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to have expected comic relief to be watchable for my 5 year old before 8pm

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PrincessScrumpy Fri 15-Mar-13 20:39:38

I know comic relief gets a bit rude as the night goes on but I made the mistake of thinking that as dd has been raising money at school it would be good to let her stay up and watch until 7.45pm.

Yes I knew there would be jokes she wouldn't get but I didn't expect her to be taught the word shagging.

I remember watching it with my parents and wanted to do the same.

So, am I being a fuddy duddy?

crashdoll Fri 15-Mar-13 20:42:36

YABFD (fuddy duddy).

saulaboutme Fri 15-Mar-13 20:42:48

Alot if bad language this year. Shit, arse, tonguing...wtf

hiddenhome Fri 15-Mar-13 20:43:26

YANBFD

Spatsky Fri 15-Mar-13 20:44:02

I have been surprised b some of the content, but not unduly outraged.

Have been asked the meaning of vajazzle and shag by 5 and 7 year ld.

HoHoHoNoYouDont Fri 15-Mar-13 20:46:29

When Rowan Atkinson said 'arsing around' in his sketch I wanted to cringe, especially as my niece asked what it meant.

Bingdweller Fri 15-Mar-13 20:46:49

YANBU. The Rowan Atkinson sketch was not suitable for 5 year olds - mine was packed off to bed not long after it.

crashdoll Fri 15-Mar-13 20:47:17

I retract my statement. The vajazzle part was a bit off.

zwischenzug Fri 15-Mar-13 20:48:31

YABU to think comic relief is watchable by anyone of any age.

freddiefrog Fri 15-Mar-13 20:49:50

Not really outraged by it, but mine are a little older

My 11 year old already knows about shagging, and my 7 year old thinks it means kissing

DD2 was questioning me more about Zayn from 1D being upset in their film than any of the language/shagging/etc

Neither are really watching it, it's being used as an excuse not to go to bed.

chocoholic05 Fri 15-Mar-13 20:50:12

Yanbu I totally agree. I too promised my boys aged 5 and 7 they could watch it but switched it off earlier and told them.that it wasn't suitable. Not what I was expecting so early in the evening.

chocoholic05 Fri 15-Mar-13 20:51:46

Meant earlier than I'd promised them!

PrincessScrumpy Fri 15-Mar-13 20:54:28

I'm happy to explain the films about suffering in Africa etc as I don't think she's to young to see what she's raising money for, but I don't swear in front of my dc and thought it would be safe before 8pm (I expected innuendo but she wouldn't get that)

FiveGoMadInDorset Fri 15-Mar-13 20:55:33

I am actually quite glad that DC;s school did nothing for Comic Relief and seems to have passed them by.

AMumGoingMad Fri 15-Mar-13 20:56:32

YANBU Shagging and vajazzle all well before 8pm shock. Totally unacceptable. They even acknowledged that young children would still be watching and said hello to them!

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 20:57:16

yes I agree not suitable content for a 5 year old, yesterday something was on and they showed a bed covered in blood.

Even the eastenders sketch is not something i want my 5 year old exposed too.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 20:57:55

Vajazzle totally disgusting, even the ladies looking up the blanket like that really, my poor dd was in shock.

PoppyWearer Fri 15-Mar-13 20:58:47

Most of it went over my 4yo's head.

Although she watched the bits about the African children very intently and asked me questions.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Fri 15-Mar-13 20:58:57

YANBU. I'm so glad my kids were out of the room before talk of shagging and vajazzling started.

Startail Fri 15-Mar-13 21:00:14

My two are older and it hadn't struck me how early the Mid wife sectch was, YANBU.

DDs think bits if it are funny, I'm finding it very drawn out. Have come to MN as I can't stand Peter Kay

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:02:04

can some one tell me the context of the shagging and who said it - am on bbc complaints form.

Patchouli Fri 15-Mar-13 21:03:59

yanbfd
I bet a fair amount of the money was raised by children, seems a bit unfair that the earlier part of the evening can't be aimed more for them.

AMumGoingMad Fri 15-Mar-13 21:04:42

7:45 Rowan Atkinson (as the archbishop of canterbury) saying that love thy neighbour doesn't mean you should be shagging them.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:05:20

lol @ complaining about something you didn't actually see - that is the epitome of pearl clutching outragedness grin

v jazzle and shagging - they hear worse at school !

RinkyDinkyDoo Fri 15-Mar-13 21:06:21

YANBU- the Rowan Atkinson and midwives sketch should have been put on later. Thought Zayn's tears(lack of, even though he kept trying to rub) was rubbish and so fake.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:06:47

great thanks a mum - complaint submitted.

coatonarack Fri 15-Mar-13 21:07:17

Yes

Manchesterhistorygirl Fri 15-Mar-13 21:08:42

Regret letting ds1 stay up now. It was so inappropriate! I've packed him off to bed now as I don't want to see what jolly japes are planned post watershed. hmm

YABU, surely a parent should be watching something like this with a child, providing explanations or distractions as appropriate.

helenthemadex Fri 15-Mar-13 21:12:12

the whole concept of comic releif is great but before the watershed the programmes should be aimed at kids, funny but informing and educating.

Sadly the programme is cringeworthy, irritating and totally unfunny, My girls watched the bits in Africa but were not interested in anything more

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:12:29

Oooooh the outrage! (said in best Kenneth William's voice) grin

YANBU, but I think it is a general creep of what is considered acceptable, rather than just Comic Relief. I have notice quite a lot of dodgy language on PM on Radio 4 at 5pm each day. It is making me come over all Mary Whitehouse.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:13:31

plenty of stuff on CBBC all month for kids

Why on earth would you jump onto a complaints form to complain about something you didn't even watch? How strange.

I must admit I was a bit surprised by Rowan but thought he was very, very funny.

The rest needs to be complained about for utter crapness, rather than language. Can't stand Miranda and Peter Kay makes me want to tear out my own eyes and ears tbh.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:14:29

SB

Yes, I should have asked the BBC to send me the program before it aired, so I could watch it - with the script so we could distract at the appropriate moments, because of course that is the only way you could possibly know whats coming up?

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:15:27

I am watching it - and on MN. I missed the word.

ConferencePear Fri 15-Mar-13 21:16:46

Perhaps Red Nose Day has run it's course.
I would guess that the majority of kids in this country have been doing some sort of fund-raising today; it's not unreasonable that there should be some programmes this evening that were fun for them too.
So far some of tonight's output seems like a 'lad's night out'.

TicTacSir Fri 15-Mar-13 21:17:04

DS (5) is very sincere and intelligent, was very keen to watch the Africa part earlier, but once the EastEnders sketch came on we were wholly disappointed.
Surely OP meant they were all watching together, Sauvignon. Still not enough of a distraction even with parents present.

Awks Fri 15-Mar-13 21:17:22

YABU. The off button is there if you don't like it and our kids wont be scarred by hearing the word vajazzle once a year.

we turned over when the obem sketch was on though i had hoped my ten and six would have been able to watch it but i did wander what would be said next shock .

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:18:44

My DD saw it Gordy, its on the bloody tv, i saw the vajazzle i saw rowan my dd was saying " that looks like Mr Bean" she adores him, LOVED him at the opening ceromony et....

I just missed the word shagging! My DD will have heard it.

Yes I am clutching Pearls, yes I am, we underwrite the BBC and pay a hefty price for it - I am not accepting shag and vajazzle pre 9pm thanks!

idiot55 Fri 15-Mar-13 21:19:34

I think a lot of the stuff goes over kids heads, my 9 year old went to bed about 9pm and didnt flinch.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:20:27

TicTac

My DD said " oh no, not this program" and went to bed, I felt quite sorry for her and she loved miss piggy.

whats wrong with people?

FoofFighter Fri 15-Mar-13 21:20:33

YANBU.

I also expected Comic Relief to be a little bit funny. Still waiting for that one... hmm

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:20:53

Comic relief has always been like this. This was half of the attraction to watch when I was younger, so we could snigger at the swear words.

It's a couple of mildish words, not the bloody apocalypse.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:21:27

pmsl @ you real ??? You are very funny though - is this to raise millions for charity - a spoof AIBU?

my 8 and 10 year olds watched it - laughed and cried and didn't care about the odd rude word because they understand the bigger picture grin

underwrite the BBC ...arf grin

Yes I am clutching Pearls, yes I am, we underwrite the BBC and pay a hefty price for it - I am not accepting shag and vajazzle pre 9pm thanks!
First World problem? hmm

they sat in their Jim jams with their red noses on then where packed of to bed shame they raised a fair bit today too.

Coconutty Costa Rica Fri 15-Mar-13 21:22:27

Oh FFS, really, complaining about something you didn't even fucking see.

Seriously lost for words.

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 21:22:27

YABU

TandB Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:21

I made a similar comment to my MIL.

I'm not remotely squeamish about swearing/sex on TV generally, but I am a little surprised at some of the pre-watershed stuff.

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:22

can some one tell me the context of the shagging and who said it - am on bbc complaints form

You are complaining about a word that you didn't even hear?

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:32

also lots of clips of kids dying or preventable disease and the word 'shagging' is what outraged you ?

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:44

seriously it was shagging not cunt FFS

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:47

my DD is just five.

no its not appropriate, I am sure by 8 and 10 she will be ready for it.

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:25:05

It's just a word.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:26:53

No gordy, its wasnt the word shagging
it was also women peering under a sheet in a MW skecth
it was the use of the word vajazzle,
it was the word shagging
it was the east enders sketch.

my DD was also intellegently and intently watching the footage from africa and asking questions etc, and chatting about it and how lucky she is etc etc etc.

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 21:26:54

So she wouldn't have known what shagging meant and you only knew about it when you read about it on here? your daughter clearly didn't bat an eyelid.

What is the problem?

PoppyWearer Fri 15-Mar-13 21:27:07

Bring back Dick and Dom shouting "bogies!".

I think maybe CR is being smart....the kids have done their bit at school, no more money to be had from them. The teenagers have no cash. Aiming for an older audience, methinks. The Radio 2 lot rather than Radio 1.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:27:51

my 5 year old wouldn;t even register that it was a rude word - unless of course I lept off the sofa clutching my pearls and shouting 'fetch me the head of the BBC I am OUTRAGED at the bad word ...you are SCARED for life aren't you darling ...say YES to mummy'

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 21:27:56

I started a totally innocent thread about this, I think I should have put it in Telly Addicts because rather than talking about the humour and sketches it's become all about this.
I'm a bit weirded out at people allowing their children to watch dying children but are offended by some mild sexual humour that would go over the heads of most kids.
I really have to leave MN, it's doing my head in.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:28:36

I bet lots of parents like me thought oh good - she is interested - involved, has been doing stuff at school today a great time to learn about all this stuff, then its a case of no.,

sorry we cant watch this - its not suitable!

so we cant show you more, we cant teach you more about whats going on out there, because of the totally un neccasry use of words!

Remotecontrolduck Fri 15-Mar-13 21:29:13

I was surprised, but not enough to get outaged by it. It was pretty early for the shagging stuff I must admit. I suspect it went right over most kid's heads though!

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:29:21

and again if I was so worried about my childs sensibilities I would be more concerned about the dying babies - see that is what I am outraged about - which is the POINT

TwoBoiledEggs Fri 15-Mar-13 21:29:42

Why the hell should it be aimed at children? Seriously. Not little ones! My little one was in bed at 7 (normal bedtime!) The older one was up and quizzing me intently about HIV and we talked a lot about developing countries.

What the chuffing hell did you THINK Comic Relief would be about? Fluffy kittens and CBBC for the little ones? It's an adult subject, adult issues and adult solutions. Older children can enjoy the sketches and have serious conversations about the topics. And that's great for their education. But YAB so very, very, very U if all you wanted was an evening of young family entertainment. Watch Annie on DVD if that's what you want.

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:30:28

You teach her then.

Comic relief really isn't for 5 year olds.

Coconutty Costa Rica Fri 15-Mar-13 21:30:30

I hope that most people appreciate the huge effort which goes into raising money for such a great charity rather than getting their knickers in a twist over someone saying <whispers> shagging.

I thought Banging was the new shagging anyway, is that what the complaint is going to be about? Using an old fashioned word?

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:30:52

no she didnt bat an eye lid at shagging thank goodness, i didnt mention it to her - or the vajazzle.

HolidayArmadillo Netherlands Fri 15-Mar-13 21:31:05

A midwife peering under a sheet? I don't get it. What's outrageous about that? And I'm laughing a lot at the idea of complaining about something that can't have offended you because you didn't even see it grin

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:31:54

oh i see so miss piggy is on for us adults then!

^"no she didnt bat an eye lid at shagging thank goodness, i didnt mention it to her - or the vajazzle^"
Then what is your fucking problem? hmm

CloudsAndTrees Fri 15-Mar-13 21:33:39

If comic relief isn't for five year olds, why does the BBC aim so much of their marketing towards children?

Do they really think us adults are going to enjoy wearing a red dinosaur shaped ball on our noses, or do they do this stuff to get children interested and persuade parents to part with money?

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:33:45

So where is the problem then? She didn't even register the words. confused

As for the midwife sketch, I watched far worse on a school programme about childbirth when I was off with chicken pox when I was her age and it hasn't scarred me for life.

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:34:33

I like the Muppets and I'm 43.

IvorHughJangova Fri 15-Mar-13 21:34:51

LBE DH has just pointed out I'm sad here nodding furiously at my laptop. Yy to everything you've just said. Don't know what the fuck's going on here atm but people wimpering that their terribly terribly intelligent children have been scarred for life by hearing 'shag' and 'vajazzle' during comic relief is just pathetic.

SelfRighteousPrissyPants Fri 15-Mar-13 21:35:42

Apparently arse and shit aren't suitable for deaf people- the subtitles had them as cars and chit grin

roundtable Fri 15-Mar-13 21:36:35

Jeepers creepers, Mary Whitehouse, eat your heart out...

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:38:13

so she didn't even notice and you are complaining

you are hysterical ... in both senses grin

No gordy, its wasnt the word shagging
it was also women peering under a sheet in a MW skecth er... Peering under a sheer is unacceptable?? How??

it was the use of the word vajazzle, what is wrong with that exactly?

it was the word shagging. Ah, so it is the word shagging. Despite yr first sentence saying it isn't.

it was the east enders sketch. What was &#373;rong with that?

Truly bizzare.

freddiefrog Fri 15-Mar-13 21:43:50

Do you know what upsets me? That children die for the want of a £5 vaccine, that children have to rifle through rubbish to earn a living, that a mother chose to go without HIV medication so her daughter could have it, that cyber bullying led to a young man taking his own life.

All things that have been shown on tv tonight, yet you are outraged by the words vagazzle and shagging?

FinnTheHuman Fri 15-Mar-13 21:44:47

Children have been able to watch plenty of information and entertainment on CBBC about Comic Relief, there was no need to watch the evening event for them to appreciate what it was about and see what other children had been doing to raise cash.

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 21:44:56

Exactly, Freddie.

RoseandVioletCreams Fri 15-Mar-13 21:45:00

Ok, lets go real slow and clear here.

She didnt notice - I dont think the word " shagging" but she was sat there watching " Mr Bean.

She did however see the MW bit, the vajazzle bit- and the east enders sketch. She did see the shagging one, I dont want to mention it to her or make an issye of it so i have no idea what she thought of it. BUt - i did see - after dancing to one direction like her teachers showed her earlier, after seeing miss piggy, she was sad and went to bed.

I was under the impression that a large amount of comic relief was aimed at school children and little ones as well as older children.

Maybe we should just do away with the water shed and get Katie price on to show them all a master class in vajazzling and shagging?

Well I did get asked what a vajazzle was by my 7yr old ds, so I explained. He looked very puzzled and asked if it was uncomfortable when you needed to wipe after a wee....

But no flinching or complaining here. I am glad that comic relief is on. My kids need to know how privileged their lives are.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:47:51

yes and the CBBC has lots of stuff on for kids to do with comic relief

how did she cope with dying babies?

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 21:48:53

I am glad that comic relief is on. My kids need to know how privileged their lives are
this

OK, lets go r e a l s l o w here. WTF is &#373;rong with the midwives, the Eastenders sketch, the word vajazzle and the fairly innocuous word shagging?

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 21:50:46

I really have to leave MN, it's doing my head in

Yup, it's turning into fucking Netmums.

ConferencePear Fri 15-Mar-13 21:52:28

Why does it have to be either or ?
I should have thought it was possible to be funny without offending people at the same time. That way all the kids could have watched and learned and perhaps been rewarded for the fund-raising they did today.

Coconutty Costa Rica Fri 15-Mar-13 21:54:54

A large amount of it isn't aimed at young children. My DCs were shocked to the core by last years one, where a gorgeous little boy called Bernard died in his dads arms at a clinic. It was one of the saddest thing I've ever seen.

It's very, very hard viewing I find. If there are a few shaggings and arsing etc then tough shit.

I've been shocked by a lot of the programme, none of the language used, but the absolute heartbreaking stories affecting people that could so easily be avoided.
Get your priorities right Rose.

freddiefrog Fri 15-Mar-13 22:00:47

To be honest, there's a lot of Comic Relief that concerns me with regard to my children watching it.

There was a film from last time of a newborn baby boy called Nicholas. That film is seared into my memory and DD1 watched it to. She was shocked to the core, it hit her like a ton of bricks.

Shagging and vagazzles don't really touch the sides when you're watching something like that

Coconutty Costa Rica Fri 15-Mar-13 22:01:30

<waves to Amber>

wigglesrock Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 22:02:43

I've been watching Comic Relief for the past twenty five years, it has never been aimed at children. I watched the first hour of it with my seven year old, she asked what shagging was. I told her, she knows what sex is, I told her shagging is a vulgar grin term for sex. We nattered through Call the Midwife because I don't usually watch it. I wouldn't let my 7 year old watch Eastenders or Call the Midwife normally so it wouldn't occur to me to let her watch tonight's episodes.

As I said on another thread,watching children and adults die for the want of a fiver was a much harder conversation and lesson for her. I'll be honest she's probably heard worse language from me on the odd occasion.

I've just pointed out to Ds1 that when he had pneumonia, he was out of hospital within 2 days.

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 22:15:17

<Waves back at Coconutty> grin

dummad Fri 15-Mar-13 22:18:43

I always cringe at the vulgarity of running foul mouthed 'comedians' next to footage of a starving infant. It seems like the two things should exist completely in isolation of one another, like two totally conflicting worlds. I am starting to despise the TV. Every time I hear that belch when the CITV logo airs I feel slightly nauseous. My DS loves it though. And thinks words like dog poo and bum are so dangerously funny I suppose the next natural step will be to aspire to shag and tit. Then we can all look forward to them swearing their heads off with phrases like 'shoving a savoy up your arse' in chip shops when a nice lady comes in to buy some dinner for her husband. Check out that thread. No harm in a bit o swearing though is there?

Creamtea1 Fri 15-Mar-13 22:18:49

My ds aged 5 must be thick then as he barely asked anything about the serious stuff and only cared out seeing one direction and Harry styles, and we thought the masterchef bit was funny - although pretty sure he only laughed at it because I did. Mickey Flanagan so much funnier than Peter Kay and macintyre.

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 22:20:54

confused at dummad.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 22:23:43

context dummad context - that is the clue

LemonBreeland Fri 15-Mar-13 22:26:08

YANBU I also agee that Rowan Atkinson should have been on later. DS1 is 9 and asked what shagging was. I do think that the earlier hours of it should be appropriate for younger viewers.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 22:29:03

I remember watching a NTNON sketch, with Rowan Atkinson, where the punch line was 'fancy a shag' my mum told me it was a sea bird or a kind of rough tabacco - made sense to me at the time - do people not joke with their kids any more grin

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 22:29:25

So Lemon, he wanted to know the meaning of a reference to shagging rather than dying children?
Get some perspective,

So far over £57 million has been raised. That is an awesome amount of money. Thousands of lives saved.

Tiny babies. Mothers. Fathers. Brothers and sisters.

It is more than 'shagging' or 'vajazzle'.

Please please get a grip.

UnknownGnome Fri 15-Mar-13 22:35:50

I was disappointed with the content. Ds (7) was excited to watch it and I thought the early sections would be suitable. I didn't expect to be asked to explain what vajazzle and shagging are.

The whole thing is awful though. I've been watching bits inbetween my recorded programmes. It seems awkward, clumsy and, essentially, unfunny. I usually like John Bishop but I think his presenting is terrible tonight. And I can't bear all the sanctimonious claptrap.

What's that you say? Turn it off then? Don't mind if I do!

I can't bear all the sanctimonious claptrap
I've heard it all now! shock

Pigsmummy Fri 15-Mar-13 22:52:25

Thank goodness she didn't see the child die from malnutrition

There is a part of me that wants to give up explaining. But do you know something, I can't.

This is about more than just your child. This is about the world's collective children many of whom live in abject poverty where death and disease are everywhere.

LemonBreeland Fri 15-Mar-13 22:57:12

There are way too many people on this thread on their high horses about what Comic Relief is all about dying children etc.

I'm sure we all get that, however it does not mean that the content should be inappropriate, and LadyBeagle are you trying to insinuate my DS does not care about dying children?

AmberLeaf Fri 15-Mar-13 23:04:39

OMG.

I like being on my high horse about this subject Lemon.

It helps me to see very clearly over heavy ground.

Comic Relief is about dying children. <states the bleeding obvious>

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 23:09:42

Do you know Lemon, I can't be arsed arguing with you.
I do not understand how you think a reference to shagging is more offensive than the said dying children.
And as you seriously don't get that, I give up

PrincessScrumpy Fri 15-Mar-13 23:13:02

Scone - absolutely it's about dying children and poverty beyond belief, and something I was expecting to see and ready to explain to dd. A choice I made. I didn't expect to have to explain bad language too. Innuendo I expect but I wanted dd to understand why she'd been raising money and sit and watch as a family. I don't see why that had to be inappropriate for the time of night.

UnknownGnome Fri 15-Mar-13 23:13:31

I don't know if I meant sanctimonious. Insincere would probably be a better word. I don't believe that any of the presenters care. They're not convincing to me.

And it's ok to fucking hate it. It doesn't mean I don't think the causes are worthy. It doesn't mean I haven't contributed. It doesn't mean I'm too stupid to understand what it's all about.

The programme is shit, though. It's not funny.

Coconutty Costa Rica Fri 15-Mar-13 23:21:08

Oh FFS, the presenters don't care now? Turn the fucking telly off, raising millions for charity is obviously not for you.

gordyslovesheep Germany Fri 15-Mar-13 23:24:09

fucks sake they could put the test card on interspersed with films about vaccination and SOME people would donate

stop banging on about it not being 'funny' or 'entertaining' - so it's not your thing and it was a bit 'sweary' at 7pm but for crying out loud it raises MILLIONS to help people

just give some money and turn over

Awks Fri 15-Mar-13 23:25:09

The reason the programme is geared towards adults is that adults have the ability to pick up the phone and donate £10. Your 6 year olds don't. They have identified ther market and targetted the appeal and they are quite right to do so.

If you feel it innapropriate for your kids then turn over.

whatagreatname Fri 15-Mar-13 23:27:31

Please get a grip - all the shocking things happening to the young children in the videos, a few risque words do not even register on the scale

Well, my boys wanted to stay put to watch the video by Brent Johnson.

Their horizons have been thoroughly widened by women snogging women and men snogging men, and we have now had a frank talk about gay and lesbian marriages. You can always trust tv to throw about of reality your way so you can get a chance to broach all kinds of topics.

YouTheCat Fri 15-Mar-13 23:32:56

Someone show me where the person is who is holding a gun to people's heads to make them watch? hmm

Switch off if you don't like it.

Awks Fri 15-Mar-13 23:37:18

Pure do you not think you are making slightly a bit of a meal of this?

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 23:37:38

The presenters are you and me, except they have a public profile. Of course they care, and they're in a position to do something about it.
Unlike us on MN, who can sit and rant and rave about the injustice of life, but don't have the power to do anything about it.
I've donated because of tonight.

Can you please explain what part of my post makes you think that, Awks?

Exactly Youthecat

You know what? Ive been here a few years now, and Ive seen people leave because the atmosphere of the place has upset them, and I always thought they were being a little sensitive.
But FFS!
There are a good few people around here recently who really need to get a grip.
I think the terms 'sanctimonious' and 'first world problems' are entirely fitting.

teatrolley Sat 16-Mar-13 00:05:38

Seriously???? You're complaining about two words, one of which is routinely used Pre watershed (shagging) and the other is sticking sparkly bits on yourself!

Do you need a frank talk about homosexuality? Is it something odd you need to explain in careful terms?

Am I missing something here?

I thought I knew what a vajazzle was.

confused

But it's being called "totally disgusting".

Ermm...

Can someone enlighten me?

Chaos, dont. Just dont!

Wha?

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 16-Mar-13 00:29:33

It was 57 million pounds at the last count.
I hope my tiny donation will help another mum see her child grow up.
Because that's what it's about in the end isn't it?

YouTheCat Sat 16-Mar-13 00:31:52

Yes, LadyB.

That's how I see it too.

Sorry! Comic Relief had the words vajazzle and shagging before the watershed. Large numbers of children are apparently traumatised for life and several posters have clutched their pearls so tight they choked to death.
Meanwhile, in Africa.....

That was to Chaos.

Why are the chidlren traumatised for life?

It's not like they said ButtPlug is it?

Even then "yes darling it's something that mommies use to wipe the sufaces down in the kitchen pumpkinpie oh look at that sillyman with that red nose one would you like some haribo?"

Focus, folks.

It's just a bit of incredibly tacky body glitter, non?

YouTheCat Sat 16-Mar-13 00:43:02

grin @ Chaos

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 16-Mar-13 00:51:02

Bless you Chaos, on what has become an increasingly depressing thread grin
I love you, I do.

Not as much as I do! grin

IntheFrame Sat 16-Mar-13 01:01:55

So how do you explain a glittery fanny? Girls are a bit minging what with periods an' hair an' it all being a bit underneath an' all so bit of sparkle a makes it presentable?

FFS a fanny used to be the holy grail...

Still18atheart Sat 16-Mar-13 01:02:19

Jeez i think even Mary Whitehouse would have turned a blind the vajazzle and shagging remarks and realized that the main point of Comic Relief was to help those who were less fortunate.

A vajazzle is a bit like a sticker with glitter that grown ups put on their tummy...would have probably worked when mine were small.

imacowbaggetmeoutofhere Sat 16-Mar-13 01:20:56

Some people on this post are bloody darn right ignorant, stupid, and incredibly precious.

THANK GOD for the likes of Chaos and catpuss.

The voices of sanity on a thread that makes me very angry

expatinscotland Sat 16-Mar-13 01:28:07

I let my kids watch some of it before bed. I can't shield them, their sister died last July.

I wish the worst they'd had in their lives was the word shagging.

Instead, their mother and sister disappeared instantly after their sister was diagnosed with the cancer that killed her.

When they came to our friend weegiemum's house, we had to tell them their sister was dead.

The people on this show, which I couldn't bear to watch, face the same thing, every day.

There's no shield. There is instead empathy, and the drive and desire to help, as people who've suffered loss.

YABU.

expatinscotland Sat 16-Mar-13 01:28:51

You have the choice to turn it off. Millions more do not. This is their lives.

sillyoldfool Sat 16-Mar-13 01:45:34

Vajazzle=a grown up glitter tattoo
Shagging=grown up kissing and cuddling.
WTAF is your problem?

i might need to start an AIBU - AIBU that i didn't think it was inappropriate from my 4yo and 6yo blush

we chatted more about the africa bits tbh

they were just excited to see mr bean - don't even think they got/heard anything else

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 16-Mar-13 02:00:28

Do you know what one of the saddest things is?
That the media will catch on to this, and instead of seeing MN as a positive thing, they'll be looking at the ridiculous views of the sad minority that worry about the mention of the (whispers) sexual stuff rather than looking at it as an amazing charity fundraiser.
And it's posters like these that make MN a laughing stock, check us out on The Wright Stuff on Monday morning.

notnagging Sat 16-Mar-13 04:37:30

Agree. I sent mine to bed. At least Davina gave a warning. I have found less interest this year anyway & cringed when they said 'Africans' like the while continent needed sorting out.

dummad Sat 16-Mar-13 07:15:47

I don't think it's the words per se that are the issue for me. It's just the fact it ain't funny. Why do we need a load of toilet humour to draw our attention to the plight of the third world? Why does 'humour' always need to be about tasteless sexual references? And I sooooo agree about the fact the kids are the ones who have been fund-raising so why not include them and have some family comedy that they can appreciate?

I just find it ironic that so many of you are OFFENDED at someone being OFFENDED. Funnier than comic relief anyhoo!

OrangeFireandGoldashes Sat 16-Mar-13 07:50:52

I'm feeling a bit out-of-kilter here. I must have missed the memo that said wanting-a-bit-of-clean-humour-that-doesn't-inevitably-have-references-to-sex-and-genitals automatically = not-caring-about-deprivation-or-dying-children. confused

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 08:06:34

You haven't missed a memo, just the point really.

Coconutty Costa Rica Sat 16-Mar-13 08:12:14

I honestly can't believe some of the comments on here. Very disappointing that some of you are so focused on a couple of words when it's such a worthy cause.

Big hug to expatinscotland

NotMostPeople Sat 16-Mar-13 08:14:47

Pathetic, honest OP you have seriously missed the point.

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 08:19:25

I am so surprised at how rude people are to each other here. I have never visited Mumsnet before but I am terribly sad at the passive aggressive responses I have just read to a perfectly reasonable thread. I have a 9 year old who raised money at school and wanted to watch comic relief. She is thoughtful and compassionate, as many children are when faced with the inequalities of the world, and wanted to understand more about the charity she had spent the day helping. Being 9, she has never encountered words like shagging and vajazzle (which I would hope to be the case for most 9 year olds), so I was quite surprised to have to deal with them on what should have been, at least for the first hour, a funny and thought-provoking programme. I allowed my daughter to watch the sad sections in Africa which I thought were appropriate and educational, though switched off from the one where the hosts warned it would be difficult viewing because, as any good parent, I regulate what my child is exposed to. I do not think that any parent who felt surprised by the content of comic relief should be lambasted as being an 'over-reacting twin set wearer' who is out of step with the rest of the country. If that is the case then I worry about what the future holds if we allow a continual erosion of childhood in this way. I did not intend to write this much but I had hoped to find a mature and measured discussion on this forum as I found myself wondering if other parents had been concerned by this. What a shame that a handful of adults on here are more interested in criticising other parents rather than offering constructive and balanced opposing views which are worth considering.

wordfactory Sat 16-Mar-13 08:23:07

honey one word; paragraphs.

Kyrptonite Sat 16-Mar-13 08:24:48

Sometimes MN goes a bit mental doesn't it?
Snagging isn't swearing. Vajazzle isn't swearing and I'm pretty sure it's mentioned on that Kevin Bacon phone advert which is on pre-watershed anyways.
I would be more offended by my DCs seeing someone more upset by 2 words than they were by the devestating footage in Africa.

OrangeFireandGoldashes Sat 16-Mar-13 08:24:57

Hmmm. I've given that some careful thought Miss A and no, I don't think so. I don't see anything so terrible in wanting to watch and discuss something as a family that is billed as humour, starts before the watershed, actively encourages children to get involved throughout the day AND will open eyes as to the plight of others so heartbreakingly less fortunate than ourselves without having to run the gamut of the seemingly-inevitable sex-based jokes.

Poverty, disease, infant mortality are all shocking things. We NEED to know about them and we NEED to change them. There's nothing wrong in a child being exposed to this knowledge in a loving, supportive way and having it gently explained to them how incredibly lucky they are in comparison, how the things they have done at school has helped change things and what more the family might want to do in the future to help further. We don't NEED lowest-common-denominator fart-bum-willy-shag jokes to get the point across. What's wrong with an hour or two of clean humour before letting rip with the shagging and vajazzle?

(And for the record, I'm not a prude and watch plenty of post-watershed humour; I can just see the point here.)

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 08:29:15

DS has certainly heard far, far worse in the playground and is most definitely not in anyway upset or traumatised by vajazzle or shagging. They made him laugh which was, I suspect, the point.

The films from Africa were not 'sad' - they were horrifying. Absolutely bloody horrifying.

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 08:30:44

Sorry, was replying to Honey.

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 08:32:25

I really don't understand where you are coming from at all Orange. Sorry.

Coconutty Costa Rica Sat 16-Mar-13 08:36:25

honey your 9yo should have been in bed way before the warning of upsetting footage came on.

First time on MN and you post an essay on AIBU? You're going to love it here.

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 08:37:21

Ok. Now I see why people get so upset on here. So far I have been picked up on my use of paragraphs and use of the word 'sad' rather than a word such as 'horrifying.' Although heartened that word choice and grammar are so high up on some people's lists I continue to be disappointed by the content of these discussions. Nevermind. I guess these types of forums are not for me.

Furball Sat 16-Mar-13 08:40:57

They did not use the actual word Vajazzle,

they said something like she'd decorated her ladygarden with jewels.

Kyrptonite Sat 16-Mar-13 08:41:33

Maybe try netmums.

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 08:46:46

Disappointed and heartened?

Sounds like one of my school reports.

Coconutty Costa Rica Sat 16-Mar-13 08:48:24

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LIZS Sat 16-Mar-13 08:50:57

thought I heard "vajazzle" . The content was more adult than family but think there are huge overreactions on here. If you normally watch EE was that really any worse than you might normally see in an episode?

RoseandVioletCreams Sat 16-Mar-13 08:53:06

Children do alot of fundrasing all year for lots of different things at home and at school.

Comic relief is not thankfully the only time the children learn about those less fortunate.
It was however our first time this year with a small child who had been taking part in activities all day.

it seems we were not alone in thinking it would be appropriate and educational to let our children stay up specially to show them more examples of those less fortunate as well as the other items clearly aimed at children, like miss piggy and one direction and so we thought mr bean.

We were simply naieve, Next year we will not put it on at all.

My Children can learn about the plight of others without watching that particular program.

I may also say, no one has any idea on here just what kind of personal and nasty and evil losses any of us have suffered on here, my heart goes out to those who have suffered loss and pain and suffering anywhere.

No one has any idea of the losses and pain my own family and DC have suffered.

That still doesn't mean I am happy that items I would consider to be after the watershed should be on a program I thought would include the family.

RoseandVioletCreams Sat 16-Mar-13 08:56:09

LIZS

I find EE repulsive and horrific and I think its nasty and vile!
I would never ever watch it and unfortunalty I gave up a few precious hours of my life watching it when I was younger.

I would never ever watch it now and certainly would not want my 5 year old to watch it.

I do not want my DC to see a horrid sketch about a group of thugs attacking someones mum.

NotMostPeople Sat 16-Mar-13 08:58:39

Well my ten year old was shocked, upset and will not ever be the same after watching last nights comic relief. Not because he heard the word shagged or vejazzle (over his head) but by the scenes he saw in Africa. He had a cry about it again this morning.

We knew that our dc's might react like this and we made the decision that was a good thing in the long run (with our support). If hearing these non swear words is too high a price to pay for teaching our children about real hardship then I despair.

My dc's gave all their savings last night and have talked about how we can stop this happening and what we can do to help. These children are our future and if all our children grow into adults with these values the world will be a better place. They'll know about the word shag and vejazzle in a few years anyway.

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 08:59:49

Thank you coconut. You have proved my point beautifully.

Coconutty Costa Rica Sat 16-Mar-13 09:01:20

You're welcome, Honey.

UnknownGnome Sat 16-Mar-13 09:03:39

Well said roses. You've articulated what I've been trying to say. I moved away from the thread because it became nasty and was insinuated that to be disappointed with the early content of the show means the bigger issues have been missed. They have not. Like you, we won't watch as a family again. That's not to say I won't contribute to he cause financially. I always do.

RoseandVioletCreams Sat 16-Mar-13 09:03:47

Ten

is a whole five years older than five,

that is quiet a difference isn't it.

I am sorry that this seems to be the first time your DC have been exposed to the suffering of others NOT MOST.

Mine are always learning about those less fortunate in lots of different ways.

Seeing the sad clips wasnt the first time my 5 year old had seen those less fortunate.

Comic Relief isn't the only day of the year when we give money to charity or think about those suffering in different countries and indeed our own.

Kyrptonite Sat 16-Mar-13 09:08:51

NotMostPeople your DCs sound lovely if they've donated all their savings. That's the point of comic relief isn't it? To spread the message that every little donation can help to do something and each year a new lot of children watch and realise that they can help. A couple of non swear words won't change that no matter how hysterical the reaction.

UnknownGnome Sat 16-Mar-13 09:09:41

Oh, my children, too, were shocked by the information films. My ds was distraught to see that people really live like that and kept telling me to text (I already had!)

They weren't bothered by the shagging and vajazzle thing; they just asked me what they meant. In no way do I think he's 'scarred' by hearing the words. And I wasn't 'outraged' by it. I still believe they could have left those words out.

IlianaDupree Sat 16-Mar-13 09:12:19

<wonders wether to comment>

Haven't rtft, I don't support comic relief, ds's school hasn't

I don't because I'm a child abuse survivor and feel the BBC needs to seriously address the ongoing issues about their organisation

My ds's school doesn't as they directly support african charities year round, constantly fundraising and awareness raising directly with the people who we support. I can see where the money goes and the school gets direct thanks. My ds has learnt more from that than wearing a nose

OrangeFireandGoldashes Sat 16-Mar-13 09:15:38

I suppose I'm just surprised it has to be all or nothing. That if you want to use Comic Relief as an opportunity to begin or increase your children's knowledge of and compassion towards those less fortunate, then you have to take the references to shagging and vajazzle as well, as though you can't have one without the other. That because what's happening in parts of Africa is so shocking, you're not allowed to be shocked at anything deemed "lesser" (that'll shut AIBU up pretty damn quick...) That on a forum where there are regular threads bemoaning the sexualisation of children, loss of innocence etc, exposure to sex-related terminology in the guise of humour is now okay because they all " hear worse in the playground" and "will know about it in a few years anyway".

:shrugsandwandersofftofindathreadonbadgers:

IlianaDupree Sat 16-Mar-13 09:17:07

And I fully expect to be flamed wholeheartedly but can't reply as I'm off out to my regular charity fundraising day for uk people.

Pagwatch Sat 16-Mar-13 09:21:06

You don't support comic relief because you don't like the BBC?

I was abused as a child and I have no clue how you make that logical leap.

My dds school also support a school in Africa. We also support a child in Tanzania. She also watches, bakes cakes nd wears a red nose for comic relief. I don't see her having to create a limit at which point she should stop because she understands tbh.

UnknownGnome Sat 16-Mar-13 09:21:07

Yes, Oranges, exactly.

Pagwatch Sat 16-Mar-13 09:24:02

Oh do stop with the 'I fully expect to be flamed'

It's incredibly passive aggressive. Coincidently it is often posted by people ho have posted guff and know thy will be called on it.

And the 'I am off to do fundraising' shtick is immensely childish.

NotMostPeople Sat 16-Mar-13 09:26:45

Don't be silly Roses my children haven't lived in a bubble.

I'm sure we've watched CR throughout their childhoods although they would have gone to bed much earlier at five. Surely this isn't the first time your child has asked am awkward question? It goes with the territory, "why is that man fat." " how did the baby get in your tummy?", "what's a vejazzle?"

Small price to pay.

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 09:31:27

Oranges, I agree whole-heatedly with what you have said. Thoughtful and sensible responses, whether supporting or opposing my own beliefs, are what I came on here to read. Thank you. I too will now 'shrug and wander off', leaving the forum to continue to attack other mums on their values, beliefs and parenting ability.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 16-Mar-13 09:32:55

Iliana is clearly a better person than us poor mortals Pag.
I bought a fiver's worth of red noses and wristbands and donated a tenner (without getting of the sofa) and ds did something at school which seemed to constitute wearing something red.
<smugly polishes halo>

CloudsAndTrees Sat 16-Mar-13 09:34:23

Honey, I'm sorry you have had to encounter such idiocy on your first venture onto MN. I completely understood and agreed with your post, and usually you can have a reasonably sensible conversation on here. Unfortunately, there are some posters that don't have the ability to do that, and instead they behave like vipers.

It seems to me that many of the people telling the OP that she is missing the point are actually spectacularly missing the point themselves.

The point is that there was no need for there to be a stretch that included vajazzles, shagging, and 'the f word' at 7.45 on a programme that will have children watching. Of course the aim of comic relief is to raise awareness of the terrible things that go on in the world in order to raise money, but you could do that without including words that some parents would prefer their children not to be exposed to when they are already making an effort to sit and watch a programme that will educate them about far more important issues.

So much of comic relief is aimed at children, and the simple fact is that the BBC should not be trying to have it both ways. If they want to target children by producing merchandise designed to appeal to them, then they should be mindful of the fact that they will be watching the programme, and should not ignore the feelings of the many parents that have expressed disappointment that they chose to show a sketch like that before 8.00.

We don't NEED lowest-common-denominator fart-bum-willy-shag jokes to get the point across
You do realise that Comic Relief was was started by and still stars the likes of Richard Curtis, Lenny Henry, Griff Rhys Jones and Dawn Fench, don't you?
And as for Miss Piggy being aimed at children!...
It's was harmless fun. Have you seen what passes for humour nowadays?

Ilovexmastime Sat 16-Mar-13 09:46:58

YABVU. Red nose night is not aimed at small children, there was plenty of red nose stuff on cbbc for the small ones. Red nose day has been going for 25 years now and has always been like this, I don't know why so many people are surprised at the potty humour and the fact that it's not actually very funny.
If you took the decision to let your little one stay up and watch you can't then demand that it doesn't contain any words that might upset them. Although I'm struggling to understand what is so bad about vajazzle and shagging, it's not like they're swear words and they're pretty easy to explain. The outrage at a midwife looking up a sheet has me truely puzzled too.

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 09:51:22

I know. Imagine looking up a sheet. The horror! The next thing you know children will know where babies come from...

It was two words. That is all. Hardly the thin end of the wedge.

Lovecat Sat 16-Mar-13 09:52:00

I'm not sure why people are getting so outraged about someone not liking mention of shagging and vajazzling before the watershed.

This in itself is not unreasonable and just because it's for charity doesn't mean you're not allowed to dislike it.

The OP has been given an uneccessarily hard time by people who appear to be trying to out-cool and out-'care' each other. You can care about the causes and not want your children to hear that language before the watershed - the two are not mutually incompatible.

And Orangefire said it fare more eloquently than me.

CloudsAndTrees Sat 16-Mar-13 09:53:23

Harmless it may be, but when a lot of people don't like it for a valid reason, it kind of defeats the point doesn't it?

And whether it's harmless is debatable. I had other people's children staying with me last night, four ten year olds including my own. The other parents were fine with me watching CR with their dc, as the children are old enough and they knew I'd have a chat with them all about it. I was expecting to spend the evening talking about poverty and it's effects, instead I ended up having a nice little debate about whether the BBC should have allowed that sketch so early in the evening. The children were very sensible, not shocked by the words that they know the meanings of, but are old enough to be aware that there is a time and a place for certain things to be discussed. It was their collective opinion that the BBC were wrong to show it, and they came up with lots of valid reasons why. Its actually quite sad that they lost a bit of respect for Comic Relief last night after spending the day fundraising.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 16-Mar-13 09:56:48

No Lovecat, it's not about people out-cooling or out-caring.
It's people that are just utterly perplexed that a couple of words is an issue.
I mean shagging and vajazzle?
And that is enough to get your knickers in a twist about?
I don't get it, I really don't.

NotMostPeople Sat 16-Mar-13 09:58:00

It's not a children's programme, you choose to let your children watch CR you take a risk. Frankly I don't want tv during the evening to be watered down to be non offensive to children. I have enough of that during the day.

MissAnnersley Sat 16-Mar-13 09:59:29

Me neither LBE. I am very, very far from 'cool'.

Two words. A fleeting moment.

YouTheCat Sat 16-Mar-13 10:23:06

Seems to be a lot of 'Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells' still going on here. hmm

I had to leave this thread last night, it made me so cross.

Anyone who considers that after 7pm is going to be totally ok for small dc is a bit deluded. The normal content of broadcasting is not suitable at that time, why would Comic Relief be different?

They are words, harmless words that can easily be explained away if you haven't done The Chat, just as Chaos said ^^.

I find explaining the real issues to be more of a concern.

IlianaDupree Sat 16-Mar-13 10:29:53

Not better, just a different opinion (which I am fully entitled to form and express) and trying to point out there are other ways of donating to and learning about charities than comic relief, which specialises in certain areas.

Sitting on the sofa is much more preferable than standing in the wind + snow though so I'll deflect to you intelligence and fuck the fuck off

CockyPants Sat 16-Mar-13 10:35:25

If you don't like it don't watch it.
Get of your self righteous high horses and stop whining.
I bet the people who CR are trying to support have got other things on their minds and are not wasting time bitching and moaning over a TV programme.
Perspective FFS.

Pagwatch Sat 16-Mar-13 10:37:49

That's fair enough Iliana. Of course you should express your opinion. But trying to deflect any counter to your point by you 'I will be flamed now' and 'I am off out to do good works' is pretty snide.
You have no idea what others do beyond comic relief. To imply that anyone defnding comic relief does nothing else is nonsense.

And anyone expressing their opinion should accept people to challenge them rather than shouting an leaving.

RoseandVioletCreams Sat 16-Mar-13 10:43:48

By the same token, implying that people do not have compassion and empthay with the people in the films because they also didn't like the tone of the program before the watershed is nasty and snide.

Implying that people who do not want thier DC to watch EE etc etc must not have donated or supported it or other charites is deflecting the argument in exactly the same way.

<deep breath>

It was not my intention Rose to imply that people who were complaining must not have donated or supported. I apologise if you felt that.

I was trying to point out (badly obv) that for many children the scene in EE is representative of their lives. We have all heard about children who have killed themselves over cyber bullying, of children whose lives are put under hideous pressure to join gangs.

As a parent, I am glad those items were on last night, the dc (9 and 7) were interested and we talked about it.

But cbeebies and cbbc shut down at 7pm for a reason. My dc normally go up to bed at 7pm and read because tv isn't suitable after that time.

This is the first year my dc have been allowed to stay up and watch Comic Relief, I took the view previously that they were too young. I was 13 when the first Comic Relief was broadcast, I have grown up with it and the format hasn't changed - slighlty risque material sandwiched with appeals. in previous years when I said the dc were too small I found sketches online, and the songs and appeals and pre-watched to ensure I thought they were suitable.

I can't understand watching with a 5yr old and expecting it to be all completely fine. I don't get that mindset at all.

Pagwatch Sat 16-Mar-13 11:17:02

Yes. I agree with that Roses.
Fortunately I have not suggested that.

Ilovexmastime Sat 16-Mar-13 17:19:02

I don't think anyone has suggested that Roses.

cleofatra Sat 16-Mar-13 17:29:12

I must admit, I too was a bit put off by the language in the early time slot.

cleofatra Sat 16-Mar-13 17:32:38

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 08:19:25

Totally agree with this post.

kim147 Sun 17-Mar-13 16:00:28

This thread is famous smile

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/red-faces-not-everyone-sees-the-funny-side-of-lewd-comic-relief-8537666.html

"Viewers turned to Facebook and Twitter to vent; a disapproving thread was posted on Mumsnet; others went straight to the BBC to complain."

ComposHat Belgium Sun 17-Mar-13 18:17:40

RoseanVioletCreams Good grief - please don't tell me that you are so outraged about something you didn't even see and have only heard about on a web forum that you are prepared to submit a complaint?

Get a grip!

princesstilla Mon 18-Mar-13 21:00:33

I rang the BBC straight away whilst watching it and complained. My son is too young to know about this word and I found it upsetting that it was shown at 7.45pm. It really upset me.

Coconutty Costa Rica Mon 18-Mar-13 21:10:30

Are you joking princess? I hope so.

imacowbaggetmeoutofhere Tue 19-Mar-13 11:12:57

The world has gone barmy coconutty!!

CockyPants Tue 19-Mar-13 14:58:17

Well I was so desperate to be professionally offended that I telephoned bbc to complain before they had even started the programme.

ComposHat Belgium Tue 19-Mar-13 16:02:06

I am going to complain there was no muff. or cock after the watershed. it comes to something when Friday. tv doesn't contain one gratuitous genetalia shot.

aldiwhore Tue 19-Mar-13 16:12:38

I thought it was excellent and the earlier stuff was far funnier than the later stuff, when they were 'allowed to be rude' it just wasn't as funny.

I have a 9yr old and a 5yr old. There were moments when I had to, as parent, say "okay, laugh, it was rude but repeat and there will be trouble!" but nothing that I thought was so far over the line that I'd complain.

The 'stories' were distressing, especially to my 9 yr old, but again, as parent, I warned him he might find them upsetting, that if he was to watch comic relief he had to watch ALL of it, not just the funny bits in the hope he wouldn't want to watch it and I could watch something else (I also raised £150 from a few easy fundraising stints I did - I just don't like watching it, not the harrowing stuff, the so-called funnies - I do not apologise for that at all) but at very least my 'watch it all or not at all rule' would drive home WHY he'd been to school in his PJ's and paid £1.

The cyber bullying story in particular struck a chord with my eldest as he's experienced bullying. Yes he sobbed his heart out, yes it was very distressing, but it instigated a long conversation between us about how he must always talk these things through with someone, never suffer alone, and that it we can deal with it. So actually, even that was great on a personal level. As parent, I comforted my child. (My youngest wasn't in the least bit interested with any of it and was sat playing lego... )

I didn't like someone of the words used pre-watershed, but they certainly weren't so rude that it would have upset me.

YouTheCat Tue 19-Mar-13 16:14:15

Yes, Compos. I was at least expecting Billy Connolly's arse to put in an appearance at some point.

Dear BBC,

I am most perturbed and disgruntled at the lack of full frontal nudity in this year's Comic Relief. My family and I were all settled down for an evening of debauchery and filth but were left having to snigger at 'shagging' and 'vajazzle' instead.

Yours most disappointedly,

Mrs YouTheCat grin

ComposHat Belgium Tue 19-Mar-13 18:37:46

Hahaha cat consider that seconded!

StuntGirl Tue 19-Mar-13 20:09:44

I didn't watch it, but have actually thinking about it yes, you are unreasonable to think it should be suitable for a 5 year old.

I would say almost all television on at that time of night would be unsuitable for a 5 year old. The programme was aimed at adults, not pre-schoolers.

So YABU.

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