To get my face peirced?

(116 Posts)
coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:43:29

First I would like to say if you hate peircings regardless of age/gender etc please do not just say " no I hate them" or words to that effect as I am looking for unbiased opinions.
Ok, So I am 29 and have blue hair, usually red or some other 'interesting colour' I dress fairly conventional unless I am going out in an evening and then it is mostly 50's or Rockabilly.
In my teenage years I had both my lip and nose peirced and have now come to miss them!
Would I look really silly to get one or the other redone? If not which one?
My family seem to not like the idea and I would quite like to gather some other opinions.
Cheers!

Oh apologies for shit spelling and grammer as I am on my phone and it has no spell check blush

Go for it....

I'm 29 and have blue hair as well, and I'd love my nose and lip done but have never had the money and the bottle at the same time grin

DangerousMouse Tue 05-Mar-13 18:45:38

Go for it, I love piercings. How about something a bit different, like a septum? Will it be okay with your job?

makingdoo Tue 05-Mar-13 18:45:49

It's your face so up to you. Sounds like it would suit your style.

Would work be an issue?

Go for it.

It is your face, your choice. Start off with small jewellery first if you dont feel very confident

DangerousMouse Tue 05-Mar-13 18:46:15

Oh, just don't get a snakebite, they really are for teens only, in my opinion!

makingdoo Tue 05-Mar-13 18:46:30

X-post danger

Do it! Do both smile
I have taken out a lot of my piercings for various reasons, but I can't imagine ever taking my lip piercing out.

If you've got luscious lips, get a medusa....I love those. They look really beautiful on the right person.

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:47:38

Work is fine.
I work in a library, may give the readers a scare!

Dangerous what is a snakebite? I thought that was a double piercing on the tongue.

TallyGrenshall Tue 05-Mar-13 18:49:08

Get which one you like best...or both!

I suppose the nose piercing is more common, and needn't be immediately obvious (depending on what you put in it) whereas a lip peircing would only really leave you the option of a spacer if you ever wanted to be more subtle.

I had snakebites for about 2 years until I was 29 (had to take them out for CS and didn't put them back in because of tiny grabby hands) and I miss them sad

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:49:22

Scarlett- its not too painfull as its over and done with in a matter of seconds

DangerousMouse Tue 05-Mar-13 18:49:54

Snakebite is double lip piercing, one each side at the bottom, IMHO it it quite an emo/goth look and a single lip piercing is more 'grown up', but that is just what I think!

HildaOgden Tue 05-Mar-13 18:49:59

Get them re-done,you can let them close up again if you decide that it's not really 'you' any more.

I love the sound of your look,blue hair and rock-a-billy,seriously I think you sound fab!!Go for it!

GirlOutNumbered Tue 05-Mar-13 18:50:38

I miss my nose stud. I'm not a fan of lip piercingly myself but they can look good on right person. Go with what you feel!

Hmm. Not just for teenagers then!

I know coughingbean - I'm just pants with needles....plus eternally skint!

X post!

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:52:15

Seeing these responses I am quite exited now!

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 18:53:08

WEll, if you don't want a bias, presumably you can have 50% of posters pointing out that there are negatives. risk of sceptacaemia, scarring...

I think they make people look aggressive. I was on a course with younger people and a lot of them had piercings. Seems to be what a tattoo was twenty odd years ago.

I tried to get into some interesting discussion about piercings with the people on my course. None of them could articulate why they did want a piercing. I know they weren't under any obligation to make me understand, but it was interesting to me that none of them could.

If you want one, get one though, I'm not trying to talk you out of it.

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:53:13

Hilda - you make a good point, also thank you blush

DangerousMouse Tue 05-Mar-13 18:53:16

No not just for teenagers, that's just my opinion. What's great about body mod is everyone can be individual and do whatever they want, I'm sure lots of people have opinions about my piercings and thats fine grin

HecateWhoopass Tue 05-Mar-13 18:54:11

I'm not quite sure what you mean by unbiased opinions. Are you only wanting opinions from people who like piercings? You don't want to hear any views other than 'I like them because...'? Cos people who like them have a bias too you know. grin or do you only want to hear from people who are neutral on the issue? ie not having a bias for or against. aka having no opinion/not giving a shit.

Or are you not looking for any opinions on piercing faces generally and the consequences of doing so and the perception of the general public, but just on whether you personally should get your face pierced? If that's the case, I am unbiased - My opinion on whether you get your face pieced is I don't give a shit. grin And that's not me being nasty. I am in no way attempting to have a go at you, or dismiss you. It is just honesty. It's simply that it doesn't affect me one little bit if you have a million piercings in your face so I don't care what you do.

Your family, otoh, probably care a lot.

If you were asking about views on the issue of face piercing - that would be different.

But you aren't, are you? And you specifically don't want opinions from people who don't like it? Have I understood that correctly?

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:54:39

Thank you for your perspective Ginebra

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 18:55:39

You are welcome. I'd love if (maybe different day, different thread) you could explain what it is about facial piercing that appeals to you.

BoringTheBuilder Tue 05-Mar-13 18:56:26

Hi, what do you think a facial pierce would ad to your style?

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 18:57:05

Hecate, I mean would I look silly at my age with a facial peircing.
I feel that people who dont like them automaticaly think they are horrible.

maybe unbiased was the wrong word?

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 18:57:46

Yes Hecate, an unbiased thread would welcome all opinions!

I am still genuinely interested in what motivates people to pierce their face.

I just like the look of them I guess...not sure why.

Someone asked me why I dye my hair the other day (and random in the street) and the only answer I could think of was "because I like it..."

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 19:01:13

Boring and Ginabra,
I feel that my peicings strengthen who I am, They become me, part of my identity iykwim
Then again I have bwen diagnosed with depression and BPD so maybe they have a part to play?

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 19:03:00

See I started dressing ' differently' and dying my hair as I needed to stand out and be noticed.
Now I feel I do it simply because I like it

I had loads of face piercings, still have a few non facial piercings. Got rid of most of the facey ones for work as felt that I wasn't being taken seriously.

I would like to have them done again but never will, would seem a bit like I'm clinging onto my youth in my mind. If I'd just kept them since I was a teen I probably wouldn't bat an eyelid but there's something sad about getting it done now. Can't put my finger on it.

FWIW. I'm absolutely not a 'regular' looking person but for some reason it just doesn't sit right with me anymore.

That's a good way of looking at it coughingbean - my style is very important to me and is an expression of who I am...so my hair, clothes etc are all part of that. If I had the money I'd have tons of piercings and tatts

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 19:07:02

So, is it the perceived 'toughness' of them that you feel matches your identity? That matches your strength, or reminds you that you are strong?

TaggieCampbellBlack Tue 05-Mar-13 19:07:26

I'm 37 and look very boring. I have my nose pierced though. My teeny bit of left over teenager rebellion.

To be honest for me...I just think they look pretty. Like I think tatts or crazy coloured hair are pretty...

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 19:10:36

oh right. I thought it was like a deliberate tactic to take yourself out of the race for pretty. Now THAT i get.

BoringTheBuilder Tue 05-Mar-13 19:11:18

well, when I got my tattoo millions of years ago, I heard a psychologists saying people get tattoos for attention seeking. Don't know if he is right but I really needed some attention tbh, any attention.
I was really young, and nowadays my tattoo no longer matches my style
But not sure if I can compare tattoos with pierces

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 19:12:52

I definatly do not want to look tough, but I find I am always searching for who I am and how I fit in.
When I had my peircings I felt they difined a little more.
Again huge apologies for tne spelling!

I'm sure other people have their own reasons, but I just like the look. The whole "edgy" thing just does it for me...I think it looks great. I love seeing people dressing and looking alternative. I suppose I do see it as a rebellion...not just piercings as they're pretty common, but the whole "look" I go for. I hate mainstream fashion and culture. I get that piercings can be included in that, but it's the whole look together I like.

That probably sounds really shallow...and I'm not shallow at all...it's just an aesthetic that I enjoy smile

If that makes sense...

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 19:14:55

Interesting BORING

Maryz Tue 05-Mar-13 19:18:27

Can I just mention that as you get older your skin isn't as flexible, so it will take longer for piercings to close if you decide you don't like them

I have a friend who has a permanent hole in her lip through which she sometimes dribbles coffee, which is a bit disconcerting. She thought it would close up, but it hasn't.

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 19:19:52

ooo thanks maryz!

Maryz Tue 05-Mar-13 19:21:33

Sorry grin

I'm honestly not trying to put you off, it's just worth remembering. It's a bit like tattoos on, erm, how shall I put this, expandable parts of one's anatomy. A tiny butterfly on my teenage bum wouldn't be tiny by now.

specialsubject Tue 05-Mar-13 19:22:59

just make sure it doesn't look like a really big spot, because a lot of them do.

HildaOgden Tue 05-Mar-13 19:26:37

I have to admit,I'm not generally a fan of facial piercings (I don't have any myself).But as I said upthread,I think you should go for it.Honestly,when I read your description....blue hair,rock-a-billy,and a piercing....my immediate thought was that you (in my mind) must be like a work of art.Eyecatching and thought provoking.

When you added that you work in a library,that just added to the intrigue!!(it seems like such a conservative job).I'd say that your outer appearance is just an expression of the 'other' side of you,the side that is slightly quirky.

And slightly quirky is ever so good in my books,makes the world a brighter place smile

RustyBear Tue 05-Mar-13 19:29:58

DD used to have this one - can't remember what it's called. I thought it looked rather nice, but she had to take it out because it caused her big problems rubbing on her gums, so I wouldn't recommend it if you have any gum problems.

StormyBrid Tue 05-Mar-13 19:30:51

Ginebra - "I am a horrifically obnoxious teenager and this will proper piss my dad off" was, if I'm honest, the main reason I started down the facial piercings path. (I was right, too, he went ballistic.) Between the ages of 15 and 21 I acquired seven of them. Still got them all at 27. No plans to take them out right now, because they're part of my face and I'd feel strangely naked without them, same as without my glasses. But I don't feel any urge to get any more - I'm not that horrible, messed up teenager any more (plus I started running out of bits of face).

There was also an element of reclaiming myself involved, which I've read isn't uncommon amongst survivors of sexual abuse. It was very important to me that it was my body and I was choosing what to do with it. Thinking about it now, I suppose it was easier to assert my ownership of my own body in the face of parental and societal opposition, than it would have been to assert the same by conforming and trying to look the same as all my peers. If that makes sense?

The thing that makes me hmm is that, while you're asking a legitimate question, I'm not sure what you'd accept as a legitimate answer. Would "It's decorative and I like it" be enough, or are you expecting deep and meaningful reasoning? If you are, then I fear you might be disappointed, because for many people it's just a fashion thing, not much different to how many people choose to make up their faces in the morning. I'm interested in what motivates people to wear makeup every day, but the responses tend to be thoroughly lacking in depth, and basically boil down to "I like it, I'd look dreadful without it, I have to for work" or similar - in other words, decoration and societal pressure to conform. Same goes for the piercings, it's just pressure from a subset of society with a different idea of how people ought to look.

OP, go for it if you want to, it's your face! Couldn't advise which to go for without actually seeing your face though.

Quirky ladies ROCK my world grin

Imachocolateportal Tue 05-Mar-13 19:40:43

I am 28 and have still got got facial piercings, eyebrow and an anti eyebrow. So I think you should go for it! You know what you like and what will suit your face so I don't think you should let age worry you too much. I work in an office and no one ever treats me differently because of my tattoos and piercings in fact I have progressed very fast so I don't really believe when people say they will hold me back.

Petalpink Tue 05-Mar-13 19:42:27

I think you need to decide on your own with an issue like this. Seeking reassurance makes me feel like you are insecure in some way ?

Trifle Tue 05-Mar-13 19:44:05

I don't know many people who are happy to employ someone who looks like a cross between coco the clown and Sid snot.

I had many facial piercings when I was a teen and a lot of other obvious piercings elsewhere on my body. I took most out when I fell pregnant with DS, I still have cheek piercings though as I like them and would prefer that to the scars that would be left by them.

I wouldn't have any more now though and I am only 22, I still love them but it would seem odd to me now to start again out of my teens.

However, I am not you and you are probably comfortable starting again now, just remember that there are risks and you might not be happy with any scarring should you decide to take them out later.

mrsmindcontrol Tue 05-Mar-13 19:44:47

I got my lip pierced last year & I'm 39. I like the edgy look & tbh couldn't give a flying fucking shitbucket if people think I'm too old.

lauratheexplorer Tue 05-Mar-13 19:46:15

Go for it! I'm in my twenties and still rock my lilac hair and medusa piercing with two DD's! I'm going to say nose as I've been contemplating getting mine redone after a decade!

StuntGirl Tue 05-Mar-13 19:53:30

Well OP it entirely depends doesn't it. I am late twenties and have always had piercings. I personally don't think they look terrible on anyone regardless of age, but then, I am biased. Towards body piercings.

I always take the worst case scenario into consideration. Would you be able to leave the jewellery in for the duration of the healing period? Will you be willing to switch to retainers once healed if neccessary? Are you willing to accept they will mean some people will treat or perceive you differently?

Butkin Tue 05-Mar-13 19:54:18

One thing to colour your hair - which can be recoloured. Facial piercings - particularly in older faces - always seem so permanent (and I think aggressive). Aren't there other jewellery options that you could trial to see if you like them?

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 20:00:10

PETAL-I am deeply insecure, however this thread was just about gathering opinions
STUNTGIRL-yes to all those!

Ginebra Tue 05-Mar-13 20:03:09

Stormy, brew you're wrong to assume that your answer wouldn't be good enough for me. I did say that nobody is obliged to help me understand, but this is a thread on mumsnet. If I can't ask here, I doubt there'll be an opportunity where I feel more comfortable asking. I was grateful that you were 'bothered' to try and explain it. I am interested in people. I got my hair cut quite short recently as I felt that there wasn't much I could control. finances etc, it all seemed out of my control. And kind of on auto-pilot i felt compelled to get my hair cut. I guess I felt in charge of my own hairstyle grin which did help.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen Tue 05-Mar-13 20:05:51

I got my nose pierced today.

I had it done because its pretty and I like it.

It was pierced and I let it close. But I missed it. I have brown, blonde and pink dip dyed hair, and tattoos and am 34 years old and get no negative responses, have never been turned down for a job, and never no been taken seriously.

I'm not edgy in my style either.

TheOriginalLadyFT Tue 05-Mar-13 20:06:35

You've already said it wouldn't be an issue work-wise, but it might be worth bearing in mind for the future that some potential employers wouldn't like them.

It may not be a rational response, but in the days when I was interviewing, some one with facial piercings and/or wacky hair colour would automatically have started at a disadvantage with me. Partly I suppose because I associate them with teenage rebellion or a desire to be outside of societal norms and neither of those impulses are ones I'd be massively keen on as an employer (in my line of work anyway)

Having said that, I do occasionally see ones which I think look pretty cool - usually on late teen/early twenties age group. Tongue studs do make me cringe a bit though, especially when the piercee constantly flicks or rolls them with their tongue

StuntGirl Tue 05-Mar-13 20:08:06

Well then if you want it doing and you're happy to take the cost, responsibility and repercussions of having them done anyone else's opinion is pretty moot.

I've recently had several new piercings, I'm sure some people hate them but I'm sure I don't care!

PopeBenedictsP45 Tue 05-Mar-13 20:11:24

I can't say I'm big on facial piercings but I say go for it. The world would be pretty dull if we all did the same thing/dressed the same way. You can always take it out if you have a job interview with an investment bank. Although that doesn't sound likely!

coughingbean Tue 05-Mar-13 20:14:56

you sayin' im not smart pope hmm
grin

PopeBenedictsP45 Tue 05-Mar-13 20:17:57

grin

I'm just smiling imagining you in your rockabilly dress with your blue hair and piercings amongst all the suits in Canary Wharf. I know who I'd want to sit next to in that office!

45....nose done since i was 18

Zaphiro Tue 05-Mar-13 20:24:58

To me they seem like a badge of teenage rebellion unless they fit into your lifestyle/persona completely, like if you were a tattooist or in a punk band. If I met someone aged 30+ who dressed conservatively but had facial piercings, I would wonder why.

popcornpaws Tue 05-Mar-13 20:28:25

My dd (16) got snakebites last year and it looks great! I also saw someone with their dimples pierced and that was really nice too.
I'd say go for it, all the scare stories are mainly rubbish spouted by people that don't like them.

StuntGirl Tue 05-Mar-13 20:33:42

Not completely popcorn (although I appreciate the sentiment). All piercings - every piercing - carries some degree of risk. To blindly get pierced regardless of the consequences is a bit silly, but as long as someone is aware of any risks and takes appropriate steps to minimise them they should be fine.

I'm sure the OP will do any research required.

TheSecondComing Tue 05-Mar-13 20:42:18

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fouranddone Tue 05-Mar-13 20:51:47

Yuk yabvu

popcornpaws Tue 05-Mar-13 20:58:44

StuntGirl
I don't think anyone is blindly getting pierced regardless of the consequences, the OP has had piercings in the past.

Goldendandelion Tue 05-Mar-13 21:17:33

Go for it. I'm 38 and have had my nose pierced for a couple of years now. I quite fancy another piercing but don't know which to go for.

FaceLikeAPickledOnion Tue 05-Mar-13 21:21:07

From the age of 14, I always wanted my lower lip pierced on one side after seeing one of the women that made a brief appearance in the josh wink music video, for higher state of consciousness.
At the age of 30 I finally had it done and loved it! I had mostly negative reactions from it. A bloke at work told me I needed to grow up and stop acting like a teenager, my mil didn't hold back either telling me how much she hated facial piercings. Then about a year later I got pg with ds2 and it went funny so I had to take it out and haven't been able to get it in since.
I wouldn't have it re pierced. But I'm glad I had it done. I still have a hole where it was.

I love the alternative look on men & women.

Don't join the beige brigade Op. Some people will like it, others won't. But if you like it, go for it.

BruisedFanjo Tue 05-Mar-13 21:44:25

I say yes :D I had 10 (just in face, 22 in all) before DD came along and I had to go get my boring job to make ends meet. If I never had to work again, I'd have them all!

youmeatsix Tue 05-Mar-13 22:39:22

i have a medusa and a labret. both with tiny little balls on, i love mine, had them for 12 years and no intention of taking them out
go for it!

aldiwhore Tue 05-Mar-13 22:48:51

If you crave piercing, and like the look and have always wanted it done, do it.

You don't have to have a reason, there doesn't need to be a deep meaning.

You ask if you'll look silly? That concerns me a little, because you either think you'll look silly or you don't. Are you too old? Well imo, you're never too old to do anything, if you're confident, other people's opinions won't matter a jot (there reactions MAY upset you, but only at the level of despairing of the human race in general).

I don't like facial piercings for ME. I have little opinion about how they look on others, it's just not my thing but apart from the rare time I think "ooooh that looks like it hurt" I don't really form a judgement on the person.

I guess the ONLY real issue is if you're in a relationship with someone who really genuinely dislikes piercings, in which case I guess you have to decide what is more important to you. I'm all for saying do it and be damned but if it could affect something negatively that you hold dear, maybe a compromise should be persued. Saying that if your other half would be unable to love you pierced, then is he looking deeply enough at the person you are?

YANBU to ask the question, but ultimately it's your face, your choice, your life...

livinginwonderland Tue 05-Mar-13 22:49:15

i love nose piercings, so i'd definitely go with that smile actually considering getting mine done soon, and i'm 24.

almostanotherday Tue 05-Mar-13 22:53:07

If you want it done then have it done.
Personally I could never have it done as my nose stud got ripped out and it's put me off for life now.

minkembra Tue 05-Mar-13 23:02:21

I still have nose pierced. twice.
Finally took eyebrow piercing out last year aged 40.
Tongue and lip purring both had to go years ago though as i was chewing them and it wore half my front teeth away. and i still have a hole in my lip.

So although i loved my piercing, I'd say nose only unless you can be sure you won't chew your lip piercing and unless you mind having a Mark there forever.

Wish i still had my genital piercing though wink

Theycallmestacy Tue 05-Mar-13 23:04:40

Go for it, dd loves her piercings. She has recently has her nose and tongue pierced, she had her nipple pierced last year, her hip which gave her lots of trouble and has now grown out.

Her favourite and mine, Is her nape piercing, she has that done for two years now.

ErrorError Tue 05-Mar-13 23:27:51

I'm 27 and still have mine. I take my lip ring and nose stud out for work, but once I left them in accidentally in an important meeting with big bosses and no-one seemed to notice. I really love seeing alternative looking people with piercings out and about. e.g. if I'm on the train and see someone with funky hair and lip/nose piercings etc, I know I don't know them but I feel a sort of affinity with them IYSWIM. Like the idea that we share a common interest that is obvious to each other and we could in theory bond over it!

I have toned down my look over the years as unfortunately I've felt that looking different may have affected some job opportunities, so I dress in a fairly conventional way to be taken more seriously at work. However, in my social life I like quirky/kitsch/alternative brightly coloured things and clothes.

I say DO get the piercings. I quite like seeing older alternative people and I always want to ask them what they do for a living. Generally I wonder if they're tattoo artists or creative types, but I try not to assume because a good friend of mine is a punk, (wacky bright hair, piercings, stretched ear, tattoos)... and is also a forensic psychologist!

BeeBopDingALing Tue 05-Mar-13 23:48:53

Do them both!

MrsMushroom Tue 05-Mar-13 23:51:33

I don't hate peircings but they don't enhance your looks imo. SOME people with very strong features can carry it....others can't and all you see is the piercing.

whethergirl Wed 06-Mar-13 01:05:29

Just go for it, you can always take them out (and i bet you won't). I don't really see it as a big deal at all.

Your age has nothing to do with it. I am 40 and would not let it stop me.

Some people won't like it but that shouldn't stop you. I'm sure some people hate my tattoos but it makes no difference to me.

fwiw, I'm not that keen on nose piercings these days but that's personal choice. I had my nose pierced over 20 years ago, it was quite unusual then and my family were dead against it. They kept telling me I'd regret it because the holes would never close up. You can still see where the holes were (I had one on each side at one point!) but it doesn't bother me and I don't regret it at all.

Do it, go on!

ScumbagCollegeDropout Wed 06-Mar-13 01:15:10

I'm 30 and currently have bright pink hair, stretched lobes, medusa and septum piercings.

I have been in the 'alternative' scene since the age of around 12 when I discovered metal and grunge. I still wear band shirts. It's just a look I love and don't want to grow out of grin

I get lots of positive comments when out and about. Especially the hair. Blokes love the piercings wink

It's me. I feel weird without it all.

Go for it OP! Why not?

wickedwitchofwaterloo Wed 06-Mar-13 01:17:42

Go for it! I'm 31 this year and currently have a madonna piercing, a surface labret, my septum and also the inside of my top lip (has a name, dunno what) thinking to retire my madonna for a medusa but I've had it for 16 years! shock
I did have two dermal anchors but my face was having NONE of it. Sadly.

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Kytti Wed 06-Mar-13 01:35:24

Nose. It'll be less of a problem if you ever want a 'posh' job. I used to have a good senior position with a well-known company where I had to have frequent meetings with other large corporates. I was advised to remove my nose piercing for the interview and I refused. Thankfully they realised my brain wasn't in my nostril and gave me the job. It's never been a problem for me (as far as I'm aware!) and now I'm a dull sahm (ironic, life is not dull) I still have it and I'm reminded I too was once 'cool.' lol

Kytti Wed 06-Mar-13 01:42:57

... although I am a little concerned you said you wanted them to 'define' who you were. You'll still be you. They won't change your personality.

And I'm um... a lot older than all of you. I love my piercing but it doesn't define me as a person.

BrokenBritain Wed 06-Mar-13 01:50:22

Can I ask a piercing related question? I had my nose pierced over 16 years ago. Only had it for a month or so, it went horribly infected and I removed it. It healed up fine and since then there's been a tiny dot there but barely noticeable.
Until suddenly, for he last few weeks it's started bleeding and stabbing up, and looking all swollen. How weird is that, after 16 years?! Does anyone know why this might be happening or if it's normal?
Op sorry for that just had to throw it out there. In answer to your question I think if you want it go for it, life's too short. Get em both done!

BrokenBritain Wed 06-Mar-13 01:51:05

Jesus, scabbing up, not stabbing up!

MechanicalTheatre Wed 06-Mar-13 02:01:14

I can't believe how many people are saying piercings are alternative! I'd say more people have them than don't now. It's really not a alternative/rock look any more.

Bogeyface Wed 06-Mar-13 02:06:40

I read this thread and remembered an episode of Phineas and Ferb that DS watched at the weekend. Candace said "Mum I need X! I need it to assert my individuality! All my friends have them!" grin

Tats, piercings, body art etc where very unique for a while but now they are "samey". I wouldnt do it because its not new or original anymore and if you need it to define who you are then you dont know who you are and a piercing wont change that.

I say this as someone with 2 tats and several piercings (that I have let heal).

StuntGirl Wed 06-Mar-13 02:22:00

While not as 'alternative' as they once were they're still not considered socially acceptable in many places. Many workplaces ban them and those who have them are still considered socially subversive/edgy/dangerous/teenage rebellion/unprofessional by many in society (and that's just taken from responses to this thread!)

FaceLikeAPickledOnion Wed 06-Mar-13 06:30:22

Mechanical, a facial piercing with blue hair is not alternative/rock?
A piercing on its own, not, but combined with clothes and hairstyle it is.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen Wed 06-Mar-13 06:59:48

Broken. Was it pierced with a gun or a needle?

coughingbean Wed 06-Mar-13 07:05:07

Thank you every one for you replies.
Some of you have made aome really interesting points and I appreciate all your comments.

BinksToEnlightenment Wed 06-Mar-13 07:20:20

I say go for it. You only live once. The sooner you get it done, the sooner you have a piercing you can leave out for the day if necessary.

The only things I would suggest are, having a narrower piercing with a smaller ring/bar/ball, and not getting your tongue pierced because it causes you to ever so slightly slur your words. It is practically unnoticeable, but I have inadvertently persuaded two people other than myself to remove theirs after pointing it out. I spent ten years tripping over my words and never realised why until I took it out.

ScumbagCollegeDropout Wed 06-Mar-13 07:37:31

Broken Try a Sea Salt Soak if you haven't already. Hope it clears up soon for you.

I don't think piercings on their own (like tatts) are "edgy" or alternative anymore, but as part of a look they are most definitely. I don't have any body mods at the moment, but my hair is my hobby. I have a side-cut, and undercut and it's bright blue. I usually wear dreads as well, and I have a new set to put in tomorrow...YAY!

threebats Wed 06-Mar-13 08:13:36

Are you afraid of how others will perceive you if you go ahead and have this done? If so then I would say, how others perceive you is their problem. You can't read a book by its cover and yet we all, on occasion, judge a person by their look. I suppose its human nature.
You can't live your life worried all the time about how others perceive you.
You're young enough to pull the look off but old enough to know what you are doing. Go ahead and do it if you want to. Let other people worry about how they feel about it. As long as you are happy with how you look - confidence comes from being happy with ourselves smile

BrokenBritain Wed 06-Mar-13 08:44:14

Hotpink - it was done with a gun, a normal ear piercing one with a full on butterfly on the inside. When it got infected the stud got embedded in my nose and the dodgy barbers where I'd had it done had to shove pliers up my nose to get the butterfly out.
So I would deffo recommend going to a proper piercing studio op!
Scumbag - thanks, will give that a go. It's not really bothering me other than just baffled as to why after all these years its suddenly playing up.

olgaga Wed 06-Mar-13 09:01:01

Work is fine. I work in a library

If I worked in a library, I'd be looking at what I'll do if my library closed or outsourced.

343 libraries (298 buildings and 45 mobiles) are currently under threat or have been closed or left council control since 1 April 2012.

Don't be complacent about your job security, and don't imagine for a moment that it'll be an easy matter getting another job at age 29 with "interesting" hair and facial piercings.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen Wed 06-Mar-13 09:24:34

It leaves all sorts of damage, the gun. Mine was done with a gun, even though they advertised using a needle and like the dumb kid I was then I let them do it.

One of the reasons I had mine redone was to cover the scar, admins used to bleed very occasionally for a good 10 years after it was done.

When mine was done yesterday I had to suffer the indignity of a finger up my nose so the piercer could see how bad the scar tissue was grin I am lucky as I got of likely but the piercer still had to really push the needle through the gristle left behind from the shattering effect of the gun.

However, unlike the gun, it didn't hurt at all, and looks fine. No redness, swelling or discomfort smile

Thewhingingdefective Wed 06-Mar-13 09:27:42

I am 34 and just recently had my hair cut very short and died red and started wearing my punky and Mod clothes again after feeling very frumpy for a number of years. I personally wouldn't have a facial piercing because I couldn't carry it off, but if you think you can then go for it. At 29 you are not too old.

I much prefer piercings to tattoos.

Thewhingingdefective Wed 06-Mar-13 09:39:56

Dyed! Not died.

I quite like piercings, have my belly done...but personally I don't like facial piercings. Ok, the ones on the nose and eye brow are ok but people seem to then them done on their lips and below their lips......dont like them at all.

If you want it done though go for it. Will it be ok for your job?

WhatsTheBuzz Wed 06-Mar-13 09:51:50

'everyone can be individual' - ha, love it.

I had various parts of my face pierced until I realised how boring they were!

olgaga Wed 06-Mar-13 09:59:33

Buzz grin yes, I always thought being an individual is about not following trends!

StuntGirl Wed 06-Mar-13 10:06:06

Binks the gauge should be appropriate to the piercing and the anatomy, not just always 'done small'. Smaller gauge piercings can cause a 'cheese wire' effect if they're an inappropriate size.

And not everyone with a tongue piercing slurs or gets a lisp! In fact I don't know a single person who does. Maybe it just didn't suit your anatomy or was the wrong size so caused you some problems?

coughingbean Wed 06-Mar-13 10:49:36

To the posters who mention job security/interviews etc. I always research the dress code, take peircings out and dye my hair a more sedate colour when interviewing.
If I am sucsessfull in an interview I always then ask my line manager if they are acceptable.
If not then I look forward to the weekends! grin

BinksToEnlightenment Wed 06-Mar-13 13:18:10

It is a very slight slur that is barely noticeable, but it makes perfect sense that a heavy bar through the tongue would impair speech.

Titchyboomboom Wed 06-Mar-13 13:43:45

Do it!!! I have lip pierced and loooove it...

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