Just because DH is a SAHD...

(41 Posts)
LoopDeLoops Sun 10-Mar-13 10:30:57

... does not mean he 'gets' Mothering Sunday instead of me, right? PIL disagree... hmm

Turniphead1 Sun 10-Mar-13 10:32:26

Er no way! That's illogical. And insulting to you and to him.

uniqueatlast Sun 10-Mar-13 10:32:55

Erm, he gets father's day surely?

Arithmeticulous Sun 10-Mar-13 10:32:57

Because you are not a "full time mother?" hmm

Sidge Sun 10-Mar-13 10:33:31

Err no, he's not a mother.

He'll get Father's Day. Because he's, like, a father!

BanjoPlayingTiger Sun 10-Mar-13 10:33:33

No! He gets Father's day on accout of him being, you know, a Father.

LizaRose Sun 10-Mar-13 10:34:28

Do the DC call him Mum?

SminkoPinko Sun 10-Mar-13 10:34:35

[Shock] angry Tell them to fuck off.

YouTheCat Sun 10-Mar-13 10:34:38

Buy him a nice pinny and a book of recipes. grin

SkinnybitchWannabe Sun 10-Mar-13 10:34:59

Rubbish. Regardless of him being a SAHD you gave birth to your dc!
PIL are talking bollocks.
Enjoy your day.

LoopDeLoops Sun 10-Mar-13 10:35:04

Grim, isn't it?

LoopDeLoops Sun 10-Mar-13 10:35:45

In fairness to PIL, it was Grandma-in-law who suggested it.

FiveGoMadInDorset Sun 10-Mar-13 10:38:23

And will you get Fathers day then?

Catchingmockingbirds Sun 10-Mar-13 10:38:25

That's what Father's Day is for!

Nagoo Sun 10-Mar-13 10:39:16

Are you going to get Father's Day hmm? I've never heard such bollocks. Sorry Grandma-In-Law hmm

ENormaSnob Sun 10-Mar-13 10:39:49

So do you get fathers day instead then? Y'know being the provider and all?

They are talking shit.

Iaintdunnuffink Sun 10-Mar-13 10:40:10

How odd, he has Father's Day.

Sounds like Grandma-in-law is having a little dig. She's old, smile, nod, ignore.

Montybojangles Sun 10-Mar-13 10:40:40

It depends if you are seeing it as the american commercialised mothers day, or the original Christian mothering Sunday.
The traditional mothering Sunday was for those working in service (servants) to go home to their mother church with their family, so both men and women went mothering.

GirlWiththeLionHeart Sun 10-Mar-13 10:40:45

So do mums who work 'get' Father's Day? hmm


thegreylady Sun 10-Mar-13 10:54:47

A man is not a mother! I dont see any way round that grandma-in law!

VBisme Sun 10-Mar-13 11:27:35

Totally ridiculous of course you get Mother's Day.
Grandma is old and foolish.

Grandma in law is out of line.

Mothers day is for Mothers, Fathers day is for fathers.

Grandparents day is just made up load of bollocks. The end

catgirl1976 Sun 10-Mar-13 11:35:00


He get's fathers day

Your PILs are odd. And possibly horrible sad

Losingexcessweight Sun 10-Mar-13 11:35:27

This made me laugh!

So your only a mother if you stay at home full time?


ZenNudist Sun 10-Mar-13 11:37:11

Wow that's a slap in the face. Just because an old lady came up with it does not absolve your ILs for repeating it.

What did you reply?

noodleone Sun 10-Mar-13 11:42:43

Ha ha ... no. That's really odd. Yanbu

LoopDeLoops Sun 10-Mar-13 11:44:47

My reply "yeah right, whatever..."

HappyJustToBe Sun 10-Mar-13 11:49:49

YANBU. Insulting to you and your DH.

TheFallenMadonna Sun 10-Mar-13 11:51:53

My MIL does not do Fathers' Day, as it is a new fangled invention. She would be hmm for Mothers' Day to be ignored/actually all about churches. She also has very strong feelings about parental roles. She would probably say something like this were DH a SAHD - but he wouldn't be coming out of it any better than I.

Change the subject, move on...

dondon33 Sun 10-Mar-13 12:24:40

Unless it was said completely in jest confused
then it was a cheap dig by Grandmama angry, smile nicely while quietly muttering FU! and forget about it.

maddening Sun 10-Mar-13 14:20:59

Unless you get father's day? But if you get a day each anyway it makes sense for you to have mothers day and he fathers?

Goldmandra Sun 10-Mar-13 14:23:23

So if both of your worked full time should the children make hand made cards and breakfast in bed for their childminders/nursery staff?

Lucyellensmum95 Sun 10-Mar-13 14:30:59

Is grandma a bit senile?

YANBU, she's being strange.

Just as an aside, can we stop the nonsense about the 'origins of mothering sunday' being to do with servants visiting their mother church? It isn't.

The Christian origins of Mothering Sunday are to do with the Church of England taking over a Catholic festival in honour of the Mother of Christ. Prior to that, I should imagine that the Catholics may well have taken over a pagan festival in honour of a mother goddess, who knows?

(Sorry, that was unnecessarily rudely put!)

Goldmandra Sun 10-Mar-13 14:47:20

LRD I think you should start a new thread explaining the origins of the day. There seems to be a lot of people who think that Hallmark invented it rather than hijacked it smile

Or I should stop being a pedant, I know.

Does Hallmark even exist in the UK? I've no idea.

Goldmandra Sun 10-Mar-13 15:07:23

It used to but come think of it I haven't seen one of there shops for a long time so maybe not now.

Don't stop being a pedant please smile

hermioneweasley Sun 10-Mar-13 15:14:21

Hallmark does exist in the UK - they are based in a beautiful building in Bradford.

Goldmandra Sun 10-Mar-13 15:20:15

I stand corrected smile

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