SAHMs of school aged children

(85 Posts)
Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 13:59:14

aibu to think this is a major perk of being one? where no-one else can see you doing it? and no-one can ask for some?

I have just melted 20g of Luscious Orange Willies Cacao chocolate in a ramekin and then dipped a banana into it and ate the lot. Chocolate all warm and runny and then solidifying and sticking to teeth

This is what it is all about and only 3 weightwatchers points

This is the life wink

CockyPants Tue 19-Mar-13 14:01:56

I'm a SAHM to a school aged DD. and just enjoyed entire box of Daim Mikado biscuits. Yumtastic.

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 14:05:13

oh I love the Daim ones envy

likesnowflakesinanocean Tue 19-Mar-13 14:07:04

I am sat here working on the laptop like a schmuk when i could be melting chocolate. would milk with oreo melt? i have a severe lack of chocolate going on. In my defence i did buy ds one too!

LandofTute Tue 19-Mar-13 14:07:16

I never get to sample any Luscious Orange Willies while the kids are at school. grin

likesnowflakesinanocean Tue 19-Mar-13 14:07:16

milka * chocolate as in

JustinBsMum Tue 19-Mar-13 14:07:23

Gosh never heard of either of these. Sadly not a SAHM now so will have to miss out grin

CockyPants Tue 19-Mar-13 14:07:39

And don't forget you get to watch whatever TV you want, ie not Cbeebies!!

CockyPants Tue 19-Mar-13 14:08:15

And go to the toilet ALONE

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 14:09:11

yes I have sky plussed gone with the wind
I may spend all day tomorrow watching it whilst eating lobster bisque

Casualty Tue 19-Mar-13 14:09:39

I've just made a bowl of chocolate frosting and eaten it with a spoon grin

aldiwhore Tue 19-Mar-13 14:10:48

I'm a SAHM Mon-Weds, but Chocolate Orange Willies sounds like a luxury wink that I don't have.

I have just made some soup though, and because I have time, I was able to make it taste exactly like the covent garden on of the same flavour... completely pointless!!

I'm also doing penance for spar time by doing my DH's admin, gah, I'd rather be in the office.

aldiwhore Tue 19-Mar-13 14:11:45

My keyboard randomly misses letters... sorry.

KellyElly Tue 19-Mar-13 14:14:42

I'm hiding this thread because I'm jealous of you all grin

jojane Tue 19-Mar-13 14:24:31

I still have 2.5 years before I am free like you to enjoy orange willies! I am currently watching fireman Sam with a 2 year old rolling around on me, trying to get the energy together to have a quick tidy around before the school run.

LandofTute Tue 19-Mar-13 14:25:45

ha ha at watching Gone with the Wind while eating lobster bisque while the kids are at school. grin

TattyDevine Tue 19-Mar-13 14:26:26

Never seen or heard of an orange willie, and I live in essex confused

grin

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 14:26:35

they aren't real willies grin

jojane, just be grateful you are not Norman Price's Mother....<taps nose>

LandofTute Tue 19-Mar-13 14:26:46

Next time someone asks me what i do with my day i am going to say I eat lobster bisque while watching Gone with the Wind. grin

LaundryFairy Tue 19-Mar-13 14:31:38

Nice answer, Landoftute. I always tell people that I spend my days painting my nails and eating bon-bons (preferably on a chaise-longe)!

Domjolly Tue 19-Mar-13 14:31:58

Haha i just made 10 fairy cakes and ate the lot

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 14:32:01

well you do need a whole school day to watch it imo
with no interruptions grin

Chandon Tue 19-Mar-13 14:32:38

that sounds like such a good plan!

LandofTute Tue 19-Mar-13 14:34:30

I also read the answer
"Monday - the postman"
"Tuesday - the delivery man."
"Wednesday - Your husband."

That was someone on Mnet's suggestion for a reply to someone who was asking in a particularly sneery way! grin

freddiefrog Tue 19-Mar-13 14:37:25

I'm a SAHM 3 days a week

I'Ve just made myself a massive 3 story sandwich and watching my stash of sky plussed Midsomer Murders - no one is around to laugh at the size of the sarnie or take the mick out of my love of John Nettles

After school clubs until 4pm today as well - result!

Timetoask Tue 19-Mar-13 14:42:14

I've just come back from my weekly shopping, I am now tucking into a yummy chocolate icecream with chunky bits, mmmmmm. grin
<disclaimer: I do NoT do this all the time, promise!>

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 14:58:32

it has made me feel so tried i just had a power nap on the sofa under a quilt

weewifey40 Tue 19-Mar-13 15:04:26

my guilty pleasure, when I was a sahm to school aged kids, was to have a daytime nap. I'd set the alarm so I couldn't oversleep and forget to pick kids up, and then have a good long snooze in a totally silent house.
Oh and reading books... Another guilty pleasure.
I'll always remember my time as the sahm of school aged kids as some of the best years of my life!

razamatazz Tue 19-Mar-13 17:58:14

sorry to be rude but (unless you have money to burn or just can't) why wouldnt you work?? I don't really see why sitting around eating is something to be proud of?

TheChimpParadox Tue 19-Mar-13 18:02:17

have a wine and chill razamatazz

Chandon Tue 19-Mar-13 18:08:09

Raz, let me turn the question around, why would you work if you could be at home dozing under a quilt, eating ice cream and lobster bisque?

I am getting some great inspiration on here grin

BegoniaBampot Tue 19-Mar-13 18:08:20

why should I work? keeps a job for someone who needs it.

BegoniaBampot Tue 19-Mar-13 18:10:08

and i went for a lovely walk before i sat on my arse and had a lovely lunch thanks.

shewhowines Tue 19-Mar-13 18:10:39

YABU

20g is not enough.

dublindee Tue 19-Mar-13 18:15:25

I used to do some of these. Then DS3 came along... So now, I have gorgeous baby cuddles and shower him with lots of attention completely guilt-free as the other two aren't there to feel any jealousy. I'm treasuring these cuddle-filled days with my last gorgeous little man and being a SAHM has made it possible. Plus, when he naps I get to watch MY telly!!!

weewifey40 Tue 19-Mar-13 18:15:43

why would anyone work, if they didn't need to?!
When I was a sahm for school age kids it was just great to be there all the time for inset days, numerous school holidays, assemblies, kids off sick etc..easy to deal with, no stressful juggling required. And I've done the stressy juggling. Lots of it.

LadySybilPussPolham Tue 19-Mar-13 18:16:31

There's always got to be one to spoil the fun...
I'm currently enjoying 5 hours per week on my own now my youngest has started preschool. In between racing around like a lunatic trying to get housework done, I enjoy the supreme luxury of watching Call the Midwife while ironing, plus a cup of tea and a pack of biscuits without anyone sat on my lap.

TooYappy Tue 19-Mar-13 18:22:01

Oh good I come under the category of 'just cant work' !

Yes this is when I eat my cream cakes and Easter Eggs, my Ds has started checking the bin when he comes in to see what goodies I have ate, I have started hiding the evidence.

dimsum123 Tue 19-Mar-13 18:25:31

God I love being SAHM to school age kids. I also sometimes have afternoon naps. Only once I slept through the alarm and was very late picking the DC's up from school.

I go swimming and eat loads after and then it's nap time!

Would never want to give it up for work!

Nom nom NOM

TooYappy Tue 19-Mar-13 18:40:52

I had my nap this morning, sent the DC to school and jumped back into bed and woke at lunch-time then had a nice long bubble bath.

It's vair tiring though, I am vari sleepy again all this eating and cleaning hopefully DS2 will come to bed with me soon and I can read my book and lie down for cuddles.

and I have to do it all again tomorrow

doctorhamster Tue 19-Mar-13 18:46:24

This will be me in 18 months and I cannot bloody wait. By September next year I willhave been doing the sahm bit for 6.5 years. I deserve a break dammit!!!

Crawling Tue 19-Mar-13 18:49:35

Grrr I have 2 children too young for school and 1 school age, oh to have some piece in the toilet and being able to sit and eat chocolate without cries, or watch tv without getting up 50 times. Im envy

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 18:51:35

<snort> at me being proud of sitting around eating

Owllady Tue 19-Mar-13 18:54:23

tomorrow is gone with the wind day smile a lobster bisque

I would have cava champagne but I have to do the school run <feels sorry for self>

dublindee Tue 19-Mar-13 18:56:02

Lol at owl lady

Champagnecharleyismyname Tue 19-Mar-13 18:58:13

Well jell!

cherrypez Tue 19-Mar-13 18:59:48

Oh man...so jealous! I'm a teacher, so I NEVER get days like this, if I'm at home so are the kids!! Although I am very lucky to have the holidays off before someone moans I'm being ungrateful!

TooYappy Tue 19-Mar-13 19:00:41

I'm unsure what to do tomorrow, I have from 8am-3.40pm to myself. sad

I'm totally milking it tbh as then the DC have those blasted Easter holidays for 2 whole weeks which is the time I would quite like a job.

At least we will have chocolate. Mine are not even home now, one is at is grandads until 8pm the other out until 8.30pm, I really only need to be here from 3.40-4pm then 8pm-8am grin

Startail Tue 19-Mar-13 19:00:58

Children free baths in the morning, instead of when your dog tired after they finally go to bed!

Purplecatti Tue 19-Mar-13 19:08:02

I am soooo not going back to work.

Pixel Tue 19-Mar-13 19:08:11

Doctorhamster then whatever you do don't get a cat like mine. I don't get a minute's peace. He yells incessantly to go out/come in/have some meat/have some biscuits/go out again. It's more tiring than having the kids here, at least there's someone else to take turns doing his bidding!
(and no I cannot ignore him, others have tried and gone mad in the attempt).

janey68 Tue 19-Mar-13 19:33:40

Mmm lush orange Chocolate... You don't need the kids to be at school to indulge tho grin

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 19-Mar-13 20:17:12

It wasn't until I was signed off after a miscarriage that I appreciated how important time alone is. I spend my life being there for other people and rushing from here to there. If you can do it, who the fuck shouldn't you stay at home and eat chocolate? It must be good for your soul. (I'm plotting my escape from full time work!)

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 19-Mar-13 20:17:45

Why, not who!

EasilyBored Tue 19-Mar-13 20:32:28

Someone said to me the other day 'oh, you'll be going back full time (am part time now) when DS goes to school, yes?' Um, one - he is only 15 months and two -not if I don't need to!

Today I took a much needed mental health day. Day of annual leave, packed DS off to nursery and husband to work and sat on my arse all day and read my book and did some knitting. Heavenly.

numbum Tue 19-Mar-13 20:41:04

I got bored being a full time SAHM of school aged children so now work 2.5 days a week. It eases my guilt when I have a mid morning bubble bath and read trashy magazines on the other 2.5 days grin

WorraLiberty Tue 19-Mar-13 20:45:54

Never seen or heard of an orange willie, and I live in essex confused

Tatty!! grin

Nor me and so do I blush

MadCap Tue 19-Mar-13 20:48:18

I once read a thread on that other parenting website where one poster nutjob said that sahms should be forced to cleaned the houses of working mums.

Ooh, nice to be in good company, and get some great inspiration !
I went for a lovely walk around a lake today so I definitely deserve my hazelnut chocolate from LIDL tonight (even fitted in a LIDL shop too, and looked after DS and DH who are off with nasty colds)
But still had plenty of time to Mumsnet and watch CBBC with DS smile

(And for those who must ask I had a job until last October (P/T in pre-school) but zero hours and no work offered since then)

But there's more to life than work ... family and chocolate are right up there !

LandofTute Tue 19-Mar-13 21:05:25

Owllady Did you recover from the fatigue brought on by your chocolate melting exertions earlier? grin Perhaps you had better spend tomorrow reclining on a chaise longue and eating bon bons, as suggested by Laundryfairy. grin

dimsum123 Tue 19-Mar-13 23:06:44

My guilty pleasures are proper french creme brulees from waitrose and yum yums from m&s with a cup of tea and my feet up watching tv or reading in bed. And I don't feel guilty. It was damn hard for many years before the DC's both went to school so I definately deserve an easier time now.

And yes, I agree, it would be selfish of me to take on a job when it could be had by someone who needs and wants it more than I do. grin

freddiefrog Tue 19-Mar-13 23:13:42

sorry to be rude but (unless you have money to burn or just can't) why wouldnt you work??

Because I am a lazy cow

bedmonster Tue 19-Mar-13 23:41:09

I had 3 lovely months of being sahm of school age dc until pesky dc3 came along and spoiled all my fun. I ate lunch out, went for long walks with a borrowed dog, read loads and was just there for the dds. Inset days, holidays, clubs, playdates, parties, illnesses, Xmas plays, assemblies, all the stuff my mum felt guilty about missing out on.
We are lucky enough to be in the position where only one of us needs a job and dp loves his and is very good at it. Unless things change drastically or I get very bored when ds goes to school in 3 years time, I will continue being a sahm. I love it. Especially when ds has his daily 3 hour snooze and I watch tv, mn, read, clean up a bit and eat malteaser bunnies grin. I am very proud of my bunny munching abilities grin

ChairmanWow Wed 20-Mar-13 01:41:08

I'm pretending at the moment. DC2 is overdue and DC1 will stay at nursery full time for another couple of months. Since finishing for mat leave I've had the most glorious month of napping, strolling, long baths, watching trashy crime dramas and eating. Today: nap, stroll and lunch in a cafe with my book, quick look in the shops, tea and cake in another cafe. Even the house move we've fitted in during this time hasn't taken the sheen off.

Shame another baby has to come along and spoil the fun. Then I have to return to work next year. Still, at least I get to have one of you come and clean my house when I go back to being a working mum grin.

madbengal Wed 20-Mar-13 02:13:39

I work a shift pattern days & nights & off and live for the 3 days off during the week where i can pack her off to school and have a kid free bath or can go back to bed for a snooze with the cats bliss and I cant wait til Friday lol

Unacceptable Wed 20-Mar-13 03:21:24

They aren't actually willies?
disappointing

BeaWheesht Wed 20-Mar-13 03:43:12

I've been a sahm with little ones for 6 years now, dd starts school in 2.5 years. We don't have loads of money and I am probably going to retrain as errr something but when dd is in p1 I will be a sahm of school Aged children and I cannot wait! I have ambitions of my house being like a show house / going for runs / making gourmet meals but in reality I may well watch daytime TV and sleep.

TooYappy Wed 20-Mar-13 07:50:00

Owl lady will be much too busy watching Gone with the Wind to answer anything today I suspect. Poor dear.

ilovecolinfirth Wed 20-Mar-13 07:53:28

I am so jealous! smile

witchface Wed 20-Mar-13 08:14:13

I was supposed to be having a mental health day today but dd has decided she is too ill to go to nursery (but not ill enough to go back to bed) and dh has decided that as I am off and he doesnt start work til later he will have a nice lie in!

I was going to give up my 2 SAHM days in august when dd goes to school but after reading this thread im bloody keeping them!

Owllady Wed 20-Mar-13 08:18:11

Yes, it's gone with the wind day smile

I am a bit pissed off actually. I recorded the second series of stella and someone hmm has deleted it. So I will have to console myself with the trauma of that too <sniff>

HappyJustToBe Wed 20-Mar-13 08:24:55

I can't wait until DD is at school and I will get my two non working days all to myself. I'm also asked regularly if I will return to full time. Not on your life.

spottyock Wed 20-Mar-13 09:24:30

I've been a SAHM since Christmas. I'm only just learning to not feel guilty watching TV.
The best thing about it? Not having to juggle time off to assemblies, liturgies, shows; being around for play dates and picking the children up every day. I love it.

Owllady apparently on newer Sky boxes you can still access deleted stuff if it was deleted recently enough - something about one of the tabs? Worth a look before you give up.

After Easter I will have two afternoons a week to myself. I am reserving at least one a week as Sit On Arse day. This makes up for the fact that your average SAHM is on duty from 6am to 9pm what with laundry, packed lunches, etc. A couple of hours watching Legally Blonde is hardly the life of Riley.

It's all very well saying get a job, but finding one that fits with school run when you live in a rural area is just hilarious. It's dog walking or cleaning and my standards aren't good enough to clean other people's houses which both takes a job from someone who needs it more and would cut into lobster bisque time.

Owllady Wed 20-Mar-13 13:02:30

I spent 2 1/2 hours walking my own dogs this morning shock I don't think i have time for anyone elses. I attracted a man on my walk too, who had an ear ring <old enough to be my Dad>

It will have to be gone with the wind tomorrow grin

Owllady Wed 20-Mar-13 13:03:04

oops i meant to say, someone had deleted the recording of stella, so it had only recorded one episode sad I will have to buy the dvd <sob>

Timetoask Wed 20-Mar-13 13:06:50

Well, I had nice, long workout at the gym this morning, so now feel less guilty about that huge amount of chocolate icecream I had yesterday.

One thing, I will NOT do is watch daytime television. I'd rather listen to the radio, much more interesting.

TooYappy Wed 20-Mar-13 13:08:13

Oh ice cream I forgot I had ice cream!!

valiumredhead Wed 20-Mar-13 13:09:59

sorry to be rude but (unless you have money to burn or just can't) why wouldnt you work?? I don't really see why sitting around eating is something to be proud of?

<sigh>

Owllady Wed 20-Mar-13 13:12:56

<burns monopoly money>

HaveAGoHeroine Wed 20-Mar-13 13:14:32

I'm a SAHM to two preschoolers, my eldest starts school in September and my youngest will be in preschool for her 15 provided hours, I am really looking forward to those 15 hours grin

I won't look for a job until the youngest has gone into year 1, so when my youngest is in reception I will be a SAHM to two at school, again I can't wait.
We are assuming that I will look for work the September the youngest starts Yr1, but in all honesty if we are ok money wise I might even stay off a little longer. It makes for a relaxed house, it lets DH work and travel for work without any worry about childcare, I'm always around to do the errands and things that need doing, it suits us all.

Looking forward to some lobster bisque grin

TooYappy Wed 20-Mar-13 13:14:33

<eats ice cream whilst watching some pre recordings>

CherylTrole Wed 20-Mar-13 13:56:50

At last, a positive thread about SAHMs!!! Am reading for inspiration. Heres to me time ,chocolate, sleb mags, DM sidebar of shame, happy days and cuddles. Go for it ladies.

soverytiredofthis Wed 20-Mar-13 15:30:20

Oh I cant wait for this !
I am currently SAHM to disabled DD but in September she is starting school and whilst I will miss her I am also looking forward to it!

Eating my breakfast in peace ahhhhh the simple things!

Will also try and stuff face with chocolate and watch TV smile

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