WIBU to say no to this dad?

(151 Posts)
TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:06:16

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? smile

germyrabbit Sat 09-Mar-13 19:07:53

what a weird thing to ask! he could have just asked you where you got it!

AmberLeaf Sat 09-Mar-13 19:08:55

YANBU!

How rude of him to even ask, he should have asked you were it was from and got his own!

Really weird!

mrsstewpot Sat 09-Mar-13 19:08:55

Eh? Seriously?

No - the dad was being completely unreasonable purely for asking nevermind the rude comment.

Pilgit Sat 09-Mar-13 19:09:20

No YANBU! Children need to learn they can't have everything they want, just because they want it. Some people are unbelievable!

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Sat 09-Mar-13 19:09:46

YANBU at all! What an arse of him to call you mean and rude, never mind to have asked in the first place. That child is going to grow up with a very strange and grabby attitude.

WipsGlitter Sat 09-Mar-13 19:10:34

Blimey!! How odd.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:10:53

Ah unanimous so far! I thought it was odd, then DP saying I was a meany made me think twice!

Thank you all. smile

YANBU, why on earth does your DP think you were mean?!

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:11:51

I'm afraid it is serious. I do wish it wasn't though!

I have asked someone before where they got a piece of clothing etc, but I've never asked them if I could have it!

woopsidaisy Sat 09-Mar-13 19:11:56

Every time you think you have heard it all....you couldn't make it up.
Op, YANBU.

catgirl1976 Sat 09-Mar-13 19:12:42

YANBU at all

The dad was odd and if the girl doesn't learn that you can't have everything you want I dread to think what she will be like sad

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:12:55

I think because a child cried, MoG. I did point out that it wasn't really my fault the tears happened!

HecateWhoopass Sat 09-Mar-13 19:12:58

bloody hell.

No, you were not unreasonable.

He, on the other hand was not only unreasonable, he was ridiculous and barking bloody mad.

Your partner thinks you were a bit mean to not hand over something that belongs to you to some stranger who asked for it?

Send me a description of your partner and I'll keep an eye out for him and ask him for his tie when I see him! grin

lumpybumps Sat 09-Mar-13 19:13:21

What an odd man! Surely that's no different than me walking up to someone and saying- that's a lovely coat you are wearing- can I have it? gringrin

minkembra Sat 09-Mar-13 19:13:28

Yanbu. he was just being to lazy to set some boundaries for husband kids. sooner he learns the easier husband life will be.
You did him a favour.

His name wasn't Mr Salt was it? ;-)

xigris Sat 09-Mar-13 19:14:22

Really? That's completely mad! To ask where you got said penguin bag, yes, to ask you to gaily hand it over, No! I may, however train DS1 to tell ladies how much he likes their Mulberry bags and to ask if he can have them! Never know, he may get lucky. You are absolutely NBU. What a bonkers scenario.

thornrose Sat 09-Mar-13 19:14:59

This is the one of the oddest things I've ever heard! YA SO NBU. I can't believe your dpi thinks you were being mean confused

WilsonFrickett Sat 09-Mar-13 19:15:15

shock that's outrageous! You were so not BU. How entitled is that child going to grow up to be?

minkembra Sat 09-Mar-13 19:15:43

Wonder if i could train my kids and use this as a new for of non violent mugging.

Maybe the kids name was Olivia Twist and he wasn't her dad at all....

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 19:17:00

I'd have told him to fuck off.

Spatsky Sat 09-Mar-13 19:17:19

It sounds so ridiculous that I am wondering whether there was a misunderstanding.

What were his exact words? Could he in fact have meant have a hold of your bag, or a close up look at the bag, or similar??

Even if so, you were of course well within your rights to say no.

Euphemia Sat 09-Mar-13 19:17:45

YANBU! Silly, silly dad!

ZenNudist Sat 09-Mar-13 19:19:19

Yanbu. Apart from the entitled & grabby attitude he is cultivating in his dd, wtf did he think you were going to do with the stuff in your bag!?

Weirdo. And v.rude

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:20:27

I was too stunned to give him any kind of rudeness in response. His balls at saying it just surprised me! He really did not see anything wrong in what he had asked.

MrsMushroom Sat 09-Mar-13 19:20:52

Tidy if I didn't recognise your name, I'd think this was made up!

FairPhyllis Sat 09-Mar-13 19:20:53

I suppose your DP wouldn't mind then if I asked him for his wallet and phone if I bumped into him ...

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 19:21:38

And your DP thinks you should have handed it over? WTAF? Why? Show him this thread. TidyDancer's DP, this dad is a fucking knob to have asked someone for her belongings just because his child fancied it. Why should she hand over something that's hers just because someone fancied it. If some kid fancies your wallet, are you going to hand it over?

Allalonenow Sat 09-Mar-13 19:22:55

YANBU but he was being very rude.

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight Sat 09-Mar-13 19:23:36

What a knobber

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:23:47

It was something like "excuse me, could my DD have your bag?", it was pretty clear, he was actually gesturing his hands as if he was about to take it.

Perhaps he thought it was one of those cheapy shopper bags that lots of shops give out for a quid, and therefore it wouldn't matter. It was about £10 iirc and it was chosen by DS.

What a weirdo! shock

It was totally the dad's fault for making the kid cry! If he hadn't asked then the kid wouldn't have been disappointed.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:25:58

Haha, yes MrsMushroom, it's not the kind of thing you'd expect to happen I suppose!

I'm glad someone recognises me, so thank you! I could give the usual poo pouffe, pombears, shitting elf credentials though!

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 19:26:33

I'd have pushed his hands off and told him, 'Are you for real? No. Piss off now before I get security, you fecking nutter. Go buy your own bag!'

Catchingmockingbirds Sat 09-Mar-13 19:26:55

confused ofcourse you're not being unreasonable, I can't believe he just asked if you'd give your bag away.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:29:04

I think DP was being a bit silly tbh really, he's very level headed but he's a soft touch with children! He's laughing about it now.

Seriously though, I always worry about children whose parents have trouble saying no to them.

DameFanny Sat 09-Mar-13 19:29:40

shock

maddening Sat 09-Mar-13 19:30:18

Yanbu. How bizarre of him to think he was entitled to your bag.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Sat 09-Mar-13 19:31:42

[confusd] The man was loopy to even ask, never mind the comment about you being rude!

As for the tears from the child, there wouldnt have been any need for tears if he hadn't bloody asked you to give them the bag!

It sounds like a mugging through the powers of emotional blackmail!

YouTheCat Sat 09-Mar-13 19:34:24

That is going to be one very precious little princess. hmm

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes Sat 09-Mar-13 19:39:26

I'm shock

That man needs to learn to say no before his child ends up an entitled, spoilt brat.

BrianButterfield Sat 09-Mar-13 19:41:22

What? No YWNU! it could have been a designer bag for all he knew. You let small children have the biscuit that comes with your coffee or any balloon you might get free, but anything bigger than that is seriously cheeky!

digerd Sat 09-Mar-13 19:41:24

My DH would never had asked you that, but he could not have said no if he'd been asked and a little girl cried. He was also a real kind hearted soul and a soft touch to those people that want to take advantage.

But a complete stranger is going too far.

Shesparkles Sat 09-Mar-13 19:41:38

I don't actually think that this is really about the child being entitled, but more abut the day's inability/ unwillingness to say no to the child.

I'd he'd said an outright "no" then in the child's eyes, he's bad daddy
Daddy asked you, so you could be the mean lady saying no, and daddy can shift the blame to you, and he remains good daddy.

I am boggling at this. There are no words. Apart from grasping, rude nobber, of course - him, not you. YWNBU.

YouTheCat Sat 09-Mar-13 19:48:04

He remains twat daddy. She may not be a princess now but she will be and it'll be daddy she's crying at how unfair it all is when he can't afford to pay for a boob job/car/flat when she is 16.

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 19:49:04

I recognise you too tidy, I thought the same as mrs mushroom. Your bag does sound cool though. Like your style grin

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:52:19

Why thank you, Lovelygoldboots! I am exceedingly fashionable! grin

Please ask Mr Tidy dancer for £1000 for me.

My Nigerian bank details to follow.

Ta muchly.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:55:03

Mr Tidy says only if you cry if he says no. wink

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 19:55:26

FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU sad

catgirl1976 Sat 09-Mar-13 19:56:18

Pan, could I have your car?

DS will cry otherwise.

MsPickle Sat 09-Mar-13 19:56:50

Apart from the fact it's a ridiculous request, what did he expect you to so with the contents? Hand those over as well?

What a daft wally.

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 19:57:20

'FFS it's only a bag. That poor child will be scarred now. YABVU'

It's a tenner. If a child came up and asked you for a tenner just because they wanted it to you hand it over? Or your phone case or phone? The OP's son chose it for her.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 19:58:57

sad

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 19:59:15

<wonders if penguins are next seasons trend on the catwalks>

HecateWhoopass Sat 09-Mar-13 19:59:18

I think pan must surely have been joking. grin

Wallace Sat 09-Mar-13 20:01:00

I think it was Pan grin

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:01:33

I assumed pan was messing about.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:02:40

Yeah I think Pan was joking. I hope so anyway!

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:03:34

Was it the arctic animal or chocolate biscuit on your bag?

OkayHazel Sat 09-Mar-13 20:03:56

Laughing a little bit at the image you going 'Why yes, of course she can', and then unloading your belongings into your arms and carrying on with your day.

What a knob.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:05:18

<wonders how long I can keep this up for>

In years to come that poor little girl will be in counselling, and...

Well It's the bear pit that is AIBU!

The man's a feckin' loon obv.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:06:12

I have a creature on my bag, Lovely. I think it's a gentoo penguin. smile

BananaramaLlama Sat 09-Mar-13 20:06:53

Could he have been asking if she could hold it for a minute? Am clutching at straws because otherwise it is so bizarre that he would ask for it.

nipersvest Sat 09-Mar-13 20:07:13

i'm going to try this when we're out tomorrow, maybe with a mulberry. will get the dc's to have a tantrum wink

yanbu, bloke was rude for asking, what kind of a message is he sending his dd, if you see something you like, just take it!

Lovelygoldboots Sat 09-Mar-13 20:07:35

My favorite penguin smile

Pans the daddy!!

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:08

They are probably a double-act, a la Oliver!, collecting odd items from strangers based on crying girl, and then ebaying them.grin

midastouch Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:47

How strange, i wonder why he didnt just ask where you got it from

thenightsky Sat 09-Mar-13 20:08:52

I might have handed it over, but I'd have asked for, oooh, about £50 grin

catgirl1976 Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:10

Oooh nipers

I want a Mulberry. Cracking idea. DS has amazing tantrums so I reckon we could score one grin

Fakebook Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:12

I can see this being in a sketch show. The guy asks for the bag and you hand it over along with your trousers, top, bra and knickers and walk out of the shop whilst he stands there gobsmacked. Brilliant.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:09:21

Glaikit - nah, I just nick stuff.

Sailormercury Sat 09-Mar-13 20:10:32

Cheeky bastard!

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:10:56

it's been done on film already. Arnie in Terminator 3. " I want your clothes and your motorcycle." Which he gets.

cocolepew Sat 09-Mar-13 20:12:40

How odd!
A friend in work was telling us that a woman stopped her to admire her boots and asked where she got them. Then she asked what size she was and could she try them on to save her going to the shop in case they didn't suit her.
She was doing her shopping at the time.

PurpleStorm Sat 09-Mar-13 20:13:47

YANBU.

Very bizarre, and rude, for someone to ask people to hand over their possessions just because their child thinks it looks nice.

Even if it had been a free bag, YANBU.

fluffypillow Sat 09-Mar-13 20:14:55

Too strange for words confused

YANBU

aldiwhore Sat 09-Mar-13 20:16:00

I think I'm being cheeky if I stop strangers and say "I have shoe/bag/coat/shiny envy, how fab is/are your shoe(s)/bag/coat/shiny! Where DID you get it, I am very definitely going to copy you".

To actually ask, gesture and expect would be about 99 steps too far!

Poor kid though sad she'll be posting on here in a few times asking if SIBU for wishing people would stop asking for her stuff because she gives it all away due to a mean lady not being kind when she was out shopping with her Dad...

Dad WABVU and rude, and crackers, and (I DO like saying this) entitled smile

Tidy YANBU (where'd you get it? It sounds fab. I am so going to copy you, and never give it up.)

MrsDeVere Sat 09-Mar-13 20:16:53

I can think of at least two sets of parents who would do this and think it reasonable.

I don't see them anymore though.

They are the sort of people who wouldn't be nice to other people's children, only ever talk about their own kids at play groups and like the woman I saw in the shop today tell sweet little children to 'Shhhhhhhhhhh! my baby is asleep' whilst out in a busy shopping centre shock

I would say 'what is the world coming to' but the parents I mentioned had their kids about 20 years ago.

pookamoo Sat 09-Mar-13 20:17:47

YANBU (of course!)

But where did you get the bag? I want to see a picture of it! smile

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 20:18:29

TD - you must google image it now please. I need last minute ideas for dd's mum's Mothers Day.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Sat 09-Mar-13 20:23:21

Ooh I like your shiny bank cards - can I have them?

(walks away in strop as you scream 'police!')

What a cheek!

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:24:44

I'm sorry to inform all penguin bag admirers that I don't think you can actually buy it. sad

We got it from a little pop up shop in a small town near to where we live, I think they printed them themselves. You could probably get a printers to make you one though, you just need to find a good picture and a plain tote bag.

" I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this."
shock I'd have spun on my heel and bitch-slapped him for that! Still, he'll get his comeuppance; that is an intense training in entitlement he's giving his daughter sad.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 20:26:54

I would like to add this one to my collection though! Cute!

Sailormercury Sat 09-Mar-13 20:38:40

Its epic level entitlement.

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Sat 09-Mar-13 20:50:00

You know,you think you've heard it all,and if I hadn't have recognised you Tidy I would have thought this was the work of hairy handedness.
If you ever see that man again tell him your child really likes his car,can he have it.

landofsoapandglory Sat 09-Mar-13 20:57:55

The dad sounds quite mad TBH.

I would have probably been very rude to him when he said you were a mean rude lady if I had been you!

catlady1 Sat 09-Mar-13 21:11:28

I also think I would have had to say something if I'd heard him call me mean and rude for not giving up my possessions! Bloody hell.

Where does it end? Do you think they go around asking loads of strangers for their stuff? I imagine there are some people who might feel a bit threatened, being approached by a weird bloke and asked to hand over their belongings.

expatinscotland Sat 09-Mar-13 21:26:53

Oh, I definitely would have responded to the mean rude lady comment!

Still18atheart Sat 09-Mar-13 21:41:14

Let me get this straight a man walked up to you and asked if his daughter could have your handbag?

YANBU that is unbelievabley rude.

I have never met anyone who would think that this was appropriate behaviour by a father.

Mintberry Sat 09-Mar-13 21:41:49

No way! That was a weird thing to ask, and personally I think it's damaging to teach a child they can ask for and take other people's stuff at will. I know she was very young yada yada, but those are important years for developing understanding of the world.

CecilyP Sat 09-Mar-13 22:01:37

Haven't read the entire thread, but it was a very odd thing for him to ask. It would have been fine for him to ask where you got it, with a view to buying one for the child, but quite another for him to demand you hand over your bag. Even worse is what he said, implying it is right for his child to demand other people's possessions and expect to be given them.

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 22:01:56

I think people just assume tote/shopper bags are cheap and throwaway. I'd like to think that if it looked like an. Pensive bag, he wouldn't have even asked. That's not to say that I'm excusing the way he behaved, the entitled behaviour and the rudeness afterwards, just that his logic may have been going that way IYSWIM.

I am buoyed by the fact that you are all in agreement with me!

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 22:03:02

Grrr. My bag is not pensive. That was supposed to say expensive. Naughty iPad.

YouTheCat Sat 09-Mar-13 22:04:48

Is it not a thoughtful bag? grin

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 22:06:07

It possibly is now, it may have thought I was rehoming it!

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sat 09-Mar-13 22:21:37

Wow, how fecking rude to even ask, dont even get me started on the comment.

Its going into a shop, kid wants something, parent says can my daughter have that, and being told they have to pay.

My DD has a learnt the lesson, just because she wants it, dont mean shes gonna get it.

montmartre Sat 09-Mar-13 22:42:58

You know, it was probably the fifty-millionth thing she'd asked for since 5am when she first screamed in his ear, and he'd probably given up hope of being able to explain why she couldn't have it, and it was just easier to pretend you were unreasonable in not handing it over.

Not that it was fair of him to say you were mean, but I do understand his desperation...

pluCaChange Sat 09-Mar-13 22:43:46

Do you keep the "naughty iPad" in the bag, too?

<awaits lightbulb moment>

TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 22:51:59

Montmartre - I would've said that as well, but the comment seemed quite clearly to have been made for my benefit, ie that he wasn't just laying blame at my feet, but that he seemed to genuinely feel I was in the wrong.

MonaLotte Sat 09-Mar-13 23:11:59

WTF? What a weirdo that dad is. I feel sorry for his daughter tbh (at the way she is being brought up, not because the op refused to hand over her bag!).

montmartre Sat 09-Mar-13 23:40:08

He's just an idiot then, ignore! grin

ToothGah Sat 09-Mar-13 23:44:54

My very clever DP has just put another spin on this when I read the OP out to him.

Said Dad was so frazzled by entitled child who was mithering him about everything all day and then the final straw was the "nice lady's pink penguin bag, I WANT IT NOW!!!"

So he asked you if she could have the bag as she'd been asking for everything all day around the shopping centre and driving him mad, knowing full well you would say no.

Transferred the blame to you for saying no. Voila. I thank you.

Cherriesarelovely Sat 09-Mar-13 23:47:42

Sorry but kids don't "get entitled" just like that and it is a parents job to teach them not to be anyway. What a weird bloke and what an inappropriate request and reaction. I don't care how frazzled he was.

ToothGah Sat 09-Mar-13 23:47:58

I think DP's point he was trying to teach her a lesson that you can't have everything.

TBH, it's the only explanation I can think of. As surely no sane adult would think it acceptable to ask a stranger to hand over their property to their child.

ToothGah Sat 09-Mar-13 23:50:27

Of course it's a parents' job to prevent their child from being entitled*cherries*. Some parents fail though.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 23:51:42

Well, I'm with Cherries - and the lesson 'you can;t have everything' is his to teach her, not TD's expense for being a 'mean woman'. That just transfers the 'fault' to TD and not to either child or dad, imo.

ToothGah Sat 09-Mar-13 23:55:17

Of course it's his job! I'm not saying OP is being U whatsoever, just another explanation.

Pan Sat 09-Mar-13 23:59:05

tbh, the explanation that he is teaching his child that she can't have everything falls down. The 'reason' she can't have everything is that there are some mean people in the world who won't give you stuff you want. That's no explanation or reasoning whatsoever.

Buzzardbird Sat 09-Mar-13 23:59:43

I had a pensive bag once that I wouldn't give away. It felt it 'shouldered' all the blame because I tried to keep a 'clutch' on it. Very sad story sad

Pan Sun 10-Mar-13 00:01:44

but I'm sure the bag had a handle on the situation though Buzzard.

Buzzardbird Sun 10-Mar-13 00:08:41

Zip it pan grin

Pan Sun 10-Mar-13 00:16:17

but surely this sad story of your bag has a strap line, Buzzard?

YouTheCat Sun 10-Mar-13 00:25:33

grin

You know if he was trying to teach his dd a lesson then it wouldn't really work had the OP given up her bag. That would just show the young lady she can have anything she wants really.

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Sun 10-Mar-13 00:28:15

Honestly, you couldn't make it up! Some people are just barking. She's going to grow into a delightful child smile hmm

GardenPath Sun 10-Mar-13 01:43:19

You missed an opportunity there - you should have said to the little girl ''Of course you can have my nice, pink penguin bag - if your daddy gives me 10 nice, crisp, twenty pound notes''.

Thistledew Sun 10-Mar-13 07:47:07

You missed a trick. Your answer to the dad should have been "Yes, if I can have the the entire contents of your wallet. And every stitch of clothing you have on!"

See him give into his daughter's demands then!

HecateWhoopass Sun 10-Mar-13 09:19:44

If it was a lesson, then the lesson was that she is in fact entitled to anything she wants, and anyone who refuses to hand over their belongings is a 'mean, rude' person.

Not really a lesson any sane person would be aiming for! grin

If it was a lesson in you can't have everything, then he may have asked and then said to the girl see, she said no, and that's because it belongs to her and she didn't want to give it to you, and that's her right...

HecateWhoopass Sun 10-Mar-13 09:21:45

Oh god yeah, that would have been brilliant

Of COURSE you can have it, sweetheart. It's all yours. As soon as daddy gives me £100 you can take it away right now. It's so pretty isn't it. Would you like to stroke it? It's all yours. Isn't that nice? Daddy just has to pay for it...

Times like this you would sell your soul for a time machine grin

MidniteScribbler Sun 10-Mar-13 09:33:45

Oh dear god, please don't let me ever have that child in my class! shock

dummad Sun 10-Mar-13 09:42:37

An attempted mugging by a 4yo! YANBU. I'd tell the police. But seriously, what an aggressive manoeuvre by the dad.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sun 10-Mar-13 10:01:36

I wonder if hes a weekend dad, and thus doesnt have to put up with madams entitled behaviour all the time.

What a weirdo!

pluCaChange Sun 10-Mar-13 10:09:41

Ohhh, you have to find this Odd Couple again, OP! Lurk in front of the little girl with your finest accessories and flaunt for all you're worth so the little dad has to repeat the manoeuvre! grin

Sadly, I bet she was only with him for the Mothering Sunday present shopping and is too much of a fuckwit so is normally not allowed out alone with her...

Pan Sun 10-Mar-13 11:36:34

plus c'est la meme chose. Not thought of the Mothers Day angle. Maybe the bag was going to be a present for mum really. "Daddy, mummy would really like that bag!"

DizzyHoneyBee Sun 10-Mar-13 11:43:51

YANBU.

Where did you get the bag? I want one...or shall I just give you my address so you can post it to me?! grin

TidyDancer Sun 10-Mar-13 15:06:33

Ooh I didn't think of the Mother's Day shopping! That could explain if not excuse it! I suspect if it was, it was a dad not used to shopping with his child, rather than a cheating way to a present for the mum!

I think I should start my own printing company and drum up business for the bags! I don't think this particular one was mass produced Dizzy, I got it from a pop up shop and I think they printed them themselves. sad

MrsSonky Sun 10-Mar-13 18:36:14

I'd like a hugmungous twinkly eternity ring. Do you think it would work in Cartier or Graff?

<not fussy which one - easy going me!>

BippyB Mon 01-Apr-13 12:39:45

That is MENTAL! It's mad enough to ask a stranger to simply hand their possessions to their whining child on request, but really quite barking to then insult you and tell their child you are being mean and rude not to hand it over on request.

CrapBag Mon 01-Apr-13 12:42:20

Wow, he is teaching his DD a great lesson there isn't he! Ask a stranger to give you something and they are mean and rude when they don't!!

Can't believe your DH thinks you should have given it!

YADNBU!!!

lemonmuffin Mon 01-Apr-13 13:30:09

Of course YABU.

You should have given her the bag, the shirt off your back and possibly the keys to your house aswell. The poor child has been damaged for life.

astyinmyeye Sun 24-Nov-13 15:56:41

Yes

CoffeeTea103 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:03:01

You shouldn't have even bothered giving him a response, just looked at him oddly and walked away. Some people do really live on another planet.

northlight Sun 24-Nov-13 18:54:38

I'm curious, why did you revive this thread? Are you the mother of the entitled child, astyinmyeye?

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:59:09

I was wondering why they revived it too, North.

Who goes looking through threads that are months old, only to reply 'yes'?

What a strange thing to to!

Mia4 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:00:07

YANBU OP, And if that was his answer to her then I have little hope for how he's teaching her the meaning of the word 'no'

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:02:20

Oh, and why do people revive threads and comment without reading through the whole thing to see whether it's been resolved or not???

And why are people now commenting on this revived thread without reading further than the original OP? In which case, they're realise it was a bloody zombie thread!

This thread was linked on another earlier today.

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 24-Nov-13 19:23:36

People don't always look at dates and they sometimes only read the OP.
I bet there will be lots of posts from posters that don't RTFT.

When I clicked on the link earlier today, to remind myself what it was about, there was a big red 'zombie thread warning' at the bottom.

SunshineMMum Sun 24-Nov-13 19:35:28

Wow YANBU!

rabbitlady Sun 24-Nov-13 19:36:17

your bag, not his. child needs to know that. he just wanted to shift the blame onto you.

Didn't take long LadyBeagleEyes! wink

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:40:26

Yep, three and counting!

Some people are just incapable of reading more than a few paragraphs though...

SunshineMMum Sun 24-Nov-13 19:41:39

OOps!

AnnieJanuary Sun 24-Nov-13 20:15:35

I'm not sure I believe all these "A stranger asked me to give my possession to their child" threads lately. First the iPad one, now this? It sounds like a rant on those childfree forums. Like after a few posts it'll be all about 'entitled breeders' and their 'crotchdroppings'.

If there's this sudden fashion for random strangers to start asking for one another's possessions, I'd like to see some stories without children in to even it out a bit.

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 20:16:19

Annie - this was in April!!!

Look at the date on the first post!

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