Would you give directions to someone in a car?

(115 Posts)
kim147 Tue 19-Mar-13 11:33:09

Petrol station on way to an appointment was shut yesterday afternoon so I drove to the next town thinking there's be a garage. Saw someone walking her dog so I pulled over, opened window and smiled nicely with an "excuse me, please". She looked at me and then carried on walking.

Luckily someone a bit further up the road was more helpful.

I'm sure I seemed friendly when I said "excuse me"

mrs2cats Tue 19-Mar-13 11:35:36

That's weird. Maybe she hadn't heard and thought you'd mistaken her for someone else?

Yes, I'd give instructions to someone in a car. I always stand well back from the car though.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 19-Mar-13 11:36:07

This reminds me of a bad experience.

Walking along. Man politely asked for directions while say in car. I went into great detail telling him how to get there. Glanced back at him and realised he had been masterbating the whole time. grin

I would still stop and give someone directions though.

MrsKeithRichards Tue 19-Mar-13 11:36:38

I would, although I'm terrible at giving directions and look odd as I turn about trying to put myself on the route in my head to remember left and right.

Lots of reasons why someone won't though.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 19-Mar-13 11:36:46

Say in car = sat in car

Feminine Tue 19-Mar-13 11:41:22

I was walking home, 8 months pregnant and it was pissing down with rain.

A lady in a car wanted complicated directions, I gave them to her quite a few times. It took ages for her to understand.

At the end of the conversation I was soaked (more) and she drove off without even a "Thanks"

I still give directions. grin

thezebrawearspurple Tue 19-Mar-13 11:42:09

Perhaps she didn't speak english, suffers anxiety or is suspicious of strangers due to past experience. I think most people would happily give directions if they can, I always do.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 19-Mar-13 11:42:53

@ WhenSheWasBad.... eww... Did you call the police or anything?

limitedperiodonly Tue 19-Mar-13 11:44:50

Yes but I was told to keep the door between me and them - so facing the back of the car, not the front.

I once had a man ask me why I was standing like that and why I didn't stand the other way so I walked off.

ThingummyBob Tue 19-Mar-13 11:46:57

When I was young and stupid I used to give people the wrong directions on purpose blush

It serves me right that I'd never ask anyone myself now as I'm afraid I'll be sent the wrong way.

livinginwonderland Tue 19-Mar-13 11:51:12

i do, unless i'm alone at night, and i always stand way back from the car.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 19-Mar-13 11:51:39

cognito I just laughed at him and walked off. I was 16 at the time and this was the second time something like this happened.

It's a bit sad that it didn't shock me at that age.

seeker Tue 19-Mar-13 11:53:46

I can't think of any reason why you wouldn't give directions. Even if you don't speak English surely you can at least say "sorry, I don't speak English" I can say "sorry, I don't speak[insert any of I think 6 languages here.]" in the appropriate language!

BringBackBod Tue 19-Mar-13 11:56:24

I often get asked for directions and always do my best, but I'm crap at it tbh.

Bridgetbidet Tue 19-Mar-13 12:00:16

I am careful. When I was 17 a man asked me for directions then tried to get me into his car. I am fairly certain it was someone later convicted of some very serious crimes linked to that sort of behaviour.

So I am careful, if I was somewhere very isolated or where I felt vulnerable I would err on the side of caution.

KittyAndTheFontanelles Tue 19-Mar-13 12:03:11

Perhaps she was deaf. My friend, who is profoundly deaf, wouldn't engage with a hearing person who he doesn't know. He's not rude he just lacks the confidence to try to communicate with a potentially non deaf-aware person in such circumstances.

Yes, but having had it drummed into me as a child I always stand well back out of grabbing range.

TheNebulousBoojum Tue 19-Mar-13 12:09:29

Yes if it seems genuine, but in the same way as limited.
I also have a clear voice, so I don't need to snuggle up to the driver. smile

Fakebook Tue 19-Mar-13 12:12:43

I always get flustered when someone asks me for directions. One day on the way back from dropping dd off at school, someone pulled up beside me and asked directions to a pub. I'd never heard of it and told him to go into a side road and that particular area had the same name as the pub, so assumed it would be there. He said thanks and drove on about a metre and turned into a massive pub at the end of the road and embarrassingly there was the pub. I walk past it everyday and didnt know the name blush. He got out and smiled at me and pointed at the pub. Never have I been so embarrassed in my life.

diddl Tue 19-Mar-13 12:19:37

I always give directions.

One time someone was looking for a particular house number-the road they wanted ran across the end of the road they were on.

So they asked me if they needed to go left or right!

All I could say is try one way, if it's not correct, try the other.

Was out walking the dog once & got asked for directions by a blind lady.

That was difficult.

bigbluebus Tue 19-Mar-13 12:25:42

I always give directions to people who stop and ask. I have never given it a second thought - obviously I am very naiive and have led a sheltered life!

pigletmania Tue 19-Mar-13 12:31:06

Yanbu she was rude. I always try to help with directions if somebody stops in a car

Pandemoniaa Tue 19-Mar-13 12:31:22

I always give directions and living out in the middle of nowhere, there are a surprising number of people who've lost their way and can't work out where the next village has disappeared to.

I do recall, with absolute shame, the day I gave directions in French to a family who were en route to the Newhaven-Dieppe ferry. It involved lots of "follow X road for x kilometres" sort of directions and I felt really rather proud of myself. It was as they sped up the wrong road that I realised that I'd told them to turn left instead of right in my determination to prove my less than successful linguistic skills. blush

MrsHoarder Tue 19-Mar-13 12:39:09

Yes, but I'd also step back from your car.

If asking I wouldn't judge someone who didn't respond, you don't know what they thought as they walked away.

WorraLiberty Tue 19-Mar-13 12:43:21

Walking along. Man politely asked for directions while say in car. I went into great detail telling him how to get there. Glanced back at him and realised he had been masterbating the whole time.

OMFG exactly the same thing happened to me! shock

The difference was, he actually had to point it out to me because I was so busy yapping that I didn't realise!

I then called him a dirty bastard and threw my can of coke at this car.

WorraLiberty Tue 19-Mar-13 12:44:50

*his car

'Tis a common ruse! Have been caught out by flashers 'asking for directions' a few times. I seem to have been flashed a lot

Still give directions tho - if I can that is, I've got no sense of direction in towns. Fine in open countryside tho, maybe I was a pigeon in a previous life. grin

StuntGirl Tue 19-Mar-13 16:19:50

Maybe she's had a bad experience with it before? Maybe she's deaf? Maybe she has anxiety? Maybe she doesn't like talking to strangers? Maybe she had headphones on?

I'd probably be a bit annoyed but its not the end of the world.

limitedperiodonly Tue 19-Mar-13 16:27:14

My mum loves to give directions when she visits me. We have a lot of tourists round here and she's proud to help. Unfortunately she gets mixed up. I chased one poor soul going for an interview who she'd sent in the wrong direction.

Apart from that, I like to think that lots of tourists have had their best accidental finds because they've followed the instructions of a well-meaning but muddled old lady.

BTW she has no sinister ulterior motive grin

piprabbit Tue 19-Mar-13 16:30:54

I used to often get asked for directions by confused pedestrians as I walked to work in the City. I have been known to say 'follow me' if they looked especially bemused (or I caught them trying to head off in the opposite direction to where I'd told them) and actually take them to their destination.

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gazzalw Tue 19-Mar-13 16:51:47

I'd be dubious. Someone we know was giving directions, the guy assaulted her trying to get her handbag and she ended up with a broken leg, lying on the ground for ages before anyone found her ;-(!

GemmaTeller Tue 19-Mar-13 16:58:14

Yes, but put the dog between me and the car smile

We always get asked where the same garden centre is (and by the time they are near our road they are miles away ) as soon as the car slows down DH says under his breath 'is xxxx garden centre round here?'

expatinscotland Tue 19-Mar-13 17:04:56

No, and I've taught my children to never do this. Keep walking, looking ahead and say, 'NO!'

It's a way to abduct people.

Ditto on foot, pickpocket gangs use this ruse.

If they are in a car they can stop in a petrol garage and ask in there.

BellaVita Tue 19-Mar-13 17:33:47

Worra & WhenSheWasBad


The same happened to me too. I was about 12 (think Yorkshire Ripper Time). Where I lived was in the middle of where he used to strike and where he lived. It certainly looked like him when I think back.

BellaVita Tue 19-Mar-13 17:34:45

In fact he asked me to get in the car and show him the way to where he wanted to go. I bloody shiver now thinking about it.

backonlybriefly99 Tue 19-Mar-13 18:15:33

Why would someone want directions? In the old days yes, but now you have satnav in your car or google maps for your phone or you google it and get directions before you go out. Do people really leave home not knowing where they are going? The last trip I made to a new place I used Streetview to stand outside it so I'd recognise the building when I got there.

Because I walk a lot it seems like I get asked nearly every day and I never know the answer anyway. I didn't grow up in this area and play in the streets. My friends and family are all in my old area. So even though I've been here years I know the names of my road, the main road where the shops are and the bus/train stations.

I keep promising myself that I'm going to say "Google it" to the next person who stops me.

lainiekazan Tue 19-Mar-13 18:23:09

I give directions and ask for them. Asked a load of Burberry-clad lads in Leeds once in my embarrassingly vair poshe southern voice how to get to Caarrstleford. They were most obliging and couldn't have been more helpful.

I too had the "nasty man" incident when I was a teenager. Stopped and asked me for directions and as I stepped towards his car he swung the door open.

I wouldn't do as expat does and teach my dcs to say "No!" though. It's one thing children declining to assist, but for adults to refuse to help is depressing.

ComposHat Tue 19-Mar-13 18:47:26

I have an awful sense of direction so when stopped I tend to say sorry not from round here myself. A terrible lie but better than sending them all round the houses.

DawnOfTheDee Tue 19-Mar-13 18:52:17

backonlybriefly99 Not everyone has satnav or a smartphone tbh. And if they do sometimes they're not accurate/don't work. If you're in a town you don't know sometimes it's easier to just ask.

EndoplasmicReticulum Tue 19-Mar-13 18:56:54

Yes, but for some reason the only time I ever get asked is when I am visiting somewhere unfamiliar and haven't got a clue.

I am also not good with directions as I do not know my left from my right and have no spatial awareness, so ask me at your own risk!

skratta Tue 19-Mar-13 19:00:30

I had something similar Worra sad I noticed half way through and kind of stopped/froze. He grinned. I just ran off. It was about eight years ago so I wasn't even particularly young but my then 5yo DTDs were walking up ahead, I'd told DH to go on and I'd catch him up thankfully. I loved where I was (Ilford area) but it was really shocking! Sometimes I wonder if he asked me because of the DTDs. I reported it to the police a bit after, and he'd been arrested the day after he stopped me.

Nirvana1999 Tue 19-Mar-13 19:01:20

When I was about 18 a car pulled up with a French couple inside asking for directions to a local hotel. After 10 mins of a difficult language barrier and me trying to do an impression of a set of traffic lights I ended up getting in the car and showing them exactly where it was. Very stupid thing to do but they were lovely.

RevoltingPeasant Tue 19-Mar-13 19:15:24

Worra, is it terrible that I find it hilarious (in a way) that he had to point it out?

I am imagining the AIBU now, by CreepyBloke: 'Today I was trying to frighten a young girl by wanking at her in my car but she didn't notice and kept giving me directions to the next LittleChef. I had to point out my cock to her, as it was so pathetic she hadn't seen it blush WWYD?'

Pretty sad/ shocked at people who tell their children to shout 'no' at people who are lost, though. How horrible. My parents always raised me to be cautious but also to help people who needed it. And if you really can't bear them helping a lost stranger, can't you teach them to be polite about it, as in saying they're not from around here or something?

I hope that one day when your DD is lost in a strange town someone is kinder to her, that's all!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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digerd Tue 19-Mar-13 19:38:25

Laughing at the wankers, which reminded me of my teenage years, but they weren't in cars, they were on tube stations, streets and behind a newsparer sitting on the tube!! In my day we had more flashers than wankers though, those wearing raincoats, who opened them infront of you .
And one in the maze of subways at the Elephant & Castle when I was 18, suddenly appeared with trousers by his ankles wanking and asking me ' how about it then, that he had a rubber'
I just laughed and told him NO, and to put it away, which I had to say a few times. Nobody else around in those days, but I was a confident teenager and could tell he was no threat.

exoticfruits Tue 19-Mar-13 19:39:27

Of course. I was once very irritated because we stopped to ask 2 12 year olds on bikes, there was no one else around. One of them just said 'I'm not allowed to talk to strangers' and walked off.
At 12 years of age I would have thought that her mother might have taught her to risk access. The car was full, we were going on holiday. We had my DH and me in the front, a baby, a toddler, both in car seats, and a 10yr old in the back-what on earth did they think we could do?! Added to that they were on bikes. Common sense should have told her that it was OK. As it turned out all she needed to say was 'just go a bit further on and it is on the left'.

digerd Tue 19-Mar-13 19:39:36


Wolfcub Tue 19-Mar-13 19:43:51

I would. However, a man once tried to pull me into his car using this as a ruse so I would be cautious and would stand well back from the windows and doors as a result

Sunnywithshowers Tue 19-Mar-13 19:44:31

I would, but I stay well away from the door.

digerd Tue 19-Mar-13 19:45:05

My DD's satnav has been known to send us to the wrong address'

It is very frustrating when you get lost driving. I can imagine people are stressed out by the time they ask.
My DH would never ask for directions, especially from another man, I had to do it.

kim147 Tue 19-Mar-13 20:05:06


Was on a trip to a local village but fuel was low. Did not need Sat Nav as it was at home and I do not own a smart phone.

This was rural North Yorkshire with not many garages. When I was told where the garage was, it had no fuel because the garage 6 miles away had just closed so everyone had gone there. The joys of the country smile

ThingummyBob Tue 19-Mar-13 20:12:44

Finding fuel in North Yorkshire outside of 9-5 is as hard as finding rocking horse shit Kim grin

limitedperiodonly Tue 19-Mar-13 20:50:31

Yeah, why would anyone ask for directions or speak to anyone when they can use SatNav or Google? They're obviously out to abduct and murder you.

Be afraid and make sure you tell your children. That way they can be terrified of asking people for help too confused

How ridiculous.

Plomino Tue 19-Mar-13 20:56:05

I used to work in Central London , mainly on foot . I used to give out so many sets of directions , I started to wonder whether I had A-Z on my hat badge instead of E2R .

It's odd . Even when not at work , people ask me for directions . Even in a completely full petrol station , it's always me they ask . And I thought I didn't look approachable !

Hulababy Tue 19-Mar-13 20:59:04

I would and have, many times.

Mind you - one particular driver will probably still be fuming at me a couple of years on! He asked for directions to a local private hospital. I gave clear and accurate directions - well they were accurate if you wanted the other private hospital a couple of miles or so away! Eeek. I only realised half an hour later when I drove past it on my way home!

VerySmallSqueak Tue 19-Mar-13 21:03:47

Fear for good reason is not ridiculous limited.
I would give directions as I have had no problems when doing this.
Others have had different experiences.

VerySmallSqueak Tue 19-Mar-13 21:08:26

I used to hitch all over the place years ago.
I wouldn't do it now though.
Makes me wonder whether times have changed,whether I've changed,or whether I was just downright foolhardy in the first place confused

limitedperiodonly Tue 19-Mar-13 21:20:38

verysmallsqueak How nice that we agree because you probably didn't notice but upthread I talked about being cautious in case something dodgy happens.

However, I still believe that as long as you have your wits about you it'll be okay because most people want to know the way rather than to rape and murder you.

Which is what you think too, isn't it?

Beyond that it is ridiculous to live in fear.

gazzalw Tue 19-Mar-13 21:43:54

I don't live in fear giving directions. I was just flagging up that asking for directions can be a distraction tactic and that it is necessary to always be on the alert just in case....

VerySmallSqueak Tue 19-Mar-13 21:55:33

What I think limited is that if someone is scared to give directions because something has happened to them,then it's not ridiculous,it's understandable ('fear for good reason') IYSWIM.
Generally I agree that it is better not to live your life in fear if you are able and that it's better to believe there's good in most people.

seeker Tue 19-Mar-13 22:31:43

Has anyone been abducted by somebody who stopped to ask the way?1

lovesherdogstoomuch Tue 19-Mar-13 23:09:03

omg! sorry MNers but could not stp laffing at the guy masturbating in the car while you were giving directions...... omg. am so sorry for finding this funny. who would have thought. i have gaily given directions and really haven't noticed anything untoward. jessus. i am in my element when giving directions. ;/

sashh Wed 20-Mar-13 03:01:08

When I was young and stupid I used to give people the wrong directions on purpose

Are you in Devon? Was it you who sent my parents the wrong way?

I will always give directions.

In one case I got in the car because it was very difficult to explain how to get there but very near.

ThisIsMummyPig Wed 20-Mar-13 03:30:59

I grew up in a rural area, and had to walk home three miles, mostly along roads with no pavements, and no streetlights. I must have been stopped 2-3 times a week by people asking for directions, and I always gave them.

I still give directions regularly, and I don't have a sat-nav, or a smart phone. Nor do my parents, my in laws etc. Even if they did, what are the odds of knowing the postcode where you are going?

exoticfruits Wed 20-Mar-13 06:56:07

Has anyone been abducted by a family of 5 travelling in an average family sized car?!

exoticfruits Wed 20-Mar-13 06:59:20

If you go to self defence classes they deal with giving people directions. It is very simple, you always position yourself so that if they open the door it is between you and them. This gives you warning if they are going to get out and bundle you in- and you run for it.

PseudoBadger Wed 20-Mar-13 07:11:22

There are lots of dog thefts at the moment - perhaps that's why she ignored you.

exoticfruits Wed 20-Mar-13 07:14:33

The mind boggles at how you get out of the car and bundle a strange dog in while the owner is standing there!

PseudoBadger Wed 20-Mar-13 07:18:14

Believe it or not in certain areas of the country people really are quite concerned about the rate of thefts. I was just putting it out as a possibility.

exoticfruits Wed 20-Mar-13 07:22:16

I can see that, but I can't see why a lone woman in a car is going to be a threat.

seeker Wed 20-Mar-13 07:27:52

When was anyone last "bundled into a car"?

RooneyMara Wed 20-Mar-13 07:54:52

yes of course - kidnap is just another urban myth.

limitedperiodonly Wed 20-Mar-13 08:06:07

About the same time as a car spontaneously combusted on the forecourt of a petrol station.

seeker Wed 20-Mar-13 08:31:02

Well, unless you live in Columbia..........

gazzalw Wed 20-Mar-13 08:38:49

Well not everyone is going to be a threat - probably single men in cars are more so to a lone female (or with young children) than families or female drivers.

Whenshewasbad..... similar thing happened to DW when she was a teen on day-trip to France with school. Apparently a young, quite handsome French guy went round the town asking all the girls directions! He must have masturbated in front of almost the entire year group hmm. They just thought it hilarious...

littlepeas Wed 20-Mar-13 08:45:51

I have also been flashed by a man who stopped and asked me for directions! It was horrible actually - as soon as I noticed I walked away and he drove on and stopped further up the road, so I crossed over and he turned round. A police car drive past at that point and he then drove up, but I was haunted by all sorts of horrible thoughts about what he was planning!

So I would be very cautious about giving someone directions.

VerySmallSqueak Wed 20-Mar-13 08:57:10

I was actually attacked by a man who stopped (although he didn't ask directions - he just was fiddling with his car) and once I had passed he hid further up the road.
He then jumped out and grabbed me.

If i am alone on a quiet road I have to say my heart does thump a bit faster if a car stops near me.

I will still give directions as I've experienced no problems doing that as such (no one has reached out and try to pull me into the car),but I do understand people's fear.

RooneyMara Wed 20-Mar-13 08:57:28

unless you live in Columbia, or Australia, or anywhere that cars exist, or people who want to do random dreadful things to strangers.

I accept it's not an everyday occurrence but it does happen.

I still give directions though.

gazzalw Wed 20-Mar-13 09:02:39

There seem to have been quite a few nasty incidents reported by Mumsnetters on this thread sad which perhaps suggests that the problem is more widespread than one might think.

I think you make judgement calls about these things. DW is always happy to give directions if it's daylight and it's on a relatively busy road, but she's quite intuitive so think she would know when to stop and be helpful or just walk on. She certainly wouldn't do so, of a dark evening, walking down a side road on her own.

How horrible for you, VerySmallSqueak....

VerySmallSqueak Wed 20-Mar-13 09:04:42

It was a long long time ago gazzalw but you never forget these things.

exoticfruits Wed 20-Mar-13 09:06:42

People don't seem to have the ability to risk assess. A woman, in a car alone, in the afternoon, in a town is not a risk-especially if you have your dog with you.

TooYappy Wed 20-Mar-13 09:11:57

I don't anymore as there are too many new houses and estates here I get them mixed up, an ambulance asked me once and I was just too confused.

I do stop the car and ask people myself though, if I am somewhere I don't know.

WorraLiberty Wed 20-Mar-13 09:12:11

Worra, is it terrible that I find it hilarious (in a way) that he had to point it out?

No, I found it hilarious too - as did the Policewoman I reported it to.

She said, "Well that's ruined his day, hasn't it?" grin

thegreylady Wed 20-Mar-13 09:15:40

The only time I saw a flasher it was on the canal towpath in Skipton. I was walking my daft Labrador off the lead so not obviously with me iykwim. She jumped up and licked his willy!!
He actually ran down the path with her lolloping after him jumping up as he tried to put it away!

RobinSparkles Wed 20-Mar-13 09:46:12

When I was about 19 (and very very stupid) I was on my way to University when a woman stopped her car and asked directions to the building that I was on my way to. I told her that I was on my way there so she said, "ooh, hop in. I'll give you a lift!" So I did blush.

Luckily, she was lovely and had no sinister motives but I cringe when I think about it now. She could have been anybody.

It was a very rough area and a known route for students to take to Uni. Anyone could have pretended to be on their way to Blab Blah Building in order to capture a naive student. On the other hand she was silly too - she could have been letting a murderer or robber into her car!

limitedperiodonly Wed 20-Mar-13 09:54:50

I don't think you were that stupid robin.

Yes, she could have been Myra Hindley or Rose West, luring victims for her husband. But she wasn't. She was lost and you got a lift out of a rough area.

We did recently have emails from the school that at least one bloke in a car (description given) was stopping girls going home from DD's secondary on the pretext of asking directions and exposing himself while still sat in the car. (Think it was one bloke.)

School gave advice to girls to walk together as much as possible, etc, and if they did get stopped by bloke, to try and remember the licence plate. I think some of the boys walked with the girls too, as a bigger group might persuade bloke not to stop them.

I think he has been arrested. Apparently he wasn't that old either from the descriptions they already had.

Worra You should have just said "What a silliy little thing!" in your best brisk voice to your wanker grin That would really have ruined his day.....

Tanith Wed 20-Mar-13 10:21:18

Many years ago, I was walking to work along a major road in Reading when a man in a van pulled up in a lay-by to ask directions. I told him and got a bit worried when he carried on talking so I backed off a bit. Then he opened the door and grabbed hold of me to pull me in.

I was extremely lucky that a passing lorry driver had seen and sounded his horn. Van driver leapt back in, and drove off as quick as he could.

I did report it, but was so shaken up I couldn't tell them much and I never heard any more about it.

Catchingmockingbirds Wed 20-Mar-13 11:40:59

When I was a teenager my friend was walking home after spending the day with me and someone stopped her for directions. It turned out there was more than one person but they were hiding in the back and they then tried to drag her into the car. Luckily she kicked and screamed and managed to get away, but it's made me wary ever since.

TooYappy Wed 20-Mar-13 12:09:24

I have been ignored before but it has taken me to read this to realise, I now see my chasing people for directions it's possibly not acceptable and these people are quite clearly ignoring me and have not, 'just not heard me' as I have always thought.

They always answer when I follow them though. blush

I will stop it now.

BuddyButters Wed 20-Mar-13 12:17:43

I never do, but only because I've got no sense of direction.

Unless they wanted directions to my house.

If they wanted directions to anywhere else they'd end up in Scarborough. Unless they wanted directions to Scarborough. In which case they'd probably end up at my house.

Molehillmountain Wed 20-Mar-13 12:31:23

I try not to-my directions are so rubbish they'd probably get lost! These days I'd look it up on my phone though.

FloraFox Wed 20-Mar-13 16:48:31

Someone tried to ask me for directions when I was taking cash out of a machine in central London. Then she started spouting how rude I was when I ignored her.

I have told my children to be very wary of both men and women strangers. The risk of being abducted is highly unlikely but the consequences if it happens are huge. The risk of giving offence is more likely but the consequences are trivial. That's how I teach them to risk assess.

grimbletart Wed 20-Mar-13 17:00:58

Years ago I was hurrying along Euston Road to catch the last train, red hot coffee in hand. Guy stopped to ask directions he was having a wank:
not a good idea to do that to a woman carrying a hot coffee......

kim147 Wed 20-Mar-13 17:03:31

Please tell me you did something with the coffee smile

There's a lot of weird blokes out there.

limitedperiodonly Wed 20-Mar-13 17:43:11

A black cab driver stopped to tell me I had nice legs. I wasn't looking for a cab but if I was it didn't make me want to hop in.

That's what I mean about having your wits about you. Other than that, you just have to trust and the idea that you're some kind of supersleuth is ridiculous and insulting.

Owllady Wed 20-Mar-13 17:47:47

wasn't it lee evans who did a sketch about why was it when you stopped and asked for directions you always asked the village idiot?

lljkk Wed 20-Mar-13 17:53:41

A few times I have been flagged to give someone directions on a car, but when I approached & often after I politely gave directions, I was verbally abused or mocked. It's very strange, a new game for young men especially, maybe. It's made me wary.

Few flashers, too, but I can report their license plates, at least.

ToomuchWaternotWine Wed 20-Mar-13 18:01:21

I was flashed by a guy on the platform of the tube when I was working in London (a young looking early twenty something). He leered and said "what do you think of that then, darlin'," I replied in my most bored, loud, posh scots clipped tones "looks like a penis, only much smaller" he slunk off and I got a round of applause from the people standing near me

One of my finest moments grin <bows>

Oblomov Wed 20-Mar-13 18:12:19

I would and always have and always will , give directions. I have never had a bad experience.

MsWetherwax Wed 20-Mar-13 18:46:21

I would, and do, give directions, but always stand well back and am especially wary of vans with sliding doors after a good friend of mine was grabbed through one and gang raped whilst giving directions to the driver. sad

Moominsarehippos Wed 20-Mar-13 18:50:29

I would but I would probably give very long, garbled instructions (including gems like 'turn left where the wool shop used to be'), then realise I'd pointed them in the wrong direction.

quietbatperson Wed 20-Mar-13 20:44:03

I give directions to drivers looking for the golf course. They drive to the village and then appear surprised that the golf course isn't actually in the middle of the village itself and is about 2 miles away.

Tanith Wed 20-Mar-13 21:18:54

Oh Grimbletart, what an absolute gift grin

Catchingmockingbirds Wed 20-Mar-13 21:27:45

toomuch what a great reply!

msweatherwax that is awful, were the men ever caught?

iheartdusty Wed 20-Mar-13 21:31:14

I was giving directions to driver when I was 16 when his mate came round behind me and pushed me into the back seat and they started to drive off. I got out somehow. Didn't get the numberplate, couldn't identify the car.

so many others on this thread with similar experiences.

so many others without such experiences who sneer.

MsWetherwax Fri 22-Mar-13 21:23:09

Catchingmockingbirds - no, they weren't. And she was a streetwise girl too. Unsuprisingly she has never quite recovered. sad

ToomuchWaternotWine Sun 24-Mar-13 18:09:41

Oh that is just terrible, MrsW, so sorry for our friend. Has she had help/counselling?

ToomuchWaternotWine Sun 24-Mar-13 18:10:04

your not our, obv. Damn ipad.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 24-Mar-13 18:19:39

Seemed to be a popular past time in the 80's for men to have a wank while asking for directions happened to me and most my friends

I think I probably apologised for interrupting him would never have been so assertive to throw a can of coke at him I would now

Yes I would give directions they probably wished they had not bothered asking i am rubbish at giving them though have a good sense of direction myself

FreudiansSlipper Sun 24-Mar-13 18:20:57

sorry my last post in bad taste after reading MsW's that is terrible sad

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