Am I being a Petty Fucker? Checkout etiquette.

(82 Posts)
slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 15:26:03

It's been a long day, so I'm prepared to be told I am being unreasonable.

At Tesco, I started putting my stuff on the conveyor belt. I had lots of stuff. Woman comes up behind me and plonks her basket down, slams one of those dividers down in the middle of the belt and put 8 items down, leaving me to pile up my stuff in the section she'd left me.

AIBU to have thought she should've waited for me to finish unloading my shopping before she put her stuff on? It's not like she was going to be able to get through until I'd finished anyway. The man was already tilling up my stuff.

I'm a Petty Fucker, aren't I?

YANBU - she is rude fucker!!

Seriously, what nice mannered person starts loading when the person in front is obviously still emptying their trolley.

YANBU that really pisses me off too.

Unless we're both petty fuckers? grin

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 15:28:16

I would have just pushed her divider back until you had enough space for your things!

DrinkFeckArseGirls Wed 06-Mar-13 15:29:06

I. Hate. People. Anywhere and Everywhere.

No. YANBU. She should have waited!

I would have been fuming.

mmmuffins Wed 06-Mar-13 15:29:47


PartyFops Wed 06-Mar-13 15:29:58

Yanbu, she was rude, but its the sort of thing I might do by mistake if I was tired or something, but you would think she would have then realised and removed her stuff.

I would have then gone so slowly just to piss her off. grin

ginslinger Wed 06-Mar-13 15:30:01

No not petty. Today i might have shoved her stuff back in the basket and then kicked it back up the aisle

HoHoHoNoYouDont Wed 06-Mar-13 15:30:13

YANBU or petty at all. This is seriously bad checkout etiquette and I would have thrown her one of my best death stares before shoving her shopping back in her direction smile

Sirzy, I have done just that. It is bloody rude.

I also make sure I take my time so they are waiting ages but then I am a petty bitch when the mood takes me grin

Hoaz Wed 06-Mar-13 15:30:23

Well, technically, I think you're right, but if you had that much and we're still unloading and she only had 8 items, you could/should have let her go in front.

She shouldn't have expected it though, is that maybe why she unloaded before you'd finished, because she was expecting you to offer?

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 15:30:33

But what can you say to these checkout etiquette breakers?

janji Wed 06-Mar-13 15:30:55

Sirzy, I did this in M&S at the weekend. Woman behind had a right go at me.! She'd left me no room, my stuff was falling off the conveyor belt and she kept pushing my trolley into the back of me & dd! Checkout guy sat there stunned as I argued the toss with her for a good five mins!

Sorry, meant the woman was rude, not pushing the divider back

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 15:32:00

hoaz the man had already started tilling up my stuff.

maddening Wed 06-Mar-13 15:32:30

Yanbu - etiquette is to wait for the person in front to put the divider down.

OP, you put on your biggest smile, say I'm sorry, you seem to have not noticed that I have more things to put on. I'm sure you don't mind me pushing your stuff back as I was here first. A nice passive aggressive laugh works well to smile

Any why should the OP have offered to let the woman go first? I'm confused or just bloody rude and mardy!

LayMizzRarb Wed 06-Mar-13 15:35:37

She may have been on automatic pilot, and had other stuff on her mind. Would it had really have been too much for you to say in a calm tone, can you move the divider back a bit?, I haven't finished unpacking my trolley. To be honest I never pay a great deal of attention to the person in front, I'm usually thinking what I have to do next, in half an hour, when to fit in xyz in the next two hours.... If someone pointed out I had done it, I would be very apologetic.

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 15:35:55

I also make sure I take my time so they are waiting ages but then I am a petty bitch when the mood takes me

Its amazing how long packing and paying can take when needed grin

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 15:36:44

Automatic pilot? You would have to have your eyes closed not to notice that the person in front was still putting shopping on!

SixFeetUnder Wed 06-Mar-13 15:38:09

I was in Lidl recently and someone behind me did this. When I ran out of room for all my crap shopping I just shoved the divider back shoving his lovingly spaced out shopping back in the process until I had enough room. Thought he might have a heart attack his face went so red. The irony is, he only had a basket and I had a huge trolley and if he had waited one more second I was about to tell him he could go in front while I finished unloading.

INeverSaidThat Wed 06-Mar-13 15:38:23

YABU not to have said sorry , but can you remove your basket as I still have to unpack the rest of my shopping
Or, to have simply moved her shopping along.

She was (of course) BU and rude.

MajaBiene Wed 06-Mar-13 15:38:33

Why didn't you just say "I've got more stuff to put on"?

This has happened to me before and the person behind just genuinely didn't realise/wasn't thinking.

manticlimactic Wed 06-Mar-13 15:41:58

What you need to do is get another divider and stick it in front of the magic eye thing at the beginning of your shopping. The belt wont move then when the checkout operator starts scanning your items and then you'll have a gap and the arsehole will be pissed off the belt isn't moving.grin

giddypants Wed 06-Mar-13 15:42:49

very rude. but maybe she was a bit tired or didn't realise. I've said to one of these people that I haven't finished unpacking and they have removed their stuff and walked off, if she had got funny then I would have pushed her stuff back until I had enough room.

Hoaz Wed 06-Mar-13 15:43:46

Well, I do all my shopping in Lisle and the etiquette there is definitely that if you've a trolley full and someone behind only has a few items, you say oh is that all you've got go in front of me. Makes the day of the person behind and the person in front gets to feel all warm about themselves. Sometimes you even get to have a pleasant conversation while youre shopping! Obviously a better class of customer in Lidl. grin

Different if your stuff had already started going through though OP, so I apologise for suggesting such a thing!

Sokmonsta Wed 06-Mar-13 15:44:45

Yanbu. I would have pushed the divider back as well. But I have very low tolerance for rude people at the moment.

SanityClause Wed 06-Mar-13 15:47:28

That's just so rude of her.

ModernToss Wed 06-Mar-13 15:49:51

She was extremely rude, and I'd have been pissed off too.

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 15:50:23

Looking back, I should've said something.

I did however, take ages to pack. I neglected to mention this in case you all thought I was BU! grin

I felt her eyes burning into my face, hence why I posted on here to see if I was being petty in the first place grin

diddl Wed 06-Mar-13 15:51:14

Of course you're not petty, OP.

I have done this before though.

If I've picked up more than I intended & it's getting heavy I've dumped it down-but would keep moving it back as necessary!

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 15:51:44

Ooooh glen and hoaz! Fight fight fight!


HecateWhoopass Wed 06-Mar-13 15:53:12

I'd have instantly become about 5 years old and just passed the remainder of my stuff item by item to the person on the till and then bagged it all up and only then opened my bag to look for my purse.

<adjusts Queen PA crown>


I did say I'm a mardy cow grin

SkinnybitchWannabe Wed 06-Mar-13 16:10:29

I see this all the time when Im at work (checkout at Tesco) I'll happily tell the rude customer that the other person hasn't finished unloading.
One day a woman had a right go at another woman for doing it, she soon moved checkouts.
When Im doing my shopping I always park my trolley so the person behind can't get to the conveyer belt. Works every time

atthewelles Wed 06-Mar-13 16:13:28

YABU. When you ran out of space you should have simply put the rest of your groceries behind the divider and let her pay for them, then asked for them back once you were both through the checkout.

I do this and my shopping bill has come down considerably in the last few months.

flowery Wed 06-Mar-13 16:14:36


It's never happened to me, while I would like to shove all their stuff back in their basket, in reality I would say I javen't finished and if that didn't elicit the correct response I would just use the divider to shove it all backwards to make room. And then chat to the cashier, lose my nectar card, put my PIN in wrong, oh dear is that the time.

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 16:16:32

atthewells you made me snort then grin

I might do that next time...

<eyes up hectates crown>

Smellslikecatspee Wed 06-Mar-13 16:20:44



BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound Wed 06-Mar-13 16:43:11

I have been known to hold the divider whilst still unpacking my trolley so their shopping piles up. Then slowly pack,sort my vouchers,pay (sometimes I forget my pin for a few seconds). Petty yes,satisfying definitely.

SayCoolNowSayWhip Wed 06-Mar-13 16:55:19

You'd never get that sort of attitude in Waitrose.... <sniffs haughtily>


JenaiMorris Wed 06-Mar-13 17:01:16

This has NEVER happened to me.

Is it commonplace then?

You're not being petty btw, assuming the premature loader wasn't doing so in error.

ginslinger Wed 06-Mar-13 17:01:27

I think it's entirely possible to make a mistake or not pay attention but once it's been brought to your attention then te only possible answer is to apologise profusely and remove your stuff. And apologise again. Maybe shout out to the rest of the supermarket that you seem to have behaved in a cuntish manner and ask for forgiveness.

INeverSaidThat Wed 06-Mar-13 17:04:04


I think you should have remembered that you needed x product (x product being located in the furthest corner of the supermarket) and then proceeded to slowly go and get it.

AlisonMoyet Wed 06-Mar-13 17:10:44

youa re a petty fucker

AlisonMoyet Wed 06-Mar-13 17:11:10


you lot need to shop online getoutmore

Op - she was rude.

ajandjjmum Wed 06-Mar-13 17:20:23

It was rude of her. I always expect people to put the divider behind their stuff when they've finished unloading - and wait until they do. I do get riled with those who don't bother, so I have to stretch across their shopping to get a divider, but tbf, we're all allowed to be a bit unreasonable when shopping! grin

But Alison, if you shop online sure you get out less? I think basket case woman should shop online. YANBU.

Tanith Wed 06-Mar-13 17:25:46

Whatever happened to the single basket or 10 items or less checkouts? confused

AlisonMoyet Wed 06-Mar-13 17:26:32

how do you have TIME or energy to let such trivial shit bother you - why not worry about something worthwhile?

SayCoolNowSayWhip Wed 06-Mar-13 17:28:35

Alison - and yet you've posted 3 times on this trivial not-worthwhile thread.....

10 items or FEWER please! <pedant>

slatternlymother Wed 06-Mar-13 17:30:30

Er, ok alison I get your point grin

Enfyshedd Wed 06-Mar-13 17:30:51

My bugbear is when you have a little till with no conveyor belt and people decide to plonk down their basket when the till operator has just moved mine out of the way and I'm only just getting my card out to pay.

Surely it's only good manners to wait for the person to pay and move out of the way instead of hovering over their shoulder while they're putting their PIN in? After many years going to the same store before work and getting to know most of the morning shift, they'll often strike up a conversation with me when this happens if it isn't crazy busy. I think they think it's rude too. grin

INeverSaidThat Wed 06-Mar-13 17:32:41


.....and yet you clearly have the TIME and energy to be so bothered by the OP actions that you had to write three posts about it. Ironic Huh! shock

Fillyjonk75 Wed 06-Mar-13 17:38:23

Yes, I hate it when people crowd you near the pin machine. Might have to just take a step back and "Ow!"

"Oh sorry, I didn't realise you were so close!"

That is really rude. So is putting your basket on the left hand side of the serve yourself till while i am still getting my receipt, putting my card away and picking up my bags. angry

LittleEdie Wed 06-Mar-13 17:47:55

Hmm. I like to daydream. I could well imagine myself being the 'early loader' in this scenario. Have a heart, she was probably being thoughtless rather than U!

lottieandmia Wed 06-Mar-13 17:50:36

YANBU - everyone knows that you wait for the person before you has finished unloading before you start, not only is it good manners but it's also plainly common sense.

She's obviously an ignorant twat.

Alison, how do you have the time and the energy to post to ask people how they have time or energy to let such trivial shit bother them - why not worry about something worthwhile?

OliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 06-Mar-13 18:08:34

Peace love and 6 items or fewer, people

wintertimeisfun Wed 06-Mar-13 18:09:26

yanbu, that would have pissed me right off too smile

Scan and shop is the way to go. No conveyor and no mixing with the riff raff at the checkouts. wink

Sugarice Wed 06-Mar-13 18:11:55

Alison unidentified moaner in AIBU area! grin

TorianaTollywobbles Wed 06-Mar-13 18:18:43

I did that once. Woman in front of me had a go at me. At the time I didn't think I had done anything that bad, so I started a thread about it on here.

Got my arse kicked and learned my lesson. I have never done it again grin

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 18:28:57

Sparkling - our local supermarket now has self scan complete with conveyer!

What's the conveyor for? Shop and scan you scan as you go round. confused

I've had someone come and dump their stuff behind mine when the belt is stopped and I still have a ton to unload. I just turned and said "excuse me but I'm not done you, you haven't left enough room" They were very apologetic, and grabbed their stuff and ran off to another till. I thought it was weird and rude, but maybe they just didn't look and see my food to feed the hoards.

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 18:42:46

Sorry I misunderstood I didn't think anywhere did that scan and shop anymore

Oh sorry sirzy I do know what you mean now. How does that work with a conveyor? confused Does all your shopping disappear to the far end when you have scanned it. grin Who is packing?

YY Tesco are doing Scan and Shop. V exciting.

Yfronts Wed 06-Mar-13 18:46:36

maybe you could have moved the divider to create more space for yourself?

Hissy Wed 06-Mar-13 20:59:45

I glare if the person behind me draws level with the check out if I'm packing! I'm mardy and proud.

Hecate IS GOD of PA though!

emsyj Wed 06-Mar-13 21:54:37

YANBU, someone did this to me a few weeks ago in Aldi - I just picked up his stuff and moved it. He then threw it all back in his trolley and huffed and puffed and went to another checkout. I was 39+4 and in no mood to be trifled with.

Hassled Wed 06-Mar-13 22:01:25

I shop in the wrong sort of shops. This has NEVER happened to me and I feel a bit robbed.

But can I just say that while Hecate might be the PA in Supermarkets Queen, I am the Queen of Packing at Aldi. They chuck the stuff at me with their ruthless Germanic efficiency and I keep up with them. If I can get to the point where I'm drumming my fingers waiting for them to chuck the chocolate at me then I will die a happy woman.

Whojamaflip Wed 06-Mar-13 22:07:17

I had this last week - woman huffed and puffed when I pointed out I hadn't finished unpacking, then she moved forward as I put my last bag into the trolley so when I turned round to put my pin in she was standing by the chip and pin machine.

I just stood there (all the time in the world) until she queried why her shopping wasn't being put through and it was pointed out that I still hadn't paid. She tutted and stood back. I just smiled sweetly and asked to her move to the other side of the till as I would rather she didn't see my pin number. I then waited until she moved eventually grin

Tanith Thu 07-Mar-13 11:37:53

"10 items or FEWER!"

I was merely quoting the grammatically incorrect sign above the checkout <sticks superior nasal orifice in the air and sniffs>

You're right, though blush

rainbow2000 Thu 07-Mar-13 12:30:21

I worked as a checkout operater and i would have told her to wait you were not finished.Same way i told another woman to move back and let someone put their in in.She called over my manager and she agreed with me.

Shutupanddrive Thu 07-Mar-13 12:36:53

Of course she was rude! This has never happened to me (hoping it does, I need to go and do a shop tomorrow!) smile

Trills Thu 07-Mar-13 12:41:02

I love Olivia.

Whojamaflip grin

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