To be really pissed off that when I google goldilocks or little red riding hood costumes I am inundated with big boobs with short skirts

(76 Posts)
Fakebook Mon 04-Mar-13 12:14:55

I am looking at costumes for dd for WBD and am getting increasingly pissed off at why children's female book characters are being sexualised for adult costumes.

If you press on images and google "Cinderella costume" the third pic is of a woman wearing a half boob tube corset type thing with a tiny sliver of a skirt and netted tights. If you google "goldilocks costume" you get a woman with a low cut corset type dress and white stockings.

This has really pissed me off. I'm looking for a costume for my five year old ffs. Why are children's characters being sexualised in this way? Who the hell likes this shit and who buys it?

BuntyPenfold Mon 04-Mar-13 12:18:15

I couldn't agree more.
I was looking for adult costumes as I work in a preschool. Most of the options are hideous, raunchy, or kinky.

megandraper Mon 04-Mar-13 12:19:45

ha! yes, I have been looking for 'cat' costumes for my preschoolers for a party, and the costumes are pretty unsuitable! And hideous and tawdry too.

BlessedDespair Mon 04-Mar-13 12:20:36

Can't you but some sort of filter on to stop sexualised stuff getting through?

Don't you know that dressing up at little red riding hood and bring chased by the big bad wolf is all the rage and heightens sexual experiences... smile

Yup. I found that yesterday looking for pirate costumes. It was bizarre.

HeadFairy Mon 04-Mar-13 12:21:30

I've had the same problem, even when I type "children's Little Red Riding Hood costumes" in!

BlessedDespair Mon 04-Mar-13 12:21:58

Oh dear full of mistakes blush

But = put
Bring = being

there are probably others in there too blush

I think these days we must add "for children" to everything we google
eg. 'Pirate costume for children'. Otherwise, computer goes to its default option which is 'Pirate costume for sex.'
Tis shit.

freddiefrog Mon 04-Mar-13 12:24:40


Not nursery-rhyme related, but I help a couple of days a week in school and before Christmas we had a Victorian Day where all the kids and staff got dressed up and they re-enacted a Victorian school.

It was on one of my volunteer days and I spent ages scrolling past booby serving wench-type costumes before I got to anything remotely appropriate

luanmahi Mon 04-Mar-13 12:24:46

This is v annoying. It seems that as a woman you have the choice of frump or whore when it comes to fancy dress.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 04-Mar-13 12:25:17

I just googed them and didnt get anything that even looked like it was trying to be sexy.

I got a few adult ones but they were full length versions of kids ones the type of thing I would expect to see a adult at a kids dress up party wearing.

You need to learn to google. You need three words to make up a phrase, or Long Tail.

So, you google Childrens cinderella costumes. It is important to be as specific as possible as there are some many different sites out there indexed.

mrsjay Mon 04-Mar-13 12:27:11

I couldn't agree more with you abourt fancy dress I have older Dds who go to fancy dress at halloween parties and they were inundated with sexy policewoman /sexy wench / sexy lollypop lady I AM NOT joking confused , you should be able to get costumes for young girls without 'sexy' being an issue,

blackeyedsusan Mon 04-Mar-13 12:28:14

yes... the children's part is very important!

Fakebook Mon 04-Mar-13 12:28:47

I can't really filter on my phone I think, but even then, they're costume images from online shops so I couldn't block them anyway. It's just annoying that's the first thing that comes up when you write in a children's book character.

This is the link I had: this is searching for goldilocks costume

this is searching for goldilocks costume for children you still get inappropriate pictures come up in the children's one too.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 04-Mar-13 12:28:54

We went to a 21st birthday fancy dress party recently. Every young woman there was a 'sexy' version of a well known character. There was a sexy Edward Scissorhands confused

Branleuse Mon 04-Mar-13 12:29:25

we're so used to getting stuff off the peg now that we just expect to be able to just get what we want when we want.
they sell the stuff there is a market for and not the stuff there isn't.
is learning to sew an option?

Startail Mon 04-Mar-13 12:30:17

DF says don't google milk maids!

We live in a dairy farming area and her DD wanted a local costume for the Jubilee.

She assured us many of the results were not nice vintage outfits for a 9y.

I agree that you are not using the correct search title and if you press on images, then that is never going to give you a cross section of what is available, just go into a large fancy dress site, or ebay.

I go to fancy dress parties regulary and i have done both sexy and average, it's never been a problem for me or my friends/family, of different sizes and ages to get costumes.

It's no diffrent than looking for a dress for a night out.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 04-Mar-13 12:31:29
Startail Mon 04-Mar-13 12:33:58

All fancy dress being 'Sexy' and 3 inch long is also very frustrating if you have a Y6 who no longer fits 9-10 children's stuff.

Or like many of us, you passed the short skirt stage 25 years ago.

Fakebook Mon 04-Mar-13 12:34:03

Thanks sockreturningpixie, but I've just ordered a little red riding hood one from ASDA.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 04-Mar-13 12:37:09

I feel very childish because now I want this and I want to wear it pottering around Waitrose

Growlithe Mon 04-Mar-13 12:43:16

YANBU. The worst is if the child actually wants to sit with you as you are doing your search - and can't understand why you can't show them the search results. angry

I find tk maxx often has loads of really good costumes in their kids section

fromparistoberlin Mon 04-Mar-13 12:47:26

why not buck the trend and send her as a NON slutty schoolgirl????

this might make you feel better


kinkyfuckery Mon 04-Mar-13 12:48:53


I'm on the look for an (adult) Disney Princess costume for myself for a trip to DLP. I know I'm hot and stuff but surely no-one wants to see my arse hanging out at Disneyland FFS

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 12:49:41

Make your costumes people, make make make! Like not sew make but put together. I hate shop bought fancy dress, especially for world book day. It's not difficult to chuck something together is it?

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 12:50:55

It's so unimaginatve. So what do you want to be DS? Ok, click click bclick and it lands on the doormat 2 days later. Where's your imagination?!

Shop bought costumes never win prizes, so there.

Phew, sorry about that, just had to get that out there.

As you were.

SaladIsMyFriend Mon 04-Mar-13 12:53:39

YANBU since when did all fancy dress for females have to be "sexy"?

I went into a fancy dress shop this morning to get some cat ears for DD's costume and was immediately confronted with pictures of half naked "sexy" nurses, policewomen, and yes women dressed as "sexy" cats.

Decided not to give them my money for kids' cat ears, am making ears myself now.

Growlithe Mon 04-Mar-13 13:00:25

kinky - Disney won't let adults in dressed up as characters, unless it's a special event where they have invited adults to dress up. I don't know how or why I know this BTW. grin

kinkyfuckery Mon 04-Mar-13 13:01:21

Oh no, really?? Gutted sad

Fillyjonk75 Mon 04-Mar-13 13:02:05

I agree, very annoying. I was an elf in the grotto at the Christmas Fete one year and had to get an adult elf costume. Difficult to find one that was not, rather too risque for a school setting, shall we say.

AudrinaAdare Mon 04-Mar-13 13:03:05

sock my DD has that costume. She was Cinderella in the school panto last year, aged 12 and most of what was available was very unsuitable.

It's a size 10 and quite stretchy - happy to lend it in return for photos of you in Waitrose grin

Growlithe Mon 04-Mar-13 13:03:56

I suppose they can't have you upstaging the 'real' Cinderella! grin

AudrinaAdare Mon 04-Mar-13 13:04:35

Oh blush it isn't the same - I am not that much of a mug didn't spend that much!

Fillyjonk75 Mon 04-Mar-13 13:05:35

Sorry MrsKeith, unless it's very, very simple I'd rather poke my eyes out than make a fancy dress costume. When DD1 was a star in the nursery Nativity play, I bought a star tabard for £5 from Asda. I couldn't have made one for that price.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Mon 04-Mar-13 13:06:31

Yy, make the stuff! I can't wait until the first time DD's nursery asks us to put her in fancy dress. She's nearly 1 and has only been at nursery since Jan - will it be soon?

I make all my own costumes or borrow bits from friends. Last Halloween I was Alice in Wonderland, complete with 8-month-old DD as the Cheshire Cat. I spent blimming ages sewing pink fur stripes onto a lilac babygro and trying to add ears to a lilac hat. The year before I was pg and went as Ursula from The Little Mermaid. I used a cheap black strapless maxi dress and attached home-made tentacles to the skirt, painted my face, chest and arms blue and sprayed my hair white. The tentacles took ages and with hindsight making them authentically black on top, purple underneath and with holes cut out to show pale pink lining (suckers) was a step too far.

<worries that everyone will think she's mad>

Fillyjonk75 Mon 04-Mar-13 13:08:40

For World Book Day I probably wouldn't buy or make anything new anyway, I just steer DD1 towards a character that could use dressing up clothes we already had or their own clothes, with a few embellishments.

kinkyfuckery Mon 04-Mar-13 13:09:46

You sound like you have way too much time on your hands TooExtra wink

Schooldidi Mon 04-Mar-13 13:17:54

TooExtra I think you're mad.

Those saying make your costumes, you seem to be assuming that I have a creative bone in my body. I don't. If I can buy something that looks like what it's supposed to be, then that's what I'll do, because a) what I make will look like shit and b) the time taken to make a costume is worth more to me than the money (because I buy cheap and cheerful)

Growlithe Mon 04-Mar-13 13:22:10

I used to think it is better to make outfits too. Now I think differently however. The price of the shop bought ones is often less than the cost of materials you would need to make them, and shop bought ones are designed to be more comfortable, making them a more practical choice when the child will spend the whole school day in costume.

One poor child in my DC's class always has a costume made for him, as his mum is very arty. She doesn't seem to consider he will be hot in class in an outfit made head to toe in fur. He has also come out in an allergic reaction to one of her 'creations'. He does win the prize as a rule, but if ever boy was crying out to be Spiderman with all his mates it is that boy. I think maybe she does take the home made costume to the extreme though, to be fair.

Fakebook Mon 04-Mar-13 13:23:07

Mrskeith, we can't all be imaginative or give that big a shit about WBD like you. I'd rather buy something than "put stuff together". As it happens I'm making my own wicker basket for dd to hold. Some of us don't have time to MAKE the costume as well. I don't want my dd to think that "winning prizes" is the only thing that counts. She wins most school contests anyway, so missing out on this one won't be too heart breaking.
Hope you have a splendid time "putting together" your costume and using your "imagination". hmm.

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 13:24:17

I don't mean spending hours or loads of money sewing from scratch. We done a lego man for last halloween, that was ace and pretty easy really, we done Where's Wally for school last book day, just got a stripey top from a charity, glasses from the pound shop and we even found a walking stick! I mean just putting together, improvising, using your imagination. I love it!

That's what I mean filly, this year we're doing Burglar Bill, really easy as he already has a black and white striped T shirt and the rest is easily sourced/improvised. I won't be sewing a thing!

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 13:26:04

Oh don't get me started on Superheros on World Book Day - it doesn't count! grin

Fakebook Mon 04-Mar-13 13:27:27

Most Superheroes are from comic books.

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 13:29:03

You don't say!

I'm joking Fakebook, pull your knickers out your arse and have a giggle.

Growlithe Mon 04-Mar-13 13:35:22

I've relaxed my standards these days and so anything 'counts' on these fancy dress days, there are too many of them to get too bogged down in what is right or wrong on each one of them.

This attitude has served me well. DD2 had to dress up as what she wanted to be when she grew up one day. I had a doctor's outfit so told her she wanted to be a doctor. Now she actually wants to be a doctor when she grows up. I've done wonders for her ambition with my laziness. grin

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 13:36:52

Well done grow!

Our school dropped a 'Circus dress up' on us with very little notice as fucking usual so a boiler suit and a crash helmet were put on him and he was called a human cannon ball!

MrsKeithRichards Mon 04-Mar-13 13:38:07

In fact I'll keep the human cannonball in mind for a 'What you want to be when you grow up' day!

Schooldidi Mon 04-Mar-13 13:43:00

I'm glad dd1 didn't go to a school where they have a lot of dress up days. WBD we usually got around by sticking a halloween witch outfit on her and then thinking about which witch she was based on the books that were age appropriate. She has been Meg from Meg and Mog, Winnie the Witch, and Hermione from Harry Potter. It's amazing how many witches there are in children's literature grin

itsallyourownfault Mon 04-Mar-13 13:55:50

YANBU. It's also irritating that no fancy dress party for adults can take place without all the females dressing up as sexy something or other. So boring, unoriginal,unsexy. In fact fancy dress for adults, in any form, should be banned.

Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 12:12:47

Well, I sent dd in today, put a pic up on Instagram and just had a message asking for her picture to be used for a famous online newspaper. You don't need a costume to be homemade for it to be noticed; the accessories are just as important. grin. Good old ASDA.

Growlithe Thu 07-Mar-13 13:31:59

Well done Fakebook. Do we get to see the photo?

catgirl1976 Thu 07-Mar-13 13:57:21

I dressed up as a "sexy" red riding hood once

Sadly, DH nearly died laughing and there was no sex as he couldn't stop the tears running down his face or breathe hmm blush

autumnmum Thu 07-Mar-13 14:21:07

I've got a theory about this. I don't think the manufacturers thought lets make a sexy version, I think they thought how can we make our fancy dress as cheap as possible. To do this they used hardly any fabric and the marketers came up with the idea of "sexy", rather than "cheap" (although in the case of most of these outfits the two words are interchangable).

Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 14:22:02

Growlithe, I'd like to but then I'd end up outing myself. Just wanted other people with shop bought costumes to know that it's not always home made costumes that are noticed!

Catgirl, maybe try a catwoman outfit next time wink.

catgirl1976 Thu 07-Mar-13 14:28:32

I have adopted my new costume

"Shattered mummy who hasn't washed her hair in three days and has fish pie and baby snot on her shoulder"

It's dead sexy grin

Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 14:53:10

It sounds sexy! I adopt that look most days and DH can't get enough. He finds the smell of baby sick quite alluring. smile.

catgirl1976 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:52:17


We could go on dragons den with our new range

CocacolaMum Thu 07-Mar-13 16:53:46

I've worn a red riding hood out (black and white check dress, red hood homemade with long white socks not stockings ffs!! and a wicker basket) for a fancy dress party. Ran into a "sexy" red riding hood in one pub. I certainly know who I thought looked better wink

TiggyD Thu 07-Mar-13 18:59:44

Out of interest, I just Googled something that couldn't possibly have any sexy side to it. I Googled "Sexy Butcher Costume". Bugger me if there wasn't a lady in a short skirt being a butcher!

In my experience of buying fancy dress costumes, under size 16 means it will have a very short skirt and barely cover the chesty regions. Size 16 and over, the skirt will be ankle length and the top half will be baggy and shapeless.

catgirl1976 Thu 07-Mar-13 19:02:48

Sexy butcher? <boggles>

Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 19:07:23

sexy butchers?! Now I want to google sexy geologists to see what comes up grin.

Uppermid Thu 07-Mar-13 19:10:09

We go to a Halloween party every year and trying to find a costume is an absolute nightmare.

They are all tits and ass type costumes, drives me mad

sensesworkingovertime Thu 07-Mar-13 19:52:28

Whatever you do don't google 'Bambi' , I did this when my DD loved the Disney cartoon and I was looking for colouring pages - what a shock, it is tedious though when your trying to look for innocent stuff to get all this smutty stuff shoved at you.

WhoWhatWhereWhen Thu 07-Mar-13 19:58:07

I just tried this and got nothing like what you have described, search results are personalised though....

WhoWhatWhereWhen Thu 07-Mar-13 20:01:14

Just Googled "Bambi" and didn't get any filth with that either..

marjproops Thu 07-Mar-13 20:14:03

YANBU kids looking for themselves (not under supervision, why would they be, they're innocently looking for kiddywear)are then inundated with this.

And theres a costume shop in a town near us that the kiddies section is at the BACK of the shop and you and child have to walk past the kinky stuff to get to them????!!!!

On another note, a friend was once looking for mister men pics to print out for her nephew and googled 'mr happy' and with nepphew there was confronted with a full blown (pardon the expression) image of a mans aroused genitals!!

Theres a funny "top ten ridiculous sexy costumes" online somewhere, I'll go find it...

Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 21:04:29

I don't think any "sexy" costume can be more ridiculous than [ this]].


Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 21:04:50
Fakebook Thu 07-Mar-13 21:10:11

grin The real estate agent!

"She'll sell you a house, and then...give you some papers to sign"

That's a good one

Growlithe Thu 07-Mar-13 21:22:46

Sexy Sherlock Holmes. hmm

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