to give the barman a tenner to buy something nice for his baby?

(44 Posts)
Reality Sat 02-Mar-13 12:18:49

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Mononoke Sat 02-Mar-13 12:20:27

grin I think it was very sweet.

almostanotherday Sat 02-Mar-13 12:25:36

How very nice of you OP smile

LaFataTurchina Sat 02-Mar-13 12:29:23

I also think it was sweet.

Plus, someone needs to start the new generation of lovely old ladies who give money for babies, otherwise once they are all gone there will be no one left to do it smile

Incidentally, I'm 25 but whenever I go home to Italy my many various great aunties etc. will still bung me the odd 20 euros 'for my studies'. I don't get offended, I think it's lovely smile

ProPerformer Sat 02-Mar-13 12:30:01

Well I think it was lovely! It's random acts of kindness like yours that can make people's day!

BambieO Sat 02-Mar-13 12:31:35

I am 27 and my nan still gives me £10 whenever I see her smile bless her she will never take no for answer

I think it was lovely of you!

WellSlapMyThighAndCallMeNancy Sat 02-Mar-13 12:33:16

What a lovely drunken guesture grin.

Crawling Sat 02-Mar-13 12:33:27

I think its lovely too.

MrsMushroom Sat 02-Mar-13 12:33:44

It's not silly it's nice! I used to constantly have elderly men and ladies putting pound coins on both DDs prams when they were new.

this was in a small Welsh village. It's an ancient tradition...something to do with warding off the Devil. I think the coins were silver in the old days though! You giving a tenner is lovely.

My DH had tips like that when he was a barman.

Flisspaps Sat 02-Mar-13 12:34:22

It was a perfectly reasonable and normal thing to do.

Random acts of kindness make the world a much nicer place.

Reality Sat 02-Mar-13 12:37:03

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Dillydollydaydream Sat 02-Mar-13 12:43:47

I think it was very nice of you. The barman was giving you free drinks so I think you're even smile

FutTheShuckUp Sat 02-Mar-13 12:44:49

It was lovely

ENormaSnob Sat 02-Mar-13 12:50:55

I think it was a really nice thing to do.

minouminou Sat 02-Mar-13 16:28:02

We held DS' birthday in our village pub last year ('cos we're classy!). As we were packing up, an elderly Irish lady came in and sat at the bar (think she was a rellie of the landlord). After a few mins she asked to see the birthday boy and gave him a fiver....he couldn't quite believe it and gave her a huge hug. She was thrilled, and so was he.
Yeah - someone's got to provide the future with benevolent old birds......we need them.

AScorpionPitForMimes Sat 02-Mar-13 16:30:16

I think that was lovely, he will always remember you as that lovely drunk lady who paid for DC's sleepsuit

penelopepissstop Sat 02-Mar-13 18:54:59

I think that was a sweet act of human kindness.

somewherewest Sat 02-Mar-13 19:13:33

We did the same with a waiter once. We got chatting and found out he had a newborn at home. I think its a nice thing to do especially as babies bleed your wallet dry

Poppet48 Sat 02-Mar-13 19:19:01

YANBU, That was a lovely drunken thing to do OP grin

WilsonFrickett Sat 02-Mar-13 19:20:32

Luffly. I love drunk chat.

SirBoobAlot Sat 02-Mar-13 19:26:30

What a lovely act of drunken kindness, OP grin

I think it was a nice thing to do.

An older woman once gave DS 50p because she said he had made her smile more than she had in days.

Money doesn't buy happiness, but the gesture behind giving some away can sometimes make a huge difference smile

Allthingspretty Sat 02-Mar-13 19:34:01

Lovely thing to do. Mymum still givea money to people who have had a babu and if you give a purae as a present she and i put money in.

AScorpionPitForMimes Sat 02-Mar-13 20:05:48

Actually a woman once gave the DDs 50 p each because they got her the stuff she needed, from very low and very high shelves respectively, and she was feeling achy. I thought that was a lovely kind thing to do, since they'd happily have done it anyway!

It's just good to hear there are still nice people in the world.

WheresMrMonkey Sat 02-Mar-13 20:10:06

That was lovely!
We went to a wedding last year and a man who had had a few presed a £20 note into DDs palm. She was only 16 mo so just screwed it up. I tried to say take it back but he insisted, something I will always remember

YANBU....that's very sweet grin

ProlificWillyBreeder Sat 02-Mar-13 20:19:40

Oh that's lovely?

ProlificWillyBreeder Sat 02-Mar-13 20:20:11

I mean ! Not ?
On phone can't type.
Sorry

quoteunquote Sat 02-Mar-13 20:47:31

OP, I think you did a really lovely thing,

I did buy something really special for my first, when a stranger insisted on giving me some money when I was pregnant.

It felt like the world was sharing my joy, I think it a very special moment to society when a baby's arrival is greeted by strangers.

Something that doesn't happen so much now in our culture, it is more common in other parts of the world.

maddening Sat 02-Mar-13 23:13:02

Allthings - putting money in a purse given as a gift is good luck (or bad luck not to?)

Also - if you give a gift which includes a blade (eg scissors or knives) the recipient has to give you a coin or it is bad luck apparently.

BrittaPerry Sat 02-Mar-13 23:16:01

With both my babies, after we had been out for a walk near old people we woud find coins in the pram. Lovely :-)

HazeltheMcWitch Sat 02-Mar-13 23:55:56

Yep, maddening - putting a coin in a gifted purse means that the recipient will never be without money.
And it is bad luck to give knives, scissors as a gift as it'd sever the friendship... so the recipient 'buys' them with a coin. So the supersitions go, anyway.

mrsjay Sat 02-Mar-13 23:58:47

aw I think thats lsweet what a lovely lush you are grin

HazeltheMcWitch Sat 02-Mar-13 23:59:02

Where does the giving babies silver thing come from - both in meaning and geography. I'd assumed that it was a Catholic or Mediterranean thing, but I may have just made that up. My sister is a church-goer and her DD used to regularly get given coins. Except she didn't always tell my Dsis... twice she ate coins, twice ended up in A&E...

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 00:02:14

MY dds got silver in their prams when they were babies when we were out and about apparently is supposed to bring luck to the baby, I bought both of them a money bank with the money and they still have them, they are 15 and nearly 20 , some people would put it near them I was a bit eeek about that but most put it under the pram mattress, Im scottish and a non church goes if that makes any difference, I dont think anybody does it nowadays

LavenderBombshell Sun 03-Mar-13 00:04:54

Top Tip
You did well.

And I agree with Quoteunquote .

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 00:06:20

With both my babies, after we had been out for a walk near old people we woud find coins in the pram. Lovely :-)

I think it is lovely nobody does it anymore I wonder why ?

BOF Sun 03-Mar-13 00:09:53

Are yo getting the drunken shame? grin Don't. It's a lovely thing. The kindness of strangers is something you always remember. And I bet you wouldn't have felt so benevolent if you hadn't been feeling so happy and jolly yourself. It was just a way of spreading around a bit of love and joy. There is enough misery in the world- it's important to counter it.

HazeltheMcWitch Sun 03-Mar-13 00:14:13

Mrsjay - I'm scottish but down south of the border, as is my sis. The money givers were all 60-80ish, Italian, Maltese, Greek. And it was always in church. She did go weekly, and it was rare that a week would go by without a coin!.

So, er, come down south!

Agree, OP, it was a lovely thing to do.

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 00:17:33

Yes it was a lot of elderly ladies who would 'give the bairn a penny' smile

BOF Sun 03-Mar-13 00:20:18

I'm getting a bit old lady-ish myself with other people's babies...I've been known to cheerfully comment to mums with new babies in the supermarket "Ooh, what aisle did you get that on? How lovely!". I am an embarrassment.

WilsonFrickett Sun 03-Mar-13 01:25:11

DM still lives in my small, Scottish home town = used to get loads of coins in DS pram. I lived in the city = got nowt.

DM used to talk about giving the coins to me for DS bank but they never materialised spent on gin

kittythames Sun 03-Mar-13 05:37:00

YANBU that's lovely

MrsMushroom Sun 03-Mar-13 07:48:50

Hazel silver has had magical connotations for a long time in the UK...it's one of the things that kills vampires, it's what Romanies ask for when they tell your fortune (cross my palm) and it's obviously meant to ward off evil....I love the way ancient traditions and superstitions sometimes just won't go away.

MoleyMick Sun 03-Mar-13 08:11:35

That's just lovely smile they say your true nature comes out after a few wine so you are clearly a very very kind sweet person!

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