To wonder if my friend is completely taking the piss?

(49 Posts)
Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:20:05

Went out for the day today with my friend, her child and my 3DC.

We came back to my house where I cooked a meal for everyone.

While we were waiting for the meal to cook the kids (all teenage) occupied themselves while my friend and I had a glass of wine.

She then asked if she could watch Neighbours - her "guilty pleasure". She knows I never watch any soaps. I said yea okay if you must.

While she did that I made a fire as she complained she was cold, and continued with dinner.

After Neighbours she watched Home and Away while I joked about turning it off, and said why do you want the TV on.

Two of my DC's came in after that and sat down and turned it over to friends, which she complained about massively. I then sent a couple of texts to my partner who is supposed to be on patrol with the RN but has been delayed, saw him for 2 days this week after 5 weeks apart and he is supposed to have gone away for 15 weeks with no contact and now will be next week. She complained constantly about wanting to watch Corrie as "I was in my phone".

She left later and I text her to see if she got home safe she replied "yes thanks, you were some what preoccupied but always here for you".


How do I respond?

Jemma1111 Fri 29-Mar-13 22:23:38

You could say that the next time she visits you will have some grapes in and will sit peeling them for her

GreenJeans Fri 29-Mar-13 22:24:12

I wouldn't reply at all....

PenguinBear Fri 29-Mar-13 22:24:31

I'd say just ignore it!

weblette Fri 29-Mar-13 22:25:03

Personally I'd be telling her to just fuck off but you're obviously nicer than me...

gallifrey Fri 29-Mar-13 22:26:53

My friend came round the other day and spent most of the time on her bloody iphone!
I was so tempted to say something like "am I boring you?" but I didn't because I'm not brave enough...

GreenJeans Fri 29-Mar-13 22:29:32

I stopped meeting up with a friend as she spent the whole of each meeting either playing on her phone, talking on her phone, or talking about herself.

aldiwhore Fri 29-Mar-13 22:30:00

You're probably both NBU and BU.

You had a whole day together, you should have both known when to say goodbye (before tea/programmes/need to text people).

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:32:04

I texted my partner a couple of times. After tomorrow I won't be able to text/speak with him until July.

pigletpower Fri 29-Mar-13 22:33:05

Text her that she was too preoccupied being a cunt to notice anything you did for her!!!

Bluelightsandsirens Fri 29-Mar-13 22:37:02

A simple Really? Would be all I sent back.

Does she not have sky + ? Any worthy tele addict records everything incase they need to miss it!

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 29-Mar-13 22:37:02

I would probably reply, I am surprised you noticed. Did you glance over at me between soaps?

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:38:21

Yes she told me mid Home and Away she had it all Sky Plussed anyway confused

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 22:38:57

There are some friendships where you just act as though you were in your own home, and in that light it'd be good she felt so comfortable and knows you so well she thought she had telly voting rights as to what's on.

But her having a dig at you about you not paying her enough attention when she was glued to the box is a bit bloody rich!

If you get on with her normally and she's either not prone to being like this or you've accepted it as an annoying, but small, part of her, I agree you should ignore.

If your DH is off for a while you might need all the support you can get?

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 22:40:54

Hahahaha No! don't do what piglet suggested grin

It's a crying shame to waste such a good text though grin

bugdem Fri 29-Mar-13 22:41:44

Gossip, I would be careful what you are saying about when boats are deploying and being delayed. Loose lips sink ships and all that.

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:42:06

Yes you are right Az. sad

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:44:24

Oh thanks bugden that hadn't crossed my tiny mind hmm

babanouche Fri 29-Mar-13 22:46:31

Could it be that you were preoccupied making the dinner? Maybe she felt a bit out on a limb. I agree she sounds a bit off. Just offering a different perspective.

bugdem Fri 29-Mar-13 22:46:47

It wasn't a dig, when you are in the lifestyle it's easy to talk about it and mention stuff without realising, have done it myself in the past. confused

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:48:38

Well I never do. I am not in the lifestyle. I don't know anything to mention anything.

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 22:49:57

Although it's never better to have a friend who makes you feel like shite than no friend at all.

It depends on how much of the time she's like that.

And people are always pointing out negative things they see in other people when you know full well they're the worst for doing it themselves!

They just can't seem to see it in themselves for some reason.

bugdem Fri 29-Mar-13 22:50:05

Well you just did mention that the boat was delayed and that it's sailing tomorrow. That's exactly the sort of info you don't share.

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:56:07

Where is the boat going from? What is the name of the boat?

Where is it going to?

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 22:56:29

It'd be a very sad spy who had to resort to MN to get details of what the RN are up to bugdem grin

You'd hope they'd be gunning for something a bit more definite and helpful than sketchy details which could have been changed.

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 22:56:58

<gets on fb to Rusky handlers>

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 22:57:50

Quite hmm

QuintEggSensuality Fri 29-Mar-13 22:59:51

How about replying: "Thats a bit rich coming from the person who insisted on watching 3-4 soaps while I was waiting for wall paper to start peeling of boredom"

bugdem Fri 29-Mar-13 23:02:42

Not a high chance admittedly but still a risk none the less.

I can answer 2 of your 3 questions gossip however wouldn't do so on a public forum. Unfortunately only David Cameron and the Captain can tell you where they are going.

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 23:06:57

Really? bugdem my OH knows where they are going but he would never be so unprofessional as to tell me.

And I am pretty sure any terrorists/spies will not be on Mumsnet to garner what little vague info I give on here. smile

Flojobunny Fri 29-Mar-13 23:14:47

Don't see what your problem is OP. You spent the whole day with her and she watched telly while u were host. She sent you at text offering support. What exactly is the problem?

AgentZigzag Fri 29-Mar-13 23:18:27

Maybe it could be read like that flojo, that she was saying she could tell the OP was stressed at knowing she's not going to be in contact with her DH for so long, which could explain why she just took herself off to watch the telly and get out from under the OPs feet?

Gossipmonster Fri 29-Mar-13 23:25:37

I was in the room.

Coconutty Fri 29-Mar-13 23:34:38

I'm a spy and as soon as I've worked out what RN stands for, I'm telling Red Squirrel.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 00:15:51

Not found the Mi5 forum acronym list yet Coco?

You deciding to go shopping instead of going to the How To Talk Spy course really tells.

Viviennemary Sat 30-Mar-13 00:23:22

Reply sorry I was to pre-occupied cooking your meal and making sure you were warm. What an ungrateful pain she sounds.

pigletpower Sat 30-Mar-13 01:00:20

Bugdem-for fucks sake, this is hardly Bletchley Park is it?!hmm

Gossipmonster Sat 30-Mar-13 06:06:38

Bugdem are you my friend? hmm

Chottie Sat 30-Mar-13 06:11:10

OP I would ignore the text and all the other snippy comments on this thread

Pagwatch Sat 30-Mar-13 06:11:50

Hahaha @ spysnet

maddening Sat 30-Mar-13 07:40:52

I'd reply "I know - next time it's a takeout and no tv so we can catch up properly - I love our catch ups smile you get to choose the vino gossip x"

TobyLerone Sat 30-Mar-13 07:48:54

Actually, I was on your side until I saw your replies and humphy faces to bugdem. Now it's made me wonder whether you are always so quick to get arsey.

FamiliesShareGerms Sat 30-Mar-13 07:51:11

This is one of those situations where no-one can really tell who was BU. Sounds like you were both pre-occupied. If you're good friends you'll get over it. maddening's text sounds like a good idea to mend fences.

LondonKitty Sat 30-Mar-13 08:04:44

Yes, I think FamiliesShareGerms is right. Your friend's text sounds like she totally didn't register you were miffed, although it is understandable that you were. I think in this situation, you both perceived things differently.

Spynet sounds fun btw...

RenterNomad Sat 30-Mar-13 09:37:13

Hmm... those FB and twitter buttons are winking away... Has anyone got MI5 following her/him on twitter?! grin

Whatalotofpiffle Sat 30-Mar-13 11:27:10

Bloody text messages are always read wrong. I am a cm and the amount of time I spend reading, re reading, deliberating over replies when I think a parent has been out of order etc etc

Ring her x

saulaboutme Sat 30-Mar-13 12:41:53

I hate this. she sounds like a soap addict! I don't watch soaps either but I know slot if people who do and the world stops when they are on.
Anyhow, I definitely think you should say to her that she hasn't appreciated the end of your day together.
if she wanted to watch her guilty pleasure she should have gone home, especially as she wanted the TV all to herself.
she's used you texting your partner as an excuse.
I was at a friends house recently and another friend was there who was in a massive silk because she couldn't get the TV to work to watch Neighbours . My friend had her elderly mum there who was already saying it was nice to sit and chat without distractions but she didn't care. I was so mad at her attitude and I actually left.
I'd tell your friend to think about what she's saying and next time you won't bother with dinner and she can go home.

saulaboutme Sat 30-Mar-13 12:43:26

Sorry typos, touch phone

Whatalotofpiffle Sat 30-Mar-13 14:01:06

Just re read OP and are you sure she was even referring to you texting? Maybe she just meant on general during the day, which maybe you were if RN posting on your mind

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