in reaching distance of them but not gone mad for them and I didn't make a fuss about it, as he would pick up on that too.

Probably the best influence in your child's life is your own eating habits. If you don't gorge on chocolate and biscuits and don't have them in the house as a matter of course, then your kids will come to see that as normal, and view them as an occasional treat.

However as per the OP's query, at 7 months I think it's wrong wrong wrong.

JenaiMorris Tue 02-Apr-13 07:09:25

What do people think will happen if a 7mo eats a few chocolate buttons? confused

Each to their own, but just as babies don't need chocolate, nor do they need shielding from it (allergies etc excepted).

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