put your phones away!

(43 Posts)
lovesherdogstoomuch Fri 22-Mar-13 19:47:44

to find it unbelievable when parents are busy texting/chatting on their mobiles and ignoring their kids at the swings when the poor things are obviously trying to get their attention! Helllooooo. you brought your child to the park to have some 'together' time didn't you?

everlong Fri 22-Mar-13 19:50:36

It's a habit I reckon. I do it.
Fiddle around in my bag, get my phone out, check for texts, emails, look at bloody fb.

But you're right I suppose.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone Fri 22-Mar-13 19:50:40

Umm i go to the park to not spend time with my child. Its the only time he isnt clinging onto my leg going' mummmmmeeeeee'

I would help him if he got stuck eventually though

honeytea Fri 22-Mar-13 19:52:23

They might be working, there might be a family emergency. Maybe they have been baking cakes/doing crafts with the kids all morning and they brought the kids to the park to get a chance to relax a little before making dinner and putting the kids to bed.

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 19:52:32

You've got no idea why they're on the phone, sometimes I text or ring my older DD while I'm with my younger one, maybe to check she's on her way home and safe or has taken her medicine, or I could be on the phone to the doctor or any number of other things.

And some parents take their children to the park so they can have a few minutes off and couldn't give a monkeys arse what other people judge them to be.

IneedAgoldenNickname Fri 22-Mar-13 19:56:46

I take my children to the park for a break, I play with them at home!

lovesherdogstoomuch Fri 22-Mar-13 19:59:26

MNers you are right. i was being judgemental. it's just i've seen a few kids trying to get their parents' attention. my kids are older now and i've forgotten. the park is a respite, and you hope your DC's will run and play with other kids.

BlueberryHill Fri 22-Mar-13 20:05:59

DH is often on his Blackberry, checking work emails, he has a job where people need to be able to contact him, most of it is crap but occasionally he needs to respond to something at night / weekends / holidays.

Plus it does give you a break and the kids a chance to run off some steam.

We do play with them as well, they are pretty good fun.

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 20:07:04

Children are just about constantly trying to get their parents attention, it doesn't mean they should get it instantly every time they ask.

How old are your DC?

Bet you've got a whole different set of judgments being made about you now they're older? grin

FlowersBlown Fri 22-Mar-13 20:10:40

There is absolutely nothing wrong with children being able to play without adult interaction. I would say that it's actually very good for them. While they're playing, adults might as well engage in another activity.

Dillydollydaydream Fri 22-Mar-13 20:13:51

I quite often take pics/videos on my phone of my dc to send to dh, most of the time they are happy just to play by themselves.

AliceWChild Fri 22-Mar-13 20:18:48
lovesherdogstoomuch Fri 22-Mar-13 20:21:55

ok i've been flamed! agh! My kids are 17 and 20 now. and i miss the 'going to the park bit'. i will slink off now.....;)

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 20:25:17

I think you're over dramatising it, you haven't been flamed, nobody's called you a cunt yet grin grin (plenty of time for that when the thread gets longer and posters only read the OP and not the rest grin)

lovesherdogstoomuch Fri 22-Mar-13 20:27:33

ok. thanks AgentZZ.

chandellina Fri 22-Mar-13 20:31:01

I think it's about more than just ignoring children. People are less engaged with the people around them, including their loved ones, because we all have our noses stuck in phones half the time. There can be good reasons for it, but a lot of rubbish ones too.

Astr0naut Fri 22-Mar-13 20:32:26

The park is boring and, for the last 6 months, fucking cold. Most of the time I am on my phone I am checking what time it is, so I can give in and go home. grin

LetUsPrey Fri 22-Mar-13 20:34:58

I'm supposed to take them to the park? But it's cold outside and that's where the park is. I can ignore them quite as easily indoors.

honeytea Fri 22-Mar-13 20:35:31

OP I think you should go and volenteer to play with people's kids at the park if you miss going to the park, the mum's would love they could sit and mumsnet whilst you play tag with their kids smile

kerala Fri 22-Mar-13 20:35:42

My phone is broken and cant get another until my "upgrade" is due at the end of April <sobs quietly> but it is quite liberating in a way. I speak to my children now and read books.

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 20:36:18

Just going on my own experience and things I've read on here chandellina, there are quite a few people at the park that I'd rather not engage with tbh (and I admit I'm making my own judgements on that one grin)

Hahaha Astr0.

DuttyWine Fri 22-Mar-13 20:38:49

So it's probably 10 years since you took your kids to the park? I'm guessing your phone back then was a Nokia 3210 and the best thing you could do on it was play snake grin

Would you make the same judgement if the parents you saw were reading books or newspapers? I often read online news on mine when I get a spare 5 mins as well as go on mumsnet of course!

honeytea Fri 22-Mar-13 20:45:02

So it's probably 10 years since you took your kids to the park? I'm guessing your phone back then was a Nokia 3210 and the best thing you could do on it was play snake

I want to play snake! goes to search for a snake app

maisiejoe123 Fri 22-Mar-13 20:47:23

I was on the tube the other day and the majority of people were 'on their phone'. We have gone far too far on this mobile marklarky! People have falled down potholes and been run over looking at their mobiles. What's the urgency....

MrsKeithRichards Fri 22-Mar-13 20:48:12

You can get a snake app called snake97 or something it turns your whole phone into an old Nokia, it's fucking amazing.

babacoon Fri 22-Mar-13 20:49:15

Lol at Nokia 3210grin

Nirvana1999 Fri 22-Mar-13 20:49:18

Jesus, one thing I've learnt since joining MN is you get judged on absolutely everything!

Sometimes I have a wee look at my phone at the park. I'm sorry that I'm not watching my kids every bloody move. I might be a mum but I'm an actual person too.

Nirvana1999 Fri 22-Mar-13 20:51:35

<reads whole thread and goes on the hunt for Snake App>

Pfft! Phones?! I thought all MNers had iPads now? grin

honeytea Fri 22-Mar-13 20:54:04

Mrskeith thanks for the tip that is my weekend wasted

Floggingmolly Fri 22-Mar-13 20:55:13

You don't take your kids to the playground for "together" time. You take them to wear them out.

OutragedFromLeeds Fri 22-Mar-13 21:04:15

There are people that are glued to their phones all the time. Those people are annoying. You should supervise your child at the park. You don't have to watch and engage with them every second, but glancing up from your phone to see what they're doing is a good idea.

It makes me laugh at playgroup when there are a group of mums sitting in silence all staring at their phones. They're probably all mumsnetting about each other....grin

OutragedFromLeeds Fri 22-Mar-13 21:05:41

*It's not just the park btw, it's the school playground, playgroups, soft play, a cafe anywhere your children could be terrorising other people while you facebook really.

HotCrossNaanAndRessurectiOn Fri 22-Mar-13 21:08:48

I'm totally guilty of this. They are playing and I get 5 mins to myself!

If they want me to push the swing or help them climb, then I'm there, but otherwise its a quick shufti at facebook.

Samu2 Fri 22-Mar-13 21:10:12

I used to hate taking mine to the park.

So I would read or play with my phone.

gallifrey Fri 22-Mar-13 21:10:37

I have a theory about this!

A few years ago more or less everyone used to smoke, it gave us something to do with our hands. Nowadays nobody is allowed to smoke anywhere and we still need to do something so we play with our phones.

I am not some weird ex smoker btw, this is just a casual observation!

Calabria Fri 22-Mar-13 21:13:54

I now have Snake App on my phone! grin

MrsKeithRichards Fri 22-Mar-13 21:17:21

It's great isn't it?

honeytea Fri 22-Mar-13 21:19:52

I also now have snake, my poor son, mummy is going to be so busy this weekend it is lucky pappa is home.

fuckwittery Fri 22-Mar-13 21:29:38

i'm usually working, in my futile attempt to work a full time 60 hr a week job in 4 days a week which entails constant blackberry checking and working through the night.
Believe me, I hate it and am leaving next week to spend the next 2 years in the park. I won't have an excuse to play on my phone anymore, but parks are a bit boring are they not?

Nirvana1999 Fri 22-Mar-13 21:32:41

I hate parks they are boring. Luckily I have twins. They can look after each other whilst I MN ;)

OutragedFromLeeds Fri 22-Mar-13 21:34:17

Yeah, particularly now we're not allowed to judge anyone. That used to be a fun way to pass the time.

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 21:35:09

It's really only very small children who need you hovering interacting with them, they want to be playing with the other children there when they're a bit older.

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