To think I should be allowed to have a mushroom free meal?

(87 Posts)

I know it's petty but here goes.
I don't like mushrooms, never have. I'm 22+3 weeks PG and DH is cooking lasagne. He asked if he could put mushrooms in and I said if you absolutely must then can you chop them really small cos I really can't bear the texture. He just sliced them. I'm pissed off. I'm hungry, was looking forward to lasagne a d now I'm just going to be miserable and ungrateful that he cooked. AIBU or is he a selfish arse?

PS last night he put mushrooms in peppercorn sauce so I had steak with no sauce - which was fine with me...

specialsubject Fri 29-Mar-13 19:16:58

YABU. Pick them out.

Annunziata Fri 29-Mar-13 19:17:41

Why on god's green earth is he putting mushrooms in lasagne? confused

Anyway. Either say, no, you don't want them in, or pick them out.

ouryve Fri 29-Mar-13 19:18:19

DH shares your aversion. If they're too big for him, he just picks them out.

YANBU Shrooms are vile and shouldn't be eaten. Why anyone eats them I don't know.

HollyBerryBush Fri 29-Mar-13 19:18:50


If this were posted by a woman talking about her male partner, the majority opinion would be - cook it your bloody self.

I have little truck with faddy eaters. If you can eat them diced up, you can eat them sliced, ergo you are faddy.

VestaCurry Fri 29-Mar-13 19:19:30

Ooh, another mushroom thread, yum!

Kansas Fri 29-Mar-13 19:19:41


Seriously. Although I'm pissy about food when I'm not pregnant! You could just pick them out though

BitBewildered Fri 29-Mar-13 19:21:04

I hate mushrooms too, because of the texture. YADNBU!

karatekimmi Fri 29-Mar-13 19:21:31

Nope when you're carrying someone else's child then they should bow down to your every whim! I hit the roof when "D"H had the audacity to put hot pepper sauce in the pasta sauce. It gave me indigestion for hours!! He had a lot if grovelling to do! Mainly making chic spread and biscuit sandwiches!

However if you said he could then there is the problem. "No the baby doesn't like mushrooms" is a better answer <grin>

Yama Fri 29-Mar-13 19:21:33

Ooh, my second mushroom thread of the night.

YANBU - Mushrooms are a fungus. You wouldn't eat Athlete's Foot would you?

You are allowed to have a mushroom free meal, of course you are. You just need to go cook it. grin You're not allergic, and slices are far easier to pick out than small pieces.

YANBU to be annoyed about it though, I'm 15+3 and feeling very stabby about far more petty things!

karatekimmi Fri 29-Mar-13 19:22:11

Choc spread!!! Not sure I'd want chic spread even if it is Easter!!

JollyYellowGiant Fri 29-Mar-13 19:22:48

Pick them out and put each one on his plate.

DH would like mushrooms more often, but I do the bulk of the shopping so I simply don't buy them

I will pick em out but that going to be a 'mare in lasagne... It's not a normal
Lasagne ingredient is it?!?

I know I'm petty but AIU when I'm upduffed and therefore more particular and fussy than normal?!
Maybe I'll just eat biscuit's wink

kinkyfuckery Fri 29-Mar-13 19:24:09

So you eat them, but only cut a certain way? confused

Cook it your bloody self.

Surely if they are 'too big', you can pick them out?

You are pregnant.

You are entitled to be as fussy, unreasonable, picky and flouncy as you like.

HollyBerryBush Fri 29-Mar-13 19:27:01

Mushrooms do go in lasagne.

>looks @ you lot oddly<

kinky my point is I can't bear the texture - if they're small enough I don't notice.
Thanks all, seems the majority think I should cook every night rather than the 6 days a week I do cook. Glad to know I'm not the only mushroom hater tho ;-)

HumphreyCobbler Fri 29-Mar-13 19:30:19

I wouldn't put in an ingredient my DH hated into a meal.

youmaycallmeSSP Fri 29-Mar-13 19:31:22

DH doesn't like mushrooms; I love them. I consequently only eat mushrooms when we're eating out. I sometimes feel a little sad that I don't get to try out yummy-looking meals at home but in the scheme of things it doesn't really matter. So YANBU.

YANBU - I hate them to although if I am cooking I leave them really big (1/4's) and they are easy to chuck at pass to DH with little danger of me accidentally eating one. DH has been trained to do the same when cooking if he wants to be allowed the hateful things.

They are the work of the devil - like eating rubbers with about the same taste I should imagine.

cantspel Fri 29-Mar-13 19:34:30

HumphreyCobbler my oh doesn't like any veg apart from potatoes. Does that mean i should never cook anything with veg in it just because he wants to be a fussy begger?

LittleBearPad Fri 29-Mar-13 19:37:42

YANBU. I don't mind mushrooms but they do have a fairly unique texture that DH hates so I tend not to cook with them.

Plus they do NOT belong in lasagne.

Jengnr Fri 29-Mar-13 19:37:46

Only wrong 'uns don't like mushrooms.

However it isn't unreasonable to expect food you hate to not be served to you by your partner. But you said he could put them in. So it's 2-1 to him in my book.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Fri 29-Mar-13 19:39:05

I hate mushrooms; I would detect and pick them out at ANY size. I will never, ever eat them.

You are being a precious snowflake though, you can't be THAT fussy if you'll eat them if they're small enough to be hidden. That's just lazy.

And no, pregnancy is NOT an excuse to be princessy, it's annoying and nobody thinks it's cute or even acceptable. A woman also makes the decision to carry a child, it's not a 'favour' so no reason to behave as if it is.

goodfreyedaysusan Fri 29-Mar-13 19:43:19

mmm mushroomssss.

oops sorry, yanbu. why would anyone deliberately include something someone else hates?

BumpingFuglies Fri 29-Mar-13 19:43:25

Blardy mushrooms are in EVERYTHING. I am allergic to them (stomach cramps and vomiting) but I actually really like them sad

But if you don't like them, from the 2 dishes you described, he could have added them afterwards. I do this all the time for my mushroom-loving family.

He is a selfish arse, yes.

Wallison Fri 29-Mar-13 19:44:51

I agree with HollyBerryBush. Mushrooms go in bolognese and therefore they go in lasagne.

They also go in peppercorn sauce.

This is the LAW.

Wallison Fri 29-Mar-13 19:46:06

How can you add mushrooms to a lasagne after it's been cooked? Sprinkle them on the top?

Annunziata Fri 29-Mar-13 19:48:02

Mushrooms do not go in lasagne or bolognese!

I am Italian, so I win wink

HumphreyCobbler Fri 29-Mar-13 19:48:17

cantspel - no, I think your situation is different. People should be allowed to dislike some foods, I dislike sprouts intensely and I would not expect my DH to deliberately make food containing them.

fussy beggars should do their own cooking

HavingALittleFaithBaby Fri 29-Mar-13 19:48:32

YANBU I love mushrooms, DH hates them. I never cook with them!

dingit Fri 29-Mar-13 19:48:57

Yabu. He sounds like a really fungi.

ArtemisiaGentileschisThumb Fri 29-Mar-13 19:50:28

Yanbu! Mushrooms are the devils toe fungus and a pregnant woman should be able to dictate the menu. Ltb!

Okay maybe not ltb but def spit in his tea the next time you make one (which should be sometime after you have the baby because a pregnant woman should never have to make her own tea either)

littlepeas Fri 29-Mar-13 19:51:14

YANBU! I think if someone really doesn't like something then nobody has it. I love pesto, but dh hates it, so we never have it at home. I have it if he is away or when we go out.

ElphabaTheGreenAndBlacks Fri 29-Mar-13 19:51:57

As a vegetarian, I only have mushrooms in my lasagne - bechamel, pasta, garlic mushrooms, cheese, pasta, tomato sauce, repeat. Dee-lish-uss grin

An Italian would have a conniption at the idea of mushrooms in a meat lasagne sauce or bolognese, though.

Mumsyblouse Fri 29-Mar-13 19:52:22

I cut them bigger so my dd2 can pick them out, surely it's worse to have them chopped up finely?

Toasttoppers Fri 29-Mar-13 19:52:26

I like mushrooms but tell him he has committed a culinary crime putting them in a lasagne. He is also mean.

crashdoll Fri 29-Mar-13 19:54:34

If you eat too many biscuit you won't have mush-room for lasagne. Sorry! grin

whilewildeisonmine Fri 29-Mar-13 19:55:43

Maybe there's not mushroom in the fridge and he's trying to make space?

aldiwhore Fri 29-Mar-13 19:56:22

Always always ask for gross stuff (whatever it is) to be chopped BIG so you can take it out.

YABU for that alone.

YANBU to wish for at least one mushroom free meal every now and then.

mamij Fri 29-Mar-13 19:58:04

I love mushrooms!

Although wrong of your DH to deliberately put it in your meals when you dislike them.

And YANBU seeing as you're pregnant! And being pregnant rules over any mushroom loving husbands smile

lemonstartree Fri 29-Mar-13 20:00:30

Mushrooms are the devils food. They should be avoided at l costs YADNBU. He can have fried fungus on the side if he wants them THAT much.

Fortunately for me, DP hates mushrooms as much as I do

EuroShaggleton Fri 29-Mar-13 20:04:54

Surely it's better for him to leave them big so you can pick them out? That's what Mr Euro does (I like them, he doesn't; he cooks).

hugoagogo Fri 29-Mar-13 20:07:08

Mushrooms are disgusting, if he really wants them in the lasagne (which is WRONG by the way)

He could sprinkle them in the layers on one side only, or make individual lasagnes one with the evil little rubbery fungi and one nice one.

I love peas, dh hates them, therefore I don't put them in fish pies, or soups or curry even though I would like to, because that would be selfish and mean.


Pozzled Fri 29-Mar-13 20:08:53

YANBU. I hate mushrooms, my DH loves them. If he wants them, they will be cooked separately, it doesn't matter if it's me or him doing the cooking, we have an understanding about it! Similarly, he can't stand sweetcorn, so I won't ever put it in a meal for us to share.

Pozzled Fri 29-Mar-13 20:10:49

Oh, and cutting them into big pieces does NOT make it ok. They will contaminate the rest of the meal.

DragonMamma Fri 29-Mar-13 20:11:27

My DH doesn't like mushrooms. I do and I'm the cook so they go in whatever I want them to. I cut them big enough that he can pick them out easily. Simple.

Bue Fri 29-Mar-13 20:12:17

YANBU. It's just a bit rude to cook with an ingredient you know your partner actively dislikes, when it's mixed in and difficult to extract from the dish! DH actively hates a couple of foods that I love (peanut butter for one). It sucks that I don't get to make proper pad thai or peanut noodles for dinner, but I can have them on my own when he's not there. It would be pretty mean to make something I know he's not going to like.

marriedinwhiteagain Fri 29-Mar-13 20:12:26

My FIL wasn't fussy - god rest his soul. He didn't like:

cruciferous veg (cauli - broc)
beef or lamb unless incinerated

He also for breakfast had to have: glass of orange juice, muesli with sun pat raisins (only sun-pat), with the top of the milk, slice of wholemeal toast with lurpak and lime marmalade, a braeburn apple, tea (milk in first) with a teaspoon of honey (set not runny). In the aforementioned order. I almost swung for him.

If someone takes the trouble to cook for you - eat it and be glad. If you don't like it thank them and make yourself something on toast.

ENormaSnob Fri 29-Mar-13 20:14:52

I despise them but I still cook with them for everyone else. I cut them big so I can pull them out of my portion.

WandaDoff Fri 29-Mar-13 20:20:56

I craved mushrooms when I was pregnant with DS2. I ate them every way I could think of, either in the food or on the side.

MumOfTheMoos Fri 29-Mar-13 20:23:23

Mushrooms have no place in lasagne; all you need to make a lasagne is onion, a bit of carrot and celery (optional), pork mince, beef mince, canned tomatoes. Pasta sheets, white sauce and some Parmesan. That's it.

How rude to put things you don't like into a meal and expect you to eat it. I would never do that to my DH.

Frankly, I'm not entirely convinced that mushrooms have a place on this earth - they are neither animal, mineral or vegetable - they must therefore be alien.

Pandemoniaa Fri 29-Mar-13 20:24:46

Mushrooms do not go in lasagne or bolognese! I am Italian, so I win

Indeed they do not! I may not be Italian but DP lived in Italy and we return regularly. So we get quite unreasonable over the determination some people over here have do ruin a perfectly good ragù sauce.

So yes, your dp WBU to put mushrooms in there in the first place but actually, if they go in sliced surely they are easier to pick out?

KitchenandJumble Fri 29-Mar-13 20:25:00

Pick them out. It can't be that difficult. I spent years picking mushrooms out of things, then oddly acquired a taste for them. I quite like them now.

I don't think that people should cater constantly to the likes and dislikes of their spouses. My mother has spent 40+ years cooking only the foods my father likes. She will never, ever cook something that she likes and he doesn't. I don't mean things he's allergic to or loathes, just meals he prefers. Drives me batty. Why do his preferences always have to come first?

If your DH had cooked an entire meal based on mushrooms, I would say YANBU. But you can eat the rest of the lasagne, can't you? So I think YABU.

Sidge Fri 29-Mar-13 20:26:04

Mushrooms - fungus of Satan!

And all you mushroom-lovers saying "pick them out" - that's not the answer because the vile mushroomy fungus taints everything and ruins the whole dish.

So there.

(But to the OP - YABU to say he could corrupt the lasagne by putting them in at all so you only have yourself to blame, pregnant or not)

badguider Fri 29-Mar-13 20:30:39

I hate peppers.. not chilli peppers or jalapeno just "bell" peppers (green, red and yellow) and my DH would never put them in a meal he's cooking for us. Why would he? There are only two of us, it's not that hard to find things we both like... not like he's catering for an army or a wedding dinner!

He eats peppers when he's cooking for himself only.

I wouldn't put anything he doesn't like in a meal for both of us, or cook him a meal he dislikes. Again, why would I?

RevoltingPeasant Fri 29-Mar-13 20:40:38

I don't understand this deliberately putting stuff someone else doesn't like in, either.

DH does nearly all the cooking, and sometimes cooks things I don't like (generally he is a wonderful cook). I try to eat them politely and then some time later will thank him for cooking and say 'It wasn't my favourite, though, would you mind if we didn't have it again?'

He never knowingly cooks stuff I don't like, and when I cook I respect the fact that he doesn't like very hot food (which I love), can't have caffeine, etc etc.

Cooking for the family is about give and take! And no, you don't 'thank them and have something on toast', because if they're taking the time to cook for the household, then it's bleedin' expensive and wasteful to refuse a whole portion. Much more sensible to cook something everyone will like.

b4bunnies Fri 29-Mar-13 20:44:19


back in the dark ages, i was married. i was pregnant. i was vomited at all hours of the day and night.

he made (ie heated) pizza on french bread with silverskin onions in white wine sauce.

that gives you the measure of the man. four years later, was able to show him the door.

SkinnybitchWannabe Fri 29-Mar-13 21:03:30

I'd rather eat my OHs toe nail clippings than eat a fungus. But I still put them in food and all I do is pick them out.

YANBU. I used to gag on mushrooms. I have no idea why but I just couldn't handle the texture of them (I can't handle big chunks of it still now). I actually think it was quite cruel of him to leave them chunky if he knows that you have an aversion to them and you asked him to chop them small.

DP and I both have things we don't like and I have quite a few things I just cannot stomach (tomatoes!) so we don't put them in meals for the other. It's simple really!

expatinscotland Fri 29-Mar-13 23:03:20

I love mushrooms, but not in lasagne. Eewww. He is very unreasonable to put them in lasagne, that's disgusting!

zukiecat Fri 29-Mar-13 23:08:48

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 29-Mar-13 23:09:28

I think it's mean to put something in a meal you are cooking that you know the other person you intend to eat it with you doesn't like.

Why would anyone do that when there are likely to be many many things that both people enjoy.

I don't get it.

HollyBerryBush Fri 29-Mar-13 23:11:24

Lasagne, shepherds pie, spag bol, moussaka - all places to hide things that you don't actually want on your plate but are good for you!

DumSpiroSpero Fri 29-Mar-13 23:11:42

My DH has 'food intolerances' (as diagnosed by quack in well known health food shop hmm ), one of which is mushrooms.

It's not difficult to manage if one person doesn't like them - I just cook a few off and put then in a bowl. Cook the rest of the meal, dish up DH & DD's, then stir them through what's left for me.

You'll have to get him making spag bol as it works well for that, stir fries & curries.

Loulybelle Fri 29-Mar-13 23:17:27

You lot have made me wanna eat mushrooms now, how can i have them at this time of night.

ladymariner Fri 29-Mar-13 23:20:03

You are pregnant.

You are entitled to be as *fussy, *unreasonable, picky and flouncy as you like.

No you're not.

WorraLiberty Fri 29-Mar-13 23:27:21

Don't dis the shrooms...they're wonderful things.

But seriously, my DH doesn't like them therefore I cut them big on that he can easily spot them and pick them out.

It's not difficult for him to do.

Emilythornesbff Sat 30-Mar-13 06:18:56

Why the fuckity fuck couldn't he just omit the blighters?

"could I add something you strongly dislike to this sauce that will do nothing to enhance the dish?" ?? Knob!
If he MUST do this then the larger the better so you can pick them out.
(pop them on my plate, I like mushrooms).

carabos Sat 30-Mar-13 08:48:55

At a corporate conference I organised, mushroom risotto was the vegetarian option at dinner. Every single one of the people who had declared themselves to be vegetarian on the booking site together with the one Muslim lady came to me and said they couldn't eat the risotto. Almost all of them said it was because vegetarians can't eat mushrooms and the Muslim lady said it was because Muslims can't eat mushrooms.

I had no idea mushrooms were such a "thing" and had always thought that they were a staple for veggies. I did notice that several of the "vegetarians" enjoyed the full English breakfast the next day however, so I'm assuming that they must be part of a veggie sub-culture that eschews mushrooms but tolerates bacon and sausages...

Tee2072 Sat 30-Mar-13 08:52:17

Did I miss something?

He said 'can I add mushrooms'

You said, 'sure, if they are small'

So he did and, I am assuming here, cut them into what was, to him, small.

Why didn't you say 'No. I hate mushrooms. They are evil. I will puke on you if you add mushrooms.'?

Are you always so passive aggressive?

carabos: shock What planet were the people at the conference on?! I've never heard that but I will ask for it to be clarified should I ever meet a 'veggie' who says it!

Branleuse Sat 30-Mar-13 09:08:24


snuffaluffagus Sat 30-Mar-13 11:48:08

I LOVE mushrooms and my husband hates them. I don't out them in anything I'm cooking for both of us.. That's just common curtesy.

Ps I'm vegetarian and mushrooms are deffo not an animal ;)

StuntGirl Sat 30-Mar-13 13:42:52

My partner doesn't like cheese. Cheese for gods sake the weirdo.

I don't cook cheese in meals we eat together, and add it separately at the end.

ChairmanWow Sat 30-Mar-13 14:36:41

Mushrooms are the snot of the devil. Vile, vile, vile. Even the smell of them is enough to make me retch. YADNBU. In fact offering to pick them out is far too accommodating. Next time eat them and vomit them back into his face. That will give him some approximation of just how disgusting the little blighters are.

HollyBerryBush Sat 30-Mar-13 14:45:58

Now, you see, I've had to go and look up mushrooms and muslims haven't I?

This is the mushroom thing:

Truffles, like mushrooms, fungi, and plants that have no roots, symbolize foundlings, natural children produced by adultery, persons of unknown origin, and those who cannot stand on their feet, or money that comes spontaneously and without effort, like a gift, a donation, a grant, or any sudden and unexpected source of gratification

However if you dream about mushrooms all manner of things will happen to you:

•A poor person collecting and eating truffles and the like: Will become rich.
• A rich person collecting and eating such plants: Will get richer.
• An ascetic person unearthing and eating truffles: Will come back to the pleasures of the flesh.
• Moving from one truffle field to another: Will undertake pleasure trips or move from one market to another or from one trade to another.

carabos Sat 30-Mar-13 15:44:39

Holly that's it! The Muslim lady said she couldn't eat them because they are a parasite.

lljkk Sat 30-Mar-13 16:12:18

yanbu, it wouldn't kill him to make lasagne how you like. I'd do it for DH & I don't even like him very much.

Thanks for all the support. It's good to know there are other 'shroom haters out there.
Oh, for the record, I'm not princessey cos I'm pregnant but I do struggle with food making me feel ill more than when I'm not PG.
I'm also not passive aggressive and didn't get arsey with DH either.

YANBU. FFS, he knows you don't like them if they're left big (I like shrooms but I know what you mean about the texture), you asked him that if he HAS to include them in the meal to please chop them up small. How hard would it be either for him to leave them out or to cut the sodding things up small?! It's not rocket science is it.

StuntGirl Sat 30-Mar-13 20:02:40

I think as the other poster said upthread it's just plain rude to deliberately add a food he knows you dislike. Although he did ask and you did say yes, so you have to let him off this time.

I'm the same with onions, horrible slimy little things. Nobody ever cuts them small enough for me to tolerate, their version of 'small' is not mine! So now you know he will still cut them large when he adds them, next time he asks if he can add them you know your answer!

I'm a vegetarian and HATE mushrooms...this makes eating out rather hard as ALL vegetarian options WITHOUT FAIL have mushrooms in them...

My vegetarian lasagne has red lentils instead of's delicious grin

formicaqueen Sat 30-Mar-13 20:53:35

pick them out? Whats the problem.

GreenEggsAndNichts Sat 30-Mar-13 21:11:20

I dislike the texture of mushrooms, myself. I would be the same and could tolerate them if very small.

However, if I were asked, I'd say please leave them out. DH loves mushrooms, I do not, and he knows that. He doesn't like raw tomatoes, I try to keep them to a minimum. It's just courtesy isn't it?

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