To no understand taking your dc(s) to school wearing your pyjamas?

(136 Posts)
MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:22:25

I don't get it.

I don't mean a one-off: I've seen it happen quite a few times.

Maybe it's more a reflection on me, as I'm just about okay being seen without make-up. I see myself as a representative of my DD and I'd rather be late than take her in wearing my dressing gown. I'd also feel an utter dickhead.

I understand being pushed for time and the priority getting your dc(s) washed and dressed but, still. Why not just put some jogging bottoms and a top on? Why wear fleecy pjs?

AIBU?

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:23:16

Title should read 'not' not 'no' blush

HDEE Fri 08-Mar-13 09:24:52

People are lazy and social norms are changing. I saw a teenage girl out in the dark, walking her dog, wearing a pink onesie yesterday.

The only time I'd be going outside in my pajamas is if my house was burning down around me.

SomethingProfound Fri 08-Mar-13 09:26:06

Pyjamas are normal daytime attire where I live. I have seen people wearing them in Tesco the bank everywhere. I think the technical term is Salford Chic. grin

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:29:08

Hmmm, I'm only 30 but I'm starting to feel very old fashioned! I think the referent mum is a couple of years older than me, mind you ...

Cakethrow Fri 08-Mar-13 09:29:08

I don't have any DC at school until September so will reserve judgement until then as I'll have 3 DC under 5 to get ready.
Two of them have been nicely trained not to wake up before 8am so we'll see how that pans out!

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:31:28

The particular mum I've seen has one 6yo dc. I have 2 - but will reserve judgement here on myself only because even if I had 10 dc, I still believe I would get up before them to wash and dress.

5inabed Fri 08-Mar-13 09:32:20

I know it's so lazy! Although you always get people saying well I don't have time I have 7 kids and one leg so HAVE to go out in my pjs. Em no you don't. It takes 2 seconds to stick on a pair of joggys and a zip up a jacket. Keep the jammies on underneath if you really must! I have even seen people with slippers on, come on people, have some self respect.

BambieO Fri 08-Mar-13 09:33:11

I can kind of understand the teenage girl, it is very cold out and at least she was being responsible walking the dog. I guess it almost passes as a teenage fashion statement these days but I will never take DS anywhere in my pjs. It's just as easy to throw on jeans and a jumper IMO

livinginwonderland Fri 08-Mar-13 09:35:02

i hate it, it looks awful. it takes two seconds to throw on a pair of jeans and a hoody or something when you get up in the morninng, so those parents who say they have "no time" are being a bit ridiculous imo. if you have time to go to the toilet, you have time to throw on jeans and a top when you get out of bed.

cozietoesie Fri 08-Mar-13 09:35:09

Wear jogging bottoms and a T shirt to bed.

Problem (if there was one) solved.

smile

5inabed Fri 08-Mar-13 09:35:09

When my DD1 was in Primary 1 (scottish so reception, I think) I had her 4, DS, 2 and DD2 who was about 5 months and constantly wanted to feed. I still managed to get us all dressed and fed and leave the house fully dressed by 8.30am so I really don't get the whole with a baby it's too hard to get dressed. You can actually do most things one handed while clutching a small child in the other arm.

wineandroses Fri 08-Mar-13 09:40:56

A school near me has pre-school children for half-day nursery sessions. One mum regularly turns up in her pyjamas and dressing gown, usually late, for the afternoon session with her little boy. This is around 1.30 in the afternoon! How lazy can you be?

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:41:13

Agree 5, my DD2 is 11mo and we've been taking DD1 to school for 6m now - the baby slots into the routine.

I actually think cozie has come up with a reasonable solution!!

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:45:59

I'm relieved that it seems I'm not BU smile

ZZZenAgain Fri 08-Mar-13 09:46:15

seen a lot of threads about this on MN but I still don't understand why people want to do it

catgirl1976 Fri 08-Mar-13 09:46:41

I still haven't seen this IRL

I am going to be so excited when I do. And garrot myself with my judgeypants grin

ZZZenAgain Fri 08-Mar-13 09:47:33

I've never seen it either since I live abroad and when I am back in the UK I never see it there either

ZZZenAgain Fri 08-Mar-13 09:48:13

is there anywhere else in the world where there is a fashion for wearing your pjs outside the house?

haveapear Fri 08-Mar-13 09:49:59

Hasn't happened where I live but agree yanbu they must look really stupid!

Blowin Fri 08-Mar-13 09:51:46

Its totally lazy and pathetic.

I'm wearing my special judgie-onesie on this one, only taken out for special uber-judgy occasions.

Blowin Fri 08-Mar-13 09:52:01

Its totally lazy and pathetic.

I'm wearing my special judgie-onesie on this one, only taken out for special uber-judgy occasions.

Schooldidi Fri 08-Mar-13 09:53:22

My mum used to get this all the time at the school she worked at. She asked a few of them why they didn't get dressed first and they said it was because they were going home ot clean the house so they didn't see the point of getting dressed to do that and get clothes dirty, so they got dressed after they had finished cleaning the house. So what does that say about me? I've never got myself particularly messy while cleaning my house, am I not doing it well enough?

I don't understand it at all, but I try really hard not to judge because I don't have any idea what else is going on in people's lives. They may well have good reasons why they can't get dressed to bring the dcs to school, I just can't think of any off the top of my head.

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 09:53:49

I'm not sure but I think there is a fashion in Liverpool for wearing big hair rollers whilst out and about? I kind of understand that because of the time needed to form big hair.

I'll never understand the pj fashion, though. I don't care how glam you think you look, or whether all of the cast of TOWIE wear 'em, you're still in flippin' pjs! <Molotov evidently remembered to dress in her judgey pants on this drizzly morn wink >

QuickLookBusy Fri 08-Mar-13 09:54:55

My dd2 and her friends went through a phase of dog walking in their onesies. We live in a small village and I can imagine some of the curtain twitching. It didn't bother me at all.
In fact there are a few dc who go to boarding school in the village and I've seen them out in onesies. So I don't like the assumption some people have, that pj wearing outside is limited to a certain type of person.

bangwhizz Fri 08-Mar-13 09:57:29

I don't do it and haven't seen anyone else do it.But if they did -so what? It isn't hurting anyone is it?
schooldidi I think your mum was beyond rude to say that!!

CardiffUniversityNetballTeam Fri 08-Mar-13 09:57:41

I wore my pyjamas when I took my DS to school this morning.



Because of World Book Day. DS wore his pyjamas too, and we brought teddy with us and a storybook and all the mums and dads could read bedtime stories to the children after register. I would never wear my pyjamas to school usually - and I'm lazy as fuck.

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Mar-13 10:08:05

bang of course it's not hurting anyone and in the grand scheme of things, it's beyond trivial. It's just a lighthearted observation and I'm quite positive my dress sense isn't to everyone's tastes, either.

Jojobump1986 Fri 08-Mar-13 10:11:35

My sister does this. She even agreed to pick my dad up after a Christmas work's do one year & not only turned up in her PJs but went in to find him! He's not asked her again since!

I agree with HDEE. My house would have to be burning down around me for me to go out without 'proper' clothes on. In fact, the fire would have to be between me & my clothes. If the fire wasn't huge & wasn't in the way I'd probably be tempted to grab some clothes while calling the fire brigade & change in the porch before going outside!

Having said that, I do shock, horror open the front door & put one foot outside while wearing PJs on a regular basis to throw dirty nappies in the bin. Only smelly ones mind, the wet ones just sit in their bag in the porch until I've put some clothes on! blush

Tailtwister Fri 08-Mar-13 10:36:19

I don't understand it either OP. It's odd and imo doesn't really show your children a good example if their parents can't even be arsed to get dressed to take them to school.

notquiteruralbliss Fri 08-Mar-13 10:52:16

I'd do it & it wouldn't bother me at all to see someone else in PJs. If I'm not working, I see no reason to dress to please anyone but myself. Though I tend to favour the other approach, which is going to bed in the ratty clothes I wear at home / on the yard.

Aspiemum2 Fri 08-Mar-13 10:53:03

I have never seen this ever, I always assume people are joking about people doing the school run in their pj's!
I am generally pretty lazy & disorganised but I can dress myself - it's a pretty basic skill confused

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 10:53:38

My dd once said to me "mum, putting wellies on over your pyjamas does not constitute getting dressed!"

kelhen Fri 08-Mar-13 11:00:56

I saw a woman in our town one morning wearing pink pyjamas, very high heels and what looked like a real fur jacket. Just bizarre.

Bananasinfadedpjs Fri 08-Mar-13 11:04:15

No way would I set foot out of my front door without clothes on.

Sometimes the postman rings with a parcel early in the morning, and I have to frantically struggle into jeans and a jumper between buzzing him in the main door and him arriving at the door of my flat. I couldn't bring myself to open the door to him in my pyjamas.

But once I was taken to hospital by ambulance in the middle of the night - I managed to struggle into trousers but had to keep my pyjama top on (too painful to take it off). I had to go home the following day (by bus) with the same pyjama top on - mortified does not cover it, even though I had a fairly good excuse.

MrsKeithRichards Fri 08-Mar-13 11:09:41

Lazy and grubby.

Top tip time. Leggings, decent long boots and a long coat are your friends for looking presentable in the morning.

thezebrawearspurple Fri 08-Mar-13 11:11:00

Teenage fashions excepted, I think it indicates something seriously wrong with the wearer. How can anyone be so lacking in self respect or dignity? I don't buy the busy excuse, people who go out in their pjs are the very ones who don't do anything with their day. They're not going to work or the gym dressed like that, they're not taking their other kids anywhere and I don't believe for one second they're going home to clean their house as one poster suggested, if that was the case, their house would be spotless from daily scrubbing and they'd have a clean pair of jeans at hand to change into for going out. Everybody has 30 seconds to change.

The public pyjamas wearers are the types who crawl out of bed at the last minute to drop their probably unfed children off at school before going home to go back to bed/lie on the couch until they have to drag themselves back out to pick up the kids. By not bothering to get dressed they're telling the world that they don't work or have any reason to get ready for the day and they're too lazy to take a few seconds to get dressed let alone cook, clean, pay attention to or look after their kids.

I have never seen a frail elderly person or disabled person dressed in anything other than clothes and I'm sure it must be hard for them to get ready so when it comes to normal women (always women) being pure lazy, I have no empathy, it's laziness, lack of self respect, no respect for others (the world is not your bedroom) and a fuck you to a society they can't be bothered contributing to in any way.

MamaMumra Fri 08-Mar-13 11:37:55

Cliched generalisations zebra ?

midastouch Fri 08-Mar-13 11:42:32

YANBU i would never leave the house in my pjamas its just not right! how llong does it take to change into some day clothes!

midastouch Fri 08-Mar-13 11:43:48

I opened door to the postman in my PJs earlier blush was so embarassed. Do you think they keep them on and go to bed in them after wearing them in the street?

thezebrawearspurple Fri 08-Mar-13 11:44:58

Probably Mama but generalisations form for a reason, I have never seen a 'normal' person parade themselves in public like that, there is a 'type'.

Fillybuster Fri 08-Mar-13 11:47:03

I've been known to collect dh from the station very late at night in my dressing gown, pjs and slippers...maybe I should be making more of an effort?

<ponders purchase of silk nightie and fluffy mules for the midnight tube run>

<sniggers>

SooticaTheWitchesCat Fri 08-Mar-13 11:56:28

YANBU I could never go to school in my PJs, I feel silly just opening the door and grabbing the milk off the doorstep in mine just in case anyone sees me!

It is just plain lazy, it only takes a minute to put some clothes on. I expect they haven't even had a wash in the morning either, or brushed their teeth. To me that is just slobbish behaviour.

I saw one mum at our school not only in her PJs and slippers but with a snuggie blanket wrapped round her too. She got some very odd looks in the playground.

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 08-Mar-13 11:58:57

I've taken one of my kids to school when I've been soaking wet and just wearing a dressing gown and wellies,

He had been on his way in a taxi I was in the shower when the taxi phoned and told me he was waiting at the side of the road he wouldn't move the car and unless I was there in less than 5 mins he was plonking dc on the pavement and driving off.

I have never been unemployed I'm a net contributor my children are always fed and I don't much care what people like zebra assume about me.

Whydobabiescry Fri 08-Mar-13 12:10:02

YANBU wearing pjs outside is totally lazy IMO. I also don't understand some people who literally stay in their pyjamas all day, the same pyjamas that they slept in yuk!

DoJo Fri 08-Mar-13 12:38:16

I wouldn't personally do it, but I can't really see the harm if others want to. And I would probably prioritise being on time over how I looked if it was a question of being late or being dressed.

Snoopingforsoup Fri 08-Mar-13 12:49:33

I look like crap compared to the good fragrant ladies of our suburban loveliness. I'd be lynched if I went near the school in pyjamas! I have to say - I would not be tempted to leave the house in pyjamas or a dressing gown anyway. I have no idea when this became acceptable, but it really is pretty dowdy and depressing to think about. Even joggers and a hoody take seconds to pull on.

Jojobump1986 Fri 08-Mar-13 12:50:45

No way would I set foot out of my front door without clothes on.

That's probably for the best bananas, you can get arrested for that sort of thing! wink grin

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 13:48:09

I wear track suit style pyjamas. I put wellies on, do the school run ( don't have to get out of the car) go and do the horses and I'm home and in the shower with a cup of coffee by 8.30ish. That wqy I can justify clean pyjamas every night.

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 13:50:28

<reads thread. Hunts for lost self respect and dignity. Decides not to bother- as obviously not as insecure and judgemental as many people on this thread!>

Hulababy Fri 08-Mar-13 13:50:32

Not seen anyone dressed in PJs or onsies at DD's school or my school; fortunately not the trend round here - phew!

I just don't "get" it at all. What's so hard to drag on some clothes?
Even when really really ill and had to pop out such as to GPs or hospital I have always changed into proper clothes.

Love my PJs in the house but out, no way!

Tubegirl Fri 08-Mar-13 13:56:44

Some schools have banned this - http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationnews/8526732/Schools-ban-parents-from-wearing-pyjamas-at-drop-off.html
I think they are right to. It sets a very poor example.
Tescos have also banned it too -

Tubegirl Fri 08-Mar-13 13:56:59

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/wales/8484116.stm
sorry posted too soon!

likesnowflakesinanocean Fri 08-Mar-13 13:58:57

the only place i would venture to with pjs on is the recycling bins outside the door. no chance would i be going to school in my pjs.

Tubegirl Fri 08-Mar-13 13:58:58
LaQueen Fri 08-Mar-13 14:00:17

Ick hmm

Really don't get this. I have to get showered and dressed, every morning before leaving the house, else I just feel grubby and disorganised for the rest of the day.

Even when really ill, I still get a shower, and put clean PJs on, then get back in bed.

But, then I'm a highly organised, methodical type person with high standards of personal appearance etc. I have set routines for doing stuff, and I'm quite keen on pigeon-holing everything.

I have observed that the type of person who can cheerfully roll out of bed, and straight up the road to school...probably isn't that black&white, and probably don't experience an unpleasant sensations (even if just inside their head) of feeling grubby and disorganised, if wearing PJs on school-run, because their whole lives are probably a lot more random, and more blurred around the edges than mine is.

They're probably perfectly happy to waive a shower that morning (or even that day), and prefer an extra few minutes snuggled up in bed, or having an extra cup of tea.

ZZZ I've seen it in Walmart in Canada. More than once. It is not just the Brits. I have only seen it once at school drop off and that was a woman who I think may have been depressed. She did it for a few months then she was there in clothes looking a lot brighter and better.

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 14:04:05

grin

Yep- showered and dressed-after wading round in horse poo. Not before.

Hmm, I think there is certain situations where it's ok, my sister for instance when very pregnant with her Dd2 she was really unwell, and her DP worked and we couldn't get to her to help for various reasons, she used to get up and stick a huge coat over her pjs (which could have passed for yoga pants and tshirt) and take dn1 to school then come home and literally collapse until it was home time.

However, I do a little cringe to see groups of young women/men shopping in Tesco in pjs and dressing gowns, even if you're going to not get dressed into outside clothes, surely you'd cover up with a jumper/coat rather than dressing gown no?

ladymariner Fri 08-Mar-13 14:06:39

I hate to see it, it just looks slovenly and slobbish to me. Nothing nicer than fresh, clean pyjamas after your bath to laze around in at night but the thought of going outside in them is just completely alien, why would you?

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 14:08:41

Just interested- how oould you tell whether my trackies and t shirt/sweatshirt depending on weather were pyjamas or not?

ladymariner Fri 08-Mar-13 14:10:00

Depends if they're those hideous pink fluffy things with penguins on, seeker which I saw the other day walking through town.......

YANBU. It is lazy, end of discussion.

seeker Fri 08-Mar-13 14:13:40

Tell me I'm lazy when you've mucked out three horses by 8.30am............!

TheSeniorWrangler Fri 08-Mar-13 14:14:43

i have only ever left my house in my pjs once.. it was an early sunday morning and the milk had gone off.. so i drove to the corner shop in my pjs and trainers.

Other than that, if i know i'm going to go home and clean or shower after the school run, then i will just throw joggers and t-shirt on.

I wouldnt go out in my pjs, even though i have a couple of pairs of pj bottoms that i dont sleep in, i doss around in them of an evening when i want to chill!

Catchingmockingbirds Fri 08-Mar-13 14:14:44

Yanbu, I've seen a few parents at school in their jammies (one parent had little sleeping santas on her jammy bottoms seeker, they were definitely not trackies), and my neighbour always walks her dogs in her jammies. I don't understand it, is it really that much of an effort to shove a pair of jeans on?

One time I saw a mum walking to school to pick up their dc at 3pm in their jammies and a pair of high heels...

ladymariner Fri 08-Mar-13 14:24:23

Jamie's and high heels.....ooh, you really can't buy class, can you? wink

ladymariner Fri 08-Mar-13 14:25:03

Jamie's? Hahaha, they maybe were but I meant jammies.......x

BambieO Fri 08-Mar-13 15:42:47

seeker I think the difference is you are clever enough to disguise your pj's as they are actual clothes, rather than some who might parade about in a full on set of printed/patterned pj's

Therefore other children etc would consider you 'dressed' anyway rather than looking at you and seeing an actual pair of pjs.

I would happily nip to the shop for milk etc having gotten up (brushed my teeth etc) in tracksuit bottoms I have been lazing around in but wouldn't do the same in my actual pyjamas IYSWIM

Schooldidi Fri 08-Mar-13 17:59:18

bangwhizz you think my mum was rude to ask, the parents she asked thought it was a fair question. Nobody was offended. I think it's possibly to do with the relationship you have with somebody, and the way you ask the question.

NotInGuatemalaNowDrRopata Fri 08-Mar-13 18:07:37

Disgusting behaviour. I would judge, judge, judge, do the whole cat's bum mouth, hard stare, everything.

LaQueen, are you Anthea Turner?

Tubegirl Fri 08-Mar-13 18:37:47

Is there scope for a sliding scale here from 1 (hardly worth judging) which might include trackies/yogawear to 10 (hard stares, loud tutting, catsbummouths, conversations stopped midflow, resolutions to write to governor and get offending parent named and shamed) which might be applied to say zebraprint onesies and fluffy slippers? Would we consider spot prizes for the most glam pjs? Do we make allowances if Pjs clearly good quality/boden?

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 19:40:07

I did it no one batted an eyelid and ds has many friends as do I! No one has ever mentioned it and we are all still friends. People who did judge would have been amazed at the pyjama clad woman when she got home to a spotless super organised grown up house grin

cozietoesie Fri 08-Mar-13 20:03:16

It's a revelation to me that people actually wear zebraprint, penguin or pink spotted onesies and fluffy slippers - albeit in the privacy of their own homes.

everlong Fri 08-Mar-13 20:18:38

It's effing trampy. I don't what your situation there is no excuse to go to school in your pj's.

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 20:31:20

grin 'effing trampy' pmsl.

freerangeeggs Fri 08-Mar-13 20:31:57

I've been to Sainsbury's in my PJs. I'm lazy and I have made my peace with that.

grin

Plus my tartan pyjamas are HAWT

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 20:35:54

Yes my PJs are always White co and worn with stella mccartney coat and sheepskin boots I did have standards. And always had my face on!

The only time I've done this was the summer that I was very pregnant with the twins. The bump was measuring the equivalent of about 50 weeks. The only things that still fitted were pyjama bottoms and big floaty t-shirts. I was so uncomfortable, could hardly walk (SPD) and was starting to feel really ill. Fashion rules were the least of my worries! grin

BegoniaBampot Fri 08-Mar-13 20:40:40

I've stuck my boots on and tucked my PJ's in and wore a long coat to pop to school or to the garage for milk - shoot me now!

LST Fri 08-Mar-13 20:41:42

I wear onsies to walk my dog smile

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 20:42:22

I get a weird enjoyment out of dressing like a bag lady now and agin. It is definitely why I love it when it snows as I see days and days of mad clothes ahead of mesmile.

And I was also covered in bruises from having low platelets. I must have looked an absolute sight on the Nursery run!

MerylStrop Fri 08-Mar-13 20:44:06

I'll never do it, but then I would never be seen dead in anything remotely casual
But I don't care if other people do
(maybe I've lived in Liverpool too long)

ClippedPhoenix Fri 08-Mar-13 20:49:32

I go to the corner shop all the time in my PJ's. With a coat over and boots on of course.

Like Noddy, I also like to dress very very down some days. So what?

apostropheuse Fri 08-Mar-13 20:51:49

Now now ladies, there's a medical condition which causes this unseemly behaviour. Please be sensitive.

It's called lazybastarditis.

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 20:52:45

Oh no its not laziness with me I have plenty of time and could change I just like it sometimes.

MyDarlingClementine Fri 08-Mar-13 20:54:46

Ummm I think there are some flip sides here.

I did go out once in my nightwear with a friend, more for a laugh really and it was soooo liberating not to care what people thought. My friend took a looong time to preen herself and get dressed and we wanted to go somewhere quickly so I said - " well lets not get dressed then" and we sped off in nightwear....

It must be nice not to care what people think a la facebook man in his flip flops..

however I would not brave enough to do our school run in PJ's, But then again, some people look nicer in thier pj's scruffy than others do all dressed up in thier sunday best.....how do you judge them?

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 20:56:50

I admit I turn my nose up at wrap dresses and nude shoes

Tubegirl Fri 08-Mar-13 21:02:55

See Noddyholder - why didn't you just say so! If they're designer it's ok....

cozietoesie Fri 08-Mar-13 21:06:42

Thinking back, I do remember going out to get warm rolls from the local bakery in the early hours one morning wearing a coat and boots.

wink

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 21:10:22

I don't judge whether you are in primark PJs or a savile row suit Just don't care!

TheDetective Fri 08-Mar-13 21:28:03

Fucking hell there are some knobbers about. Love to see how perfect you really are. hmm

Anyway, when I do the school run of a morning (or afternoon after a night shift) I'm in my pjs. Only because I don't have to get out the car. I go home, do a little housework, then get showered and dressed. On my days off that is. I work full time. So I'll be damned if I'm getting up at 6am on my days off to do that before school.

Works for me. And I'm definitely not lazy, nor trampy! Quite the opposite in fact! Horses for courses. If you aren't traipsing the streets in them, and no one will see, then what is the problem?? Really?

lottieandmia Fri 08-Mar-13 21:29:51

I've never seen this where I live, not once. I wouldn't dream of going out in my pyjamas.

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 21:51:14
maddening Fri 08-Mar-13 22:00:11

I think thezebra got it spot on.

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 22:04:21

the zebra couldn't be more wrong about me if she tried. What a load of crap.

Iteotwawki Fri 08-Mar-13 22:05:25

I've never seen anyone do the school run (or supermarket shop, or anything out in public) wearing night clothes of any sort. Obviously not an NZ thing!

DH has picked me up from the airport a few times with the boys wearing pyjamas (the boys not DH, he was in shorts / T shirt) and nobody minded. Then again they were in gorgeous stripey fluffy dressing gowns and big fluffy slippers and it was a late plane I was coming in on!

maddening Fri 08-Mar-13 22:05:36

you think not I think so <shrugs>

noddyholder Fri 08-Mar-13 22:09:53

Shrug away I contribute loads. Have a successful career and my son was always well looked after and fed and is 18 now and strangely he has never mentioned it and it hasn't harmed him he is a lovely boy. Mind you I know lots of people who wouldn't bat an eyelid at that sort of thing. PMSL at all the judgey mums thinking being at ease with yourself indicates you neglect your children. Threads like this always make me laugh as I know no one IRL as uptight and frankly silly

maddening Fri 08-Mar-13 22:15:27

Fair enough but it wasn't specifically about you.

Willdoitinaminute Fri 08-Mar-13 22:20:46

I once saw woman waiting for taxi outside Tescos wearing only PJs fluffy slippers and pink dressing gown. It was -15C and there was snow on the ground and it was 4pm. I was very tempted to offer her a tenner to go back in and buy herself some warmer clothes.
It does seem to be a fashion statement around these parts.
In never wear PJs so I have to get dressed to do school run!

Samu2 Fri 08-Mar-13 22:24:24

YABU Major pet peeve of mine.

It takes second to stick some trousers on with a jacket or something.

Don't get me started on the teens walking around in onesies grin although they are teens so can get away it more than adults!

Shorty1980 Fri 08-Mar-13 23:12:03

I sometimes wear a onesie on the morning school run because onesies are warm and mornings are bloody cold. I wouldn't wear a onesie to bed though so I don't consider it nightwear.

Last time it snowed I did the school run in a onesie with a fur coat over the top and wellies on. And they say you can't buy class smile

HousewifeFromHeaven Fri 08-Mar-13 23:24:58

I'm the same as detective

pourmeanotherglass Fri 08-Mar-13 23:33:26

never really seen it at our school.

I have a couple of times popped to the corner shop (a few doors away) with an ankle length coat over my jamas to get the paper on a Saturday morning so I can bring it back to read in bed.

AudrinaAdare Fri 08-Mar-13 23:58:51

I wear oversized (DH's cast-offs) sweatshirts, t-shirts and trackies around the house, answer the door in them and would wear them under a coat in winter or with a bra in summer if I had to do the school run or nip to the local shop.

The 'jama-wearing contingent where I live look immaculate. Curlers placed perfectly, full face of make-up and spotlessly clean and shock ironed clothes. It's just a fashion. They're not going to the school gate in pyjama bottoms which have been worn with no knickers and have residual period / discharge stains on them. Not that I have owned any such item in my really skint days <cough>

LeoandBoosmum Sat 09-Mar-13 00:06:45

This is one of my pet hates. I can understand time pressure in the mornings but, really, how long does it take to throw on some jeans and a sweatshirt? It's pure laziness and a bad example to children. It's bad enough seeing women in pyjamas dropping their children off in the morning, it's dire when you see them turn up to pick them up...STILL in their pyjamas but with the addition of egg or bean stains on the front! shock

vvviola Sat 09-Mar-13 00:21:01

Iteotwa - I suspect part of the reason they don't do it in NZ, is that at this time of year, the outfits might be a little on the revealing side!

Mind you, a year later, I still can't get used to people walking down the street or into shopping centres with no shoes on grin

catlady1 Sat 09-Mar-13 00:24:15

Hmm I would get dressed in a morning but I wouldn't think twice about answering the door or taking the dog out for a wee at night in my PJs. I don't think I'd go to the shops in them. I'm one of those people who have to have full make-up on to leave the house though, I don't judge others for being less insecure about what people think of them - in fact I'm quite envious.

TheCatInTheHairnet Sat 09-Mar-13 00:27:43

Here in the US, plaid pjs bottoms, hoodie (with your swim team/football team/high school on) and Uggs are very normal attire. If you're 14. Any older than that, it's a sin. And Ewwww at grown adults in onesies!!

OutragedFromLeeds Sat 09-Mar-13 00:31:34

YANBU to not understand it.

YABU to think that you need to understand the motivation behind everyone elses behaviour.

Someone wearing pyjamas to school doesn't harm you, or your child, or them, or their child, or in fact anyone.

You'd feel an utter dickhead, they evidently don't. Fine.

Find something more interesting to occupy your mind would be my advice to you.

MichelleRooJnr Sat 09-Mar-13 00:38:19

I picked a child up from nursery last week in pjs!
At 5:30pm!

I'd been on night shift, had just got up and my friend phoned in a panic at 5:25 to say she was stuck in traffic about a minute's drive away and could I please get her daughter from nursery before they closed at 5:30 (she gave me a secret code word to be allowed to get her)
The nursery is at the end of my street.
I really only had time to pull on boots and a coat so it might not have been very obvious I was wearing pjs apart from the stripey trousers.
But I was.
And had bed hair and no make up.

Not that it bothered me at all - so what if I'm not dressed? What difference if I'm wearing jeans or pjs - so long as child gets collected?

ravenAK Sat 09-Mar-13 00:52:41

There's a really easy solution - stop buying pyjamas!

Who needs them?

Afaic, when t-shirts & leggings/tracksuit bottoms get a bit too tatty for daytime wear, they become pyjamas. But still look sufficiently like 'real' clothes to pass muster on a potter to the corner shop for milk.

I just don't understand pyjamas. All they are is a t-shirt & loose trews, right? Often with a Daffy Duck print or whatever, presumably to remind you that you are only allowed to wear them in bed. Unlike the otherwise identical Daffy-free outfit (plain t-shirt, jogging bottoms/leggings) that you are 'allowed' to wear to Tescos or on the school run.

It's all just 'scruffs', whether you are wearing it to make tea or muck out the stable. I prefer to save the worrying about clothes for work or going-out things.

MusicalEndorphins Sat 09-Mar-13 08:19:44

I can only see (myself) wearing them in public if being taken to the hospital in an emergency situation. I love my pj's and wear them whenever I can, but only in the privacy of my own home.

coffeeismywine Sat 09-Mar-13 08:23:47

A salutory tale for you ladies.

My friend used to regularly take her kids to school in her pjs and dressing gown. She would drive to school, drop the kids off, go home, clean and then get showered and dressed. Then she put her car in the hedge one icy morning last winter.

She gets dressed now. Or she may do th

coffeeismywine Sat 09-Mar-13 08:24:24

posted too soon

the go to bed in your joggers thing. But she definitely doesn't go in her pjs any more.

Eastpoint Sat 09-Mar-13 08:27:00

I have seen friends do it when they have felt hungover exhausted and are going straight back to bed. However they have been dropping off children by car & have coats on over the top so no one would know (probably shouldn't have been driving on reflection). I think it's probably easier to do with older children as then they can make their own breakfast.

thegreylady Sat 09-Mar-13 08:33:19

My dc had ponies when they were young and I often got up very early on show days to feed and plait before travelling. The stables were a short drive away. One morning I decided to wear my dressing gown over my PJ's so I could have a shower back at home. My dressing gown was pink and fluffy.
The sight of it was enough to send a normally placid animal into a whinnying tailspin of terror which set off all the other ponies in the yard and brought the owner out with a shotgun to find me giggling uncontrollably while chaos reigned around me. I never left the house in night attire again :-)

noddyholder Sat 09-Mar-13 08:45:36

I never wear pjs in bed though.

Only ever heard of this on here. Next trip to the UK I'm going to be hanging round the school gates in the morning and then legging itto Tesco to see if I spot any.

flippinada Sat 09-Mar-13 08:56:04

I've never actually seen this in three plus years of doing the school run.

Where does it happen?

seeker Sat 09-Mar-13 13:33:02

grin today I took dp to the station for 6.00, dcluluttered the car and put oil in it, collected ds from a sleepover, took him to football, did horses and collected ds from football. All in my pyjamas.

My heart sang all the time thinking about this thread............!

everlong Sat 09-Mar-13 13:38:35

See I have no problem with that seeker. I have done similar myself. If I've had a bath put my pj's on then have to go and pick someone up in the car I would stay in them.

Very different to getting out of bed then schlepping to school, then the supermarket in pj's you've slept in.

noddyholder Sat 09-Mar-13 13:39:04

grin Maybe all the people who say they have never seen anyone have but just haven't noticed because it is not such a big deal!

Dededum Sat 09-Mar-13 13:40:50

Friends hubby, drove son to school about 30 minutes in his pyjamas. No reason to leave car. Not feeling very well ending up vomiting by the side of the road in his jim jams.

seeker Sat 09-Mar-13 13:41:16

Ah. I didn't have my bath til after doing all that. But in mitigation, I had had a shower at gone midnight last night and didn't put the pyjamas in question on til 2am.......

flippinada Sat 09-Mar-13 13:46:07

Yes noddy you're probably right.

Actually now I think of it my neighbour has done it once or twice that I remember.
Is not really a big deal in the scheme of things tbh.

flippinada Sat 09-Mar-13 13:47:22

Seeker in your position I'd be doing the same!

Fakebook Sat 09-Mar-13 13:51:44

I've never seen anyone wear pyjamas to drop their children off to school. I've seen jogging bottoms and sweatshirts, but everyone gets dressed up very nicely at our school in the mornings.

FanFuckingTastic Sat 09-Mar-13 13:57:05

I've done pyjamas. I've done sleeping in clothes and going in them. I seem to have a get out of jail free card because I do it on a mobility scooter.

crashdoll Sat 09-Mar-13 14:30:10

I can understand doing the school run in your pjs if you genuinely run out of time. I cannot understand going to Tesco and picking up several items, unless it is an emergency. In my area, Tesco hasn't banned pjs and I saw someone in a pink onesie picking up a few bits and bobs. Now, perhaps I am being unfair and she had a pringle related emergency but otherwise, I think it is a tad lazy!

If you're smart enough to wear pjs that look like trackies, then you're win win. grin

ihearsounds Sat 09-Mar-13 14:36:04

I really don't understand it, and it is laziness. There is no valid reason to do it. And children do say something, just not to the adults, but to the lazy persons child.
It got to the point that the ht has put a ban on pj's in school. How sad is that, grown adults being reminded to not wear their pj's. A few of the children were getting constantly teased about their parents in their pj's.

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 09-Mar-13 14:41:35

Some onesies are not sleepwear one of my children has several and no way would some be comfortable to sleep in and they are marketed as leasure wear.

They may not be to your taste nor are they mine but I wouldn't judge anyone for having different ideas as to what constitutes stylish.

I have started wearing cheap leggings and long length tshirts as my pyjamas on school nights. Up, throw on boots, coat and hat, out with dogs.

Most days I manage to have a shower and change before school run, but don't look as if wearing Pj's so sometimes I don't bother.

Wouldn't be seen dead out in something fleecy, patterned and obviously pyjamas though.

noddyholder Sat 09-Mar-13 14:52:52

The valid reason is personal choice I am not lazy at all I put a lot of effort into how I look but sometimes I just don't feel like getting dressed! Ds not at school now but I still would nip to shops. Have just asked ds if anyone ever mentioned it and he laughed NO!

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