To think asking for expensive gifts for Mothers day is greedy?

(130 Posts)
MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 21:06:31

Im sorry if you disagree, actually, no I'm not! envy

I have just witnessed two friends of mine, on facebook say they have convinced their DH's to buy them an ipad for mothers day!! WHAT? hmm

Both women have 2 DC, who are all under the age of 5. Am I missing something?

My DS made me a present at school this week, its in DS possession, ready to give me tomorrow, I am SO excited. grin What ever this present is, I know its made by him, that means more to me than anything - it is something I will, without a doubt keep forever. Sentimental gifts/cards are what mothers day is about, or well, it used to be anyway.

AIBU to think anyone expecting things like ipads etc are greedy and have no appreciation for mothers day, its just about material items to them?

wine

Oh and tomorrow there will no doubt be photos of said Ipad on FB with a vomit inducing torrent of gratefulness and love to the DCs.

Something to look forward to.......

YANBU

YABU, they may be getting a homemade gift too.

AgentZigzag Sat 09-Mar-13 21:08:49

Hahahaha I admire their gall grin

It's canny rather than greedy, but you're right, it should be about home made stuff and things that don't cost a bean.

LatteLady Sat 09-Mar-13 21:10:02

When we cleared out my mother's house after she died, we found a card my brother had sent her in the 40s (he is 18 years older than me!) which he had made and she saved. She kept it fr over 50 years... doubt an i-pad would last so long or mean so much.

DoingTheBestICan Sat 09-Mar-13 21:11:37

My ds came home from beavers last Monday with a gorgeous flower arrangement he had made himself and he has a card he has made in school to give me tomorrow.
I know I'll have a cup,of tea and some toast in bed tomorrow and a lovely cuddle and kisses off him.
YANBU, I wouldn't like expensive gifts like that,the homemade gifts mean more.

HintofBream Sat 09-Mar-13 21:13:50

It's Mother's Day (or even Mothering Sunday) not Wife's Day, why on earth would anyone expect a present from a husband/partner? I have told my grown up DCs not to spend money on presents, they have plenty that they need to cough up for without my adding to it. Nevertheless, still got some flowers today.

I know that DD made me a keyring out of beads because she accidentally broke it and I had to fix it for her then forget I'd seen it! grin

I'm guessing DS1 has made me something on Minecraft. He will show it to me then blow it up as a tribute to me.

Very happy with both of these (or whatever else they have spent time or thought on) and have no complaints.

RatPants Sat 09-Mar-13 21:14:21

My ds made me a cake in nursery. Then ate it in front of me.

The iPad is from their DH really isn't it? No reason why the dc can't make them a card too.

Ooh a Minecraft gift Three. I hope I get one of those. smile

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Sat 09-Mar-13 21:16:27

My DS made a rabbit costume for his Sackboy on LittleBIGPlanet in homage to me.

I likes bunnies, I do!

grin

Adversecamber Sat 09-Mar-13 21:16:58

ratpants my DS would have eaten the cake!

I love home made cards more than anything else, it is ok to have an I pad as a gift but I loathe FB boasting which is what this is.

bugged Sat 09-Mar-13 21:17:31

YANBU My dcs are so excited about giving me the things they have made at school & their excitement is enough of a gift for me.Dh took them out today to get flowers too but I don't expect or want anything else.

twinklytoes Sat 09-Mar-13 21:18:12

reminds me of a colleague's valentines day rant ...

friends of hers are about to loose their house, redundancy etc..literally no spare cash . wife displays picture of a tiffany necklace with "wow, he loves me" on fb.

My colleague was talking this with her husband about this materialistic show of affection; where's the money?; they loosing their house etc... he cowers in corner...he'd lent his friend (the husband) the £250 to purchase the necklace!

My colleague promptly told her husband he'll never see the money so he better email his so-called best friend and tell him it's a gift.

LoganMummy Sat 09-Mar-13 21:18:15

Our DS is two. At nursery he made me a card and paper flowers and I love them! Each to their own but DS isn't even old enough to understand. When he is I'll still treasure the handmade gifts the most.

DoingTheBestICan Sat 09-Mar-13 21:18:33

Like the minecraft gift,I might ask ds to build me a huge building in my honour then blow it up,he will like that immensely.

Laughing at the cake being eaten by your ds.

suebfg Sat 09-Mar-13 21:18:38

I'm happy with a home made card and a bunch of daffodils.

I don't quite understand why married people covet expensive presents on birthdays etc. It all comes out of the same pot at the end of the day so if there's something I need, I just buy it when I need it.

Sparkling: if previous form is anything to go by, it'll be fairly impressive. He made us a one-roomed spa hotel for our wedding anniversary last year... with twin beds!

RatPants Sat 09-Mar-13 21:20:01

I'm no one to talk actually as I've just remembered I had a lovely purse last year from DH as my DC are very little and he wanted to treat me. I wouldn't expect that every year though and definitely wouldn't ask for anything. I'm quite looking forward to receiving pack of biros and half eaten chocolates from the Spar in years to come. grin

Convert Sat 09-Mar-13 21:23:58

I asked for new jamas and DH and DS1 took off to asda to get some, they spent ages looking for some I would like and came back with the perfect pair. The effort it took (DH is really crap at buying things I would like) was so appreciated!

Mumof3men Sat 09-Mar-13 21:28:12

Ridiculous and entitled!

All 3 ds are now adults. Ds1 (almost 25) has been through a tragedy recently and is back at home most of the time (huge back story not ready to talk about), last night I heard bumbling around in the bathroom at midnight and assumed he had come home (been with a friend since thurs), this morning went into the room to get something and was delighted and surprised to see ds3 under the covers! (ds 3 moved 100 miles away two weeks ago to live near ds2). he was proudly bearing a bent bunch of flowers (long coach journey) and a box of chocs. he informs me that although gifts are from him and ds2 he is , in fact, the best son as he had to pay his coach fare home!
Just seeing him and speaking to ds2 on the phone (working at police station over the weekend) means more than a bloody ipad!

Quilty Sat 09-Mar-13 21:28:45

YANBU - it's so sad how materialistic society has become.

On another note it irritates me that Mothering Sunday is always being called Mother's Day now. Mother's Day is an American thing. Why does this country always insist on slowly losing its identity to the USA?

dimdommilpot Sat 09-Mar-13 21:29:24

Dd is 2.4, ive got 3 home-made cards from her all of which are displayed already cos she couldnt wait to give them to me. OH bought me some flowers from her and i also got a 'i love my mummy' mug full of chocolate bars (again early) which will be my new favorite mug which i use all the time! Tomorrow we will make cake and lick the bowl clean smile

dimdommilpot Sat 09-Mar-13 21:29:44

* YANBU

toriap2 Sat 09-Mar-13 21:31:13

DD bought me a mug with her own money for the first time this year and she was so proud! I am not supposed to know so had to close my eyes while stood outside the shop (but couldn't quite close my ears). I am chuffed as a sugar butty I am!

Greensleeves Sat 09-Mar-13 21:34:15

At the extreme, ie "Ker-ching, I got dh to buy me an iPad" yes it is a bit odious

but tbh I am finding the "oh my baby gave me a radiant smile and that was joy enough for me" brigade equally hard going

I don't get all the angst confused

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 21:34:45

If they can afford it whats the problem. I don't think they should be putting it on facebook as thats just bragging, but I personally don't need to convince my DH to buy me something for mothers day, I get what I want when I want it most of the time. Does that mean I'm extra greedy?

Tomorrow I imagine I'll get jewellery from DH, chocs and wine and perfume from the DC. Probably a few home made cards, a few shop bought, makes no difference although I'm not a fan of some of the tat they bring home.

DeWe Sat 09-Mar-13 21:35:20

I have a lovely card from ds he wrote himself saying "I love my mummy because she gives me lots of kisses and cuddles".
Dd1 & 2 I think are planning something.
That's all I want.

CuriousMama Sat 09-Mar-13 21:39:48

My dss are preteen and teen and I don't really want anything from them but exdh will get me something from them and possibly dp too? They'll have sorted something. I'd rather have a hug.

I told ds1 (15) to make me a card with one of his sketches on as he does some lovely ones.

YANBU, I find it rather crass tbh. Very boastful.

CuriousMama Sat 09-Mar-13 21:40:30

Also loving the minecraft idea, will get ds2 to do that grin

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 21:44:57

threebeeonegee

I'm guessing DS1 has made me something on Minecraft. He will show it to me then blow it up as a tribute to me

That is inspired. I like your DS's style. grin

cardibach Sat 09-Mar-13 21:48:03

Sasha - sounds like you'll get more tomorrow than I get (or want) for Christmas! How many children do you have to have so many cards? (^"a few home made cards, a few shop bought"^)

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 21:48:10

SashaSashays

I agree, it is not that they are getting pricy gifts - it is the fact they are bragging about it on Facebook. If you can afford it, you can spend your money on whatever you like smile

suebfg Sat 09-Mar-13 21:50:36

Sounds like they don't have their priorities right

INeedThatForkOff Sat 09-Mar-13 21:51:28

YANBU, and not just about mothers' day. I have cousins (they're siblings) who send each other links on Facebook to things they want for birthdays / Christmas. I hate that they do it so publicly.

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 21:54:26

Sasha 'I get what I want, when I want, does that make me extra greedy'

I am sorry, are we getting off the subject? What does that statement have to do with my OP? I am talking about Mother's Day and the sentimental prospects. Not what you can get "whenever you want" Geeezz!!!

janji Sat 09-Mar-13 21:54:43

Anyone can brag on facebook but o often wonder what might be missing in their life to make them feel they have to do this. The real meaning of Mother's Day for me is my children taking the time to give me extra cuddles, homemade stuff etc. anyone can splash cash; earning children's real love cannot be bought.

Why get a present from your DH on Mothers Day Sasha?

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 22:02:48

Cardi 5 DC, plus I usually get one from my 2 nieces who've lived with us on and off. I'm lucky, DH always makes a massive deal of occasions, although I return the favour on Fathers Day. Also some of my DC are teens or older so work and buy me nice presents. I'm not complaining I do shitloads for them all!

OP I do actually think my point is relevant, you're saying its only mothers day, should be about homemade gifts etc, but I think if waiting until special occasions to get expensive gifts makes them greedy then what am I? In your opinion mothers day doesn't warrant such presents, but I think any day of the week you deserve nice things. Anyway its probably just an excuse to get something they've wanted for a while or to justify an expense.

The bragging is irritating but why on earth do you care if they're getting a big present.

Bitofagirl Sat 09-Mar-13 22:03:11

I will Ofcourse love my school made cards and gifts torrow, but the shallow side of me can't wait to use my new mulberry purse.

Facebook is for boasting, if it upsets don't go near it tomorrow.

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 22:05:18

Because Sparkling, my 2 youngest aren't exactly at shopping age and my DH thanks me for being the mother of his children, the effort I put in etc. SO thats why I get a present form DH on Mothers Day. He gets one from me on Fathers Day.

Why is that an issue?

LadyLech Sat 09-Mar-13 22:06:22

Nah, I don't really get mothers' day. I haven't asked for anything, and will be happy with a lie in and nice breakfast. Don't see the need for big presents.

germyrabbit Sat 09-Mar-13 22:06:58

oh my ds loves minecraft i hope he's made something for me to then blow up!

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Sat 09-Mar-13 22:07:59

I don't care what anyone else gets, in my eyes a hand made card from my dd's will trump everything else imo.

DH bought tulips from the corner shop for the children to give to me. I'm really happy with them - simple, pretty, thoughtful. I'd rather my children grow up knowing that I'll be delighted with whatever they give me than think I'm a demanding old shrew who will never be satisfied and for whom they will eventually resent buying presents.

INeverSaidThat Sat 09-Mar-13 22:09:24

Bitofagirl

grin.

As long as you don't post photos of bag on Facebook.......

willesden Sat 09-Mar-13 22:09:29

I want to wake up DS and ask him for a Minecraft gift. I soooo want one now grin

ifancyashandy Sat 09-Mar-13 22:14:25

I am not a mother but I have one grin.

About 5 years ago, she made a 'photo' album of cards, letters and photos of her life. There were cards in there I'd made when I was 3,4,5,6,8 (you get the picture!). I had no idea she'd kept them.

I cried like her a baby. And I want it when she, God forbid, dies. It'll be a reminder if her love for me.

An iPad? A lovely gift but naff all compared to your child's art work (I imagine).

MsWetherwax Sat 09-Mar-13 22:18:57

I bought my dm a laptop for Mothers day. In my defence it was also partly her birthday present (her birthday is today), and it was a reconditioned one, but she has wanted one for a long time and has recently had a nasty health scare.

She would never have asked me to but it, but is absolutely thrilled with it. I don't think £2 for every year she's been my Mum is particularly extravagant, and the look on her face when she opened it this morning was priceless.

On the other hand, I am an adult, and bought it myself, so not sure if YABU or not. <picks splinters out of backside>

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:19:39

Sasha. Of course, anytime of the year should warrant such gifts, but I truly believe expensive materialistic gifts such as tablets, computers, etc, is absolutely absurd.

Rather than husband going to a shop and picking things for children, why doesn't father spend time with the children making something special for mummy? Wouldn't they understand and appreciate Mother's Day, not to mention, have such self accomplishment when they hand mummy something they've put time into, rather than handing their mother a iPad, computer and not having a clue about what they've just handed their mother.

But hey, if you can afford it...

thanks

didireallysaythat Sat 09-Mar-13 22:20:50

I'd forgotten it was mother's day tomorrow.

Have I left it too late to circulate my Amazon wish list ?

Who knew ?

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:26:09

MsWetherwax - that's different.

You're an adult, bought her something that would make her happy and you're a little to old for home made gifts/cards. It's different for the simple reason that she didn't ask/expect a laptop, as an adult, you've still chose to spoil your mom in your own special way.

landofsoapandglory Sat 09-Mar-13 22:26:34

I don't see the problem with it, TBH. Their DC might have made them something as well.

My DC have bought me Pandora charms from this years Mother's Day collection. I have had years of homemade cards and bunches of flowers when they were smaller, but now they are older and we have a little bit more money so it's different.

I couldn't careless what other people get for Mother's Day, it's their business not mine.

SashaSashays Sat 09-Mar-13 22:30:53

Oh come on OP, stop being so sanctimonious. Making something special for mummy give me a break. Not everyone has the time or inclination, not all DCs do either. 2 of my dc hate crafty type things. Most homemade gifts are now done at school anyway.

How do you know that their DH hasn't taken the dc with them to the shops, thats what I know my DH has done and what I usually do? How do you know they haven't all wrapped it together? How do you know it doesn't come with homemade cards and gifts? Its not definitely one or the other, I will probably get brought breakfast in bed (which I will have dutifully sat in bed for hours waiting for) which will probably involve a horrendous attempt at scrambled eggs, a tepid cup of tea and some unbuttered toast, I will then be handed my shop bought presents and homemade cards.

Also have you considered the fact that an IPad could be a family gift and something the children get use out of too.

An iPad!!! Ridiculous. I know the type.

I am thrilled, thrilled!!! Because I know I've got a wooden framed cold frame. I didn't expect anything! DH bought it because he knew I wanted it & I've been gardening with DD.

Dd (3) made me two gorgeous cards (1 from her & 1 from her wee brother 11mo smile ) & a peppermint cream, studded with bogeys chocolate. I was so chuffed.

123caughtaflea Sat 09-Mar-13 22:36:47

I really don't care what anyone else gets.

My mother (I am single) has organised something with my son (I suspect it's a mug).

But more importantly, my son, who has attachment disorder and usually writes "To mum, from X" has written "To mum, I love you very much, from X" in his card (yes, I peeped). That is more than enough for me, really.

He is very upset about an issue with a friend tonight and I suspect he will be in a foul mood tomorrow. Such is life.

On another note, I made an example Mother's Day card to show my Reception class what I was planning for them to do (though mine was, I trust and hope, rather better quality - technically speaking - than what they produced) and I sent it to my mother (who else after all?). It was a touch more sentimental than I would normally indulge in and my mother (who I thought was the world's most unsentimental!) has been more enthusiastic than I can ever remember her being about anything (she evidently peeped too!) If I'd known that a Reception-style Mother's Day card would please her that much I'd've done it years ago! (She did get a proper present too - well, it's a (huge, china) pig, but that's proper for her!)

pixwix Sat 09-Mar-13 22:38:36

I'm divorced from ex, although we get on well. He had them on Thursday, and today, we were listening to the radio when mothers day stuff came on. I have the boys this weekend.

Ds2 (9) was wide eyed, and rushed off to confer with Ds1 (15) - I couldn't help overhearing him say... "Ds1 - Ds1! mums going to think she hasn't got anything for mothers day and we HAVE! cos dad helped us!!" They wander back, and Ds1 says "erm mum? don't worry about mothers day - we are sorted!"

I wasn't worried btw! a card would be lovely, but ex and I always remind the boys for mothers/fathers day respectively.

Bless them! grin they are plotting and scheming! they keep going off into corners to whisper...

The best thing is though - they both tidied their rooms as a run-up event, got the hoover out, and Ds1 (15) used the carpet washer and washed their carpets! Go figure! grin

If my ex wasn't so inclined as to coordinate cards and such-like, that would be fine - cos they are always very solicitous and lovely on mothers day!!

sukysue Sat 09-Mar-13 22:45:17

each to their own really.

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:46:46

Sasha.

Can I remind you of my point? It's mothers that expect, have ASKED for such expensive gifts that come across as greedy to me.

Prioritise such gifts over a true sentimental gift from their children? As another poster said, it's nobody else's business what DH's/DC actually CHOOSE. But it's the mothers that expect or ask for such expensive, completely inappropriate gifts for such a loving, appreciative day such as Mothering Sunday that actually make me cringe for their lack of sentimental value.

I also want to add that one of the friends hasn't been given home made/shop bought gifts because she told me this over coffee this morning. She had no interest in Mother's Day other than being able to wake up to a brand new iPad in the morning. Unreal.

PoppyAmex Sat 09-Mar-13 22:47:31

This will be my first Mother's Day ever and I don't give a shit about anything but the fact that I'm finally a mummy! grin

pleasesleepallnight Sat 09-Mar-13 22:47:51

DD3 decorated three biscuits in nursery for Mothers Day........went to unbuckle her from.the carseat and was handed 3 buscuits with a scraping of soggy icing left on them (including the little lines where she'd dragged her teeth along to get as much of the icing as she could!)

Don't you just love them grin

BreasticlesNotTesticles Sat 09-Mar-13 22:50:16

Some people equate cost with love, so someone must REALLY love you if they spend lots of money on you.

When of course it means nothing of the sort.

If the vein of another poster dd1 made me a biscuit, I asked if I could have some - she refused. I asked if she would share it with dd2, but she said "i made it, it's MINE!" and stuffed it in her gob.

People who have to brag online, often have the least in reality. Feel happy in the knowledge that you and yours are okay and will have a lovely day.

pixwix Sat 09-Mar-13 22:51:01

poppyamex that's lovely! grin enjoy!!

pleasesleepallnight am pmsl!! [grin}

MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:53:42

PoppyAmex, Your post has made me smile grin

My dad asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day so he could help my son choose. I asked for a new purse, and will be happy with whatever they have chosen, purse, snow globe or whatever my son has fallen in love with (yes even a moshi monsters cd) grin. I will also have breakfast made for me. But if ds wasn't bothered, I really wouldnt care much. It isnt what I get, but the love he gives me that is important, and that is there whatever day it is. I would also never ask for anything expensive. Money doesnt show love.

jeanmiguelfangio Sun 10-Mar-13 06:20:55

Mother's Day isn't really a big deal to me, then again I only became a mummy on Monday. I got poop for Mother's Day and I'm pretty chuffed because of my uncomfy baby for 48 hours!!
personally I hate the materialism of it all, buy an iPad cos you want/need one, don't add a Mother's Day excuse to it. Isn't it supposed to be about mum and children? Then again I know plenty of people like this, all about what you have physically and not actually what you have.

Dds are 4 and 8. I got 2 home made cards, peppermint creams made at brownies (only 4 because apparently they had to taste them first!) and a ticket to a dance show (jumping around to Abba) that they put on before breakfast ... Lovely!

davidtennantsmistress Sun 10-Mar-13 06:35:13

Both of the boys have made me cards in nursery and school, I went to nursery with ds2 for a Mother's Day morning, and there is a gift for me in the boys room, ds1 wanted to get up with ds2 so I could have a lay in, which is so lovely of him and very thoughtful, I was just made up at the gesture, as it is we've compromised I've got up with ds2, and he's going to make me breakfast in bed...... Read that. As its all laid out on the table, so all he has to do is carry it into me, as I'll be in bed pretending to be asleep, and we can all eat it and watch tv in bed.
Mothers d ay isn't about huge gifts, although I also have a friend who's partner got her ugg boots, flowers and a tiffanys bracelet, me m happy with their own ideas and thoughts nix things.

Yanbu
Dp will get me a card and chocs from my girls, but dd1 had made me a card, and I love it. I have all her homemade cards from crèche and school, and will when dd2 starts too. I love looking at her handwriting progressing and how she always draws me with lovely eyelashes!
The big presents from dps I don't get either, it's all the same money? I went a bit Ott for dp at Christmas because it was my first one working and wanted to treat him for being so lovely, when he asked me what I wanted for my birthday last week I said a car, but I need one for work anyway and am paying all the bills and rent this month so he can technically buy it for me!

Backtobedlam Sun 10-Mar-13 06:47:36

YANBU-I think Mother's Day is just a day to show your appreciation so a token gift (either home made, box of chocolates, cd) or something similar is perfect. With Christmas, birthdays, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day...where does it all end?! Spending money on flash gifts has never equated to more love.

GirlOutNumbered Sun 10-Mar-13 07:00:24

YABU. They may get something homemade too and anyway it isn't any of your business and your post stinks a bit of jealousy.
My two year old hates doing art and craft and so I will get a bit of paper with a scribble on, I really am not going to cherish that for ever and ever!

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 10-Mar-13 07:05:51

I don't really give a shit if someone else gets expensive gifts its nothing to do with me.

I'm perfectly happy with my plasticine plate and Xbox points ( that i paid for I neither have a Xbox myself nor do I play ds's) he brought them to distract himself and give me some peace and quiet, and the bath I will have with out disturbance when the grown up dc arrive.

Boasting is a bit crap but so is getting all antsy about a gift someone else gets.

Then again I've just come from another thread where someone else said that mums who expect anything or any extra attention are eye rollingly princessey and they need to get a grip so I guess its each to there own.

KatyTheCleaningLady Sun 10-Mar-13 07:50:14

I must be an alien or something.

I would much rather have an ipad than a handmade card my kids were told to make for me because someone decided that this Sunday is significant.

My kids love me. They show it all the time in many ways. I don't need them to be instructed to make something decorative for me just because it's a so called holiday.

But, if my husband wants to give me an ipad under the pretext of it being a special day, I say bring it on!

DeskPlanner Sun 10-Mar-13 07:51:56

pixwix your boys sound lovely grin

popcornpaws Sun 10-Mar-13 07:52:47

My Dd is sixteen now and i still have all the homemade Mothers day/Easter/Xmas cards that she made for me over the years.
She also used to write me letters telling me what she liked about me!!
I look through these occasionally and they always bring a smile to my face.
Nowadays it will be chocs and flowers but still a homemade card as she knows how much i love them.
Your friends sound greedy and the fact these conversations are taking place on fb says it all i think!!

Well my just 3 year old just gave me a card inside which she'd written I (heart) Mum all by herself, without being asked to or helped. Better than anything grin

Quilty, I thought the whole thing was American anyway.

I heard a programme on R4 once on how it started as a peace movement by mothers to keep their sons safe. hmm

riskit4abiskit Sun 10-Mar-13 08:08:22

Well...from an older child's point of view (I'm thirty) since I have had a job I always buy my mum an item of clothing for mother's day. Because I know she went without for us a lot when we were small. Also, I made some God awful homemade gifts that she loved as a child too! Think its maybe more of a modern phenomena to buy expensive presents in the theme of baby showers, or push presents?

sashh Sun 10-Mar-13 08:13:10

On another note it irritates me that Mothering Sunday is always being called Mother's Day now

Well it has become mother's day now. I doubt many people will be returning to their mother church or cathedral today.

KatyTheCleaningLady Sun 10-Mar-13 08:15:45

My son just brought me breakfast in bed. He did it without prompting by anyone and I was touched.

I would still rather have an ipad.

RatPants Sun 10-Mar-13 08:19:39

Your 3yo can write?! Well that's unfair, mine just scribbles. Although very nice all the same. grin

Paxdora Sun 10-Mar-13 08:25:16

Happy Mothers Day everyone!

I've been up since 6am and both DH and DS(8) are still softly snoring upstairs.

Nope. I don't expect anything pricy for Mothers Day - surely it's all about a gift from your children .....

I am eagerly awaiting the secret present made at and brought home from Cubs last week.

I love home made presents from my son - I cherish these moments.

ChristmasJubilee Sun 10-Mar-13 08:27:45

I just got tea and toast in bed from dh and a lovely card from ds3 (6). The teenagers haven't emerged yet. Ds3 also made me a little box at Beavers but, was so proud of it, he gave it to me last week. He has asked if he can have it back after Mother's Day. smile he loves that sort of thing.

Astleyleighmum Sun 10-Mar-13 08:39:54

YANBU
To me mothers day is about a glittery paint covered card and home made crap things.

Having said that I am rather peed off at my own dd.

She is ten so did not make anything at school but they had a fair after school you could buy small stuff (child made mothers day favours and such) she asked me for money to get me something then spent the lot on cakes and chocolate for her hmm

To make things worse I gave her the chance to redeem herself on the free library craft yesterday where they were making cards/gifts and she made her Nan TWO and me none sad

She has been a madam the last couple of weeks so I am guessing she is still sulking at people told off.

threesypeesy Sun 10-Mar-13 08:49:18

I don't see the problem people like different things and have different budgets for these occasions.

My Dh always spoils me, and i am guilty of the Facebook pictures-certainly nothing missing in my life it's just the way we are.

I did get a card made at school aswel as a shop bought one dd1&2 had picked themselves after reading the words apparently it's exactly how they feel it's perfect. They also picked a gorgeous dress and coat for me and Dh threw in a night at beautiful hotel for me with the "girls" perfect imo

I would have been just as happy with whatever dcs decided on

Happy mothers day ladies

Kyrptonite Sun 10-Mar-13 09:04:49

I got a card DS has written. It says to the best mummy in the world love DS and DD (DD(2.6) has just done a lot of x's for her name, DS (3.11) has written the rest for her)

I also got a mug so I'm happy grin

muddyin2013 Sun 10-Mar-13 09:06:39

I think each to their own.

DH has spoiled me this year with a lovely Radley handbag. He said everything I've been through in the past year I deserve it. Made me cry buckets.

Then the DCs have made/bought me cards and are making me dinner later.
DS1 who lives down south sent me a text at 7am he's 21 and never gets out of bed at the weekend before 11am and also a Amazon voucher card.

I'm a very happy mummy today. grin

Happy mothers day to you all x

comingintomyown Sun 10-Mar-13 09:13:10

YABU , judgey and twee. The only point I agree with is its a bit off if the thought came from them and they nagged to get it but you dont know that do you ?

Why on earth are you having coffee with someone whose values you so clearly disagree with ?

DD 13 stayed at a friends and has texted me and I will get a card later and DS is still snoring away. If XH and I were still together I could imagine him saying lets treat Mum to an ipad she would love it and I would have done !!!!

dummad Sun 10-Mar-13 09:27:56

An iPad for Mother's day! No! Totally hate this idea. An iPad is a soulless, impersonal gift. I balk at that idea. Totally misses the point in my view. YANBU.

rat she is just starting, her bf at preschool is 4 so she's suddenly developed an interest. The I is great smile the heart looks a bit more like an apple, but you can tell, & she did a kind of broken mountain range for mum, but it's got the right number of ups & downs in the right places! I'm sooooo proud. Her speciality is drawing roses (Rennie Mackintosh style) & that's what DH left her doing, he came back & saw her message, he had a lump in his throat.

DumSpiroSpero Sun 10-Mar-13 09:35:14

I think it's weird to ask for something like that for Mother's Day tbh, but if that's what your DH/DC's choose as a gift then good luck to you.

My DH would definitely go hmm if I suggested anything remotely like that. In fact he was giving out 'don't give toss' vibes so much last night we had words and he went to bed in a huff.

This morning I had a beautiful card from DD (chosen by DH), coffee and smoked salmon & scrambled eggs for brekkie so think I may owe him an apology blush.

Have also had two lovely homemade cards and a handpainted mug from Brownies, and am looking forward to spending most of the day with DD and my Mum.

I think asking for something big is grabby & sets a bad example about material things. I do however understand the concept that a DH might want to treat his DW for being a great mum/having a tough year etc

I was brought up to spoil mum with things like foot massage, making food, tea, watching her favourite film on the sofa etc. That's what I'd prefer.i I already mentioned how chuffed I am with my biggest Mother's Day gift ever, my lovely cold frame. It must've been £30 & I thought that was a lot, but I e had a tough year since DS born (ops etc) & I garden with dd so it's for us both really.

I dislike the 'look what I got' album on fb, but I just tend to ignore them. It's a bit like what I did when I gave my aunts and uncles a tour of my Christmas haul on Christmas morning when I was 8.

seriouscakeeater Sun 10-Mar-13 09:51:01

YANBU. Home made gifts are priceless and if your lucky enough to receive bought gifts when they are older it should be given and received in good grace -where as i'm still sat her after DH made me breakfast and a cup of tea while DD (18) lounges on the settee apparently going to pick her gift for me up from her nanas later- no rush then love!

Wookiee101 Sun 10-Mar-13 09:59:10

Maybe your friends on Facebook are just joking. It's probably just something that they have fancied getting and are using this as an excuse to buy it? If they can afford it, what's the problem anyway?

I bought my mum and dad an iPad for Christmas this year, and they were chuffed. Usually I get them something centred around the DCs, and they love that, but once in a while we're all allowed to indulge in things that are purely materialistic - I don't think that makes you a shallow person.

This year I got a bag I have loved for ages, some flowers and some chocolates, breakfast in bed and DS1 made me a card. I love everything I was given as they all took the time to think about what I would like.

Iaintdunnuffink Sun 10-Mar-13 10:12:52

I was thinking the same as Wookie. They were going to get one and the today was the excuse to get one and they turned it into a bit of FB banter.

We don't usually spend much on Mother's or Father's Day but last year I got my husband a Kobo. I was going to get him one anyway for a holiday we were going on and Father's Day happened to fall at a good time.

MerryMingeWhingesAgain Sun 10-Mar-13 10:19:34

I had 2 homemade cards, a small box of M+S chocolates and a bunch of flowers from the Co-op. And a Sunday paper grin Plenty IMHO. And even better, DD has promised to be 'good' because it's Mother's Day. One card says Happy Muvsday, aww.

YouTheCat Sun 10-Mar-13 10:19:59

If you have to ask for a specific gift then you might as well have gone out and bought it yourself.

It's about the thought and effort and appreciation, not a nice shiney over priced crap ipad.

I didn't get a card from dd (18) but she's made me 2 cups of coffee so far and breakfast. The knowledge that I am appreciated is enough for me.

devonsmummy Sun 10-Mar-13 10:27:01

I've just seen a list of Mother's Day presents (to 1 mum, 2 kids 5 & under) including an iPad, earrings, bag, trip, plus more!
I got handmade cards from both dc's plus shop ought that FB had bought for them a lovely potted daffodil with the pot all sparkled with glitter & Terry's choc orange

LikeCandy Sun 10-Mar-13 10:31:04

DH gave his Mum an iPad (though she got it last week, and it wasn't proffered specifically as a MD gift)
Bit concerned now that a lot of you seem to think it's a soulless and impersonal gift that she'd have preferred a macaroni necklace grin

devon. I've seen similar, but replace bag with Gucci sunglasses. I find it odd and materialistic. Especially as the extensive list was accompanied by a photograph of the haul & grinning individual (DH's work colleague) no cute 1 & 3 to Dds in sight.

Isn't it a bit princessey? Well, I wonder what the new Duchess will get next year? A tranche of middle England? Do you think she'll fb a pic of herself standing on top of a hill, arms outstretched, grinning? smile

PuzzleRocks Sun 10-Mar-13 10:36:01

DH bought me 2 books "from" DD1 and DD2. I love them, but not half as much as the fan made by Dd1 "because you sweat a lot Mummy", or the picture drawn by 3yr old DD2 which makes me look like Freddie Kruger with less dress sense.

Disclaimer: I'm not THAT sweaty

DowntonTrout Sun 10-Mar-13 10:48:25

I have had a text from DS (25) to say he loves me.

A message from DD (19) to say she only posted her card yesterday.

Have had to cleanup a lot of scraps of paper/glue/scissors at the side of DDs bed that will no doubt materialise into a card later (no sign yet.)

I have my DH with me who I haven't seen for two weeks.

All that's enough. Of course if there were gifts, then lovely. But the real gift is knowing they all love me, and have shown me, in one way or another.

onedev Sun 10-Mar-13 10:55:51

YABU - each to their own.

seriouscakeeater Sun 10-Mar-13 10:56:26

puzzle lol I actually laughed out loud at that. Bless!

SanityClause Sun 10-Mar-13 10:58:23

Now that my DC are a bit older, (13, 11 and 9) I get presents bought and chosen by them.

This year I got some eucalyptus bath salts from DD1, as when we had been in Spain last summer, we went by some gum trees, and I said the smell reminded me of Australia (I was born there.)

DD2 gave me some knee length sock with giraffes on them. This was because I love giraffes and because of a recent "in" joke between us about bed socks. (I am wearing them with some denim shorts - its quite a look!

DS bought me (well DH on his behalf) some Hotel Chocolat chocolates because he knew I would love them and that I would let him have some, as well! grin

They all bought a Jasmin plant to go on the dining table, as a decoration, and it can be planted in the garden when the weather is a little warmer!

They all made me handmade cards. The girls are very artistic, and drew lovely pictures. DS has loose joints in his hands, and so drawing is not his forte. He made one with paint effects on the computer.

I feel so loved! smile

Sorry 'bout the boast! blush

PuzzleRocks Sun 10-Mar-13 10:59:57

Serious, I laughed too. Not as much as DH though who f

PuzzleRocks Sun 10-Mar-13 11:00:44

found it side splittingly funny.

PuzzleRocks Sun 10-Mar-13 11:01:38

Sanity we need pics of that ensemble.

RooneyMara Sun 10-Mar-13 11:03:04

Christ is it Mothers day? Oh well.

SanityClause Sun 10-Mar-13 11:07:05

You so don't, Puzzle!

You know those easy peel oranges you get at Christmas time that have really really loose skin. Well, that's what my legs are like, but less orange, and more corned beef coloured!

PuzzleRocks Sun 10-Mar-13 11:09:15

Tosh, I bet you are rockin the look.

MrsDeVere Sun 10-Mar-13 11:10:23

YABU
Sorry but its not a competition to see who can have the homeliest, humblest, instagram friendliest mother's day gift.

Love is neither measured by the size of the globs of glue on your glitter encrusted loo roll pen holder nor the amount of money spent on your Gucci Kindle cover

<wise>

MomaP Sun 10-Mar-13 11:30:50

Happy Mother's day all.

Could I please just point out that my OP wasn't to judge anyone receiving expensive gifts for MD, its ladies expecting, asking or in my friends case, practically begging for expensive gifts for MD. If H's/DC decide for themselves to buy their mother a iPad/car/spaceship... then I don't see the problem as much. I just cringe at the expectations some mothers have for materialistic gifts these days. Knock yourselves out at Christmas, but mother's day? Really? hmm

Okay, for the poster that suggested she could "sniff" jealousy in my OP.. Im sorry, I am plenty happy enough typing on the ipad DH bought me for my birthday last year, to tell you how much I love the home-made bracelet DS made me today! Such a stunning gift from my beautiful boy. Not to mention the self accomplishment he felt giving it me grin Priceless.

MrsDeVere Sun 10-Mar-13 11:49:39

I want a spaceship now..

Damn must drop some hints for an Ipad next year grin

I got chocolates (which the kids ate), a berocca which made me laugh and sweet cards. I'm happy. And my mum is cooking a roast for us so I don't have to cook.

Strangemagic Sun 10-Mar-13 12:36:50

I got some oven gloves fro ds1 because he was worried I would burn my "paws",thoughtful and considerate and useful.

Strangemagic Sun 10-Mar-13 12:37:18

from not fro

diddl Sun 10-Mar-13 12:42:24

It's not MD here.

The usual form is card/breakfast in bed/wine/flowers/chocolates.

Everyone else cooks/washes up for the day.

I've hinted I'd rather like a tablet...

No harm in trying!grin

chocolatesolveseverything Sun 10-Mar-13 13:01:00

Today for mother's day I've had a few tiny kicks from as-yet unborn DC1. I interpreted them (correctly I think) as a message saying "thank you for the nice womb and placenta mummy, now go have some hot chocolate with churros as a reward". So that's what I did this morning.

Sadly I think DC1 is just a bit too young to understand what an Ipad is yet, so I didn't have an excuse to buy one of those as well. smile

IneedAgoldenNickname Sun 10-Mar-13 13:22:09

So far today today I've had a card made by DS2 (6) when he woke up. The spelling and handwriting was perfect so I'm cuffed. Now he's making me a bookmark. Then were of to my mums, where she has craft activities planned.

DS1 (8) asked his Dad (my ex) last weekend if they could go and get me something and his reply was 'its not my job is it, why should I' DS1 was upset!

I then saw on fb that he took his gfs children out and 'totally spoiled her' I'm kinda sad that he can't do they same for the mother of his actual children sad

And I'm aware that probably makes me sound really grabby/entitled but even some tat they made/choose from the pound shop would suffice, like I do for fathers day/his birthday/Christmas

KnockMeDown Sun 10-Mar-13 14:08:42

DH took our DC out yesterday - DS, nearly 14, and DD, nearly 3, to a craft activity day. DS has access to these due to his AS. While there, DS made me a booklet kind of card. Each page had a photo or two stuck in - these were ones of me and the children in various combinations, which he had taken on his i-phone, and printed out. He even made the envelope out of gold cardboard! According to DH, what DD made was too random and messy to bring home, but she had a great time anyway grin.

Whilst they were there, I had long pampery shower, shaved my legs without a toddler-sized audience. Then went to town to the Boots Clinique counter, and made the most of Bonus Time. Got things I would have bought anyway, but nice to get the free gift, and DH would not have known what to get! Then went to local leisure centre for swim, steam and jacuzzi.

This morning I was presented with a treat bag (a tradition in our family for birthdays and the like). In it was:-

- A box of maltesers. This was immediately commandeered by DD who became Malteser Monitor, handing them out to all of us till they were all gone grin
- A bottle of lovely red wine, which will have to wait, as I have given up wine for lent. Something to look forward to!
- A big bag of my fav crisps - Sea Salt & Balsamic Vinegar Kettle Chips
- A girly magazine - Marie Claire, with a free gift of Neal's Yard Hand Cream, and a voucher for a free cut & blow dry (by signing up to their newsletter)
- And of course the card from DS, which was the best bit, and the best card I have ever had!

DH has shopped and we will all cook and eat together later. I have had a lovely Mother's Day weekend, and feel very blessed, especially as things have not been too great recently.

BelleEtLaBaby Sun 10-Mar-13 14:31:44

I have a friend who posted a photo on fb today of the Marc Jacobs perfume, massive bunch of flowers and card she got for Mothers Day.

From her dog

They have no dc's yet - quite young and just married. Not interested in kids just yet- want to have more holidays first.

Do I win the most bonkers story?

Blimey Belle I think I would defriend asap if I were you. That is bonkers. I would have preferred to see a photo of the dog than the gifts TBH.

YouTheCat Sun 10-Mar-13 14:53:03

Dd liked the Minecraft idea so much that when I got in she had made me a cake on the game and then blew it up for me. grin

DumSpiroSpero Sun 10-Mar-13 14:59:22

Ineed you don't sound at all entitled or grabby - it's as much about your ex recognising the importance of the day for your kids which he clearly isn't bothered to do - what an arse, I'd be annoyed/upset too.

Ineed I would have the rage over that too. Especially the 'It's not my job' bit. Your poor DS. sad It wasn't for you as such it was for your DS IYKWIM-to make him happy that he had got you something. angry angry angry

IneedAgoldenNickname Sun 10-Mar-13 15:29:03

Thanks dum and sparkling my ex is an arse!

You are not wrong Ineed.

zipzap Sun 10-Mar-13 16:15:19

I got a huge diamond ring from ds1 this morning - it was neon pink and he'd saved it for me from the crackers at Christmas - but as he's 7 and it involved such long term planning and keeping safe I was just as thrilled as if he bought me a real diamond ring! Ds2 (4) presented me with my favourite biscuit as breakfast all of his own accord.

So feeling pretty happy!

CuriousMama Sun 10-Mar-13 22:04:42

zipzap that's beyond cute smile

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