to ask you to please share your success stories of getting PG post 30-ish?

(165 Posts)
MoodyDidIt Tue 26-Feb-13 10:06:54

i am 33 and dh and i are ttc

just come on today and i am so sad

we have only been ttc 3 months (i KNOW its no time at all) but with dd it happened so quick. like, days after we decided to ditch the contraception. i was only 28 then though. and i got pg with DS (from prev relationship) when i was 25 by accident very quick too blush

and to top it off i have read a scaremongering article in the sun newspaper this morning about how womens fertility sharply drops after 32

we were TTC 2 years ago but stopped as it was not a good time financially, now i wish we had carried on trying as now it might be too late

please please share your positive stories sad sorry for being a drama queen. but it actually scares me how much i want dc3

KatAndKit Tue 26-Feb-13 10:12:40

I had my DS a couple of weeks before my 34th birthday. Many of my friends from university have had baby number one or two in the last year or two as well. Ok 33 is not 23 but you have only been trying a very short amount of time. The odds are even against a 20 year old conceiving in less than 3 months as even if you have plenty of sex at the right time, you only have about a one in four chance each month at best. 6 months is average and anything up to 12 months is nothing to worry about.

stop reading crap comics newspapers for a start off.

I had ds2 when I was 35. I had an IUD fitted which fell out sad I didn't know, and still don't know when it fell out, and only found out I was pg when I was 7 + 2!

my friend had her ds when she was 37 and dd when she was 43.

another friend had her ds when she was 35 and dd when she was 40.

so lots of positivesgrin

Bejeena Tue 26-Feb-13 10:14:30

Ok so I am 34 and 15 weeks pregnant with my first child.

You really need to define TTC, as in were have you just ditched contraception to see what happens or have you been counting the days and trying on the best days.

We ditched contraception in June and went for the wait and see approach, not monitoring anything. By October/November still nothing so I got dates of my periods in calender and worked out when best days to try were. It then worked first time.

Do not believe anything you read in the Sun, you really are no age at all. Only over 35 is there a chance you might not ovulate every month, but this is chance and might, remember those words.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

dinkystinky Tue 26-Feb-13 10:15:33

3 month really is no time at all.

I am pregnant with DC3 - conceived when I was 35. I had DS1 at 29 (took a month to conceive), DS2 at 32 (took a month to conceive) - this one took well over a year and a half! And my lifestyle is no different to when I was ttc DS1 and DS2 - it just took longer. Just concentrate on enjoying life and shagging - go on a lovely relaxing holiday (that's when this one was conceived) and relax.

MajaBiene Tue 26-Feb-13 10:16:57

2 friends of mine have had babies in their early 40s (no IVF) this year.

gordyslovesheep Tue 26-Feb-13 10:17:50

Dd1 at 32
Dd2 at 34
Dd3at 38

3 months isn't long x

Hippymama Tue 26-Feb-13 10:19:19

I fell pregnant both times within a month. First pregnancy I gave birth the day before my 33rd birthday, second pregnancy I conceived aged 34 and had a MMC at 12 weeks. We are planning to ttc once everything has settled down from the mc and the plan is to have lots of sex!

3 months is not a long time at all, the NHS only start looking to see if there are problems after 12 months so you've really nothing to panic about. Good luck! smile

I fell pregnant by accident really quick when I was 38 smile

I'm now 41 and when people ask if we're having another, and I say I'm too old, I hear story after story about 40+ babies. Definitely don't panic!

louschmoo Tue 26-Feb-13 10:22:18

Hi there, sorry you've been disappointed this month. I was 32 when I got pregnant with DS. I'd been off the pill for nearly 2 years. For the first year we used a very loose rhythm method approach as I was a bit freaked out by the idea of getting pregnant. We then started properly trying to get pregnant and it took a further 11 months. We were starting to get worried. But then I fell pregnant.

I'm now 34 (almost 35) and 36 weeks pregnant with DC2. I was pregnant within 3 months of my periods coming back after stopping breastfeeding. It wasn't exactly planned - we fell into the trap of thinking that because it had taken ages to get PG first time it would take ages again.

So I would definitely say it's early days. These things sometimes take time and sometimes sneak up on you! Good luck smile.

Offcolour Tue 26-Feb-13 10:23:01

First baby conceived after 3 months at 32. Thought 3 months was quick! 2nd baby a bot ahead of schedule, we weren't being careful but not having much sex due to dc1 and still b-feeding. Dc2 arrived just after my 35th birthday, had intended to start trying for no2 after my birthday but he had other ideas! But we have been very lucky and have had no problems conceiving early/mid thirties. Good luck!

MrsMak Tue 26-Feb-13 10:23:59

I am in the same position.

I turned 33 last week. I conceived ds when I was 22, (and 7 stone overweight) in the click of a finger.

All the stuff in the press really isn't helping.

projectbabyweight Tue 26-Feb-13 10:24:21

Fell pregnant in the first month all 3 times I tried, at 34 (early mc), 35 and 36. Each time I used an ovulation indicator. Best of luck smile

Lemonylemon Tue 26-Feb-13 10:24:32

DS conceived very quickly at 33; DD conceived (probably 7 months) when I was 43. shock

oopsiedoopsie Tue 26-Feb-13 10:28:59

My wife is 37 and we have 2 girls (6 and nearly 5) and another baby due in 3 weeks time.

DejaB00 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:31:26

I'm 33 (34 on Friday) and my DH is 38. I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Feel pg the first month of trying after getting implant removed.

KatyTheCleaningLady Tue 26-Feb-13 10:32:13

Everyone is so very different. I pretty much got pregnant the first time I had sex unprotected (or, TTC, you could call it) at ages 34, 36, and 38. There's no reason to believe that I would have the same success, now, at age 43. And, my experience has no bearing on anybody else's.

I wish you luck in getting pregnant and I hope that you get the baby you want so much. xoxo

WestieMamma Tue 26-Feb-13 10:32:30

We started trying to conceive when I was 35 but nothing happened. As the years rolled by I began to accept it was unlikely to happen. Once I hit 40 I fully accepted it was game over. I accepted it so totally that I didn't even suspect I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks gone. I'll be 41 when baby arrives in 8 weeks or so.

diddl Tue 26-Feb-13 10:33:49

I was 31.5 &32.5 when trying for ours & fell on second month both times.

Sokmonsta Tue 26-Feb-13 10:33:54

Dd and Ds were conceived at 26 and 28, both after 9 months of trying. Dts were a surprise conception at 30, arrived just after my 31st birthday.

Tailtwister Tue 26-Feb-13 10:34:57

33 is young imo. Take a look at your cycles. Not everyone has a text book 28 day cycle and ovulates on day 14. If you aren't already, start looking for the other signs your body is giving you. Cervical mucus (sorry if tmi!) is a classic sign which you often don't see until you start looking for it.

3 months is a short time, please try not to get despondent. We hear a lot about the people who are having trouble conceiving, but not a lot about those who do so with relative ease. Good luck!

Offcolour Tue 26-Feb-13 10:35:02

Oh westie, that's lovely, you must be over the moon! Hope it all goes well.

catgirl1976 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:35:44

I got pg with my PFB at 34. Was 35 when he was born

It took around 10 months of ttc

I found the ovulation sticks really useful

Don't give up smile I know that awful feeling when you've hoped and hoped and then come on. Horrible. But look at all these positive stories. 3 months is no time at all. x

BlueMoon74 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:38:39

Im 39 next month. 16 week old currently sat on my knee smile

wonkylegs Tue 26-Feb-13 10:38:43

My mum had me at 34, she then went on to have 3 more children with my baby brother being conceived when she was 44... Each time was apparently easy so easy that nos 2,3&4 were a bit of a surprise.
All healthy pregnancies and babies.

ophelia275 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:40:04

I conceived both of my dc on the first cycle of trying. I was 31 with the first and 35 with the second.

I think as long as you have ruled out anything like endometriosis or other health problems linked to fertility and you are not overweight, perhaps just try to relax a bit. 3 months is not a long time to be trying and the more tense you are, the less likely your body is going to be receptive to conception. Just believe that you will get pregnant and relax, don't stress. I think pregnancies over 30 are the norm now and there are even thousands of women who give birth to healthy babies over 40.

Good luck!

jenduck Tue 26-Feb-13 10:41:56

DS1, conceived when I was 30, had him couple of months after 31st birthday. Conceived in first month of ttc.

DS1, conceived when I was 32, had him at 33.5. Also conceived in first month of ttc.

Dsis1 had DD1 at 30, then dd2 at nearly 38. PG again at 40 but sadly mc.

Dsis2 had DS1 at 32 by EMCS, caught infection at birth/on post-natal ward (not good hospital shock) resulting in blocked Fallopian tube, DBIL (5 years younger) had bad urinary infection which also affected his fertility. They had 1 round of IVF which failed, so decided to have a break before another round of IVF. Dsis now 38 & their DD is due in July & was conceived naturally! smile

So - it can happen!

hamdangle Tue 26-Feb-13 10:42:10

I got pregnant at 33 the second month of trying, although the first month I got the dates wrong. You need to be doing it few days before ovulation but I waited till after confused.

My best tip is try Sasmar. I got pregnant first time with it but had only just started trying but threefriends of mine(all in thirst thirties) had been trying for a while then used this and got pregnant first time.

showtunesgirl Tue 26-Feb-13 10:42:14

I came off the Pill after having been on it for ten years on my 32nd birthday. 5 weeks later I found out that I was pregnant. DD is now 15 months old.

I had three DCs in my 30s, at 32, 34, and 36 (it actually worked out 3 babies in four years grin as there's more or less two years between each of them iyswim)
I had three mcs in between and one before DD, and I already had two DSs who were born when I was 20 and 24.

MyNameIsAnAnagram Tue 26-Feb-13 10:44:46

ttc no 1 (started at 34) took a year, but ttc no 2 at 38 took just 2 months. Iirc 6 months ttc is about average for any age so try not to panic.

dawntigga Tue 26-Feb-13 10:47:57

39 yo went to 15 Cornwall taster menu with the wines, walked back to the campsite, it was raining and there's nothing else to do really. I ended up pregnant.

IBlameJamieOliverForGettingMePregnantTiggaxx

HKat Tue 26-Feb-13 10:48:37

I'm 35 with a 9mo dd, my first. Good luck smile

HKat Tue 26-Feb-13 10:49:00

No I'm not, I'm 36! Ha wishful thinking there!

wigglesrock Tue 26-Feb-13 10:49:02

I had my daughters at 31,33 and almost 37.

MummytoMog Tue 26-Feb-13 10:51:52

31 when I fell pregnant with DS first month trying. Had my ovaries scanned for something else a couple of months ago, they're super awesome. I'm 34 next month. Doctor said he wouldn't expect a noticeable drop off until after 35 and even then, it would still be relatively easy to get pregnant, just not to stimulate the ovaries for shed loads of follicles.

papooshka Tue 26-Feb-13 10:55:10

First child I was 37 (but after a year of trying and a laparoscopy to check all was ok). Second child I was 39 and conceived after about 3 months of 'trying'

AltogetherAndrews Tue 26-Feb-13 10:56:17

Had Ds at 31, after ttc for 5 months. Had dd at 33, was pregnant within weeks of trying. So more fertile with age?

Mandy2003 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:58:20

I did not get pregnant during my first marriage (age 21-25). During a 10 year relationship with another man (age 26-36) after I divorced I had maybe 10 early miscarriages. Was then told I had PCOS so basically diagnosed as being infertile. Tried steroids and clomid = another early miscarriage sad.

But then I met exP (DS's dad) and at the age of 37 fell pregnant naturally. By then I'd read about PCOS leading to a lack of progesterone causing pregnancies to fail. As soon as I'd POAS and it was positive I demanded progesterone from my GP and luckily she understood why. Then I went to the early pregnancy clinic and they officially prescribed progesterone, although I think it was quite a new treatment at the time. Had quite a low probability score on the Downs Syndrome blood test and scan so didn't have to have amnio, all else well despite the fact that I'm insulin dependent diabetic.

DS was induced at term, slithered out within 3 hours, weighed 7.5lb, is 14 next birthday and superbly handsome and healthy smile

His dad was known as SuperSperm by the hospital!

moonbells Tue 26-Feb-13 10:59:49

started ttc at 38, pg at 39, DS arrived at 40.

First to admit we were lucky, but 33 shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Good luck!

I'm just pregnant at the age of 33 and on our 2nd month of trying. I know people say that a few months isn't a long time to try but it feels like an eternity when you're wanting to get pregnant!

DueInSeptember Tue 26-Feb-13 11:02:56

Had my 1st pregnancy at 30, got pregnant first time and then unfortunately it didn't work out.

Tried for a while afterwards, it took nearly a year to concieve again. Think I'd got a bit worked up about it all taking my temperature etc. Had DD1 at 32, had a fair few problems with the pregnancy, baby not that well but fine now.

Had DD2 at 36, wasn't even trying. Just the one time I was not that careful with contraception. Pregnancy went well, no issues - baby healthy at birth.

My advice is to try and not think about it, plan something else etc. Easier said than done I know!

workhouse Tue 26-Feb-13 11:03:15

I had my first child at 39, I wasn't leaving it late deliberately, just hadn't met the right person. We didn't try for another right away as we were living in a one bedroomed flat. When we moved to a house it took about three years to conceive, I had number two when I was 45. I was very lucky, but it can happen.
I am now 54 with a 9 year old, it's tiring but DH is younger so it works out.

Autumn12 Tue 26-Feb-13 11:06:51

I'm 36 and 17 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant on the 1st month of properly trying. I used My Fertility Friend to chart my cycle for a few months and then DTD during my fertile window.

Like you I had read all the stories of how hard it would be to fall pregnant post 35. Everyone is different though.

Good Luck!

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Tue 26-Feb-13 11:08:01

I'm 32, 6 weeks pg with DC1, conceived within a month of implant being removed. I've used hormonal contraception for about 10 of the last 15 years, i.e. most of the time that I've had a partner.

DSis1 married at 32, had DN1 at 34 and DN2 at 36.

DSis2 married at 25, got her career where she wanted it, had a late miscarriage at 30, DN2 (DN1 who didn't make it still counts as part of the family) at 31, DN3 at 33 and DNs 4&5 (twins) at 36.

My mum had me unexpectedly at 34 - relationship not great, sex so rare she'd come off the pill, I happened one night.

Grandma had DMum at 33 and DUncle2 at 34, afte having DUncle1 and a miscarriage during her 20s.

MoodyDidIt Tue 26-Feb-13 11:09:09

lovely stories

thank you. and congrats on the bumps, babies and kids x

btw, dunno if this makes any difference, but i have not been on the pill or anything for about 2 years, we have just been using condoms every time (until last 3 months, obvs!) so i shouldnt have anything "in my system" that may slow it down

PleasePudding Tue 26-Feb-13 11:20:11

We started TTC DC3 a couple of months after my 32nd birthday and had never had problems before but it just didn't seem to work for a few months. I know it's not a long time but I agree with the previous poster who said that it feels like an age when you are waiting. I chatted to a friend who said that both her and get sister had had the same delay (in their late thirties) and they'd got one of the ovulation kits.

I felt a bit weird getting one as I'd never had to before and it did seem quite complicated - in fact I'm not sure I even did it correctly but either way I got pregnant that month and am due in 2 weeks.
I really hate the waiting and the sadness when you come on.

Good luck OP, ignore The Sun, I'm sure it'll happen soon!

Bogeyface Tue 26-Feb-13 11:25:10

How many do you want?! I have had 3 children pre-thirty and 3 post thirty. My biggest struggle to get pg was having DC2 when test showed that for some reason I wasnt ovulating and was put on Clomid after 12 months TTC, I was 26. Was very strange as I had never had a problem before or since!

Meringue33 Tue 26-Feb-13 11:32:09

Just had my first age 33. Planning a four year gap before next one - if trouble conceiving then at 37 I can always adopt. Many friends have started a family in late thirties successfully. One friend had a child at 42, conceived naturally after a miscarriage and believing she'd never have children. Mum and daughter doing well, daughter is seven now!

DD at nearly 32, DS at 35. Both times got pg about 6 months after stopping contraceptives.

Which is pretty standard I understand, but when you factor in the fact I was overweight both times (meant to be a factor in taking longer to get pg), pretty reasonable.

All of my many female cousins had their babies over the age of 30, normal in my family. In fact my oldest female cousin had twins at the age of 38 (no fertility treatment).

But circumstances are different for everyone. What happens in my famiily will have no bearing on your situation. But good luck and I hope you are successful soon.

Asheth Tue 26-Feb-13 11:35:04

It took me 4 months to conceive DS1 in my mid twenties. Conceived DS3 without even trying aged 34!

DIYapprentice Tue 26-Feb-13 11:38:05

DS1 at 37 and DS2 at 39, both after a few months of trying.

DS1's school class (Yr 1) is full of mums my age, give or take a couple of years. Only a handful are below 35.

Geekster Tue 26-Feb-13 11:38:41

I fell pregnant seven times after the age of 34, yes the first six ended in miscarriage but the seventh one stuck, I was 39 when she was born and she is one on Friday. So yes it possible to get pregnant in your 30's. I wish you lots of luck.

vladthedisorganised Tue 26-Feb-13 11:44:27

If it helps:
I had DD at 33
DC2 will arrive (hopefully) when I'm 36. I think it took 7 months of not-really-trying - I was expecting it to take longer.
My DGM married at 35 and went on to have 5 children; DAunt tried unsuccessfully in her 20s and went on to have a DS when aged 44.
A good friend has a DSis who is 25 years older than he is - he was something of a surprise to his parents!

rodandtheemu Tue 26-Feb-13 11:45:03

Hi, Im 34 and having an IVF baby. Many things can change quickly. Lining of womb, egg reserve...ect. The GP like you to wait at least a year before the will start investigations. I would go and ask for a AMH test -it gives an indication of your egg reserve. Then you can go from there. By the way you release more eggs as you get older so prepare for higher chance of twinnies!! grin

peacefuleasyfeeling Tue 26-Feb-13 11:47:50

My advice, having had DD at 35 and expecting DC2 in June, at 38, is as follows: (I'm sorry it seems super-detailed, but it seems to be what you're asking for and it's what I did)
1. Educate yourself about how the menstrual cycle and conception works in more detail. Lots of things start to make sense.
2. Get a good sense of your cycle. Draw up a wallplanner type diagram on a big piece of card, with each cycle on a new "row" and the first day of your period being Day 1 in each row. Mark today, 26th of Feb, as you've just come on, as Day 1 of the first row, if you see what I mean. Start a new row next time you come on. You can jot down any physical symptoms of nearing ovulation you have on this chart, no matter how silly or insignificant they seem at first (try "lots of gloopy cervical mucous", "watery discharge", "pinching pain over left ovary" etc. Go to town. You quickly start to see patterns. I did this for about 6 months before TTC DD, and then we got it right really quickly.
3. I found a ferning microscope" really easy to use (Calista and BabySure are two brands I've used). It is a small backlit magnifying lense cased in a plastic lipstick like tube. You just put a drop if saliva on the lense in the morning and when it has dried, you can see a fern-like pattern appear quite clearly if you are approaching ovulation or actually ovulating. When you are not fertile you just get little random specks. I marked my "ferning" days with a big F on my chart and could soon see that they occured at the same time every month (and not on the usual "Day 14" as expected). I actually used my first ferning microscope as a contraception device for years in my 20s, it is that reliable in my experience.
4. It is a good idea apparently begin trying just before ovulation occurs, as it gives sperm time to reach the egg. And then some more as the fertile period gets into full swing.

Once you know when the right time is:

4. The cervical mucous is there so that sperm can swim up tiny ladder like tunnel structures which are formed in it. Amazing. There are sperm-friendly vaginal lubricants which mimic this structure available, which a friend of mine used to "top up" the existing mucous. Worked. Also making sure you are properly "wet" when trying helps, especially if you sometimes suffer from dryness. Lots of foreplay or masturbation perhaps.
5. I really do think that the standing on your head thing works; depending on how you're built. I used something called an Instead Cup with DD as I didn't have time to lie around with my ankles around my ears that morning. They are like little disposable diaphragms and hold the sperm close to the cervix. With DC2 I spent a while doing a wobbly shoulderstand grin.

Hm, I think this is it. I really wish you good luck. I'm sure you're out in good time, but I also know how desperate one can feel when it appears not to be happening.

nananaps Tue 26-Feb-13 11:47:56

Had one at 33, and now have a 5 week old and i am nearly 43.

It has been a terrible journey to get here though. However, did it without any medical intervention.

Mine were true miracle pregnancies smile

PeppermintPasty Tue 26-Feb-13 11:58:11

I had my first at 37 and my second at 41.

I am now 44 and knackered grin

ilovecolinfirth Tue 26-Feb-13 12:01:14

I'm 33 and got pregnant with my first child at 28 on the first month of trying to conceive. With my second, it took me 3 months of trying...good luck. X

eavesdropping Tue 26-Feb-13 12:01:16

DD was unplanned conceived on our first try without contraception, I was 32

Dawndonna Tue 26-Feb-13 12:04:25

ds2 at 36 and twin dds at 38.
my sister had her first at 33 and second at 40.

Omnishambolic Tue 26-Feb-13 12:05:17

I read something the other day about scaremongering and about how I think it was 89% of women aged 35 were able to have children, and that most of those 11% unable had not been able to before (ie not just the big 3-5 age thing). (At 43 it was something like 15% of women still able to have children though.)

Took us 6 months serious trying aged 31 the first time. At 32, I wasn't using contraception but not making an effort (and certainly not having regular enough sex to make it likely, we thought, especially after the trying for DC1) and lo and behold, along came DC2.

LazyMachine Tue 26-Feb-13 12:07:37

I had my first DC just 7 days after my 39th birthday.

SuitedandBooted Tue 26-Feb-13 12:09:35

I had DD 2 months before my 40th birthday, and DS when I was 43. Both were conceived within 3 months of trying. I had been on the Pill for 17 years! Both pregnancies were really easy, and our children are completely healthy.

Yes. I know we were really lucky - and probably daft to wait so long (DH and I have a rather relaxed approach to life), and tend to leave stuff to the last minute! In my defence, I do have several female relatives who had children post 40. My maternal Gran is the winner, having her last child at 47. I was born when my Mum was 38, so I think that genes were slightly on my side.

33 is still young!!! You've done it before, you have plenty of time, please don't make it the focus of your life - keep fit, see your GP if you have any concerns, and enjoy making your next child x

Fillyjonk75 Tue 26-Feb-13 12:09:45

DD1 was unplanned and I conceived while I was on the Pill when I was 28. Actually trying for DD2 at 32, I came off the Pill and worked out roughly when I'd be ovulating and made sure we had sex three times a week round then. Also raised my legs after sex to catch all the sperm smile Worked in month 2, think in the first month we were apart for a week at what would have been the best time.

4TheLoveOfBob Tue 26-Feb-13 12:10:54

For me it has definitely been the case the conception happened more easily mwhen I was younger. Got pregnant in first month of trying with DC1, aged 27. Got pregnant within 3 mnths of trying second time at 30 (miscarried, though). Took 4 months to get pregnant again aged 31. Tried for another child for three years aged 32-35 with no joy, unexplained infertility.

However, all three of my closest frends had their first children at 35/36 and conceived within 6 months ish. Also have a colleague who conceived her first naturally at 41 after about a year of trying.

The facts are that fertility declines as we age, but a 33 I would not be too worried (easier said than done, I know). Give it a few more months and if still no jy, see your GP. Good luck!

cuteboots Tue 26-Feb-13 12:11:55

I had my son at 38 and he was a bit of a shock . Went through lots of fertility tests and were told we would probably never have children. Got divorced and took my eye off the ball really having been told this. Dont give up as Im proof that it cant happen +++

stopgap Tue 26-Feb-13 12:31:26

I had DS1 at 34. I have PCOS and got pregnant in a month.

35 now and will start trying for number two next month.

Softlysoftly Tue 26-Feb-13 12:36:08

All 3 of my pg (2dcs) were conceived post 30. In 35 now with a 9m old.

My friend was 45, never had kids, had a riding accident and in the hospital they asked her if shed noticed any bodily changes. Turns out she was 5 months pg and hadn't noticed shock.

So its different for everyone.

greenfolder Tue 26-Feb-13 12:37:47

nicely-pull yourself together op

It might take a little longer- dd1 was 26 and fell by accident. dd2 was 29 and fell second month- dd3 started trying at 37 and had her just before 40.

for what its worth, what worked for me was booking an expensive holiday that would be impossible to go on if i fell pregnant (thank god for holiday insurance).

CraftyBec Tue 26-Feb-13 12:42:17

I had DD at 35 and DS at 39 (and a miscarriage in between). It took at least 6 months of TTC in all cases. The best advice I had from my GP was to cut alcohol consumption - that's for both of us. I really think that helped. And knowing when you're ovulating - but not getting too anxious about this!

penelopepissstop Tue 26-Feb-13 12:43:38

Ignore The Sun. It is not a renowned gynaecologist!

I know of a 45 year old on her 4th child and pregnancy in the 40's is not as uncommon as believed if my small cross section of society is anything to go by.

Calm down, relax and give it a bit more time. Good luck.

TerracottaPie Tue 26-Feb-13 12:59:15

I had:

DC1 at 25
DC2 at 27
DC3 at 34
DC4 will arrive in around 10 weeks when I will be 35

All of them conceived on the first try. I used ovulation kits each time as my periods were never that predictable so whether they had a big part to play or not I don't know. I fully realise I may just be very lucky though. In fact by the time ttc DC4 was decided upon I had resigned myself to the fact I couldn't be that lucky again and was dreading the repetitive testing/dtd/2ww cycle. Very, very surprised when I got that bfp.

So my experience has been that trying in my 30's was no different to trying in my 20's. But as this thread shows it is different for everybody.

Good luck OP smile

somewherewest Tue 26-Feb-13 13:02:30

My great-grandmother had my grandfather when she was 44, although he was the youngest of eight (and yes, they were Catholic grin).

Met DH when I was 33 .
DS was born 17 months after we met . Got pregnant 2nd month of trying .
DD was easy too , off the pill on November , pregnant before Christmas .

Carrie37 Tue 26-Feb-13 13:13:28

Buy the book "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler it will tell you how to recognise your body signs and speed up the process of getting pregnant.

MaisieBean Tue 26-Feb-13 14:07:06

I had my first baby 2 months shy of my 34th birthday and my second 6 weeks shy of my 37th birthday. First time round it didn't seem too difficult to conceive but second time took 9 long months (I know that is nothing next to how long some cpuples ttc and I totally understand the desperation that grows each unsuccessful month). I think that on some ways the more you desperately want it, the more anxious and stressed you become which seems to work against you. I know (from bitter experience) that it is easier said than done but if you can relax about it all, it might prove easier. Good luck OP.

faulkernegger Tue 26-Feb-13 14:23:29

DD at 40, DS at 44. Good luck!

thegreylady Tue 26-Feb-13 14:28:30

My dd was 32 and 34 when she had hers. It took about 3 months with no 1 and 4 months with no 2. That's what she told me anyway :-)

ChairmanWow Tue 26-Feb-13 14:33:43

DS at 38. I'm currently 40 and am 37 weeks preg with DD. Both times I got pregnant on the third month of trying. However the first time I came off the pill 6 months before we started ttc as I'd been on it a number of years and I didn't go back on in between pregnancies so please be aware it can take time for your cycle to adjust back to its natural state.

I'd strongly recommend the Sperm Meets Egg Plan. Worked for us. Good luck!

WillowKnicks Tue 26-Feb-13 14:34:32

Had 1st baby at 27, conceived as soon as we started trying.

Had a miscarriage 4 years later & then tried for 4 long years with no luck, was just about to start chlomid when I found out I was pg naturally with twins at aged 36shock.

I honestly think it was because I stopped stressing over it, as I was about to start the fertility treatment. Just try & relax about it & let nature take it's course...easier said than done, I know.

Good luck!!

AyeOopMoose Tue 26-Feb-13 14:42:06

36 years old, came off the pill, which I'd been on pretty much since 16, in the Nov. Took a month or so for periods to return and pregnant by the February.

Following July DD2 conceived (still BF DD1) and born when I was 37. I was told it often took longer to get pregnant second time round...erm not in my case grin

I was also considerably overweight & stressed at the time of DD1.

I have a friend in her early 20s who has been TTC for 2+ years with no success.

I guess what I'm saying is there are always exceptions to every standard.

Try not to stress about it.

maddening Tue 26-Feb-13 14:45:56

We fell pg when I was 32 and that ended in a mc (likely to be related to pcos as that gives a 45% chance of mc ) so after thatbat 33 I started using cbfm, getting fit, lots of vitamins and minerals for me and OH and I even had a spreadsheet. I was anything but relaxed about it haha smile

5 mths after my mc I fell pg with a healthy and beautiful boy who is napping next to me now - all snuggled in - he is 2 now.

I wanted to ttc #2 by now but have to get a hernia fixed and want to get my tummy muscles sorted before I go ruining them all over again smile I am 35 now so will be 36 at least when I ttc #2 fxd hey!

maddening Tue 26-Feb-13 14:47:57

Oh and we did the sperm meets egg plan - with the cbfm I guess we covered as many bases as poss.

MooseBeTimeForCoffee Tue 26-Feb-13 14:53:42

I came off the pill in 2009, aged 35. No period for 12 months afterwards, then very irregular.

Discovered I was 17 weeks pregnant shortly after emigrating to Canada. Absolutely no symptoms until my stomach expanded! smile

I'm 39. DS is 14 months.

PassTheSherry Tue 26-Feb-13 14:55:28

Hi OP

We left it incredibly late to ttc - not until I was 38.

We didn't take any special steps - just tried to be healthy, stopped using contraception, didn't even use a fertility chart etc., but just tried to relax about it all, and let things come naturally. At the same time, we were also psyching ourselves up for a life with no kids, possibly.

It took about 10mths to conceive dd1, who is a gorgeous healthy 5yo now. When she turned 1yo we decided to try again - and conceived very first try, that same night! Dd2 was born when I was 41.5.

We did the NT test for down syndrome and both times the risk was 'low' - so didn't bother with amniosentesis. I enjoyed pregnancy but had problems with excema (massive itching) in last trimester. Both were delivered via emergency C-section though - couldn't dilate. Both bf until they were 8mths ish. Both are lovely, happy kids, best thing in mine and DP's life!

Dogsmom Tue 26-Feb-13 14:57:08

I'm expecting my pfb in 10 days (I'll be 38 in April), It did take us 3 years though, the only thing that changed was my weight, I lost almost 4 stone taking me from 'obese' to 'healthy' and was pregnant 3 months later.

bigbuttons Tue 26-Feb-13 14:58:57

I had 6 children when I was between the ages of 30 and 38. I also had 6 miscarriages, so I managed to conceive 12 times. I would fall pg within 1-2 months of trying each time.
Perhaps fertility does drop off BUT it very much depends on the health/genes/ issues of each individual woman and man involved if you ask me.
stop reading articles, it won't help. If you are stressed about it i think it can make it harder.

Pigsmummy Tue 26-Feb-13 14:59:24

Started trying on 36th birthday, got pregnant during my 37th birthday "celebrations" had a great pregnancy and a good (if you can call it that!) 5 hour labour. DD is 4 months.

tiggytape Tue 26-Feb-13 15:00:58

As others have said, it might just take more time.
I have a few of friends who have children with a big age gap (had 2 babies in their 20's and then another 1 or 2 babies in their 30's or 40's).
They all say the same - fell pregnant at the drop of a hat in their 20's but it took longer to get pregnant when they were older. It is relative though because one of those friends only actually took 6 months to get pregnant at he age of 36 but felt it was forever because her first two were conceived the first month of trying.

The good news is though, having been pregnant in their 20's, they all managed eventually to have more babies when they were older. I think age might be more of a factor if you haven't had any previous children so don't know for certain that you can.

Alligatorpie Tue 26-Feb-13 15:01:48

Unplanned pg at 34, decided to try for another at age 40, got pg the first month we tried. I know i am very lucky.

zoobaby Tue 26-Feb-13 15:10:57

I'm sitting here reading MN as I nurse my first little boy, now 5 months old. Trust me when I say I'm much closer to the landmark age that comes after 30-ish grin.

Honestly, Peaceful makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely not of the "oooh let's stop contraception and see how it goes" persuasion. Sounds like a lot of faffing about, potential for disappointment and general cluelessness to me. Plus I don't want to go through a 28-odd days of "I wonder if it worked THIS time". Eurgh! Nothing worse.

DP and I held long discussions about ttc due to both of our ages, fully aware of the fact that it might actually be very difficult. So I decided to find out as much as possible to improve the chances. I ended up buying a book called "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Wechler (discovered through MN reviews). This book seriously opened my eyes and answered so many questions that I was too dense to even consider previously.

The book shows you what to look for and how to interpret your cycle to identify your window of opportunity. I followed it to the letter (mapping cervical fluid, charting temperature etc - there is one to photocopy and lots of examples with explanations) and I found it immensely helpful. It's all quite straight forward and makes a great deal of sense once you start to actually look and record things. After about 3 months I thought I had some real understanding of my cycle. The month we decided to go for it, success. grin

I know this approach is not for everyone, but it really suited me and wasn't onerous at all. I also had a good laugh when DP came home one day to tell me how he'd been advising a male colleague on how to conceive. Haha!

Pigsmummy Tue 26-Feb-13 15:16:30

Just thoughtthat i woukd add that my GP laughed at the idea that I thought that I should have been trying for a year before asking for help from her, she said if aged over 35 and trying for 6 months ask to get checked out sooner. Also if your husband smokes get him to quit, I suspect that was why we got lucky when we did (after 12 months) tmi but my DH produced noticeably more "stuff" after quitting.

Ricola Tue 26-Feb-13 15:23:58

OP, please keep the faith! i had my first child at 41 and my second at 44!! it was a little harder the second time around but with very healthy diet(low carbs plenty of protein and veg) i did it!!! i wish i had my children earlier though as at 45 now and with two rubbish sleepers i feel like i am 145 years! good luck

BonaDrag Tue 26-Feb-13 15:27:22

DD at 32, second cycle. Friends had babies at 33, 38 and 40.

Don't give up hope, it's very early days.

BumBiscuits Tue 26-Feb-13 15:45:40

First time at 32, conceived first try. Second time at 35 it took 8 or 9 months.

Bue Tue 26-Feb-13 15:51:10

I will be using zoobaby's approach too when we start trying next year (I will be 33). I don't see the point of "just seeing how things go" when we can plan and prepare in advance and therefore hopefully start out with a much higher chance of success.

PessaryPam Tue 26-Feb-13 15:58:41

Aged 32. Gave up the pill beginning of December figuring it would take time to clear my system, spent Christmas in the usual haze of partied and alcohol, ditto NY. Actually conceived on Christmas Eve with twins. What a present from Santa that was!

FirstTimeForEverything Tue 26-Feb-13 16:00:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

quesadilla Tue 26-Feb-13 16:08:33

I got pg at 38 and a half after 6 weeks of really half-arsedly ttc. Not intending to sound smug: was probably lucky but 33 is nothing and don't believe all the hysteria about this.

BathTangle Tue 26-Feb-13 16:09:38

My grandmother had my aunt at 27, my uncle at 32 and my Dad at 42 - she had divorced and remarried between my Uncle and my Dad, and was slightly worried when my grandfather said he'd really like a child, but AFAIK she didn't have any major difficulties getting pg - in fact, she always maintained that she'd chosen the sex of each of her children by getting her timing right....!

PessaryPam Tue 26-Feb-13 16:11:40

quesadilla, my menopause started at 35 and was completely done by 38. No family history of early MP either. You cannot take fertility for granted.

MoodyDidIt Tue 26-Feb-13 16:14:40

wow some brilliant positive stories here, thank you

and the twin mummies, wow, congrats, i would LOVE twins ....saw last weeks OBEM where the 40 yo couple had surprise twins, i was sobbing blush

quesadilla Tue 26-Feb-13 16:16:00

pam I know and I am fully aware that everyone's fertility is different. My point was just that if you read the Daily Mail you tend to get the impression that getting pg after 30 requires IVF or a miracle and that isn't necessarily the case.

Luce808 Tue 26-Feb-13 16:26:01

Two healthy babies, one at 36 and one at 38. Both are now singing happily upstairs. I was very proud to be an 'older' mum, and I know a lot more of a similar age or older.

learnermummy Tue 26-Feb-13 16:31:15

Currently pregnant with surprise number 3 at 35. Haven't read whole thread but can I recommend a book called 'Taking charge of your fertility' by Toni Weschler. It really helps you understand your cycle. There's a good iphone app that uses the same principles too.

MrsDeVere Tue 26-Feb-13 16:33:43

hello smile

I had DCs 1 & 2 at 25 & 27.
Adopted DC3 when I was 36

THEN
DCs 4 & 5 at 40 and 42.

DC4 ttc for a year, DC5 ttc for a week blush

I was utterly shocked with both the youngest. I had fallen into that trap of believing that to conceive after 35 takes some sort of miracle.

Particularly with DC5. I said to OH 'we might as well go for another because no way is it going to happen at my age'.

louisianablue2000 Tue 26-Feb-13 16:35:04

Positive stories: DD1 conceived at 36, DD2 conceived at 37, DS conceived just before turning 41 (BFP on my birthday!). All conceived in less than 3 months, all healthy babies, although DS was slightly preemie (but he was 7lb 7oz at 36 weeks so rather glad he didn't get past 40 weeks like his big sisters).

The papers go on and on about how we are all leaving it too late to have kids but there are still fewer women having children in their 40s now than there were in the 1930s. You've already had two pregnancies, so you're starting from a good place.

I know lots of people who have had varying success conceiving each child, like my cousin who conceived DC1 immediately then took a year to conceive DC2 two years later. More positively I know more than one family who have had to have IVF to conceive DC1 then have had a happy accident later on because they'd assumed they wouldn't be able to conceive without help.

Relax and enjoy the trying. Official advice is to DTD every second day throughout your cycle. Cheaper and more fun than Ov sticks IMHO.

4boysthatilove Tue 26-Feb-13 16:40:18

Definitely don't give up hope, I had my first 2 boys at 27 and 32, remarried and have had 2 babies post 40, the last little one born 3 days after my 42nd birthday. You are a mere spring chicken grin good luck with TTC!! xx

BlueStringPudding Tue 26-Feb-13 16:43:04

I had
DC1 at 29
DC2 at 31
DC3 at 40

but my great grandmother had her DC1 at 46 in 1913, which was something of a surprise I think!

Lizzy1975 Tue 26-Feb-13 16:45:31

37, 6 months. Try to relax, you do have time, despite the scaremongering.

louisianablue2000 Tue 26-Feb-13 16:46:23

Oh, and I have a work colleague whose mother conceived him when she was 47. She thought he was the menopause. His siblings are all 20 years older.

FiveGoMadInDorset Tue 26-Feb-13 16:49:27

DC1 35 6 months of trying
DC2 37 first month

Dollar Tue 26-Feb-13 16:49:57

DS at 35, DD at 37 - pg within two months of TTC with both - good luck!

limon Tue 26-Feb-13 16:56:48

I'll be 45 in mid April. Currently cuddling sleepy 13 month old DD smile

I had three early losses the year before conceiving her but aspirin on my pregnancy with her seemed to do the trick - more likely blood issues than age caused the miscarriages.

xigris Tue 26-Feb-13 16:57:13

Afternoon! I had my first at 32, second at 35 and third 8 weeks ago at 38 where I was delightfully referred to as an 'elderly multip'. Charmed I was too. Have you tried ovulation sticks? It took me a few months to get preggo with DS2 and I'm very impatient! It turned our that I was ovulating pretty late at day 19. We did the deed then and the next month I was preg. I think it takes, on average, 6 months to conceive so please don't lose heart smile

Luce808 Tue 26-Feb-13 17:32:19

Should have added - DC1 at 36 was conceived immediately. DC2 at 38 wasn't planned (or at least, he was going to be planned, just not for another year or so!) I know it doesn't follow that easily for everyone, but statistics are statistics, not individual people!

MoodyDidIt Tue 26-Feb-13 17:47:04

was thinking of getting some ovulation sticks but i think if i do it will just make me obsess more even more than i am now

really i know i should try and DTD every 2 days, but we haven't been doing it anywhere near that much tbh, with tiredness, and the other dcs, and work, etc.....there's always an excuse! need to make more effort blush

Ragwort Tue 26-Feb-13 17:50:05

I conceived at age 42 (my first) - I wasn't really 'trying' ie: not checking ovulation dates or anything like that etc etc as I wasn't nearly as keen as my DH to have a baby grin - took about 8 months since I stopped the pill. Took me 11 weeks to realise I was pregnant - thought it was the menopause grin.

Twattybollocks Tue 26-Feb-13 17:51:06

Funnily enough I conceived more easily in my 30s than in my 20s. Ds took 3 years of trying between 26 and 29. Dd I got pregnant first attempt at 31. Dd2 took ivf but that was due to a failed vasectomy reversal. I got pregnant on the first try of ivf though at age 37.

DizzyHoneyBee Tue 26-Feb-13 17:56:07

I had both of mine after I was 30.

maisiejoe123 Tue 26-Feb-13 18:01:07

You are being a bit of a drama queen. You already have one child which is a great test as to whether you can carry a baby (at least that what my GP told me!).

Agree with another poster who said make sure you know your most fertile days.

And I had first baby at 36 and second at 41 although it took much longer for the 2nd as expected.

zoobaby Tue 26-Feb-13 18:31:10

I'm sitting here reading MN as I nurse my first little boy, now 5 months old. Trust me when I say I'm much closer to the landmark age that comes after 30-ish grin.

Honestly, Peaceful makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely not of the "oooh let's stop contraception and see how it goes" persuasion. Sounds like a lot of faffing about, potential for disappointment and general cluelessness to me. Plus I don't want to go through a 28-odd days of "I wonder if it worked THIS time". Eurgh! Nothing worse.

DP and I held long discussions about ttc due to both of our ages, fully aware of the fact that it might actually be very difficult. So I decided to find out as much as possible to improve the chances. I ended up buying a book called "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Wechler (discovered through MN reviews). This book seriously opened my eyes and answered so many questions that I was too dense to even consider previously.

The book shows you what to look for and how to interpret your cycle to identify your window of opportunity. I followed it to the letter (mapping cervical fluid, charting temperature etc - there is one to photocopy and lots of examples with explanations) and I found it immensely helpful. It's all quite straight forward and makes a great deal of sense once you start to actually look and record things. After about 3 months I thought I had some real understanding of my cycle. The month we decided to go for it, success. grin

I know this approach is not for everyone, but it really suited me and wasn't onerous at all. I also had a good laugh when DP came home one day to tell me how he'd been advising a male colleague on how to conceive. Haha!

zoobaby Tue 26-Feb-13 18:36:18

Sorry my post has been reposted. Bloody phone still had the page on screen.

MiaowTheCat Tue 26-Feb-13 18:41:57

Started trying at 27 - 6 years, two miscarriages (1 twin missed miscarriage, 1 singleton very early loss) later and things just clicked and DD1 was born (albeit prematurely) when I was 33.

Had tried charting, legs in the air, grapefruit and every random suggestion going - had tried pretty much chaining hubby to the bed and forcing him to perform on schedule, relaxing and seeing what happens... and had kind of come to terms with the odds that it probably wouldn't - but remember thinking one day (I can literally recall the roundabout I was driving around when I thought it) that "I WILL be either with a bump or a baby by the time we go to X's wedding" - and got pregnant that month with a sticky.

Then one bonk to conceive DD2 - we'd decided to see what happened knowing that previous timescales probably weren't on our side... result we're going to have two either under 1, or as near as damnit.

GirlOutNumbered Tue 26-Feb-13 18:42:45

I had first at 35, 8 months to conceive and second at 37, again. 8 months to conceive.

newcastle34 Tue 26-Feb-13 18:43:24

Had 1st at 36 after 2 years. Dh had low sperm count. Conceived again within 3 months but miscarried. Was pregnant again with 3 month and gave birth to 2nd at 38. Just had a surprise 3rd at 43!

Bakingtins Tue 26-Feb-13 18:58:01

I've got pregnant 5 times between 31 and 38. 2 DCs, 2 MC, 1 fingers firmly crossed ongoing. It's taken between 1 and 12 m of TTC, with no pattern of getting longer as I've got older. 3m is a very short period of time, don't panic.

mum11970 Tue 26-Feb-13 18:58:17

I had my youngest at 35, no problems at all.

Dd 7 months ttc @ 29

Ds 7 months ttc @32

Both times during the month when we'd stopped really trying for one reason or another.

Second pregnancy much easier than first.

Good luck op.

ByTheWay1 Tue 26-Feb-13 19:18:16

DD1 @36, DD2 @38 both times we didn't use contraception for just the one cycle - hubby just had to look at me without it I reckon!! but.... we always used barrier - not hormonal contraception.

wiltingfast Tue 26-Feb-13 19:23:15

Got pg with ds 2nd month off pill at 34. Got pg with dd 2nd month off pill at 36. smile

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Tue 26-Feb-13 19:28:51

Dc1 15mths ttc @25
Dc2 8mths ttc @28
Dc3 5mths ttc @33

Whyriskit Tue 26-Feb-13 19:33:59

Had DS1 at 30, ttc (charting etc) 2 cycles, had DS2 at 32, ttc 1 cycle, currently pg with DC3, unplanned, am now 35.
Think we may have to think quite seriously about contraception after this one.

BoiledEggandToastSoldiers Tue 26-Feb-13 19:34:05

DD 1 3mnths ttc @ 35
DD 2 1mnth ttc @ 38

littlewhitebag Tue 26-Feb-13 20:03:35

I had DD1 at 28 then DD2 at 30. DH then had the snip. Sadly DD1 died at age 5. DH had snip reversed and luckily i became pregnant at age 35 with DD3. All pregnancies and deliveries were fine. DD's now 15 and 20 years.

Spice17 Tue 26-Feb-13 20:06:41

I got pregnant after less than a month of trying at 32 and my friend who is 40 is currently in labour with her 4th!

ivanapoo Tue 26-Feb-13 20:09:37

I'm 33 with a 2 month old son and the youngest of my new mum friends.

Patience! although I wouldn't have any either, fortunately I fell pregnant the first month we tried

fluffypillow Tue 26-Feb-13 20:12:19

DS1 (I was 23) took 18months

DS2 (I was 28) fell pg 1st month!

DD (I was 36) fell pg 2nd month.

My age didn't seem to make a difference to me. It was harder for us the first time, but then I had just come off the pill.

wizzler Tue 26-Feb-13 20:16:05

Had DS at 39. DD at 41. Don't despair!

LaQueen Tue 26-Feb-13 20:23:05

Had unprotected sex, just once with DH (then DP) when I was 31, and got pregnant, then miscarried 11 weeks later.

Was forbidden by HCPs to get pregnant again, as miscarriage was very nasty, with complications - was warned might never carry a baby past 3 months sad

Was finally given the all-clear to TTC again, 2 weeks before our wedding smile

Got pregnant with DD1 on honeymoon, when I was nearly 32, and she was born exactly 9 months, to the day, after our wedding day smile

Had unprotected sex, just once when DD1 was only 11 weeks old...and got pregnant with DD2 shock I was 32, when she was born.

My SIL was 36 when she married DB. She got pregnant the 2nd month of TTC, and she was 38 when she conceived DN2, only took a 4 months that time.

3 months really is nothing, it's early days when it comes to TTC smile

BsshBossh Tue 26-Feb-13 20:34:36

I was two months shy of 38 when I gave birth to DD. It took nearly 8 months to conceive her (actively trying).

duffybeatmetoit Tue 26-Feb-13 20:38:29

I had totally unexpected and unplanned dd 2 months shy of my 45th birthday. Dd very healthy. A friend told her gynae about it and he assumed I'd had fertility treatment as my chances of conceiving naturally were so low. Wasn't able to conceive another child though.

littlewhitebag Tue 26-Feb-13 20:40:27

My DH's aunt had her first at age 40 and went on to have a further two with no problems at all.

DonderandBlitzen Tue 26-Feb-13 21:38:21

Hi. I think people slowly start to get less fertile from age 30, but only slowly. After 35 I believe it quickens up a bit, but still many many people have children after 35 of course. I got preg with dd1 at 32 (first month of ttc) and with dd2 at 35, 3rd month of ttc. My grandmother had my mother at age 43. Jo Brand had her first at 43 and second at 45. I believe this was without fertility treatment.

DonderandBlitzen Tue 26-Feb-13 21:42:38

LaQueen Do you mean you had your dd2 at age 33?

RainbowsFriend Tue 26-Feb-13 21:50:08

I had DC#1 at 35 (6 months of TTC following a late miscarriage which messed up my cycles a bit)

And currently 39 and pregnant with (hopefully) DC#2, took 3 months of half hearted TTC

RainbowsFriend Tue 26-Feb-13 21:50:30

Oops DC#1 at 37 not 35

mejon Tue 26-Feb-13 21:52:14

Took around 6m to conceive with DD1 when I was 37.
Conceived the first week of trying with DD2 at 42.
You've plenty of time.

deste Tue 26-Feb-13 21:54:17

Trying for 6 years with DS, 27 years old and the another 8.5 years with DD 36 years old.

RubixCube Tue 26-Feb-13 21:57:46

11 months with my ds,every month i cried when AF arrived and a month with my dd and I'm living proof that you can get pregnant when your on your AF smile

I got pregnant at 39 totally not planned grin

1 birth control slip up ( no morning after pill for me,too old and smoked and its not over the counter here) but hey Im almost 40,Im sposed to be less fertile, right?

Shes 8 now and totally awsome grin

brettgirl2 Tue 26-Feb-13 22:05:35

I had dd1 at 31 and dd2 at 34, pretty unremarkable....

My great grandmother had 10 kids, my grandmother (her 3rd) was born when she was 33.... She therefore had at least 6 possibly 7 kids after the age of 35 shock. Only one set of twins.....

Fertility is personal some people are more fertile later, its all averages.

RubixCube Tue 26-Feb-13 22:08:20

Oh and i was 18 when trying for our 1st and 22 trying for my second

RubixCube Tue 26-Feb-13 22:10:39

So what im saying is i had problems at a young age.My sis in law had her last baby at 40 with no problens

Xmasbaby11 Tue 26-Feb-13 22:12:28

I had DD at 35. Took 9 months to conceive with no particular system. 37 now and hoping for DC2 soon!

juule Tue 26-Feb-13 22:22:58

Dc @ 27 30 31 33(just) 35 37 38 40 and almost 44

Plus 8 m/c (4 before 40 and 4 after 40)

So 7 live births after 30smile

I would say don't despair yet. Although at 28 after my first m/c and heading to 30 I despaired of having a second child. So I know it's hard but it's not long to have been trying, you were just quick with your other conceptionssmile. Good luck and hope it happens soon for you.

Yfronts Tue 26-Feb-13 23:29:45

try for a year then ask for a day 21 progesterone test. you may just need a little clomid if you have problems.

My 40th birthday spent on sofa Bf my PFB who was then 6 weeks old.
smile

BratinghamPalace Wed 27-Feb-13 05:05:14

Dd1 at 39, conceived quickly and delivered no problem
Dd2 at 41, as above
Dd3 at 43, conceived by mistake and had C section. WAAAAYYY to early to worry. Stop reading "stuff".

BratinghamPalace Wed 27-Feb-13 05:11:42

MrsDeVere, I'm a little in love with you!!

MoodyDidIt Wed 27-Feb-13 11:34:16

thanks all smile such positive stories, am feeling a lot better x

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LaQueen Wed 27-Feb-13 21:29:42

Donder sorry, yes, I was 33 when I had DD2. They were born only 54 weeks apart shock

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