To wonder why any grown woman would want to wear a Pandora bracelet?

(346 Posts)
WellSlapMyThighAndCallMeNancy Fri 01-Mar-13 20:30:58

I loved that kind of thing when I was 5. The little beads, different colours and styles.

But they still look like childs jewellery when on an adult woman.

They cost a lot of money (in my world they cost a lot of money) but they look so cheap. Really tacky.

They're on par with the dingle dangle clowns. The only difference is its silver (or white gold?) and on the wrist.


MammaTJ Fri 01-Mar-13 20:32:06

Well, I suppose we are all entitled to our opinions!!


countrykitten Fri 01-Mar-13 20:33:40

On of these shops has just opened near us. It's bloody awful stuff isn't it? I am not sure who would wear it but it does seem to be tat. Having said that I am going solely on the window display as I have never actually been in to the shop.

countrykitten Fri 01-Mar-13 20:34:09

One not on.

expatinscotland Fri 01-Mar-13 20:34:58

They're not my thing, but others like them.

EvenBetter Fri 01-Mar-13 20:35:29

I've no idea, they're so expensive and you 'customise' them by choosing what look like identical beads to the hundreds of thousands of other wearers. They just seem like a present for a husband/whoever who has no other ideas for what to get.
I know some people like theirs but I don't get it. If you're into jewellery wouldn't something less mass produced be nicer?
But I don't get the appeal of anything in pop culture.

I have an antique charm bracelet. I don't really see how it is a million miles away. I'm not a fan of Pandora as such but horses for courses. Isn't all jewelry just sparkly crap when you really think about it?

BlackholesAndRevelations Fri 01-Mar-13 20:35:36

I love mine, as do all the grown-ups in my family. It's beautiful and each charm represents someone or something special. So, YABU.

Wishiwasanheiress Fri 01-Mar-13 20:35:37

No issue with pandora. It's the diamanté balls one I'm seeing feckin everywhere I hate as that looks really cheap but probs v expensive?!?

laluna Fri 01-Mar-13 20:35:39

Yabu - I think they are quite individual and I have a collection of very sentimental charms which mean much to me.

CloudsAndTrees Fri 01-Mar-13 20:37:19

Depending on the charms chosen, they can look a bit much, or they can look lovely. I think there always something nice about them though because most people have different charms with different meanings to them, and I'm a fan of meaningful jewellery!

BambieO Fri 01-Mar-13 20:38:06

wish the shamballa type ones? They are not a good look on anyone above the age of 15! YADNBU!

Pandora not so much, I don't like them but think they look quite nice on some people

I'm sure everyone has something others would consider tacky - so for that reason alone YABU.

One woman's jewellery choice is another woman's tat. I've seen plenty of vile engagement rings in my time, but I'd never call them tacky. Likewise furniture, shoes, clothes, handbags, ornaments, pictures.

I just figure people have different tastes.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Fri 01-Mar-13 20:41:26


Why does it bother you what other people chose to wear?

Not tacky at all, but that is my opinion. I like them, but I like most sparkly/shiny stuff (convinced I was a magpie in a former life wink)

It's just a modern take on a charm bracelet.

KatyTheCleaningLady Fri 01-Mar-13 20:41:35

I have my mum's charm bracelet and I wish they were still the thing because I'd like to be able to find charms more easily. I would love to get a charm on a special occasion to add to it, like my mum would get from my father.

Chottie Fri 01-Mar-13 20:42:33

Well, I have a Pandora bracelet with a couple of charms and beads that my DH bought me. The beads are all in aqua colours chosen to represent our favorite holiday place. Yep, it was expensive, but our money, our choice smile

Each to their own smile

MrsDeVere Fri 01-Mar-13 20:43:29

they are shiny and pretty
whats not to like?

Oh and I have a Pandora bracelet and the only charm on it is my DDs handprint set in solid silver. So it truly is unique and totally personal to me. I defy anyone to tell me my baby's handprint on a simple, plain silver bracelet is tacky.

FlouncingMintyy Fri 01-Mar-13 20:45:14

My thinking on Pandora bracelets is: I wish I had thought of that idea!

They are not for me and I don't actually know anyone who has one, but they don't annoy me or anything.

3monkeys3 Fri 01-Mar-13 20:45:18

I don't particularly like pandora bracelets but do have a Tiffany charm bracelet, which I love. Do you mean all charm bracelets? Because it's essentially the same thing packaged slightly differently. The charms on my bracelet each represent something big that has happened in my life - I love the idea of showing it to my dd when she is older and explaining what each charm means to me and for her to eventually inherit it. It can be a very personal piece of jewellery.

Weissdorn Fri 01-Mar-13 20:45:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

hiddenhome Fri 01-Mar-13 20:45:55

I haven't got one, but they look okay and I like looking at all the different charms in the shop when I pass by.

ArtVandelay Fri 01-Mar-13 20:46:15

EvenBetter - 'for husband's that have no ideas what to get' that's so true! My DH is under strict instructions - no more damned charms!

I don't wear mine because its a bit soppy and twee (sorry fans of Pandora) and it adds up to a lot of money now so I'm scared of losing it. It's the result of gifts from a few different people and I really can't get excited about it.

Is there a market for second hand ones?!

Bearbehind Fri 01-Mar-13 20:46:59

For the same reason some people have tattoos (except jewellery isn't permanent)- they like them!

Each to their own, no one is harmed by peope wearing them so YABU to try and impose your opinion on others.

MagzFarqharson Fri 01-Mar-13 20:47:45


Why are they so expensive? A collection goes round at work for someone's birthday and they get about 70 quid - with which they buy a 'charm' that looks like it's worth about a fiver off ebay.

But then again, if that's what they like, who are we to criticise? <returns to being all pleasant and moderate>

landofsoapandglory Fri 01-Mar-13 20:48:01

I'll tell you why I wear mine shall I?

My parents bought me the bracelet and one charm for my 40th birthday 2 years ago. It was a charm that related to a particular part of my childhood so was a bit sentimental really. Also, I have really skinny arms so my mother liked the fact she could buy them in a size to fit me.

Since then my 2 boys have bought me charms for my birthdays, Mother's Daynd Christmas, and DH has bought a couple when he has felt like it, eg he bought the flower bouquet one instead of a bouquet of flowers, both a similar price although I still have the charm but wouldn't have the flowers.

As all the charms have been chosen for me, they are special. My bracelet is mainly silver, I only have 4 coloured beads on mine and they are dark grey and black. My bracelet is unique, as are all Pandora bracelets. I don't expect everyone to like them but they aren't tacky.

McNo Fri 01-Mar-13 20:50:32

I was given my bracelet for a birthday and was given the pram charm when pregnant and the guardian angel charm when my daughter was born.

Each charm has been given to me and they all mean something to me so in my opinion YABU

scarletsalt Fri 01-Mar-13 20:52:12

The town in which I live is not exactly 'upmarket' in any way, shape or form, but there is a Pandora shop there that always seems to do a roaring trade, despite the fact that the beads are laughably expensive.

And the are just so unoriginal, why would you want to spend that much on something that is so ubiquitous? I think they are fugly, but obviously that bit is just my own personal opinion.

MrsDoomsPatterson Fri 01-Mar-13 20:54:12

I don't like silver/white gold so I don't particularly like 'em. I'm guessing the yellow gold version is £££££££s & £££££££s!

I think they are gross, & I am a magpie who loves sparkly tat.

HollyBerryBush Fri 01-Mar-13 20:58:16

I like to look at them but I dont want to own one, if that makes sense?

SomethingOnce Fri 01-Mar-13 20:59:01

An interesting view on Pandora that I found when Googling after a gift request from a family member.

I've never heard of these things! confused Are they just charm bracelets then?

Good link SomethingOnce

BegoniaBampot Fri 01-Mar-13 21:01:56

I think they are lovely if very popular these days, so nyer. And I have one.

countrykitten Fri 01-Mar-13 21:02:31

I don't like any kind of charm bracelets and didn't know that this is what Pandora are famed for. I just glanced in and thought it all looked a bit cheap. shock at £70 for a charm.

Great money making idea to market them as 'life event' presents for people who like that kind of thing though.

seeker Fri 01-Mar-13 21:03:50

They are for men with an imagination bypass to buy their wives.

buildingmycorestrength Fri 01-Mar-13 21:04:52

Like Moshi Monsters for ladies...start a collectable fad and you are minted!

<wanders off to start own multi-million collectables fad>

Bartlebee Fri 01-Mar-13 21:04:57

<tries not to be offended>

My dh bought me one years ago, when they were first around.

It was a nice thing to have as the dcs 'bought' me charms for it. I have only got vair nice charms, all silver with gold bits - no naff or whimsical ones. I really dislike the coloured beads.

There are so many cheap imitations that look just as cheap as they are.

If, I'm honest, I'm not that mad about it. But as it is now full of (expensive) charms, I feel a bit obliged to wear it. Dh added it to my jewellery insurance and I was slightly shock at how much it has all cost.

countrykitten Fri 01-Mar-13 21:06:33

SomethingOnce that article does not pull its punches does it? And they really are ugly.

DumSpiroSpero Fri 01-Mar-13 21:07:19

Oh dear, I have a rainbow coloured shambala bracelet and an el cheapo Pandora style bracelet.

I like colourful things, and purposely bought very inexpensive versions so I can faff about with them and don't feel obliged to wear them all the time. I personally wouldn't want a real Pandora bracelet as the cost would make me feel that I had to wear it constantly & tbh I'm not that keen on the silver charms.

Each to their own though.

BlackholesAndRevelations Fri 01-Mar-13 21:07:51

Mine is pretty and I love it oh and it's multicoloured so there. Again: each to their own.

Callofthefishwife Fri 01-Mar-13 21:09:53

I am not keen on them. They have become a bit of a craze and will go out of fashion really quickly as well. I would not class them as classic jewellery.

For the amount of money they cost they will be an old fashioned tacky accessory in 10 years time, probably going for next to nothing on ebay.

countrykitten Fri 01-Mar-13 21:09:57

But don't you Pandora wearers want to be a bit different from the herd?

seeker Fri 01-Mar-13 21:12:07

I remember buying Tomas Sabo charms for my nieces for significant birthdays and thinking that for the money I could have bought a beautiful piece of real antique jewellery, or a fantastic unique modern piece for them- not something that's the same as everyone else has.

DumSpiroSpero Fri 01-Mar-13 21:12:37

Mine's definitely different - £3.95 and 50p a bead from the local craft shop! grin

SomethingOnce Fri 01-Mar-13 21:13:02

I think the relentless consumerism aspect bothers me more than the aesthetics of the jewellery.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Fri 01-Mar-13 21:17:18

Couldn't give a flying one about being different.

I don't "do" fashion as such. I saw my friend's Pandora and thought 'ooo that's lovely' didn't know anything about them - price/popularity wise - and just asked for one for my birthday.

Have never understood the desire to be individual. I have always just been 'me' and sometimes 'me' likes stuff that other people do.

Meh each to their own, I prefer diamonds so only wear a few select small classic pieces (unfortunately can't afford the bracelet I like though, it's 5 grand!!!) Those big chunky bracelets would look ridiculous on my tiny wrists anyway.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Fri 01-Mar-13 21:22:50

I only have silver charms on mine, about 6, to me it is very tasteful and that's all wot matters

scottishmummy Fri 01-Mar-13 21:23:06

Not to my taste,trying too hard,mumsy types who have tutors for their kids

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Fri 01-Mar-13 21:24:22

,mumsy types who have tutors for their kids

That is sooo me (if you mean Aldi shopping, council house dwelling, comp attending, one parent family 'mumsy' types) wink

I like mine so bollocks. Plenty of things I think are tat but hey, your choice.

scottishmummy Fri 01-Mar-13 21:26:37

They're jewelry for the precious moments crew.each sparky jangly charm is pwecious
So precious and unique that every one else just like you has one

Viviennemary Fri 01-Mar-13 21:28:14

I agree. They are ridiculous. But sometimes they only need to say well this is the trend and everybody who's anybody has to have one of those. No matter how awful. And people just rush out and buy one.

NcNcNcNc Fri 01-Mar-13 21:29:42

I love mine grin

OP - Why do you care? confused

ll31 Fri 01-Mar-13 21:29:54

i think they're lovely, and happily dont feel need to mock other peoples taste

Retrofairy Fri 01-Mar-13 21:30:52

Agree, I do think Pandora is a triumph of marketing over imagination.

Its expensive for silver jewellery and its ubiquitous - don't get it, although do think someone somewhere is clever to have made a packet out of it as a brand!

OpheliaBumps Fri 01-Mar-13 21:32:04

I wear mine because it was a gift from my late, much missed sister. Everytime I wear it I think of how excted she was every time she bought me a new charm for it. Frankly I couldn't give a fuck if anyone else likes it or not, it means a lot to me.

And yes, the charms are 'pwecious', as they're a permanent reminder of my beloved sister.

I can't get over the cost of them. You could have something beautiful and unique made for the price of one charm. There is a shop in town and it's always busy, so they're clearly popular. I just don't 'get' it.

I like mine, which I have had for several years, and the DC love playing with it and pointing out the charms that they chose.

So Ner.

expatinscotland Fri 01-Mar-13 21:37:37

All this ire, towards a fucking bracelet.

For real?

Who gives a fuck why someone likes them?


PurpleBlossom Fri 01-Mar-13 21:42:09

I have one and like it. Have no idea how popular they are or who else wears/ doesn't wear them, I have never noticed or cared.

But have to say I'm a bit confused at people being so passionate in their hate for a little silver bracelet. Is it to show how 'cool' and 'individual' are hmm

ELR Fri 01-Mar-13 21:43:51

I don't like the silver ones but I have a grey leather double wrap pandora which I love I only have two charms and don't intend on getting any more. One is an owl my fave bird the other is a rose my nick name for DH. I also have a pandora ring which I love.

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 01-Mar-13 21:44:24

I personally wouldn't wear the bracelets but I have nothing against them,the main reason I wouldn't wear one is I was given a watch version as a gift from a friend with quite a few beads and wore it for several days but ended up with bruised wrists.

It looked a bit like I had been wearing handcuffs. The bracelets are very pretty but I also find them a bit samey (yep I know its not a real word but it describes what I mean) and due to the influx of copies it often seams like every second person you see has one, a bit like the fake LV luggage and I don't want to wear something that at least 7 people who live near me and nearly every person i work with are wearing I would rather have something a bit less mainstream.

But I wouldn't call them tacky and think its very rude for anyone to do so.

If I wanted one and if I found then comfy to wear then I would, I'm confident enough in myself to wear what I want when I want without having to pay attention to anybody who would describe something as tacky because to me that surgests they care rather more about what the jonese think of the, than is healthy and is quite telling in itself.

It is lovely hearing the stories attached to some of these charms and the pleasure people get from simple things.

I do have a troll bead necklace with a fairy on it This one

and I'm very fond of it my eldest daughter brought it for me with her very first pay check after she left education and I have exactly 8 beads on it and that's how it will stay. The first Christmas after she took her siblings shopping and let each one choose a bead for me,it was very thoughtful so I treasure it. And I have no concern about how grown up or tacky or silly anybody thinks it is.

Viviennemary Fri 01-Mar-13 21:45:57

I agree that if people like them they should have them. But it is annoying when somebody has made a fortune out of clever marketing. But I'm sure I've bought a lot of things in the past which were a waste of money. Think Furbies. And also things that I like and others don't.

MimikosPanda Fri 01-Mar-13 21:48:43

I have one, I was given it as a gift abroad before they became popular in the UK and used to get lots of compliments on how unusual it was before they were known here. I still love it, but wish they hadn't become such a craze. I like the look of them, though I personally only like the silver/gold beads, I don't like the coloured ones.
Mine means something to me because of who/why it was given.

Still18atheart Fri 01-Mar-13 21:50:25

YABU Ok I admit that some of the charms can be seen as being a bit 'tacky'but there are many more tasteful charms available. And if the wearer likes to wear some of the tackier charms what is the problem with that.

Tweasels Fri 01-Mar-13 21:50:26

I wonder why grown women give a fuck about what other women wear.

usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 21:53:38

I don't give a fuck about what you think OP.

I wonder why idiots start these threads. Do you feel all superior and oh so classy?

You ain't.

carameldecaflatte Fri 01-Mar-13 21:53:44

Each to their own. It's just a new take on the charm bracelet and like most things a personal choice. I have one and my dh has chosen each charm so it might not be individual but it is personal. He bought one for each of our babies, the one in my arms and the two we lost. I have some for "just because" and some for birthdays and christmas. I make jewellery myself (made our wedding rings) so I know they are overpriced but meh, I like it!

Why on earth do you care?

ConstantCraving Fri 01-Mar-13 21:55:50

YANBU - truly vile, but then i'm a bit of a snob grin.

I have one. I love it.

It's filled mostly with charms from DH and my Mum (plus a couple I bought) and they all represent something to me. And it's a way of me keeping all of those things close to me. Yes, I arguably could have had some jewellery made, or a non-mass produced item...but wearing a different piece of jewellery for each of those things would weigh me down somewhat, and I'd run out of digits/ears etc. grin

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 01-Mar-13 22:02:55

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usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 22:03:50

Why would you be proud to be a snob?

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 01-Mar-13 22:06:42

Usual, are you hiding in my wardrobe I swear I just said that out loud just before you posted it.

lowercase Fri 01-Mar-13 22:12:43

Some of my closest friends have these bracelets and are very cool females.

frillynat81 Fri 01-Mar-13 22:37:31

I love my Pandora bracelet! My sister bought it for me for my 30th birthday. I always get a charm for Christmas, Birthday etc. My DS has also given me a few as well. Mine are all pink and silver. I think it's very pretty.

I have also made charm bracelets myself for my mum, sister, aunt etc., all of whom loved them.

I think YABU.

SparkyDudess Fri 01-Mar-13 22:46:21

I like mine. I can live with them being commonplace - I'm not bothered what anyone else thinks, I think mines pretty and it makes me smile. I wear mine as a necklace, I'm sure that's even more heinous than wearing as a bracelet smile

MsVestibule Fri 01-Mar-13 22:55:15

Oh, FFS. Twigs in a vase, pebbles in a jar, waterfall cardigans, anything from Greggs, fruit shoots, Pandora bracelets, Ugg boots. Is there anything safe from the utterly ridiculous, braying, snobbery on MN?

Beaverfeaver Fri 01-Mar-13 22:59:22

I'm 27 and my friends all love them but they just seem so tacky to me.

I much prefer prices of jewellry that you won't see on everyone else walking down the street

Samu2 Fri 01-Mar-13 23:00:28

I love my shambala and pandora bracelet!

I like a bit of takiness at times smile

YANBU I mean each to their own, but they seem odd to me. Expensive & a bit glitzy. I hatthe idea of people spending inordinate amounts of cash on tiny bears that can look cheap.

sweetkitty Fri 01-Mar-13 23:02:07

I have a Pandora bracelet bought in place of an eternity ring, it has my four DCs birthstone charms in birth order. It's unique to me and I love it.

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:03:09

you make a good point OP

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:05:46


i can see what u mean, bur she has a point! its expensive stuff but looks cheap?

<see alot of pandora lovers, runs off>

How much are we talking?!

expatinscotland Fri 01-Mar-13 23:06:03

I have fake Shamballa ones. I love them! My DD1 had one. I got it for her when she liked mine.

I have a Sabo bracelet, too.

If I could afford it, I'd probably have a Pandora, too.

Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:06:47

and waterfall cardigans deserve all they get imo

ravenAK Fri 01-Mar-13 23:10:30

I rather like anything magpie-y, & admired a colleague's trollbeads bracelet, so I bought a cheap leather bracelet & picked up a few charms I thought were pretty.

I wore it a bit, then the bracelet snapped, & by this point I was slightly bored with the whole thing, so just gave the beads to dd1 (6) to play with.

Not for me, really: I liked my bracelet because it was cheap & pretty & fun - charms/beads just don't, to me, seem like the type of jewellery that should merit its own mention on an insurance policy, iyswim.

But my colleague still has her (much more pricey!) trollbeads bracelet, still wears it everyday, & still loves it.

Each to their own - as jewellery should be, surely.

Fakebook Fri 01-Mar-13 23:15:05

I hate them too. They're like glorified Argos catalogue tat because they have their own glass cabinets in a shop.

usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 23:16:31

You sound like a knob snob paris.

MsVestibule Fri 01-Mar-13 23:21:39

fromparistoberlin The OP is perfectly entitled to her opinion, but when I leave my house wearing my Uggs, waterfall cardigan, tunic and leggings, bag packed with Greggs snacks and a fruit shoot, having just dusted my twigs and pebbles, I don't feel quite as good as I would have done before I joined MN sad.

I just wish people would STFU about what they think looks cheap and tacky/plain wrong.

usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 23:26:16

You know what , Msvestibule You are my kind of person.

Fuck MN norms,

expatinscotland Fri 01-Mar-13 23:30:46

I love waterfall cardis, too.

coconutKitKatlover Fri 01-Mar-13 23:39:08

I love mine, i have the leather one and the leather necklace and some charms, all given to celebrate special occasions. I only wear 4 charms at most at a time. I don't find them that expensive (don't have any gold ones though). You only get them once or twice a year and it will last. So yes YABVU!

MsVestibule Fri 01-Mar-13 23:41:24

Thank you, Usual. Henceforth, I will do my best to quell my inner teenager and not give a flying fuck about what the sneerers think about my choice of clothing/decor/jewellery.

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:42:26

usual, been on the stella?

msvedst, you are taking this waaaaay too personally. for you all you know OP is wearing the same as you! I am wearing leggings and a primark nighty FFS. I never see posts saying what you say, so dont feel insecure about ...this? seriously its NOT worth it, please

usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 23:45:53

Smirnoff actually,

But carry on Paris. Sneer at everyone. Makes you feel better does it?

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:50:41

sneer? I agreed with OP, made one snide remark vis a vis waterfalls (I dont think they flatter women, I am entitled to an opinion) then told msvedst to not let it bother her, which I meant

anyway, you clearly REALLY WANT to be offended and angry, be my guest

you are the one bandying personal insults around usual, not me

usualsuspect Fri 01-Mar-13 23:53:10

The OP was a knob too.

fromparistoberlin Fri 01-Mar-13 23:57:45

i have a fucking VASE OF TWIGS behind me . right now. they are there

usualsuspect Sat 02-Mar-13 00:00:12

I have fairy lights on my vase of twigs .

Judge that you fuckers,

Startail Sat 02-Mar-13 00:05:21

What is wrong with hanging on to our youth and cherishing memories.

I don't have a Pandora bracelet (bracelets drive me dotty), but I still carry on my teenage habit of acquiring and wearing long slightly hippy earrings.

Presents from parents, relatives no longer with us, DH, DSIS and the DDs. Mementoes from various holidays. I doubt I have a single pair that cost £70 most probably nearer £10-15.

Not stylish or fashionable, but part of who I am so OP piss off with your Judgy pants.

VeetorWax Sat 02-Mar-13 00:06:26

I have a Pandora bracelet and I like it but don't love it. MIL bought the first bits for me so feel I should like it. I then bought one for a friend and we have matching charms to represent the fac that we were each other's bridesmaids / maid of honour. I also have ones which my DCs and DH chose for me to wear. I think it's a nice sentiment and don't think it's tacky. It's not De Beers but it does go well with my Tiffany, Mikimoto and Cartier jewellery at particular informal occasions. I think those who have mentioned tacky might be in the jealousy camp as they are unecssssrily pricey. Don't sneer, just ignore if you don't have one; it's not important in the grand scheme of things.

fromparistoberlin Sat 02-Mar-13 00:11:42

in answer to your question, VEET

VeetorWax Sat 02-Mar-13 00:16:29

Thanks - no l

VeetorWax Sat 02-Mar-13 00:16:47

Oops - no longer a dilemma!!

fromparistoberlin Sat 02-Mar-13 00:20:33

good good

you are hair free and usual is hopefully having a little calming deep breathe looking at her pretty shiny twigs

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 02-Mar-13 00:26:12

Wtf is a waterfall cardigan

ripsishere Sat 02-Mar-13 00:28:11

I've seen them for sale, I assume the ones I was looking at in China town were fakes (around a tenner).
I think I'd like one, but since I can't decide whether I like them enough to actually wear one, I don't think I'll bother.
<sits firmly on the fence>

fromparistoberlin Sat 02-Mar-13 00:32:37
TheSeniorWrangler Sat 02-Mar-13 00:45:44

i love my troll bead bracelets, and i also love my black waterfall cardigan, so there.

Still18atheart Sat 02-Mar-13 00:54:28

Since getting a pandora bracelet it means that people who are stumped about getting me something for birthday or chrostmas can contribute towards a charm or buy one for me. I find that more personal than the gift voucher and they arent that much more expensive.

Also, how can anything be tacky which when purchased you get some chocolates in the bag and the bag is proper bag tand the boxes which they cpme in are nice too.

lopsided Sat 02-Mar-13 00:58:56

Op that looks comfy smile

I don't have any of the above, mainly because I'm somewhat behind the times. I don't know what a shambala bracelet is. Think Pandora's are quite pretty though.

Also have no twigs or stones. I'd love to be together enough to have any scheme/theme for home decor. When I get round to it I think I would like stones.


IneedAsockamnesty Sat 02-Mar-13 01:20:57

Well I am now enlightened about cardigans but they don't look very practical

LayMizzRarb Sat 02-Mar-13 01:22:14

Each to their own, but I find it fairly amusing that posters who want to bitch about others tastes (pandora, tattooes, dummies, earrings, hot tubs etc ) have a compulsion to become very nasty, and vitriolic in order to validate their own opinions.
Fair enough, you don't like something, say it. Do you have to climb on your horse and sneer and judge in order to express your personal taste?

Hey - what do I know? I have a bracelet with a couple of troll beads on. And what's more I wear them in my hot tub, I once wore them whilst shopping for fruit shoots in Asda. Shoot me.

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 01:26:09

I personally think they look so bloody gaudy! My friend has one, I know how much they cost. But I can't see how they are the price they are when they look (IME) so cheap shock
I have nothing against the people who wear them, I just don't share the same taste.
My Mum bought me one of those Tiffanys necklace things with the clunky heart and weird clasp things where you poke the stick throught the hole. For my next birthday she got me the matching bracelet. My mum is into her blingy, branded stuff, she thought i'd love them. I thought they were hideous!I have ebayed them and put the money towards a bracelet that I actually love.
The Pandora things to me are like the Links bracelets. Popular charm bracelets. I don't like them myself, but don't care that other people do. Its not something I would get worked up over!

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 01:27:19

I also have no idea what a shambala bracelet is!!

Gauri Sat 02-Mar-13 01:30:00

You are not only being unreasonable but a tad silly. smile

Each to their own I suppose.

Seriously can't believe people are that offended by some posters saying they don't like Pandora bracelets. I don't like them, am pretty sure there are many things I do like that plenty of mners wouldn't. I couldn't give a fuck. I like what I like, and am confident enough in my choices to not give a shit if others like them too. Certainly wouldn't be offended by others disliking my style choices. I know my taste is fabulous!

Pandora bracelets...what a funny thing to get shitty about!

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 01:36:55

Another thing, I have no idea what a 'waterfall' cardi is!?

ClippedPhoenix Sat 02-Mar-13 01:54:40

I dont wear one but i think they are very pretty. So what on earth is wrong with wearing one.

Personally I like a one thing. I will never "add" to it. I'd want it all on one.

Apart from that there isnt anything wrong with it really.

Tortington Sat 02-Mar-13 01:55:05

here waterfall cardi

Tortington Sat 02-Mar-13 01:57:16

dh got me one about 3 years ago. it was an apology becuase he had been an utter cunt.

i've never worn it becuase i thought the sentiment in which it was bought was shitty.

you can get knocks offs for a fiver on the market. I think when they were new - and a fad they were ok.

now they are everywhere - like waterfall cardis ( also awful)

Skyebluesapphire Sat 02-Mar-13 02:00:31

My DD 4yo went shopping with my mum before Christmas and bought me a bracelet and 8 beads that she chose herself. (Not Pandora, but at a local shop)

That bracelet is precious to me as my DD chose racy bead herself because she liked them.

MechanicalTheatre Sat 02-Mar-13 02:11:21

I really don't get why they're so expensive. No problem with people liking them, but I don't get why they would spend £50 on something that you could get for £3 somewhere else.

I love cheap and cheerful stuff, no way would I spend that money on a bracelet.

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 07:16:04

I quite like that cardi custardo!!

flowery Sat 02-Mar-13 07:45:53

This is the type of thread that I really don't like about MN.

Why do people feel the need to spend so much time mocking other people's taste and choices in life?

Do people feel very insecure about their own choices and do it to validate them/make themselves feel better/superior?

I don't have one of these bracelets and don't particularly have an opinion on them either way.

But I hate the thought that anyone reading MN might feel uncomfortable about their jewellery/clothes/home decor/baby names because they'd seen them villified on here.

Clearly many people love their bracelets and why on earth should they be mocked for that and be made to feel they must defend them?

Hear hear flowery. Absolutely no need for some of the nasty comments here except to make others feel small.

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 07:56:31

flowery I don't think anyone does feel uncomfortable about it. Most people that have said they have them have said they loved them for one reason or another and I doubt they'd give anyone else's opinion a second thought. I certainly don't give a flying Fuck what anyone thinks about any of my choices in shoes, bags, whatever, even though I know things I like might not be things that everyone else likes.

I dunno, I think some read too much into these threads.

Fakebook Sat 02-Mar-13 08:02:25

Waterfall cardigans are good for covering frontal flubber. I wore one during pregnancy and still do sometimes. What's wrong with them?

flowery Sat 02-Mar-13 08:02:37

bedmonster you have the right attitude but I don't think everyone is so robust and confident. Lots of people worry about what other people think of them.

See MsVestibule's comment earlier: "The OP is perfectly entitled to her opinion, but when I leave my house wearing my Uggs, waterfall cardigan, tunic and leggings, bag packed with Greggs snacks and a fruit shoot, having just dusted my twigs and pebbles, I don't feel quite as good as I would have done before I joined MN sad "

I think there are probably lots more reading rather than posting who feel the same way.

LtEveDallas Sat 02-Mar-13 08:05:29

Meh, what a load of fuss and sneering. I have a pandora style bracelet watch that DH bought me for my birthday a couple of years ago. I have charms that are DD and DH initials, one covered in paw prints for MuttDog and a dog collar for RottDog. A love heart from DH, DDs birthstone, my birthstone, a giraffe (my fave animal) and a fairy from DSD (she was our wedding fairy). All charms that mean something to me, have a story and make me smile when I wear it. I think the appeal is the individuality - it is highly unlikely that anyone else will have the same combination of charms as you.

I have just inherited my mums 1970s charm bracelet - I'll never wear it as it is big and heavy (and expensive) but I know the story behind each and every charm, including the one that my now dead brother teethed on sad and the story behind the bikini clad lady inside a video camera smile. I love the 'noise' it makes that reminds me of every Saturday night when I was a child.

Charm bracelets (no matter the manufacturer) can mean a lot to the wearer so sneering at them is rather tacky in itself.

cantpooinpeace Sat 02-Mar-13 08:08:10

Not a fan of them, every man & his dog has one. Usually the type of women who also tick the 'centre parks' break box wink.

And there we are, another one. Two birds with one stone eh cantpoo?

seeker Sat 02-Mar-13 08:34:12

I get cross about them because I hate seeing people being ripped off by marketing departments........

You can say that about anything though. Everything we buy, watch, eat, do, all marketing.

seeker Sat 02-Mar-13 08:45:17

Absolutely. I rant about that too. But when people are being sold mass produced 7 quid beds for £70 because they are "unique" and special, then my hackles rise particularly.

seeker Sat 02-Mar-13 08:45:43

Beads, obviously

Inertia Sat 02-Mar-13 08:49:27

MiL has one. She likes it because it was bought by her children, and they and the grandchildren can add charms to it. The children enjoy choosing a charm for her when it's her birthday .

I don't want one myself - not really a wearer of bracelets, they get in the way. And if someone wants to buy me a present I would rather have a book or cd or something I know I'll wear.

GirlOutNumbered Sat 02-Mar-13 08:50:22

Yet again MN excels itself with a good old bitchy, judgemental thread.

Imaginethat Sat 02-Mar-13 08:54:04

I'm with you OP. the owners flaunt them so proud of how much the charms cost and all I can think is omg you fool

Imaginethat Sat 02-Mar-13 08:55:05

But then I feel the same way about awful hair extensions, tattoos and tarty shoes.

theodorakisses Sat 02-Mar-13 09:07:04

I can't understand what the problem is. As long as you don't go the whole hog and have eyelashes over your twee girlymobile's headlights and pink fluffy dice, if you like them, what the hell?
Not so keen on the Tiffany silver stuff though, you can either afford Tiffany or you can't, a bit like Burberry.

Roopoo Sat 02-Mar-13 09:07:40

I have one which I love but am feeling a bit hmmafter this thread
I also wear waterfall cardi's and fake ugg boots.......and have been known to eat Greggs..


Birthdaychocolate Sat 02-Mar-13 09:10:13

Yabu, but never actually seen anyone wearing one, maybe just haven't noticed.

theodorakisses Sat 02-Mar-13 09:10:22

I do agree that ANY gift has sentimental value and I wish I could delete my previous post, the nature of Pandora means, I guess that people who really love you add to the charms over the years. Most people don't live forever and I am sorry that i have probably dissed all sorts of reallly precious things. I am not in a position to judge what means what to who. Sorry.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 02-Mar-13 09:10:33

Not my taste. Over-priced, bandwagon stuff that people rush, en masse, to buy into.

I guess it's more that there are a zillion and one different jewellers out there, making a myriad different styles for every taste and then some under the sun... And yet people are rushing to buy the same old mass-produced, unimaginative stuff as everyone else. I think it will definitely date.

Each to their own though, it would undeed be a boring place if we all liked the same thing. No irony intended. wink

binger Sat 02-Mar-13 09:13:04

I love mine, goes beautifully with my 5 tattoos and piercing.

theodorakisses Sat 02-Mar-13 09:13:59

Fake Uggs wear better than the real ones in my experience.

Each to their own!

As friend bought me a wee charm bracelet for my 30th birthday and for that reason it's very special. It wasn't expensive nor did it need to be.

If everyone has the same taste imagine how boring life would be!

I do think that these sorts of threads are ill concealed sneering tho...(hides lol)

landofsoapandglory Sat 02-Mar-13 10:01:54

Why are harping on about them being expensive? The charms start at about £15 and the beads start at £30, which aren't that expensive when they are mainly being bought as presents IMO!

MidnightMasquerader Sat 02-Mar-13 10:16:19

One single bead for 30 quid is a pretty crap present though, isn't it? confused When you consider what else you can get for £30...?

landofsoapandglory Sat 02-Mar-13 10:20:46

I don't think so Midnight, TBH.

seeker Sat 02-Mar-13 10:22:22

And there aren't many for 30 quid

[bitter experience emoticon]

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sat 02-Mar-13 10:24:18

Agree florwery, and that's just what the OP intended. It says a great deal about her. Sad really but there it is.

carbalanche Sat 02-Mar-13 10:44:32

They are not to my taste but I feel it must be hard for people who have attached great sentimental value to the individual charms (present from a husband, present from a child, reminder of a birth etc.) to hear them being slated so much.

However, I do feel uneasy that people are investing such meaning into something so cravenly commercial. They are over-priced and once you have bought your "gateway" bracelet then you are destined for YEARS of Pandora charms as presents. It's a brilliant idea from a business point of view.

I personally love the friendship bracelet woven from 2 strands of nylon wool that my DD gave me for my birthday and wear that with pride. I haven't lined the coffers of some huge corporate beast with my sentimentality on this occasion! I'll admit to the sentimentality though but couldn't care less if it didn't meet with the approval of an anonymous poster on a parenting forum grin

I get beads from all over the place. I have my eye on a Cornish tin one which I shall purchase when I'm down there in the spring. A Pandora bracelet doesn't mean you're tied to Pandora beads. I have those too and they're lovely, so knickers to the nay sayers.

flowery Sat 02-Mar-13 11:15:36


Care to respond?

landofsoapandglory Sat 02-Mar-13 11:18:02

*And there aren't many for 30 quid

[bitter experience emoticon]*

On the John Greed website, they have 86 glass beads and 70 are £30, 1 is £25!

GirlOutNumbered Sat 02-Mar-13 11:31:24

My mum bought one for me after the birth of our first son, since then i have had another son, a new house and got married. Each bead represents each one of those events.

Whilst I would not have chosen them myself, it does hold sentimental value and it really sucks reading crap like this. Should I just throw them away now?

MechanicalTheatre Sat 02-Mar-13 11:33:21

I think people are taking this way too personally. It's just stuff.

MechanicalTheatre Sat 02-Mar-13 11:34:28

I agree with carablanche. Why place all this emotional investment on a thing?

DoTheStrand Sat 02-Mar-13 11:36:34

I'm not a fan of them, but that's because I am not remotely sentimental and they just seem very expensive for what they are. (that's not a criticism by the way, I often wish I were more sentimental about things like that, it must be nice to look at a piece of jewellery or a picture and think about someone but I just don't. I have only just started an art box for DS1's ropey beautiful pictures after much shock and horror from friends that i didn't have one and he is 3.5). When I first saw pandora beads I thought they were just pretty bead bracelets and I couldn't believe when I saw the price of individual beads.

I don't think this thread has been particularly bad compared to some of the ones I've seen on here, but I do think people get a lot more upset on MN when it is their loved one's taste (particularly DC)  potentially being criticised than their own. I doubt anyone who bought their own bracelet and beads simply because they liked them would care.

At least pandora beads are being criticised for being too expensive - I have had people look askance at my diamond engagement ring for being too cheap grin

I don't like them myself, but then I'm pretty sure I wear plenty of things others don't like and can't imagine why I would spend that amount of money on (wedge trainers, anyone?)

As far as I'm aware Pandora bracelets aren't made by children in sweatshops or funding a drug cartel, so live and let live, I say.

Why place all this emotional investment on a thing?

Human nature, are you really that naive?

Mummabubbles Sat 02-Mar-13 11:41:21

Another one here who is sentimentally attached to my pandora bracelet. As others have said each bead represents something/someone special and means a lot to me.
People who don't like them don't have to wear them, people who do like them wear them with pride!
Everyone's different......

Flisspaps Sat 02-Mar-13 11:44:38

Personally I much prefer a proper old fashioned silver charm bracelet rather than a bead-charm bracelet.

MechanicalTheatre Sat 02-Mar-13 12:00:10

Wow, Gwendoline. I don't think my comment was worthy of that level of scathing.

I have no emotional attachment to anything. Stuff is stuff, is it really human nature to attach emotional meanings to things? I'm not sure it is.

flowery Sat 02-Mar-13 12:00:21

We all have opinions about things, that's natural. There are things other people wear that are not to my taste, and I'm sure many would think the same about me. Lots of people would probably think my jewellery is very boring.

Holding a private opinion is one thing, but starting a thread to basically laugh and point is using the anonymity of the Internet to behave in a way that most people would not dream of doing in real life.

MrsDeVere Sat 02-Mar-13 12:02:28

I have one. I got the bracelet for my 40th and I buy a charm for DD on her birthday, anniversary, valentines etc. I used to hate not being able to buy her a birthday present. Now I can feel like I am getting her something nice.
But its getting fuller and fuller and that makes me sad because it means its been so long since I saw her.

Its been quite hard to find nice silver charms but its getting much easier.

Charm bracelets are beautiful because they mean so much. I suppose that is why I prefer the old style ones. They are firmly working class too smile.
All the 'old' ladies had gold ones when I was a kid (they were probably only 40+).
If they were widows they wore black acrylic cardis. The bracelets were always gold though. It would go to their daughter when they died or be used to pay for the funeral.

The charms came in handy for pawning if you were short during the week too.

<ramble, ramble> blush

MrsDeVere Sat 02-Mar-13 12:03:00

I meant to say that I have an old style silver one.

bedmonster Sat 02-Mar-13 12:05:48

Should I just throw them away now?
Well GirlOutnumbered, yes, if you don't like it, throw it out. If you do like it, wear it. Not sure where your dilemma is? A bunch of strangers you don't know happen not to like a particular piece of jewellery. So based on that, you'd throw yours away? No. Of course not. This is where common sense comes into play and people use their own minds to decide what is and isn't to their own personal taste.

MousyMouse Sat 02-Mar-13 12:12:16

I have a bracelet. but can't bring myself to open 'pandora's box' hmm
mil gives me charms at every occasion. I like them. and would wear them if I could get that darn box open

80sMum Sat 02-Mar-13 12:12:56

I had never heard of Pandora bracelets, so just googled it.
They do look quite like children's jewellery, I agree, in that they are pretty, sparkly and unsophisticated. But I rather like them and think they would look nice on a young person. Would probably look a bit silly on me though (I'm about 30 years too old, I think!).

MrsKoala Sat 02-Mar-13 12:20:01

Personally i think they look cheap and childish. But i also wonder why adult women do lots of things; read Harry Potter, love Disney, baby voices, talk non stop about diets and point systems, think they are 'nawty' for eating cake etc. So i feel i am in the minority most of the time.

Sorry MechanicalTheatre you're right, that was unnecessarily harsh I agree. blush

fatlazymummy Sat 02-Mar-13 12:23:32

Seriously,OP, have a word with yourself. Is anyone actually pinning you down and forcing a pandora bracelet on your wrist?
I don't wear any jewellery at all. Plenty of other people do, and if it makes them happy then I'm happy for them.

Kewcumber Sat 02-Mar-13 12:30:49

but this is jewellery. its like fashion, you choose what you like and yes very very often people are swayed by what is currently popular. How does anyone have a thick enough head skin to pronounce definitively that something is tacky or girly or crap?

As for waterfall cardigans don't suit "women". why bother making different styles in clothes when it seems you can just buy something generically that suits your sex?

Kewcumber Sat 02-Mar-13 12:32:06

but then I loved harry potter so my opinion can be discounted.

Mimishimi Sat 02-Mar-13 13:17:17

I wear a charm bracelet but not Pandora. Their charms are boring and have no meaning for me. Most of my charms have been given to me and often made by the person who has given it.

fluckered Sat 02-Mar-13 13:20:29

i hate them as they are too chunky and noisy while typing all day! there are so many cheap knock offs that they all look tacky to me at this stage.

everlong Sat 02-Mar-13 13:24:11

I've got one somewhere
I liked them for a while when they first came out then it got on my nerves.

expatinscotland Sat 02-Mar-13 13:24:34

Anyone have one they want to flog at a reasonable price? grin

valiumredhead Sat 02-Mar-13 13:25:23

they are shiny and pretty
whats not to like?


LadyWidmerpool Sat 02-Mar-13 13:26:34

Let's see your jewellery collection then, we'll see if everyone likes everything in it.

BegoniaBampot Sat 02-Mar-13 13:29:05

Hands off Expatinscotland! Might be gaudy, common and overpriced but it's all mine! You can have an old waterfall cardy though, got loads of those.

BegoniaBampot Sat 02-Mar-13 13:30:05

Do people really think they are ugly, I think they are rather gorgeous!

MsElisaDay Sat 02-Mar-13 13:42:33

I think they're tacky, ugly and overpriced- but then, nobody's forcing me to wear one, and I don't care if others choose to wear them either (though I can't help thinking they may as well save themselves a few quid and get something equally naff from Claire's Accessories).

What I don't get, though, is how people can claim they have a sentimental attachment to something so mass-produced. Personally, I couldn't have a shiny bead on my arm to "represent" my son, my husband, the child I lost, anything so personal.
These things, for me, are best remembered with memories, both happy and sad. Or photographs - something individual, not something that everyone else has and will be out of fashion in a year or so.

Still, each to their own. There are worse things people could be wasting their money on.

valiumredhead Sat 02-Mar-13 13:44:10

I agree they are massively over priced.

happydotcom Sat 02-Mar-13 13:46:28

Each to their own. I adore mine smile

Viviennemary Sat 02-Mar-13 13:50:03

I think they're are a bit tacky looking and massively overpriced. And I don't think anybody will be seen wearing one in a few years when they're out of fashion. But saying that each to their own. I had a bit of spare money and wanted to buy DD a Edwardian gold bangle I saw. I thought she'd love it. But no she didn't like it very much tbh. I was really disappointed so didn't buy it.

MrsKoala Sat 02-Mar-13 14:01:35

i agree each to their own (i also agreehowever, with the poster above about not understanding how something like this can symbolise something so meaningful). I adore the Alex Monroe jewelry - but some people think it looks like insects crawling in your ears smile

My sister is covered head to toe in swarofsky (sp?) glitter balls which i think look awful.

fatlazymummy Sat 02-Mar-13 14:01:43

I see waterfall cardies have also come in for judging. In a few weeks time it'll be summer, then no doubt the OP can start the annual Mumsnet 'why do so many women wear maxi dresses. Don't they realise how crap they look' thread.

EasilyBored Sat 02-Mar-13 14:05:01

I love mine, each charm was bought to mark a special occasion or event, and it's personal to me. It's also not sparkly really as it's a leather bracelet and the charms are quite muted colours.

Eh, if you think it's tacky that's fine, on sure I like lots of things others don't and you like lots of things I don't. Would be a bit dull otherwise. And waterfall cardis are comfy.

FlouncingMintyy Sat 02-Mar-13 14:05:25

Its interesting that so many posters on this thread cannot bring themselves to just say "they are not for me". Instead they have to judge people who do have them, pour scorn on their choices, describe them as "vile and tacky" in a totally ott way ... which they will know will be deeply hurtful to some of the people who have Pandora bracelets and cherish them.

Why would you do that?? You definitely wouldn't do it to someone's face. Some of the comments on this thread prove beyond doubt that certain posters on aibu simply are not in possession of basic manners and intelligence.

FlorenceMattell Sat 02-Mar-13 14:10:51

Hi I have a SilveRado one,much better quality imo and not so expensive. The glass beads come in better colours too. I do think with Pandora you are paying for the name and not quality. OP we all have different tastes. I like the fact that with a charm bracelet you can change the beads and get a different effect each time.

You see, this

though I can't help thinking they may as well save themselves a few quid and get something equally naff from Claire's Accessories).

is the kind of comment that really pisses me off. You said you don't like them, fine. But is there really a need to be so bitchy other than to make yourself feel superior?

FlouncingMintyy Sat 02-Mar-13 14:14:33

Yes, that's exactly the sort of childish comment I was referring to Gwendy.

everlong Sat 02-Mar-13 14:16:29

Pandora bracelets, tattoos, certain children's names. All bring out the best twat in people wink

NoelHeadbands Sat 02-Mar-13 14:24:50

I think people who genuinely don't 'get' why people might like differen things or be able to cherish items (even shock-horror- mass produced ones) must be, well, a bit thick

Do they walk around with a permanent look of bafflement on their faces, scratching their heads and pointing at cars and machinery and shoes saying "ug"?

sydlexic Sat 02-Mar-13 14:27:10

I have just purchased a Cambridge satchel, like a child's school bag. Maybe I like it because it reminds me of being a little girl. Not that keen on Pandora bracelets or tattoos for that matter. But I like to see different styles and tastes, to each their own.

Imagine a world where we all dressed the same, wore the same jewellery, drove the same car (not a German one). Had the same colour skin. I can just imagine them in droves walking into the same shop to buy their daily mail.

expatinscotland Sat 02-Mar-13 14:27:24

I'm serious! Several people on here say they have one and don't wear it/use it, maybe they want to sell?

BegoniaBampot Sat 02-Mar-13 14:33:48

I have one, have hardly worn it. Might be willing to part. Bracelet that is, not my cardy.

everlong Sat 02-Mar-13 14:35:54

I think folk will be reluctant to sell expat as the charms are often significant and sentimental, even like me who doesn't wear it anymore.

You could try eBay smile

expatinscotland Sat 02-Mar-13 14:39:37

I'd never buy jewellery off Ebay, ever.

everlong Sat 02-Mar-13 14:42:17

Prob a good idea not to.

flowery Sat 02-Mar-13 14:42:46

Why not expat? Would you be worried about it being fake?

I ask because I sold some Tiffany stuff on there recently and I did wonder about that.

LayMizzRarb Sat 02-Mar-13 14:56:07

There are many things I would not want to own, and many styles I would not want to copy, but I don't feel the need to be downright mean and bitchy if someone does not share my opinion.
Would you really say to someone in real life, that you think their bracelet looks gaudy, nasty, tacky or any of the other charming superlatives that have been used on this thread?
Is this really how a lot of you are setting an example to tomorrow's adults, being sneery and judgy about others in order to feel better about yourselves? Lord help the society of tomorrow.

Discretion is the better part of valour....

MsElisaDay Sat 02-Mar-13 14:56:37

Sydlexhic- when you say "imagine a world where we all wore the same jewellery..." etc, I completely agree with you. But this is why I, personally, don't like Pandora jewellery.
Everybody nowadays seems to have it, and it's all much the same.

There's nothing wrong with following the crowd, per se. I'm wearing a pair of Topshop Baxter jeans right now, as I suspect about eight zillion other Mumsnetters are.

But then I don't ascribe emotional significance to my jeans as I do to my jewellery. I'd rather my "special" jewellery- not my everyday Accessorize earrings- was more personal.

JakeBullet Sat 02-Mar-13 15:04:13

I don't own a Pandora bracelet but woild love one....if only to create a bracelet that was personal to me.

Given the price of them and the charms though its never going to happen. grin

poorbuthappy Sat 02-Mar-13 15:07:39

I would love to know where we can get something unique made for the same price as a charm!!!

Well I've gone to put mine on to go out and I can't find it, along with my watch and eternity ring so there you are. One less of the ugly things to offend you.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 02-Mar-13 15:49:13

my name is step and I love waterfall cardis too.
pandora bracelets are not for me but really they are just a modern take on the charm bracelet I had as a child and that my mum has, I love the fact that they / it can be personalised and added to over time and that it can mean something special to the wearer. DS bought his GF one but I refused to pay the price for a pandora charm and got her a couple of lovely sparkly ones from amazon for xmas that she loved. In years to come she will say my DP's mum got me these and and have a fond i hope memory of me. what a boring world it would be if we all liked everything the same and actually although similar because of the style no bracelet will be the same just as old style charm bracelets were never the same.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 02-Mar-13 15:51:33

oh GwendolineMaryLacey have you been burglarized or just mislaid them? shock

HarrySnotter Sat 02-Mar-13 16:40:55

Blimey I had no idea that other people's choice of bracelet, of all things, could demand such a bitchfest! I don't mind them they can look quite pretty but if someone wears something that has special meaning to them, whatever it is, I think that's really lovely. Doesn't matter what it is I don't see why anyone would have such strong feelings over someone else liking something different to them really. I find that a bit odd.

Mislaid but have turned the house upside down sad

freddiefrog Sat 02-Mar-13 16:50:27

They're not my cup of tea, but each to their own.

I can't say I've ever given other people's jewellery choices much thought, or even really noticed something around a random woman's wrist

I have a charm bracelet that my DH gave me on our wedding day, over the years he's given me other charms that are significant to us - my girls' handprints, etc. I've never given what other people think of it a second thought

MrsDeVere Sat 02-Mar-13 20:14:06

I have lots of waterfall cardis and I am well known for being ultra stylish.
So there you go nervous laydeeees.
MrDeVere says they are ok, you may wear them without fear.

You are welcome grin

valiumredhead Sat 02-Mar-13 20:15:34

Nothing wrong with a good flattering waterfall card - a badly shaped on looks hideous and too boxy but a good one is flattering.

People do talk utter nonsense on MN sometimes!

nkf Sat 02-Mar-13 20:19:21

They're just charm bracelets aren't they? Clever bit of marketing because, as many people have pointed out, they are quite pricey for what they are.

AvonCallingBarksdale Sat 02-Mar-13 20:21:30

Jeepers, I don't know what a Pandora bracelet is or a waterfall cardi!! Off to google now!

nkf Sat 02-Mar-13 20:25:22

What is the anti waterfall cardigan stance based on?

I don't own a pandora bracelet (mainly because I know if dh bought one it would be a 'sorry for being a twat' gift and he is a cheapskate) but I am really astonished by the people being so snarky about ascribing an emotional attachment to jewellery.

Surely that is what it's for. I wear my godmother's wedding ring and engagement ring every day not because they are valuable but because they remind me of her and every time I look down I remember her.

I have a silver charm bracelet old stylee that I don't wear, but my dd loves it, and I am planning to give it to her for her 10th birthday. Stuff has emotional connections for me: my grans tea set, a vase from my other gran, a locket that belonged to my great great gran.

If you choose to have charms that remind you of events or people that are important to you then lovely. Live and let live.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 02-Mar-13 20:59:45

I guess it's because it seems, um <chooses word carefully> contrived, to have a sentimental attachment to something that's mass produced, and that everyone else has.

It makes sense to be sentimentally attached to personal pieces of jewellery, God knows I am.

It's like the person up-thread who said - in defence of them, ironically - 'imagine a world where we all dressed the same, wore the same jewellery, drove the same car (not a German one). Had the same colour skin. I can just imagine them in droves walking into the same shop to buy their daily mail'.

Well, this is what's going on when everyone's buying into the same fad...

I feel bad that people feel bad as a result of this thread. That's the problem with discussion forums - people feel able to ask questions and talk about things they'd never raise in real life - and of course, the diversity of opinion is far greater than your normal circle of friends! It doesn't matter if random people don't like them; if you do, then so what?

But how many people can afford something entirely bespoke? Why is it only allowable to love a piece of jewellery if hardly anyone else has it?

Ffs, where are these personal bits of jewellery? Almost everybody walks into a jewellers and buys something that is mass produced. Such snobbery is laughable.

nkf Sat 02-Mar-13 21:13:09

Just googled them. They are very expensive. One was nearly £700 for something in silver.

nkf Sat 02-Mar-13 21:14:05

Brilliant marketing though. A range of expensive trinkets that people feel are personalised and special.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 02-Mar-13 21:19:42

Genius marketing.

<meh> Bespoke doesn't have to mean expensive, in the slightest.

ConstantCraving Sat 02-Mar-13 21:21:13

I'm back ,still being a snob about this grin - and the grin means don't take this thread so seriously!! It's AIBU on mumsnet - not life or death. OP reasonably wonders why so many people love expensive, mass produced tat -cue the lovers of said tat clutching their pandora's in horror as they realise they've been had.

shallweshop Sat 02-Mar-13 21:22:37

I love mine -the charms I have chosen are very personal to me. YABU - just because you don't like them doesn't mean they are childish and tacky.

nkf Sat 02-Mar-13 21:25:48

Bespoke is a bit much for many people. I couldn't design a piece of jewellery. I wouldn't know where to start. And I'd lose interest half way through. But Pandora is a bit too ubiquitous for me. And it does have a slightly of the moment feel. But I don't think they are ugly - apart from the horrid little bears.

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 02-Mar-13 21:47:22

For the record, I happen to be really rather fond of tarty shoes.

So put tat in your pipe and smoke it grin

GirlOutNumbered Sat 02-Mar-13 21:47:52

I have no idea how much they are, my mm bought mine for me. They are cute though and in ten years time they will still be cute. It's not like I have them for an investment or anything. Most of the jewellery I own, except my wedding and engagement rings, are mass produced as is the majority of jewellery.

Arisbottle Sat 02-Mar-13 22:01:37

I thought they were for rather spoilt children.

MoYerBoat Sat 02-Mar-13 22:11:41

Don't have a Pandora bracelet - have a Links one. No doubt that's considered equally naff hmm

ArtVandelay Sat 02-Mar-13 23:18:20

Bespoke doesnt necessarily mean something unique and cool. I am wearing a really boring ring right now where the conversation went "aw, those stones are cute" " they are sapphires, don't put them round a ring because they are too soft, you might smash them" "yeah but they are lovely, I want them" "alright then, but be careful with them" "great , put 10 on a plain band please". It's not really a big deal and I think you get a better deal with stones and metal than buying 'a name'. I do love that ring despite it's plainess and I've only dinged one stone smile

SomethingOnce Sun 03-Mar-13 00:39:33

A question for all the offended people: are you bothered because people don't like your chosen jewellery or because they are expressing that they don't like it?

Because, y'know, people will always dislike stuff that you like and cherish - is it any more upsetting knowing that particular random internet strangers dislike your bracelet, than knowing that there will be always be unknown people who do?

If a friend turned around and said "Your bracelet is vile" to your face, that would be rude and upsetting; to be offended because, predictably, there are some people in existence who don't like your stuff, and have reasons for their opinion, is a bit U.

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 00:53:00

Really don't give a shit. They are pretty. People shouldn't get upset.

Antalya1 Sun 03-Mar-13 00:56:39

DH bought me a pandora bracelet a couple of years ago, it's something I would never pick..ever for myself. All Birthdays and Christmas's new charms pop up and I'm to much of a wuss to tell him that I can't stand the things..DS's also now buy me charms to put on it I just smile and think that some thought was put into it

Somethingonce, I am not offended but I don't like the implication that those who do like these beads are somehow more easily conned or lesser people simply because they own these bracelets,

For someone to read MrsDeVere's post ^^ and then mock buying them as a useless emotional attachment because they are mass produced is weird, cruel self-important.

It is fine not to like something of course, there are loads of things I hate, but I hate the thing not the person who likes them.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 07:19:06

For someone to read MrsDeVere's post ^^ and then mock buying them as a useless emotional attachment because they are mass produced is weird, cruel self-important

Yes, this a thousand times.

I'm am rather offended (although I have a cheaper Charmilla rather than a Pandora) and think the sneering about mass-production and everyone wearing the same thing is unkind and actually wrong - with the myriad of charms available it is highly unlikely that someone else will have the same charms. If they are worn with 'meaning' or sentimentality the charms are chosen for a specific reason, and it becomes far more personal.

So posts like MechanicalTheatres I guess it's because it seems, um <chooses word carefully> contrived, to have a sentimental attachment to something that's mass produced, and that everyone else has are intrinsically wrong (aside from being hurtful). I have yet to meet someone with the same combination of charms as me, even though I have met someone wearing the same basic watch band.

I expect my mum felt the same way about her 'mass produced' charm bracelet with her dead sons teeth marks.

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Mar-13 07:34:34

It was me that made that comment, not MechanicalTheatre. Before she gets a hard time for it.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 07:44:44

My apologies MechanicalTheatre. I got my 'M's mixed up, although I understand that you don't understand the emotional attachment to 'things' either.

Kytti Sun 03-Mar-13 07:51:05

lol They are expensive, but each to their own!

Are you a bit jealous you don't have one?!

(Jingles charm-filled Pandora bracelet.)

I like mine, my Dad bought me a little something, my friend got me a couple, one when my dt's were born... etc. You call it tat, I call it treasure and I like dressing like a 5 year-old. It makes me smile. wink

Chottie Sun 03-Mar-13 07:56:46

Well, each to their own smile

I am still wearing and enjoying my Pandora bracelet smile it was chosen and given to me with love from my DH. I am attached to it, ditto my engagement ring, ditto my wedding ring (which belonged to my GM) and gold watch. I will be passing all these on to on to my DC.

All the negative comments on this thread are like water off a duck's back to me. In the big scheme of things whether you like or dislike Pandora bracelets is really very small.......... wink

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Mar-13 08:07:09

I do understand emotional attachment to 'things' - I went on to say exactly that in the very post you quoted... confused

fromparistoberlin Sun 03-Mar-13 08:15:59

Its interesting how quick people are to feel judged IMO

Like OP I have seen their shops everywhere and I was curious to their popularity, thats IT

its a bracelet, so what if some people think its a rip off??? give.a.shit and wear it happily

and how quickly it was assumed that Op was JUDGING everryone

ironically pandora are pricey so quite why people linked them with greggs I dont know!

I fess I was the one that was cruel about the eponymous waterfalls

only cos they remind me of carol in EE, who i kind of ;like and want to see have a make over

but its not like I go out searching people in them and then mutter "you waterfall wearing CUNT" ....

storm in a teacup

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 08:16:21

We are getting very confused here Midnight. My last post, all of it, was directed at Mechanical - who doesn't get emotional attachment to things.

TBH I didn't understand your post, the one I quoted. You call it contrived to have an emotional attachment to a Pandora bracelet, and then contradict yourself by saying you understand an emotional attachment to a personal pice of jewellery. Are you saying charm bracelets can't be personal? Surely anything can be personal? Unless a poster went to a shop, bought a Pandora and just said "and bung 10 charms on it" without choosing, then surely it's personal? Not being PA, genuinely confused.

scarlettsmummy2 Sun 03-Mar-13 08:20:23

They seem to appeal to a certain type of woman. Anyone that I know that has one seems a bit sheltered of that makes sense. Nice but a bit dim kind of thing.

fromparistoberlin Sun 03-Mar-13 08:25:08


ooooooof! more petrol on the flames!!!

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Mar-13 08:27:29

I know your last post was directed at Mechanical - but given that you said 'as well', it seemed like you were leveraging the accusation to me, too.

My post that you quoted was responding to SconeInSixtySecond's post directly above it, so maybe you needed to read it in that context.

I really don't want to have another pop at the bracelets because it seems like some people are getting quite upset at this thread.

I was basically agreeing with Sixty about sentimental attachment to pieces of jewellery (or whatever) which have meaning and history and attachment to loved ones, etc. And, um <God, don't want to repeat it for fear of total flaming> not really understanding the emotional attachment to over-priced, mass-produced stuff, that everyone else is currently wearing, because it's currently in fashion.

I know everyone has their own unique set of charms, but I just think the bracelets themselves are a marketeer's wet dream - a genius way of getting people (and their family and friends) to spend money over and over again, and to think it's a really good idea.

I apologise for my opinion on this, and will leave it at that now.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 08:28:26

and people that don't read threads before posting are pretty dim too...

DrRanj Sun 03-Mar-13 08:29:45

Yanbu. Totally agree. I am always the last to catch onto these sorts if things and its no great loss IMO.

GirlOutNumbered Sun 03-Mar-13 08:31:00

Scarlettsmummy. You seem a bit dim.

That's such a massive generalisation, what do you base it on?

I would say that my mother is the furthest removed from dim you could get, yet she bought one for me.

scarlettsmummy2 Sun 03-Mar-13 08:31:34

Oops, yes didn't read all the posts before posting. Don't get me wrong, the women I know that have them (all in NI incidentally), are all really lovely, they just are all very girly and a bit out of touch with anything beyond their own little family centred bubble.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 08:35:04

Crikey, just in case, my last post was directed at Scarlett, not you Midnight.

OK, well it's an agree to disagree issue then. FWIW the 'thing' that holds the most emotional attachment for me is a single dried out red rose from the first bunch that DH ever bought me, over 12 years ago. It reminds me of a time when we were in the first rush of love and everything was fantastic.

Even in my deepest darkest "I hate you and wish you would jump off a cliff" moments I can look at it and remember much happier times.

It's a red rose from a bunch of a dozen red roses bought on valentines day - you couldn't get much more contrived, mass produced or tacky than that - but I'd be distraught if I lost it...

GirlOutNumbered Sun 03-Mar-13 08:36:03

I'm trying not to get annoyed over a bracelet, but saying that its mass produced and therefore not good is ridiculous.

How many people in the world are wearing the same watch, necklace, wedding band?
I have some Tiffany diamond earrings, how many other people will have the same pair?

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Mar-13 08:38:05

Ah, Eve - that's lovely!

I like the idea of people collecting and adding to their bracelet from their loved ones, so the idea that each charm has a meaning is lovely.

Nevertheless personally I'd prefer something more unique.
I think you could probably get some amazing things in an antique shop for example for the same expenditure.

Megatron Sun 03-Mar-13 08:52:22

I don't have a Pandora bracelet but really REALLY don't care what other people wear round their wrists, necks, whatever.

But I absolutely loathe when people write snitty posts which are quite clearly trying to upset another for their choice of jewellery. Words like tat, unsophisticated, tacky etc are used purely to be unpleasant. They attempt to justify it by pleading its just their opinion but it's just being bitchy. Pure and simple. And it's a bit shite.

I have blue lights on my twigs and a pic on FB to prove it.
I don't do proper jewellery so can't comment on pandora stuff but my mum has a gold charm bracelet and it means a lot to her and will treasure it when she leaves it to me (sob)
And my love of Kensington Uggs is well known on here, my feet are warm and cosseted during the worst that Scotland's weather can bring.
Each to their own and if you get a little buzz from owning your precious then good, life is miserable enough smile

Loved your beautiful post MrsDeV - as always.

Will look at charm bracelets a little differently now, but as I said I could always see the charm for some thanks

JakeBullet Sun 03-Mar-13 09:04:18

When I can afford it I will buy a Pandora bracelet. I don't care about what anyone else thinks. I like them...that is allsmile

We gave our little niece a charm bracelet when she was bridesmaid at our wedding, many years ago (before Pandora went global wink) - so I do see the attraction smile

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 09:21:34

Hmm, interesting thread. When I posted second I had no idea that these bracelet things existed having only ever seen a Pandora from the outside which has just opened near to us. The shop front imo is a bit tacky and I didn't like the jewellery - looks cheap to me.

It interests me that a few posters have been very keen to point out that their 'unique' bracelets are very expensive and that people who don't like them are probably jealous (presumably the assumption is that they can't afford one) - not sure that this attitude quite fits with the old 'emotional attachment to every charm thing'. More status symbol (of sorts) in the same way that designer labels are flashed around by certain groups in society. I am pretty sure that I could afford one but suspect I will not be buying one any time soon as I wear very little jewellery and am uber fussy plus I have never even seen one in the flesh as no one I know owns one. I am not keen on charm bracelets either - just not my thing.

And people are so very defensive on here! Surely you would have to be very insecure to take anonymous website criticism seriously? It's interesting to hear other opinions and see how things are perceived by other people - isn't that the bread and butter of AIBU? So all the hand wringers getting stuck in to the 'no' camp - for goodness sake be realistic. How boring would threads be if people only ever gave sanitised and polite 'opinions' on here? 'No I don't like your lovely charm bracelet and I wouldn't wear one myself but I do defend to the death your right to wear one and I am sure that it looks very pretty on you!' DULL.

I have a pair of boots which could be described as Ugg style --although they are from Cornwall as I would never support the disgusting cruelty involved in the hideous Australian wool industry and for this reason would never buy Uggs--and they are pretty much hated on MN. So what - I still wear then when the fancy takes me! Don't take it all so much to heart Pandora lovers.

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 09:22:04

Well I tried with the crossing out thing - you get my gist!

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 09:23:59

KatieScarlett what do you mean by 'blue lights on my twigs'? confused

AlisonMoyet Sun 03-Mar-13 09:24:23

boring silver jewllwery yawn cliche

I do get you countrykitten and like your post, but have to say all posts are equally valid ..... those of us who are more moderate and nice and can see both sides of an argument to me are no more dull than those who are just rude !

I have a cheapie large vase and long twigs bought yonks ago from Ikea. Wrapped around said twigs I have a set of blue fairy lights. Originally a Christmas decoration, but left on all year as it pleases me. I still smile when I switch them on of an evening. grin

SomethingOnce Sun 03-Mar-13 09:37:23

Somethingonce, I am not offended but I don't like the implication that those who do like these beads are somehow more easily conned or lesser people simply because they own these bracelets,

For someone to read MrsDeVere's post and then mock buying them as a useless emotional attachment because they are mass produced is weird, cruel self-important.

Scone, that is completely unfounded. Nobody did that. And it is weird and unkind to suggest that anybody did.

IMO it is completely legitimate to question how our culture encourages self-expression by means of consumerism, tells us how we may express our individuality by paying again and again for overpriced, mass-produced objects and manipulates us with business models that seek to link emotions with actions that line the pockets of others.

People are easily conned and manipulated by advertising and marketing - these disciplines ruthlessly and cynically tap into our psychology for profit. Look at Coke - it's a shit drink that is incredibly bad for you but they make millions, not by talking about the qualities of the drink itself, but by attaching ideas about fun, friendship, popularity, tradition (check their ludicrous Christmas bullshit).

To preempt any accusation of overthinking, I would suggest that an epidemic of underthinking is what allows advertisers and marketers to 'con' us left, right and centre; perhaps the hostility people feel towards those who question their consumer choices, and the processes that inform those choices, would be better directed elsewhere.

Megatron Sun 03-Mar-13 09:37:30

Well countrykitten some people do take things personally about things that mean something to them, and that's fine really. I just don't get the need for the bitchiness or attempts to put down someone's choice. Like I said, its a bit shite.

I'm no Pandora lover btw but quite frankly I'd rather be dull than unpleasant. (not saying you are but you know what I mean).

And all these people floating around on their unique bespoke jewellery are probably not as unique as they like to think they are.

JakeBullet Sun 03-Mar-13 09:40:53

Read most if the thread now.....and I still like them grin. Is this wrong? confused

One day I will own one I tell ya

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 09:45:18

KatieScarlett I love fairy lights - we have some in the bedroom! At a guess this is a MN ' bad thing' yes?

SomethingOnce what a marvellous post.

Megatron I know what you are saying but I am not altogether sure that the posts considered to be 'putting down' are not just 'putting forward an opinion which differs from what I think so I am going to be offended' iyswim?

TobyLerone Sun 03-Mar-13 09:49:06

I think they're horrible. I agree with whoever said that they're a godsend for husbands who don't know what else to buy.

I don't care who else wears one. Knock yourselves out!

Megatron Sun 03-Mar-13 10:09:05

country I think saying 'I don't like them they're not my taste' is very different from saying 'they're hideous and worn by idiots with no imagination' (or along those lines smile) are two different things and I reckon one is intended to be deliberately unpleasant. Still, I don't even have one so I don't know why I care!

Yes, twigs n pebbly shit are MN poison, I blame Cod for That Thread wink

I love my twinkly lights, especially at Christmas .... Is that allowed on Mumsnet or will I be banned or cast out ? wink

Sorry SomethingOnce, I should have been clearer that you didn't make that remark, but MsElizaDay did:

What I don't get, though, is how people can claim they have a sentimental attachment to something so mass-produced. Personally, I couldn't have a shiny bead on my arm to "represent" my son, my husband, the child I lost, anything so personal.

pretty shocking really.

Of course it's never enough if you've lost somebody, but it might still be a great comfort.

Difficult to know how to respond at all adequately, but just to show I do understand a little.

You could embrace the counter culture and flaunt your twigs with pride. "We're Here! We're Tacky! Get Used To It"
(brandishes sparkly twigs in slightly menacing stylee) wink

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 10:34:09

I don't see that remark as 'shocking' at all. The poster states that 'personally' this is not for them. How and why is that shocking? This is what I mean about seeing criticism where there is none - no need to get all offended because someone does not do what you do!

flowery Sun 03-Mar-13 10:36:49

Imagination bypass

Personally I think people who are unable to express an opinion about something without being so unpleasant and sneery are revealing themselves to be the unsophisticated ones.

Megatron Sun 03-Mar-13 10:37:12

country that's kind of the point I was trying to make before. There's no need for people to get unpleasant or bitchy because someone else DOES like something they don't? Ya get me sista? grin (I promise I don't really talk like that in real life)

And now they are my profile pic smile

Quodlibet Sun 03-Mar-13 10:48:20

SomethingOnce that is a truly brilliant post. Opinions expressed with that amount of nuance and intelligence are why MN is brilliant.

countrykitten Sun 03-Mar-13 10:49:25

Ok I do understand your point. But if OP1 loves something and waxes lyrical about it, is OP2 not then allowed to proffer their opinion that it is 'ugly' or whatever in their opinion? That is a valid opinion isn't it? And not a value judgement on OP1.

Or, if they want to disagree are then then to do so without proffering any opinion at all? Should they just say 'I don't like it' and move on? Isn't that just a tad insipid?

Wouldn't threads become lists of 'I love this, what do you think?' followed by 'I like it' or 'I don't like it'? Would you read that?

Not saying that people have to be vile to each other but surely opinion is interesting?

I like flowery's post too

< searches for "like" button smile >

GirlOutNumbered Sun 03-Mar-13 11:45:32

An opinion on the item is interesting. Calling the people that wear them dim, is not. Neither is saying that they have been ripped of or that the person that likes them is stupid. That is not an opinion on item, that is an attack on a person.

Women seem to love doing it to each other,

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 03-Mar-13 12:29:30

Also likes Flowery's post. Really not that difficult to understand, is it?

We all have opinions about everything, some things we like, some things we don't. Nobody cares - but when you disparage people who like whatever it is you mean to be offensive.

Saw this on another thread this week... "The patriarchy is safe whilst women treat each other this way"... never a truer sentiment and makes me wince at the sub-text that women are indeed the weaker sex. I truly think we are when we so gleefully do this.

Never think we are LyingWitch

1) You have to look at the context of our lives

2) Look at what men do to one another and to us and our children

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 03-Mar-13 12:44:45

Yes, Juggling, we have ALL that to contend with and then, because we need another challenge in our lives, we do this to each other too. So I could add 'stupid' to that list. It makes me cross.

Not all women do this and it's not all the time but it IS depressing to see it on a chatboard that's ostensibly for women/parents. How does this not get passed on to their children? What is the point of it all?

Chottie Sun 03-Mar-13 13:11:49

Please can we remember that are talking about a bracelet. It is perfectly ok to have different opinions about everything (including bracelets smile)

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 13:22:28

Countrykitten - I don't know as read the 'shiny bead' comment as a very snidey dig, considering how some posters had posted about their very personal reasons. I comprehend that as quite bitchy not just a personal opinion. Maybe I read too much into how some comments are intended.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 03-Mar-13 13:24:41

It's not about 'bracelets', Chottie, it's not about having opinions, it's about deriding and denigrating others for their choices and opinions.

"To wonder why any grown woman would ......" Fill in the blanks?
* want to wear a Pandora bracelet?
* want to have a child out of wedlock?

Then you add the adjectives from Flowery's post: "Any woman who does that is....." Fill in the blanks again:
has an imagination bypass
a Fool

Not quite so 'harmless' now? This isn't about a 'bracelet'. The "Could we remember..." made me cringe for you.

I have no problem with anybody's opinion; mine is that this kind of goading is charmless and graceless.

FlouncingMintyy Sun 03-Mar-13 14:25:20

Chottie - classic example of someone spectacularly missing the point.

GirlOutNumbered Sun 03-Mar-13 14:25:56

Completely with you lying and then I go to most popular and see a thread debating Kirsten someoneorother and whether people 'hate' her.

It makes me sigh.

Quodlibet Sun 03-Mar-13 14:26:52

But Somethingonce's point is that we are also all being repressed by commercialism, which makes us believe that we need or want things that are (some would say) overpriced. It is a fine line between feeling like we are criticising each other and pointing out (validly, I think) that the consumer 'choices' we are making are not necessarily good ones.

flowery Sun 03-Mar-13 14:29:01

Healthy robust debate is a good thing. Voicing opinions is good. Strong debates on AIBU can be entertaining and informative. But I don't think this is a particularly appropriate subject for such a debate.

There are plenty of interesting subjects and experiences to discuss without having to resort to mocking personal taste of others for a thread subject.

Also, excusing use of the language I listed earlier by saying it's "just voicing an opinion" is disingenuous. Regardless of whether personal taste is or isn't a good subject for debate, there are nevertheless plenty of posters on this thread who have managed to convey their opinions in an articulate manner without resorting to cheap sneery insults to do it.

And I notice the OP hasn't bothered to participate in the debate she started either, which is cowardly in my view, and smacks of poking the bear to amuse oneself at the reaction rather than being genuinely interested in opinions.

fallon8 Sun 03-Mar-13 14:49:39

Oh,I just love them!,,,I have several,from the expensive down to Next ,M and s etc..they are great.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 14:53:33

Look at Coke - it's a shit drink that is incredibly bad for you but they make millions, not by talking about the qualities of the drink itself, but by attaching ideas about fun, friendship, popularity, tradition (check their ludicrous Christmas bullshit)

...or maybe people buy it because they like the taste? Radical thinking?

FlouncingMintyy Sun 03-Mar-13 15:00:12

Oh I LOVE a coke. Have a glass about once a month, maybe a little more often in the summer. With loads of ice and a wedge of lime. Yummy!

higgle Sun 03-Mar-13 15:05:38

I have a Troll bead bracelet. I don't like to see them stuffed full of beads but I think tehy look quite nice with a few carefully chosen ones. I have a few blue and purple glass beads, to match the things I wear, two with horses in teh pattern and two with spring blosoms to remind me of happy times.

fromparistoberlin Sun 03-Mar-13 16:12:49

"The patriarchy is safe whilst women treat each other this way".

I really REALLY REALLY think you are reading too much into this thread!!

I read thread title , did NOT read thread (so shoot me) and though, hmm yes those curious little bead/bracelet shops that seem to have sprung up, hmmm

and posted.......................

BUT, I am shitting all over my sisters !

madre dio.

can we not save our energies for something...important?????

AlisonMoyet Sun 03-Mar-13 16:21:55

ROAR at patriarchy

its a rather naff ( and not very pretty) bracelet. thats all

Snog Sun 03-Mar-13 16:30:22

I don't like wearing any kind of bracelet myself and personally I think Pandora is a rip off - but YABU because each to her own

Megatron Sun 03-Mar-13 16:31:04

I agree with everything in flowery's previous post.

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 16:41:51

Well I am wearing my pandora bracelet today, thanks for reminding me, hardly ever wear it.

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 16:43:03

And do the cheaper beads and such you can buy elsewhere fit on the pandora chain?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 03-Mar-13 17:11:23

fromparistoberlin... I personally don't care what you expend your energies on. Whether you REALLY REALLY think I'm reading too much into this thread, I don't care about that either, that's your opinion. Mine might be that you post to attempt to 'silence' those you don't agree with. <shrugs>

I see a difference between expressing a dislike/disblief/whatever for someTHING as opposed to pigeon-holing/being dismissive/derogatory about people based on what they like to do or own.

This thread has really annoyed me. Some of the responses are as pointlessly scathing and spiteful as on the tattoo thread. Both threads were started in a spirit of meanness and the pathetic, "<runs>" in this OP confirms that.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 18:22:38

Begonia, the Charmilla beads from H Samuel fit and are much cheaper.

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 18:52:02

Just had a look. pandora and chamilia look about the same price.

AlisonMoyet Sun 03-Mar-13 18:53:52

neither of them are actually very nice

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 18:57:12

What's not nice - the bracelets? I think they are beautiful!

BambieO Sun 03-Mar-13 19:21:14

I am guilty sad I posted very early on that the sham balls bracelets shouldn't be worn if you are over 15. A few posters have come on and said (not in direct reply) that they like them.

So I apologise for my brash comment. I didn't actually engage my brain prior to posting and realise that my opinion was spiteful to those who like them.

I have slapped my own wrists flowers

I still stand by pandora aren't my cup of tea but each to their own smile

BambieO Sun 03-Mar-13 19:22:18

shamballa not sham balls!!!! blush there I go again but that was a typo honest!!!!

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 20:05:56

Sorry Begonia, I thought they were cheaper confused. Maybe the shops do deals or something?

fallon8 Sun 03-Mar-13 20:09:59

Begoniabampot...Pandora charms will only fit Pandor bracelets,because of the screw on thingy,but Pandora will fit other bracelets.

BegoniaBampot Sun 03-Mar-13 20:20:16

S'ok, thought they were the cheaper version myself. Troll beads are just a little cheaper but not much as well.

ConstantCraving Sun 03-Mar-13 21:01:48

But they are just SO ugly, can't you all see how ugly they are? I really really don't get their popularity.

FlouncingMintyy Sun 03-Mar-13 21:04:28


BambieO Sun 03-Mar-13 21:05:35

But that's your opinion constant I am sure people would say certain things in your life are 'ugly' but its your decision like the bracelets are others.

I don't see the attraction myself but then other people may not see my attraction to DH blind they must be blind I tell you wink

ConstantCraving Sun 03-Mar-13 21:28:03

I know its only my opinion - I am hearing that some people like them but its just wierd. They look like they'd be the sort of thing you'd wear with an outfit by per una (which seems to be universally loathed) and yet for some reason they are very popular. It's like the emperors new clothes...
BTW I should say i'm not very trendy at all - possibly why i'm just not getting this.

LtEveDallas Sun 03-Mar-13 21:37:47

I don't understand why people keep saying that they are 'fashion' or 'trendy'. They first came out in 2000 - that's 13 years ago! They are hardly a 'new' fad that people are buying into. In fact, after 13 years, if people are still buying them are they not now considered a 'Classic'?

Latara Sun 03-Mar-13 21:47:28

I have a charm bracelet... a Thomas Sabo one which i bought myself, but only have 4 charms (i confess 1 is a cheaper charm than the official Thomas Sabo ones)..

i like charm bracelets but prefer mine to the Pandora bracelets, although each to their own i think smile

fromparistoberlin Mon 04-Mar-13 08:56:23

"Mine might be that you post to attempt to 'silence' those you don't agree with. <shrugs>

Nah, noone is EVER silenced on AIBU, certainly not by me! I do think that there needs to be some license extended to AIBU sometimes. Its a bit of a battle ground and I just think peoples choice of bracelet is trivial compared to some topics that come on here

there have been some vile threads on here, but I genuinely saw this as a minor infringment IYSWIM??

diddl Mon 04-Mar-13 09:09:48

I like the glass beads & have a couple on a silver bracelet-not Pandora.

I love the idea of the charms fitting onto the bracelet.

I have a "traditional" charm bracelet which is irritating and catches on things.

I think the silver charms look really cheap& badly made, though.
And that the bracelets are expensive.

JakeBullet Tue 05-Mar-13 06:34:17

I think what this thread has done for me is persuade me that I don't need to go as expensive as the Pandora stuff. That there are other similar and cheaper options.
I still like Pandora bracelets though ....just not the price grin

TiggyD Tue 05-Mar-13 08:31:42

It's basically a charm bracelet. And as anybody knows, a charm bracelet leads to:
>long hair piled up in a sort of bun with pens/knitting needles/chopsticks poking out, which leads to:
>Mad Cat Lady.

Latara Tue 05-Mar-13 08:55:00

Oh shit.

I have a charm bracelet.

I also have a cat. But she's more mad than i am ;)

JakeBullet Tue 05-Mar-13 09:31:42

I knit, I have two cats (mad cat lady starter kit) and I really really want a Pandora bracelet.

Oh dear.....grin

BegoniaBampot Tue 05-Mar-13 09:32:03

Nah, the a pandora crew will be having boozy lunches with their girlfriends whilst shopping in chocolate box market towns, weekends to Barcelona with their friends and cruising the Med in winter when the golf course is to frozen for a round.

grin @ "mad cat lady starter kit" Jake

rubyrubyruby Thu 07-Mar-13 22:50:48

I have a simple leather one - no charms.

It's very 'me'

shellyshade Sun 23-Jun-13 22:07:22

I have a basic pandora and no charms, got it as a present. At first I thought it was mega bad taste, but now I really like it and wear it every day. I wont be buying any charms - expensive and don't like them anyway.

Littleballofhate Sun 23-Jun-13 22:23:12

Have been wearing my Pandora toe ring (silver, amethyst stones) for about three years, I reckon. I love it, but then I am v.common.

Lj8893 Sun 23-Jun-13 23:57:53

My mum bought me mine as a graduation present, with a star charm because I'm her star (and my degree was musical theatre so fits the bill) and since then her and my dp have bought me a few charms between them. Nothing too fancy, just charms and beads they have spotted which are typically "me".

I love mine. I don't wear much jewellery, just my pandora bracelet and a beautiful necklace my dp bought me when we discovered we were expecting. I have another necklace I wear which my mum passed on to me which contains a healing piece of amber in but I need to get the catch fixed.

Basically all my pieces of jewellery mean something to me, including my pandora bracelet.

So yes YABU.

And the judgemental, closed minded fools on this thread that have made nasty comments stereotyping the type of people to own such peices of jewellery. Your all wrong.

pigletmania Mon 24-Jun-13 08:19:32

Yabvu just because it's not your taste does not mean every woman has to dislike them. They are quite pretty.

Xmasbaby11 Mon 24-Jun-13 08:25:24

YABU! I haven't really noticed the charm bracelets but generally their stuff is pretty. It's a bit more modern than most jewellery shops so I guess good for a change. I agree it is expensive though!

blue2 Mon 24-Jun-13 08:37:30

I fought my way into the local Pandora shop last week to get a voucher for a friends daughter.... and I was amazed at the concept.

I mean, its brilliant marketing isn't it? It doesn't matter if you buy into the 'Pandora World' or not - someone out there is making HEAPS of money out of these charms.... Brilliantly twinkly and very covetable - but pretty cheap to produce IMHO.

And then you have the latest seasons beads, so you can just carry on buying... and buying.

Its an idea I wish I'd come up with!

Hopasholic Mon 24-Jun-13 08:56:02


plainjaney Mon 24-Jun-13 11:04:33

Lj8893 my DH bought me a Chamila for my graduation with a mortar board charm. I thought it was a beautiful gift. Because I'm a bit alternative in my style though he began buying me amazingly odd charms like a halloween pumpkin, ghosts, spiders, a skull and a witch. I love it, its very me and very personal to me.

mymagaret Mon 24-Jun-13 18:16:11

YABU to be so judgemental about it. Sounds to me like you cant afford to wear Pandora so have a personal vendetta against it, you sound like a jealous child bitching about what others have and you don't. For the people complaining they all look the same, surely a chain around the neck looks more similar to that of another persons, than a bracelet you customise yourself.

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