To sing to DS, often

(94 Posts)
SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 21:55:48

I'm not a brilliant singer by any means, but I love singing to my DS, who is 5 months. I think maybe as I'm a bit nervy and it calms both of us down. Anyway DP says he thinks it's sweet but MIL keeps saying things like "Christ Snake, another song, where the hell did you learn that one?" Or "don't you ever get tired of singing?" and today, when she popped round for dinner, heard me singing DS to sleep on monitor (umm, slow slow operatic versions of several nursery rhymes blush said "poor boy he must be sick of your voice by now, do you ever stop for breath?"

Thought that was a bit cruel TBH and felt quite upset. It's a nice bonding thing for us and not sure why she always pisses on my parade. Possibly my singing makes her self conscious? Or jealous of my ahem dulcet tones? Or inadequate that she didn't sing to DP as a child? Or, you know, I'm just really fucking annoying!

Does anyone else sing a lot to the DCs?

Oh god am I like the opera lady from OBEM???

DefiniteMaybe Sun 31-Mar-13 21:57:12

Tell her to feck off. You sing to your baby if you want to. I bet he loves it.

notnowImreading Sun 31-Mar-13 21:57:16

My mum always sang to me; it's one of the most special things I remember about my early childhood. Sing away!

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 21:58:32

grin

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sun 31-Mar-13 22:00:20

I had (have?) PND with DS2 (13 weeks) sertraline has helped our bond but in the early days (bad days) i couldnt talk to him... I knew he needed to hear my voice, but I just couldnt. So i sang, and sang, and sang. Until I could talk. And I still
Sing, he loves it. i do of course have the voice of an angel

You MIL can fark right orf! YANBU you are being lovely!

I can't sing for Toffee & always sang to my Ds4 when he was little , Not anymore though cos he says it makes him die grin
Keep singing & ignore her I bet your Ds loves it

Iaintdunnuffink Sun 31-Mar-13 22:01:07

There's nothing wrong with singing lots to a baby, I never did because I dislike singing. Next time turn off the monitor.

How much are you singing? grin if you're breaking into song constantly when you have visitors it could be a tad annoying.

AnameIcouldnotthinkof Sun 31-Mar-13 22:01:22

Awh I think it is lovely to sing to your DCs.
I sang to 3 of mine. However my singing used to make my youngest cry so it may of done more harm than good
blush

Sommink Sun 31-Mar-13 22:01:48

My daughter and I sing walking to school. I really don't care what anyone thinks.....

I got one of my younger swimming classes to sing twinkle twinkle little star (while star floating) the other day and joined in at full volume. The parents probably couldn't hear their kids but they will definitely of heard me. It was fun.

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 31-Mar-13 22:01:55

Tell her to fuck off. You like it, he likes it, she can mind her own bloody business. Sing MORE if she objects, noisily. Silly cow. Singing to your kids is great - they love it when they're little, and it embarasses the crap out of them when they're bigger. Win win.

rhondajean Sun 31-Mar-13 22:02:02

YANBU. In fact, song and rhyme are how children learn language. You are acting as an early educator to your child and preparing them already for their academic career (this is based in solid research btw) so tell her to sod off,

And seriously, Hth, not in a sarcastic way.

noblegiraffe Sun 31-Mar-13 22:03:10

She's a bitch. I sing to my baby more than I talk to her, I think. Silly made up songs, or pop songs with her name substituted in and words changed to make it about nappies.

greencolorpack Sun 31-Mar-13 22:04:10

I think MIL is being a bit of a cow. Sing now to annoy your MiL, see it as a useful side effect. Lol.

I sang to both my nippers and just today was walking in the woods with my dd aged 11 and we sang a hymn in two parts. I used to walk them to school singing part songs. I know that makes us sound unutterably singular but we are.... I always found singing to children a great stress reliever. I sing in the car and they don't tell me to shut up but maybe they will one day.

VinegarDrinker Sun 31-Mar-13 22:04:15

We sing loads to DS, always have. Not sure I'd sing in front of my MiL but that's my issue!

OxfordBags Sun 31-Mar-13 22:04:18

Tell her she's beung rude and you want her to stop with this crap. She's obviously a fan of straight talking, seeing as she feels she can say these things to you, so set her straight. You've no doubt hit the nail on the head that she didn't sing to your DP when he was little, or that it makes her feel weird, but that's her daft shit to deal with. Don't let it stop you singing to him; I bet he adores it and it'll be a special 'thing' between the two of you, like it is between me and my DS. I'm even worse - I make up songs about all sorts of crap (literally; we have more than one song about poo blush ).

Singing to tots is also supposed to be good for language development, as well as merely being fun. Get your DP to tell his mother to fuck off with all this nonsense if you don't want to.

ChippingInIsEggceptional Sun 31-Mar-13 22:05:04

How bloody rude is she??? Is she always like that? If she is she should count her lucky stars that she's not burried under the patio!!

Sing as much as you can - it'll only be fice minutes before he's saying 'No Mummy NO!' grin Most babies love being sung to - if he didn't he'd make it damn clear, even at 5 months.

Next time, put the monitor up loud and sing about Fucking Awful G\rannies Outstaying Their Welcome to the tune of a popular nursery rhyme smile

In all seriousness though - what did your DH say to her??

foxache Sun 31-Mar-13 22:05:30

This brings back memories! I used to sing to ds all the time, made up songs. Ex hated it and his mum too funnily enough, though i'd rarely do it in front of them.

Now if I try to sing to ds, he rugby tackles me.

EeyoresGloomyPlace Sun 31-Mar-13 22:06:16

Oh how horrible of her, YANBU. Babies love being sung to, its sod all to do with her anyway.

When we were staying with ILs last summer FIL heard me singing dd1 to sleep on the monitor which he had turned on when I went upstairs. When I got down he said "Don't give up your day job Eeyore will you" and laughed so I snapped at him and told him I wasn't actually singing for his benefit and he knew where the off button was if he didn't like it. He looked a bit taken aback but luckily as we usually get on fine I think he just realised he'd overstepped the line a bit. Still pisses me off now though!

Keep singing, I have lovely memories of being sung to as a child and your DS will too.

YANBU and you need to use the old 'did you mean to sound so rude?' next time.

Set some clear boundaries in place now if I were you, or as he gets bigger she'll make other comments about all sorts of things I reckon, if she's that opinionated about singing.

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 22:07:08

"he says it makes him die" too funny!!

I sing quite a lot, l don't know how to quantify, say if we were all on a half hour walk in the country, there might be 3 songs sung loudly...with actions. Out for lunch in a pub, 1-2 but not sung loudly, at my own house for the day...a song or two per hour. I don't interrupt adult conversation to break into Incy Wincy or anything, but I do kind of do it to fill silences (argh I am the OBEM lazy!!)

AgentZigzag Sun 31-Mar-13 22:07:26

What nasty spiteful things to say to you.

I've got a wide repertoire of nursery rhymes lined up to make boring tasks (for me) go quicker, like giving DD2 a bath grin

grin at your life being like a west end musical though, that'd make for an interesting dinner engagement.

Maybe that's why your MIL has such a downer on it, because she's feeling the pressure to break into a dance routine to back your song up grin

sjupes Sun 31-Mar-13 22:07:52

I sing to ds loaaaads! Your mil is a jealous parade pisser on er [real word!] She probably didn't hold her kids or cuddle them and stuff (i may will be totally off mark here)

Some people do it some don't. It's a great thing to do tho smile

rhondajean Sun 31-Mar-13 22:08:15

Here

esciencenews.com/articles/2012/09/18/theory.music.underlies.language.acquisition

One of many, also look at the peep parenting programme which is largelydesigned around getting people to engage with their children through song to improve the children's later literacy.

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 22:11:59

"about Fucking Awful G\rannies Outstaying Their Welcome to the tune of a popular nursery rhyme" LOVE this, definitely going to try it!

DP thinks his mother's comments are innocent and she's only trying to have a joke with me hmm

CSIJanner Sun 31-Mar-13 22:13:31

I've taken both of mine to singing/music classes for babies/toddlers. They love it - playing the instruments and dancing. Sang to the grumpy littlest one tonight which stopped the grizzlies for the entire song.

Tell you what - print off the entry form for X factor or Britians Got Talent and leave it on the side just to wind her up! She's being a caaaahhhhh

AgentZigzag Sun 31-Mar-13 22:16:57

Oh yeah, making you feel uncomfortable about singing to your little baby is fucking hilarious.

I'd be tempted to do it all the more to make a point.

And maybe start talking in a Leslie Garrat sing song voice?

She should be glad you're helping your baby feel secure and bonding with him.

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 22:22:34

She's a bit PO, for sure
There's this one song I sing to DS that annoys the frig out of her as I sing it in a silly mouse voice and she always asks "what's with the silly voice?"

I have explained, time and time again, it's a mouse!

tunnocksteacake Sun 31-Mar-13 22:26:19

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ChippingInIsEggceptional Sun 31-Mar-13 22:26:26

I'm lifting the patio slabs... I'll whistle when I've dug deep enough.

pigsDOfly Sun 31-Mar-13 22:26:48

Nasty woman. I always sang to my children. I sang to them when they were very small. In fact the first smile I got from my youngest was the day she was 3 weeks old and I was sitting in bed with her singing 'half a pound of tuppenny rice' to her. When they were a bit older most bedtimes they'd get a story and then we'd sing together.

My children are all grown up now, but both my daughters have good voices and have both done a bit of singing as entertainers.

Keep on singing to you DS and ignore the miserable old cow. I think it's lovely for him to hear your voice in this way.

tunnocksteacake Sun 31-Mar-13 22:27:18

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sjupes Sun 31-Mar-13 22:29:11

The more i think about it i just know my bitch mil would do this sad she really is a leave the baby stop fussing type.

OestraJen Sun 31-Mar-13 22:30:03

God I never stop singing. What;s worse is that I just do a musical verson of whatever we;re getting on with (think 'Change, change, change your bum, 'cos you've done a poo, lay the baby on the mat and kiss him 'cos he's cute' type agonies).

All.The.Time.

<dies a bit>

tunnocksteacake Sun 31-Mar-13 22:31:36

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SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 22:36:25

Oestra me too, also reworked pop songs eg

I knew that was stinky when it came in
Shame on [DS name] now
That one's going to stink right out the nappy bin
Oh we better go and change him now, ow, OW!!
Stinky stinky stinky
Etc...

You sound awesome and so happy. Your child is lucky to have you.

Tethering Sun 31-Mar-13 22:43:11

I sing all the time. I can't even blame it on ds.
When I was a student, a flatmate told me I was the only person she'd ever met who actually did sing in the shower blush.
In fact just tonight ds decided to sing songs for his granny and dh said yes tethering sings all the time too even though she's tone deaf . . .they're all just jealous wink .
We spend a lot of time dancing round the rooms too.

Icantstopeatinglol Sun 31-Mar-13 22:46:09

Yanbu at all! It's a lovely thing to do and I bet your ds loves it so sod her! I've always sang to my dc and they join in now, tho I do change most songs to add their names in somewhere and ds who is 5 just rolls his eyes and laughs now but we have fun and that's all that matters.
Sing away! smile

CSIJanner Sun 31-Mar-13 23:13:49

When my youngest is crying, upset or poorly, my eldest sings Soft Kitty.

And demands I do the same when ill or upset

grin

BackforGood Sun 31-Mar-13 23:23:27

Glad RhondaJean has linked to some, as I was going to say there are all sorts of researched reasons why a parent should sing to their child - to do with language acquisition and listening skills and all sorts of other things that's I'm too lazy to go and find the research for. that's 1 point.
The other is, even if there weren't research showing that singing to babies is a good thing, it's hardly going to harm a child, is it? In which case, I think the MN classic of "Did you mean to be so rude" should come into force here.

I've always sung, for as long as I can remember. It's just part of who I am. So now I have DD I sing to her and have done since before she was born.

She recently started 'singing' with me which is amazing, and when she does I tend to listen to her and then sing what she sang back at her. It sounds remarkably like whale music but it is wonderful - her face lights up like a Christmas tree! I bet your MIL would have an apoplexy if she heard it lol!

She's way out of line - ignore her or when she says something nasty sing a retort in a Miranda fashion lol!

janey223 Sun 31-Mar-13 23:30:05

Tell her to piss off! My brother acts the same to me!

I sing to DS all the time, he's 15 months & knows actions to 8 nursery rhymes & helps me sing a few cheesy pop songs. He loves it and started doing actions about 10m (banging his hand on his head to get me to sing 5 little monkeys hahaha).

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 23:34:32

Janey I just youtubed 5 little monkeys, fab!! FAB!
how have I not heard of this one?
MIL is in for a treat!! I might start with ten little monkeys though just to be really annoying

Creameggkr Sun 31-Mar-13 23:37:26

My dd was do poorly when she was born and we naturally stayed with her every second. She had pneumonia was tube fed and had. a drip. She was so ill it was heartbreaking.
Being unable to help her much or even feed her I used to sing to her softly whilst holding her close and rocking her. I used to get two lines if twinkle twinkle out before I'd start to cry with sadness for my poor baby.
She is two now and I swear if I sing twinkle twinkle to her she stares at me as if she remembers. Her whole expression changes.
Please keep singing to him (louder when critics are around)
It's such a lovely way of communicating.

Flojobunny Sun 31-Mar-13 23:41:28

DD is 4yo and she still insists on 3 songs at bedtime (nursery rhymes) although she does ask for random ones, like tonight she wanted one about eggs so I made it up.

AgentZigzag Sun 31-Mar-13 23:42:57

smile Creameggkr.

I can't talk or you'll hear how that's catching me in my throat

SnakeTonic Sun 31-Mar-13 23:43:21

Oh that nearly made me cry!! How lovely

Flojobunny Sun 31-Mar-13 23:46:25

"Eggs, eggs, chocolatey and brown. Melt in your mouth, goes in your tummy. Please share them with mummy. Da de Da de dahhhhhh"
Hope Simon Cowell is reading grin
why did bu.grin predict as buggering

KittyAndTheFontanelles Sun 31-Mar-13 23:48:58

I sing constantly to my daughter and she loves it. I make up songs about getting dressed/making our dinner/changing her nappy...she loves it and asks for more when I stop. grin

I have an awful voice but it is a scientific fact that a mother's voice sounds like a choir of Angels to her baby. smile

Don't ever stop singing smile

Ignore the silly cow grin

Creameggkr Mon 01-Apr-13 00:10:07

Makes me cry just remembering it. grin fortunately she's massively chunky and wild now. Delicious.
She likes to sing Taylor Swift to us at 2 am hmm

almostanotherday Mon 01-Apr-13 00:17:36

Don't ever stop singing no matter how bad you or anyone elses says you are, who cares, you, your DH and your DS like it and that's all that matters smile

KittyAndTheFontanelles Mon 01-Apr-13 00:29:12

creameggkr thanks

What a beautiful story. Thank you for telling it

Softlysoftly Mon 01-Apr-13 03:23:59

How rude, you keep singing!

I made up a bedtime song accidently for dd1 when she was a baby as she had her night feed, stopped at 2 when she dropped the feed and read a book instead. When dd2 was born dd1 (now 3) told me to sing the "milky song" to her baby sister, didn't realise she had remembered and memorised it but she sang along until it came to the part "mummy and baba love you very much" to which she added her own name, so "mummy, baba and softlydd love u very much"

Makes me melt every time! So keep singing they remember, I hope in years to come that tune just makes them feel warm and safe smile

Never stop singing! I think DS spent the first year of his life thinking he'd been born into a musical. He still loves songs and asks for me to sing him a song before bed. It kept me same when he was little and made life go a little easier. I've started singing to DS2 now, but you've reminded me to do more!

ZebraOwl Mon 01-Apr-13 05:32:21

I think you need a Gilbert & Sullivan style song to belt at your MiL every time she starts being snarky about your singing. Maybe you could adapt I've Got A Little List to make it about her (& whoever else is grating on you) grin

Both my parents sang to me when I was wee & I actually find it easier to conjure up my mother's singing voice (she died when I was ten & a half) than to remember her speaking voice.

My father once ended up singing Christmas Carols to try to settle me when he'd run out of Other Things To Sing. As this was in the departure lounge of an Italian airport, in the summer, he got some funny looks, but I don't think he cared, especially once I finally settled as he sang "Away In A Manger".

TheNebulousBoojum Mon 01-Apr-13 05:43:30

Do you know the Scots classic 'Oh You Cannae Shove Your Granny Off a Bus' ?
www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2LW5igWmMU

Keep singing, I did and mine still remember. OH is a musician, it's the sound of our house rather than sniping and negativity and anger.
Which would you rather your son was surrounded by as he grows up?

can6342 Mon 01-Apr-13 06:40:25

Hee hee, I sing to my 4mo DS a lot, he loves it. Sometimes I get a tune stuck in my head and make up my own words.
My hubby overheard me singing as I went to change DS's nappy -to the tune of Tom Jones Sexbomb.
"Stink bomb, stink bomb, you're my stink bomb. Baby you can turn...(pause while I thought of something).. my stomach".

I didn't realise hubby was there, I thought he'd gone out, but he found it funny.
Keep singing to your little one smile

thezebrawearspurple Mon 01-Apr-13 06:42:22

yanbu I have lovely memories of my Granny always singing when I was young.

BrianButterfield Mon 01-Apr-13 06:56:55

It's very natural to sing to babies and it helps them learn the cadences and tones of spoken language.

DS is 19mo now, and we've been having hot cross buns for breakfast and singing the song. He sings along except he can't say 'cross' well so he plods around the house solemnly singing "HOT buns, HOT buns" - it's very cute.

YoothaJoist Mon 01-Apr-13 06:59:11

Please don't let this joyless, horrible woman put you off, OP.

Some of my happiest memories are of long car drives with my mum, singing songs together at the top of our lungs, doing all the harmonies and all the twiddly bits. Tears of laughter and joy. My relationship with my mum was not at all easy, but by Christ we could sing!

maddening Mon 01-Apr-13 07:21:40

Get it in while you can - ds now screams at me and shouts noooooooooo when I try ans sing to him.

LivingInAPinkBauble Mon 01-Apr-13 08:23:57

YANBU to sing lots. I remember my dad singing to me at bedtimes etc and I loved it!

HappySeven Mon 01-Apr-13 09:33:26

I seem to be going against the grain here but you do seem to be singing a lot. When it's just your family (you, DH and DS) then sing as much as you like but in company two songs an hour may grate on others. Maybe they like the silences or feel they can't speak until you've finished singing?

<dons hard hat and waits to be flamed>

TheNebulousBoojum Mon 01-Apr-13 09:35:20

Or you could turn off the monitor, so that the grumpy and unappreciative are allowed to remain so?
Or buy her some lovely, fluffy earmuffs?

ZZZenEggain Mon 01-Apr-13 09:43:07

have never experienced anyone singing to a dc at a pub lunch or during a walk in the country. I sang to dd but not with an audience of adults around. I can see how it could get on someone else's nerves

Cooroo Mon 01-Apr-13 09:49:56

Everyone's said it already but - don't stop! I have a lovely, funny, musical (and just occasionally stroppy) DD16 who I sang to all the time. I attribute the relatively easy teen years mostly to the singing in early years.

pictish Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:46

I think I kind of agree with Happyseven there.

I sang to mine when they were little...of course I did. I can even hold a tune!

Did I sing while we had visitors? No.

Sounds like you do a lot of singing, and in the spirit of being honest, I would find it irritating.

3 action songs in a half hour walk? I might want to walk in the other direction. Sorry.

CSIJanner Mon 01-Apr-13 09:52:09

I am now compiling a list of irritating songs that children love just to entertain MIL with for you grin

Little boxes on a hillside
10 little monkeys jumping on a bed
Wind the bobbin (because you can sing it endlessly whilst DC clap & point)
five little speckled frogs
Old MacDonald
The animals went in two by two (I use stuffed toys for this)
One man went to mow
Do your ears hang low
Here we go loopy loo

Guarenteed for bubba to love and to grate MIL

Mwah haa haa har!

pictish Mon 01-Apr-13 09:53:20

I have never seen anyone sing at a pub lunch either. I mean there's nothing wrong with it...it wouldn't bother me at all....but if the person singing did so much of it they couldn't even have lunch without a song, I'd be curling my toes.

CSIJanner Mon 01-Apr-13 09:53:33

AFWIW - I sing to mine all the time. Horses for courses. Some people hate it but my DC love it

HappySeven Mon 01-Apr-13 09:56:54

Phew, Pictish! smile

pictish Mon 01-Apr-13 09:57:59

3 action songs in a half hour walk, for a 5 month old baby, is overkill if you're in the company of anyone other than your dh. I want to be all cosy and cute and say how nice it is, but the fact is...I would be chewing my knuckles.

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood Mon 01-Apr-13 10:55:38

YANBU. You are doing something lovely.

I sang my DD1 to sleep until she was about 4. It was a the same 10 lullabies each night. Traditional, ie 'You are my sunshine'. By the time I got to the last which was 'I see the moon' she was asleep.

I don't have an amazing voice, though I can hold a tune.

I tried it with DD2 but it didn't work with her. In fact she was an early talker and around 18 months told me to 'stop noise!'

By the time DS came along I was a bit sung out. But he is 21 months and is breastfed to sleep instead. Those nighttime moments are precious to both mother and baby/child. What you are doing is lovely.

munchkinmaster Mon 01-Apr-13 11:02:32

DH is a famously bad singer. Tunes are totally unrecognisable when mangled by him. He sings all these terrible old folksongs to baby (which are all about death etc). She loves them. The other day I went out when DH was having a shower with baby in her little chair bring sung to (happens every day). We have no fan in the bathroom so you have to open the window a bit and I realised you could hear DH belting it out at the other end of our street!

(I do sometimes tell him the geneva convention has been on the phone due to his continued torture of an infant).

munchkinmaster Mon 01-Apr-13 11:08:38

Oh and singing totally calms my baby down. I'd love to get through a walk with only 3 songs. When baby was smaller I'd always be walking along singing to her like a loon to stop tears. I remember being in the changing cubicle at the swimming and baby went off on one and DH and I started belting out one man went to mow a meadow.

Hissy Mon 01-Apr-13 11:19:40

My hulking great 7 year old gets sung to all the time. I make up silly songs all the time. He loves it. "But, please Mummy, not in front of the people!"

Kids LOVE singing. I am so glad you sing to your baby. I still remember all the songs Mum used to sing to help me sleep when I was little and covered in eczema from head to foot. It was the only thing that could calm me down and stop me itching.

Hilarious story though - Celine Dion once said in an interview that every time she sang to her baby, he cried!

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 01-Apr-13 11:25:17

Oh your MIL sounds like an utter dick. Just tell her to shut up and that you have no respect for re opinions given that she is a twat.

Eliza22 Mon 01-Apr-13 11:30:28

How rude is she? Tell her, politely, to go fuck herself.

When my son was little, he hated all singing/rhymes/clap hands/peekaboo etc. When he could speak and I sang, he'd cry "no mummy! No!!" Years later, he was diagnosed with ASD.

Now, he's 12 and I'm allowed to sing again! He says "mum, you've such a good voice" and he won't sing with me, but loves all the silly songs I sing, especially when I make up the words cause I don't know the real ones. Babies usually LOVE singing.

Tell her to mind her own business. Makes me wonder what she was lie with her own kids..... Sounds like a bucket of cold water was poured on their childhood!

wreckedone Mon 01-Apr-13 11:36:23

I've sung to my lad since he was tiny. He loves it as part of his bedtime routine and often asks for songs during the day too-children love their mother's voice, no matter how bad everyone else says it is!!

elQuintoConyo Mon 01-Apr-13 11:36:24

Horrible undiplomatic comments she made. If anyone was that blunt I would cheerfully tell them to bog off.

DS has had songs about all sorts of shit: in his world, Old MacDonald has a jar, a pillar, some marbles, a waffley Mummy, a snake, some poo and Pocoyo on his farm, to name a few off the top of my head.

I also invented 15 verses to Hush Little Baby (cos the real ones are boring), which I hear is quite a popluar thing to do, although I had no idea.

One of DH's favourite memories is me singing Pulp's Live Bed Show to DS when he had colic!

* I can't sing for toffee/my life/shit

nokidshere Mon 01-Apr-13 11:37:04

Sing away and don't worry about her - just smile indulgently whilst making a ditty up in your head about her grin

I have always sung - to my own children, to my minded children, to my friends children lol... I have a rubbish voice but know lots of songs and can make one up at the drop of a hat for everything we do haha

The teenagers I drive to school (mine and friends) have even sung songs that I have made up to the little ones in the car! They veer between mortifyingly embarrassed to laughing hilariously.

meddie Mon 01-Apr-13 11:43:27

haha Elqiunto.. Our mcdonalds farm had giraffes,lizards and pandas. I used to invent sounds for animals, the silllier the better my kids loved it.

melika Mon 01-Apr-13 11:45:53

YANBU, tell her to feck off! It's your baby, your home, your life.

Most happy memories come to me when I remember the songs I used to make up for my DC. They even remember them. They are happy kids who now sing themselves (around the house).

Forget the bitch!

I used to sing to DC all the time as babies, all the nursery songs, songs from radio, and whatever popped into my head. Sometimes it was just " shut up and go to sleep little baby" to the tune of a nursery rhyme. blush In those sleep deprived months, not all the time.

ReallyTired Mon 01-Apr-13 11:55:13

Not read the whole thread, but is your MIL always that unpleasent?

Babies love being sung to. It helps their speech and makes them more intelligent.

KindleMum Mon 01-Apr-13 12:09:25

We both sang to ours a lot, and made up our own lyrics and still do - DS now makes up his own lyrics to songs which is quite sweet. But I wouldn't sing while out to lunch or generally with company. Apart from anything else, I'd feel it was being a bit "ignoring" of the visitors.

So YANBU to sing lots, but maybesing more when it's you, DCs and DH and less when you've company?

KindleMum Mon 01-Apr-13 12:09:58

Oh, but your MIL is being extremely rude and ill-mannered.

GeoffVader Mon 01-Apr-13 12:31:39

Try my DP, when DD was just learning to giggle, he used to sing 'Daddy Cool'

Not the whole song, just Daddy Cool, so it was a constant..Daddy, daddy coooool, daddy, daddy coooooool.

I let it slide as DD used to giggle like crazy at him. grin

Pandemoniaa Mon 01-Apr-13 15:51:54

3 action songs in a half hour walk, for a 5 month old baby, is overkill if you're in the company of anyone other than your dh. I want to be all cosy and cute and say how nice it is, but the fact is...I would be chewing my knuckles.

I agree. I think singing is brilliant - we all sang lots when my dcs were younger - but I don't think I'd inflict this amount of singing to a wider audience. Especially at a pub lunch and especially with a baby that can't actually join in either. It comes across as very much of a performance, I'm afraid, even if this isn't your intention.

JollyPurpleGiant Mon 01-Apr-13 15:56:46

Lidl are selling a CD with 125 children's songs on it. Bought one today. So excited about sharing it with DS.

I sing to DS all the time. I have an absolutely terrible singing voice. I'm very tone deaf. I'm not exaggerating at all when I say that.

DS loves it though and at 23mo knows loads of words to songs and rhymes. He will often finish my line if I get distracted and stop singing.

FrameyMcFrame Mon 01-Apr-13 16:00:34

She's jealous.

Ignore and keep on singing... LOUDER.

(by the way, singing and nursery rhymes are very beneficial to your DC's language development and emotional development)

JazzDalek Mon 01-Apr-13 16:19:43

YANBU

Singing to your children is completely lovely. I used to sing to DD when she was a baby because I didn't know what to say to her blush

They don't let me warble sing any more, tbf I am a terrible singer

I still remember all the words to the songs my mum used to sing when I was little - mostly Puff the Magic Dragon and the complete soundtrack to The Sound of Music grin

aldiwhore Mon 01-Apr-13 16:23:16

IGNORE.

I still sing to my boys and I'm shit but I can get comfy and they don't seem to mind.

(and it's all modern covers and mashed up country ballard versions of nursery rhymes, a bit of blues, bluegrass etc).

I used to think I wasn't making them happy thanks to stupid comments by people who weren't my intended audience, so ignore and sing until your children ask you to stop... and then sing to yourself.

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