Holiday cottage with friends - pay per person or per room

(42 Posts)
mum1979100 Mon 25-Mar-13 12:24:48

group of friends, some in couples, some single. No kids yet.
Single people get to have their own room if only other single is opposite sex.
Cottage is only accommodation- does not give any extras like access to pool.

I'm happy to have pay per person set up as it works out cheap anyway. And for the sake of friendship it's unfair to expect singles to pay more. Plus kitchen, living room, garden are all shared.

Can I ask Is this the general view of you lot?
I'm one of the couples btw.

kinkyfuckery Mon 25-Mar-13 12:28:21

Yep, accommodation should be split evenly by everyone that is going. You'll need to discuss how food/drink is being paid beforehand.

we pay (family group rather than friend groups) per bed

so divide rental by number of people sleeping

tis fairest I feel, however open to persuasion smile

catgirl1976 Mon 25-Mar-13 12:28:56

Per person I think although I don't think I would mind either way

LoopaDaLoopa Mon 25-Mar-13 12:30:01

Per person

oh yes, food

we have a kitty, to pay for main meals, folk pay for their own ice creams/coffee when out and about.

Sometimes we do a supermarket delivery to the cottage, with meal planning but this sometimes goes tits-up if you don't specify THOSE sausages are for BBQ not breakfast kinda thing.

MINEFIELD

PicaK Mon 25-Mar-13 12:32:25

I think that the goodwill from the single person will be well worth whatever the diff in price is.

If you have a friend going who objects to a cost split per person then you need to have a quiet word about being grateful they've got someone - not financially penalizing there friends for not having a partner.

WallyBantersJunkBox Mon 25-Mar-13 12:32:28

I have always paid by room but that's including kids. So we went to a villa LY and my DS had his own room, but our friend's DD's shared a room so I felt it only fair that we pay by room IYSWIM.

However if the single people are payng per room and getting an inferior room because that's where the single bed is, then it's not really fair.

So if you pay per person, then couples can claim the best rooms space wise, as they have sacrificed the same cost and have to share with snoring OHs.

BMW6 Mon 25-Mar-13 12:34:41

Per person

mum1979100 Mon 25-Mar-13 12:38:51

Thanks. I suppose it does depend on the situation. I absolutely think per person. Although I did wonder if the singles should maybe offer to pay extra - at which point couples would insist not! Thought it might be polite. I'm not that bothered though. Was just curious on others thoughts.

CornMonster Mon 25-Mar-13 12:39:54

Definitely per person

Tailtwister Mon 25-Mar-13 12:41:46

I would say per person, but I suppose you could make a case for singles occupying their own room paying a singles supplement. That's what happens when booking most hotels isn't it?

For the sake of maintaining friendships though, I think per person is best.

stressyBessy22 Mon 25-Mar-13 12:59:55

Per room

ENormaSnob Mon 25-Mar-13 13:02:31

We often split per room but have equal people per room iyswim?

I think if we were going with single people then per person would be fairer. Unless you were expecting my 3dc to share one room in which case I would be peeved at paying 3x as much as someone with a room to them self.

mum1979100 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:05:47

Once kids arrived, I suspect per room seems more fair, in most cases.

MrsMarigold Mon 25-Mar-13 13:10:01

Arghhh I hate these things then there is room allocation, inevitably there are some ghastly rooms. We vowed last year never to go on one of these things again, unless we stay in separate accommodation near by.

janey68 Mon 25-Mar-13 13:39:17

If you're a group of adults, I would say per person . A holiday cottage is the same price regardless of whether it's singles or couples renting
It, there would never be single room supplements as in a hotel so it's not really comparable. And you're not just paying for the bedroom but the whole shebang- kitchen, sitting room, garden, views, electricity...

bedhaven Mon 25-Mar-13 13:55:42

Per person, unless you draw straws on rooms and the couples don't mind the usually not so swish twin rooms wink

Costypop Mon 25-Mar-13 14:00:25

By person. All put the same food money in a jar for food for the week, whatever is left gets shared at the end. If someone buys a chocolate bar just for themselves they pay for it out their own money not from the kitty. If everyone agrees beforehand there is no issues. But if its out of kitty money it's for everyone.
Been on a few mates breaks like this and all sorted out over a drink before going so everyone is happy. No problems on the hol then

Costypop Mon 25-Mar-13 14:02:21

Oh and when do kids ones, the kids go at half adult price, some couples have 2, others 1, that's how we have always sorted it out

znaika Mon 25-Mar-13 14:06:12

per person surely. you can't expect couples who'll get a big double with ensuite or balcony to pay half the price pp than someone in a crappy box room in a single bed.

2rebecca Mon 25-Mar-13 14:07:41

Per person as couples often get nicer rooms and for use of other rooms you use it twice as much if 2 of you.

abbyfromoz Mon 25-Mar-13 14:17:10

Double rooms= higher price
Single rooms= lower price
Or if singles are also sharing rooms split evenly per person.

Binkybix Mon 25-Mar-13 16:29:10

We always do per person (not including babies, which are the oldest that go on these trips at the moment).

Often means 6 foot something male friends sleeping in bunks!

SunRaysthruClouds Mon 25-Mar-13 17:53:37

I wouldn't worry about it either way because you won't be talking to each other by the end of it anyway wink

It depends, if they are similar sized family groups I'm not going to squabble about it

e.g. family one has two adults and two kids, family two has two adults and three kids. I would suggest half each in most cases (the exception being if a family wanted to invite extras and that meant we needed a much more expensive place)

For singles and couples though I would do it per person also couples and a family. E.g. if my BIL and SIL came on holiday with us I'd only expect them to pay a third because we would need two rooms and they would need four.

LovePickles Tue 09-Apr-13 16:54:11

We go as a whole family. We always do it per person, kids go free smile

LovePickles Tue 09-Apr-13 16:55:44

Can't believe I pulled up an old thread. Don't even ask how I managed to get here, I don't even know!! I'm new, don't kill me!!!! Blame the app, my illness, anything but me!!!

YellowTulips Tue 09-Apr-13 17:27:01

Defiantly per person. The way look at it is that I "choose" to share a room with DH rather than evil singletons <joke> demanding a room of their own.

I don't think it's right to expect someone (you presumably like given you are going away with them) to share their bedtime routine with someone else or pay a premium for a perfectly reasonable degree of privacy. If a couple of mates volunteer to share then clearly all to the good, but I don't think it should be an expectation.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Tue 09-Apr-13 21:05:58

We do it per adult human. The family with the dog pay the dog supplement. It's a group of about 12 adults and an ever-increasing number of babies, and we've been away 3 times now.

We split the meals in advance as well, so each person/couple is responsible for buying and cooking part of a meal.

thermalsinapril Tue 09-Apr-13 21:17:13

Per person

Katz Tue 09-Apr-13 21:19:54

We go away with friends, they have one DC and we have 2 but we split the accommodation 50/50 but then the kids share one room even if there's a spare one?

Katz Tue 09-Apr-13 21:20:38

But meals are per head, although we tend to spilt the bill 50/50 and then we pay the tip in full instead

digerd Tue 09-Apr-13 21:37:26

I don't do sharing or self catering. I need full board and my own space. Also, I don't do traipsing around places and have a 2 hour siesta in the afternoon after scoffing myself to bursting at 1pm.

But those who do, per person is the fairest way.

CloudsAndTrees Tue 09-Apr-13 21:38:54

Per person, unless there are children.

OhTheConfusion Tue 09-Apr-13 22:03:24

Our group of 11 friends do it per person... 4 couples and 3 singles.

We went away with another family last July for a long weekend. When we booked I assumed we would split it 50/50. There were 4 of them and 5 of us (including DD2 who was 10mths and sleeping in a travel cot in our room at no extra cost). The cottage had 2 double bedrooms and 2 twin bedrooms... we had 1 double and 1 twin per family. Yet when it came time to settle the balance 6 weeks before we went the other family felt we should pay £605 and they should pay £485. This really stuck in my throat sad.

edwardsmum11 Wed 10-Apr-13 06:18:07

We are going away with in laws and spliting it in half as it is two couples and a baby, although we will take 2 bedrooms. We'd do in per person.

Tomtomato Wed 15-May-13 20:20:26

I've just spent a week in a villa with friends: 2 couples and 3 singles (no kids). It was great except for 2 things:

1 The couples immediately bagged the 2 best rooms, leaving the singles to negotiate on the other rooms. All of which were ok, but nowhere near as big, or as nice.

2 When we came to split the bill for the villa, one of the couples insisted that it should be per room; we split the food and drink bill per person. I, as one of the singles had assumed that the cost of the villa would be per person. I've stayed in many villas and cottages before and have always paid per person, whether as a couple or single. My fault, I know for assuming instead of finding out up front. I tried to argue that I was thought per person was fairer, and was shouted down with "But it's the same staying in a hotel, of course you pay by room" I gave up and paid per room.

I feel really really aggrieved by this, a week later and I'm still fuming. It's not even the money, it just feels unfair. Am I being unreasonable? I haven't said anything and would like to know what others think.

KevinFoley Thu 16-May-13 10:36:47

Per person because single rooms will be grim boxes and the couples will bag the king size bed, en suite and balcony. Unless kids are involved in which case might need to split it by the number of rooms each family requires. I hate sharing accommodation with other families though.

KevinFoley Thu 16-May-13 10:38:21

tomtomato I bet you don't go on holiday with them again.

ephemeralfairy Thu 16-May-13 10:46:06

Per person!! Single people get financially penalised enough as it is.

Tomtomato Thu 16-May-13 20:21:41

Thanks @KevinFoley & @ephemeralfairy it helps perspective; makes me feels better too.

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