to want to take the bedding back that my DH bought?

(37 Posts)
Rocksie Fri 29-Mar-13 21:17:29

I mentioned to my DH that I had ordered some bedding but wouldn't be delivered for a few weeks as it is currently out of stock.

I went out today with the kids and on my return he surprised me with a new duvet set that he had put on the bed.

Lovely idea, but it's not something that I would of chosen. Every time I walk in the bedroom I think I wish we had a different one.

He has the hump with me a bit as I told him that I didn't like it and I hate the colour - it's a bit orangey. He went to work and left it on the bed.

Now I know I am being ungrateful and probably should of been a bit more tactful but do I leave it and live with it or should I change it for something else?

YouTheCat Fri 29-Mar-13 21:18:25

Leave it. How much time do you spend staring at a duvet cover? confused

HollyBerryBush Fri 29-Mar-13 21:18:55

Turn the lights out - you wont see it when you are asleep.

will it grow on you, he did a nice thing but I do see your point.

Ruprekt Fri 29-Mar-13 21:21:06

Live with it.

HE likes it and was trying to do something nice for you.

countrykitten Fri 29-Mar-13 21:22:18

He did do a lovely thing but orange....not good. I only have white/cream and nothing else so it would drive me nuts. However - in the interests of keeping the peace and all that....smile

CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 29-Mar-13 21:22:26

You might struggle to take back bedding that has been opened, and put on the bed. It couldn't be resold for hygiene reasons.

Regardless, he bought bedding that he thought you'd like, and put in on the bed. It'd be a proper kick in the face to take it back. Leave it, and swap it for yours when it arrives. Eventually it'll just remind you of him being sweet.

My DH said I could choose the duvet cover (we bought a new bed) because he doesn't spend as much time in bed as I do (cheeky fecker)

But I wouldn't buy something he didn't like hmm

Can you buy a nice throw to put over the top.And just remove it when you go to sleep?

aldiwhore Fri 29-Mar-13 21:29:12

YANBU.

I left my our bed in arty swishy go with anything colours, returned to find new BROWN bedding. DH will not learn. It's already gone.

When I met him he had a penchant for buying covers that looked like the Serengeti on acid or a carefully dissected Zebra, that has yellowed slightly in the sun... which is okay, but not really in keeping with his Welsh roots. (Though a dragon would have been equally unacceptable).

I'm not precious (honest) but I don't like tones of yellow/dead zebra.

Rocksie Fri 29-Mar-13 21:41:38

Thank you, I think I was being (partially) unreasonable! In the grand scheme of things.....

I think I'll keep the peace and live with it - until my new one is delivered smile

Why don't men learn to leave the decor to us!

Lueji Fri 29-Mar-13 21:48:15

Maybe he has the same feelings about what you choose? grin

startwig1982 Fri 29-Mar-13 21:51:30

Yabu. He's done a nice thing and you're being a bit ungrateful. You don't have to look at it that much. Maybe keep it as a guest duvet set/spare set if you're that bothered.

Rocksie Fri 29-Mar-13 22:03:21

I agree I was being unreasonable and I'm sure he feels the same about the things I choose although I do usually ask his opinion first.

Hopefully he'll be happy when he sees it still on the bed.

Thanks for all your opinions sometimes it good to hear what others have to say x

littlejo67 Fri 29-Mar-13 22:04:07

It was his choice and he likes it, its not all about what you want. He sounds very thoughtful. No wonder he had the hump he is probably disappointed. I have things in the house I wouldn't have chosen but they have been chosen by someone I love so it makes it ok.

treas Fri 29-Mar-13 22:08:08

Isn't it his bedroom too? Surely you can live with it until the next laundry wash - on the positive side bet your bedding will get changed more frequently nowgrin

Eurgh Rocksie did he put it straight on the bed out of the packet without washing it first?

If so then he is definately BU.
It will be all stiff and have that new bedding smell shock

If I had small children I would 'invite' them in for a cuddle for they could dribble or leak on it.

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 01:24:08

Accidentally burn it with the iron?

Ericaequites Sat 30-Mar-13 01:30:48

When my brother left his wife, he bought chartreuse sheets and duvet cover. For Christmas, I made him a navy, red, and white quilt. My sister bought him white sheets piped in red.
My DH had a purple and olive duvet before he met me. I made a cover for it after we had dated a few months.
Most straight men should not be trusted in the soft furnishings or bed/bath departments...

mirai Sat 30-Mar-13 01:47:57

would have / should have

teacherlikesapples Sat 30-Mar-13 01:57:22

yabu. He has chosen something that he likes, surely his opinion counts for something?

Not only that he has made a thoughtful gesture & you have basically dismissed it. Why would he bother to make such an effort again?

When your bedding arrives you can always swap it out.

ComposHat Sat 30-Mar-13 02:24:40

Who made you the bedding Nazi? Do you ever consult him about the colour of the bedding? He might find your rigid insistence on cream and white to be dull.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:25:50

i call godwin on compo

there should be a linky law

if you want an opinion - provide a linky woman!

CSIJanner Sat 30-Mar-13 04:27:17

You could use it as the spare set for when the cat sicks up a hair ball, the tea gets spilt or the LO's have an accident on your bed. But you should still use it as he did try to help and its his home too.

Would it help if you thought of the orange as sun shiney cheer?

maddening Sat 30-Mar-13 08:18:09

Get a throw

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 30-Mar-13 08:21:04

YANBU

Purchases like bedding should be discussed beforehand.

carabos Sat 30-Mar-13 08:31:13

Just use it a lot for a few weeks and then gradually retire it, he won't notice. Men are all about immediate validation and short attention spans for stuff like that. He didn't choose it cos he likes it, he chose it to do a nice thing.

Khaleese Sat 30-Mar-13 08:41:17

My dh is not even empowered to buy cups after bringing some hideous mugs home! White we have white china, how he missed this lord only knows.

Bedding we have white....see the theme.

quoteunquote Sat 30-Mar-13 09:08:27

bedspread?

Just order a nice one, keep the bedding, then everyone is happy.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Sat 30-Mar-13 09:32:51

I have two of the same bedspread so I can put any duvet cover on underneath and cover it up so it looks fine.

MadamFolly Sat 30-Mar-13 10:26:19

DP bought black satin sheets, pillow cases and duvet covers (cheap primark ones) when he was a student. I took the piss relentlessly and refused to sleep on them more than once, he just had to come over to mine.

They were so slippery, the pillows would shoot off the bed at speed and the duvet would be slithering all over the place.

I think he though they looked cool confused

gotthemoononastick Sat 30-Mar-13 11:18:35

yes yes Madamfolie!!!Same happened to me when silk bedding was bought in Hong Kong,because other men were buying such bargains!We are old and could break a hip slithering off!Huge strange sizing too.I am hugely ungrateful!!

gotthemoononastick Sat 30-Mar-13 11:19:31

Sorry MadamFolly even!

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 14:00:26

MadamFolly He was (to his mind) a playboy student with pimp bedsheets! A girl in his bed totally validates that, even if she slides out! Good on you for playing along just the once. I'd have indulged that a couple more times, just to laugh at the satisfied look on his face as he imagined himself as Hugh Hefner.

I'd take ugly/silk sheets with my boyfriend atm, at least buying new sheets would mean sleeping in clean ones. I'll be damned if I'm doing any mans washing before theres a ring on my finger!

ComposHat Sat 30-Mar-13 14:41:50

Madam black satin sheets screams wannabe ladies man from the 70s, one step removed from the revolving waterbed. Did he splash on some Brut and ask you up to his room to see 'his etchings'

In my head your partner resembles Robin Askwith in the Confessions... films!

Lueji Sat 30-Mar-13 14:45:54

TBH, I have some stuff I don't like that my mother gave me. I tend to put them on the be often hoping they will be unusable soon. grin Or keep it for guests and stuff.

Viviennemary Sat 30-Mar-13 14:47:40

It's done now. So just have it as a spare set. You can hardly return it when it's been unpacked and put on the bed. My DH is forbidden to buy anything as it's always awful.

MadamFolly Sat 30-Mar-13 15:27:20

DP is so lovely and usually has alright taste, not a ladies man at all. No idea what was going through his head when he got them.

They were the epitome of vile and awful and I let him know it.

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