to hate it when my friend says "eurgh don't you want sauce with that?!"

(37 Posts)
versaille Mon 25-Feb-13 23:22:43

I rarely ever have sauce with anything - no mayonnaise, ketchup, mustard or even salt etc

And without fail each time I have dinner with my friend she comments saying -

"eurgh don't you want sauce with that?!" ... or ...

"How can you eat that so dry?!"

But to me the food isn't dry or plain, I think it would only be to people who have to have sauce with their food because their taste buds are useless without it?

Catchingmockingbirds Mon 25-Feb-13 23:24:57

DP is like this too, he hates any kind of sauce and loves his food horrid and dry, but he probably thinks I'm the one eating a horrible diner because it's covered in sauce and his is lovely and sauce-less. Just ignore your friend.

Technoviking Mon 25-Feb-13 23:25:15

You could reply with "I like to taste the food, thank you". Or, "did I ask for your opinion?".

Or, "Fuck off".

Not sure I'm helping...

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 25-Feb-13 23:27:23

Yanbu.

You eat it how you like,she eats how she likes and neither of you make digs at each other. Sorted.

CocacolaMum Mon 25-Feb-13 23:29:33

Not even vinegar!!?? shock

seriously, YANBU. Why not try commenting about how shocking it is that she feels the need to flavour all of her food with condiments. A reflection of her poor cooking possibly?

I get it too!

I don't like gravy and that seems to scare people grin

Schooldidi Mon 25-Feb-13 23:31:46

YANBU. I don't have sauce very often but dp puts sauce on everything I cook. We have turned it into a joke between us that he has to 'defile' all of his food while the rest of us un the family just eat it as nature intended.

MidniteScribbler Mon 25-Feb-13 23:32:01

"I like dry, bland things. That's why I hang out with you."

LittleMissFantabulous Mon 25-Feb-13 23:32:49

I don't do many condiments so I think you're entirely reasonable. Do like a dab of mustard in a cheese toastie thoughsmile

CocacolaMum Mon 25-Feb-13 23:33:30

"I like dry, bland things. That's why I hang out with you."

LMFAO yes this

versaille Mon 25-Feb-13 23:34:14

Ha I love some of these responses, I think I will snap at some point and say one of them grin

WeAreEternal Mon 25-Feb-13 23:35:15

I don't understand the obsession with having condiments with every meal, if you want a saucy meal cook something in a sauce, don't slather every meal in condiments.

It is the same with people who put salt and/or pepper on food before even tasting it, how the hell do you know that it isn't perfectly seasoned before you bloody taste it!?!
It drives me mad.

The only acceptable food to season before eating and serve with lots of condiments is chips.

I have a friend who's children will not eat a meal, no matter what is served, without tomato ketchup. Every single forkful is dipped it that horid sweet sauce. It makes me really sad.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 25-Feb-13 23:42:01

Weare,

I broke up with my ex because of that. Well not just that but it was the straw that broke me.

why does she care? drives me mad when I spend ages cooking and people cover it in sauce... with out even tasting first! shock angry

ripsishere Tue 26-Feb-13 02:10:06

smile at dry and bland. I'll use that on my DD. She won't have gravy or sauces or anything on her food <shrug> her choice.
I can't eat dry food, I am not keen on ketchup but do love a dollop of mayo.

catlady1 Tue 26-Feb-13 02:36:26

I was beginning to think it was just me that doesn't like sauce/condiments. I mean, I don't mind so much if something is cooked in a sauce, but I can't be doing with ketchup/mayo/mustard/relish etc etc. It's been a while since anyone commented on my lack of sauciness but it would piss me off too.

Kytti Tue 26-Feb-13 03:15:28

My FIL came for dinner last week and I'd put sauce out because we had steak, chips and salad. He put TOMATO KETCHUP OVER HIS SALAD! I wanted to scream.

I put condiments out for the dc's when we have chips, or if I've stuffed up (a rare occurrence, I'm so perfect!) and the meal is shocking. smile Otherwise, you eat it as I have cooked it. All seasonings and condiments are already in there.

Just tell her that her cooking must be REALLY bad. ;)

sleepywombat Tue 26-Feb-13 03:28:45

Ignore your friend, each to their own!

I like sauce & got really into the mopping with bread when I lived in France. I do find food dry without it but can usually make do with a drizzle of olive oil.

I used to eat a lot of ketchup, but gave it up completely due to sugar content etc & don't miss it at all.

badbride Tue 26-Feb-13 08:29:53

YA so NU. DH has a mad condiment fetish and it's one of the few things that makes me feel truly murderous.

I'll cook him a lovely prawn and pea risotto, carefully flavoured with white wine and a hint of the finest aged parmesan cheese, served with an artistic drizzle of extra virgin olive oil.

DH dumps Worcestershire sauce on it. Worcestershire sauce! And is unable to understand why I suddenly transform into a pink-faced hissing harpy.

willoughboobs Tue 26-Feb-13 08:34:29

YANBU

whats the point in having a lovely meal to cover it up with any sauce.
i have everything plain because i like to taste what I'm eating, i also don't mix food on my fork because of it.

PurpleStorm Tue 26-Feb-13 08:46:06

YANBU.

I'm not a big sauce fan either, and think it's kind of yucky to see other people's meals when they've smothered them in sauce of whatever description. I think that meals that are cooked in a sauce, like casseroles or curries, are fine with the sauce they're cooked in, but that's my only exception.

It's a personal preference, and it's very rude to make "eurgh" type comments about other people's sauce preferences.

BinksToEnlightenment Tue 26-Feb-13 09:02:18

You are being totally unreasonable.

How can you not want delicious sauce?

DH and I differ on this, but we each tolerate the other's likes. I rarely cook anything that doesn't have some sort of sauce or marinade incorporated or intended to be added to it at the table (eg gravy, mint sauce with lamb, mustard with other meats). I also like a dollop of mayo on the side of some meals, or ketchup for chip meals. DH tends to cook blander, dry food, but adds vinegar or soy sauce to a lot of things which I wouldn't. When I was ill recently he cooked me a dinner of a plain tuna steak with plain pasta and tinned sweetcorn, no way could I eat it like that, luckily we had some sweet chilli sauce in the fridge.

I think your friend IBU to comment and YABU to say her tastebuds must be useless, some people really don't like bland, plain food.

HeathRobinson Tue 26-Feb-13 09:14:44

Just turn it round on her -

eurgh why have you put sauce with that?

How can you eat that so wet?!

It's not rude. Or if it is, it's the exact amount of rudeness she's shown to you.

teacher123 Tue 26-Feb-13 09:16:07

Anyone who comments on anyone else's food is rude IMHO. I used to work with a girl who did that and it drove me bananas. EVERYTHING I ate was commented on, 'urgh, why are you having x with y, that's disgusting?' It would be totally normal things like a jacket potato with cheese on. She had massive eating issues, and would eat things for lunch like just a whole massive plate of carrots, but woe betide you mentioned that she was making curious food choices! It's bad manners.

Thumbwitch Tue 26-Feb-13 09:49:06

She's just yet another person who is so self-absorbed that she can't accept that people do things <gasp> Differently from how she does. Small minded.

Some people like sauce, some don't. I personally find it disgusting that some people have to have ketchup on things like roast dinners - but I wouldn't stop them doing it, or comment out loud!

DoJo Tue 26-Feb-13 09:49:28

'How about we just assume that I am going to eat things without sauce on for the foreseeable future and you can rest assured that I fully understand that this is a source of complete astonishment to you. That way you don't have to say exactly the same thing every time we sit down to eat, and I don't have to spend yet another mealtime planning where to bury your body when I finally snap.'

forevergreek Tue 26-Feb-13 09:51:27

I'm not sure we really have condiments in house. We have mustard... Otherwise everything is cooked in something/ isn't dry

Jins Tue 26-Feb-13 09:54:12

Too many people have too much to say about what others eat.

Chattymummyhere Tue 26-Feb-13 11:34:53

Dh is bad with this not sauces but even a "samish" as called in our house has to have salt and pepper on it! Soup, salt.. Scrambled egg, salt.. Grr we get though so much!

Only things I do is salt and vinigar on chips, tommy sauce on hot dogs if out. Then some gravy and appropriate sauce with Sunday dinner (mint sauce/hourseraddish)

Remotecontrolduck Tue 26-Feb-13 12:59:31

I really wish people would stop caring what others ate (unless it's causing major health issues aside). Like with this horse meat thing, people saying it's hypocritcal to not eat horse if you eat cow blah blah. Can't I just eat what I want ffs?

It is rude to comment on what others are having, ask her if she meant to be so rude next time. I really don't care if someone has sauce/doesn't have sauce, why would she? confused

FellatioNels0n Tue 26-Feb-13 13:03:07

People who don't like gravy are weird/ People who don't eat sauces of any sort or super weird.

I don't say it to their faces though. that would be rude. I just sit there thinking 'weirdo.'

I do gravy with some meals, and sometimes put out appropriate condiments, eg apple sauce for pork. But most people in our house put a small dollop on the side rather than cover their meal in the sauce.

And I rarely put out salt/pepper, just with chips. My food is already seasoned so you won't need extra. I don't season much anyway.

FellatioNels0n Tue 26-Feb-13 15:13:33

My food is already seasoned so you won't need extra. I don't season much anyway

Surely that's down to the eater to decide? If I'd cooked for a dinner party and (if it was anything other than a plain roast) people dowsed it in salt and pepper before they'd even tasted it, I'd be a bit pissed off, but for average weekday meals of relatively British style food I think it's perfectly ok to allow people to decide for themselves whether they'd like more seasoning than you've allocated them - especially as you say you don't season much. I can't stand having food that massively lacks enough salt to make it interesting.

FellatioNels0n Tue 26-Feb-13 15:14:27

sorry that should have said relatively bland British style food

maddening Tue 26-Feb-13 15:14:56

Yanbu (as a fellow non sauce and dry food bod)

zukiecat Tue 26-Feb-13 15:31:44

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