Easter Eggs

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:41:22

I am a new granny, and baby is 10 months old. My beloved late dad had a thing about Easter Eggs for kids, so I asked my daughter what egg I should buy the little lad. She was adamant - no egg. Too young. Ridiculous. Unsafe. Unhealthy. I have this dream of seeing his lovely face smeared with chocolate, but it is not to be.

Am I out of date with what mums do now? Is it such a crime for a child to have chocolate at age 10 months? Just a small piece. Will it really ruin his two teeth and his stomach for the rest of his life?

Meg

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 02:43:34

Not wanting a 10 month old baby to have chocolate is perfectly reasonable. Wait till he's older.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:45:34

10 months is a bit young,

besides if its a precious new born you've got shit all chance of doing anything like this, wait til a few more kids turn up and suddenly you might be flavour of the month

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 02:45:55

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:48:08

Okay. Got the message. I am a bad granny.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:48:58

It's not necessarily that it's unsafe/unhealthy, I would give a 10 month old baby a bit of chocolate, it's the sheer mountain of easter eggs people so kindly give the children in their lives which is frightening!

It's lovely you just want to do something your GC might not have experienced before but you know they'd like, and you shouldn't take any offence at your DD saying something.

Surely it's a good thing for her to feel she can say what's on her mind? Much worse for her to not say and it fester until there's one almighty row.

It's OK for her to not want choc for her baby, didn't you speak up if there was something you didn't particularly want for your DC when they were little?

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 02:49:11

If you want to get him eggs for Easter, get the Tomy squeaky eggs, they are always a hit.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:50:00

Nobody's said you're a bad granny! grin

Don't be s'daft.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:51:49

But with mentioning the 'bad granny', has anything happened which has made you feel you don't measure up somehow?

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 02:54:13

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:58:16

I was only going to get a little one, and didn't imagine it would be fed to him in one go. I've never heard of Tomy Squeaky eggs. Not sold in our little village.

There's prob more to this than meets the eye. I ASKED about eggs and got the no go, the other grandparents probably won't ask and will just turn up with one. I feel like a loser already.

This grandparenting experience hasn't been good so far. Am always in the wrong.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:02:50

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 03:05:27

x

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:05:48

I'm sorry you always feel to be in the wrong, but if you've taken this decision to be some kind of criticism of you, are you sure you're not just seeing things through that negative lens?

She's probably just trying to save you shelling out for something she's going to eat, which is where her PILs egg will end up.

You're not a loser because this isn't a competition to see who loves the baby the most and who's behaving in the most grandparently manner.

You asked and she said she'd prefer you not to, you sound like you think she should have said yes just to make you feel better.

Would you really have been happy making her feel she can't say how she feels?

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kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:30:40

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 03:32:05

Thanks for your efforts WandaDoff. The eggs are on Amazon, as an old lady I don't know how to use Amazon and it worries me. But they are 12months+ so there is no way daughter will allow them.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:32:56

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:39:36

You're coming across as pretty prickly Meg.

I was laughing because of the over dramatic way you portrayed both your DD saying she'd rather not have an egg for her DC, and the way you took the first three non-offensive posts as saying you're crap at being a granny.

It was the outrageousness of the drama I was telling you not to be so daft about.

Not sarky or rude, and I was sympathetic before your last post.

And 'waiting for the next bf' is just a total arse of an opinion and thing to say, a lot of posters have grown up children, or even no children at all! shock

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:41:03

grin at ungrateful baggage though, lovely turn of phrase.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:42:22

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Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 03:44:32

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:46:39

Have to keep an eye out for the DDs thread tomorrow giving her take on what it feels like to have so much pressure on her to obey her mum kotinka.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:47:13

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:50:21

'Is it me you are addressing in your post saying "FFS you ungrateful baggage"?'

Not me Meg, I was just complimenting kotinka for finding a place for such a good expression.

I shall await with baited arsehole for your possible response.

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kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:51:17

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:51:41

Hehe, you're on the wind up meg.

grin

olympicsrock Sat 30-Mar-13 04:08:58

Oh dear what an over reaction. My ds is 16 months and i have only just started giving him a tiny taste of chocolate. He has been given an egg but to be honest it will be eaten by me. I second the tomy eggs perfectly safe for 10 month old and will be enjoyed until age 3. I thought your comment about breastfeeding mothers was unnecessary and bitchy Meg.
I am surprised that a career woman can't use the internet or Amazon. It is very simple. I suggest you swallow your pride and ask your local library to show you how. It would be particularly useful for you in a village to be able to shop online.

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 04:20:48

I'm in bed waiting for the next breastfeed and on MN. Maybe I'll order something from Amazon too.

Awakeagain Sat 30-Mar-13 04:23:31

Aibu to think that you posted in Aibu to get an answer!? You got one, didn't like it and are annoyed!!

If you've figured out posting in mumsnet I'm sure you can do amazon, if you are a world wise woman I'm sure you know the world stretches beyond your tiny village!!!

I'm afraid it's not about your dream of seeing gc covered in chocolate!!

livingdownunder Sat 30-Mar-13 04:25:44

I felt sorry for op, thought she must be struggling to find a role without being left out.
Then I burst out laughing at the post about waiting for the next breastfeed. Comedy gold.

Well done op. Lay an egg.

Angielka Sat 30-Mar-13 04:29:05

See, that's what I love about mn... you start reading a straightforward thread and all of a sudden the discussion takes an unexpected and highly entertaining twist. Wow.

Emilythornesbff Sat 30-Mar-13 05:43:37

I AM in bed b.feeding!
Thanks for something good to read
Happy Easter
grin (just really wanted to use that smiley ).

PurplePidjin Sat 30-Mar-13 05:46:55

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Pagwatch Sat 30-Mar-13 05:51:45

biscuit

(I hate the biscuit bhiss love this. It looks like a pissed bunny lying on its back)

50ShadesOfGreggs Sat 30-Mar-13 06:03:45

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ahhhh and i thought everyone had been lovely to the little old lady and then she comes back and posts meanness sad bad granny

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Sat 30-Mar-13 06:19:38

grin

Pickles101 Sat 30-Mar-13 06:26:19

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biscuit

toffeelolly Sat 30-Mar-13 06:47:24

grin grin

drinkyourmilk Sat 30-Mar-13 07:11:13

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BeCool Sat 30-Mar-13 07:16:48

So YOU have the baby chocolate face dream OP. this is about you not the baby. So you can deal with it.
YABU.

Tailtwister Sat 30-Mar-13 07:21:33

Don't be daft OP. So your DD doesn't want her baby to have chocolate yet, just accept her decision. Try not to take it so personally.

GirlOutNumbered Sat 30-Mar-13 07:29:04

Everybody needs a biscuit. Clearly a joke.

CheeryCherry Sat 30-Mar-13 07:29:30

bad granny grin Good try!

fouranddone Sat 30-Mar-13 07:46:55

Meg you are not outdated at all! I have 4dc and they all had an Easter egg before 1 year. Uptight parents, one small egg will not hurt x

FeijoaVodkaAndCheezels Sat 30-Mar-13 07:57:54

Such drama so early in the morning.

fouranddone Sat 30-Mar-13 07:59:01

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ZacharyQuack Sat 30-Mar-13 08:05:30

Gransnet invasion? grin

superstarheartbreaker Sat 30-Mar-13 08:05:33

OP: I think you have had some harsh responses and in turn you have risen to them. Things do get heated on here. Your dd is right imo....he is only 10 months. I know you want to treat him but wait til next year and don't even ask your dd...just bestow the gift. You need a thick skin on here. Who knew that Easter Eggs could be so controversial?

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Pagwatch Sat 30-Mar-13 08:20:54

Haha at OP has had some harsh responses grin

TobyLerone Sat 30-Mar-13 08:21:37

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Icelollycraving Sat 30-Mar-13 08:24:14

God I love these threads!!

DontmindifIdo Sat 30-Mar-13 08:26:18

OP - if you come back - you won't be the 'loser' granny, you'll be the granny who respected the parents feelings. the other grandparents will be the ones who did what they wanted.

I've got DN who is 11 months a baby book with bunnies on it, could you look for something like an Easter story book or a bunny book in the local book shop? Then you get to be the smug grandparent... wink

malteserzz Sat 30-Mar-13 08:29:56

I don't see what's wrong with a little chocolate for a 10 month old either they don't have to eat the whole egg the parents can finish it off !

GeoffVader Sat 30-Mar-13 08:37:57

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Buzzardbird Sat 30-Mar-13 08:44:36

Hang on I am an internationally known figure in my field ...she IS the Easter bunny!

Casserole Sat 30-Mar-13 08:56:45

Can use mumsnet but not amazon?
International career but limited to shopping in your village?

Not a chance.

Benefit of the doubt.

Give your daughter an Easter Egg instead. A nice rich Hotel Chocolat one or something. Then you can still give an Easter gift, but you're cutting out the middle man.

toffeelolly Sat 30-Mar-13 09:18:26

Nobody said you were a bad gramny meg, you did that yourself. Grow upgrin

pollywollydoodle Sat 30-Mar-13 10:01:28

grin grin fab thread bad granny meg!

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 10:22:47

grin at Buzzard.

I suppose it would rankle a tad if the Easter Bunnys relatives spurned the delicious Easter chocfest.

DeskPlanner Sat 30-Mar-13 10:29:07

I wouldn't at that age. YABU. Plenty of time for chocolate smearing.

DeskPlanner Sat 30-Mar-13 10:30:38

Oh, yes buy him the Tomy eggs. Around £6. Easter related and fab.

DeskPlanner Sat 30-Mar-13 10:47:01

Wish I'd learn to read the entire thread before posting. The comment about being in bed waiting for the next breastfeed makes you sound horrible. Don't really think your going to like this site if you can't cope with people answering your op honesty.

elQuintoConyo Sat 30-Mar-13 10:55:18

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Buzzardbird Sat 30-Mar-13 10:57:20

The Easter bunny needs to fulfill his destiny! Has no-one watched Hop? If you re-arrange op's name it is 8 m eg!

SomethingOnce Sat 30-Mar-13 11:00:05

Is this a wind up?

If not, I think there's more to this than Easter eggs. If it really is just about Easter eggs then, OP, I think you need to get a grip.

mrs2cats Sat 30-Mar-13 11:04:45

I personally would not give a chocolate egg to a 10 month old but I can understand how a new granny would want to spoil a grandchild, it's the first Easter etc etc.

I have a 10 month old niece and she'll be getting a cuddly bunny. If the parents want to give her chocolate then I think that's up to them, not me.

I agree that the Tomy eggs are great. My 2 dc had them when they were little and absolutely loved them. There are other ways to spoil baby.

Buzzardbird Sat 30-Mar-13 11:13:54

The Easter bunny needs to fulfill his destiny! Has no-one watched Hop? If you re-arrange op's name it is 8 m eg!

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 11:19:11

We watched Hop yesterday Buzz, and I'm not getting that cuddly bun vibe from the OP tbh grin

lottieandmia Sat 30-Mar-13 11:20:43

LOL @ Custardo 'wait til a few more kids turn up' - so true!

stealthsquiggle Sat 30-Mar-13 11:24:06

LOL - try again, OP. If you are going to play both the "internationally recognised expert" and the "poor old lady who can't do Amazon" cards in the same thread, you might want to leave a slightly larger gap between them.

Get him a cuddly bunny and be done with it.

ditziness Sat 30-Mar-13 11:37:24

Early learning centre do a set of nesting eggs for a fiver that are for nine months and over, if you want to buy a thoughful wee present.

diddl Sat 30-Mar-13 11:46:13

If I'm ever lucky enough to be a granny, I guess I#ll be a bad one, as it probably wouldn't even have occurred to me to askblush

I might just have bought an egg-of which either baby and/or parents could partake.

So I think kudos for asking tbh.

But then when you ask, you do need to be prepared for an answer that you don't like!

Bearbehind Sat 30-Mar-13 12:25:23

Blimey OP, do you realise how selfish it sounds to say YOU have a dream of seeing your grandson with chocolate smeared all over his face but your daughter won't let you buy an egg.

She's his mother, it's her choice not yours. They'll be plenty more Easters when you can live your dream.

You sound like a lot of hard work, it's no wonder your granny experience hasn't lived up to your expectations.

Surely an international master of the universe expert in their field can see the irony in playing the little old lady card by not being able use Amazon (but managing perfectly well to register and post on MN) and only being able to buy things from the village shop, whilst holding down such an important job.

If you react in every day life in the way you have on here to things not going your way it's no wonder your relationship with your daughter and grandson isn't what you hoped.

I really can't see why you even felt the need to mention your work staus on here as it is in no way relevant to your OP and you don't just get respect from people outside of work just because of what you do at work and people don't have to agree with everything you say just because you are older than them.

ThedementedPenguin Sat 30-Mar-13 12:45:03

Haha this is very funny.

I actually felt sorry for the op until it turned major bitchy.

My 6 month old ds has had chocolate and is getting an Easter egg. I never refuse as its more chocolate for me smile

ThedementedPenguin Sat 30-Mar-13 12:45:25

smile

bear

JudithOfThePascha Sat 30-Mar-13 12:57:47

I think it's unlikely the OP will return, but just in case - Meg, you are going to face far bigger issues over your years as a granny than an Easter egg. Re-read the posts you've written on this thread and try to take a step back to see them from other people's perspective. I'm sure you are a very caring granny, but you really don't seem to have considered your daughter's feelings at all and really do come across as incredibly selfish. I'm afraid Easter is not purely for the benefit of Granny's realising their dream of grandchildren covered in chocolate and your daughter did not have a child purely so you could do whatever you wanted as a Granny. If you want your daughter and her family to WANT you around and enjoy being with you, then I suggest you adopt a less selfish approach and consider how she feels knowing you are having a rather childish strop about an Easter egg.

Finally, and this really is rather important if you want to continue using MN, you didn't ask for help, you posted in "Am I Being Unreasonable?" Some posters have said you are not being unreasonable, so you may choose to only consider their views, as many who post in AIBU do, but unfortunately for you, many posters have said you ARE being unreasonable. This is the risk you run when you ask people if you are being unreasonable, I'm afraid. If you want 'help', then I suggest posting in Chat and actually defining what 'help' you need. In this case, perhaps developing a better relationship with your daughter?

midastouch Sat 30-Mar-13 12:58:15

i brought my DD 11 months an easter egg but she will have a few buttons from it and DS and myself will eat the actual egg.

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