To think sister shouldn't have DC2 in a hospital an hour away?

(125 Posts)
alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:25:20

My sister lives in Brisbane, Australia. Her 2nd baby is due in three weeks and I've just found out that they're planning on having their baby in a hospital an hour from their home, in Brisbane CBD. They have chosen this hospital over a nearer one, as they can have the baby's cord blood collected there, but not at the nearer hospital. She says that they have the kit to collect the cord blood and that her husband could do it anyway, so I don't understand why they can't just go to their nearest hospital and then just get her husband or a midwife to do it there.

I'm really worried that my sister might end up having the baby en-route and the baby or mother needing immediate medical attention. What if the baby needs help breathing? What if my sister has a haemorrhage?

I think my sister may be putting both her baby and herself at unnecessary risk by not going to their closest hospital. Am I being unreasonable to think this?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sat 23-Mar-13 21:27:15

Yabu. in fact it's nothing whatsoever to do with you. They want the blood collected by a professional and that's perfectly reasonable.

An hour is nothing in Australia.

GogoGobo Sat 23-Mar-13 21:27:56

Get a grip

AnastasiaBieverhausen Sat 23-Mar-13 21:28:24

It's fairly normal to be an hour away from your nearest maternity hospital. We have a choice of three here, the closest is 45 mins drive away.

BrianButterfield Sat 23-Mar-13 21:28:44

Plenty of people in this country live an hour from their nearest maternity ward anyway. I would imagine in Australia that's even more common. It's not ideal but it's OK.

ENormaSnob Sat 23-Mar-13 21:28:53

Yabu

Fuck all to do with you.

MajaBiene Sat 23-Mar-13 21:29:21

Lots of people live an hour from a hospital.

What makes you think this labour might be less than an hour long? Was the first one very short?

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 21:31:15

Yabu.
If she has very quick labours however she would be best if planning for a home birth.

Much better for someone qualified to do the cord blood collection.

Lots of people live an hr or more from a hospital and most people take longer than an hour to give birth.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 23-Mar-13 21:34:32

My nearest hospital is an hour and a half away, it's where ds was born, and all the babies in the area, some even further as it's the Highlands.

alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:34:33

Where do you live to be an hour away from a hospital??

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sat 23-Mar-13 21:35:10

grin Always some people live in rural areas!

wigglesrock Sat 23-Mar-13 21:36:23

YABU I had my 3rd child in a hospital 30 mins perhaps 45 mins away from where we live. I have a hospital 5 mins drive away but I don't like it for various reasons and wanted to have my youngest child in the same hospital as my others. I knew the set-up, felt very comfortable etc.

My youngest was the quickest delivery of all my children and even with my "oh no, this isn't labour, my children are always late by at least a week" mutterings. I still made it in plenty of time.

alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:36:39

Enormasnob - I'm just worried about my sister. There's no need to be rude.

D0G Sat 23-Mar-13 21:36:42

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5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 21:37:23

I used to live in lincolnshire and the two hospitals were either 45mins in one direction or an hour and a half in the other direction. Some people had to teavwl much further than an hour.

Annunziata Sat 23-Mar-13 21:37:37

She'll be fine, there's no need to be worried. She wants that baby out safely too!

alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:38:40

Give me an example of a rural location an hour away from a hospital. I'm really interested to find out.

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 21:40:12

I already said in lincolnshire lots if places are an hour or more away.

There are loads of rural villages and towns in many counties where the hospital is an hour away!

Fuck sake... you do know that maternity units are closing all over the place don't you?

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 23-Mar-13 21:44:29

The North West Highlands*always*, in my case.
Why are you so surprised?
Raigmore in Inverness is the nearest for many people up here.

I live in West Yorkshire, approx 35 mins from the nearest CLU. However the route means that if I needed to get there at half 8 on a weekday morning it could easily take well over an hour. And I'm not massively rural.

Some people may live less than an hour to a hospital but not all hospitals have maternity units

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 21:45:01

I live in norfolk, depending on where you live in norfolk you could easily be an hour from a hospital. I am only 10mins away from a big teaching hospital but i have friends who are much further away.

EddieVeddersfoxymop Sat 23-Mar-13 21:45:55

We have one hospital where I live, and that's it. I live over an hour away from it. What do you suggest we do?

She's making her choice, let her get on with it grin

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 21:47:32

And yes not all hospitals have maternity units.

Jojobump1986 Sat 23-Mar-13 21:48:19

I heard a story the other day about a lady in Africa who took a motorbike-taxi to the hospital while in labour, had the baby & brought said baby home on the back of a motorbike-taxi straight after! At least in Australia they have helicopters & things to get her to a hospital & she could always go to the nearer one if they were at all worried about the distance. Most births happen without incident. Try not to worry! smile

pamelat Sat 23-Mar-13 21:48:27

I find it odd that you're concerned enough to post this?

Our nearest was 45 mins

I dont think an hour is a big ask, and presumably your sister will do the right thing by her and the baby?

alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:48:34

Ok, I am sensing that many feel that IABU.

But does anybody out there agree with me?

VivaLeBeaver Sat 23-Mar-13 21:48:59

Lincolnshire, Nottinghamshire, Derbyshire, yorkshire, cumbria are all counties I can think of immediately where you can easily be an hour from the nearest maternity unit. I'm sure the staff at the hospital will have taken your sisters previous birth into account.

Second babies are normally quicker.....but not that quick. 99.9% of women in rural areas in the uk make it to hospital in time.

Callisto Sat 23-Mar-13 21:49:35

I live in the Cotswolds and my nearest hospital is 45mins away. Why the disbelief that anyone could be an hour away from a hospital in the UK? confused

OP, YABunderstandablyU.

Dannilion Sat 23-Mar-13 21:50:06

My maternity unit is closing in 4 weeks and the nearest one is an hour - hour and a halfway drive away depending on traffic. (they're building a bypass to make this quicker next year). There's an example. I'm 5 minutes away from a hospital, I just can't give birth there.

Flisspaps Sat 23-Mar-13 21:50:53

Where I live, in Telford (not even rural) it is a 45 minute drive to the nearest CLU in Shrewsbury by A-road!

YABU. Chill out. Childbirth is very rarely a medical emergency.

LadyFlumpalot Sat 23-Mar-13 21:51:08

I live an hour away from the nearest hospital. I'm in North Dorset. I get a choice of Dorchester - 1.5 hours away, Yeovil, an hour or Salisbury, an hour.

skratta Sat 23-Mar-13 21:52:05

We lived 45mins from a maternity unit when I had DS. Our closest hospital was 10mins away, there were two of equal difference roughly, 15mins from our home to both, another was 20mins away and one was quite close by but the route was very difficult and odd and it was easy to get off on the main road, so should take 10mins but in reality was about 20mins. But. NONE of them had a maternity ward. This is in LONDON. Out of five hospitals, only one had a maternity unit and it was the furthest away.

HavingALittleFaithBaby Sat 23-Mar-13 21:52:34

I'm in Lincolnshire too. If I wanted a water birth I'd need to travel for an hour to the next maternity unit. As it is, it's not an option because of other factors and I'll be going to the one closer to home. However if you're sister is keen that this hospital is the best place for her to deliver, it's her choice. She just needs to make sure she leaves sooner rather than later! I do think YABAbitU - it's their choice and not a really unsafe one.

DontmindifIdo Sat 23-Mar-13 21:53:04

If it helps, I'm 30 minutes away from our nearest hospital, but when I had DS, I was the last woman they let in as they were full that night, if I'd called another 10 minutes later to say I was coming in they'd have sent me to the next closest hospital. that hospital which I would have been sent to would have been another 45 minute drive after that, so it would have been a 1 hr 15 min drive from our house. That's Kent and perfectly normal.

A lot of woman end up with the best part of an hour's drive to a hospital. I would imagine she won't do labouring at home for as long as possible, but set off to the hospital ASAP. How long were your labours? I can imagine if you had very short ones you'd be nervous but most woman don't.

Trazzletoes Sat 23-Mar-13 21:53:51

always I think they're on about closing the maternity unit in Scarborough. The nearest maternity unit is invYork - a good hour away on a quiet day, let alone in the height of summer when it can take hours.

MrsLouisTheroux Sat 23-Mar-13 21:56:25

So many places are up to 1 hour away from any kind of hospital! We are 45 mins away.

Thingiebob Sat 23-Mar-13 21:57:03

Yanbu to worry but it is her choice.

I am 45 mins away from my hospital and am due in about six weeks. It's not my first either.

Awomansworth Sat 23-Mar-13 21:58:53

I live an hour away from the nearest maternity unit and I was pregnant with twins...

alwaysreallytired Sat 23-Mar-13 21:59:51

I guess that I've been lucky for my two births. Isn't it different, living a long way from a hospital and choosing to travel an hour when you could travel for half that?

DeskPlanner Sat 23-Mar-13 22:02:22

YABU.

stargirl1701 Sat 23-Mar-13 22:03:32

Kinloch Rannoch is more than an hour away from Ninewells in Dundee.

giraffesCantDateDucks Sat 23-Mar-13 22:04:43

Dunoon - need to get a ferry to get to mat hosp.

wigglesrock Sat 23-Mar-13 22:06:20

Yes, but she is choosing to have the baby there because that's what she wants to do. That's the birth that she wants. She's not deliberately putting herself and her baby at risk. I'm assuming there's no big medical issues she's been aware of throughout the pregnancy. She might go to the nearer hospital and it might be full, be an delay getting to the hospital re traffic etc. I know you're worried and it must be very difficult being so far away from her but you are overthinking it and it is her decision.

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 22:06:53

Perfectly reasonable to travel if you think.the other hospital.is better suited for whatever reason.

Posterofapombear Sat 23-Mar-13 22:07:27

I live an hour away from a hospital. Powys doesn't have a general hospital at all.

Finola1step Sat 23-Mar-13 22:12:16

YANBU to be concerned for your sister but... Is there something else here? Did your sister have a quick or difficult labour last time? I do think that some posters have been quite harsh, but it is your sister's and her partner's decision.

I honestly believe that no women would make such a decision if she thought there was a chance that her baby would be at risk. Please trust your sister and be very careful not to let on to her how worried you are.

Ilovesunflowers Sat 23-Mar-13 22:14:45

Yabu. It is completely her choice where to give birth. As others have said in rural places this is a normal occurrence anyway. My nearest hospital is 45 mins away. More in traffic. Out of interest what is cord blood collected for? Never heard of that before.

nailak Sat 23-Mar-13 22:14:52

I live in London, i googled some distances to nearest hospitals from areas.

From my families house to nearest hospital is 45 min in current trafic map1

so easily an hour at rush hour.

similiarly from another family members house to their nearest hospital 40 mins at current traffic so easily an hour at peak times

map2

nailak Sat 23-Mar-13 22:16:03

ignore me i am completely wrong

AnOeufUniversallyEggnowledged Sat 23-Mar-13 22:18:57

Is your sister donating her cord blood? If she is I'd be thanking her for doing a good thing (&wondering why it's so rare here in the uk) rather than criticising.

TeggieCampbeggBlegg Sat 23-Mar-13 22:19:51

I think she should have it at home. I also think that all the blood in the cord and placenta should go to the baby and not saved just-in-case.

However it is none of my business and her choice.

DoJo Sat 23-Mar-13 22:20:57

I live 15 minutes from a hospital, but when the maternity unit was closed because of an outbreak of norovirus, the one I would have been sent to is a 50-60 minute drive away.

ratspeaker Sat 23-Mar-13 22:21:54

Try not to worry OP
They've made their choice, presumably they will have planned what to do when labour starts

In the UK many people live over an hour from the nearest hospital,some in rural areas, some where "centralisation" has taken place
With the shrinkage of bed numbers in maternity it has been known for women in labour to be sent to hospitals many many miles away in spite of having units in their area when said units are full
I know of one mum in prem labour sent from near Edinburgh to Kilmarnock

CinnabarRed Sat 23-Mar-13 22:22:35

Nope, no difference in my mind between having to travel an hour and choosing to travel an hour.

OP, face it - you're on a hiding to nothing here!

All the best to your sister though!

Startail Sat 23-Mar-13 22:25:21

Hour each way from my old welsh home town. Both with mountains that are probably impassable with snow today.

My elderly parents get sent to Birmingham, two hours away for relatively routine tests.

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Sat 23-Mar-13 22:25:49

taggie you can still do delayed cord clamping so the baby gets the blood and then do stem cell/cord blood collection.

I always waited for cord to stop pulsating etc with mine and researched this revently and you can still do this and do cord blood collection.

Toasttoppers Sat 23-Mar-13 22:26:34

People had to be airlifted in a helicopter for serious emergencies to the big hospital where I grew up, it used to land on my schools playing field.

I remember meeting someone who lived over an hour away from a Tesco, now that did shock me as they are bloody everywhere

SolomanDaisy Sat 23-Mar-13 22:26:40

YABU, but it's understandable that you're worried about your sister and her baby, especially when you're so far away from them. Is there a particular reason they're collecting cord blood? If so, I can see that might make you more anxious.

MrsKeithRichards Sat 23-Mar-13 22:27:45

I live 30 mins from my nearest hospital but choose to go to the one an hour away because my first was born there. I was meant to go to the closest one with ds1 but when I called up when I was in labour I was told these was no room for me so we had to make like Mary and Joseph and drive to the other one.

Fantastic birth experience, much quieter, one midwife start to finish so for my second I choose to make the journey!

SolomanDaisy Sat 23-Mar-13 22:28:41

Teggie, cord blood donation can save lives. I looked into it, but you have to give birth in a few specific locations, which is a shame.

AnOeufUniversallyEggnowledged Sat 23-Mar-13 22:34:10

If you Google 'cords for life' or 'charlie beard harris' (warning: v sad) you will find lots of reasons that cord donation is so incredible and about the campaign to get it into more uk hospitals.

MrsDeVere Sat 23-Mar-13 22:37:13

Bloody good on her.
I hate hospitals.
I had my last two babies at home but even I would have gone to hospital if I could have donated my cord blood.

Not all MWs are willing to collect it because it can be a bit of a faff at the business part of labour, when there is a lot of paperwork and tidying and checking to do.

I had mine collected at home by my very lovely and willing MWs and my friend who was a third year student MW.

But I couldn't donate it to a public bank because it was not collected by them.

YABU. You really need to calm down.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 23-Mar-13 22:37:37

I'm an hour away from a Tesco Toasttoppers, even further from proper High Street shops.

ENSMUM Sat 23-Mar-13 22:40:16

I had a very long labour with DC1. dC2 however was so quick I didn't make it out of the house, wouldn't have made a difference if hospital was 10 mins or 3 hours away. Can't plan for every eventuality, but in all likelihood an hour will be fine and they have good reasons for their choice. Surely if things are progressing quicker than expected they will be able to change to nearer hospital?

Jojobump1986 Sat 23-Mar-13 22:42:02

From my 2 minutes of googling, I'm assuming cord blood can't be collected at a homebirth in the UK? That's a shame. I'd quite happily let someone have it!

OP, if it makes you feel any better, my dad thinks IABU for having a homebirth when there's a perfectly good insanely busy, recently closed for deep cleaning after a baby died of a water-borne bug hospital just a few minutes drive away!

GirlOutNumbered Sat 23-Mar-13 22:43:47

I live an hour away from two choices. It's not that unusual

SavoyCabbage Sat 23-Mar-13 22:49:25

Perhaps the first hospital is teeny tiny. I live in Melbourne, in the suburbs and some people have their babies in the close-by public/free hospital and others in the bigger hospitals in the city. The last friend of mine who had a baby was telling people she was having a "free baby".

TeggieCampbeggBlegg Sat 23-Mar-13 22:53:16

IM(admittedly limited) E cord blood is collected by private companies for personal use in the future 'just in case'. They generally need to collect at least 35ml. This is only possible if you clamp and cut very early. It is also rather intrusive to have a complete stranger hovvering wsiting through your labour, then taking maternal blood asap while she is needing suturing or trying to feed.

I know that it can be donated for research/stem cell transplants in certain places but they are very few and far between.
Obviously if you are going to early clamp and then throw it away it is brtter to actually use it but I stand by my belief that it is blood and stem cells thst baby needs now.

But it is still her choice. If that what she wants then that is fine.

Our nearest hospital is 45mins away as well (if traffic is quiet) and we're hardly in the middle of nowhere, they're closing maternity wards all over the place sad

TeggieCampbeggBlegg Sat 23-Mar-13 22:57:03

Also, if your hospital isn't one of the few eho do routinely collect cord blood the midwives probably aren't alliwed to do it, ecen if you have the kit available - hence the need for stranger phlebotomist hovvering at the door.

I live in Aberdeenshire. Now the MLU is closing, the nearest hospital is 2 hours drive. If there's no traffic.

mrsjay Sat 23-Mar-13 23:00:32

our local hospital closed and a spanlking new 1 was built but it is an hour away from some people , I am sure your sister knows what she is doing try and not worry it will be fine and they have ambulnaces in Australia grin

But you could 'choose' here last year - the MLU is 40 minutes, the hospital is 2 hours away. If you chose the hospital, you chose to have a longer journey.

40 minutes in fast contraction labour on a windy country road was fun ;) So glad the pool was ready when I got to the MLU!

Oh, and I'm 1 hour 30 mins from a Tescos smile

InVeryveryBadTaste Sat 23-Mar-13 23:14:35

Nearest and only hospital is 1hr 1/2 away (80miles, 160 mile round trip), as is the supermarket grin highlands of scotland

Where do you live that means you are soo close to one?! Am interested.

I see that you are worried about your sister but I'm sure they have given it a lot of thought.

WafflyVersatile Sat 23-Mar-13 23:15:48

Just leave home 30 minutes earlier. smile

InVeryveryBadTaste Sat 23-Mar-13 23:18:45

Oh and should have said that up here we have NO choice, its something i find amusing and otherwordly tbh, the fact that you could choose to pick a different hospital for whatever reason.

skaen Sat 23-Mar-13 23:19:40

I live 5 miles from the hospital in Oxford. When DS decided he was on the way at 7am it took us an hour and a half to get there because the rush hour is so bloody awful. We all survived, although I didn't get long in the pool!

TraceyTrickster Sat 23-Mar-13 23:23:38

I live in the suburbs of an Australian city- no greenery between me and the city hospital I was booked into. It was 40 mins away. it was chosen because it had the best facilities.

aldiwhore Sat 23-Mar-13 23:25:41

YANBU to have an opinion.

YWBU to share it more than once and more than extremely politely and gently to your sister. YWBU to get offended if she tells you to STFU. YWBU to argue.

DrHolmes Sat 23-Mar-13 23:26:28

YABU

birdofthenorth Sat 23-Mar-13 23:31:03

Yabu as it is her choice but I do sympathise with your position as I am choosing the nearest hospital rather than the best hospital for DC2 just in case though now blumming glad I did as I have been diagnosed with gestational diabetes and have to attend weekly clinics which would take twice as long if travelling to the swanky new mat ward where I had DD

SirBoobAlot Sat 23-Mar-13 23:33:53

YABU.

I chose to have DS at a hospital an hour away, although the closer one is twenty minutes drive. My reasons were not the same as your sisters, but legitimate.

You're worrying about her, understandably, but needlessly so.

yousankmybattleship Sat 23-Mar-13 23:36:59

Your sister is a grown up and capable of making her own choices. YABU and should but out.

scarlettsmummy2 Sat 23-Mar-13 23:38:13

Yabu. I had baby two in a hospital 45 mins away- we just left in plenty of time.

TidyDancer Sat 23-Mar-13 23:52:32

My friend is having her second baby in a hospital just under an hour away. There are two closer to her. One she has a bad experience with when she had her DS and the other one currently has a maternity unit but is anticipating it will shut by the time she has here baby.

I think she's made a very sensible choice tbh.

TidyDancer Sat 23-Mar-13 23:52:59

here her

lisianthus Sat 23-Mar-13 23:56:41

I'm a bit puzzled. You are talking about your sister as if she is an irresponsible child and incapable of making rational choices about her own baby. At the same time, you said that the reason she has chosen this hospital is in order to donate cord blood, which is an AMAZING thing to do and can save lives. The hospital in which I gave birth to DC1 had posters all over the place begging people to consider donating.

She seems pretty sensible to me, and appears to have researched issues around her birth too, if she is donating cord blood. Why exactly are you worried? Is there an actual reason, or do you just not think of your sister as an adult for some reason?

YABU

Btw to others reading this thread, please consider donating cord blood. There are VERY few ways that stem cells can be obtained. This is one of them, and they are hugely valuable for medical research.

CocoKev Sun 24-Mar-13 00:28:11

OP- I'm in Brisbane. I had a home birth with DS1 in the UK and, as home births aren't really an option here, had DS2 at a midwife- led unit 12 weeks ago.

Please don't worry- from what I've experienced maternity services here are excellent, advice is even handed and widely available and support is generally first rate. If your sister has chosen to go private she will have an obstetrician who will have signed off on her birth plan. If not she will probably have had GP and midwife support throughout her pregnancy.
All the best to your sister- Brisbane is a great place to have a young family.

SquinkieBunnies Sun 24-Mar-13 01:00:32

YABU mine were born at a hospital an hour away as there is no hospital closer that did deliveries. She'll be fine, lots of people have to travel to the closest one that happens to be an hour away.

MidniteScribbler Sun 24-Mar-13 01:07:52

I'm guessing she wants to have her baby at either the Royal Womens or the Mater, and quite frankly, I don't blame her. If I'd still been living in Brisbane when I had DS they would have been my only two choices. Brisbane roads are pretty good, and with the new tunnels and freeways now, travel time has been reduced. She'll be fine.

AngelAtTheTopOfTheTree Sun 24-Mar-13 05:58:50

What MidniteScribbler said.

newbiefrugalgal Sun 24-Mar-13 06:30:16

I lived in London and with traffic it may as well have been an hour away.
Get over it.
Are you going to question every parenting decision they make??

JollyYellowGiant Sun 24-Mar-13 06:35:17

We have two choices of hospital. Both 40-45 minutes in an ambulance with blue lights.

Gracelo Sun 24-Mar-13 07:14:29

West coast Scotland. We have a hospital in town but it is tiny. There is a maternity unit but it is midwives only, there is no surgery team. If any problems are anticipated you have to go to Paisley or Glasgow for the delivery and that is about 1.5 hours depending on traffic. Any problem during delivery and it is ambulance or helicopter to Glasgow. Even tearing during delivery can mean that a new mother is taken to Glasgow for stitching up. It's even more complicated for women on the islands.

FiveGoMadInDorset Sun 24-Mar-13 07:17:07

Dorset, I am only half an hour away but others I know are an hour away.

YABU,

and seems to me that no one agrees with you.

Try any of the Scottish islands. Shetland for example, if you are under a consultant he or she will be based in Aberdeen, which is a 45 minute flight away or a ferry trip envy <seasick face

Most of Aberdeenshire is over an hour away from the maternity unit. There is one small community unit in Aboyne, but it can only cater for a few women at a time so even if you are booked n there and they are busy you get shipped to Aberdeen.

I'm sure you sister has thought all this through. And surely if it were a dire emergency she would consider going to the nearer hospital for the sake of her and baby's safety. Really, an hour is nothing. And labours tend to take a while mostly. Chill out and respect your sisters decision.

DolomitesDonkey Sun 24-Mar-13 07:29:39

Yabu and quite astoundingly ignorant - although I'm delighted you've been given a geography lesson and perhaps one day you'll leave the confines of the m25.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sun 24-Mar-13 07:33:52

In all likelihood, labour will be slow. She'll start to have contractions and have plenty of time to get to the hospital. It's really not very common to go from 0 to baby in 10 minutes, so try not to worry.

In the event that things progress quickly, they will have the option to divert to the closer hospital.

Or even have the baby in the back of the car! grin which will be a story to dine out on.

I am sure she will be fine, try not to worry. Most women have babies with no problem at all.

If during her pregnancy, there are issues, then I am sure the doctors will advise her to change her plans.

Catper33 Sun 24-Mar-13 07:34:42

Not in the UK or Australia but somewhere pretty close to there. Our nearest hospital is 3.5 hour drive away so unless you want a midwife led home birth its really your only option. You accept that this is how it is and you plan accordingly. If there is a problem surely your sister could go to a nearer hospital if needed, but she has made her choice which should be respected.

mrsbungle Sun 24-Mar-13 07:42:14

I live in a city. 2 big maternity hospitals about 6 miles from me but can easily take up to an hour in rush hour.

LaLaGabby Sun 24-Mar-13 07:54:09

Your sister is lucky to have someone who knows so much better than her healthcare professionals around to tell her what to do.

KaraStarbuckThrace Sun 24-Mar-13 07:58:35

Off the top of my head I can think of 3 friends who live in rural north Yorkshire who live an up to an hour away from their nearest maternity unit.
They all made it to the hospital in time, although one was a close call grin
I'd imagine in places such as highlands that it would be very likely many people live more than an hour away.
YABU and as others have said it really isn't any of your business.

Btw I live 5 minutes from the local maternity unit. One of my antenatal mums gave birth in the car. Travelling time has little to do with it and all to do with knowing when to make the call to go. My friend was put off going in by the MWs because she was a first timer so obviously didn't know what she was talking about!

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sun 24-Mar-13 08:06:03

If you're still reading - I understand that you're just worried. She's a long way away from you, she's your sister and you love her, her being an hour away from the hospital seems scary - But - deep breath. Things will be fine. xx

TiredFeet Sun 24-Mar-13 08:08:24

40 minutes on a clear run to our nearest hospital (and we're only semi rural). In rush hour it would take significantly longer than an hour

alwaysreallytired Sun 24-Mar-13 11:30:30

I think it's probably evident that I don't live up north and that I don't have much knowledge about that part of the country. I've always lived in the south west and have never been more than 30 mins from a hospital. I have found it interesting to learn that so many of you are so far away from a hospital. Yes, I know many maternity units are closing. The maternity unit where DS1 was born has now closed.

My sister isn't donating cord blood. She's paying to have it saved for private use, if needed one day.

I am perhaps overly concerned about her birth, as I needed immediate medical attention after the birth of my DS1. I also had a severe haemorrhage a week after his birth and again was lucky to be close to a hospital.

DontmindifIdo Sun 24-Mar-13 11:40:23

Well, as I asked earlier, were any of your labours less than an hour from first contraction? I guess it's not a problem for most woman because most woman still have several hours of labour after getting to the hospital so an extra 30 minutes in the car rather than the hospital is no big deal. She'll probably miss out on feeling she can labour at home, but that's her choice. Very very few woman have a baby with an hour outside of TV Soap-land (where nearly every baby is born with first contraction at the start of the programme and baby arrived by the end of it, they never have someone who takes the whole of a week omnibus to get the baby out).

Given your history, I can see why you are worried, however, in your case of the severe haemorrhage a week later, surely in an emergancy she'd just be taken to the nearest hospital regardless of where she gave birth.

I live in Leicestershire. While there is a local MW led unit 10 mins down the road in town, it's only for low risk births. I was high risk so had to travel to Leicester General, about 40-45 mins away but a good hour at least during the rush hour.

I wasn't able to donate cord blood, they weren't able to collect then. They did ask if I would donate the cord itself to be used by doctors to practise giving injections into the cord to improve their skills. I was happy for this to happen.

MidniteScribbler Sun 24-Mar-13 12:21:25

I know it's hard with her being so far away from you, but really, she'll be fine. Brisbane is a major capital city, and the two big hospitals in the CBD are excellent. If she's going to the Mater, it's fantastic, hs an excellent reputation and has recently been rebuilt and is state of the art. I myself was born there over 30 years ago. Also, if things progress unusually quickly, everyone who is resident in Queensland is automatically covered for full ambulance transport, and any of the hospitals in the suburbs are good. I've was recently treated at the PA hospital ( a public hospital) and cannot believe how good they were).

Remember also that whilst an hour may seem a lot to you, to most Aussies, it's nothing at all. My UK friends really don't understand how I can drive from Melbourne to Sydney in a day, but we'll regularly do it for a weekend trip and think nothing of it. I currently live in a regional area, two hours from Melbourne, but we'll go there for lunch. Our perspective of distance is really quite different.

sweetmelissa Sun 24-Mar-13 12:22:55

Another here who lives (in this country) over an hour away from a hospital.

Skinidin Sun 24-Mar-13 12:46:07

Yes, I live on Skye and nearest hospital that deals with obstetrics is Broadford, over an hour from us.

Any high risk births would be dealt with at the Raigmore, three hours away. Most high risk mums have to stay in for several days around the approaching birth.

LittleBairn Sun 24-Mar-13 12:53:20

How very high and mighty of you to believe you are more concerned with your sisters baby than she is, no one wants a better outcome than your sister and her DP/DH.

jamdonut Sun 24-Mar-13 12:58:56

There was a maternity unit 10 minutes WALK from me. That is now closed and the nearest units 30 mins (decent weather and not in holiday time) and 50 minutes (also decent weather and no holiday traffic) Good job I'm not planning on being pregnant again. I'm in East Yorkshire.

LeChatRouge Sun 24-Mar-13 13:00:03

Look, don't panic. If you have had issues with yours, you are naturally more anxious, that's ok.

It will go one of three ways:

1. She will go into labour, progress at a normal rate, gradually increasing contractions, phone the unit of choice and they will tell her to make her way in. She will arrive an hour or so later, give birth some time after that and do the cord thing if she chooses.

2. She will go into labour, progress very quickly, not be able to stand the pain, rush to the nearest hospital and give birth there.

3. She will progress really quickly, call an ambulance/midwives and give birth at home!

All been done before, all will have the same outcome....a new healthy baby.

lljkk Sun 24-Mar-13 13:17:12

Bacton, or Mundesley. With a little extra traffic and trouble finding somewhere to park, 1 hour no problem to achieve to reach the N&N or the JPH.

How do you think people in other countries cope? Could be 2+ hours from hospital easily in the USA, you just learn to plan for it.

I wanted to donate cordblood too but couldn't because I chose a home birth instead (oh well).

alwaysreallytired Sun 24-Mar-13 14:50:52

DontmindifIdo - No, neither of my labours were that quick, but some do end up giving birth in cars!

alwaysreallytired Sun 24-Mar-13 14:52:23

OK, looks like I should stop worrying. I guess the chances are, everything will be fine.

alwaysreallytired Sun 24-Mar-13 14:52:44

LeChatRouge - you're right. smile

sarahtigh Sun 24-Mar-13 15:24:22

nearest out of hours GP / minor injuries unit 18 miles oe 30 minutes on good day there is a maternity unit there but only for low risk pregnancies as ECS would require an ambulance,

nearest other maternity 38 miles 50 mins at very quickest 90 minutes in rush hour this is also nearest A&E , ( if bridge shut like it is in high winds add another 30 minutes) it would also be nearest A&E for people who live 30 miles further away than we do

there are lots of people north of Glasgow/edinburgh that will be 2 hours away from A&E, that is why they use air ambulances because would take too long to drive

places like campbeltown are 140 miles from glasgow by road but less than 30 miles as crow flies

Pandemoniaa Sun 24-Mar-13 15:27:56

Where do you live to be an hour away from a hospital??

In the populous South East of England. You can easily be an hour away from both the nearest maternity units if travelling at peak times.

An hour, in Australia, is the equivalent of popping to the corner shop. My cousins routinely travel for 3 hours to access services in their nearest city.

TiredFeet Sun 24-Mar-13 18:42:54

I live in the SE of England too, in a built up area between two large cities. Still well over an hour away at rush hour (which is really rush 2.5 hours nw...)

DontmindifIdo Sun 24-Mar-13 18:50:15

OP - yes, but this is her second, I don't know anyone who had a "15 minute labour" with the second when they had a long labour the first time round. She'll have discussed this with her midwives, if they thought she was a risk of a short labour they'd be talking her into going to the nearer one, or even talking about home births.

Honestly, over the space of an average labour, an extra 30 mintues is nothing. (tries not to think about the 27hours of hell until DS turns up and lies to myself this time round it'll be done in a couple of hours)

Roseformeplease Sun 24-Mar-13 19:00:04

Over an hour from here to a very small hospital where I had my 2nd child after an uncomplicated first delivery at the main hospital in Inverness for my 1st - 3 hours away. Many a child has been born in a lay by on the side of Loch Ness. (I have always wondered, in that case, if you are allowed to put "insert name of tiny village, hamlet or remote area" on a passport. )

If you travel in labour you can call the midwives who go in the ambulance with you. Luckily, we had time so it was the car all the way for me. However, for a January birth, the midwives are on high alert in case of bad weather. Certainly spices up labour when you nearly hit a stag in the middle of the night.

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