AIBU to think that eating while on the toilet is inexcusable, especially if you have a guest?

(54 Posts)
WeAreEternal Fri 08-Mar-13 19:58:20

I visited a friend earlier (I had to take the day off as DS was home 'sick' from school, so though we would pop round and see my friend) She invited us to come just before lunch and said she would make us someone to eat.

My friend suffers from suspected IBS and was suffering with an upset stomach, she was making trips to the toilet every 10 minutes or so.
we made lunch and sat down to eat but she still needed to make frequent trips to the toilet and in the end, after 5 trips and about 4 mouthfuls of food she picked up her plate and took it with her. When she came back 10 minutes later she had finished her lunch.

I was a bit shocked, I would never dream of eating while on the toilet.
I also suffer from a sensitive digestive system and have to avoid certain foods or I end up with an upset stomach and feeling rather ill, in that situation I couldn't imagine eating.

However, my friend seemed to think it was completely acceptable and when I told her how shocked I was she laughed and said she often eats meals on the toilet when she is suffering with an upset stomach, she spends so much time on the toilet that she needs to do other things while in there or nothing would ever get done.

AIBU to think there is just no excuse for ever eating while on the toilet.

Well unless you have chocolate and want to hide it from the DC, that is the only acceptable excuse.

catgirl1976 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:00:44


Serioulsy that is the grimmest thing I have ever heard shock

Lucyellensmum95 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:01:05

YABU - yes its a bit ewww but she is not well FFS

BambieO Fri 08-Mar-13 20:01:25

That's got to be so unhygienic?!

teaandbourbons Fri 08-Mar-13 20:01:33

Why did you stay at her house when she was obviously unwell?

TheChaoGoesMu Fri 08-Mar-13 20:02:43


kinkyfuckery Fri 08-Mar-13 20:03:55

A bit minging, but her choice.

I read the title wondering if she was expecting you to join in her in there for you lunch!

kinkyfuckery Fri 08-Mar-13 20:04:03

your lunch

chandellina Fri 08-Mar-13 20:07:15

There are so many things wrong with your post but thanks for the giant gross-out.

Hemlet Fri 08-Mar-13 20:10:08

Maybe the someone she prepared was off?


WeAreEternal Fri 08-Mar-13 20:10:22

She wasn't unwell as such, she was fine in herself, but just due to her IBS flare up she was in and out of the toilet. It is a common thing with her. Sometimes she even leaves the door open so that you can continue chatting, she is out of view though.
It is quite weird, but I am used to it.

This however, was a new and slightly stranger one.

livinginwonderland Fri 08-Mar-13 20:13:58

well, if that was the only way she could finish her meal, than yabu, but it is pretty weird. if my host did that, i would excuse myself and leave!

LangenFlugelHappleHoff Fri 08-Mar-13 20:14:54

Hee hee! make you someone to eat.

Having a friend who has health issues and spends her life on the toilet...Im not shocked that you friend has done it. Although its bad form she did it while entertaining guests.

WeAreEternal Fri 08-Mar-13 20:17:23

I think my shock is entirely based on the fact that she did it in front of me to be honest.

sydlexic Fri 08-Mar-13 20:22:15

Why would you take a sick child to visit your friend?

Tweasels Fri 08-Mar-13 20:25:01

I'm sorry, maybe I am some kind of prude but......she leaves the door open so you can continue chatting? While she's shitting? shock

Also, does this continue all day, is there literally not a moment free in which to eat? I would find that hard to believe.

Btw, I suffer from IBS yet had no concept it could be this serious.

Pollydon Fri 08-Mar-13 20:25:24

YANBU that is rank

Inertia Fri 08-Mar-13 20:27:42

I admit I don't know much about the causes of IBS, but I can't imagine that any digestive-system related condition is likely to be helped by the potential transfer of faeces-related bacteria and viruses back in via food.

OxfordBags Fri 08-Mar-13 20:35:33

She must have a Guinness record-worthy transit time for food! Seriously, though, it's pretty grim. I have IBS and know how bad it can get, but I'd never dream of eating whilst shitting, alone in my own home, much less anyone else's. She must know it's gross, no adult can think it's a normal thing to do! If she is on the loo that much and she doesn't get a break for food, she needs to see a consultant urgently.

I have IBS, and I couldn't eat during the throes of an attack - nor would I want to! Surely the smell alone would put her off her food?

WeAreEternal Fri 08-Mar-13 20:42:37

I'm sorry, maybe I am some kind of prude but......she leaves the door open so you can continue chatting? While she's shitting?

Also, does this continue all day, is there literally not a moment free in which to eat? I would find that hard to believe.

I know, realistically it is all extremely strange, I would never dream of doing any of it, but when I have a intolerance related upset stomach I usually feel like I am dying and couldn't hold a conversation with anyone due to the nausea and severe stomach cramps, but thats just me I guess she has just been doing it for so long that everyone is used to it.

And DS wasn't actually ill, he had a rash this morning that the GP though was suspicious enough to need to keep him off school as it was probably caused by an allergic reaction and that I should keep an eye on him at home. But he was absolutely fine, and milked the free day off for all it was worth.

ClippedPhoenix Fri 08-Mar-13 20:43:14

I really do feel for her having IBS but to eat and chat from the loo?

My ex had crohns disease but he'd have been an ex far sooner had he done that.

It's grose.

landofsoapandglory Fri 08-Mar-13 20:48:26

I have got IBS and can't contemplate food when my stomach is upset.

Ewwww to eating on the toilet, that is really, really grim!

idiot55 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:52:29

poor you, seems very odd.

Im pretty sure i couldnt eat and poo at the same time.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 08-Mar-13 20:55:16

I have IBS, and it comes whenever it likes, and its awful, i've never eaten and dumped, thats so grim.

JeffFaFa Fri 08-Mar-13 21:22:07

I suffer pretty severe IBS and when it flares up im crying on the loo, the pains contract my whole stomach even more than labour pains, as well as physical shaking, hot and cold sweats, blurry vision, nausea and the smell an attack can last hours in there, eating as well? erm no id imagine adding more food would only make it worse!

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 08-Mar-13 22:03:52

Jeff I had those crippling pains for a week once, my god, i swear it was worse than labour, i was nearly crying.

BeeBopDingALing Fri 08-Mar-13 22:10:09

Ill or not that's disgusting.

HildaOgden Fri 08-Mar-13 22:23:28

She needs to revisit some boundaries.Because that is seriously gross.

She should also go back to the doctors and get a confirmed/proper diagnosis.Maybe then she can adapt life properly so she's not filling up and emptying out at the same time.gags

OxfordBags Fri 08-Mar-13 22:34:59

Did she used to be part of The Human Centipede? That's the only excuse for this that I can think of.

Please note: if you don't know what that is, it's probably best not to google it.

Sallyingforth Fri 08-Mar-13 22:37:06

I hope you didn't eat anything there yourself, if that's her attitude to hygiene.

CaptainSweatPants Fri 08-Mar-13 22:38:51

Poo troll ?

Fakebook Fri 08-Mar-13 22:43:03

WTAF? Is this a joke?! Poo particles in food! I bet she doesn't have IBS. She probably is suffering from ingested poo particles. Yuck.

Pilgit Fri 08-Mar-13 22:54:11

I used to have my first cup of coffee on the loo. But our bathroom was next to the kitchen and it was a convenient place to sit. I wasn't actually 'on the toilet' just using it as a convenient place to sit and contemplate the universe (whilst wondering what was up john humphries arse on radio 4 usually). Also have IBS - when I get a flare up I can only tolerate thin chicken soup, black tea and water and the last place I would consume that is the toilet after what happens in there during an attack! Would definitely not do this with guests (but then guests during an attack would be a no no due to my tendency to not wear bottoms at this time and being awful company).

Flojobunny Fri 08-Mar-13 23:01:29

That is just weird and why do you encourage her by having conversations with her sat on the loo. Doesn't the smell float through to you? I'd make my excuses and leave, also I wouldn't eat anything she's prepared.

lollilou Fri 08-Mar-13 23:06:30

I have never ever eaten or drunk anything whilst on the loo and find that v. odd, but I don't suffer from IBS, although just thinking about eating on the loo is making me a bit yuk!

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 08-Mar-13 23:34:52

Oh Oxford that has just made me shiver, bleurgh!!!

Locketjuice Fri 08-Mar-13 23:39:32


WeAreEternal Sat 09-Mar-13 00:43:08

She does not suffer the typical symptoms of IBS though, she says just just gets an urgent need to go to the toilet and has 'loose stool' she refers to it as having a runny bum, which i think is revolting She does not suffer with cramps or any of the other standard symptoms, which is why she finds it easy to carry on as 'normal' when she is suffering.

catlady1 Sat 09-Mar-13 00:49:35

I used to know a lad who would make himself a cup of tea and a plate of sandwiches to take with him when he went for a crap. I never actually witnessed it but he talked about it as if it was completely normal.

I wouldn't eat on the loo but I do eat in the bath, is that weird?

OutragedFromLeeds Sat 09-Mar-13 00:52:14

The first thing I thought was eating disorder, but I guess you've seen her eating normally before?

Buzzardbird Sat 09-Mar-13 01:19:24

She seriously needs to read up on poo particles. You are not supposed to even have your toothbrush exposed to them let alone your lunch. It might actually be causing some of her problems.

WeAreEternal Sat 09-Mar-13 01:56:44

Dont start on poo particles, I now keep our toothbrushes in a plastic container thanks to MN and its bloody poo particles!

She doesnt have an ED (or if she does she is really bad at it)
She has had this condition for years, certain things she eats just trigger her needing to go the the toilet very often.

Bogeyface Sat 09-Mar-13 02:47:22

It is revolting but my mum has very severe IBS so her eating on the loo wouldnt be in the top ten worst things she may have to do.

Its like any chronic condition in that you dont really get it or understand the work arounds until you have suffered it.

She feels comfortable enough around you to do it, safe in the knowledge that you wont judge her for doing whatever she needs to do to deal with her condition. Seems she was wrong sad

ChantandbeHappy Sat 09-Mar-13 04:41:59

"...certain things she eats just trigger her needing to go the the toilet very often."

Why on earth doesn't she avoid the foods that trigger this kind of reaction?

YANBU - eating on the toilet is disgusting.

FellNel Sat 09-Mar-13 05:01:50

Oh my God YANBU. shock

Although that is a cunning plan about the chocolate.

zwischenzug Sat 09-Mar-13 07:59:35

Maybe I'm just common, but whilst it's not something I do much of myself, I can't see what the problem is.

This stuff about poo particles just sounds like clean freakery, I suspect unless your toilet has a decontamination airlock, poo particles travel elsewhere and get ingested by most people every day anyway.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sat 09-Mar-13 08:13:03

This stuff about poo particles just sounds like clean freakery, I suspect unless your toilet has a decontamination airlock, poo particles travel elsewhere and get ingested by most people every day anyway.

Thats true, on mythbusters, they experiment with toothbrushes, and how far they have to be from the toilet to avoid the particles, every toothbrush had particles on it, even the one under a container in the kitchen.

frogspoon Sat 09-Mar-13 08:39:48

So she eats meals on the toilet on a regular basis, and wonders why she gets upset stomachs... hmmm

I have IBS and when I have a flare up I don't feel like eating at all.

AngelWreakinHavoc Sat 09-Mar-13 08:44:04

Why would you take a sick child to visit your friend? YABU for that point alone!

eccentrica Sat 09-Mar-13 08:44:47


That will help me stick to my diet anyway. Every time I feel tempted to eat today, I'll just come back and read this thread again.


WeAreEternal Sat 09-Mar-13 19:23:46

AngelWreakinHavoc If you bothered to read my PP's you would see that he wasn't sick.

Maggie111 Sat 09-Mar-13 19:48:10

YANBU - that's disgusting!!

I completely understand why she does it, but if that was me I'd just put my plate to one side and say "looks like I'm not well enough to eat this today"

And then go and sit on the toilet with it after you've gone....

To be fair she obviously thinks you're close - and to her it must be so normal after such a prolonged period living with IBS but YAKKK I could never eat in her house again! shock

MummyPig24 Sat 09-Mar-13 19:50:08

That sounds bizarre and utterly unhygienic. Eating whilst shitting, no thanks!

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